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As I get older, I think the rule number

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one is don't get injured because they

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accumulate. And then number two,

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something's better than nothing. So if

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for whatever reason, life got in the

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way, you were defeated, and you're not

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going to be able to make it to the gym

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for an hour, it's like, look,

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do 10 laps in the pool, do 20 push-ups,

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do something. There's no excuse that you

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can give that would take those types of

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options away. So rather than pushing it

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and pushing it and pushing it to another

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day, just scaling down to something

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minimal. And I think if you do that

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consistently, it's pretty hard to lose.

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I am going to just hop into it. Take

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advantage of everybody being here.

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Thanks for joining. There were a lot of

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questions submitted, hundreds upon

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hundreds. Narrowed that down to a few

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dozen and I will answer a handful and

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then we'll hop to the live feed and

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answer questions there. So the first

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question is from Christine and here it

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is. Over the years we've watched you

1:02

going through quite a transformation

1:04

from a driven hyperoptimized logical

1:06

business investor to a grounded

1:08

relationship focused man talking openly

1:09

about trauma, mental health struggles

1:11

and meditation. What are your comments

1:13

on the transformation? And for someone

1:14

who is still stuck in the driven

1:17

hyperoptimized logical phase and sees

1:19

that they need to change something, what

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advice would you give? So the first

1:23

observation

1:25

or perhaps question I would pose in

1:27

response to that is are you stuck? Maybe

1:30

you're not stuck. And I say that because

1:34

my shift certainly eventually, and it

1:38

took me decades to get there, focusing

1:40

on

1:41

addressing childhood sexual abuse and so

1:44

on, which I've written about

1:45

extensively, so I won't belabor it here

1:47

and drag people into that, was because I

1:51

recognized

1:52

over time that the 17 separate problems

1:55

I thought were separate were in fact all

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stemming from this unressed elephant in

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the

2:02

that required

2:04

some

2:06

I don't want to say handling maybe it's

2:08

metabolizing maybe it's revisiting maybe

2:10

it's recontextualizing as an adult so

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that was a necessary step for me I

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couldn't proceed past go without

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addressing that I don't think everyone

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requires that and

2:23

there are tools I think that almost

2:24

anyone can benefit from that may steer

2:27

you towards introspection or more

2:31

internal validation versus external

2:32

validation. Like some of you will

2:35

recognize this. The book Awareness by

2:37

Anthony Dlo. I still read it at least

2:38

once a year. There are frameworks that I

2:42

think nearly anyone can benefit from

2:44

like IFS internal family systems and I

2:47

did a live session on this podcast with

2:50

the founder of IFS Richard Schwarz. I

2:53

would caution though that just as you

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frame the question as being stuck in a

3:00

driven hyper optimized phase, it is just

3:04

as easy, if not easier, to get stuck in

3:08

doing the quote unquote work. And you

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only have to visit Austin to see what

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I'm talking about. There are lots of

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people who can't seem to get past a

3:21

hyper reflective

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neverending cycle of polishing the self.

3:29

And I think that

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any obsession with the self, whether

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that is validated by others through your

3:36

bank account or achievements or getting

3:39

pats on the back for doing the quote

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unquote work, is poisonous and excess,

3:44

right? The dose makes the poison. And I

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think it applies here. So I would say

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maybe you're not stuck. Number one, that

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deserves from some examination. That

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deserves some examination.

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But I do think awareness, IFS, there are

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a handful of things that anyone that I

4:00

know certainly has benefited from or can

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benefit from. So I would start there.

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So I'll leave it there for now.

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The next question is from Mike R. Much

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of your work focuses on reversible

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experiments, but the stakes of

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reinvention rise in your late 40s when

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career, family, health, plus financial

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responsibilities make big moves harder

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to test. How would you distinguish a

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genuine next chapter from an impulse to

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escape your current life? Would you use

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a 30-day experiment, or is there a

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better framework for evaluating a major

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career/life pivot? So, I'm going to try

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to keep this short, but I would say read

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a blog post by Derek Civers that is

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titled There are always more than two

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options. And you can find that very

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easily, but it is civersopson.

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So that's siv.rsoptions.

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And let's see if I can pull this up for

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a second. And in effect, he says when

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people say they only have two options,

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it means they got stuck. Once people get

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two options, they start comparing pros

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and cons of those two and forget to

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think of more. As an example, a friend

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was trying to decide whether to stick

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with his frustrating job or quit and

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start his own company. I suggested some

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other options. This is all reading from

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his blog post. Bullet number one, build

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your new company outside of work hours.

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Do this until the income from the new

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company is 50% of your salary, then

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quit. Bullet two, show up to your job

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but secretly just work for your own

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company all day. Do this until you get

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fired. Bullet three, bring your new

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company idea to your boss and propose it

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as a division of their company so you

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can stay on salary. Last bullet, do

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neither and move to New Zealand to be a

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tour guide. After exploring more

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options, my friend realized that he

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didn't actually want to start a new

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business. He was just avoiding fixing

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his current situation. All right. I'm

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not saying that's the case for you,

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Mike, but I would say that you probably

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have a lot of options you could list out

5:56

if you took the time. And we all fall

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prey to the A versus B trap, but there's

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almost you can always come up with C, D,

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E, F, and G. So that would be step

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number one for me. And then

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beyond that, I would say

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write down all the things that you find

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might lead you to want to escape your

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current life, right? What are those? And

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I think a lot about something that Chris

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Bosch shared in a conversation with me

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on this podcast. He's an 11time NBA

6:32

All-Star and he talked about in the

6:35

context of gratitude metaphorically if

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you were to sit around a table and he

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might have been crediting someone else

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but if you had five people and they all

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put all their problems on the table you

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would pick your problems right back up.

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So sometimes your problems seem really

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bad because you are most intimate with

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what you experience. But if you were to

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take all of the insecurities and

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friction and challenges and relationship

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wos of your five best friends, put

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everything on a table, you might rush to

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pick up your own problems again. So I I

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would say that

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as a thought exercise, that is that is

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also valuable.

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30-day experiments, I'm always a fan of

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two to four week experiments, but you

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don't have to make it binary, right? You

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could do it after hours, you could do it

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on the weekends. This is something that

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I've recommended in the 4-hour work week

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with respect to developing your own

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businesses or lifestyle muses and I

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still think it applies to many many many

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different things. And coming back to

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dose, there may be something that you

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really enjoy in small doses. And this

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also hearkens back to a story in the

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4-hour work week which dives into let's

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just say surfing. If you love surfing

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maybe on the weekends because it is an

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alternative a contrast to what you do

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throughout the week that does not mean

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that you would enjoy surfing as your job

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if you had it as an obligation from

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Monday to Friday. Right? So you want to

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expand the volume of something like that

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to test the hypothesis before you jump

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from A to B. So, I'm not sure if that

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answers your question super directly,

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but that's how I might try to think

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through it. All right, next question is

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from Nathan B and he talks about, you

8:20

know, his father watched electricity

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reach his community and these various

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technological changes over time and then

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I'll hop to the I think the crux of the

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question. So

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in effect AI feels different and I would

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agree with that not merely another tool

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but dot dot dot dot dot five-year

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predictions now seem almost unserious.

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So here's my question. If you were a

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capable but nonf famous intellectually

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curious person responsible for

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protecting and providing for a family

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determined to remain useful, healthy,

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financially resilient, and morally

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grounded. What concrete practices,

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skills, relationships, and experiments

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would you prioritize during the next 12

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months to prepare for the coming decade?

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So, that is a tall order. It's a very

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good question. I don't know if I can and

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I don't think it would be helpful

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actually maximally for me to try to

9:12

parse that into each bullet point. But I

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can tell you how I've been thinking

9:17

about this with respect to teaching

9:20

children or upskilling yourself or maybe

9:25

creating a flack jacket of sorts. And I

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have approached this from dozens of

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different angles and I keep coming back

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to

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learning,

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asking questions, written and verbal

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communications and negotiating. Those

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are a handful of skills that I think

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will remain constant. And I could defend

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each of those, but I will say that with

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AI and certainly with so many people

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having their massive bank accounts and

9:59

net worths tied into this, there is a

10:02

lot of selling of all of the change that

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is coming. And there is a lot of change

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that is already here and it's going to

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accelerate. But

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the more things change, the more certain

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things I think remain constant, right?

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The necessity of in real life close

10:19

human relationships is not going away as

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a prerequisite for mental and spiritual

10:24

health, right? That social component, we

10:26

could just call it social health, which

10:27

includes all of that. But I would focus

10:30

on learning. And this is going to sound

10:31

like I'm shilling my own bags here, but

10:34

the metalarning section of the 4-hour

10:36

chef, I think the 4-hour chef is a book,

10:38

tried to do too much, but the very first

10:40

section, which is something like 80

10:42

pages on metalarning, I do think is

10:45

worth a revisit if you haven't in a

10:47

while. And learning once you try to

10:51

break it down into its constituent

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building blocks

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really comes down in many cases to

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asking questions. And the asking of

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questions is important not just for

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interviewing other people or asking

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questions of other people to try to

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separate fact from fiction. It's equally

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important for asking yourself questions.

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And this is where all things are

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interrelated and awareness by Anthony

11:15

Dlo and so on will tie into this 8020

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analysis. It's really a collection of

11:21

questions for examining your assumptions

11:24

and separating signal from noise. Uh so

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we come down to asking questions and

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then we have written communications and

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verbal communication. And I think in

11:36

many cases and Kevin Kelly for instance

11:38

the founding editor of Wired magazine

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would say that he doesn't write what he

11:42

knows. He writes in order to better

11:44

understand what he thinks to figure out

11:46

what he thinks. And I don't think these

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are going away. Uh, sure you could try

11:52

to just walk and talk into an LLM, and I

11:54

do that as well, but there's a lot of

11:56

bias built into that, not just by the

11:58

people who design the systems, but by

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the force of memory function across

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different chats and threads, you're

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going to get a lot of self-reinforcing

12:08

feedback. So, I do think getting offline

12:12

like I did today, I spent 90% of my day

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today with pen and paper. And maybe that

12:18

just dates me as a boomer, but I don't

12:20

think so. It removes distraction and I'm

12:23

able to be much more nonlinear off of a

12:25

keyboard where I have to hit return to

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go down, right? I really like to use

12:30

arrows and so on. So, anything that will

12:33

improve written comms, there are many

12:35

books on this certainly on writing well

12:37

by Zincer. Verbal comms you can, it's

12:41

going to sound so antiquated, but like

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join a local toast masters or something

12:45

like that. get used to standing up and

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talking and that would be on the group

12:49

side and then separately negotiating

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that's not going anywhere. So learning

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how to propose and craft deal structure

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for in most cases ideally win-win

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outcomes but that's not reality 100% of

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the time but negotiating whether that's

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and these are some older callbacks for

13:10

me but the secrets of power negotiating

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by Dawson I remember had a huge impact

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on me getting past no had a large impact

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on me there are other books that provide

13:19

frameworks and I've interviewed a lot of

13:20

these people so you can also

13:23

look at the archive of the podcast for

13:25

people involved with the Harvard

13:26

negotiating project and I actually

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interviewed one of the co-authors of

13:30

getting to yes it's William Yuri and

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those are all worth jumping into but

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learning asking questions written comms

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verbal comms and negotiating is really

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where I would focus. I think that those

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are

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meta skills that can be applied across

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disciplines to almost every everything

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and anything. So that's probably where I

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would focus in terms of morally

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grounded. I mean, man, read philosophy.

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Philosophy is not for people in academic

14:02

ivory towers. In my opinion, if you look

14:04

back, it's learning how to live. And I

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think that you can establish consistent

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moral codes. Religion would be another

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option. Certainly not averse to that.

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There are many different paths to the

14:17

same goal, which is having rules that

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you follow consistently that allow you

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to view yourself as a morally grounded

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person. All right. Next is [snorts]

14:29

from Mason H. when you returned from

14:34

your sbatical in 2024. So FYI, on the

14:37

10th anniversary of the podcast, some of

14:38

you might remember I took a four-month

14:40

hiatus where we republished episodes. I

14:43

didn't record or publish any new

14:44

episodes. And part of this was to

14:47

experiment with Killing the Golden

14:49

Goose. Does the world end? When I bench

14:52

the goose for a short period of time and

14:55

I had a lot of fear around that. Turns

14:56

out, as with most fears, it was

14:59

ungrounded

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and it was fine. But here's the

15:02

question. When you returned from your

15:03

sobatical in 2024, you set a new set of

15:05

rules for the kind of podcast you were

15:07

going to do moving forward. Which of

15:09

those rules have made it in the last two

15:11

years and which did you discard?

15:14

Any generalizable insights for those of

15:16

us trying to stay in blue oceans in our

15:18

own endeavors? All right. So, the last

15:20

part about generalizing, I would say if

15:22

you haven't read it, read the blue ocean

15:24

strategy. It is going to be increasingly

15:28

critical and important and certainly for

15:31

a lot of businesses existential

15:33

in the coming years. This is going to

15:36

become more and more valuable real

15:38

estate to figure out how to navigate.

15:41

All right, so the blue ocean strategy.

15:43

The other generalizable insight would be

15:45

fear setting. Use that exercise. You can

15:47

find it for free online. I did a TED

15:49

talk about it. You don't have to buy

15:51

anything. Use that to stress test your

15:54

fears related to any action. What is

15:56

holding you back? Right? What are the

15:57

costs of inaction? It's all laid out

15:59

very clearly. So look at that. But to

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answer your question, I thought why rely

16:04

on my recollection? Because sometimes

16:07

our own assessments and recollection,

16:10

memory is an act of creating or

16:12

recreating might be self- serving,

16:15

right? I I might hallucinate to look at

16:18

things more favorably. So I asked one of

16:20

my key employees what his answer would

16:23

be and the rules that stuck which ended

16:27

up being very gratifying. Number one, no

16:30

book launching episodes, right? So

16:32

changing the rules around book launches.

16:33

That was probably the biggest change.

16:35

Just did not want to be in the podcast

16:38

aosphere rotation of the same guests

16:40

being on 20 podcasts at a time. Number

16:42

two, living legends.

16:45

wanted to interview people who are older

16:48

who perhaps had either not been on

16:50

podcasts or might not be on many

16:51

podcasts before they could no longer do

16:55

that and operate at a high level for a

16:57

few hours. So we had Andrew Won 84,

17:01

Richard Baylor 80, Tish Robbie 74, Wayde

17:05

Davis 72, David White, Frank Miller,

17:07

Danny Hillis, right? There are many

17:09

examples and whether or not these

17:11

episodes had maximum downloads, I would

17:14

not expect them to because a lot of

17:15

these names are relatively unknown

17:18

compared to celebrities certainly and

17:21

everything is being pushed to short

17:22

clips with name recognition or

17:24

sensational stuff and I try to avoid

17:26

both of those. I really enjoyed doing

17:28

this and the only way I'm gonna have any

17:30

endurance

17:32

in playing any game I choose to play,

17:34

which includes podcasting, is if I enjoy

17:36

doing it. Because if I enjoy doing it, I

17:39

have this prerequisite foundational

17:41

layer of energy which allows me in turn

17:44

to have attention which allows me to

17:46

take advantage of time and outlast

17:48

trends. Okay? So, and that could still

17:51

be a fatality, right? If everything gets

17:53

pushed to LLMs or whatever, but you get

17:57

the idea. Number three, experiments. So,

18:00

co-hosting episodes with like Nick

18:01

Kakonis, Kevin Kelly, I should do more

18:03

of that. So, it was nice to do this

18:04

review. Thank you for the question.

18:06

guided meditations with Henry Shookman,

18:08

the meditation Mondays. If you haven't

18:10

had a chance to check those out, go

18:11

check them out. You will feel better if

18:14

you incorporate them. Tim's Foundry

18:16

Kitchen, haven't given up on that one.

18:17

I'm going to do more of that. That

18:19

actually had a lot of impact behind the

18:20

scenes, but again, wasn't one of the

18:24

most downloaded episodes of the last

18:26

year. But in terms of impact in a few

18:29

very important ways that we were

18:31

tracking that are not reflected on

18:34

Spotify or Apple podcasts very

18:37

successful and then the simplify your

18:38

life episodes which I really really

18:40

really enjoyed doing those compilations

18:42

then we had a couple of household names

18:44

right we had a handful of household

18:45

names Tim Mcgra and so on which were fun

18:47

so that 9010 split meaning I'm going to

18:50

interview people in a barbell strategy

18:51

who are either relatively unknown like

18:54

Tish Robbie who's the air parent of Dr.

18:57

Seuss. Amazing story. You should check

18:59

it out. Last name is spelled R A B or

19:03

Tim McGirl, right? Almost everybody,

19:05

let's just say within certain

19:07

demographics knows who that is. A lot of

19:10

fun. And people who also who have just

19:12

not been on podcasts like Steve Young.

19:15

All right, so that is the answer to that

19:18

question. All right, the next one is

19:20

from Alec B.

19:22

And my answer will be pretty short to

19:24

this. I'm a therapist, so building

19:26

emotional closeness is literally my job,

19:28

and it's always come easy with women.

19:30

But I've never cracked male friendship.

19:32

If you were a 30-some with zero old

19:34

friend groups to lean on, what's the

19:36

actual first move? And how do you get

19:38

past how weird it feels to initiate with

19:40

another guy? All right, let me tell a

19:42

story first. So, I was in the mountains

19:45

of Montana with a small group of guys.

19:49

This has shown up in some of my writing

19:51

a couple months ago. and we're sitting

19:53

around this fire chatting and we're

19:56

having these really deep conversations

19:59

after a full day of activities together.

20:02

All right, so while we're doing the

20:04

activities, we're hiking, we're carrying

20:06

weight, we're tending llamas, long

20:08

story, we're fishing, we're like

20:11

climbing over rocks and doing stuff that

20:13

is somewhat dangerous. All of that is

20:17

activities together. And then late at

20:19

night, I think me there was some tea.

20:21

There might have been some whiskey. Who

20:23

knows? And later on, we were going to

20:25

grab some really magnified binoculars

20:27

and look at the full moon standing up on

20:29

a rock, which ended up being incredible,

20:30

by the way, if you have something with a

20:32

stabilizer. But while we were around the

20:34

fire, we were having this very deep

20:36

conversation. And one of the guys there

20:39

said, "You know why this works so well?"

20:42

And he said, "You know why also perhaps

20:44

men in particular, and not saying this

20:46

is limited to men, but love fires so

20:48

much, is no eye contact. You're staring

20:51

at the fire. It's not some weird sitdown

20:54

session where two guys are staring at

20:57

each other, which I think activates some

21:01

type of

21:02

millions of year old machinery that

21:05

reads as threat. We're just sitting

21:07

around a fire. No one's making eye

21:08

contact. It's kind of dark and we're

21:10

talking about all of this deep stuff,

21:11

right? But it was a relatively small

21:14

percentage of the total day. And this is

21:17

a long way of saying that I think men

21:20

and women are pretty different and women

21:23

are much more adept at the face-to-faced

21:26

verbal social element for lots of

21:29

fantastic evolutionary reasons. And uh I

21:33

think men just require and I'm talking

21:35

about like I guess like uh

21:38

heteronormative whatever whatever but

21:41

maybe not. That's my reference point of

21:43

course is shared activities. Men just

21:46

bond in different ways and I've tried

21:50

both. I've tried everything in between.

21:52

I've tried the extremes, right? And I

21:56

would just find activities. There was

21:58

another question from someone else about

22:00

moving to a new city. How would you

22:01

build relationships?

22:04

My answer would be to

22:07

really have all of it revolve around

22:09

shared activities. So, take your pick,

22:11

right? Is it morning swims? I like to do

22:14

something active. Is it rock climbing?

22:16

Is it fill in the blank? Something

22:19

inherently social where you have a

22:21

partner or people you're working with?

22:24

Maybe it's a run, right?

22:27

That is followed by some beers on fill

22:30

in the blank place, right? There's a lot

22:32

of this stuff out there. But those are

22:34

some of my thoughts. May not be the most

22:37

research supported, but I think it's

22:40

evolutionarily supported. And certainly

22:42

when I look at all of my male friends

22:45

who have the closest male friendships,

22:48

whether they are from 20 years ago or

22:50

from a year or two ago, shared projects

22:54

or shared activities is the answer. And

22:57

I have some relatively new male

22:59

friendships, say with Alan Lee. Have we

23:01

had a lot of deep conversations? Yeah.

23:03

But did we spend a year like building a

23:05

card game together? Yes. You get to see

23:08

kind of through the cracks

23:11

and indirectly talk about a lot of deep

23:14

stuff without actually

23:17

opening the kimono and talking about it

23:19

head-on, right? And I think that's one

23:24

example that comes to mind. All right,

23:26

long answer, but let's hop into the live

23:31

questions. I'm going to see what we have

23:34

here. Thank you, Hannah. Love your

23:36

episodes with women authors like Annne

23:38

Lamont, Liz Gilbert, Margaret Atwood,

23:39

and Cheryl Strade. Yeah, for sure. Mary

23:41

car is also just phenomenal. If you

23:44

haven't heard that one, check that one

23:45

out, please. All right, question about

23:47

the Saint protocol. This is a TMS

23:49

protocol that I've used for generalized

23:51

anxiety disorder and OCD. I have

23:54

actually tested a number of things since

23:57

can be incredibly effective getting in

24:00

some people 70 to or I should say some

24:02

groups of people 70 to 80% remission in

24:05

treatment resistant depression, things

24:06

like that. So, it's accelerated TMS.

24:09

You're applying basically a paddle or a

24:12

helmet to your head to affect different

24:14

brain regions. And sometimes it's not so

24:17

much a chemical issue. You just have

24:19

anatomical structures that are kind of

24:20

firing in the wrong order, right? It's

24:22

as if you were trying to say drive a

24:25

manual car, but you were using the

24:27

clutch and shifting the gears and so on

24:29

out of order. You kind of have to get

24:31

those in the right sequence. And I'm

24:32

simplifying, but this is one way to look

24:36

at it.

24:37

There is a company that I recently got

24:39

involved with maybe six to 12 months ago

24:41

called Ampa Health AMA and Jonathan

24:45

Downer, Dr. Jonathan Downer is involved

24:48

with this company and they have

24:50

developed a one-day protocol. So instead

24:52

of 5 days, which is sane, you're getting

24:54

10 stimulations a day. It's pretty much

24:57

all you're doing for a week. What

24:59

they've done is compress that into a

25:01

single day and they with what they call

25:03

the 1D protocol they pre-administer a

25:06

drug called descloerene which is

25:08

actually an antibiotic. They just give

25:09

you a small amount that induces helps

25:12

induce plasticity.

25:15

So I was able to get 3 to four months of

25:18

complete relief after one day which is

25:21

bananas. I mean it still blows my mind.

25:24

And I'm focused at this point more on

25:27

these ultra condensed, possibly

25:30

pharmacologically enhanced options

25:32

because most people can't take 5 days

25:34

off of work. Most people can't afford

25:37

what is involved in traveling to 5 days

25:40

of treatment, but a single day suddenly

25:43

really opens up the aperture of who this

25:46

could help. So I am paying a lot of

25:49

attention to that area and might have

25:51

more on that soon. question from Craig.

25:53

I'm gonna keep trying to answer these.

25:55

There's a lot of questions coming in, so

25:57

it kind of got bumped, but Craig was

26:00

asking me keys to building a long-term

26:05

dedicated fan base. Honestly, the best

26:09

advice I could give, I think, is just

26:12

like be try to be your authentically

26:14

weird self and follow your own

26:15

obsessions. And if something at least in

26:18

the non-fiction space, right, if you are

26:22

contending with a problem,

26:25

a challenge, a dream, and you're trying

26:27

to figure out how to get to that, I

26:29

think the personal is the most

26:30

universal. So don't try to read the tea

26:33

leaves to guess what your audience

26:35

wants. Just do what is interesting to

26:38

you, right? Don't be ashamed of your

26:40

obsessions. And that's going to come up

26:42

in some later answers as well.

26:46

And if you do that, you know, at least

26:48

you're taking care of yourself along the

26:50

way. You know, there's a lot more to it,

26:53

but the tools, the platforms, the

26:55

formats, all of that changes over time,

26:58

but this is how I think about it. And

27:00

also, I'm not aiming to impact a 100

27:03

million people, right? I'm like, well,

27:05

this helped me. Maybe it'll help

27:07

somebody else. Let me take good notes.

27:09

I'll share it. And if it really helps

27:10

five people, I will consider that very,

27:13

very well worth the time.

27:15

All right, moving down. Sebio, still

27:19

using kettle bells in your training.

27:21

What's an average week of training look

27:22

like for me recently? I do still use

27:25

kettle bells, especially for overhead

27:27

pressing. I don't do as much swinging as

27:30

I used to simply because of some lower

27:33

spinal issues. But I will do cleans and

27:36

then from cleans into shoulder pressing.

27:39

My workout routine right now is pretty

27:42

simple. The backbone, pun intended, of

27:45

that is lifting two to three times a

27:47

week. That really is the crux of it. I

27:50

just think for longevity,

27:52

weight training, if I had to choose one

27:54

modality, would be the pick. So, I'm

27:57

roughly breaking that into pushing

27:59

exercises, pulling exercises, and legs.

28:01

And those are my three weight training

28:03

workouts per week. Each one's about an

28:05

hour. Then yoga, one to two times a

28:08

week. I really like a yangar yoga

28:11

specifically for alignment and use of

28:14

props and so on. It's very adaptable in

28:16

that way. And then some form of movement

28:18

daily. Biking, swimming, walking. And as

28:22

I get older, I think the rule number one

28:24

is don't get injured because they

28:26

accumulate. And then number two,

28:28

something's better than nothing. So, if

28:31

for whatever reason, life got in the

28:33

way, you were defeated, and you're not

28:36

going to be able to make it to the gym

28:37

for an hour, it's like, look,

28:40

do 10 laps in the pool, do 20 push-ups,

28:43

do something. There's no excuse that you

28:46

can give that would take those types of

28:50

options away. So, rather than pushing it

28:54

and pushing it and pushing it to another

28:55

day, just scaling down to something

28:58

minimal. And I think if you do that

29:00

consistently, it's pretty hard to lose

29:02

over time. And that was

29:04

overlapping a lot with a question from

29:06

Barbara C. How are you staying fit these

29:08

days physically, mentally, and

29:10

soulfully? Mentally and soulfully,

29:12

honestly, it's having being very clear

29:15

on the one or two things that you are

29:16

focused on, say professionally. and then

29:19

being very very clear on the one or two

29:21

relationships that you are focused on

29:23

most. And then booking stuff with your

29:28

friend group. And you you can identify

29:30

the most quote unquote important friends

29:33

for all of those things I just mentioned

29:35

by doing a past year review. And people

29:37

can look up past year review to see how

29:40

I do that. That'll pop right up. All

29:42

right. Here's one from Stephen. What

29:43

workouts from the 4-hour body are you

29:45

still prioritizing in your routines?

29:46

There's there's a lot from the 4-hour

29:48

body. In the reversing injuries chapter,

29:50

you had chop and lift, those types of

29:53

exercises where you're basically in a

29:54

half kneeling position with a cable

29:56

pulley and you're rotating from kind of

29:59

like bottom right to top left or say top

30:02

right to bottom left or switching to the

30:05

other side. I think that kettle bells

30:09

still have a place, right? I'm not doing

30:10

as many swings, but doing single sided,

30:15

you know, one arm presses, for instance,

30:16

with kettle bells can, I think, be

30:19

incredibly effective for the time

30:21

invested. I am certainly using some

30:24

variant of AAM's protocol. So, typically

30:27

in my weightlifting workouts, I'm going

30:29

to be doing very strength focused stuff.

30:32

So, it might be kind of greasing the

30:33

groove along the lines of Pavle Tatsulin

30:36

where I'm doing 10 sets of two pull-ups,

30:39

right, with like 30 to 60 seconds in

30:41

between, very submaximal, right? And

30:45

then at the end of the workout, I'll do

30:47

some type of pulling movement with a

30:49

5-second up 5-second down cadence to

30:52

failure. Right? So, that would be

30:53

reminiscent of AAM's protocol. And you

30:57

know by and large if you look at my body

30:59

I mean it has from a body composition

31:03

perspective strength perspective the

31:05

spine issues have affected axial loading

31:08

top down loading somewhat but you know

31:11

I've been able to maintain very very

31:13

well between say 30 and almost 50 now.

31:17

So if you look at it like what I'm doing

31:19

seems to be working. There are always

31:20

tweaks to be made, but I think simple

31:23

works where complex fails a lot of the

31:25

time. All right, this is from Aaron G.

31:30

Imagine that your next podcast guest is

31:32

a high school senior who will become one

31:34

of the most successful people of their

31:35

generation, but today they look

31:36

completely average. What skills,

31:39

abilities, qualities would you be

31:40

listening for that teachers or schools

31:42

often overlook? This is pretty simple

31:45

and this is also how I find a lot of

31:47

interesting technologies, stuff on the

31:49

cutting edge

31:51

before it makes it to the mainstream.

31:53

And that can inform how you invest. That

31:55

can inform how you think about life.

31:57

It's just a fun way to explore

32:00

this thing called being human. I would

32:02

look at what they're doing on the

32:05

weekends and evenings. Probably I would

32:07

look at what these kids are doing

32:10

related to their obsessions. What are

32:12

their obsessions? Are they doing any

32:14

projects? Are they using initiative to

32:18

create things?

32:20

Are those approaches unorthodox? Are

32:22

they self-eing? If they're teaching

32:24

themselves something, what are they

32:25

teaching themselves? Right? And what are

32:27

the lessons beneath that? Because you

32:29

might be tempted to dismiss something

32:31

quickly. If it's like, ah, okay, it's

32:32

Minecraft. Who cares? It's like, well,

32:34

hold on a second. You know, what is that

32:35

actually teaching? All right, which

32:37

elements of that are they best at? All

32:38

right, which elements are they most

32:40

interested in? All right,

32:43

those are the types of things that I

32:44

would be looking for. All right, next

32:46

one is Niha G. How do you distinguish

32:49

between needing a vacation, being burned

32:51

out, and simply having outgrown the life

32:54

you've built? And once you realize

32:55

you've outgrown it, what would you do to

32:57

hone in on what needs to change? I'm

32:59

only going to address the first part of

33:00

that. So, how do you distinguish between

33:02

needing a vacation, being burned out,

33:04

and simply having outgrown the life

33:06

you've built? So, step number one would

33:08

be take a vacation. since that is a

33:12

temporary intervention and if that fixes

33:14

the problem then you know that perhaps

33:17

was the answer right so if you're asking

33:19

yourself a question is it abcd or should

33:22

I do abcd if there's one that is of

33:24

short duration try it cross it off the

33:26

list right that would be the first thing

33:29

and then you know being burned out might

33:31

be related to needing a vacation and

33:34

then simply having outgrown the life

33:36

you've built I would say take a mini

33:38

retirement and

33:40

That is another concept from the 4-hour

33:43

work week. I still do it once or twice a

33:45

year. This is taking

33:48

ideally at least three or four weeks

33:53

away from your usual routine or

33:55

business, right? And I frame it in or

34:00

through the lens of business for say

34:02

entrepreneurs a lot. This is most

34:05

applicable to people who are

34:07

self-employed or most easily applied

34:09

although literally thousands of people

34:11

who have done this who are employed. So

34:13

there's flexibility. But the the reason

34:16

three or four weeks is important is that

34:18

if you take a week off, maybe even two

34:21

and you don't change anything before you

34:23

leave,

34:25

you can try to triage while you're gone.

34:26

So you'll be tempted to hop in and put

34:29

out small fires before they become big

34:30

fires. And when you come back, you can

34:33

end up doing two to three weeks of

34:36

damage control to reverse all the things

34:38

that went wrong. When it's three or four

34:41

weeks or 5, 6, 7, 8 weeks, all of a

34:44

sudden, before you leave, you have to

34:48

take a very hard look at your systems,

34:51

your policies, how well you are

34:55

eliminating things, automating things.

34:58

If you're doing a lot of things that

35:00

don't need to be done in the first

35:01

place, you might stop those. You might

35:03

hit pause on a bunch of things for that

35:06

three to four week period and see what

35:08

happens. Much like I did with my podcast

35:09

soatical, right? And by doing that once

35:13

or twice a year, you're effectively

35:15

doing a controlled burn, which prevents

35:17

much bigger forest fires and it gives

35:19

you also perspective much like writing a

35:23

book. Right now, I am on a new draft of

35:26

a book and I let it sit for a few weeks

35:29

because I cannot look at it with fresh

35:31

eyes. I'm too close to all the problems

35:33

in every edit until I've let it marinate

35:36

for a few weeks. So, the benefit of a

35:39

mini retirement, and I'm sure people

35:42

have written about this online, so you

35:44

don't necessarily have to buy the 4-hour

35:45

work week, is that you have to set up

35:49

systems and policies and improve all of

35:52

that before you leave. And by the way,

35:55

leave could mean that you're in the same

35:57

place, although I do recommend a change

35:59

of geography for this.

36:02

And then when you come back, you will

36:05

also be able to look at things with

36:07

fresh eyes and a clearer vision I would

36:10

say. Right? So that is probably the

36:13

approach that I would take when I am in

36:17

doubt

36:18

or a lot of different problems are

36:20

starting to cohhere together and I'm

36:22

having trouble separating them.

36:25

In the immediate term, I will start

36:27

doing TM meditation again twice a day.

36:29

Right? Arnold Schwarzenegger found this.

36:31

A lot of problems tend to glom on to one

36:33

another and it seems unresolvable.

36:35

Meditation twice a day, specifically

36:37

twice a day is important. You could also

36:39

use, you know, the Way app by Henry

36:40

Shooklin or someone else. Twice a day is

36:42

important. And I have theories for why

36:44

that's the case, but just do that for

36:46

like a week or two. And then if there's

36:49

still lots of outstanding questions and

36:52

it just seems like you're spinning too

36:53

many plates, I will try to get a mini

36:56

retirement on the calendar. And it

36:57

doesn't need to be next week. could be

36:59

two months, three months from now, but

37:01

get it on the calendar and then defend

37:03

it. That is how I approach it. May or

37:05

may not apply to your situation.

37:09

Hopefully that wasn't boring as

37:11

Next question is,

37:15

I'm not sure if this is going to be

37:16

helpful, but I'll just throw it out

37:18

there because it's a simple response. Is

37:19

McKinley W. And I apologize if this is a

37:24

dissatisfying answer on my part, but I

37:26

work in public education. and have spent

37:27

years in child and teen mental health

37:28

and suicide prevention. Thank you for

37:30

that first and foremost. It's super

37:32

important work. What advice would you

37:33

give to practitioners and educators who

37:35

are caring for our youth through

37:36

unprecedented times? I'm going to just

37:38

hop in for a second. I would look very

37:40

very closely at Jonathan Height Hi Dt

37:44

not only his books but also what he's

37:46

doing with his small group of

37:47

researchers. They've actually changed

37:50

certain legislation on a state-by-state

37:52

basis for restricting phone use in

37:55

schools and I think it's very very

37:58

interesting. So take a look at that.

38:00

Getting back to the question, you've had

38:01

many great guests who have touched on

38:03

this and you've shared boldly about your

38:04

own experience. What would you say to a

38:05

16-year-old in 2026?

38:08

I would say that,

38:12

you know, this

38:15

everything on this Black Mirror is

38:17

designed to hijack your free will and to

38:21

turn you into a puppet of the machine of

38:24

some type, one machine or another,

38:26

whether that's meta or fill in the

38:30

blank, right? And

38:33

that

38:35

this could be a digital mini retirement.

38:37

I would try to get them off of social

38:38

media for a period of time and then talk

38:41

to them. Be like, "Hey, this is going to

38:43

be an experiment. You can get back on it

38:44

and use it 10 times as much, but I'm

38:47

going to challenge you and we're going

38:48

to come up with a plan for other things

38:50

that you can do. Delete the apps from

38:52

your phone for 3 to four weeks. We're

38:57

going to do an assessment beforehand to

38:59

look at how you feel, your anxiety

39:02

levels, maybe depressive symptoms, how

39:05

much you're getting done, what you say

39:07

you want to do versus how you're

39:08

spending time. And then we're going to

39:10

look at it afterwards. And no

39:13

expectations, no pressure on what you do

39:15

with those results. But let's start

39:17

there. And you know, if you want to have

39:21

a beautiful life that has some element

39:25

of peace of mind and healthy

39:27

relationships, I think it'll benefit

39:28

you. If you want to be a world beater

39:30

and you want to build anything or

39:34

operate at the highest levels in any

39:35

way, also this will help you. So, I

39:38

would probably pitch it that way. That's

39:39

what I would do. All right.

39:43

Next one is going to be a little inside

39:45

baseball, but I'm going to jump into it

39:47

because it's a topic that I love. This

39:49

is from Sebastian, and I'm going to

39:52

abbreviate this a little bit. All right,

39:54

so I've talked a lot about language

39:56

learning in the past, and I've had blog

40:00

posts and resources from people like

40:02

Benny Lewis, the Irish Polyglot. And

40:05

Seb's question or Seby's question is,

40:07

has any of this thinking changed with

40:08

advancements in AI?

40:11

And here are some questions. What's the

40:13

purpose of language learning? If in the

40:14

end we're all plugged in with a chip and

40:15

blah blah blah, what does language

40:17

learning provide for the human

40:18

experience? So for me, number one,

40:23

actually population level, zoom out.

40:25

There seem to be some crazy longevity

40:27

and cognitive benefits to language

40:29

learn. This is relatively new. I put it

40:32

in the fib Friday newsletter, so I can't

40:34

recall it from memory, which is ironic.

40:36

I get it. But there seem to be some

40:38

really significant benefits to acquiring

40:40

multiple languages. Secondly, it doesn't

40:43

take that long to get conversationally

40:46

functional in a new language. You

40:49

probably know this already, but between

40:50

8 to 12 weeks, and not to beat a dead

40:53

horse, but again, the metalarning

40:54

section of the 4-hour chef goes into

40:56

this at length. And I've written a lot

40:58

on the blog, Tim. I think there's a

41:00

section called language learning, but if

41:01

you just search language learning,

41:03

you'll be able to find a ton of stuff.

41:04

So, it's also not as heavy a lift as

41:07

people expect, right? To get to a point

41:09

where you have a thousand words, you can

41:11

go to a country and navigate

41:14

80% of your transactional conversations

41:18

in a restaurant, at a hotel, whatever,

41:20

all in your target language. You could

41:22

probably actually do that in about 2

41:24

weeks. I know that sounds crazy,

41:27

but I believe that is entirely

41:29

achievable. And I've taught people to do

41:31

that. There are plenty of other people

41:32

out there who teach folks. it's very

41:34

very achievable right so it seems like

41:37

limited downside in terms of time

41:40

investment and very high durable upside

41:43

but the purpose of language learning for

41:44

me also is that you know I agree with

41:48

vitkinstein that the limits of our

41:51

language are the limits of our world and

41:53

there are whether it's through

41:55

grammatical structure or vocabulary or

41:58

words like you know saaji in Portuguese

42:01

which is actually pretty close to like

42:02

nutskashi in Japanese or right this term

42:06

for dappled light in Japanese

42:10

or the phrases like Maywaku in Japanese

42:13

which is

42:16

people have heard

42:17

right

42:20

is like pain in the ass. So Maywoko is

42:22

like when somebody does you a favor you

42:24

don't walk when someone does you like a

42:26

favor you don't really want or gives you

42:27

a gift you don't want and then you feel

42:29

obliged to do stuff for them and it's a

42:31

huge pain in the ass. All of that is

42:33

compressed into this one expression

42:35

which is just beautiful, hilarious, fun.

42:39

And we've all heard that, you know, the

42:42

Inuit have 30 words for different types

42:44

of snow. Hawaiians have many, many, many

42:47

different words for various types of

42:49

rain. Also, some of them are location

42:51

dependent, like rain at a specific

42:53

place. All of these concepts broaden

42:57

your ability to experience life, right?

43:01

In the same way that if you're looking

43:03

around here where I'm sitting or you're

43:07

driving around and

43:09

walking through the woods, let's just

43:10

say, and what you see are trees. That's

43:14

what you see, trees and plants. But you

43:17

don't have any specific knowledge that

43:18

allows you to see anything really more

43:21

than that. Perhaps somebody could put

43:23

two different types of leaves in your

43:24

hand. You'd be able to say, "Yes,

43:25

they're different." But if you went on a

43:27

walk, as I will do with say a botist or

43:31

somebody who works at a local

43:35

plant shop, doesn't have to cost much

43:37

money, be 20 bucks. And they start to

43:40

describe to you, for instance, oh,

43:43

you're in upstate New York. Here are the

43:45

six to eight trees that constitute more

43:48

than 90% of all the trees, right? And

43:51

here's how you tell them apart. And by

43:54

the way, here are the three different

43:55

leaf structures that matter. Or with

43:58

birds, here's how owl feet are different

44:00

from pasarine, which are different from

44:02

this. Right? Suddenly, because you have

44:06

these labels,

44:07

your experience of reality is much

44:10

higher resolution. And when it's higher

44:13

resolution, when you have also, and

44:15

these are not exactly the same thing,

44:17

but a better frame rate, I think you

44:19

extend your experiential lifespan. All

44:21

right? Right. So, if you want to live in

44:25

full color HD as opposed to black and

44:27

white, and if you want to be able to

44:30

watch super slow-mo,

44:32

right, to extend your life without

44:35

waiting for some magical biological

44:37

intervention that all the billionaires

44:38

are funding to live forever. Probably

44:40

not going to happen anytime soon. You

44:42

can do that right now. And one of the

44:44

ways that I find helps is by learning

44:47

languages. All right, [snorts] that was

44:49

a that was a long one. And I didn't even

44:51

get to the second part. All right. So,

44:52

have I thought about how to

44:53

systematically integrate AI into

44:55

language learning process.

44:57

There are lots of people who have lots

44:59

of takes on this. And you know, I was

45:01

one of their earliest investors, so I'm

45:03

I'm kind of biased here, but I don't

45:05

think so. You know, like if anyone's

45:06

going to crack AI for language learning,

45:09

I do think it's going to be Dolingo.

45:10

They're already using it. There may be

45:12

some AI native companies that approach

45:13

it, but I do think Duolingo is probably

45:15

ahead of the game. There are lots of

45:16

other options. So for instance, just in

45:18

the last few weeks, Instagram

45:20

autodubbing has become really good and

45:24

my team sent me a clip of me speaking in

45:26

Japanese, right? So the random show and

45:28

there was a segment and it was my voice.

45:31

It sounds like me dubbed into, as far as

45:35

I can tell, perfect Japanese, idiomatic

45:38

perfect Japanese. And I was like, "Holy

45:50

Now, I don't want to spend all day

45:52

listening to myself, but because I knew

45:54

the content of that conversation,

45:57

I was able to improve my my Japanese,

45:59

which is already pretty good. It's not

46:00

perfect, but it's advanced. I was able

46:02

to improve my Japanese in five minutes

46:04

of watching something, watching content

46:07

I knew in this target language, right?

46:10

So, you can use AI. I think one of the

46:12

more interesting

46:14

uses of AI for language learning for

46:17

kids specifically or younger people uh

46:19

older people too would be personalizing

46:21

the experience based on your interests

46:23

based on what you want to learn.

46:26

What native content can I aggregate that

46:30

will be interesting to you? Right? Like

46:32

the Dualingo Spanish podcast was

46:33

phenomenal. I don't know what the

46:35

equivalent is in Mandarin. I'm trying to

46:37

brush up on my Mandarin Chinese right

46:39

now. And it's like, well, I would love

46:42

to do that. So, I'm going to go to, and

46:45

I just did this earlier today, ChatGpt

46:47

or Claude, and ask them that question. I

46:49

liked the Dualingo Spanish podcast,

46:51

which by the way, at one point was like

46:52

one of the top 10 podcasts or 20

46:54

podcasts in the world. Crazy. And I want

46:56

the equivalent for Mandarin. What might

46:58

that look like? Now, if it doesn't

47:00

exist, I would imagine that within a

47:03

year, AI will be able to create that for

47:06

me. And that would be a great use case

47:09

for me for AI enhancing language

47:13

learning. But frankly, old and boring

47:16

and analog I think works fantastic

47:19

because as soon as you are learning a

47:21

language on this, you are competing,

47:26

your attention is competing with a

47:28

thousand other distractions that are

47:31

more tantalizing than using spaced

47:34

repetition or super memo or something

47:36

like that. Ani to acquire vocabulary,

47:39

right? So,

47:41

I like printed out flashcards. I like

47:45

watching, for instance, anytime you're

47:46

watching Netflix or whatever, Amazon

47:49

Prime. Okay, here's the thing. I don't

47:51

actually believe you learn a target

47:53

language. Let's say Italian. I've been

47:54

watching some Italian movies recently. I

47:56

love Italian as a language.

47:58

I can watch, say, Roberto Benini.

48:01

Incredible, right? Life is beautiful.

48:03

But if I miss something and I'm watching

48:05

English subtitles, if I miss it, I miss

48:07

it. I don't get it. However, if I have

48:10

spent, let's just say 72 hours getting

48:14

using a

48:17

Lonely Planet phrase book intended for

48:19

travelers about Italian. They give you

48:20

like a 10-page grammar overview. If I

48:23

have a basic understanding, then I can

48:26

watch a movie I know in and out, right?

48:28

Die Hard Babe is one of my favorites.

48:32

the born identity, whatever, where you

48:34

know the dialogue,

48:36

snatch, whatever it might be, and then

48:39

just turn on the subtitles in your

48:41

target language. So now I'm watching,

48:43

like right now I'm watching Parks and

48:45

Wreck, and we're going to come back to

48:47

Parks and Wreck, but I'm watching from

48:48

season 1, episode 1 through Parks and

48:51

Wreck. It's highly conversational, lots

48:53

of different characters, and you can

48:55

watch it as you would normally watch it,

48:57

or you can just turn on some subtitles

48:58

in whatever your target language is, and

49:00

you will acquire a lot of language, a

49:03

lot of vocab. All right, so not sure

49:07

that is helpful, but that's how I'm

49:09

thinking about it. And I'm definitely

49:10

going to be learning more languages, so

49:12

I do think about this. All right, let's

49:16

hop into.

49:19

And my laptop battery is doing so well.

49:21

I can't believe I've ever recorded

49:23

podcasts indoors. Ludicrous. Should

49:26

always do it outside with nice weather

49:28

like this. All right, I'm going to hop

49:30

back into the live chat and see if we

49:33

got anything I can hop into. Also, some

49:37

of you have heard me talk about this.

49:39

Michelle Thomas. M I C H E L T H O M A

49:42

S. Michelle Thomas method. If you want

49:44

something you can listen to and really

49:46

acquire the fundamentals of a language

49:49

in a week or two, the Michelle Thomas

49:52

method is outstanding. The languages he

49:55

recorded himself, which I think are

49:56

French, Spanish, Italian, maybe

49:59

certainly German are world class. The

50:03

Korean that I went through, I was very

50:05

skeptical that anyone other than

50:06

Michelle would be able to use his method

50:08

to teach well, and it was awesome.

50:11

So, I would I would take a very close

50:13

look at Michelle Thomas. His background

50:15

is nuts. Okay.

50:18

Michael R. What's one of your recent

50:20

favorite TV shows or movies? All-time

50:23

favorite TV shows or movies? Well, I've

50:25

I just mentioned some of my favorite

50:26

movies. And when I'm writing a new book,

50:29

very often I'll write late at night and

50:30

I will take one of my favorite movies

50:32

and I'll play it on the TV or on a

50:34

projector and mute it and then I'll just

50:36

listen to music. But I like having the

50:38

company late at night so it doesn't feel

50:40

too isolating. And it's been different

50:42

movies for different books. But I mean

50:45

I've seen Babe like a thousand times.

50:47

I've seen Born Identity like a thousand

50:49

times. Spirited Away I've probably seen

50:51

a few hundred times cuz I'm playing them

50:53

every night, right? And there are many

50:56

others right now. And this comes to a

51:00

question someone else asked. Len a I've

51:03

always enjoyed your what purchase under

51:05

$100 has made a big impact question. Why

51:07

have you stopped asking that? I don't

51:09

have a great answer to that. And do you

51:11

have any new purchases that would make

51:12

such a list? And this ties into favorite

51:14

TV shows. All right. So, I had like

51:17

millions of people, I had seen many

51:19

short clips on social of parks and

51:22

wreck, parks and recreation. I'd even

51:24

seen one or two episodes, but I had

51:25

never watched it as the good Lord

51:28

intended, which is from season 1,

51:30

episode one all the way through. And

51:32

there are 120 plus episodes and goodness

51:36

gracious is that a fantastic show. It is

51:39

just wholesome goodness, you know, 90%

51:42

of the time. I think familyfriendly 99%

51:45

of the time. Not that I care about that

51:47

right now, but it's so positive and such

51:51

a feelgood pallet cleanser given the

51:54

insanity that we get waterboarded with

51:55

all day through doom scrolling. And even

51:58

if you don't want to be subjected to it,

52:00

it's just everywhere. It really has

52:02

turned into this nightly ritual with my

52:05

lady and we just watch one episode every

52:08

night, one or two. So good. And that's

52:10

literally months and months of payoff

52:12

because they have seven seasons. So

52:13

buying the full seven seasons is my best

52:16

purchase of under $100. This is from

52:18

Timothy K. You've said walking is my

52:21

number one daily hack. I'm just

52:23

revisiting the memory banks to try to

52:26

confirm that I've said that, but doesn't

52:28

really matter what actually happens in

52:29

my mind on those walks. that doesn't

52:31

happen at a desk intentional or does it

52:33

just unfold?

52:35

I will say that it's it's not always

52:38

about what happens in the mind. I just

52:40

pay even though I might be known in some

52:43

circles as a early stage tech investor

52:45

and blah blah blah blah blah. So, I'm

52:47

looking at the new new new new new new

52:49

thing. I pay more attention to the old

52:52

old old thing and evolutionary drives

52:57

that have withtood millennia and

52:59

millions of years

53:02

to prove durable. And we're designed to

53:04

move. We're designed to walk a lot,

53:06

right? And most of us don't do as much

53:09

of that as we have evolved to be capable

53:12

of. So, I just find the health benefits,

53:15

the mood elevation.

53:17

It is across the board beneficial to me.

53:19

If I'm walking, sometimes it's going to

53:21

be just letting my mind wander, trying

53:25

to let ideas percolate from wherever the

53:27

muse might yank them if I'm working on a

53:29

book, might be listening to an audio

53:32

book, might be doing phone calls. But

53:34

walking, walking, walking. I mean,

53:35

there's you can fix a lot of problems by

53:37

walking. And when I say walking, I mean

53:39

walking like two hours plus a day is a

53:41

lot of walking. But for me, like any

53:45

amount of walking helps, but just like

53:47

meditating twice a day is fundamentally

53:49

different for me. Like if you can

53:51

meditate,

53:53

for instance, like if you could choose

53:55

15 minutes twice a day or 30 minutes

53:57

once a day, I do 15 minutes twice a day.

54:00

And similarly with the walking, any

54:01

amount helps, but

54:04

there seems to be something kind of

54:06

magical that happens after at least an

54:08

hour, right? Preferably two. So that's

54:11

that's where I'll leave that. My top tip

54:14

for more restful sleep at the moment

54:15

when falling asleep is fine, but hitting

54:17

a full night's rest is challenging.

54:21

I think that's a question.

54:24

I mean, number one, look, if you're

54:26

waking up to pee a lot, stop drinking

54:28

water an hour or two before you go to

54:30

bed, two hours, right? Just like stop

54:32

drinking so much water. I drink water

54:34

compulsively, right? So, that is

54:36

something that I have to tell myself.

54:40

And putting aside drugs and all that

54:43

kind of stuff cuz I don't think we want

54:44

to get into that rabbit hole right now.

54:48

you know, falling asleep for me. So,

54:50

cutting down on primary insomnia or

54:52

onset insomnia.

54:55

The TMS, the one day TMS has just been

54:58

remarkable for that.

55:00

So, people can look up Ampa Health if

55:02

they want to try to find a place that

55:04

might offer a one day. It's called the

55:06

1D protocol. You can also look up

55:07

literature on that. But otherwise, sun

55:12

lots of exercise. So boring. Isn't that

55:15

boring? But if I get plenty of sun

55:19

exposure,

55:21

if I'm seeing lots of natural light,

55:22

especially when the sun is going down,

55:24

like right now, I mean, in the morning,

55:25

yes, to wake up, but also plenty of

55:27

light exposure

55:29

and I am exercising so that I feel

55:33

tired. It sounds so ridiculous for me to

55:36

seg, but it bears repeating because it I

55:39

think in modern environments, and modern

55:42

life, it's very easy to do what? to

55:45

suffer from a deficiency of sunlight,

55:48

get very little sunlight exposure, and

55:50

to not be tired because you're sitting

55:52

in front of one of these screens at 18

55:54

in for the majority of the day. So,

55:58

those would be a few. It's another

56:00

reason why I like to walk because I can

56:01

get a lot done if I push this horrible

56:04

thing called the inbox to phone calls

56:06

and then just do a few hours of calls,

56:09

which I do almost every Tuesday when I'm

56:11

having one-on-one calls with my direct

56:13

reports as an example.

56:17

Let me know if you have follow-ups on

56:18

that, but that's what comes to mind.

56:21

This is a question uh let's see if I can

56:23

answer this. I didn't have immediate

56:26

thoughts. This is a question from

56:27

Oxanna. As someone who naturally values

56:29

privacy, how did you reconcile that with

56:31

choosing such a public career and has

56:33

that changed over time? Well, the first

56:35

thing I would say is that I didn't

56:36

really

56:39

think through choosing a public career

56:41

because the first book was turned down

56:43

by 25 plus publishers and then bought

56:46

for nothing. And my expectation was that

56:49

it wasn't going to do very much. And

56:51

even though I stacked the deck so that

56:54

it would have a snowballs chance in

56:56

hell, I did not expect it to blow up.

56:59

And by the time it did blow up and then

57:02

I was saying yes to things and became

57:04

publicly exposed, the genie was out of

57:06

the bottle, toothpaste was out of the

57:08

out of the toothpaste tube, however you

57:09

want to think about it.

57:11

But if I could hit, you know, control Z,

57:15

there are times when I would be tempted

57:17

to say yes, I would take that. And I

57:20

think the silver lining on it is that

57:23

the half-life of fame is just getting

57:25

shorter and shorter and shorter. Some of

57:28

you might remember, let's just call it

57:29

10 years ago, you would get a hilarious

57:31

meme video and that video would make the

57:33

rounds for like a week. How long do the

57:36

videos make the rounds now? 60 seconds,

57:41

3 hours, one day.

57:44

It's everything is becoming more

57:47

ephemeral in the world of sort of

57:49

digital visibility and over time like I

57:52

might you know shut of the podcast or

57:54

stop doing video

57:56

because I have no no desire for more

57:59

facial recognition.

58:02

But I think depending on what you're

58:05

trying to do, for better and for worse,

58:07

if you're maybe in growth mode, it's

58:09

going to get harder and harder to have

58:11

any kind of

58:14

durable public profile. Now, on the flip

58:17

side, it's going to get easier and

58:18

easier for everyone to find you. So, I

58:21

do think it's important to think about

58:24

digital protections, privacy

58:25

protections, and so on. But that's a

58:27

much longer conversation for another

58:28

time. But yes, I am paranoid and

58:31

incredibly

58:33

focused on privacy. I think that privacy

58:36

in some ways, even though it was a let's

58:38

call it a god-given right for millennia

58:42

upon millennia,

58:44

it is now a luxury of sorts, right? If

58:47

you do not take proactive action, if you

58:50

do not have defenses put up, like your

58:52

whole life is on display or available

58:55

for the right for the right technical

58:58

person who can do a deep dive or for the

59:01

right price, right? So, you really and

59:03

there are tools you can use like incogns

59:05

for scraping stuff off the web. I think

59:07

that's just going to become a privacy

59:10

survival imperative if you want it. Then

59:12

there's other stuff that's interesting.

59:13

You know, if you want like private

59:15

money, right, which by the way, like for

59:17

a long time, cash was that. Now it's

59:19

like go to your bank and try to take out

59:21

$9,000. You're going to get

59:22

cross-examined. Government doesn't like

59:24

private money, even though the default

59:27

was kind of fiat currency for a long

59:29

time, which allowed you to kind of live

59:30

your life and do your thing without

59:32

having big brother breathing on your

59:33

face at every second. So, you know,

59:35

stuff like Zcash is kind of interesting.

59:37

Obviously, crypto can lead you into

59:40

dangerous waters and you can lose

59:41

everything very quickly. But I do find

59:43

some of the privacy coins and stuff

59:45

interesting. So, we'll see where all

59:47

that goes. That does not mean invest, by

59:49

the way. It is very, very easy to lose

59:52

all your money in that stuff. All right.

59:55

This one is from Josh. Tim, what are

59:58

three to five things in your life now

60:00

that you happily pay top dollar for? In

60:02

other words, what luxuries do you think

60:03

are absolutely worth upgrading for?

60:07

I'm going to mention a few. The first is

60:11

massage and manual therapy. And I wanted

60:14

to mention this first because even when

60:16

I was very poor right out of school and

60:21

driving around in a used handme-down

60:24

minivan that the the rear seats have

60:26

been stolen out of, I'm not making this

60:28

up. like really a A+ piece of car

60:32

and had a bunch of roommates and like

60:35

slept on a futon a lot.

60:38

I saved my money for manual therapy,

60:40

meaning massage therapy once a week and

60:44

like not for relaxation, for like sports

60:46

massage, fix the broken car type of

60:50

work. And that is a commitment that I

60:54

made early because I saw the dividends

60:55

and I really think it is paid off over

60:58

time and I think that is the core

61:01

component of my longevity sort of health

61:05

span

61:07

constellation of things. So that's one.

61:09

I really try to get massage work done

61:11

with a good therapist once a week. And

61:14

again a little is better than nothing.

61:16

Can't afford an hour? Do 30 minutes.

61:17

Can't afford 30 minutes? Try to find

61:19

somebody to do 15 minutes. I guarantee

61:20

you, you can find somebody who can help

61:23

you out even if they're only working on

61:25

your IT bands for 5 minutes. Like scale

61:28

back instead of going to zero. All

61:30

right. Ease of travel. I just I think

61:32

travel can be very stressful the more

61:34

people you have involved. I've got a

61:36

dog. D. So, anything that makes travel a

61:40

bit smoother, a bit easier, right? It's

61:42

like, you know, I was their first

61:44

adviser. So, again, full disclosure, but

61:46

like clear TSA precheck. anything that

61:49

makes travel a little bit easier. If

61:51

it's going to be a hassle to lug your

61:52

stuff around, if you hurt your elbow and

61:54

you've got heavy luggage, ship your

61:56

luggage, right? There's a lot you can

61:58

do. When I was spending a lot of time in

62:02

New York City, I actually stayed at the

62:04

same hotel most of the time. And what I

62:07

did at one point is I bought a trunk, a

62:10

big trunk, and I put a week's worth of

62:13

clothing and some of the supplements I

62:16

always use and a bunch of the stuff that

62:18

is in my like everyday carry in my

62:21

primary home. And I just had a trunk of

62:23

stuff that they stored in the basement

62:25

at the hotel. What did that mean? I

62:28

never had to pack. I could grab a

62:30

toothbrush and get on a plane and go to

62:32

New York and I was totally covered. had

62:34

a couple of different pairs of shoes,

62:35

had workout outfits, everything, right?

62:38

Bathing suit, didn't need anything in

62:40

one trunk. That's it. So,

62:44

ease of travel would be number two. And

62:46

then last, and I'm sure I could think of

62:48

other stuff, but healthcare for myself

62:50

and loved ones would be way up there.

62:53

And that includes in some cases, and I'm

62:55

fortunate that I have the means to do

62:57

this, but for some people like for my

62:59

parents and other people, paying for

63:00

trainers, paying for doctors, paying for

63:03

meal prep or meal delivery, right? This

63:05

kind of thing. You know, it's like

63:10

the man or woman who is well wants a

63:12

million things. You know, the sick man

63:14

or woman wants only one thing, not to be

63:16

sick, right? The injured man or woman

63:18

only wants one thing, not to be injured,

63:20

right? So just really taking care of

63:22

that is another place where I'm happy

63:25

not just to spend a lot but to

63:26

overspend. Right? So what does that

63:29

mean? That means that feeling like I

63:32

have an insurance policy or a safety net

63:34

available just in case having say you

63:37

know concierge medicine such that

63:41

god forbid something happens and I need

63:43

to get a hold of somebody at 2 a.m. on a

63:47

Wednesday, a Saturday, whatever, that I

63:49

can reach a doctor. It gives me a peace

63:52

of mind that helps with everything else,

63:54

even if I never use it. Right? It's like

63:55

having a very safe car. Even if you

63:57

never get into a head-on collision, god

64:00

forbid,

64:02

there's a reassurance that comes with

64:04

having a very, very well-rated safe car

64:07

for you and your family. So, I feel very

64:09

similar to that. Just having the ability

64:12

to do ABC, B, C, D, or E with respect to

64:16

health, fitness, medicine, specialists,

64:19

I find to be a very good investment. And

64:22

by the way, sometimes you do need that

64:24

stuff. And some of you may have seen the

64:28

announcement in the New York Times, but

64:30

I'm going to be getting very heavily

64:31

involved in a startup called Neco

64:33

Health, which is expanding to the US

64:35

very soon. It's already in the UK and

64:38

Sweden. if you want to check it out.

64:40

Co-founded by Daniel Ek, the co-founder,

64:42

longtime CEO of Spotify. Going to be

64:45

doing some very interesting stuff. So,

64:46

I'm hoping to make worldclass

64:48

preventative health care available to

64:50

millions of people.

64:53

That is just the basis of everything

64:55

else. If you don't have your health,

64:56

what do you have? All right, that's a

64:58

good one from Hannah. What's the one

65:01

most important thing you're doing to

65:02

prevent cognitive decline? Both my

65:05

parents have Alzheimer's and I'm

65:06

overwhelmed with all the hacks. I know

65:10

how you feel because I have multiple

65:12

relatives I'm caring for with

65:15

Alzheimer's right now. I would say that

65:20

if I had to pick one thing, it would be

65:21

the exercise. Okay? So, if I had to pick

65:24

one thing for cognitive health, it is

65:27

the exercise. And my conversation with

65:29

Dr. Tommy Wood gets into specifics

65:31

around this, but I'll give you one

65:33

example. doing something called the

65:35

Norwegian 4x4, which is a type of

65:38

interval training. Doing that, I want to

65:40

say three times per week for 6 months,

65:45

provided 5 years of benefits, something

65:48

like that. And zone 2 also counts for

65:52

mitochondrial health.

65:54

Alzheimer's, frankly, is very poorly

65:56

understood. And I think we're still in

65:58

the dark ages in a lot of respects. I

66:00

don't totally believe actually often

66:04

don't believe and I'm no doctor. I don't

66:05

play one on the internets. This is just

66:07

my personal experience but the remove

66:10

amalloid beta and towangles and all will

66:13

be well hypothesis which a lot of

66:15

therapeutics are predicated on. I really

66:18

don't buy it. I think a lot of it is

66:20

vascular dementia and some of it

66:22

certainly is mitochondrial dysfunction.

66:24

So I'm looking at things like I am

66:26

taking uraliththna myself for checking

66:30

in some respects a mitochondrial box

66:32

paying a lot of attention to insulin

66:35

sensitivity and glucose disposal. Again

66:37

that comes back to the weight training

66:39

but also doing plenty of intermittent

66:41

fasting and so on. There is a supplement

66:44

called that I think is pretty

66:46

interesting. It's basically a

66:48

sulforophane precursor plus a few other

66:52

ingredients that I think help with like

66:54

enzyatic conversion and things like

66:56

that. But if I had to pick one, it would

66:59

be the exercise. And then there's lots

67:02

of other stuff I do, right? Like I don't

67:03

know if you guys can see it, but like

67:07

you know there's a barrel sauna over

67:08

there. Sauna use is very interesting.

67:11

Heat shock proteins, etc. So, I'm

67:13

throwing a lot at it because it

67:14

terrifies the living hell out of me. But

67:17

I think you can pop all the pills you

67:19

want and

67:21

cobble together all sorts of mini

67:24

interventions, but if you're not doing

67:25

the exercise, if you're not eating good

67:27

food, if you're spiking your glucose

67:29

constantly over and over again and

67:32

always eating by the clock and never

67:34

doing any type of intermittent fasting,

67:36

and by intermittent fasting, I'm talking

67:38

about along the lines of a researcher

67:40

named Mark Matson. So, at least 16 hours

67:43

of fasting, preferably more, so that you

67:46

deplete glycogen in your liver, and

67:47

switch to some ketone production.

67:53

If you're only cobbling together a lots

67:54

of pills and potions, I don't think

67:57

that's going to do it, but I'm throwing

67:59

everything in the kitchen sink at it.

68:01

So, hopefully that is somewhat helpful.

68:03

If you guys think it would be

68:05

interesting, at some point I might do a

68:06

dedicated podcast, just a solo podcast

68:09

talking about exactly what I'm doing for

68:12

preserving cognitive health and

68:15

function. Again, not that I'm a doctor

68:17

or an MD, but frankly,

68:20

a lot of those folks are so siloed and

68:22

specialized that sometimes it's hard to

68:26

assemble a full picture for practical

68:28

implementation. And there are things

68:30

coming hopefully down the line. I

68:32

invested in a company called Jakcasta

68:34

Neuroscience, J O C A S T A looking at

68:37

injectable cloth for humans. Hopefully,

68:39

I think cloth K l is very interesting

68:42

and hopefully that'll be a therapeutic.

68:44

But in the meantime, guess what provokes

68:46

natural cloth production or release?

68:49

Exercise of different types. So, when in

68:52

doubt, get to the gym.

68:54

All right, guys. I think that's all I

68:56

have for right now. I'm going to hop off

69:00

and get a bite to eat since I haven't

69:02

had anything since a small breakfast.

69:04

And

69:06

I think we're going to wind down and

69:08

come to a close in just a few moments.

69:11

So, thank you everybody for the

69:13

questions. Thank you for tuning in from

69:15

around the world. And for those people

69:18

who might be listening to this if we

69:19

publish it, uh we will have show notes

69:22

linking to all sorts of stuff that I

69:24

mentioned at tim.blogmpodcast

69:25

blog/mpodcast.

69:27

And I'm not sure what the hell you would

69:30

search to find this particular episode,

69:32

but you're smart people. I'll let you

69:34

figure it out. But the show notes will

69:35

be at tim.blog/mpodcast.

69:37

And once again, everybody, thanks for

69:39

tuning in and hope to do another one of

69:41

these soon.

Interactive Summary

In this video, Tim Ferriss answers a variety of audience questions covering topics from personal transformation and career pivots to language learning, health protocols, and building male friendships. He emphasizes the value of simple, consistent habits, such as daily exercise and regular meditation, while advocating for a barbell strategy in his podcasting and life choices—focusing on both deep, long-form content and practical, smaller experiments. Throughout the Q&A, Ferriss highlights the importance of asking better questions, maintaining real-life social connections, and using 'fear setting' or 'mini-retirements' to navigate major life decisions.

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