hope you still like me after these

stories

hey guys it's kanika welcome back to my

channel today i'll be discussing why

sociopaths psychopaths and other

individuals with aspd hurt others make

sure you stick to the end for some

not so nice stories about my childhood

it's some of the more shocking and

savage stuff i've done so far i've

changed though i promise the first and

foremost reason sociopaths hurt people

is also quite ironic it happens to be

loneliness so the actions that push

people away are coming from a longing

for love affection and attention during

childhood a lot of cluster bees have had

to endure abuse abandonment or cold and

callous families that punish emotions

and encourage neglect a good way for me

to describe this loneliness is picturing

a person on the outside of a window pane

looking in we're in a world that doesn't

understand us and initially we don't

understand it we can see happiness and

belonging we can see jubilation and

emotions we're not accustomed to but we

want the same feeling everybody else has

when we don't feel it we fake it and it

becomes tiresome and exhausting if we

don't fake it people would begin to hate

us and the isolation would be further

fueled essentially it would ensure that

we remain lonely as nobody would want to

be around us bitterness and a lack of

empathy remorse and a developing boredom

and violence can have catastrophic

results low functioning sociopaths find

it incredibly difficult to recognize the

source of this loneliness and do not

place blame on themselves for their

antisocial and often illegal behavior

they lash out at every opportunity and

have no accountability a high

functioning sociopath or psychopath will

build on the accumulative experiences

and recognize how best to navigate them

we are able to control ourselves for the

most part but eventually we crack and

decide to make people feel what we feel

this would likely be a planned attack

which could cause mass destruction to

those around us but sometimes we

struggle to contain the impulses in

boredom comparatively we focus on the

end goal while low function sociopaths

do not stretch their vision past the

present moment for example ted bundy

calculated his plan to exact revenge on

his ex-girlfriend for causing him

immense loneliness and carried out a

plan over two whole years a lower

functioning sociopath would not have

this patience or skill they would likely

burst sooner and would not plot this

well the second reason why we hurt

people is that it helps us get ahead in

a corporate or competitive setting we do

not see people as people we see them as

targets or roadblocks in our path and

often the easiest solution is to just

take out the competition with as much

force and aggression as possible

spreading rumors or other negative

information that may or may not be true

gaslighting sycophancy at the expense of

others being two-faced and manipulative

and making outright shocking claims and

allegations that have no basis in

reality are just a small amount of

tactics that people with aspd use to get

our way without violence or other

physical force i did a fair bit of this

in my younger years particularly in my

career as a student politician i had to

backstab a lot of friends and i mean a

lot and i was surrounded by men with

aspd traits while it's not a great thing

to boast about at least i wasn't as bad

as the guy who betrayed his own mother

creating an atmosphere of fear with

implied threats and underhanded schemes

allows us to take control of power and

to use it in a way to intimidate

competitors from crossing us a perpetual

state of fear keeps people submissive

pliable and easy to remove when

necessary we must also remember that

high-functioning sociopaths often will

use charm charisma and benevolence to

get their way it's the ultimate strategy

to encourage subservience and devotion

low-functioning sociopaths are often

unable to enter the corporate

environment and would often be using

their traits to manipulate in the

streets with violence instead of being

in a boardroom the third reason

sociopaths hurt people is because we are

bored this doesn't necessarily mean we

are bored of you as a person though i

must admit it is true in many many cases

boredom makes us restless agitated

depressed those who lack self-awareness

potentially violence we get bored of

people and situations very easily

especially when we start to understand a

person and see how predictable and

uninteresting they really are we like

mystery and thrills not routines not

schedules not seeing the same person

repetitively and doing the same things

for me personally i tire of emotional

people and vulnerability within a couple

of weeks and i'm always looking for a

new experience my sporadic interest in

people's wanes as soon as i know their

reactions and motivations chaos is

exciting what we have to do to create it

is what hurts people it's not the pain

of others that we find exciting the

drama and unpredictability that goes

hand in hand with that some examples

include again starting rumors

emotionally manipulating people by

playing hot and cold toying with

people's emotions to see how they'll

react or burst creating hostile

environments where others are

self-conscious triangulating or playing

people off one another to watch leading

people on by offering fake promises of

love and affection and callous

destruction of their wants and needs

make sure to stay till the end to hear

my unsanitized stories the fourth reason

is our inherent need to have control and

the ability to callously discard others

there is no better way to keep a person

compliant and on their toes than showing

them how easily they can be replaced or

dropped this cycle begins during the

love bombing stage where we aren't

necessarily showing affection to

manipulate others we genuinely do get

excited when we meet new people and

romantic interests and we tend to over

share this because we cannot

self-regulate love and joy however this

love and affection wears off quite

quickly often when we found someone else

to explore and this is when our interest

becomes weaponized the best way to

explain this parable is imagining love

and attention as a shower initially for

us the tap is on full blast for the new

person and they feel all of our love and

gestures of kindness then it begins to

deteriorate to the point where they are

starting to beg the simple droplets of

our attention and are grateful for

smaller and smaller acts on our part we

enjoy this control and will use it as

often as we can as it creates a feeling

of omnipotence and power it's also a

feature of dark psychology that creates

obsessions and insecurities in those

around us i will explain this further in

another video the fifth reason

sociopaths hurt people is the lack of

usefulness and value that we can see in

the people in our lives low functioning

sociopaths make it very obvious that

they are leading parasitic lifestyles

and choose their partners and friends

for the benefits that they bring they

are shockingly transparent in the way

they do this and people are thrown off

by their manner and run as they probably

should high-functioning sociopaths are

more logical when it comes to evaluating

we weigh the pros and cons of someone

being in our lives and of course we see

relationships as transactional so when

we realize that we're putting an effort

for no clear reward we lose interest in

that person as terrible as this sounds

if someone brings nothing of value to us

we will drop them and we won't be too

friendly about it either it is

dehumanizing as there's no inherent

value in other humans it must be earned

and it must be shown high-functioning

sociopaths do tend to still live

parasitic lifestyles but have the

ability to be subtle about it

manipulation tends to come in handy as

we can show that we are doing more than

we actually are in order to extract more

attention affection resources benefits

from the other person this means that we

don't need force or physical violence

when low functioning people do the sixth

reason is that we are often overcome

with rage and anger we have a very very

low tolerance for frustration and small

things that would be a minor

inconvenience to neurotypicals could be

terribly overwhelming for us for example

if we want to go do something like go to

a specific movie or go to a certain

restaurant and the person with us won't

comply a rage begins to form and i

believe this is from the inherent

entitlement most sociopaths have we

become infuriated that someone doesn't

want to do something that we want to do

our control appears to be declining

alongside our value when someone is

misbehaving per se we have a number of

tactics we can deploy that have

surprising efficacy silent treatment and

passive aggressive behavior depriving

the person of the usual amount of

attention and love they receive

gaslighting creating jealousy by using

another person as a tool to be trotted

out and be lavished with the attention

your partner is craving lower

functioning sociopaths will often resort

to domestic violence tactics of

intimidation and they will strive to

create fear and uncertainty they will

also not allow the other person to speak

or get their point across and this

eventually leads to frustration

obedience and deference is soon to

follow the seventh reason is simply that

sociopaths do not care and get tired of

keeping up a facade to put it bluntly

people with aspd have a hard time seeing

other people as fully autonomous humans

that have needs and desires and

ambitions we tend to believe that the

world is well ours and our needs

supersede those of others people are

sometimes seen as inanimate objects

conquests assets liabilities or

roadblocks as i mentioned earlier this

encompasses all aspects of our lives and

relationships romantic platonic and

corporate we have so many masts that we

must wear a unique one for each

relationship as we are obviously social

chameleons we have to change our

personalities to meet our end goal from

each person the desires of others are

only relevant

to us when we want to extract something

from them it becomes easy to placate

them if we indulge their needs and offer

our benevolence and when we have no more

use for them we absolutely do not care

about them as people and it isn't from a

place of callousness but to us it's

similar to being done playing with a

certain toy we found something new and

shiny and it's time for us to leave the

mass begins to become too bolsome and

heavy to carry along with us and we just

want space and the ability to be

ourselves in our natural state in our

downtime being forced to leave our real

selves where they exist is painful and

can cause long-term depression or other

mood disorders and the baggage of other

people isn't viable any longer

high-functioning sociopaths will remove

people from their life swiftly and

mostly without pain the person may be

manipulated into thinking it is their

idea to extricate themselves therefore

fewer feelings are hurt while discarding

can be fulfilling we have enough

foresight to see the possible

complications of it low functioning

people do not so now on to the stories

from my past hope you still like me

after these stories

okay so i have this story from my

childhood it was when i was i think i

was 11 or so and my parents took me to

india with my brother to visit my

grandparents and my other relatives and

when i got there we have a tenant on one

of our floors right basically that woman

she took me out to the shops and she

bought me barbie dolls and like little

outfits that i wanted and i was really

really happy and i was just like

absolutely thrilled because my parents

like refused to spoil us to that point i

don't really understand my reasoning

behind why i did what i did but when i

got home and i had all my toys my

outfits and stuff that she had bought i

wrote this letter to her and it wasn't a

good letter

i said it was from the gardener which of

course was difficult at the time because

the gardeners and manual laborers in

india don't tend to speak english and

certainly don't write it i told her to

go and

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herself i threatened physical violence

and i messed up some things on her

stairs with oil which would eventually

cause a very significant fall and

eventually led to further incidents that

involved quite a lot of stairs she came

down she didn't slip on the oil and told

my mum what i had done and my mother was

so furious i had no explanation because

i just thought it was fun i just liked

causing a bit of trauma and drama and

like tension in these personal

relationships and i guess she was very

confused as to why i would threaten her

with violence for her doing a nice thing

and i don't understand it either so i

have a funnier story it wasn't too long

ago i was like 23 or 24. so i got a job

in the whit sundaes because i thought

i need to get out of sydney i'm

sick of this place i want to go to warm

weather and so i got myself this cool

ass job so i land there and the next

morning i have to go to work that

morning i get ready get my best outfit

get my makeup on and i go to work when i

get there it's in this dingy little

office with like no natural sunlight

it's just really really dull and

uninspiring so i decide that this is not

really the job i want to do anymore when

i was going to my lunch break i ended up

having these really strong stomach pains

and while they were real they were not

to the level that i was telling them

that they were at and so i told them i

was going home and by home i assumed

they thought that i meant my home but i

was staying but instead i just drove

straight to the airport took a flight

moved back to sydney and didn't tell

anybody anyway so a month later they

sent me a notice and said i've been

terminated from the job which i assumed

was the case anyway because i didn't

turn up for the next

month it was pretty funny at the time

and uh looking back i'm just like that

doesn't really make sense and i don't

know why i did that so this moves me on

to a boy who i will not name because i

think he watches this channel i broke up

with him over text because i didn't

really care about him at all and i just

didn't want to spend any time having to

see him because i'd found someone more

interesting he was absolutely devastated

i don't know why because we'd only been

on a couple of dates and i didn't like

him at all like i've known him since i

was in high school like year seven it

was never a real thing i only went out

with him because i was really bored

anyway so he is devastated and he comes

to my house and refuses to leave so he

was parked right outside my bedroom he

proceeded to sit there four hours

waiting for me to come out and break up

with him in person i also at this point

forgot that it was his birthday so on

his birthday he was sitting right

outside my house waiting for me to come

and make him feel better and not break

up with him which of course i did not do

it would have been better if i didn't do

this on his birthday but

what happened happened

okay to wrap up i need to explain that

these are the raw sentiments of

sociopathy and psychopathy and all of

what i've spoken about has the ability

to turn into abuse and heavy

manipulation when used for the wrong

reasons if it was being done to better

other people it could be more

understandable the behavior is toxic and

damaging to relationships which makes it

ultimately more destructive than a lot

of neurotypical relationships it is so

important to seek therapy and

self-awareness and to deny natural urges

to hurt and control people negatively if

an open dialogue is created we can

bounce ideas off one another and find

ways to channel our energy into

successful helpful endeavors selfish

gain can only be useful for so long and

the next you step on tend to come back

to haunt you i'm hoping you guys enjoy

the video and i'm excited to create new

content for you guys

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