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WHY SEX ISN'T ENJOYABLE FOR YOU

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You rub it inside the walls of the

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vagina, like that.

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>> And just rub it in like you would rub

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sunscreen on your face. And if you do

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that twice a week, it makes sex not

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painful and dry. It helps with arousal

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and orgasm. It's literally better than

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Viagra. And it's cheap. And I'm telling

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you all this as a urologist that this

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cream can also help prevent death from

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urinary tract infections. But more than

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75% of people in large database

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collections are not getting

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prescriptions for this. And so women are

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not getting access to generic

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medications that could save their lives

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and also really improve quality of life.

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And so I am filled with rage because

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people are limiting their ability to

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have great sex, great health because

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they aren't having access to all the

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information that they could. For

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example, women are not orgasming as much

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as men. The data is very clear there.

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And women come to see me all the time as

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I'm a sex doctor. And they say, "I'm

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broken and you have to fix me. I'm not

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orgasming during sex." And I think the

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majority of problem is education. Women

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think that orgasm comes from

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penetration. But the clitoris is how

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most women orgasm. And yet most women do

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not know where their clitoris is. And in

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fact, the word clitoris today in 2026

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does not exist in the checklist for what

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an OBGYN has to learn in their training.

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>> And as men, what are we getting wrong in

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heterosexual relationships when we're

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trying to arouse our partners?

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>> Well, men are constantly asking about

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they want their penises bigger, harder,

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straighter, girthier, lasting longer.

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But none of that has anything to do with

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how women experience pleasure and

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satisfaction in the bedroom. So that's

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[music] why I'm so loud about these

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things because no one is getting good

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sex ed. Because the basic information is

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not being shared. And we fundamentally

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don't give a crap about women's sexual

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health, about their menstrual cycles,

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pregnancy, menopause, hormones, pain

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with sex, libido. But we actually do

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have a lot of information that we are

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not using because everyone forgot to

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teach your doctor.

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>> So let's go through these one at a time.

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But just before we get into all of that,

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we've got some sex toys in front of us.

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>> This is going to be so [ __ ] good.

Interactive Summary

In this video, a urologist discusses the widespread lack of proper sexual health education for women, emphasizing the efficacy of affordable topical treatments for common issues like dryness and pain, while highlighting the systemic failure in medical training to address female anatomy and pleasure.

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