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What are you putting off out of fear?

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I'm putting off quitting my job. I'm

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putting off reaching out to all the

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people I need to to make this dream a

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reality because it means I have to say

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it out loud. I'm waiting for a false

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sense of security to inspire me to take

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a leap. But I'm actually being

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challenged and invited to create my own

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security. I've never designed my own

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rubric of success. And that's because I

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don't trust myself to define success.

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I'm scared to assume that

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responsibility.

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That was my fear setting.

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It's very personal process.

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>> Michelle, at long last, here we are.

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>> Here we are.

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>> So nice to meet you in person.

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>> It's so nice to meet you, too. This is

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so exciting and surreal for me. So,

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thank you for letting me infiltrate your

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podcast studio today.

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>> Absolutely. I am thrilled. It looks like

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about three years ago that I first put

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you and your channel in my newsletter,

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Five Bullet Friday. And I think it was

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probably even before that that one of

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our mutual friends, Adam Grant, had been

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telling me repeatedly,

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you have to have Michelle on the show.

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And the reason that I was so excited to

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put you in the newsletter, I don't even

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remember the line. I went back and I

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looked at what I said exactly. And one

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of the things I said was, "I'm so happy

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that someone finally cracked sort of

1:35

this premise and did it right." But

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since people probably have no idea what

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I'm talking about, although I would have

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already said something in the intro,

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what's the log line so to speak for

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Challenge Accepted?

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>> Of Challenge Accepted. What is it?

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>> So, Challenge Accepted is a show where I

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attempt the world's toughest stunts and

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professions. And that can range from

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learning and attempting Harry Houdini's

2:00

deadliest trick, the water torture cell,

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to training with the Secret Service for

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a week to most recently I recreated Tom

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Cruz's stunt from Mission Impossible

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where I was hanging off the side of a

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military aircraft as it was taking off.

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and you have more than 6 million

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followers, more than a billion views,

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and I'm going to read, you know what,

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we'll probably just skip the intro

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because I'm basically getting into it

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anyway. Michelle hopes to prove that

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with enough dedication and failure,

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anything is possible. And that's one of

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the characteristics that I most

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appreciate about the show is like if you

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have a breakdown, if you're flat on your

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back, if you stumble and fall, it's in

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there, right? That's a feature and not a

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bug.

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>> Exactly.

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>> So, it's not just the highlights, it's

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also the low lightss. And since we're

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already getting into it, I'm just going

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to read this paragraph. All right.

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Michelle's work has earned multiple

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streaming awards, including show of the

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year, has been featured in the New York

3:03

Times, Forbes, Vogue India, and more. In

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2025, challenge accepted, made history.

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Congratulations. Successfully

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petitioning to join the prime time Emmy

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ballot. Michelle was named a Time 100

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honore for her impact as a creator and

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storyteller. Let's rewind way back. We

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were chatting a little bit before we got

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started about Shriefport, Louisiana.

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>> Oh yes,

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>> shout out Shrieport.

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>> And I mentioned I had been there and you

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were like, I'm so sorry.

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>> There's not much there.

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>> Why was I there? Why had I been there?

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And why does that tie into your

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background a little bit, your history

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growing up? Oh, I was just say if you

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want to hop into it because I'll I'll

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suppose answer my own question which is

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the reason I was intrigued is because

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they have very compelling tax incentives

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and other incentives for filming.

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>> Right. So what was your first exposure

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to sort of the business broadly speaking

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in air quotes? My very first exposure to

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the business was my dad is a big big

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movie and television lover. He actually

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learned English after immigrating from

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India by watching films even on the

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plane from India to America.

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>> So growing up because there's not much

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to do in Shreport. Every Friday night we

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were at the movies. It didn't matter if

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it was a blockbuster or a, you know,

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very lowrated Rotten Tomatoes B-side

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movie. I saw everything. Kids movies,

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PG-13 up, like we saw it all. And then

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we would go to a pizza shop and talk

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about the movie afterwards. Again,

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there's nothing to do in street. So,

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this was like the pinnacle of

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entertainment. And so just naturally I I

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started experiencing

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a homegrown little film school, if that

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makes sense. We printed out the AFI top

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100 movies and had them in our living

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room and we would check them off as we

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watched them, me and my dad. And what

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was special is as I got a little older,

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all these tax incentives started

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happening, bringing films to New Orleans

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and to Shreveport.

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We got a lot of like Twilight knockoff

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movies. I think one of the scary movies

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was shot in Shreport. And so our town

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sort of experienced this little economic

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art renaissance which was really

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exciting. And so all of our friends and

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and family members were becoming extras

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in movies and TV shows and and feeling,

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you know, very excited about all of

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that. And so one of my first jobs was

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I had an internship on a movie starring

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The Rock. It was a movie called Snitch.

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It came out in 2013. And I I think I was

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like so low on the call sheet. I was

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like it was after all the PAs. It was PA

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intern. It was the last person on the

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call sheet was me. And I was just

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getting coffee for people and learning.

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And it it was an incredible experience.

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And I love that because I got a window

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into the traditional scope of what it

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could take to tell a story at a higher

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Hollywood level.

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>> And that's what I hope to bring a lot of

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to what we do even on Challenge Accepted

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today is this midpoint of digital

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freedom ownership but structure and

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understanding and respect of the history

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of where our visual storytelling medium

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has come from. Mhm. Part of the reason I

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said I'm so glad somebody finally sort

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of cracked this is

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you'll know this, some people may not.

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There are basically two reasons why I'm

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doing this podcast or the catalyst that

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led to this podcast and they both relate

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to ownership in a sense. The first was

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the 4-hour chef, which was basically

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just a suicide mission of a deadline.

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Book that should have taken three years

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was done in a year and that's just

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physically effectively impossible. So

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ran myself into the ground with that

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>> because you are self- testing all of

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these techniques.

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>> I'm self test. Yeah, exactly. I mean, I

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was doing everything in the book full of

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experiments and somehow thought it would

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be a good idea to try to learn

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photography to do

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hundreds of photographs in the book

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myself, which turns out to be a craft in

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and of itself that takes a lot of time

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if you want to be even halfway decent.

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>> And what ended up happening in that case

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was

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distribution got hamstrung. I expected

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some of it because it was a book. It was

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the largest title that had been acquired

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by the then very naent Amazon

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publishing. And because people in some

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ways rightly fear Amazon as this

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omnipowerful, you know, omnipotent

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entity that controls all of these

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different aspects of in most cases

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distribution. But now Amazon Publishing

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was going to be competing with the big

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publishing houses for author talent. And

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this scared the hell out of everybody.

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So, I expected that there would be, say,

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boycott by Barnes & Noble. I did not

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anticipate it would include all the big

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box retailers and much more. So, the

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book basically I I don't want to say it

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died on the vine because it did as well

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as it could have. But at the same time,

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roughly, this is the part I haven't

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talked as much about. I had been filming

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and then debuted in 2013 the Tim Ferrris

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experiment. And the Tim Ferris

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experiment had me doing these

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experiments as you might expect on a

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weekly basis. And that was through a

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startup within Turner Broadcasting

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called Upwave. But there were all these

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problems internally at Upwave.

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Ultimately that that got shut down.

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there was a regime change and then what

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h what happens? The catalog of episodes.

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If it succeeds, the new leadership is

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not going to get any credit and if it

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goes poorly, they're going to get all

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the blame. So, it just got locked up.

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And it took me like 2 years or 3 years

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to get back the rights and then quote

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unquote self-publish on Apple. And it it

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did very well at the time. But what you

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just said is so important. And I want to

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underscore it for people because I've

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heard you discuss. I want to give a

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shout out to Colin Samir, two of the

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best interviewers out there in my

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opinion, especially when it comes to

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creator economy and the nuts and bolts

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of making things in this modern era. I

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really want to give them due credit.

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When you've had conversations, and I'm

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going to talk for a second, I apologize,

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but when you've had conversations with

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some of these larger, let's call it

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traditional outlets or platforms, right?

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and you start to talk about your

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production schedule, they're like,

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"Well, wait a second. It takes you 6

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months or a year or fill in the blank in

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their mind excessively long period of

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time. Could we compress it into a week?"

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>> Mhm.

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>> And you have figured out very artfully

10:02

how to have largely complete editorial

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control. There are some constraints,

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right, depending on how you want to go

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about it with partners and sponsors and

10:11

things like that, but largely you

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control your schedule, your direction.

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actually you do completely right you're

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choosing positive constraints depending

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on your objectives

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but what ended up happening with Tim

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Ferris experiments like okay we have a

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week for each one

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>> and so I would be in compression pants

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and like putting on DMSO and all this

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crap because I had a ton of injuries

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from one episode but we were already

10:35

going into post and then we'd have a day

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of travel and then I'm starting the next

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episode and it was impossible right it

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was just physically I'm still contending

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with injuries from that. We might talk

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about that with respect to some of the

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stuff that you're doing. I want to hear

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about it. But there were two issues,

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right? There was the kind of production

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side control

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>> problem and then ultimately didn't

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control distribution. And

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for

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those reasons, those two straws that

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broke the camel's back, I was like,

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"Fuck this." And I'd used podcasts to

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launch the 4-hour chef. And I thought to

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myself, you know what? I like RSS feeds.

11:15

I like this idea of being able to do

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whatever I want, be myself. If I want to

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curse, I can curse. Not that that's

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ultimately, I suppose, can be an art

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form in and of itself, depending on

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where you grow up. And that's how we

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ended up here today, right? So,

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>> just so I understand, you were human

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guinea pigging, 4-hour chef. Yeah.

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>> And shooting Tim Ferris experiment at

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the same time.

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>> They were basically backtoback and there

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was probably some overlap. So, I was

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doing pre-production while I was

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finishing the 4-hour chef cuz I'm a

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glutton for punishment. For people who

11:47

haven't seen that, it's my first

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fourcolor book. It's something like 600,

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700 pages, cut down from like a thousand

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probably. And

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the biggest

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difference, I'd say the absolute biggest

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difference between the 4-hour chef and

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the books that came before it, the

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4-hour work week and the 4-hour body, is

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that in the case of the 4-hour body, I

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did all of the experiments, then

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digested it all, combed through

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everything, and compiled the book. In

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the case of the 4-hour chef, I was still

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because of the deadline doing a lot of

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the experiments as I was already

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beginning to write the earlier sections

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of the book, which is a very risky

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gambit.

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>> Uhhuh.

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>> And then on top of that, because I did

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not know, and I thought this was

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actually a good idea, although there

12:33

were a lot of pitfalls, because the

12:36

4-hour chef was a huge gamble,

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particularly from a distribution

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perspective. I expected I was going to

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get kneecapped in certain ways and I was

12:44

like, well, if this doesn't work out the

12:47

way I wanted to, I still have the

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benefit of the doubt in the eyes of most

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people and I can use the success of the

12:54

prior book and the blog at that time,

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remember blogs, people to parlay that

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into the television. So, I was like,

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"Let me get the deal before The 4Hour

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Chef fully comes out so that I have the

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leverage that might become a question

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mark once it's published."

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>> Oh my gosh. Okay. So, I for those of you

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I feel like there are so few people in

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the world who can truly empathize with

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what you put yourself through. I'm

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thinking of Morgan Spurlock.

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>> Yeah.

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>> The true pioneer of whatever it is we're

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doing. And rest in peace, my gosh. David

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Blaine

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>> is another that comes to mind.

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>> And I think what people don't realize

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when they watch your content or even

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mine is that it's not filmed in a

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vacuum. Life is happening. As you

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mentioned, you're not just going to

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Japan to learn Yabusame for 5 days.

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You're struggling with a jet lag. And

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then you're also probably answering

13:53

questions and emails about what next

13:55

week's episode is going to entail. And

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that is a level of professional athlete

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that is so unappreciated. So I much

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empathize with that.

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>> I Yeah, I really appreciate that. And

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>> but we were talking about decisions.

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>> Decisions. Yeah. So decisions and then

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we're going to go back chronologically.

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Okay.

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>> Thank you for saying all that. And I was

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also building initially the the the

14:21

writing side of things based on in some

14:23

ways models from let's call it

14:26

experiential journalism who came before

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me.

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>> And there were quite a few. Usually it

14:30

was done with some type of satirical or

14:33

humor twist right like AJ Jacobs would

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be a great example for people who don't

14:37

know. The year of living biblically I

14:39

think is an amazing amazing book.

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>> I met him a couple months ago and I said

14:44

you need to do that again and make it a

14:45

YouTube video. It would bang. He is such

14:47

a sweet guy. Morgan Spurlock for people

14:49

who might not have recognized the name

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immediately superersized me.

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>> Really a sort of a genre breaking

14:55

category redefining experiment and many

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more who came earlier from a writing

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perspective but questions. So what I

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would love to know and this is going to

15:08

get in the weeds a bit guys but we're

15:10

going to zoom out and get the Genesis

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story as well. But part of what I'm so

15:15

curious about is you have in some ways

15:18

the dizziness of freedom, right? You

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have a paradox of choice challenge where

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having complete lack of constraints

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can be almost as bad if you don't have a

15:31

framework for figuring it out as having

15:33

too many constraints. So when you have

15:36

things running concurrently, right, you

15:38

might, as I understand it, be working on

15:40

like two or three challenges at the same

15:42

time, right? You're doing

15:43

post-production for one, maybe you're

15:44

doing planning for another, and you're

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in the middle of a third.

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>> First of all, how far in advance do you

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plan your editorial calendar?

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>> The editorial calendar for Challenge

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Accepted can be anywhere from 12 to 15

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months out from idea to upload. Yeah.

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>> And an example of concurrent things

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happening would be

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>> there was one day where I had to do

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astronaut training for our NASA episode.

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So naturally, I began my day by going up

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in a fighter jet in the middle of

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nowhere in California, flying around,

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having no idea what I was getting myself

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into.

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>> Hope you took your Zopran. Yeah,

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>> I threw up.

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>> Yeah.

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>> While there closed,

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>> I exited the plane. We finished filming

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that. I got in my car, drove 3 hours

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back to Los Angeles, and had a ballet

16:37

lesson.

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I think that like is just a a good

16:41

window into what one day of of life is

16:44

like and often training for multiple

16:47

things at once. But when you have a

16:49

situation and and a privilege honestly

16:52

of the gift of choice and getting to

16:55

choose how you use your time, I like to

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maximize my output for each year as far

17:04

as it really comes down to

17:09

something that I learned early, which is

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the more

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milestone memories you experience, the

17:16

longer life feels. for sure.

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>> And I've realized that that goes hand in

17:21

hand with my business. The more

17:24

milestone memories I create and can

17:26

capture and turn into stories, it

17:28

actually is a better episode, it it

17:32

leads to more revenue, more

17:33

opportunities. And so I've sort of

17:35

merged those together. But it comes from

17:39

I am an athlete. I am a person who

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operates in an environment where if you

17:45

give me a coach, you give me a training

17:46

plan, I'll follow it. I'll do exactly

17:48

what you tell me to and I really thrive

17:50

in that environment. And being a

17:52

business owner is such an oppositional

17:54

to that because now you are both the

17:58

coach and the athlete at the same time.

18:00

And so what I have had to do is, and I'm

18:02

stealing this term from one of my other

18:04

friends, is put a Formula 1 team around

18:06

myself.

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>> A Formula 1 team, you know, we love Max

18:10

Vers Stappen. He's an incredible driver

18:13

and he's not able to do what he does

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without the support of all of the

18:16

mechanics and engineers. So what I have

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done at every step in my life is try to

18:22

find who are the best people to put

18:24

around myself to continually challenge

18:26

me whether it's business,

18:30

personal relationships, content, story

18:34

and assembling that team is really

18:37

important to me. Those are the people

18:40

who help me decide how do I spend each

18:42

minute of a calendar day.

18:43

>> We're going to double click on a few

18:44

things here and we're going to go all

18:46

over the place, folks. So,

18:48

>> buckle up.

18:49

>> Buckle up. Right.

18:52

It's not quite going to be the vomit

18:54

comet for astronaut training. Hopefully,

18:57

it'll be a little It'll be more like a

18:59

tour through the countryside with lots

19:00

of interesting sites and vistas, but a

19:03

few things come to mind that I want to

19:05

mention and then ask about. The first is

19:06

that

19:08

and Colin and Samir made this point like

19:10

you sort of exemplify

19:13

something that I hope continues to gain

19:16

traction which is a focus on

19:19

quality over quantity

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>> right because there was a point where

19:23

it's like hey you have to post 50 times

19:24

a day you have to do this you have to do

19:26

that you have to like vlog 20 minutes

19:28

every 12 hours no matter what you do

19:31

>> and you're you're borrowing a lot of the

19:34

best storytelling techniques and

19:36

production quality of quote unquote

19:38

traditional, right?

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>> But also applying it to this sort of

19:42

digital native environment,

19:45

>> which has a lot of its own upsides and

19:47

also

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potentially long-term damaging

19:50

temptations, which you have to be aware

19:52

of, and I think you very much are. when

19:55

you're publishing fewer videos however

19:58

right in a sense you not in all senses

20:02

but in some senses you're kind of like

20:03

fighting the drive of the algorithm and

20:07

there are economic incentives

20:10

that drive the frequency with which a

20:12

lot of people publish right

20:14

>> so when you're doing less and again had

20:17

tip to Colin Samir it's like you are I

20:20

want you to modify this because it's

20:21

been a minute since you spoke with them

20:23

but you can keep the lights on, right,

20:26

to some extent with like AdSense and the

20:29

sort of ad revenue from that. Then

20:32

you've got brand partners, right? And

20:34

that's part of the reason why it seems

20:36

like it's helpful to have an editorial

20:38

calendar out for a period of time,

20:41

right? Because you can

20:44

>> have some type of I don't want to call

20:46

it sales process, but you have sort of

20:49

forwardlooking thematic opportunities

20:52

>> to look for those types of deals.

20:55

And then you've got your app, right,

20:58

among other things.

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>> And I' I'd like to hear you talk about

21:01

that. But when you're going to break a

21:04

mold and you're trying to do something

21:06

that people say can't be done, right?

21:09

Like traditional TV on the internet,

21:10

right? Or whatever it might be, you may

21:13

have to find a new approach to financing

21:16

what you want to do, right? And so I'd

21:18

love to hear you speak for just a moment

21:20

about kind of what you have had to build

21:24

and how you've had to think differently

21:25

in order to do what you want to do. And

21:29

then I do want to return to and you can

21:30

mention this in your answer if you want,

21:33

but when you have certain episodes that

21:35

take a day to film, right? Some that

21:37

take a week, some that take six months,

21:39

some that take a year to set up, how the

21:42

hell do you create like a Gant chart or

21:44

whatever to actually do that? And my

21:47

understanding is like production is one

21:48

of your superpowers, right? So

21:51

>> that is a very gigantic half-page

21:54

question. But

21:55

>> okay.

21:55

>> Yeah. If you could speak to basically

21:57

how you make it work,

21:59

>> how we make it work,

22:00

>> right? Because a lot of creators I think

22:03

are succumbing to the culture of

22:05

cortisol drive.

22:07

>> Mhm.

22:08

>> Where they feel like they have to keep

22:09

up, keep up, keep up often in terms of

22:12

just frequency, right? And I think

22:14

that's a really dangerous game to play

22:16

for a lot of reasons. Somebody else is

22:18

always going to be able to sacrifice or

22:20

be willing to sacrifice their entire

22:22

lives to publish more frequently. So if

22:24

that can't be your sole metric, right?

22:26

So how do you do what you do? And how do

22:28

you have to think differently, operate

22:29

differently?

22:30

>> How do we operate differently? Our

22:33

business is super antithetical to what

22:36

most creators are doing. And I started

22:38

in that place that you're referring to,

22:39

uploading multiple long form videos a

22:42

week. I mean I was uploading before Tik

22:45

Tok existed. So it was all long form.

22:47

Then of course short form came along.

22:50

But what happened at the beginning of my

22:53

career was I was trying to grow my

22:58

channel to create financial and personal

23:01

stability. I

23:03

had taken a big risk by leaving my job.

23:06

And as a part of that, the first entry

23:10

point was stability in some sense. So I

23:14

was making videos about anything I

23:16

thought would perform well and still

23:18

with my own lens, of course,

23:20

>> but I would have this strategy of I'm

23:23

going to do three videos a month for the

23:25

studio, if you will, which is a term

23:27

from traditional TV and film, where a

23:30

big director will do a big blockbuster

23:31

movie and then the studio will allow

23:33

them to do their passion project. So, I

23:35

would do that for myself or once a month

23:37

I would do a passion project. And at the

23:40

beginning of my channel, it was I would

23:43

DM stunt performers like Tom Holland's

23:46

stunt double and ask them, would you

23:49

train with me for a week and and can we

23:51

make a video together? And it was cool

23:53

because we were targeting communities

23:55

that were undervalued and unseen often.

23:59

I mean, many stunt performers aren't

24:02

allowed to share their work. And so

24:03

giving them an opportunity to highlight

24:05

their work was helpful to them and

24:08

exciting for them and exciting for me

24:10

selfishly because I want to learn how to

24:11

do all these incredible stunts and make

24:13

an amazing story about it. And I saw a

24:16

market opportunity because when you see

24:19

BTS stuff from movies, it's it's very

24:22

>> behind the scenes.

24:23

>> Yeah, behind the scenes. My apologies.

24:24

When you see behind the scenes content

24:26

from big Marvel movies, it's very

24:28

manicured and very short. And I really

24:31

wanted to give space and breathability

24:33

to this experimental process. And what

24:36

ended up happening is those passion

24:39

projects started outperforming

24:42

the things I expected to just perform

24:44

well. And it got to this point where I

24:48

was limited resource-wise, just like my

24:50

own time even, of of being able to do

24:53

more of that passion thing. And I just

24:56

decided, we decided as a team, we're

24:58

only going to focus on challenge

25:00

accepted. Let's just try that for

25:03

>> was it when did it get named Challenge

25:06

Accepted?

25:07

>> It got named Challenge Accepted after

25:10

Challenge Accepted existed. So when you

25:12

go back and look at season one of

25:14

Challenge Accepted, which is a while ago

25:16

now, I think we went back and named it

25:18

that because we're like, "Oh yeah, this

25:20

was the beginning of this show." Which

25:21

is so funny. But we were we were doing

25:23

many things on the channel and we

25:24

decided to strip away everything and

25:26

only go in on that and that is where a

25:29

true inflection point came on the

25:31

channel. I would honestly say Tim, you

25:33

were asking earlier about key decisions.

25:37

I think a lot of the inflection points

25:40

of my life have happened when my back

25:41

has been against the wall.

25:43

>> Not in a a place of I get to make a

25:45

decision, but more like I have to make a

25:48

decision because everything's going to

25:49

break if I don't. And this was a risky

25:51

decision to make to go all in on a show

25:56

where I am physically committing myself

25:58

for up to months at a time. At this

26:01

point in 2026, 2025, we release 8 to 10

26:05

episodes per year.

26:06

>> Mhm.

26:07

>> That's my upload cadence. And so every

26:09

opportunity is a is a big bet. But what

26:14

I have found is that when I did that,

26:17

something even more special happened. It

26:20

created something unique. And I have

26:23

found that defining something unique can

26:27

be even more valuable than consistency

26:30

or mass viewership. We're very blessed

26:32

that challenge accepted does get a lot

26:34

of views and we feel strong about the

26:36

bets that we make on these episodes. But

26:40

I have found that creating something

26:42

special attracts even more people to

26:44

want to support it. And so now what we

26:47

ironically have on the channel is a

26:48

scarcity mindset for advertisers that if

26:52

you want to be in an episode of

26:53

Challenge Accepted, there are 10. The

26:56

train's going. Are you getting on or are

26:57

you getting off? Because we only have so

26:59

much inventory to sell. We're able to

27:01

sell it at a premium. And it makes what

27:04

we're doing so one of

27:08

my like big thesis is whatever we do has

27:12

to be one of one. A few things come to

27:14

mind as as you're talking you know one

27:16

is

27:18

the importance of owning or creating

27:21

even better yet a category right

27:24

>> so this category of one idea

27:28

blue ocean strategy I think at least at

27:30

the time I read it which was a long time

27:31

ago 10 years ago pretty good exploration

27:33

of this but separately

27:36

as I look at the landscape now

27:40

I've had a lot of people ask me about

27:42

podcasting if you were to are now what

27:43

would you do? And

27:46

I could throw out sort of examples of

27:48

what I might do, but just from a broader

27:51

kind of meta level, I say I think it

27:53

would be very difficult for me to do

27:57

now or start now what I started in 2014,

28:00

which was kind of a broad exploration of

28:04

deconstructing world-class performers in

28:06

an interview format. Now there are 600

28:08

of those. And

28:12

if you want something that is

28:14

sustainable and this is not exactly the

28:17

right way to frame it, but premium from

28:20

a partnership perspective,

28:22

>> right? From a CPM perspective, from a

28:24

whatever perspective, the best examples

28:27

that I would try to model are shows like

28:30

yours. Although I'm not really um kind

28:32

of shy with video, so I probably

28:34

wouldn't do video first, but it would be

28:35

a show like yours. I mean, if I were 20

28:37

right now, I'd be like, "That's what I

28:38

want to do." If I could have a job, it

28:40

would be Michelle's job. I mean,

28:42

honestly, it would be. But if you want

28:44

to look at some other examples where I

28:45

probably wouldn't pursue it, but they're

28:47

doing excellent jobs. Acquired, for

28:49

instance, founders, you know, David

28:52

Senra, highly focused,

28:55

long form, very hard to replicate

28:57

because there's so much goddamn work,

29:00

right? Yes.

29:01

>> Which is true with yours also. It's

29:02

like, oh, you want to spend six months

29:03

making a video? Like, let's let's see.

29:05

It's a lot easier to publish frequently

29:09

without thinking as hard about the lead

29:12

time of doing something that's very

29:13

complex.

29:14

>> And that was part of the strategy with

29:15

challenge accepted too is you see many

29:18

people copying one another online in any

29:22

form of art. People are copying

29:24

constantly and part of our defensive

29:26

strategy was how do we do something that

29:28

is so crazy? No one would be no one

29:33

would be crazy enough I don't think to

29:35

run seven marathons on all seven

29:37

continents in in one single week and

29:40

make a documentary about it and go

29:41

through all of the production headache

29:43

of that or call the FAA 300 times to get

29:46

permission to hang off the side of a

29:47

military plane to recreate the Mission

29:49

Impossible stunt. It's almost like the

29:51

things that feel so untouchable

29:53

instantly become opportunities for story

29:57

because it's a great story to try and

29:59

overcome that.

30:00

>> And also the second mover scenario will

30:05

at least take them so long to catch up

30:08

to us to get there,

30:09

>> right? Because you're going to be the

30:10

comp. They're going to say it's like

30:11

challenge accepted but dot dot dot. And

30:14

that is going to be very difficult for

30:16

other people to overcome, right? And I

30:19

want to explore this a little bit more

30:20

because it's I think so critical and you

30:25

see it in a lot of different places.

30:27

Sometimes the hard thing

30:30

is the easier thing long term. Meaning

30:34

like if if you solve a very hard problem

30:37

upfront,

30:39

it makes your life a little easier or a

30:42

lot easier long term.

30:44

>> And this applies everywhere, right?

30:46

There's a amazing amazing guy. You

30:49

should meet him at some point.

30:50

>> Okay.

30:51

>> Jersey Gregorick and his wife Annella

30:54

Gregorick. They're Polish immigrants.

30:56

They immigrated to the US with like 10

30:59

or 100 bucks in their pocket. They were

31:01

political refugees. Landed in California

31:04

and still to this day, they both have

31:08

multiple world records in Olympic

31:10

weightlifting. And I would say they're

31:14

both around mid60s.

31:17

And Jersey can get on an indo board like

31:21

a balance board with a fully loaded

31:23

barbell and do a perfect Olympic snatch

31:26

like as to heels and then drop the

31:28

weight and repeat while balancing on a

31:29

board. He's got to be at least 65 now.

31:33

his wife Angela, who also, as I

31:35

mentioned, has a bunch of world records,

31:38

can, you know, her her daughter's, I

31:40

guess, ball got caught in a tree a few

31:42

years ago, and she just like ran up the

31:44

tree and got it and came down. I mean,

31:46

they are incredible physical specimens.

31:49

They take no prescription medications.

31:52

And the reason I'm bringing them up is

31:55

that Jersey has this expression, which

31:57

is hard choices, easy life, easy choice

32:00

is hard life. And so so it applies in

32:03

physical training and health. It applies

32:06

in

32:08

>> creation broadly speaking, right? It's

32:11

like with what you're doing, right?

32:12

You're creating a moat that is is is

32:15

very defensible in a lot of ways.

32:17

>> Yeah.

32:18

>> It applies to startups, right? Where

32:20

it's like, okay, sure. Yeah, you can

32:22

vibe code and create something in 20

32:23

minutes and that's interesting and you

32:25

should experiment with that. and the

32:27

barrier to entry has has been lowered

32:29

dramatically on the production of say an

32:32

app but the barrier to attention has

32:34

never been higher. Therefore, like there

32:36

is actually something to be said for the

32:39

hard startup being the easier startup

32:42

where if you're solving a hard problem

32:44

that requires a really good team and

32:46

like hardware and this that and the

32:47

other thing, most people are never going

32:48

to attempt it. Therefore, you actually

32:51

have a margin of safety in some respect

32:52

if you can execute. Right? So, I I just

32:55

wanted to mention that because I I see

32:57

this all over the place where

33:01

if you spend the time to work on

33:03

something hard up front, it buys you a

33:07

lot of safety.

33:08

>> Yes.

33:08

>> Is at least one way that I think about

33:10

it. And you've talked about assembling

33:12

this Formula 1 team.

33:14

>> But let's rewind because I'm sure some

33:17

people are like, "Well, if I don't have

33:19

any money and I'm just getting started,

33:20

how do you afford to hire the Formula 1

33:23

team? That sounds expensive. So, let's

33:24

go back a little bit before you became

33:29

active on YouTube. What were you doing?

33:32

>> What was I doing?

33:33

>> Yeah.

33:34

>> Gosh. So, I grew up in Shreport. Got my

33:37

first taste of the film industry there.

33:39

I went to college at Dartmouth.

33:42

>> Good school.

33:43

>> Yeah, it was great. And while I was in

33:47

college, I did some internships in the

33:48

industry, but I also did an internship

33:51

at Google. And so there I sort of saw

33:53

the behind the scenes of the platform I

33:56

guess I upload to now which was really

33:58

interesting

34:00

and as I was mentioning to you Tim a lot

34:02

of things that have driven key moments

34:05

in my life have been moments when my

34:07

back has been against the wall and one

34:09

of those moments for me was when you do

34:12

a Google internship I don't think I've

34:13

like talked about this much but when you

34:16

do a Google internship at the end of the

34:17

summer like many big internship you find

34:20

out if you get the job.

34:22

>> Mhm.

34:22

>> And you can go into your senior year of

34:24

college like, "Oh my gosh, I'm rocking.

34:27

I I got the job. I'm set. I can chill

34:29

out the last year." And there was one

34:32

day where they called everybody from my

34:36

internship class letting them know if

34:37

they got the job. And we're all in a big

34:40

text chain together and everyone's like,

34:41

"I got it. See you next year." Blah blah

34:43

blah.

34:44

>> I get my phone call.

34:46

>> I didn't get the job.

34:48

>> Yeah. And I would say that this was

34:51

pivotal and ironic now that I'm so

34:54

embedded in YouTube in a completely

34:56

different way. But what it forced me to

34:59

do was my whole life had been about as

35:03

as an athlete finding a coach doing

35:06

exactly what they tell me to do. In

35:08

school, it was here are all the books to

35:11

do well on the SAT. I will do them. I

35:14

will wake up at 5 in the morning over

35:16

the summer and memorize everything and

35:18

do it because that's the formula

35:19

>> executing to plan on the

35:21

>> exact and I think it's part of the

35:23

immigrant mentality of the holy trinity

35:26

of doctor lawyer engineer is because

35:28

those are systems for safety

35:32

>> and also from my family like with many

35:35

immigrant families they know so

35:38

intimately what instability feels like

35:42

>> and So that led me on the course that

35:45

eventually led me to Buzzfeed, which was

35:49

in many ways sort of the first creative

35:51

risk I had taken on myself. And at the

35:54

time it was the fastest growing YouTube

35:57

channel in the world.

35:58

>> What was the job that you had at

35:59

BuzzFeed?

36:00

>> So I started as an intern again.

36:02

>> Mhm.

36:02

>> And eventually I became a producer at

36:04

BuzzFeed. And producer is such a strange

36:08

term even in traditional but what it

36:10

meant at BuzzFeed was doing everything.

36:13

So I was responsible for everything from

36:15

ideiation to filming, editing, uploading

36:19

and I didn't have any of those skills

36:21

even though you know my homegrown shripp

36:24

Louisiana

36:25

shout out Vet K my dad putting on his

36:27

little AFI film school in our house. It

36:30

did not cut it for what we needed to do.

36:32

But what I loved about that was you had

36:34

to learn every part of the process.

36:36

Unlike when I interned on a traditional

36:39

film set, it's very specialized. There

36:41

are unions. You don't even touch

36:44

equipment from a department that's not

36:45

yours.

36:46

>> I've seen that. You get yelled at.

36:47

>> You and you do get yelled at. And there

36:49

are great reasons for that. But the

36:51

learning environment was so important

36:53

for me to to learn. When you ingest

36:57

footage, you can accidentally delete it

36:59

all.

37:01

that sucks. I needed to learn all of

37:04

those processes because even today now

37:08

we have an amazing team, a massive

37:10

production team

37:13

and

37:15

it helps me as a leader to be able to

37:19

empathetically chat with each

37:21

department. Yeah,

37:22

>> we've all been at companies or on film

37:25

sets where the director or CEO has never

37:28

done the jobs of anyone that they're

37:31

asking to do a job for. And I like being

37:33

able to talk to the sound person in my

37:36

basic understanding of what are the

37:38

frequencies we're on, is there anything

37:41

we need to adjust about this set that is

37:43

is disruptive to the way you have the

37:45

boom pole set up? Like I like knowing

37:47

all of the details and being able to

37:49

think critically about each department

37:51

so everyone can succeed.

37:54

>> So this is going to be a leading

37:55

question, but

37:56

>> I'm going to try it anyway. Do you think

37:58

it's fair to say that if you had not had

38:01

the BuzzFeed job and you'd gone straight

38:03

from not getting the gig at Google to

38:06

YouTube that

38:08

>> the outcome would have been very

38:10

different?

38:10

>> Exponentially different.

38:12

>> Yeah. I don't think I would have

38:14

succeeded period.

38:16

>> So, I want to spend a second on this

38:18

simply to say because I get

38:21

asked about starting companies all the

38:23

time, right? And someone's like, "I'm

38:26

graduating and I'm going to start my

38:27

company." And

38:30

I think they're sometimes surprised, and

38:32

a lot of professors disagree with me on

38:34

this, which is fine because I think that

38:36

makes for interesting conversations. But

38:38

my default recommendation is do not

38:43

start a company right after school.

38:47

>> Go get an MBA or a master's degree in X

38:51

where you get to do every job

38:53

>> where someone else is paying you for it.

38:55

>> Exactly.

38:56

>> So that you are learning learn make all

38:58

your dumb mistakes or make your first

39:01

massive round of dumb mistakes on

39:03

someone else's dime. And if you

39:06

immediately start your own company,

39:08

you're also not necessarily going to get

39:10

the breadth of experience in a more

39:13

mature and that by mature that could be

39:15

10 or 20 or 30 employees. It doesn't

39:17

have to be a gigantic company, but get

39:20

that experience first and then

39:25

increase the odds of your own success

39:28

at that point by going and starting your

39:30

own gig.

39:31

>> Right. And I'm curious if you think

39:34

that's still applies for instance in the

39:37

world of and I know this is painting

39:38

with a broad brush but YouTube if

39:40

somebody came to you and they said I

39:42

want to get really good at and the world

39:44

has changed so quickly in in terms of

39:46

video and entertainment and visual

39:48

storytelling

39:50

with a startup I would still tell

39:52

someone hey if you can I know we're all

39:55

painting this dystopian picture of

39:56

MadMax in 10 years let's just for the

39:59

time being for planning purposes assume

40:01

that's not going to be case, work at a

40:02

startup first, then start your own

40:04

startup. But in the world of visual

40:06

storytelling, would you suggest people

40:08

get a job kind of working at a place

40:12

like a Buzzfeed or something like that

40:13

before making the leap into YouTube now,

40:15

or is there a better way to learn the

40:18

skills necessary to do in-depth long-

40:20

form stuff? I definitely think having

40:23

experience working for someone else in

40:25

the field that you want to be a part of

40:28

is so educational. Not just to be in the

40:31

mail room and see how things work,

40:34

>> but also to define a core tenant list of

40:38

what you enjoy about the company and all

40:41

the little things you don't like. Mhm.

40:43

>> When I left my job, I had a very clear

40:45

list of

40:47

this worked great for for this company,

40:49

but at my company, I'm never going to do

40:51

X, Y, or Z. And that was super super

40:54

helpful to define company culture, to

40:57

ensure people's voices are heard, to

40:59

keep employee retention high.

41:03

And I think that's why with challenge

41:04

accepted, our sets operate so

41:07

differently that everybody has a digital

41:10

mind of we need to shoot it this way

41:12

because it will perform well or we're

41:14

thinking critically about retention and

41:16

the intro and whatnot, but we're also

41:18

thinking about storytelling as a medium

41:21

has been solved.

41:23

>> Traditional Hollywood, they clearly did

41:25

something right and and let's learn from

41:27

that.

41:29

It's as simple as breaking for lunch

41:31

every six hours. It's as simple as

41:35

making sure we have enough

41:36

pre-production meetings. And those are

41:37

the things that were pain points for me

41:40

at prior jobs. And I'm able to apply

41:43

them in this really special space where

41:45

we have an amazing amazing culture and

41:48

and work environment where people can

41:50

hopefully feel that they're able to

41:52

express themselves artistically,

41:54

experiment, and learn at the same time.

41:57

So, I'm trying to figure out where to go

41:58

next because

42:02

I think it's probably going to be fear

42:03

setting just because I want to hear how

42:05

that factors into things.

42:07

>> Okay,

42:08

>> why don't we just go there because I've

42:10

read about and

42:13

the whiteboard of fears and and other

42:16

things. I'm sure we'll spend a second on

42:18

cycling also, but the way that this

42:21

interview ultimately happened was

42:23

because of an exchange, right? Like I

42:26

put I put up a post about YouTube

42:28

channels. Are there any YouTube channels

42:30

out there that have some type of

42:32

intersection with the 4-hour work week

42:34

or anything in it? And that's how we we

42:39

ultimately personally connected.

42:42

How does fear setting fit into the

42:44

story?

42:45

>> Well, Tim, it fits into the story in a

42:47

few ways. Challenge accepted at its core

42:50

originally began by me taking a

42:52

whiteboard and writing all of my fears

42:54

out and then connecting each fear to a

42:57

circumstance that would cause me to

43:00

address it.

43:01

>> Not just as a like personal self-help

43:05

type of thing because I am a very

43:07

anxious person internally,

43:10

>> but more specifically because it makes

43:12

for a better story. Mhm.

43:13

>> We realized very early on showing the

43:15

vulnerability, showing the fear, that's

43:18

a key part of Snider's beats of

43:20

storytelling. So, starting with the all

43:22

is lost moment of the story led us to

43:26

unlock really, really fascinating

43:27

episodes. And we would structure the

43:29

thesis of each of like I want to be a

43:32

firefighter, but I'm not brave enough.

43:34

Okay, that's an interesting story. And

43:36

we're thinking about that in every piece

43:38

of the edit, every piece of the

43:39

pre-production. And that is the climax

43:42

of the emotional core of when I finally

43:44

go in a burning building.

43:46

>> Why we care so much? It's the same in

43:48

the Mission Impossible project. I would

43:51

love to be in a Mission Impossible

43:52

movie. But am I actually brave enough to

43:55

strap myself to the side of a plane like

43:57

icon Tom Cruz? Okay, I've got to do that

44:00

first. But I actually brought something,

44:03

Tim.

44:03

>> You brought something?

44:04

>> I brought something to help demonstrate

44:06

fear setting.

44:07

>> Okay,

44:07

>> I'm going to bring it out now.

44:08

>> Yeah, let's do I'll describe it for the

44:10

audio listeners.

44:15

>> No, I ren

44:18

the colors.

44:19

>> Okay. Unfortunately, you are dealing

44:21

with a fan in the chair opposite from

44:22

you. But reading the 4-hour work week

44:25

changed my life.

44:27

>> This is the original copy I have from

44:29

2016. I was a bit young when it came out

44:32

in 2007, so I didn't have that that

44:33

version. So, this might be slightly

44:36

revised, but I went back into my

44:38

archives

44:40

>> and I found this email.

44:43

The date is, what is today? March 31st,

44:46

2026.

44:48

>> Mhm.

44:48

>> The date of this email,

44:51

I'm not making this up. March 18th,

44:54

2016. It has been exactly 10 years since

44:58

I sent this email.

44:59

>> Okay. I have to shout out my therapist

45:01

Jodie because she's the one who told me

45:03

to read your book and I wanted to read a

45:05

section of my fear setting.

45:07

>> Oh my god. Amazing.

45:08

>> Now, as you know, because these are your

45:11

memories in your brain. This was prior

45:14

to the define

45:17

prevent repair chart of your 2017

45:20

talk.

45:21

>> So, this isn't even in a chart. These

45:23

are just a couple of questions that you

45:24

had. But I wrote here this 20. This is

45:27

so crazy. My dream is to leave my job,

45:31

start a YouTube channel, somehow

45:33

succeed, own my ideas, and start a

45:36

company where I can grow as a

45:38

storyteller and help other storytellers

45:40

grow without traditional barriers to

45:42

entry.

45:43

>> Number one, define your nightmare. I'm

45:45

just going to read a few of the

45:46

highlights,

45:46

>> please. Oh, yeah. No, take your time. to

45:48

find my nightmare was going broke, never

45:51

figuring out what I'm best at since I

45:54

find the most joy in trying everything

45:57

rather than specializing.

46:00

People not thinking I'm funny. And the

46:03

last one is actually not being funny.

46:09

>> And of course, I went through the steps

46:11

of repairing the damage.

46:12

>> Do you have any examples there? Of

46:14

course. Yeah. Yeah. Because for just I

46:15

want to give like a quick

46:18

No, no, not spiel. Just like a quick

46:19

context rapper. So, fear setting is a

46:22

pretty straightforward thing. It's

46:23

basically barred from the Stoics. I'm

46:24

not the first person to look at this. I

46:26

just tried to systematize it for myself.

46:28

It was in the 4-hour work week. And it's

46:30

like goal setting, but it's identifying

46:33

your fears very specifically

46:35

>> and then making them as concrete as

46:38

possible, then talking about what you

46:39

might do to prevent them and or repair

46:42

them if they inevitably happened. And

46:44

the objective here is to in a sense

46:46

demystify and take your fears from being

46:50

this nebulous cloud of anxiety to

46:53

something that you can put under a

46:54

microscope

46:55

>> to test.

46:56

>> Yes. So the first part is defining the

46:58

nightmare. The second is what steps

47:01

would you take to repair the damage even

47:02

temporarily? And here I had

47:06

using some

47:08

using using my savings from my Google

47:11

internship.

47:12

>> Yeah. So, I did have savings from that.

47:15

And then making sure that my resume or

47:20

LinkedIn was ready for other jobs in the

47:22

industry. This is number three. If you

47:24

were fired from your job today, how

47:25

would you get things under financial

47:26

control? And I I said that I would

47:29

temporarily use my savings and if that

47:31

didn't work out, aggressively apply for

47:33

other jobs. Enlisted some other

47:35

companies I would reach out to. This is

47:38

where it gets very intense. What are you

47:40

putting off out of fear? I'm putting off

47:43

quitting my job. I'm putting off

47:46

reaching out to all the people I need to

47:48

to make this dream a reality because it

47:50

means I have to say it out loud. I've

47:52

reached out to some people, but I know I

47:54

can do better. What is it costing you

47:56

financially, emotionally, physically to

47:58

postpone action?

48:01

I'm under emotional high stress. I want

48:04

to tell stories that really resonate

48:06

with other people. I want to be around

48:08

people who share creative joy in the

48:10

same values of quality that I do. I am

48:14

unhappy in an environment where I feel

48:16

like people feel the opposite. What are

48:19

you waiting for? So this is the last

48:22

section. I'm waiting for a false sense

48:24

of security to inspire me to take a

48:27

leap. A brand offering to collaborate,

48:31

someone else offering financial

48:32

stability, etc.

48:35

But I'm actually being challenged and

48:36

invited to create my own security for

48:39

the first time. I have

48:43

Oh, this is like crazy to read.

48:47

I've continually found success in other

48:50

people's rubric of success, but I've

48:53

actually never found happiness.

49:00

I've

49:01

never designed

49:04

my own rubric of success

49:11

and that's because I don't trust myself

49:13

to define success.

49:15

I'm scared to assume that

49:17

responsibility.

49:20

That was my fear setting.

49:24

It's very personal process.

49:26

>> It is.

49:26

>> I know you and anyone listening who have

49:29

actually like done it can can empathize

49:31

with that.

49:32

>> Mhm. I'm a very emotional person as you

49:35

can see from my videos. It's real.

49:38

>> Anyways, I was so excited to share that

49:39

with you.

49:40

>> I'm so moved by you sharing that and I

49:44

really appreciate you bringing that.

49:46

>> Yeah, of course.

49:47

>> And you [ __ ] did it also, right?

49:50

>> God, that's crazy. Like, guys, it works.

49:53

It It actually works. Wait, I didn't

49:54

tell you the funniest part of this. Here

49:56

was the funniest part. So, this has

49:58

obviously been on my bookshelf for 10

50:00

years at this point, and I am a copious

50:03

like you, handwriter, notetaker. I beat

50:06

up my books. I write in the margins and

50:09

proof. I mean, like, this is you can see

50:11

the wear and tear on this thing. But

50:12

when I opened this, there was absolutely

50:16

no annotation. And I was like, why is

50:18

this? And I I felt stumped on it. And it

50:20

wasn't until I found this email where it

50:22

was revealed. Okay, this is how I wrote

50:24

to my therapist with the chart.

50:27

OMG, all caps. I am obsessed with the

50:31

4hour work week. Several exclamation

50:33

points. I just got the book on Monday

50:35

from my coworker and I've been reading

50:37

it incessantly every night. Here's my

50:39

fear setting exercise.

50:42

I stole this book apparently.

50:45

And I sat and I was like I called my

50:47

therapist last night before the

50:48

recording. I was like, who would I have

50:50

borrowed this book from? I couldn't I

50:52

have no idea whose book is in my lap

50:54

right now, but it's been on my shelf for

50:57

10 years. Whoever it is, I'm so sorry.

50:59

By the way, I did buy all of your other

51:01

books, so I did contribute to that

51:03

economy, but I have a stolen Tim Ferris

51:06

book.

51:09

>> I should like contribute to the cycle

51:11

and donate it to a library or something.

51:14

But

51:15

>> oh my god, that is so good. It's so

51:17

funny because the person from my job who

51:21

let me borrow and steal this has no idea

51:25

how much they impact me because I don't

51:27

even remember who it was. I mean, we

51:29

were all in a bullpin with 30 desks. I

51:32

probably just borrowed it from someone

51:34

who sat next to me. But

51:35

>> so here's a follow-up question on the on

51:37

the fear setting. And this isn't a trick

51:39

question because when people

51:43

experience

51:45

any

51:47

ambitious or scary journey for

51:51

themselves, often the same thing.

51:53

>> It's not a straightforward line up and

51:56

to the right. It's a bumpy path.

51:59

>> After doing that, when did you take

52:03

action towards realizing the dream?

52:07

could have been a very small thing. I

52:08

don't know. But like what was the kind

52:10

of defining first step that kind of set

52:13

you on the actual path to realizing what

52:17

you laid out?

52:18

>> I took action pretty immediately, but it

52:21

took me a year to quit my job. And I'll

52:23

define what the difference is. I took

52:26

action immediately by this might be

52:29

crazy. This was a Tim Ferrris

52:30

experiment. I really resonated with what

52:34

you wrote about

52:36

coming to terms with the worst possible

52:38

outcome.

52:40

>> And so I decided I'm going to train

52:42

myself for the worst possible outcome.

52:44

>> I love it.

52:45

>> So I moved into a studio apartment with

52:48

a roommate.

52:50

>> I cut like like financially stripped

52:53

down. I mean, I didn't have much

52:54

anyways, but stripped as much as I could

52:57

to simulate if if I'm truly failing at

53:00

this and having having to live in a

53:02

Hollywood apartment with a bunch of

53:03

roommates. I'm just going to get used to

53:04

that. I'm going to get used to it right

53:05

now. I'm going to cancel all of my

53:07

memberships and figure out how to stay

53:09

healthy with just myself. Just myself in

53:13

in this small place. I am also going to

53:16

commit to working on my own stories

53:20

after work on the weekends because if I

53:23

can't do it now with stability, I I need

53:25

to prove to myself that I actually give

53:29

a [ __ ] about this really. And I did that

53:32

for an entire year.

53:35

growing a little bit of a personal

53:37

savings but also growing mental and

53:39

physical stamina towards

53:42

I'm already in still a place of safety

53:45

of course but I am in a situation where

53:49

I think I can handle this I got this

53:51

like the LinkedIn is up to date the

53:53

resume is up to date I am so ready I

53:56

have defined prevent and hopefully we

53:58

don't got to go to that third column

54:00

repair and so then a year later exactly

54:03

I quit my job. And when I quit, I had

54:08

two months of videos backlogged, ready

54:11

to go. Also, legally, for the record, on

54:13

my own machine, not company resources.

54:17

All of that was ready to go. And I knew

54:20

what my first big project would be,

54:22

training with stunt doubles. I had a

54:25

shoot date ready. I had taken, you know,

54:28

I only had like three months of savings

54:30

at that point. And I had had allocated

54:33

this is going to be for the dream

54:35

project, my first risk on my channel.

54:38

Nothing will touch that. The rest is is

54:40

for operating daily life expenses. And I

54:44

said, I got three months to to make this

54:46

work. And like you said, you know, like

54:47

we've been talking about sometimes you

54:49

got to put your back against the wall

54:51

and go.

54:52

>> I love this. So So this is I feel like

54:56

we were separated at birth. So So

54:59

a few things I I'll say. number one to

55:01

try to not that I have I'm not a paragon

55:05

of self-awareness but I I will say that

55:07

I for different reasons have a certain

55:10

like hypervigilance focus on safety and

55:13

security which might sound strange to

55:15

people listening but I'm always trying

55:19

to risk mitigate right I'm actually I

55:21

don't view myself as a big risk taker I

55:24

have done a few things that have ended

55:25

up with me accumulating injuries that

55:28

maybe in retrospect shouldn't have done

55:30

But broadly speaking, I'm always trying

55:32

to mitigate risk, which is underscores

55:34

this entire fear setting exercise,

55:36

right? Cuz it's not just about

55:38

convincing yourself. It's also in my

55:40

mind completely intertwined with what

55:43

you did, which is

55:46

preparing

55:48

and training yourself and your

55:51

circumstances, right? So

55:54

when I flash back to starting my first

55:58

company, it's like how did I start the

56:00

first company? I started my first

56:02

company during lunch hours, evenings,

56:05

and weekends basically while still doing

56:09

my other job and doing my other job

56:11

well.

56:11

>> Mhm.

56:12

>> But I wanted to have a head start so

56:15

that I wasn't beginning from scratch

56:17

after quitting a job. Right. So I did

56:20

that. By the way, you're simultaneously

56:23

developing skills as you're doing that

56:26

and proving that you don't need the

56:28

crutch or the or the training wheels of

56:30

your company,

56:31

>> right,

56:31

>> to enable you to do those things, right?

56:34

So, the moonlighting aspect, this is

56:35

another thing that that

56:38

at least in in my mind maybe conflicts

56:41

with

56:42

how some listeners might think about me,

56:44

but there's a difference between I'd be

56:47

curious to hear you speak to this.

56:48

There's a difference between putting

56:50

your back against a wall, in other

56:52

words, like highly pushing yourself to

56:54

make a decision,

56:56

>> and like burning all the ships and

56:58

burning all the bridges.

57:00

And the way I would frame the difference

57:02

is

57:05

when like a year to the to the day

57:08

almost, right, you quit your job and

57:10

you're setting up this groundwork and

57:12

you have some videos ready to go and you

57:15

were in where were you at the time? This

57:16

was in

57:16

>> in LA.

57:17

>> In LA. So, you've got probably Cobra,

57:19

right? You might have some like residual

57:21

health care after you quit. I'm not sure

57:24

what how it was set up benefit-wise, but

57:26

like in my company, I knew I had at

57:27

least like a handful of months where I

57:29

wasn't going to have to pay for my own

57:30

healthare. And in that case, right, as

57:33

you're thinking about what could I do

57:37

if this fails, right? If it doesn't work

57:39

out, what could I do? You've got your

57:40

LinkedIn and resume ready to go.

57:42

>> Yeah.

57:43

>> Right. And in my fear setting, and for a

57:45

lot of people, it's like, well, I could

57:46

get like a temp waitering job. I could

57:49

>> bartend. I could sell a bunch of my

57:52

furniture. I could sell my piece of [ __ ]

57:54

used car and, you know, take public

57:57

transport. I could whatever, right?

58:00

Sleep on an air mattress in a friend's

58:02

room. So, in a sense, like you've proven

58:04

to yourself that the permanent

58:08

irreversible risk is actually low,

58:11

right? while at the same time propelling

58:14

yourself towards this like defining

58:16

decision which is like taking the leap

58:18

>> and I think the emotional stability of

58:21

that decision is important. You want to

58:24

be able to brainstorm what should I do

58:26

in the worst case scenario from a place

58:28

of safety which is what I had at the job

58:32

still. So I was able to be creative

58:35

about thinking about solutions without

58:37

being panicked at the same time in that

58:39

situation.

58:39

>> Exactly. What an amazing story. What

58:41

fun. And it's so it's a recipe, right?

58:46

It's replicable. It's going to be

58:48

different for every person, but it is

58:51

actually it's a formula that works like

58:54

a lot of things. And

58:56

I I want to also mention a few things

59:00

that come to mind just to draw some

59:01

parallels. So you mentioned

59:04

BuzzFeed where you learn to do all of

59:06

these different jobs, right? And there's

59:08

a benefit to that above and beyond the

59:11

expertise of say spot-checking your

59:15

team's work or something like that. Your

59:17

team will also respect you more because

59:20

they know you have done the thing you

59:21

are asking them to do which you did kind

59:23

of mention in passing but it's really

59:25

important right I think of I have some

59:27

PTSD memories of this book but the

59:30

4-hour chef like which which which

59:32

confusingly is a book about accelerated

59:34

learning actually tried to do a lot with

59:36

that book very proud of it think it

59:37

worked but the reason I bring it up is

59:40

there's a chef who's profiled in that

59:42

named Grant Ackets who was basically

59:47

one of two superheroes in a sense. I

59:49

mean, they both have superpowers, right?

59:51

You had Grant Ackets, the like chef

59:54

Vundakint genius, and then you have Nick

59:57

Kakonis, who I've become very close

60:00

friends with, who is a former

60:02

genius options trader at the in Chicago

60:06

who then decides to get in touch with

60:09

Grant. He he's magical at cold emailing,

60:12

which I want to talk to you about. Very

60:14

good at cold emailing. and they got

60:16

together and Nick is from a business

60:20

kind of challenging and redesigning of

60:22

systems perspective incredible. But the

60:24

reason I bring it up is that Grant

60:27

can work every station in the restaurant

60:30

better than everybody else. which is not

60:31

to say automatically that I or you can

60:34

do that with all of our team members,

60:36

but he's at at the very least incredibly

60:39

good at each of the stations so that he

60:43

can when need be improve systems, change

60:46

things. He can also teach and coach. He

60:48

can give feedback and if he gives

60:50

feedback, people take it seriously

60:52

because they know he's done it himself

60:55

and he knows what he's talking about,

60:57

right? So there's a huge advantage to

60:59

that and it makes your mistakes later

61:03

less expensive also and it it allows you

61:06

to hire more effectively whether that

61:08

hiring is a contractor or full-time.

61:10

>> Mhm.

61:10

>> Okay. So you I just wrote this down and

61:13

I I have to mention it because like

61:16

basically I'm living vicariously through

61:18

you now.

61:19

>> Oh my god. um in a sense because your

61:21

channel is like oh my god like that's if

61:23

I could have sort of self authored a

61:26

path to doing that like oh man what an

61:29

amazing thing and I know there's a lot

61:31

under the hood and behind the scenes

61:32

that I'm sure is very difficult which

61:35

we'll talk about but if you have not

61:37

connected and maybe you've graduated on

61:39

from the stunt work and so on but Damen

61:42

Walters have you seen Damian Walters?

61:44

>> No.

61:45

>> Okay. I don't know if he's still in the

61:47

game, but Damen Walters, he's a former

61:50

highle British gymnast who then entered

61:54

the world of stunt work and just has the

61:57

most insane yearly highlight videos that

62:00

he put out for a while. This is an older

62:02

vintage. He's been doing it a long time.

62:04

But in any case, I thought he could be

62:08

>> incredibly fun to connect with at some

62:11

point.

62:12

>> That's awesome.

62:13

>> I've never really interacted with him,

62:14

so I can't so much love and heart for

62:17

the stunt community. That's really where

62:19

the channel started. And the stunt

62:22

coordinator that I work with today, his

62:25

name is Steve Brown.

62:27

>> And this is how crazy the world is,

62:29

right? Back in

62:31

2016, so a few months after I sent this

62:33

email, I went to a kebab shop in LA, sat

62:37

down at the counter, and was just eating

62:40

dinner by myself. And I I remember I was

62:43

really critically thinking about this

62:45

decision of going off on my own and

62:48

applying this. And this guy comes in,

62:51

sits next to me. We just start talking,

62:53

have a nice conversation, go our

62:55

separate ways. I go on to start my

62:57

channel and do what I'm doing. He goes

63:00

on to choreograph and do stunts and lead

63:04

stunts for Logan, several Marvel

63:08

projects, and most recently all of the

63:11

Avatar films.

63:13

>> That guy also does all of the stunt

63:16

coordination on our channel.

63:17

>> That's incredible. Um and it's amazing

63:19

that when you meet people who are

63:22

passionate like you know when you meet a

63:25

flavor of a person before they have hit

63:28

their

63:29

>> their peak moment it's special to

63:32

connect with them and and rise together.

63:34

And that's what's been awesome about

63:35

Steve is between his Avatar movies he'll

63:37

come over and strap me to the side of a

63:39

plane or throw me in the Houdini tank

63:41

and and make sure that everything's okay

63:44

because we have that we have that kebab

63:46

friendship.

63:48

Well, this speaks also to putting

63:50

yourself in the center of the action,

63:51

right? And I've had very famous investor

63:56

named Bill Gurley on the show before I

63:58

sat where you're sitting right now,

63:59

legendary investor, and he talks about

64:02

this a lot, which is putting yourself

64:04

where the action is. Right. So, if you

64:06

want to have those types of connections,

64:08

it's less likely to happen in a small

64:11

town in Montana than it is in Los

64:12

Angeles.

64:13

>> Right.

64:14

>> Right. Similarly, depending on your

64:16

industry, IRL still matters a lot,

64:19

right? As much as we would like to think

64:21

it doesn't, it's like if you want to be

64:22

in certain games and tech and you want

64:27

to have access to the talent, etc.,

64:29

still to this day in in a lot of

64:31

instances, you have to be in San

64:33

Francisco or somewhere near San

64:35

Francisco. That's just where you have to

64:37

be.

64:37

>> And this is coming from the the virtual

64:39

guy.

64:40

>> It is. It is. And yet, if you look at

64:42

what the virtual guy did, because I was

64:44

trying and wanted to get involved in

64:47

tech and then ultimately angel

64:49

investing, where was I? I was in the Bay

64:51

Area for 17 years.

64:52

>> Mhm.

64:52

>> If I had not done that, I think my

64:54

success would have had a 0% likelihood.

64:57

>> I mean, literally 0%. If I look at how a

65:01

lot of the ultimately best advising or

65:04

investing relationships came together,

65:05

they almost all started with Chance

65:07

Encounters at the equivalent of a kebab

65:09

shop, right? I go to a barbecue at

65:12

someone's house and like accidentally

65:14

bump into someone and spill their drink

65:15

and start a conversation and then boom,

65:17

that turns into like one of the most

65:19

ends up defining 30% of my net worth,

65:21

right? I

65:24

sure there's luck involved, but you have

65:26

to provide and I'm borrowing this term

65:28

from someone else, but surface area for

65:30

luck.

65:30

>> So, what have we learned? Barbecue,

65:32

kebab, spilling drinks, key to success,

65:35

30% of Tim's chapter one. Chapter one,

65:37

bump into people. actually really could

65:39

be. The other thing I wanted to mention

65:40

is you talked about in a sense and this

65:43

is not the most elegant way to put it,

65:46

but like practicing poverty, right? That

65:48

was one of your fears, right? It was

65:50

like running out of money, right? So,

65:51

you move into the apartment where you're

65:53

sharing a studio with someone else or

65:55

multiple people and you get rid of your

65:58

memberships and so on and you prove to

66:00

yourself

66:02

number one, you can certainly survive.

66:05

Number two, probably it's not that bad.

66:08

Like you can figure it out. And sure,

66:10

maybe if you're depending on the

66:12

roommate, I mean, you might want to get

66:14

rid of said roommate. But it reminded me

66:16

of not to belabor this, but since the

66:19

genesis of fear setting is stoic

66:22

philosophy and the stoics, Senica the

66:24

Younger talks about practicing in this

66:26

way. very close friend of mine, Kevin

66:28

Kelly, who was the founding editor of

66:31

Wired magazine and fascinating person on

66:34

all levels. Also has a big Amish beard

66:37

and has spent time with the Amish to

66:38

study how they accept or reject

66:39

technology, etc., etc. really

66:42

interesting guy, but he also, I don't

66:44

know if he does it anymore, he's got to

66:46

be mid70s now, but he used to routinely

66:51

spend periods of time, I want to say

66:53

every year, where he would just camp out

66:55

in his living room in a sleeping bag and

66:57

have like instant coffee and instant

66:59

oatmeal and just do that for like a week

67:02

>> and he's like, "Oh, yeah, great. Yeah, I

67:04

don't really need that much." Yeah. And

67:07

by doing that, it gives you

67:11

courage, which I think is a practiced

67:14

skill, right? Your subconscious has to

67:16

believe that you can do something. It's

67:19

you can't just read books and suddenly

67:21

have confidence in all situations. And I

67:23

mean, you're I think a walking example

67:25

of of how you can do that.

67:27

>> So, my question for you, Formula 1 team,

67:30

all right, Formula 1 is expensive,

67:32

right? It's like these cars in some

67:33

cases are like what $250 million, right?

67:36

When you start to add everything in

67:38

pricey, yes, very high performance. But

67:41

when you quit your job and you're like,

67:45

I have 3 months.

67:46

>> Mhm.

67:47

>> How did you assemble or enroll the help

67:51

that you needed in the early days, the

67:53

first like 3 to 6 months after quitting

67:55

your job? Or did you just do everything

67:57

yourself? I don't know. Right. So, what

67:59

did it look like in the early days?

68:00

Because once you get some momentum, sure

68:02

you get some money coming in. Okay, you

68:03

can start to add, you can start to

68:05

upgrade, you can start to do various

68:06

things, but in the beginning, you're

68:08

very capital constrained, right?

68:10

>> Yes.

68:10

>> What do you do? How did you assemble the

68:12

help that you needed or enlist it?

68:14

>> This is a strategy I employ for every

68:16

challenge I take on now. And hindsight

68:18

is 2020. And with that 2020 hindsight, I

68:22

think it comes down to having three

68:24

people on your Formula 1 team. And it

68:26

doesn't need to be fancy. It's really

68:29

a coach, a mentor, and a cheerleader.

68:32

>> Okay.

68:34

>> What does that mean?

68:35

>> Yeah.

68:35

>> In a specific episode of Challenge

68:37

Accepted, the coach is the most

68:40

important person that I want to find

68:43

before we pursue an episode, like

68:45

>> in a recent episode, I attempted to get

68:48

a black belt in taekwond do in only 90

68:50

days. In martial arts, that's a somewhat

68:52

controversial thing to even attempt to

68:54

do. Mhm.

68:55

>> And so I knew I could only do it with

68:57

the blessing of a really respected

68:59

master. So objective number one was to

69:02

find the best master and coach in the

69:04

world. And I think it's important to to

69:08

find someone and again I'll give an

69:10

example for what I did in that specific

69:11

situation. But that's number one for me

69:14

because this is the person I'm going to

69:16

be spending all of this time with and

69:18

learning from them. The second person is

69:21

a mentor who is different from the

69:23

coach. This is a person who has most

69:28

recently

69:30

done the thing you're trying to do. So

69:33

for me, that's other students in the

69:35

black ballot class. They're my mentors.

69:37

They have gone through this process.

69:38

They know what it's feels like to break

69:40

a brick with their hands and get through

69:43

that. Mhm.

69:44

>> And it's important that it's different

69:45

from the coach because coaching is a

69:48

different skill set and art form from

69:51

mentoring.

69:52

>> Also, it's harder for the coach to put

69:55

themselves in your shoes because so much

69:57

of what they do is second nature and

69:58

they're probably decades removed from

70:00

the experience you're about to have.

70:02

>> You want someone who has the experience

70:04

of leading somebody to that finish line

70:06

of greatness. And you also want someone

70:08

who knows what it feels like to be the

70:10

man in the arena. Mhm.

70:11

>> And then the third person is a

70:13

cheerleader, which is someone who is

70:15

completely detached from the outcome. So

70:18

for me, that's my best friend Olivia. It

70:21

could be a sibling, friend, family

70:23

member, someone who is going to root for

70:26

you and love you no matter whether you

70:28

succeed or fail. So that's how I

70:30

approach every single challenge on the

70:33

channel. Metawise, at the beginning of

70:35

the channel, what was that for me? It

70:37

was the mentor figure or figures for me

70:42

were other people who had recently

70:44

started channels and were just a few

70:46

steps ahead of me in the process. Maybe

70:48

they had 50,000 subscribers. Maybe they

70:50

had 100,000 subscribers. They were

70:52

people I met at little meetups at, rest

70:55

in peace, the YouTube space, which

70:57

doesn't exist anymore. But those peer

71:00

groups were really special and important

71:02

to me to keep me motivated and to just

71:06

reach out to people even today. Reaching

71:08

out to other creators, what do you guys

71:10

think of this thumbnail? What do you

71:11

think of these titles? Having people who

71:13

are just a couple steps ahead of you or

71:15

on similar playing fields can be so so

71:19

helpful in that process.

71:21

The cheerleader for me at that time was

71:24

was my sister Maline who was one of the

71:27

only people I told I was going to quit

71:28

my job and and fully believed in me. And

71:31

then the coach figure for me when I was

71:33

starting from ground zero was

71:38

cold emailing

71:40

people I respected. Now, that's not the

71:43

same as having a coach who's with you

71:46

every day in the way mastery is training

71:48

taekwond do with me every day. But I saw

71:51

those as coaching opportunities because

71:52

they were people light years ahead who

71:55

had the teaching component, I should

71:57

say, of being able to advise even in

72:00

small doses.

72:01

>> What did those emails look like?

72:02

>> Okay, I love a great email. You

72:05

mentioned that you have an amazing cold

72:08

emailer. I I need to to see their art

72:10

and their work because I I love

72:12

comparing notes on emails.

72:15

I personally believe that a really

72:17

well-written email can open any door.

72:20

>> I agree. By the way, assuming the person

72:22

sees it, right, there's there's some

72:23

friction, but

72:24

>> true,

72:25

>> but people underestimate

72:27

what they can do.

72:29

>> I agree. And there's there's something

72:31

about an email that's different from an

72:33

Instagram DM or I don't know. I love an

72:36

email. Well, I love a Google calendar.

72:39

This is where we're talking about true

72:40

passions to emails.

72:43

So, when at the beginning of my channel,

72:45

when we didn't have millions of

72:48

subscribers,

72:49

>> and we wanted to collaborate with

72:51

institutions like the FBI, the Secret

72:54

Service, and ultimately, we became some

72:57

of the first YouTube channels to ever do

72:59

that. came from not a producer, not a

73:02

friend of a friend sending email, but me

73:04

sending a cold email. An example of that

73:07

is I wanted to do a video with the FBI.

73:11

So, I went on FBI.gov. I called the

73:14

1-800 number of the FBI, which by the

73:17

way is for like crime tips, which I

73:21

didn't realize.

73:22

And I pitched them this idea over the

73:25

phone and they're like, "So, I'm here to

73:27

receive crime tips, but I can connect

73:29

you to someone else." And I wasn't

73:31

anticipating that. I thought it would

73:33

kind of be a dead end.

73:34

>> So, I just want to pause here for the

73:36

specifics.

73:37

>> Ring ring. Hello. FBI 800 number. What

73:40

are you What are you saying?

73:41

>> Hi, my name is Michelle K. I know this

73:44

might come off as a little strange or

73:46

unexpected, but I was trying to contact

73:48

someone in your department who might

73:50

work with film and television. I'm a

73:51

content creator online. We have several

73:54

hundred thousand subscribers and I was

73:55

hoping to talk about a collaboration.

73:57

>> All right, great.

73:59

>> And usually they're like, YouTube, what?

74:03

But this person was was generous enough

74:05

to connect me to someone else and we

74:07

kind of got kicked down a few a few

74:10

different routes. But we ended up

74:12

connecting with someone called the

74:15

Hollywood guy. This is a job at the FBI.

74:19

He's just like, "How did I get stuck in

74:21

this department?" Every email that comes

74:23

over the transom about some kind of film

74:26

television thing.

74:27

>> It's the Hollywood guy. And now this is

74:29

the person within the Federal Bureau of

74:33

Investigation

74:34

who is assigned to

74:38

documentaries or even scripted shows to

74:41

ensure that the seal of the FBI is

74:44

accurately and and not displayed not

74:47

misrepresented or or shown in a

74:48

derogatory manner.

74:50

>> This is the guy who did the McDonald's

74:52

Monopoly HBO documentary. He He was the

74:55

FBI's representative for that amazing

74:58

docky series.

74:59

>> I'm sorry. I'm not familiar with this.

75:01

Monopoly, like the game Monopoly.

75:03

>> Oh my god, you're not familiar. What is

75:04

this called? I think Oh, the

75:05

documentary. It's called McMillions.

75:08

>> Okay.

75:08

>> Have you heard of this doc?

75:09

>> I mean, what is it about Happy Meals or

75:10

something?

75:11

>> Riveting documentary series.

75:13

>> McMillions. Okay.

75:14

>> Oh, Tim, you're going to love it.

75:15

>> So, there's probably some fraud involved

75:16

and the FBI gets involved. Do you

75:18

remember in the '9s, 2000s, there was

75:22

the Monopoly game at McDonald's? Sure.

75:25

Where you could peel off the sticker and

75:27

see if you won a vacation or a bunch of

75:29

money. Turns out all of the winners of

75:34

that

75:35

>> were all related in some way.

75:37

>> Or they figured out how to game the

75:38

system. They're all family relatives or

75:41

friends of friends or people within this

75:44

group of people that they hired

75:47

>> to win.

75:48

>> I don't want to reveal how they did it

75:50

because it's riveting. The documentary

75:54

tells the story from the perspective of

75:55

the FBI agents who uncovered it,

75:58

>> right? So, Hollywood guy gets an email.

76:00

Hey,

76:00

>> so this guy just did McMillions, one of

76:03

the, you know, an incredible docu series

76:05

for HBO.

76:06

>> Gets an email from me. YouTuber

76:10

and effectively what happened was he was

76:13

like, "Well, I'm retiring in a couple

76:16

months. Let's try it out."

76:18

>> It's so wild how these things work out

76:21

sometimes.

76:22

>> It's amazing.

76:22

>> Now, so that again, this like surface

76:25

area for luck, right? Like you have to

76:27

have some pinballs in the pinball

76:29

machine

76:30

>> for the possibility of something like

76:31

that happening.

76:33

Is there anything else in your email or

76:36

communication with the Hollywood guy

76:38

that you think increased the likelihood

76:40

of him saying yes?

76:41

>> I do. I think a great email and a cold

76:44

email specifically has to have some key

76:46

components. The first is the subject

76:48

line needs to show your value to the

76:52

reader. For me right now, it would look

76:55

like something and I'll be totally

76:56

honest. Collaboration with Michelle

76:59

Caren this many followers. In the

77:02

beginning, that was a small number for

77:05

me, but I still put it in the subject

77:06

line. It could be a number of views. It

77:09

could be collaborated with X, Y, and Z

77:13

institutions.

77:14

It just needs to be enough for the

77:17

reader to see some value in what you're

77:19

doing. Then the body of the email is

77:22

three paragraphs, very short paragraphs.

77:25

In fact, three blocks of two sentences

77:27

each. I wouldn't even call it a

77:28

paragraph. The first paragraph is

77:32

One sentence about who you are and your

77:35

legitimacy has to be encompassed in one

77:37

sentence. Hi, my name is Michelle K. I'm

77:40

a content creator with this many

77:41

followers

77:43

and I've done this, this, and this. It's

77:46

very succinctly proving your value.

77:49

Second sentence of that first paragraph,

77:51

what are you asking for or offering to

77:55

the other person? And ideally, you're

77:57

doing both. You're you're offering

77:59

something. Second sentence of that email

78:01

to the FBI would be, "I'm reaching out

78:03

to inquire about an opportunity

78:06

to film a collaboration

78:09

for my channels."

78:11

>> What you're offering there is access to

78:13

our audience

78:16

in the eyes of many of the people we

78:18

collaborate with. It's a marketing

78:19

opportunity potentially,

78:21

>> recruiting opportunity.

78:22

>> Yeah, something like that. Paragraph two

78:25

is two sentences or less of what you

78:27

want to do. This would be the details of

78:31

we're hoping to do a shoot following

78:33

just a few days of the academy embedding

78:35

in existing activities ultimately

78:39

leading up to a final scenario as

78:42

follows academy protocol. So that second

78:45

paragraph is about a window into the

78:49

vision you hope to come to together and

78:52

a peak at some of the resources you

78:54

might be asking for. And ideally, you do

78:57

it in such a way that you show you've

78:59

done your homework. You know, I'm not

79:00

just cold emailing the FBI hoping to do

79:02

a video with them. I know very clearly

79:04

I've watched everything I can online

79:06

about what does the academy take to do?

79:10

What are the activities? What are the

79:12

ones that are best for camera? So,

79:14

you're showing your

79:17

it's an opportunity to flatter them and

79:19

to to put them at ease. We speak the

79:21

same language. So, that there's that.

79:24

Paragraph three is the call to action.

79:27

Two sentences or less.

79:30

Would love to hop on the phone. Let me

79:32

know a good time. Here's my phone

79:34

number. Text me anytime. I think that's

79:37

honestly potentially the most important

79:39

part. Here's my phone number. Text me

79:41

anytime. This is an anti- Tim Ferrris

79:43

tactic potentially.

79:44

>> Not when I'm sending cold emails to to

79:47

to people who are very busy that I want

79:49

to connect with. And what that does is

79:52

say, "I'm available. I don't know you,

79:55

but here's my phone number." It

79:57

exhibits, "I'm trusting you."

79:59

>> And it says, "You don't have to respond

80:02

with a crazy detailed formal email back

80:05

to me. Hit me up anytime. We can talk on

80:07

the phone." It removes the barrier to

80:09

entry for them to have to come back to

80:11

you.

80:12

>> And then have a nice email signature.

80:14

You know

80:15

>> what is a nice email signature?

80:17

>> Just uh in a sans Sarah font. Maybe add

80:20

a little color.

80:20

>> No comic sands. I'm not kidding.

80:22

>> No comic sands. No times in your room.

80:24

Tim, it's not 2007 anymore.

80:25

>> No, I saw this photograph. I have a lot

80:28

of friends who work at Google and there

80:31

was this big like printed out sign to to

80:34

employees talking about like snacks or

80:37

things and refrigerators and it was in

80:40

comic sands and then someone else took a

80:42

marker and wrote on it. They're like,

80:44

"This is Google and it is a serious

80:46

place of work. Please do not use comic

80:48

sands. I just thought it was pretty

80:50

funny because there are a lot of people

80:53

with high IQ at Google who may not have

80:55

the social graces, but I have to agree

80:57

on comic sands. So, let me say a few

80:59

things about this email.

81:00

>> Okay,

81:01

>> I in some ways owe my entire career as

81:04

it is to cold emails. And what you learn

81:10

in crafting

81:12

cold emails is directly translatable to

81:17

in person and talking to people. In a

81:19

way, it's the same thing. There are some

81:20

differences, but I want to highlight a

81:22

couple of things that you just said.

81:24

Number one, including your cell phone.

81:26

>> Mhm.

81:26

>> I am shocked by how many emails I get

81:30

that are actually somewhat interesting.

81:31

they get surfaced by my team because I

81:33

have people who triage my email

81:36

that do not have a phone number and I'm

81:38

like I don't have time to have a bunch

81:40

of my team does not have time to do a

81:42

bunch of back and forth to figure out a

81:44

time to talk even though you didn't even

81:46

offer a time to talk and blah blah blah

81:49

blah blah blah blah

81:51

archive like I just don't have time for

81:53

it like this seems interesting but it's

81:55

not definitively interesting if you gave

81:58

a cell phone I would figure out a way to

82:00

maybe call you and for five minutes. I'd

82:02

be like, I have three quick questions.

82:03

Interesting. But like this is it, five

82:05

minutes.

82:06

>> And in a friendly way, obviously, it's

82:08

like include if it's important to you,

82:10

include your cell phone.

82:11

>> And I think it's important to include

82:12

it. This is just me personally as the

82:15

final sentence of the email, not tucked

82:17

under your name. No,

82:18

>> you want to truly invite them.

82:20

>> Make it explicit. 100% agreed.

82:23

>> So, I want to just mention a couple of

82:26

direct parallels between what you just

82:28

mentioned is this formula. And if you're

82:30

open to it, maybe we could share like a

82:32

few examples or a template of

82:35

>> a downloadable PDF on Tim. Blog.

82:37

>> Well, exactly. PDF for a blog post or

82:39

something or like show notes just so

82:40

people can actually see it.

82:42

>> Yes, of course.

82:42

>> And I will just draw a few parallels.

82:45

So, number one, you need credibility up

82:47

front. And one way to think about this,

82:49

and I I always if I'm thinking about

82:51

reaching out to someone who's above my

82:52

pay grade, and trust me, there's I mean

82:54

there are plenty of people who are way

82:56

above my pay grade. The first thing in

82:58

the subject line, I'll give a tip that I

83:00

sometimes use. So, let's just say that

83:03

who knows. All right, somebody knows,

83:06

you know, Mr. Beast or Tom Cruz or

83:09

whoever it might be. Now, practically

83:11

speaking, everything's going to have to

83:13

get routed through someone else for Tom

83:14

Cruz. And if you do get their personal

83:17

information, they're going to be very

83:18

annoyed. Um, so, but where I'll start

83:21

with the subject line is one of two

83:24

places or both. So you mentioned like

83:26

the credibility indicator in the

83:28

subject, right? I'll use that. But if we

83:31

actually have someone in common who

83:34

actually recommended I connect,

83:36

>> but they haven't made the intro, I will

83:38

say for instance,

83:40

it would be again just to use the Tom

83:42

Cruz example, who I think would make an

83:44

amazing interview, but like for Tom Cruz

83:47

via

83:49

mutual connection,

83:50

>> oo,

83:51

>> Tim Ferrris, whatever the credibility

83:53

indicator is, right? So I will mention

83:56

the mutual connection first because

83:57

subject lines often get truncated on

84:00

mobile or elsewhere.

84:01

>> So if they just see for Tom Cruz from

84:04

Tim Ferris is going to be like who the

84:05

[ __ ] is Tim Ferrris archive.

84:07

>> They see the name they know

84:08

>> if it's for Tom or for Tom Cruz via

84:12

person who actually made the suggestion

84:14

and then my name you have a huge

84:17

advantage because chances are it's going

84:19

to get truncated. I love the via I've

84:22

done referral from X and then my stuff

84:25

after, but I like the via because it

84:27

doesn't necessarily mean that they're

84:29

going to have to vet and call that

84:31

person up, you know.

84:32

>> Yeah, exactly. Well, that brings up

84:34

another point, which is if you're going

84:35

to mention mutual connections and I'm

84:37

shocked by how many people violate this.

84:40

You better actually know, assume the

84:43

person you're emailing is going to

84:44

immediately text those people

84:46

>> and they will.

84:47

>> And I certainly will. And I would say

84:49

nine times out of 10 that person's like

84:51

either I have no idea who that person is

84:52

or I met that person once and we shook

84:55

hands at a party. I don't know them at

84:56

all. And I'm like you're gone. You just

84:59

misrepresented implicitly or explicitly.

85:03

>> But when I'm writing an email, right,

85:04

I'll have that subject line. If there is

85:05

a via I'll include that name and with

85:07

and the subject line I'll keep as short

85:09

as possible. Then the always default to

85:13

Mr. or Mrs. or Ms. something like

85:15

something that I really appreciate about

85:17

you because it doesn't cost anything is

85:20

you are very default polite and even

85:23

though it makes me feel like an old

85:24

bastard, you said you were like yes sir

85:26

and you used sir with me a couple times

85:28

when you came in and it's no but you're

85:30

always better off being on the safe side

85:34

and I am consistently surprised and

85:37

maybe this just makes me a salty

85:39

crotchety

85:41

>> old bastard but when people are

85:44

Hey, hey, Tim. Yo, bro. Yo, Ferris or

85:48

whatever. I'm just like, did we go to

85:50

pizza?

85:50

>> Someone says, "Yo, Ferris."

85:51

>> I've got so many guys, it's always guys

85:54

who think that that bro, it could be

85:57

anything, but they think that like

85:58

shoulder slapping immediate camaraderie

86:01

is helpful. I will say that's a very

86:03

risky gambit. Maybe it works one out of

86:05

10 times. In my case, I'm just like

86:08

>> this is a liability, right? Because

86:10

here's how I think about it is I'm like,

86:11

well, even if it doesn't bother me, that

86:14

shows a general lack of awareness. And

86:16

if they're going to ask me to connect

86:18

them with someone or they're going to

86:20

work with anyone who I care about and

86:22

they pull that

86:23

>> Mhm.

86:24

>> it's a reputational risk. And so most of

86:27

the time that's going to be an auto

86:28

archive. It's going to be like, you know

86:30

what, like the people you're reaching

86:33

out to, if they're really busy and if

86:36

they're well known enough that you think

86:38

to email them have more opportunities

86:40

than they can even look at.

86:42

>> So your your job number one is don't do

86:44

anything stupid.

86:46

Don't don't do anything that's going to

86:47

disqualify your email.

86:49

>> And the yo fairest of it all emotionally

86:52

feels as if a stranger is coming up to

86:54

you at the airport and giving you a hug.

86:56

Whoa, wait, who are you? What? Like

86:58

that's what it feels like. Just another

87:00

pro tip, this because we're in Austin

87:01

and this is like kind of man bun baggy

87:05

pants slash like Bitcoin Iaska CrossFit

87:08

Central is like don't just walk up to

87:11

someone you don't know and say after

87:13

they offer a hand, oh I'm a hugger and

87:15

just go for the hug. Don't do that. Like

87:18

just really don't do that.

87:19

>> Like assume you're in Japan and they're

87:22

going to strike you down with a sword if

87:23

you do that. Like the person who wants

87:25

the most distance wins that

87:27

conversation. It's kind of like skiing

87:29

in the back country with avalanche risk

87:30

or something. Whoever's the most

87:32

concerned gets to veto. But let's come

87:34

back to the cold email. So we've got the

87:36

subject line, different subject lines

87:37

for different purposes. In the first

87:40

line, it's going to be credibility

87:41

indicator. All right. Couple of points

87:44

on this, right? So you've got like your

87:46

credibility indicator in the subject

87:48

line potentially also which I will also

87:50

do,

87:52

you know, be like for interview

87:54

parenthesis 1 billion plus downloads,

87:56

right? In the case of the podcast,

87:57

right? something like that,

87:58

>> right? And I'll note for if you don't

88:00

have a billion downloads or millions of

88:03

followers, in the beginning for me, it

88:05

was examples of the work. Yeah.

88:08

>> That would at least show I've I've done

88:10

my homework.

88:11

>> No one's watched this, but it looks

88:13

really really good and it's it

88:15

beautifully edited.

88:16

>> Yeah. So, I am going to come back and

88:18

ask you about just to plant the seed,

88:20

the mentors in the very early days when

88:23

you didn't really have

88:24

>> much, right? Like what that email looked

88:26

like. We're going to come back to that.

88:29

>> I'll give my example. When I first got

88:31

to Silicon Valley, I volunteered for

88:33

organizations that had name cache. So I

88:36

volunteered for, for instance, Tai, the

88:39

indis entrepreneur last time, I'm sure

88:42

people checked. I'm not Indian but Thai

88:46

super wellknown at the time maybe still

88:49

entrepreneurial organization like the

88:51

per capita density in the kind of Indian

88:54

diaspora in Silicon Valley with talent

88:56

is [ __ ] bananas

88:57

>> shout out those people

88:59

>> exactly and u so I volunteered there and

89:02

then I could say I'm emailing someone in

89:05

tech and it would be for so and so via

89:09

Tai or the indis entrepreneur and I

89:11

wouldn't even put my name cuz who the

89:12

hell am I? And that gets the email open.

89:16

So, I would volunteer and then do things

89:18

on behalf of the nonprofit as a way of

89:20

establishing some kind of relationship.

89:22

Ideally, inviting them to speak or

89:23

something like that.

89:24

>> All for free, by the way. Right. Like

89:27

some of the highest paying jobs you'll

89:29

ever get, you don't get paid for in the

89:31

beginning in my opinion.

89:32

>> I love that.

89:33

>> It does pay in dividends ways you don't

89:35

expect.

89:36

>> Yeah. I did that and ultimately had for

89:39

instance Jack Canfield who co-created

89:41

Chicken Soup for the Soul which has sold

89:42

hundreds and hundreds of millions of

89:44

copies and then they ultimately sold as

89:46

a franchise. But I met him through an

89:48

email like that from the Silicon Valley

89:50

Association of Startup Entrepreneurs and

89:53

we are still friends to this day 25

89:56

years later or whatever it is. And he's

89:58

the one who introduced me to the agent

90:00

who ultimately sold the 4-hour work week

90:02

after like 26 rejections. So long-term

90:06

greedy, not short-term greedy, right?

90:08

Like you don't need to be paid upfront

90:09

for something that will ultimately be

90:11

very very

90:13

>> important to your life, right? To the

90:15

email for the credibility indicator. And

90:17

guys, we'll give some templates just so

90:19

you don't have to piece this together in

90:20

like a momento fashion, but I like to

90:23

and I suggest include some text that

90:26

establishes who you are. If someone

90:29

says, "Hey, here I am, Link, and like a

90:34

sketchy attachment." I'm like, "I don't

90:36

have time to go on some scavenger hunt

90:39

to figure out who you are." Right? So,

90:43

include a line or two on who the hell

90:45

you are. Do you know what I mean?

90:47

>> Yes.

90:47

>> Don't require them to like click through

90:49

and find this, this, and this, and this,

90:51

and this, and this.

90:52

>> A hyperl here.

90:54

>> Uh-uh.

90:54

>> Yeah. It's not enough.

90:55

>> You know what I mean? When it's like

90:56

click here. No, it should be and I've

91:00

done this thing. Hyp hyperlink the and

91:02

I've done this thing.

91:04

>> Exactly.

91:04

>> So if I want to learn more

91:05

>> Yeah. And just to give people some intel

91:08

on that,

91:10

one reason for that is that it just

91:13

takes more time for someone and any you

91:16

need to remove the reasons for them to

91:17

say no. And you might think to yourself

91:19

like who the hell doesn't have 30

91:22

seconds or a minute to click through.

91:23

And I'm like somebody who gets a

91:24

thousand email a day. That's answer

91:27

number one. Number two, anyone who is

91:29

reasonably wellknown has a lot of

91:31

fishing attacks. Like they have people

91:33

from different vectors who are trying to

91:34

get them to click on links that are very

91:36

dangerous

91:37

>> and intended to to steal information or

91:40

set the team up for social engineering.

91:42

So

91:43

>> I have been a recipient of a false

91:45

you're invited to the Tim Ferrris

91:46

podcast email.

91:48

>> Oh yeah, those that's a very clever

91:50

scam. Do you know how that works?

91:52

>> No.

91:52

>> Okay. So, how that works? This is

91:54

because these are still going around. I

91:56

think the jig is up because people have

91:58

realized most of these are fake. But, so

92:00

I'm guessing the email was like, "We

92:02

place people or we're inviting you on

92:03

the show." Either if they're not very

92:06

sophisticated, they'll be like, "It

92:07

costs this much to go on the show." And

92:09

then anyone who knows me should be like,

92:11

"That doesn't sound right." But there's

92:12

there's kind of like this payforplay

92:14

thing which most people will sniff out.

92:16

The other one is let's get on a Zoom

92:18

call and discuss. And what happens is

92:21

you get on a Zoom call and they somehow

92:24

figure out a way to get you to provide

92:28

basically screen access, not just

92:31

sharing screen, but screen access. And

92:34

they'll take you to your Facebook page

92:35

or something like that and they will

92:38

hijack your Facebook page, then use it

92:40

to promote like a crypto scam on a large

92:42

page and then hold that for ransom also

92:45

to get money from you. So, this is just

92:48

a way of saying guys include some

92:50

[ __ ] text. Um, right. And then to

92:53

your point again, like be very clear

92:54

about the ask.

92:56

>> The number of emails I get that is like

92:58

even if they establish, hey, I'm like

93:00

credible, but I'm not like, you know, a

93:04

president or the CEO of a Fortune50

93:07

company. It's like if if they're like,

93:09

okay, this might be kind of interesting,

93:11

right? If it's like Rick Rubin who's,

93:13

you know, I did his first interview on a

93:15

podcast ever in his sauna, but it's like

93:17

if you're like, "Oh, it's [ __ ] Rick

93:18

Rubin." And he's like, "Hey, let's jump

93:19

on the phone." You're like, "Yeah, of

93:20

course. Okay, fine. As long as I can

93:21

confirm that's who the person is,

93:23

>> right?"

93:23

>> But otherwise, assuming that you who's

93:25

cold emailing is not Rick Rubin, which

93:27

is likely, then be clear about your ask,

93:31

right? If it's like, "Would love to

93:32

discuss something vague. Let's hop on

93:34

the phone to discuss how's next Tuesday

93:35

at 2 p.m." I'm never going to respond to

93:37

that, right? Because if you can't write

93:40

a professional first cold email, I'm

93:42

skeptical of everything that's going to

93:44

follow. Right. Right. You're not placing

93:46

a value on the recipient's time

93:50

that you've thought through. Does that

93:51

make sense? So, it's like be really

93:54

clear in the ask. And then when I close,

93:57

again, to your point, right? Make your

93:59

cell phone. And by the way, you can use

94:00

a burner or you can use Google Voice.

94:02

You can spin up a Google Voice number

94:04

very easily from any G Suite, etc., etc.

94:07

But have a number, right, where somebody

94:09

can reach you. Do not just bury it in

94:10

your signature. Make it explicitly

94:12

clear. Feel free to text me anytime.

94:15

>> Right. We can schedule or just feel free

94:18

to hop on the phone. I promise it will

94:19

not take more than 10 minutes. By the

94:20

way, if you say that, do not go over 10

94:22

minutes.

94:23

>> Yeah.

94:23

>> And then I'll almost always say,

94:28

if you've read this far, I really

94:30

appreciate it. And if you're too busy to

94:32

get back to me, I totally understand.

94:33

>> Okay, that's a great learning. I'm going

94:35

to add that.

94:36

love that.

94:37

>> And by displaying as little or zero

94:42

entitlement as possible, you get a much

94:46

higher response rate. Why? Because your

94:49

cold email is an audition for everything

94:51

else to come. So, if you're like,

94:53

"Here's this vague email. How about next

94:56

Tuesday or Thursday at 2 p.m." It's

94:58

like, "Bro, slow down." Like, you're

95:00

humping my leg already. We haven't even

95:02

established who you are or what you

95:04

want. And that reflects a certain lack

95:08

of awareness and kind of business savvy

95:12

that is going to be a problem later,

95:13

right? That's kind of how the train of

95:15

thought goes. And that's it. Here's

95:17

another pro tip. If you send that email,

95:19

do not follow up two days later with

95:22

bumping this up and then do that two

95:23

days later bumping this up. You get to

95:25

do that once.

95:26

>> I think it's got to be at least a week.

95:28

>> Yeah. You got to wait and you're allowed

95:30

to do it once and then just assume

95:31

they're not interested. And that's okay.

95:34

move on. World is full of great people

95:37

and if people are not responding to your

95:40

email, it's probably common denominator

95:43

or problem with the email.

95:45

You know what I mean? So, in the

95:47

beginning when you're reaching out to

95:48

mentors, you ju, you know, you just quit

95:50

your job.

95:51

>> Yes.

95:52

>> What are you saying in the email?

95:54

>> Here, here's an example. I sent a cold

95:57

email to Hank Green who is

96:01

>> just one of the great

96:02

>> describe describe who Hank Green is.

96:03

>> Hank Green is if sunshine and joy and a

96:08

human encyclopedia were bundled into one

96:11

person. Just one of the smartest,

96:12

coolest, groundbreaking people,

96:16

especially in the YouTube world ever. He

96:18

came and gave a talk at Buzzfeed once

96:21

when I worked there. And maybe this was

96:24

while I was still working there or

96:26

shortly after I left, I sent him an

96:28

email. And this is actually a counter to

96:30

everything we've discussed. I wasn't

96:32

explicitly reaching out about a a

96:34

business idea or anything or trying to

96:36

get something from him, but I wanted to

96:39

get to know him. And so I sent him an

96:41

email

96:43

saying that I'm learning as I consider

96:47

pursuing my own creative endeavor. And

96:49

I'm curious,

96:51

what was the most

96:54

formative pinpoint for you as a child to

96:58

pursue this profession? And it's just a

97:01

fun question. Honestly, there's not much

97:04

strategy here. And he sent back a

97:06

multi-page answer. And I think he

97:09

>> What was your subject line? Do you

97:10

remember?

97:11

>> What was the subject line? The subject

97:12

line was hello from Michelle Caren

97:16

Buzzfeed. So using the the title of some

97:19

some form of legitimacy, but he sent me

97:21

this multi-page

97:23

response

97:25

>> and at the end said, "Thanks for the

97:27

thoughtful question. No one's asked me

97:29

before." And so sometimes I find that

97:32

people are excited to share themselves.

97:35

And of course in him sharing that story,

97:37

I learned a lot about how I could find

97:39

creative inspiration or even find

97:42

parallels with someone who externally I

97:44

don't have a lot of overlap with.

97:47

And I think that was awesome. And now

97:49

today where I know him in a more

97:52

friendly capacity as peers in the space

97:55

is really special to have those email

97:58

like these emails like this are so crazy

98:00

to go back on. So even if you send a

98:02

cold email and never hear back, it might

98:04

make for a great story later.

98:06

>> And guess what? You're practicing your

98:09

ability to craft emails and your ability

98:11

to communicate.

98:13

And this would be like I interviewed

98:16

Brandon Sanderson, one of the most

98:17

legendary fantasy writers in the world,

98:20

who is prolific. And I think he wrote I

98:24

think it was five

98:26

books before he even attempted to

98:30

publish one.

98:30

>> He intentionally said, "I'm not

98:32

publishing my first several books."

98:33

Isn't that right?

98:34

>> That's right. That's right. I did a just

98:36

a huge romp with him. Met up at his HQ

98:39

in in Utah. fascinating, brilliant guy.

98:43

But the point is, maybe your first five

98:46

to 10 cold emails are just to improve

98:48

getting better at cold emails. And

98:53

by the way, something I did also is I

98:58

would ask people who I had not sent

99:00

those cold emails, but who are like

99:01

better known folks. I'll be like, "Hey,

99:03

would you mind taking a look at I I

99:05

would do this at events sometimes. I'd

99:06

be like, "This is going to seem like a

99:08

weird request.

99:10

Don't worry, it's not anything like

99:11

super super bizarre, but would you be

99:15

willing to critique this email? Like I

99:17

I've sent this to a couple people. You

99:19

know, I haven't gotten a response or I

99:20

only got one response. Like, how would

99:21

you change this?

99:23

>> And like that is a very concrete

99:25

question. And it's also not clearly a

99:28

question that's just setting up the

99:30

thing you actually want. Do you know

99:32

what I mean? Like cuz sometimes people

99:33

will do that via email. They'll be like,

99:35

>> "Hey, I loved your sweater. How did you

99:37

train your dog?" And then like 5 seconds

99:39

after I reply to that, they're like, "So

99:41

anyway, I was thinking of having, you

99:43

know, myself on your podcast." I'm just

99:44

like, "Oh, you asshole." Like I like

99:46

clearly you're just setting it up. So

99:48

just be aware of that.

99:50

>> You got click baited.

99:51

>> I got click baited. So a few things.

99:53

Hank Green I I don't know him

99:55

personally, but I remember seeing him at

99:57

VidCon once. And there are two things I

99:59

want to say. One is just what a sweet

100:01

guy. Seems like a really sweet human

100:03

being. Number two is you reached out

100:07

with let's say a mentoring question

100:12

>> to someone who already has demonstrated

100:15

that they mentor. Does that make sense?

100:17

>> Yes.

100:18

>> Right. So that will make your life

100:20

easier in the beginning.

100:22

>> Mhm.

100:23

>> When you're sending out these these cold

100:25

emails. The other thing is if you do get

100:27

a response from somebody, treat it

100:32

like you're not at a sex party, you are

100:35

dating someone in like the 1800s, right?

100:39

This is like Downtown Abbey. Do not

100:41

reply 5 seconds later with like, "Oh,

100:44

great. Now here are 10 more questions.

100:46

Don't do that." Right? Like

100:48

>> be patient. Like life is longful and

100:52

thoughtful. Life is long. If you want

100:53

these relationships, I mean, I will also

100:55

say you do not need to have a 100

100:57

relationships with people who are steps

101:00

ahead of you. If you actually develop

101:03

genuine,

101:05

mutually respectful

101:07

communication with a few people, in most

101:11

cases, in a lot of cases, you are set,

101:13

right? So, it's like don't be greedy.

101:15

Don't be a greedy little piglet. Don't

101:16

be in a rush. Mhm.

101:18

>> And I've certainly had to learn that by

101:21

[ __ ] that up over and over again

101:23

because I'm like constitutionally very

101:25

impatient. Like I want to get stuff done

101:26

like very quickly and some things do not

101:30

lend themselves to that. You mentioned,

101:32

you know, Snider's beats of

101:33

storytelling. I think

101:35

>> for sure.

101:36

>> Don't quiz me on that.

101:37

>> I won't I won't I won't quiz you on it.

101:39

As far as storytelling goes,

101:42

>> as far as developing like narrative

101:44

arcs, does not need to be a book, but it

101:46

could be like, are there any particular

101:48

resources you would point people to

101:50

where you're like, "Okay,

101:52

>> oh gosh,

101:52

>> I know there's like being in the

101:53

trenches and working on it and and

101:55

testing and split testing and using kind

101:58

of warm audiences in the beginning,

101:59

etc." But if you're like, "All right,

102:01

look, if you want to do something

102:03

analogous to what I'm doing on YouTube,

102:07

right? And there are other examples of

102:09

people who put put out very few videos,

102:11

right? But this sort of longer form

102:15

narrative arc storytelling. If you were

102:18

teaching a class on that, like what's

102:19

the syllabus like? What do you what do

102:21

you tell people to read or watch?"

102:22

>> Challenge accept like reality

102:25

>> docu class. Okay. Welcome to my class.

102:28

On the syllabus, we're going to be

102:30

studying a few things. First of all, I'm

102:32

going to make everyone watch Survivor

102:33

and every week we're going to discuss

102:35

it. First of all, because it's the best

102:37

ever. I'm obsessed with Jeff Probes.

102:40

>> And

102:42

I think that part of

102:45

reality doc in particular, Survivor is a

102:49

reality competition show, but there's a

102:51

lot that can be learned in doing your

102:53

own vlogs or self-filmed

102:56

human stories. They do an excellent job

103:00

at taking hundreds of hours of footage

103:03

and pulling out the story beats that

103:05

make sense. You watch an episode of

103:07

Survivor, it might feel like things are

103:10

just happening and they are, but they're

103:13

also curated from thousands and

103:16

thousands of moments, storylines that

103:17

were left on the floor. And so I think

103:20

Survivor is an amazing lesson in first

103:22

of all hosting and second of all killing

103:25

your babies in a way. We know on that

103:28

island they're out there for a month and

103:29

a half. A lot's going to happen that's

103:31

not going to make the edit. But why have

103:34

the producers chosen this storyline to

103:36

tell? Why is it engaging? Why is this

103:39

the act break for the commercial? I

103:42

think that's number one. Selfishly,

103:44

Propes is the goat. Also, sidebar,

103:48

Proped is an excellent example also of

103:52

creating defensible IP, right? Which a

103:55

lot which a lot of people don't realize.

103:57

They're like, "Oh, isn't he just the

103:58

host guy?" It's like, "No, no, no, no,

103:59

>> no. He's he's the Einstein of that

104:02

operation.

104:03

>> It's amazing." And when you watch his

104:06

hosting, it's so masterful because

104:10

he is a fan and also a researcher of the

104:16

people on the show. I mean, you see him

104:17

at tribal council. He is recounting

104:20

things that have happened decades ago.

104:22

He knows the details of the

104:24

contestants's life and he asks a

104:25

question not as a leading question, but

104:27

as a way for the contestant to open up.

104:30

I think that is incredible interviewing

104:32

and it's something that I study too. I

104:35

did a show called Karma on HBO which was

104:38

a kids survival show um produced by JD

104:42

Roth, you know, another like huge

104:44

reality legend. And again, I think

104:48

people watch these shows and and think

104:49

the hosts are just there to say lines

104:51

and deliver

104:53

information to the audience, but there

104:55

is a massive amount of research. I mean,

104:58

you have a binder of every kid's head

105:01

shot, where they're from, their family.

105:03

You're taking notes. You're sitting in

105:06

MCR, which is this trailer with hundreds

105:08

of video feeds as it's happening live,

105:11

so that when you go to meet with the

105:13

contestants, you know what things to ask

105:15

and how long to sit with them. So, I I

105:17

think that's just masterful story, not

105:19

from just a a great host, but also a

105:21

producer.

105:22

>> Okay. So, on the syllabus, you got

105:24

>> We got We're watching some reality

105:25

shows.

105:26

>> Yep. This is like Robert McKe I guess

105:29

the story seminar with like Casablanca.

105:31

He's like we're going to walk by this

105:32

second by second.

105:34

>> Exactly.

105:35

>> Look at what's going on. All right. So

105:36

So we got Survivor as one part of the

105:38

syllabus.

105:39

>> Survivor is one part of the syllabus.

105:41

>> Part two is we are going to study

105:43

Snider's Beats and we're going to study

105:46

the save the cat of it all.

105:48

>> Those two books are so good

105:50

>> and I have I have some screenwriter

105:53

friends who are like, "Yeah, they are

105:54

really good." And others were like,

105:56

"Please, no, don't don't suggest it."

105:59

I'm like, "They I you look, I haven't

106:02

practiced as much as you have or other

106:03

folks." I'm like, "These make it very

106:06

tangible,"

106:07

>> right? I think it's important to

106:09

understand

106:11

the bones of a of a story. What are the

106:14

the hills and the valleys? What is the

106:16

all is lost? And and I think a lot of

106:19

people look at that material and think

106:21

it only applies to scripted content.

106:25

But it is so important in any piece of

106:28

story.

106:29

>> Storytelling storytelling. It

106:30

>> applies to my It applies to books. It

106:32

applies to all of it.

106:34

>> Yes. Exactly. I would even go as far to

106:36

say that a 5-second vine, if it performs

106:40

well, hits all of the pieces of a story

106:42

arc in just a few seconds. It sets a

106:44

premise. It upends it. And there's a

106:46

resolution where the character is

106:48

changed by the end. Even a video of like

106:51

a a cat leaping off something

106:55

and doing something crazy has a

106:56

beginning, middle, and end where the cat

106:59

is different at the beginning and the

107:00

end of that America's Funniest Home

107:02

video clip. And that's why we like it.

107:04

That's why we laugh. That's why we

107:06

engage with it. And so I think it's

107:08

really important to understand that.

107:10

Part three of the syllabus. Let's see. I

107:13

feel like we have to have three parts of

107:14

the syllabus. The third part of the

107:16

syllabus would be an area of the class

107:20

where everyone brings a piece of work

107:24

released online within the last week

107:25

that impacted them. This would be the

107:28

assess and dissect portion of the class.

107:31

Why did this YouTube video speak to you?

107:34

Oh, well, I I just wanted to learn about

107:36

how the Corona virus spread originally

107:38

and I saw this video on Kisagot.

107:41

Okay, but let's break it down. What was

107:43

interesting? What what was the title?

107:44

What was the thumbnail? What why did

107:46

this Tik Tok speak to you? Why did it

107:48

stand out? And I would want people to

107:50

bring things that performed well or

107:52

didn't so we can understand resonance.

107:56

As you mentioned earlier, attention is

107:58

such a very very valuable and finite and

108:03

rare resource these days that I would

108:06

want a discussion component of of the

108:08

class to talk about relevant impact in

108:11

recent media. So, that would be the

108:13

wackiest class ever, but that's what

108:15

we'd be doing.

108:16

>> If you had,

108:20

and I know we're doing this on the fly,

108:22

but

108:23

>> let's just say

108:26

project assignments, right? And I'll buy

108:28

you some time because I'm going to

108:29

>> drink some water.

108:30

>> I know this is on the spot, but

108:32

>> the most formative writing class that I

108:34

took, and I really only took one

108:38

seminar ever focused on writing. I got

108:40

very lucky in college. But we there were

108:44

two components to the class. There there

108:47

were these once-weekly lectures

108:50

two or three hours long, pretty long on

108:53

writing with a tremendous focus on

108:56

structure primarily.

108:59

And then

109:01

there were reviews of work that we had

109:05

already submitted. So each week we had a

109:08

writing assignment

109:09

and typically in the range like three to

109:13

10 pages, but let's just call it three

109:15

to five pages.

109:17

And you would you would write your

109:19

piece. Then you would sort of submit it

109:23

at the beginning of of the lecture. Then

109:26

you would have a one-on-one with the

109:28

professor, in this case, John McY. If

109:30

people haven't read John McY, they

109:32

should. Just tremendous. If you want to

109:34

read something short, Levels of the Game

109:36

is incredible.

109:38

He's won one or two Peele surprises.

109:40

Just a phenomenal writer, can make

109:42

anything interesting. And wrote an

109:44

entire book on oranges, for instance.

109:46

Another one on handcarved wooden canoes

109:49

and another one on the geology and

109:53

nature of Alaska. I mean, the guy,

109:55

>> wow,

109:56

>> is just incredible. The levels of the

109:57

game is is about basically the entire

109:59

game of tennis, but told through the

110:00

lens of one match involving Arthur Ash.

110:03

So, we had the lecture, then we have

110:04

these writing assignments. You turn in

110:06

whatever your new assignment is at the

110:08

beginning of each of the lectures, and

110:10

then you have your one-on-one with

110:12

Professor MCI. He gives you back your

110:16

printed out writing, which typically

110:18

will have, at least in the be in the

110:20

first few weeks, more red ink from his

110:23

edits and notes than what you put on the

110:26

page. It is brutal. Brutal, but

110:30

incredibly

110:31

>> helpful. Okay, so you've got these

110:33

writing assignments and the writing

110:34

assignments are all over the place, but

110:37

it might be something as seemingly

110:40

simple slash difficult as find us find a

110:43

sculpture on campus and write three to

110:46

five pages on it. And we're like, can

110:48

you give us any more direction? He's

110:50

like, no.

110:51

>> Oh my god.

110:52

>> So everybody would take a slightly

110:54

different approach because you're like,

110:55

wait a second. Should I write about the

110:56

history? Should I write about the

110:57

subjective experience? should I write

110:59

about? Uh oh. But no matter what I do, I

111:02

have to think about kind of structure

111:03

and some of the points that he's made in

111:04

class.

111:06

And then at the end of the seminar

111:09

lecture,

111:11

we would share our work, right? And so

111:13

we would we would actually read out loud

111:15

some of our work

111:16

>> after the revisions have been applied

111:18

from him.

111:19

>> No. So I guess I'll probably scram the

111:21

chronology a little bit in the lecture.

111:22

We would read something that has not yet

111:24

been corrected and then subject it to

111:27

peer review,

111:28

>> right?

111:29

>> Yeah.

111:29

>> And get his comments. So there were a

111:33

couple of different ingredients and he's

111:34

taught this. He doesn't teach it any

111:36

longer but taught it for 15 20 years

111:39

very infrequently like once every year

111:40

or two. So I got very lucky. So this is

111:42

a very roundabout way of asking if there

111:47

were like an assignment component.

111:49

>> Mhm. or people are doing their own work.

111:52

What are perhaps some of the things you

111:54

would have them do?

111:55

>> The assignment component of the class

111:56

would be making the content.

112:00

>> Yeah.

112:00

>> So, I would require all of the students

112:02

to make an account if they don't already

112:05

have one on some platform.

112:07

>> And at the beginning of the class, I

112:08

would want them to set and define the

112:11

type of content. I would want them to

112:13

define why is this uniquely yours? How

112:17

is this different from what other people

112:19

have done? And then at the same time,

112:21

how is this databacked by what other

112:23

people have done? And then from there, I

112:25

would require them to actually make and

112:27

produce videos. If this if the purpose

112:30

of the class is become a YouTuber, let's

112:33

say,

112:33

>> I would ask them to to make and produce

112:35

the videos weekly and actually post them

112:39

so that we could do some peer review of

112:41

course, but then actually see how does

112:43

it play live in the world. We would I

112:46

would also want them to do data analysis

112:48

at the end and try to make educated

112:51

guesses on why it something did or

112:53

didn't perform well and receive critique

112:57

and feedback not just on the data and

113:00

performance but specifically the work

113:02

itself. Why did this introduction work

113:04

or not work? How could the technique be

113:06

improved next time?

113:08

>> You know, I was thinking it could also

113:09

be fun. And you'd have to have a pretty

113:10

small class to make this work. But

113:12

assuming the videos are short and

113:14

they're doing it weekly, like have them

113:16

show the videos in class and then make

113:18

predictions like what is your

113:19

hypothesis. You know what I mean?

113:21

>> Like you can invest in videos.

113:23

>> Yeah. And then they can choose to like

113:25

modify the video or not based on kind of

113:28

feedback or your thoughts or something.

113:29

You obviously want to let them learn

113:31

their own lessons. I think that would be

113:32

a a good way of refining kind of the

113:35

thinking process.

113:36

>> Someone's got to teach this class.

113:38

You are infinitely. You actually made

113:41

this whole format work. So I think it's

113:44

you

113:44

>> only if you're a guest lecturer.

113:46

>> Sure. I mean guest lectures like all the

113:49

fun with none of the heavy lifting. So

113:52

I'm I'm very much into that.

113:54

>> I want to mention two books and I'm

113:57

curious if if they're still relevant

114:00

>> because they came up in doing research

114:02

for this conversation. Radical Cander by

114:04

Kim Scott and The Six Thinking Hats by

114:07

Edward Dabono. Do either of these ring a

114:09

bell?

114:09

>> Yeah, of course.

114:10

>> Okay. All right. Got it. So,

114:11

>> my boy Edward with his hats.

114:13

>> Yeah, there you go.

114:14

>> Um,

114:16

>> so how did these both factor in? Because

114:18

these were these were basically the two

114:20

books that I was able to find mentioned

114:21

by title. Some of them I think were

114:25

mentioned by people you work with and

114:29

not directly

114:31

>> or maybe Garrett mentioned the mono

114:33

hats. The six thinking hats. I don't

114:36

even remember where I learned or heard

114:38

of this concept or

114:40

>> Oh, I actually think this was Jodie.

114:43

>> This was shout out Jod therapist.

114:44

>> Jody Jod puts me on all the great books.

114:47

I was coming to her talking about just

114:50

various problems I was facing and and

114:53

she told me of this concept of the six

114:55

thinking hats and effectively I'm I

114:58

might butcher this but it is a way of

115:01

looking at a problem by filtering only

115:06

by thinking type. So for example, we're

115:09

going to put on a yellow hat and look at

115:12

this potential idea. And the yellow hat

115:15

means we're only going to say things

115:17

that could go well by pursuing this

115:20

idea. Versus when we put on our black

115:23

hat, that is we're saying all of the

115:25

things that could go completely wrong.

115:26

And it's six different techniques of

115:29

being able to assess and determine if an

115:33

idea is good or or how to solve a

115:35

problem. That thinking was really

115:38

helpful to me as someone who often prior

115:42

to understanding this would immediately

115:43

go to black hat. And this is coming from

115:46

the mentality of everything's going to

115:47

go wrong. I'm going to fail at

115:49

everything. I'm a person who growing up

115:52

always defaulted to black hat. No, no,

115:55

no, no, no. It's not going to work. That

115:56

doesn't inspire creativity. That does

115:59

not inspire entrepreneurship. It also

116:02

gives an unfair shot to an idea that

116:05

respspun

116:07

may provide a new idea altogether. I

116:10

think this is also something I learned

116:12

from a design thinking class. I I might

116:15

be crossing my wires here, but another

116:17

class I took at Dartmouth was design

116:19

thinking where similar to your writing

116:21

class, it was an engineering class where

116:24

every week we would have some wacky

116:26

assignment like the professor would give

116:28

us each a sheet of poster board and say,

116:32

"Next weekend you come to class, it has

116:34

to be a chair. Turn this poster board

116:37

into a chair that supports your body

116:39

type. You can't use any glue, any

116:42

scissors, any other

116:44

structural components. You can make cuts

116:46

to it and and shape it, but that's it.

116:50

And it has to support your body weight.

116:51

And that class taught me a ton about,

116:54

you know, myself before that class would

116:56

look at that and say, "Not possible. Why

116:57

am I even trying it?" And he, Professor

117:01

Roby really forced us to think

117:03

critically through how could something

117:05

be possible. So that uh concept of the

117:08

six hats is really impactful to me.

117:11

>> Let's pause there for a second because

117:12

this book, believe it or not, was

117:15

incredibly helpful to me

117:18

>> really

117:18

>> in my first few years of building my

117:22

first business and trying to figure out

117:25

what I might be good at. But also as a

117:28

solo operator effectively had lots of

117:31

contractors but as a as a solo operator

117:34

for the most part

117:37

effectively turning myself into a

117:40

virtual

117:42

board of directors with different

117:43

perspectives by using these different

117:45

hats because I also default to black hat

117:48

which I think has its place right part

117:50

of the part of the genius of this

117:52

approach is you're not saying oh that's

117:55

negative thinking saying, "Shame on you.

117:58

Let's only look at the bright side." No,

118:00

it's saying there's a place it's saying

118:02

there's a place for that,

118:03

>> but there's going to be a set time for

118:05

it, and we're going to go through each

118:07

of these six. I haven't read it in

118:09

decades, but Edward Dabono, six thinking

118:12

hats. He also had, I believe, a book

118:14

called Lateral Thinking, which I found

118:16

helpful. I don't know how those would

118:17

age for me if I read them now. Right.

118:20

Sometimes it's like I'm like, "Oh god,

118:22

you haven't seen this movie I haven't

118:23

seen in 20 years. Let's watch it." And

118:24

within 10 minutes I'm like, "Oh god,

118:25

this is not as good as I remember."

118:28

There are definitely others like,

118:30

well, it's very unPC, but Airplane and

118:32

others that actually do age.

118:34

>> I'm trying to remember what the other

118:35

hats are. I haven't like looked at this

118:38

in such a long time because I feel like

118:39

we just sort of

118:40

>> I can't recall what the specifics are. I

118:42

mean, if I had to guess, I'm imagining

118:44

one is like analytical by the numbers

118:46

and one is like emotional. I mean, I'm

118:48

imagining there's probably some version

118:50

of that,

118:51

>> but it is I it stuck out to me because I

118:53

was like, that's really interesting that

118:56

>> this book, which not a lot of people

118:58

reference,

118:59

>> actually also popped up in both of our

119:01

timelines professionally. That's super

119:04

interesting. All right. Radical Cander.

119:06

>> Okay. Kim Scott.

119:10

It's like Tim, Adam Grant, Kim Scott.

119:14

These are like Mount Rushmore for me.

119:16

Kim Scott, I mean, is just phenomenal. I

119:20

mean, I I thought Radical Cander, and I

119:24

know many of these works have been

119:26

critiqued and refreshed in many ways,

119:29

but her quad chart of how to

119:35

provide feedback to people was really

119:37

instrumental to me because effectively

119:39

what happened was I quit my job when I

119:43

was 23. I had never I'd never made it to

119:47

a I mean at 23 like a managerial

119:49

position in a a corporate setting. So I

119:51

never had any manager training.

119:53

>> Could you give an example of how Kim's

119:56

teaching or frameworks look when applied

120:00

like for an example?

120:01

>> Yes. So Kim talks about four types of

120:06

management and giving feedback to

120:08

people. And the quadrant I identify with

120:11

the most is ruinous empathy, which is

120:14

the idea of you are so nice to everyone

120:17

around you that when you need to give

120:20

critical feedback to someone, they might

120:22

leave the meeting feeling like, wait, am

120:24

I actually doing great? I I don't know

120:27

because you're sandwiching compliments

120:29

in in or downplaying the critique and

120:32

you're not direct enough. And so

120:34

transforming that into radical cander is

120:38

about being more direct with feedback.

120:41

And so some of the things that Kim has

120:43

helped me very applicably work through

120:47

are workshopping

120:49

giving critical feedback to people and

120:52

hearing live feedback from her on cut

120:55

off that sentence that's fluff you know

120:58

like that is so so amazing. I think an

121:01

applicable setting here or an example of

121:05

this would be let's say we have a

121:09

collaborator on set who's very very good

121:12

at what they do but they don't

121:16

compliment or uplift other people when

121:19

they do a great job.

121:20

>> Got it. So good good at execution maybe

121:24

a little prickly around the edges. just

121:26

a little prickly or internally they're

121:29

thinking that person is doing a great

121:31

job but they're not vocalizing it.

121:32

>> I see. Got it.

121:33

>> And so it creates an environment on set

121:35

where everyone's like, "Oh, does this

121:36

person not like what I'm doing?" So

121:40

stepping in as a manager, the feedback,

121:43

it's a tough piece of feedback because

121:44

how do you say, "Dude, I just need you

121:47

to go out of your way and provide

121:49

positive feedback to people." And it can

121:51

be as simple as that. But what Kim has

121:54

taught me in that in in this specific

121:56

situation is communication exists on two

122:00

wavelengths.

122:01

It is

122:04

first of all the wavelength of

122:07

communicating the need the the tactical

122:10

information but there's another

122:11

wavelength that's equally as important

122:12

which is the emotional component. And so

122:16

being able to define that with that

122:18

person and say, "Hey, you're doing a

122:21

great job communicating, but there's an

122:23

emotional side you're completely missing

122:24

that's actually really important to that

122:27

communication

122:29

was really helpful because it provided

122:33

necessary value to that action for that

122:36

person rather than just like, so I got

122:38

to like tell people they're doing a good

122:40

job. Like I got to take an hour out of

122:42

my day and send nice emails." giving

122:43

them the why as

122:45

>> Exactly. Exactly.

122:46

>> This could include full-time

122:49

and contractors. What is your org chart

122:52

look like, so to speak? What does the

122:53

team?

122:54

>> Yes. I mean, I I remember reading 4-hour

122:56

work week and and the whole virtual

122:58

assistant chapter blew my mind. So, we

123:00

do have someone in Singapore.

123:02

>> Yeah.

123:03

>> Which is funny. Our internal team

123:04

full-time is intentionally tight.

123:08

>> It's seven full-time staff. So that is

123:11

myself, Garrett who's the chief creative

123:13

officer, Nick, head of production,

123:17

three editors,

123:19

and an assistant for me.

123:23

But we have what I call a slinky

123:25

operation where that's where it is when

123:28

it's tight. But when we get ready to do

123:31

a big project, it balloons up very

123:33

quickly. But what's cool is all of the

123:36

people that are on on the internal team

123:39

are department heads. So when it's time

123:41

to recreate the Mission Impossible

123:44

stunt, each of us know how to staff up

123:48

camera team of seven people, stunt team

123:51

of six people, and build that out to a

123:54

team of 50 who come in to do that one

123:56

specific project, and then we slink you

123:58

back down. and your head of production

124:00

would be responsible for the like

124:03

scoping and finding and hiring of those

124:06

people.

124:06

>> Sometimes

124:08

also just within our entire team, we're

124:11

all very connected and embedded in the

124:13

industry. So the team I just mentioned

124:15

is pretty much half people from the

124:18

traditional entertainment world. Nick,

124:21

for example, the head of production,

124:23

came from working at Broadway Video

124:25

under Lauren Michaels and did Taco Bell

124:28

Super Bowl commercials. So, he

124:30

understands feature film, high budget

124:34

commercial world. Then people like

124:36

myself or our editor Ryan Gonzalez, we

124:41

come from the digital first world. So,

124:43

our training was at a a content studio

124:45

where it was fast output, but you know

124:48

how to do everything. And so bringing

124:51

those worlds together is a really

124:54

special and cool environment

124:55

intentionally set because that is

124:58

exactly the midpoint I want to occupy is

125:00

the bridge between the two worlds,

125:02

>> right? And I'm curious how you suppose

125:06

the sort of context behind my question

125:07

is how you separate responsibilities in

125:10

a sense with the understanding that on a

125:12

small team you're going to end up

125:12

wearing a lot of hats. Not to be

125:14

confused with Edward Dabono, but

125:18

when [ __ ] needs getting done, people are

125:20

going to roll up their sleeves and kind

125:21

of I imagine at that size do whatever.

125:23

But for instance, on the you could pick

125:27

the episode, right? So could be any

125:29

episode, but where do your

125:31

responsibilities say? How are they

125:33

different from chief creative officer as

125:36

one example?

125:36

>> Yes. So, we have a giant spreadsheet

125:39

called the Areas of Responsibility

125:41

Chart, which I learned from a book

125:44

called The Great CEO Within. Again, I'm

125:46

trying to learn all this Silicon Valley

125:48

management stuff on my own. I even like

125:51

called my YouTube partner manager and I

125:53

was like, "Can I please sit in on the

125:56

YouTube corporate management training

125:58

the next time it happens?" And she said

126:01

I couldn't. So, I'm trying to piece meal

126:03

it all for myself and learn from people

126:05

like you and Kim. But in that book, it

126:08

it details actually making a giant chart

126:13

that outlines every single action that

126:16

the company takes. And this can go from

126:21

in our case something as big as decides

126:25

if brand deal is worth taking

126:29

all the way down to takes out the trash.

126:32

>> Who is going to be doing all these

126:34

things? So this this is I think hundreds

126:37

of responsibilities.

126:38

>> So what would be some just so I

126:40

understand because it's not a role that

126:41

I'm familiar with like chief creative

126:43

officer. So for chief creative officer

126:45

in this chart for Garrett that includes

126:49

so Garrett Garrett's role as a whole

126:51

within the company is to define the

126:54

creative tone and thesis of everything

126:57

that we do. So he is overseeing story

127:01

for each of the episodes. He's directing

127:03

the episodes and post. But he's also

127:06

making sure that if we're updating our

127:08

brand book or we're having our Emmys for

127:11

your consideration event in a couple

127:13

weeks, he is going through all of the

127:14

marketing materials and confirming yes,

127:17

this fits

127:18

>> the tone and the style of challenge

127:20

accepted. This tells one cohesive story.

127:23

What we don't want is a channel or a

127:26

show that is chaoticed

127:30

or

127:30

>> Exactly. We wanted to hit a certain

127:33

level of quality of storytelling. So for

127:36

Garrett, that means on a macro level

127:38

overseeing those decisions, but also on

127:40

a micro level

127:42

approving edits and directing edits to

127:44

make sure the stories we're telling hit

127:46

that bar of excellence, too. So he's

127:48

sort of like chief creative officer and

127:51

chief storyteller in a way. And then

127:53

head of production, what percentage of

127:56

the time for head of production is spent

127:58

on

128:00

kind of in production episodes versus

128:03

pre-planning beforehand and

128:05

post-production, would you say?

128:07

>> Oh, that's hard. I would need to ask

128:09

Nick exactly, but Nick

128:12

primarily spends when we greenlight an

128:14

episode and it's we're we're now in

128:17

preparation to go shoot it, a lot of his

128:19

time is spent assembling the crew,

128:22

getting insurance permissions.

128:24

In the case of the seven marathons

128:27

project we did where we ran seven

128:29

marathons on all seven continents in one

128:31

week, he was handling all the logistics

128:34

of the local crews we were working with.

128:36

We say that as we the royal we

128:38

>> [ __ ] I mean it was it was a team effort.

128:40

It was a team effort. Many people did it

128:43

besides me.

128:44

>> Of course there is a certain level of

128:46

physical brutality.

128:47

>> I I can't I did it

128:49

>> with the help of an amazing team and

128:52

he's also figuring out permissions and

128:56

and cash flow

128:59

>> working with our branded partners. So

129:01

he's sort of touching many things more

129:04

like including head of ops in a way I

129:07

would say. So the physical operation of

129:10

the company itself

129:12

>> when you look

129:14

out three or five years and I imagine

129:17

you've thought about this because to the

129:19

best I can tell you you do like planning

129:23

uh the spreadsheets and editorial

129:25

calendars. So I imagine that you've

129:28

given this some thought, but it strikes

129:30

me that this I mean this is a very

129:32

demanding

129:34

job that you have.

129:35

>> Mhm.

129:36

>> And the company can

129:40

and the kind of strategic vision and

129:42

where you go can go in a lot of

129:44

different directions. So like three to

129:46

five years from now, what would you be

129:48

happy with in terms of what your life

129:53

and the channel looks like? And maybe

129:56

the channel is too constraining, but I'm

129:58

just wondering like 3 five years out

130:00

>> understanding a lot of things can change

130:02

technologically and otherwise, but

130:04

>> what does it look like?

130:06

>> What does it look like?

130:06

>> Yeah. You have a magic wand and you're

130:08

like

130:09

>> a magic wand

130:10

>> to some extent. I want to preserve the

130:11

option that it'll turn out this way.

130:13

Bing. Ooh. It's worth noting that I'm so

130:17

privileged to be happy now.

130:19

>> Yeah.

130:20

>> I

130:21

love what I do. I love how our industry

130:26

is evolving. I love being a part of that

130:29

evolution of when you hear the word

130:32

content creator, what that means and the

130:35

and the social expectation of what that

130:38

profession is. I'm really really proud

130:41

of and excited for the future of the

130:43

evolution of that and the convergence

130:46

specifically of traditional and digital

130:49

a future for myself. First of all, I

130:52

want to be doing this

130:54

as long as I possibly can. And I look to

130:57

people like Tom Cruz, David Blaine, Jeff

131:01

Propes, again, they're in their 50s and

131:04

60s and they have just decided they're

131:08

going to keep going. Richard Branson, he

131:11

going out there.

131:13

And I find that exciting and inspiring.

131:19

And and also I I look forward to a world

131:23

where the names of the people that I

131:25

just mentioned are all men and I look

131:27

forward to helping lengthen the list of

131:30

women who have longevity in careers like

131:32

this too.

131:34

So I think a future for me external to

131:36

the channel is participating in that

131:39

bridge, supporting legacy studios and

131:43

companies in understanding our world and

131:45

helping burgeoning creators find

131:48

inspiration and solace and a path

131:50

forward in a very seemingly nebulous

131:54

career. I love sharing with other

131:58

creators the wins and the learnings and

132:00

don't do what I did here. here's my

132:02

Google Excel spreadsheet. Skip all of

132:05

the stuff I had to learn. And so that

132:08

mentorship component of giving

132:10

trajectory and systems to younger

132:13

creators is really, really important to

132:16

me and something I'm passionate about.

132:18

In addition to having to lead by example

132:21

and practicing what I preach,

132:23

>> I look forward to the next 3 to 5 years

132:26

because I know that's the sphere of

132:29

where I'm headed. Like that's where our

132:30

arrow is headed. I don't know where the

132:32

arrow is going to land very

132:34

specifically,

132:36

but I am so excited about the ride.

132:38

>> All right, I'm going to be the detective

132:41

here for a second.

132:42

>> Oh, do you have a magnifying glass?

132:44

>> Not in a spooky way. Well, I do have my

132:45

brand new fancy spectacles,

132:48

but part of the reason I'm asking is

132:51

that

132:53

you have to make decisions around how

132:55

many episodes you pursue, how much they

132:59

overlap,

132:59

>> right? And for instance, against my

133:05

quote unquote better financial interest,

133:07

there was a point where

133:09

I had decided, well, in my best

133:11

interest, I I had realized pretty

133:13

quickly, well, I make X amount per

133:15

episode of the podcast, especially

133:17

during like the golden era of

133:20

2020 COVID and like the two or three

133:23

years that was just an absurd like

133:26

embarrassment of riches for anyone who

133:29

was doing something reasonably

133:30

defensible. At that point, I was like,

133:32

well, four is pretty easy for me to do

133:35

per month.

133:36

>> Okay.

133:36

>> Like, if I want to increase the annual

133:38

revenue of this thing, which is very

133:41

high profit margins, to do things with

133:43

the foundation and my employees and blah

133:45

blah blah blah blah blah, I can just do

133:47

two more episodes a month, easy, right?

133:49

And if I wanted to double it, I can do

133:51

eight. There are other ways you can

133:53

double it, right? And I've looked at

133:54

those levers, too. But suffice to say,

133:57

it was very self-evident to me at the

134:00

time that

134:02

it was going to be very easy to grow if

134:04

I so wanted it to grow. So I ended up at

134:06

different points doing six, seven, eight

134:09

episodes a month or doing different

134:11

types of batch recording. And then a few

134:13

things happened, right? About 2 or 3

134:15

months into doing this,

134:18

yes, there were more financial resources

134:20

to bring to bear on like the funding

134:22

science through the foundation and many

134:24

other things.

134:26

>> We could do fancy offsites for the team

134:28

and fly to these very like far-flung fun

134:30

exotic places. Yes, which we can still

134:32

do. But what I started to notice is

134:36

there was this very subtle energetic

134:39

change. I wasn't exhausted, but I

134:41

started maybe dragging my feet a little

134:44

bit. I started to feel I noticed when I

134:48

put a like a fine point on it that it

134:53

was becoming a jo o in the unpleasant

134:57

sense. Does that make sense? And it's

134:59

very very easy for this to happen in

135:01

people who have small operations that

135:03

are not dependent on or in some cases

135:06

like venture financing or something like

135:07

that. So, and I also recognized that I

135:11

could make it work, right, by in my case

135:14

batching these episodes together. But

135:16

when I batched them together, I didn't

135:19

actually get to retain and study and use

135:22

and apply what I was learning from these

135:24

people in these conversations.

135:25

>> That's a really fatiguing day.

135:27

>> Yeah. Or a week, right? So, I decided

135:30

that I would step back to four or five a

135:34

month, right?

135:36

And I'm in a fortunate financial

135:39

position to be able to make that type of

135:42

decision. But it was really important

135:45

for not just the longevity of the

135:48

podcast, which is now 11 years or 12

135:50

years, whatever it is, but my enjoyment

135:53

of it,

135:54

>> right?

135:54

>> And I'm just curious how you think about

135:58

what drives the actual work product of

136:01

the show, right? because

136:04

your priorities may change. I have no

136:06

idea. Right? It's like for some people

136:08

it's like if they want if they're

136:10

thinking about a family then you have

136:12

family consideration. You also have the

136:15

professional

136:17

motivations. You can end up getting

136:19

driven by your team in some cases where

136:21

it's like you want to offer them the

136:22

opportunity for advancement and

136:24

increased scope and so on, but that can

136:26

end up steering the ship sometimes. So

136:30

there are a lot of pitfalls that are

136:33

hard to spot because they are gradual in

136:36

terms of their onset, right? So So I'm

136:39

curious how you think about like the

136:42

actual work schedule, the number of

136:44

episodes, the amount you take on.

136:46

>> Mhm.

136:47

>> Because I hear all the top level

136:49

priorities, which are awesome, and the

136:51

vision for three to five years. I think

136:52

you can do all of those things.

136:54

>> Oh, thank God.

136:55

>> But

136:56

>> tell me if you don't think it's

136:57

possible. Well, I don't think it's

136:58

possible if the show ends up taking on

137:02

lots of features and obligations and

137:04

scope creep.

137:05

>> I agree.

137:06

>> And splintering

137:08

>> that just removes the time and energy

137:11

required to do those things.

137:13

>> I have a lot of empathy with what you're

137:15

saying about, oh, I can just fit in one

137:17

more recording. I can fit in one more

137:19

shoot day. I mean, even separate of the

137:22

channel, this didn't impact the channel,

137:24

but last year I was on a plane 73 times.

137:30

Maybe not that high for many of the

137:31

guests who have been in this chair. It

137:33

was a record for me at least.

137:35

>> That's a lot of flights.

137:36

>> It's a It was a lot of flights.

137:38

And I told Kim this and she she said,

137:41

"How many how many vacations did you go

137:44

on?" And I and I couldn't answer it. You

137:48

know, I could think that's a sign. And I

137:49

I went I went on I did a couple things,

137:52

but she gave me some advice at the

137:54

beginning of this year. She's like, "The

137:55

next time you're sent abroad, your

137:57

assignment is," and I need someone to

137:59

say your assignment is for me to take it

138:00

seriously. Your assignment is you need

138:04

to take at least 6 hours of a day. You

138:06

don't have to stay an entire extra day.

138:08

Take six hours of a day to do something

138:11

for yourself. And I did this last week.

138:12

I was in Italy for a speaking engagement

138:15

and my friend Olivia and I took 6 hours

138:18

and we saw the whole city and it was

138:20

incredible. And I think that avoiding

138:26

the scope creep is something we've had

138:28

to be very very precise about. As you

138:31

mentioned, there are so many shiny

138:33

objects around. Oh, like you should just

138:36

do this collab and start a merch line or

138:38

even in our our world there's a

138:40

temptation of promote this product and

138:42

big check comes in. Well, I don't know

138:44

if I agree with this product and maybe I

138:46

I won't do it. And I think being really

138:48

brutal about

138:51

if I don't protect this, all of it falls

138:54

apart. I don't not in a way of fragility

138:57

but in a sense of if I take the brand

139:00

deal for a lot of money for the thing

139:03

I'm not a 100% on it fractures

139:06

trustworthiness

139:08

that as we both know is something that

139:11

cannot be bought back. It's so precious

139:13

to what we're doing. Or even the idea of

139:16

we've had so many people come to us say,

139:18

"We'll license the challenge accepted

139:21

brand and we'll we'll start a kids

139:23

channel and we'll run the whole thing

139:25

for you." And these pitches sound great

139:27

on paper when I know

139:30

I'm not going to like the first few

139:31

things you do. I'm going to have to get

139:33

in the weeds. I'm going to have to be

139:34

giving feedback. And you know what? I

139:36

don't have time for that. I I have to

139:38

remain really focused on the tip of the

139:40

spear, which is making Challenge

139:42

Accepted the best show it possibly can

139:44

for all of the reasons that are

139:46

emotionally important to me, financially

139:48

important to the team, and and socially

139:51

important to our industry. So,

139:55

we've had to say no a lot, which I know

139:58

you've been writing a lot about

139:59

recently. Yeah.

140:00

>> But the saying of no is something I'm

140:02

still learning how to do. And I think

140:05

like that has been why the show has

140:07

lasted so long. I have never I'm

140:11

literally knocking on wood. I don't even

140:12

know if this is real wood. Knocking on

140:14

wood right now. I've never experienced

140:17

creator burnout in the way that many of

140:20

my colleagues have. Many of my

140:23

colleagues have had a time where they

140:26

hit the wall and have to take months off

140:30

entirely.

140:32

That's never happened to me because all

140:34

along the way, it's been a kind like a

140:36

fast growth, but still slow and steady.

140:39

You can look at the growth of our

140:40

channel and it's it's not like I blew up

140:44

on TikTok overnight. It it's been slow

140:46

and steady. And for that I feel

140:48

fortunate because I've had the slowness

140:51

to be able to make those adjustments to

140:53

acknowledge scope creep where I'm being

140:56

asked for more things

140:59

and still learning how to practice that

141:01

>> better. Few thoughts pop into my head.

141:04

Uh the first is that more so than with

141:10

most I actually have

141:13

I'm very confident that you'll figure it

141:15

out. And I'll tell you why. The first

141:17

the first is that not that I'm who the

141:20

[ __ ] am I? I'm just saying I've like

141:21

there have been a lot of people in that

141:23

chair and I've met with a lot of

141:25

creators and writers and so on of

141:27

different types. Number one is that you

141:30

have an inbuilt novelty in the format of

141:32

the show. Right? So a lot of the

141:34

YouTubers I run into who are just

141:36

crashing and burning, they have a few

141:38

things stacked against them. one, they

141:40

chose something that was interesting to

141:42

them five or 10 years ago, but it is a

141:45

fairly narrow lane

141:47

>> and

141:49

at some point they get tired of being

141:50

that person.

141:51

>> Yeah.

141:52

>> Or they pretended to be something in the

141:55

beginning and they got a lot of positive

141:58

feedback and they're fatigued because

142:01

they're wearing a mask.

142:03

>> Yes.

142:03

>> And there's more to it. There's audience

142:05

capture issues and other things, but you

142:07

have an inbuilt novelty in the nature of

142:09

the show itself, right?

142:10

>> Every episode, my whole life changes.

142:13

>> Yeah.

142:14

>> Right now, I'm training for Taekwondo

142:15

Nationals. I'm going to take a flight

142:17

back to LA and go to Taekwondo training

142:18

for 3 hours tonight. Every day is

142:21

different and varied and interesting and

142:23

I I feel lucky that like my life changes

142:26

frequently to adjust for that. So this

142:28

is something I wanted to take a moment

142:30

to point out because

142:34

willpower, discipline, all these things,

142:35

yes, they sound great. You know, I agree

142:38

with a lot of folks that ultimately

142:41

systems

142:43

beat like certainly dreams and even

142:46

goals. I mean, you have to have an idea

142:48

of where you want to head, but inherent

142:51

to what you chose to do, there's a kind

142:55

of cycling and rejuvenation to it,

142:57

right? So, I just wanted to highlight

142:59

that because it's a feature of what you

143:01

chose to do.

143:03

>> It's it's not just something you have to

143:06

fit in in the empty pockets with

143:08

something that is uniform from start to

143:10

finish, right? So, I think that's one

143:11

thing I wanted to mention. And then

143:14

separately, just as an anecdote, right?

143:16

guest lecturing you mentioned. So the

143:19

guest lectures at at Princeton High-Tech

143:22

Entrepreneurship that that turned into

143:23

the 4-hour work week, the notes from

143:25

that class was based on a talk initially

143:28

called drug dealing for fun and profit

143:30

because my first company was sports

143:32

nutrition.

143:33

The through line of that lecture from

143:36

start to finish because I was one of the

143:38

few entrepreneurs

143:39

my professor invited, maybe the only one

143:42

who bootstrapped. Everyone else was

143:43

venturebacked, right? And that's why it

143:45

was interesting to him.

143:47

>> So I was like, I, you know, Ed, who's Ed

143:49

Sha, amazing guy. I've had him on the

143:50

podcast. Said, I don't think I have

143:52

anything to offer. I'm only a few years

143:53

out of college. I'm bootstrapping this

143:56

thing. It's a lot smaller than any of

143:57

the other companies that get highlighted

143:58

by these CEOs or taking companies

144:01

public, etc. And he said, well, that's

144:02

kind of the point. like you're closer to

144:04

the students so they can see

144:08

>> emulating or borrowing from what you're

144:10

doing more easily than they can someone

144:12

who's 20 years older and has taken four

144:13

companies public

144:14

>> and aligned with your throughine of

144:17

owning everything you do that's really

144:20

special yeah exactly and like there are

144:23

times for like debt and venture and all

144:25

that stuff I'm just constitutionally

144:28

allergic to it I just I just it doesn't

144:30

make me feel like safe and pleasant. So,

144:34

I generally avoid those things. Like, I

144:36

didn't even have a credit card until a

144:37

few years after college because I

144:39

thought foolishly that if you have no

144:41

debt, you're going to have good credit.

144:42

That's just not how it works. So, I had

144:44

to get credit cards. I've never carried

144:46

a balance except for like a short very

144:48

short period. The reason I bring that up

144:49

though is that in my class, the one it

144:52

changed over time, this two times per

144:54

year, it's guest lecture cuz I kind of

144:56

followed what I was learning. The one

144:58

thing that never changed was how I

144:59

started it. And how I started it every

145:01

time is I'd say, "How many people here

145:04

want to be a salesperson?" And this is

145:06

Princeton, right? It's in an electrical

145:08

engineering, like operations, research,

145:11

finance class, and no one raises their

145:14

hand. They're like, "Salespeople? Yuck."

145:16

Right?

145:17

>> And I'm like, "Okay, how many people

145:19

here want to be good at negotiating?"

145:21

Every hand goes up. I'm like, "Okay, how

145:24

many people here want to be good deal

145:25

makers?" like almost every hand goes up.

145:27

I'm like, guess what? They're all the

145:28

same thing.

145:31

>> Good news, bad news, you're all gonna

145:33

have to be sales people. True. That's

145:35

true. Whether you're selling a position,

145:36

whether you're selling yourself as a

145:39

romantic partner, whether you are trying

145:42

to persuade someone

145:44

>> of anything and everything,

145:47

the skill set is the same.

145:49

>> Yes. And because you have that ability

145:51

and you've honed the ability to

145:53

communicate

145:55

with the cold emails and everything

145:56

else, you have a lot of practice with

145:57

that. And you have someone like Kim

145:59

Scott in your corner on the honesty.

146:04

>> You can't take it too far, but like

146:05

honesty above people pleasing.

146:08

>> Oh yeah.

146:09

>> This what did you call it? Not insidious

146:11

empathy, but something close.

146:12

>> Ruinous empathy.

146:13

>> Ruinous empathy. That is where I tend to

146:15

lean also or have historically. And if

146:20

you are trapped in that quadrant and you

146:24

start to see the ship heading towards

146:26

this iceberg of burnout for you

146:28

personally or overall,

146:31

you're kind of [ __ ] Like that's not

146:33

the time to learn how to steer the ship,

146:35

>> which means these other quadrants,

146:37

right? And you write about that in your

146:39

upcoming book too about how when you say

146:41

yes to everything, it make you become

146:44

resentful towards other people when it's

146:47

actually you creating the problem.

146:49

>> I'm going to be diving back into the the

146:51

it's placeholder name, but the notebook

146:53

850 pages that's going to get hacked

146:55

down. It's going to be

146:57

just as a teaser. I I'm just it makes me

147:00

so happy. I literally just got a text

147:01

about this two days ago. I've had quite

147:03

a few test readers read that book and

147:06

it's rough around the edges, but they

147:09

read this book like six months ago, a

147:11

year ago, and they text me to be like,

147:14

"Look at how I am still using this

147:16

stuff." So, I'm I'm excited to get it

147:18

out cuz it's super like just we're as we

147:20

were talking about template emails and

147:21

so on.

147:22

>> It's really tactical. It's not just

147:25

handwavy stuff. So, I'm excited about

147:27

it. The But you have the you have sort

147:29

of the

147:29

>> And I promise I'll buy it. I won't steal

147:31

it on accident. I'm okay. I'm okay with

147:33

stealing my books. Well, I mean, it's

147:35

not okay cuz you're stealing it from

147:36

someone else, but

147:37

>> Correct. It was not stolen from a Barnes

147:39

& Noble. It was stolen from the desk of

147:41

a coworker.

147:42

>> Yeah. So, I have I have confidence

147:43

you'll figure it out because you have

147:44

the toolkit for correction, right? And I

147:47

think part of what a lot of folks miss

147:48

about saying no. It's not like saying no

147:52

is a lot like working out. It's not like

147:54

you you figure it out and you do it for

147:56

a week or two and then your problems are

147:59

solved.

147:59

>> It's a practice.

148:00

>> It's a practice. not only a practice but

148:04

99.9% of the population sure there are a

148:07

few exceptions but are going to fall off

148:10

the wagon occasionally. So the question

148:12

is how do you get back on the wagon

148:13

right? So in the case of

148:17

say a book on no like a lot of the book

148:19

is case studies of people and their

148:23

toolkits for renegotiating. It's like if

148:26

you're reading the book it probably

148:27

means you say yes to too much stuff and

148:28

overcommit.

148:30

you're probably still gonna do that.

148:31

It's kind of like aa and alcoholics like

148:34

right like once once an addict always an

148:35

addict like you're probably gonna do

148:37

that again. So the question isn't how do

148:39

I avoid it

148:40

>> permanently from this point forward.

148:42

It's how do you actually correct it and

148:44

how do you renegotiate commitments? How

148:46

do you cancel things?

148:47

>> Which is arguably harder than saying no

148:49

out the gate once you've committed to

148:51

something.

148:51

>> It is it's it's it's basically signing

148:54

up for long-term pain instead of

148:56

short-term pain, right? But you're going

148:58

to deal with both, which is why, you

149:01

know, Kim Scott's teachings are so

149:02

valuable. I have to recommend I I don't

149:04

know if it was with respect to Kim

149:07

specifically, but AJ Jacobs, who I

149:10

mentioned earlier,

149:10

>> I love him,

149:11

>> wrote this long Esquire piece called his

149:15

poor wife. The title of it is called I

149:18

think you're fat. And it's like 30 days

149:21

of experimentation with radical honesty

149:23

or something like that.

149:24

>> Oh, yeah. Yeah. And

149:27

>> I saw him give a presentation last fall

149:29

and he included this

149:31

>> and I think your fat is like when his

149:33

wife was like how do I look in this

149:34

dress and also you know point is his

149:38

wife has put up with so much with his

149:39

experiments but she's like are you even

149:42

listening to me and he's and he's like

149:43

no honestly I stopped listening five

149:45

minutes ago and I'm thinking about AB

149:47

and C. Oh what a saint his wife is. but

149:50

also makes for pretty good reading cuz

149:52

you know everything in excess kind of

149:53

becomes its opposite.

149:55

>> I want to kind of talk about wishlist

149:58

stuff because you because you never know

150:01

who's listening to this podcast. You

150:03

just never know. I am constantly

150:04

surprised.

150:06

>> Maybe you can give some backstory but

150:07

have you met Mindy Kaling yet?

150:11

>> I have not met our Lord and Savior Mindy

150:14

Kaling.

150:15

>> Okay.

150:18

Why did I even come across this? What?

150:20

Yeah,

150:20

>> I know why you came across this. And it

150:23

is because my first Twitter handle was

150:27

Mindy Kaling fan. I think it's since

150:30

changed to my name. It's normal now. I

150:32

think I've deleted all the tweets. Maybe

150:34

I would love to meet Mindy Kaling one

150:36

day when we're talking about wishlist

150:38

items for a few reasons. I feel like we

150:43

have sort of

150:45

traveled the same path in different

150:48

flavors.

150:49

>> We went to the same college. I obviously

150:52

admire her work. We're both Indian women

150:55

in entertainment. And seeing someone

150:57

like her on a show like The Office was

151:01

instrumental to me as someone from

151:03

Shreveport, Louisiana who didn't see

151:07

someone like me on Disney Channel. And I

151:09

think that's why

151:11

The mentality I had of approaching a job

151:13

like this was so black hat, if we're

151:16

going to go back to that, I was very

151:19

negative on the idea of doing something

151:21

in entertainment

151:24

because I didn't see a path or an

151:27

example forward

151:29

for someone like me. And factually,

151:33

that's incorrect. I mean there's a very

151:34

thriving industry of Bollywood and there

151:37

are many many amazing women in

151:39

entertainment but something shifted for

151:42

me when I saw her success and felt that

151:44

parallel path of we're going to the same

151:46

school and seeing how she took her

151:49

opportunity at the office and spun it

151:51

into her own production company and new

151:54

shows that continued to uplift and

151:56

elevate

151:58

female centered stories I think is

152:00

incredible and something that I look up

152:03

to often when I think about how I

152:06

started at a media company and am now

152:08

doing my own thing and hoping to shift

152:10

culture and expectation of what it means

152:13

to be an Indian woman in entertainment

152:15

and also what it means to be a content

152:17

creator on the internet. I love upending

152:21

people's expectations. It's one of my

152:24

secret favorite things to do. I love

152:28

when people hear that I'm a YouTuber and

152:31

then they go watch Challenge Accepted

152:32

and are pleasantly hopefully pleasantly

152:34

surprised by what they see and wouldn't

152:37

expect that maybe from someone on the

152:39

platform. And I think about how she and

152:43

Shondaanda Rimes and other incredible

152:46

showrunners have done that. All right,

152:48

Mindy, if you're listening,

152:51

>> and there are definitely a few people

152:53

who have been on this podcast, like BJ

152:55

Novak, who know Mindy, so if you guys

152:57

are listening,

152:58

>> I'm obsessed with both of them, like as

153:00

a unit.

153:01

>> Yeah, BJ is incredible.

153:03

>> BJ is also incredible. The Office, I

153:06

mean, there are a few examples like

153:07

this, but it's kind of like the PayPal

153:08

mafia where you're like, how did all

153:10

these people come out of this?

153:12

>> Yeah, the PayPal mafia. How is it even

153:14

possible that this density of talent was

153:16

in one place at the same time? It's

153:18

crazy.

153:19

>> Let me ask a question, right? Let's just

153:22

say Mindy's listening. She's like,

153:23

"Maybe I'll check her out.

153:25

>> Which episode should she start with?"

153:27

>> Okay, let me think.

153:29

>> And that applies more broadly to people

153:30

listening, but but like where should

153:33

where should where should Mindy go?

153:34

>> This is a really tough question. For

153:37

Mindy specifically,

153:39

I'm going to recommend I tried Tom

153:41

Cruz's Deadliest Stunt because Mindy is

153:45

in the Hollywood world. And I think

153:47

that's the most Hollywood episode we've

153:49

done. It's an episode where I strapped

153:52

myself to the side of a C130 to become

153:54

the first person to recreate the stunt

153:56

that Tom did for the Mission Impossible

153:59

franchise. And I truly am hanging off

154:02

the side of a plane. And what's

154:04

interesting about that story is not just

154:06

the stunt, which is cool, of course,

154:10

but it's an amazing story of being an

154:14

underdog. The only people who have

154:16

accomplished this previously are

154:18

literally Tom Cruz and Paramount the

154:20

Studio. And so to come at it from our

154:22

angle

154:24

was me sending more crazy cold emails.

154:26

It was calling foreign militaries at

154:29

3:00 in the morning asking if they would

154:31

lend us a plane. Those are the phone

154:33

calls I'm making. And additionally, when

154:35

you're doing something that's only been

154:37

done once before or in some cases has

154:39

never been done before, you have to get

154:42

really creative with the training and

154:44

testing, which maybe you've experienced

154:46

in in in all of your work too. How do

154:49

you prepare your body to to do something

154:51

like that? And it led us to training in

154:54

wind tunnels. But even more

154:55

interestingly, I had to go to a

154:58

specialized optometrist who fabricated

155:02

custom scaral contact lenses for me to

155:05

wear because for this stunt you don't

155:06

wear goggles. And so there was a

155:09

dedicated person on set called a lens

155:11

technician and his only job was to

155:14

insert and remove these massive contact

155:17

lenses that went over my eyes. Sounds so

155:19

uncomfortable

155:20

>> cuz when you're up there at multiund

155:22

mileph winds, even just a tiny pebble

155:24

could blind you.

155:25

>> Oh yeah.

155:26

>> So I think it's a really cool story of

155:30

being a little bit of an underdog and

155:32

accomplishing something great in an

155:33

unexpected way. So I hope you watch it,

155:36

Mindy.

155:36

>> Amazing. All right, this is going to

155:39

sound it's a nonsequittor/sequittor,

155:42

but people should study take a look at

155:45

paragan falcons and how their eyes and

155:47

noses and nostrils are evolved. It's

155:50

[ __ ] wild. And aircraft have actually

155:52

been designed based on paragan falcon,

155:56

like evolved.

155:57

>> Why do I feel like you've spent a week

155:59

in Mongolia training falconry?

156:01

>> I would love to do that. I had my first

156:04

experience with falconry on New Year's

156:07

Day this year, so it's fresh in my mind.

156:09

>> Wow.

156:10

>> Got to work with some amazing hawks.

156:12

There are different different birds that

156:15

are appropriate for different levels of

156:17

training, and it's not necessarily the

156:19

easiest bird. In some cases, they're

156:21

going to give you slightly more stubborn

156:25

or difficult birds because if you have a

156:28

very easy bird, you don't actually

156:30

develop the trainer technique that you

156:32

need to use for a spectrum of birds. It

156:35

would be kind of like giving if you give

156:36

everyone a really intrinsically

156:38

motivated high energy dog like a Belgian

156:40

Malininoa to train that is like bred for

156:45

being very very very very trainable.

156:48

You're going to develop a false sense of

156:50

confidence around your ability to do

156:52

that with other breeds.

156:53

>> I see.

156:54

>> So yes, I'm interested in falconry.

156:56

>> Have you seen that meme that went viral

156:57

recently that's like you hit a certain

156:59

age and all of a sudden you're obsessed

157:01

with birds?

157:03

That's really funny. I Maybe that's

157:06

what's going on. Next thing you know, I

157:08

was just like smoking a pipe on a porch

157:10

talking about World War II all the time.

157:11

I don't know.

157:11

>> There you go.

157:12

>> It could future. Worst things could

157:14

happen. All right. I want to ask more

157:16

episode questions. But before we do

157:19

that, any anyone else that you'd like to

157:23

sort of invoke? Like are there any other

157:25

>> partners, partners, companies, people?

157:28

>> Anything that you'd like to check out

157:30

your work? This is such a special

157:32

opportunity to do that. There are many

157:35

people I would love to meet and

157:36

generally as we move into this really

157:39

exciting new chapter for the company and

157:42

and content creators in general. I'm

157:44

excited to meet with anyone from

157:47

traditional media who is excited to join

157:50

forces.

157:51

>> So that's just like a general statement.

157:54

>> But if I have one shout out, here's the

157:56

shout out. I'm gonna ask for the Royal

157:59

Nanny School in England.

158:02

>> You've been working you've been working

158:04

on this one for a while.

158:04

>> The Norland College. We're your biggest

158:07

fans. We've been wanting to collaborate

158:09

for years. If you see this, hit me up.

158:14

>> Incredible.

158:15

>> Okay, let me tell you about the Norland

158:17

Nannies. You're going to appreciate

158:18

this, Tim.

158:18

>> I'm ready.

158:19

>> You know Mary Poppins, the silhouette

158:21

with the the pleated skirt and the

158:23

little hat. It is based off of a real

158:26

school called the Norland College where

158:29

these are the nannies that are trained

158:31

to serve billionaires and royal

158:34

families. So when you look at and they

158:36

wear that outfit. So you look at footage

158:39

from this school and it's literally

158:40

they're wearing this outfit and hat

158:42

pushing a pram stroller while also

158:45

wielding a gun because they they have to

158:49

protect the kids. So they know defensive

158:52

driving. It's like Secret Service meets

158:54

Butler Academy, which you shouted out in

158:56

the Five Bullet Friday. So, it's it's

158:59

two amazing worlds coming together. I

159:01

think more people need to know about it.

159:03

So, I'm I'm very passionate about it.

159:06

>> And I imagine the fact that they're

159:08

like, "No, thank you. We don't need

159:10

that." Makes you just want it that much

159:12

more.

159:12

>> Of course it does, Tim. But also,

159:15

>> I respect it.

159:16

>> What What have we been talking about?

159:17

Saying no. So, I have to respect when

159:20

someone else says no, too. But also just

159:22

letting you know we're still available,

159:23

still interested and excited. Love you

159:25

guys from afar. Big fan

159:26

>> of your episodes when you look back.

159:28

>> Mhm.

159:29

>> And you can't say all of them. That's

159:31

disallowed. That answer is no. No, no

159:33

good.

159:34

>> No fly.

159:36

>> Which if you were starting, if you did

159:38

not have a YouTube channel, but you had

159:40

a thriving career, so you had some

159:42

money. Which of those you can like pick

159:45

two or three of the experiences that you

159:47

would pay to have looking back

159:49

>> that I would do again in a heartbeat?

159:51

>> Do again. Or you're like, "Okay, I only

159:53

get to pick two or three,

159:55

>> but like I would absolutely pay for

159:58

these."

159:59

>> Okay.

159:59

>> If I if I had to,

160:01

>> I would pick first of all

160:05

the black belt challenge. So, as this

160:09

video, I had 90 days to try and get a

160:12

black belt in Taekwondo. Part of this

160:14

came from a personal passion of having

160:16

done all of these stunts and working

160:18

with a lot of stunt performers. All of

160:20

them come from worldclass martial arts

160:23

backgrounds. And I realized I had never

160:26

actually taken the time to learn a

160:30

martial art from the ground up and that

160:34

it was lacking in my performance and

160:37

mental fortitude and I wanted to

160:39

experience that. So what do I do? I make

160:41

it a challenge so that I can devote my

160:42

whole life to it.

160:44

>> And that experience changed me. When I

160:48

look at clear before and after,

160:52

you know, from having put your body

160:53

through a lot, there are moments when

160:55

you have a photo before and after. My

160:57

body changed. But there are moments in

160:59

life when you as a person change before

161:02

and after, and that can't be captured by

161:03

a photo always.

161:05

>> That was one of those for me. getting to

161:07

study with master Grandmaster Simon Ray,

161:10

one of the greatest martial artists on

161:12

planet Earth, took me under his wing and

161:16

did what most instructors would have

161:18

never done, which is believe in me and

161:21

push me to try and actually get a black

161:23

belt in 90 days. And we're talking about

161:27

politeness. I think martial arts has

161:30

taught me all of that. when you bow to

161:31

the mat before you step on when you yes

161:34

sir yes ma'am everything it might sound

161:37

gimmicky to someone on the outside but

161:40

it does become a practice and an

161:42

automation and a way of life and that's

161:44

something I'm really proud of as a now

161:46

black belt

161:48

and grateful for it I I would pay to do

161:51

that again and in fact I am because

161:53

we're doing a sequel so I am paying to

161:55

do it again and I'm trying to qualify

161:56

for nationals this year with Mastery so

162:00

I'm I'm very excited about it. I would

162:02

recommend it to anybody. The other one I

162:04

was going to say that I would pay to do

162:06

again for the experience I had

162:08

ultimately, not when I was going through

162:10

it, is the Houdini challenge.

162:12

>> Yeah. So for that I had six weeks to

162:16

learn how to hold my breath and pick

162:18

locks to attempt Houdini's water torture

162:20

cell which famously is hanging upside

162:24

down in a glass box filled to the brim

162:26

with water escaping a series of

162:28

lockpicks with one breath of air. And

162:32

that I would say is probably

162:36

among the most physically challenging

162:38

>> I'm sure

162:39

>> challenges I've done. Free diving,

162:42

breath holding is a level of athleticism

162:45

that is so bizarre to me because when

162:47

you're in a workout class and it gets

162:49

hard, they say, "Keep breathing. This is

162:51

the one time you can't do that."

162:53

>> Yeah.

162:54

>> You're you're holding your breath. So, I

162:55

was having to learn how to push through

162:58

that.

162:59

>> Ultimately, I got to 3:30 and most Navy

163:02

Seals is like 2 3 minutes is pretty

163:05

good. Houdini's was best time was also

163:08

3:30.

163:10

But on the production side, it was a

163:12

really fascinating challenge because it

163:14

was the first time we

163:17

creatively designed our own obstacle and

163:20

solution. So in the beginning, we spent

163:23

months trying to connect with other

163:26

magicians on earth who own a water

163:29

torture cell. There are not many.

163:31

>> Yeah. And ultimately we came to the

163:34

conclusion of designing our own which

163:36

was really really incredible and

163:38

creatively challenging. How do you

163:41

create a glass box that can f be filled

163:44

with so many gallons of water and

163:47

maintain the structural integrity when

163:48

there's a person inside

163:51

and function with all the locks and the

163:53

hinges with water as an involved

163:56

substance. It was a huge huge

163:58

engineering challenge for our team

164:01

and I'm really really proud of the final

164:04

result because both of those things are

164:07

things I would have never guessed that

164:08

like 2016 me would have been able to do.

164:11

First of all, holding my breath that

164:12

long. Second of all, taking the creative

164:16

liberty to design something that was

164:19

inspired by a work of history but also

164:22

our own.

164:24

>> Next question. So this one you may not

164:27

want to answer. Okay. Because I

164:29

understand

164:30

>> I would understand why. I have a little

164:32

bit more freedom in answering this for

164:34

myself. So I can also go first and buy

164:36

>> challenge accepted. Let's hear it.

164:38

>> Yeah. So which one would you pay not to

164:41

do again?

164:42

>> Oh gosh.

164:43

>> One or two. And and the one I would say

164:45

for me just to offer it up is and holy

164:48

[ __ ] did did I make a mistake. This was

164:52

episode one of the Tim Ferrris

164:54

experiment in terms of filming.

164:55

>> Okay.

164:56

>> And we keep in mind we had I think it

164:57

was 11 or 13 episodes or 10 or 13

165:01

episodes that we filmed in that number

165:03

of weeks. So I mean it was every week we

165:06

were filming.

165:06

>> As a viewer I never realized that it was

165:08

13 consecutive weeks.

165:09

>> It was consecutive weeks.

165:10

>> That's crazy.

165:11

>> And the first one was parkour. And there

165:15

were a couple of inherent problems with

165:17

that. Number one, even if you tried to

165:20

prepare your body for it, the impact of

165:24

falling onto hard surfaces is very hard

165:27

to train your body for even over the

165:30

course of say a year with proper

165:32

technique because of the the connective

165:35

tissue adaptations and sort of ligament

165:37

and tendon adaptations that need to take

165:39

place which require quite a bit of time.

165:41

Secondly,

165:43

the promise of the show was I haven't

165:46

cheated, right? So, it's like I can't

165:48

pre-prepare for it

165:50

>> if I'm showing what it's like to start

165:53

from zero. And I am still contending

165:56

with injuries from that week.

165:58

>> No way.

165:58

>> To this day.

165:59

>> Wow.

166:00

>> You know, 12 13 years.

166:01

>> Tempest, right? Tempest.

166:03

>> Amazing gym. I mean, I mean, those guys

166:05

are amazing. Tempest free running. Check

166:07

it out. It's incredible. But I will say

166:10

I have like dropped from the monkey bars

166:12

and pull my back.

166:13

>> Yeah,

166:14

>> it's crazy.

166:15

>> Yeah, I mean I ended up tearing multiple

166:18

heads of the quadricep in both legs

166:21

>> and then you continued filming for 12

166:22

weeks.

166:23

>> 12 more weeks. So you can imagine

166:25

>> and that included the Yabusami episode.

166:27

>> No, the Yabusami episode was actually

166:30

from a totally different TV show,

166:32

>> a pilot of which was filmed right after

166:36

the first book came out. It might have

166:37

even been before. I think it was right

166:38

after the first book came out. So that

166:41

was a completely separate thing with

166:43

like a production company in Singapore.

166:44

It was kind of wonky to be honest.

166:46

>> Oh wow.

166:46

>> But the Abusam was way earlier back when

166:49

I had hair or a little bit of hair. I

166:50

was white knuckling.

166:51

>> Okay. Cuz all of my experience

166:53

transparently of the show has been in

166:55

like online rips cuz it's many of this

166:58

material is no longer available. all of

167:01

the Tim Fresh Experiment stuff. I got

167:04

the rights back for a launch on iTunes

167:08

as it was called back then and it was

167:09

the number one non-fiction show when it

167:11

launched for a while which I was very

167:13

happy about although it was excruciating

167:15

you can imagine talking about

167:16

negotiating with like a big behemoth

167:18

where you just don't really have any

167:19

leverage whatsoever. Uh yeah,

167:22

>> and they were helpful, but a lot of

167:24

employee changes and so on that made it

167:25

difficult and then ultimately getting

167:27

the rights back completely so I could

167:29

just release it for free on YouTube,

167:31

right?

167:32

>> But which would you pay not to do? Any

167:36

come to mind?

167:37

>> What would I pay not to do? I have a few

167:40

answers for this actually. First one is

167:42

chess. And again, I I recognize the

167:45

people who have sadness here. I feel

167:47

like 99.9%

167:49

of of people in the Tim Ferris sphere,

167:52

everybody plays chess. Everybody is on

167:55

chess.com. When you go to these

167:57

entrepreneur events, there's always a

167:58

chess board. Everyone loves chess. So, I

168:00

feel a little shameful saying this.

168:02

Chess was very challenging for me.

168:03

>> There are plenty of people on this show

168:04

who don't like chess, including people

168:06

who used to be professional players.

168:07

>> Really? Oh my goodness. Now, I loved

168:10

many aspects of it, but the the

168:12

challenge for that was originally I had

168:15

one month to prepare for a competition

168:17

and I did the month of training. I got

168:19

to the competition. I didn't do as well

168:21

as I had wanted. And something about the

168:23

episode just felt empty. And I think you

168:26

and I both know this. You know, when you

168:27

haven't gone the distance with

168:29

something, you haven't given it your

168:30

all. And I knew that deep down. So, I

168:33

continued training for nine more months,

168:35

10 months in total, I believe, to

168:37

achieve this goal of my ELO rating and

168:41

finally did it. And I was like, I'm

168:44

good. I am so good on the London system,

168:48

all this stuff. Like, I was studying so

168:51

hard and I'm so glad I did it. But I'm

168:55

good to be a casual chess player.

168:58

>> Good to be a casual chess player. I

169:00

think the other one I don't think I'll

169:03

do again is one that hasn't come out

169:05

yet,

169:06

>> which makes it interesting, I suppose.

169:08

The most challenging physical thing I've

169:11

ever done is the seven marathons on

169:14

seven continents in one week,

169:16

which is going to be coming out this

169:18

April. The three-part series on the

169:20

channel. We're so excited about it.

169:22

Specifically within that, the Antarctica

169:25

marathon

169:26

>> is something I probably won't do again.

169:29

People got frostbite when we were out

169:30

there. It was

169:31

>> sure they did.

169:32

>> But the sneaky sleeper marathon is most

169:37

people think Antarctica is the worst

169:40

when they hear about this challenge. But

169:42

the sneaky one is marathon number six,

169:45

which is in Colombia.

169:47

And the reason this one is so crazy is

169:50

because historically people have gone to

169:52

the hospital from

169:56

heat exposure.

169:58

It's marathon number six. So, you have

170:00

five other marathons in your body that

170:02

you have done in the five previous days

170:04

before. And they actually scheduled this

170:06

marathon to happen overnight to try and

170:10

avoid the sun. But because our flight

170:12

was slightly delayed, we started around

170:15

300 a.m. And that meant we were

170:19

literally racing against the sunrise.

170:22

And the slower you go, the more heat

170:24

exposure you have. So, it was like 100%

170:27

humidity.

170:29

It's It's so hot.

170:32

And psychologically, you feel like

170:34

you're at the finish line cuz tomorrow's

170:36

the finale. Tomorrow's Miami. Tomorrow's

170:38

race number seven. But really, number

170:40

six is the unexpected one.

170:43

>> Yeah, that sounds brutal.

170:45

>> What's crazy about that is there are the

170:48

most unexpected people who do this

170:50

marathon. Like, okay, there was a guy,

170:53

you're not going to believe this, there

170:54

was a guy named Adrian

170:56

for whom his first marathon he ever ran

170:59

was marathon one of that week.

171:02

He like knew some of the race organizers

171:04

and just decided to come along. And

171:06

originally, he was going to run half

171:07

marathons and just decided, I'm going to

171:09

go for the fulls.

171:11

That's crazy to do your very first

171:14

marathon as in a week where you're going

171:16

to do seven.

171:18

Yeah. So, that was nuts. you know there

171:20

are sort of breeds and then there are

171:22

breeds also I mean there are mutants for

171:25

each of these disciplines right there

171:27

are mutants for all these disciplines

171:28

we've discussed

171:30

>> and you meet some folks you mentioned

171:33

stunt work on Avatar right but like I

171:35

remember

171:36

>> you know I've met people who are like

171:37

professional high jumpers and I'm just

171:39

looking at them and I'm like we are not

171:42

>> the same species

171:45

>> just like your attachment points and

171:47

like where your Achilles is like

171:49

Everything is different and that's true

171:51

for

171:53

every discipline including chess of

171:55

course.

171:56

>> There's an 83y old man named Dan Little

171:58

who does this event. It's it was his

172:01

fourth time doing it.

172:02

>> The seven and seven or

172:04

>> seven and seven. He's done it four

172:06

times. He's 83 years old. He's this guy

172:09

named Dan from Oklahoma and just the

172:12

most incredible person you'll ever meet.

172:14

like so joyful and excited and he's the

172:18

last person on course every day.

172:21

>> He takes seven or eight hours to do the

172:23

full marathon

172:24

>> and he is smiling the whole time. And I

172:27

think that's one of the coolest things

172:29

about our job, our jobs is perspective.

172:35

The people you meet, it really redials

172:38

your compass.

172:39

>> Yeah, for sure. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, if

172:42

you're the average of the people you

172:43

spend the most time with, it's like,

172:45

choose those people really carefully.

172:47

>> Gosh.

172:47

>> You know, and I mean, the older I get,

172:49

it's not that surprising, but the more I

172:51

enjoy spending time with people who are

172:54

doing things like that. Not necessarily

172:56

that in that much of an extreme, but it

172:58

could be like Arthur Brooks, like who we

172:59

were just talking about, cuz there was

173:00

some footage from a prior interview of

173:02

mine up there. He's a busy guy or Adam

173:05

Grant, right? But they take fantastic

173:07

care of themselves.

173:09

>> And particularly with each passing year,

173:12

it seems as you get older,

173:14

>> the sort of entropy that leads people to

173:16

gather and just complain about their new

173:18

aches and pains or how little time they

173:20

have or how busy they are with the kids

173:23

or whatever it might be

173:25

increases. And

173:29

I try and I I've succeeded fortunately.

173:31

I have a lot of friends who are counter

173:33

examples, right? And I'm like, okay, if

173:36

this if there's only one counter example

173:38

in the world, okay, well, maybe it's

173:40

just sort of inevitable. But I'm like,

173:41

if if I've gathered five to 10 close

173:44

friends who are all counter examples,

173:45

like that's something you can do because

173:48

all of these people

173:49

>> Yes.

173:50

>> from a personality perspective, from a

173:51

life perspective, from a financial

173:53

perspective, very different, which means

173:55

like if you want it badly enough, you

173:57

can be the counter example.

173:59

>> And I find that super uplifting. Let me

174:03

ask a couple of very quick questions and

174:04

then we'll lay on this plane.

174:06

>> Okay.

174:08

>> This has been so fun.

174:09

>> Yeah. I'm really happy to spend time

174:11

together. You mentioned McMillions.

174:14

Other favorite documentaries? I know you

174:16

like documentaries. Are there any other

174:18

documentaries

174:20

that stand out to you?

174:21

>> My favorite one is Freelo.

174:23

>> Free is so good.

174:24

>> So good. Alex Honold, what you doing?

174:27

Talking about counter examples here. I

174:29

am just endlessly inspired by him as a

174:33

person and I think Jimmy Chin's work

174:35

directing filming it's just outstanding

174:38

given the care and the sensitivity of

174:42

the subject nature

174:43

>> terrifying

174:45

>> and how he executed it. Wow.

174:46

>> Yeah. So for people who maybe watched

174:48

the recent live Netflix climbing of

174:51

>> Taipei

174:52

>> Taipei go watch Free Solo if you haven't

174:55

seen it. And fun fact, I actually

174:58

interviewed Alex about 6 months before

175:01

he did his free solo ascent of

175:04

>> of LCAP.

175:05

>> I just got chills

175:06

>> and he was in that white van that is in

175:10

the movie and freaked me out cuz he like

175:13

parked outside of my house and I was

175:15

like, who's in this like creepy van with

175:18

no windows parked in front of my house?

175:21

And it's also before he got media

175:23

training. So if you want to see like

175:24

pre-polish Alex and I I want to give nod

175:29

also freestyl is an amazing movie to

175:30

Chai Vaserelli. So Chai is married to

175:34

Jimmy Chin. She is

175:37

>> I mean in a lot of ways the filmmaker

175:40

and Jimmy obviously without his

175:41

expertise and these crazy complicated

175:44

rigs and the ability to climb and

175:46

actually be suspended around Alex and so

175:50

on. I won't ruin any thing with

175:53

spoilers, like there are a lot of

175:54

adjustments that need to be made with

175:55

that, but

175:57

that is a fantastic one. I think it was

175:59

The Dive. They've also had some

176:01

follow-up films that are just

176:02

incredible.

176:03

>> I remember seeing a tweet when Alex did

176:06

the Taipei climb that was like,

176:08

"Everyone's freaking out about this.

176:10

What if I told you this is actually not

176:12

the craziest thing he's ever done?"

176:14

Referring to free. All I mean it is so

176:17

far not the craziest thing in the sense

176:19

that watch watch the LCAP climb. It is

176:23

infinitely hard to any really really

176:26

seasoned climber. Yes, it's risky to

176:28

climb with no ropes. Yes, the tower is

176:31

dangerous if you make a mistake. From a

176:33

technical perspective, it's actually not

176:35

that difficult. Right. Doing what he did

176:37

on LCAP,

176:39

it is very much in the deathdeying

176:42

category. Yeah, I'm out.

176:45

>> People I'm sure people ask you this too,

176:47

but people are always like, "What's

176:48

something you wouldn't do?" I'm like,

176:50

"I'm going to let Alex Honold own the

176:52

category of whatever it is he's doing."

176:54

>> Yeah. Yeah.

176:55

>> I think that category is well covered.

176:57

>> The category of things I wouldn't do is

176:59

pretty is pretty broad and it gets

177:00

broader every day. After a few very

177:03

scary avalanche experiences with

177:05

backcountry skiing and heli skiing where

177:08

people have gotten really injured and

177:10

could have been buried, I'm done. like

177:12

avalanche risk. If there's any real

177:15

avalanche risk, I'm out. Like that.

177:16

>> So, you're out from Everest.

177:17

>> Oh, there are many reasons I'm out.

177:19

>> There are many reasons I'm out from

177:20

Everest, too.

177:21

>> Yeah. No, there there are a lot of

177:22

reasons I'm out from Everest.

177:24

>> People ask me all the time,

177:25

>> not the least of which is like plenty of

177:26

people have already done it. Like, why

177:28

would

177:28

>> Exactly. I think the story's been told.

177:30

>> Yeah. Why would I risk my life for

177:32

something that's not even going to be a

177:33

notable footnote for anything or anyone?

177:36

>> There you go.

177:37

>> Book or books you've given most as a

177:39

gift or recommended a lot? any books

177:41

come to mind?

177:42

>> I have recommended Radical Cander to

177:44

pretty much everybody I know who's a

177:46

content creator trying to figure out

177:48

their business. The other one is The

177:49

Great CEO Within, which is a really fast

177:52

and easy read. And for anyone who didn't

177:57

start in Silicon Valley or a startup

177:59

culture or a startup of any kind was

178:01

really helpful to me to just understand

178:04

here's what a company is and how it

178:05

works. And then I've given Adam Grant's

178:09

originals to a few people, too.

178:11

>> Dang it. All right.

178:12

>> I would say this, but I feel like that's

178:14

cheating, so I've tried to exclude it

178:16

from my answer, so I can't say that. But

178:19

obviously, I talk about it all the time.

178:21

>> If you could have one giant billboard

178:23

anywhere, obviously this is

178:24

metaphorically speaking with anything on

178:26

it. Could be a quote, nothing

178:28

commercial, right? But could be a

178:31

mantra, quote from someone else, a

178:33

picture, anything, question. What might

178:35

you put on that?

178:36

>> I feel like this one has been overused

178:38

at this point, but one that was really

178:43

helpful for me starting my channel was

178:46

everything you want is on the other side

178:48

of fear. Very simple. Again, overused at

178:51

this point, but I love that one because

178:53

it's what I return to when things are

178:55

hard in any aspect of life and

178:57

especially when I'm doing a challenge.

179:00

It's a way for me to remind myself this

179:03

is the struggle I asked for to make

179:05

myself better at the thing I want to be

179:07

better at. And it's also a reminder to

179:10

move forward through it

179:11

>> and not shy away from it. As we talked

179:14

about, challenge accepted was born out

179:16

of writing my fears on a whiteboard. And

179:18

so for me, I've have a very intimate

179:21

connection with that sentiment. And I

179:24

think about it even in an exterior

179:26

capacity. When I get nervous about

179:28

something, personal life, business,

179:30

whatever, exterior to the challenge

179:32

itself, I return to that often.

179:34

>> Mhm. I have quotes related to that

179:38

etched onto driftwood from ranging from

179:41

Anias Nin to others all over all over my

179:44

house.

179:45

>> I think I've done enough talking today.

179:47

So, I'm going to keep the focus on you,

179:49

Michelle. Where can people find you?

179:51

Where would you like to point people to?

179:53

>> You can follow me at Michelle Kar on

179:56

everything. And the three-part series of

179:59

my experience

180:01

attempting seven marathons on all seven

180:03

continents in one single week will be

180:05

coming out on my YouTube channel in

180:07

three consecutive weeks throughout April

180:10

and May. And we're going for a prime

180:13

time Emmy this year, which I'm really

180:15

excited about. We're on the ballot for

180:17

outstanding hosted non-fiction series or

180:20

special. It's a very long title for a

180:22

category and I'm excited about it for a

180:26

lot of reasons.

180:28

Most of which is I want to be a part of

180:32

a future where it's

180:35

not unheard of that a YouTube channel is

180:37

going for something like this. And

180:39

that's why I'm excited about it for

180:41

myself and other creators.

180:44

>> I'm excited for you.

180:45

>> Thank you. So, if you're a voter,

180:47

>> I'd vote for you. I'd vote for you. And

180:50

just for people who may miss this, K h a

180:55

r e.

180:56

>> Oh, yeah. Yeah. M I C H E L L E. K H A R

180:59

E.

181:01

>> Uh Michelle, is there anything else

181:02

you'd like to say? Any parting words?

181:05

Anything you'd like to add before we

181:07

wind to a close?

181:09

>> I want to say thank you, Tim. It was

181:12

really special to go back through the

181:15

archives and realize that

181:19

your impact in my life started 10 years

181:22

ago and to almost to the date

181:26

be meeting you 10 years later is really

181:29

full circle and affirming for me. And I

181:32

hope that anyone listening can can hear

181:35

the very grassroots fear setting chart

181:38

that I had for myself in the beginning.

181:40

And I think it's a special moment for me

181:43

to reflect on the the length of time it

181:46

takes to do something special

181:49

>> and how that commitment can lead you

181:51

somewhere unexpected.

181:53

>> Thank you for that. And I have to say it

181:57

makes me so deeply

182:01

happy. I mean joy is probably a better

182:04

word. I get so much joy out of the fact

182:07

that that you exist and you're doing

182:10

what you're doing because it tests a lot

182:13

of assumptions about a direction that I

182:16

would view as pretty dystopian about

182:18

online content creation. like you're

182:21

putting out long form

182:25

positive

182:26

life affirming

182:28

non-fiction where you show that

182:32

failure is not a terminal sentence. It's

182:35

just feedback along the path. And I just

182:40

love that you're doing what you're

182:43

doing. And I'm such a fan of your work,

182:47

such a fan of Challenge Accepted.

182:50

And I hope you keep doing it for a super

182:52

long time.

182:53

>> Me, too. Thank you, Tim.

182:54

>> Yeah. All right, everybody. Until next

182:57

time, we're going to put show notes,

182:58

including some template emails for

183:01

people in the show notes at

183:03

tim.blog/mpodcast.

183:05

I assure you, if you search Kh, there

183:08

will be only one

183:10

response. Until next time, be just a bit

183:13

kinder than is necessary to others, but

183:16

also to yourself. And thanks for tuning

183:18

in.

183:19

Thank you.

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