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All right, hello and welcome to

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this training. As you can see

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from the title, what we're

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going to be covering today is

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how to achieve anything by

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ignoring reality. And as you

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can see from the overview, what

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we're going to be discussing

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more specifically is first the

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overview itself, the backwards

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equation, seeing the equation,

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flipping the variables, holding

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the inversion through the lag,

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the review and then your action

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With that said, and out of the

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way, let's get started and talk

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about the backwards equation.

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So what I want to walk you

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through today is something that

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genuinely changed how I think

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about pretty much everything.

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And it starts with a really

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simple observation that there

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is an equation underneath our

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lives, underneath our money,

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our health, our relationships,

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all of it.

1:04

And the thing is, most of us

1:05

have read it backwards for as

1:07

long as we can remember, which

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means every decision you've

1:10

made and every pattern you've

1:12

fallen into has been built on a

1:14

sequence that was inverted from

1:16

the start.

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And once you see that, once you

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really get it, and I believe

1:20

you will after this training, a

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lot of things that never made

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really a lot of sense before

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suddenly click into place.

1:26

So here's how the equation runs

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for most people. And this

1:30

probably describes your default

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mode as well. And it describes

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almost everyone's.

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And the way it plays out is

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really something happens in

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your external world, in your

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reality.

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Your mind then immediately

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generates a thought about it

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that thought produces a feeling

1:45

you act from that feeling and

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then those actions produce more

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of the same kind of reality,

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which triggers the same

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thoughts and the same feelings

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again.

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And so the whole thing just

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loops over and over and over

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again, without you ever

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noticing that you're the one

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keeping it going.

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And the reason it's so hard to

2:01

catch is that the whole

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sequence really happens on

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autopilot, like you wake up,

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you check your phone, maybe you

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see something that stresses you

2:09

out.

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And then a thought fires before

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you're even really conscious of

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it. And it can be anything it

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can be this isn't good, or I'm

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falling behind. And then that

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thought instantly produces a

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response in your body a feeling.

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It could be a tightness in your

2:23

chest, it could be a low hum of

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anxiety that just sits there

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for the rest of the day and

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from that place, you then start

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making decisions you start

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interacting with people and

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reality and making and make

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choices.

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And you carry that energy into

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everything, essentially, which

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is how you end up at the end of

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most days feeling like nothing

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has really changed. You spent

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the entire day reacting to

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circumstances that were already

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old already finished already

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the output of a previous cycle.

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And then you use those old

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outputs as the raw material for

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your next round of thinking and

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feeling. So of course, the

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result looks the same.

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And the really tricky part is

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that none of this really feels

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like a choice. It feels like

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just how life works, which is

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exactly why most people never

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really question it.

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And it keeps running the same

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in the background, the same

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loop for years or even decades

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without people really realizing

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there's another way to operate.

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And the thing is the whole

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sequence feels so obvious and

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so natural that nobody ever

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stops to question it. Of course,

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you think negative thoughts

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when bad things happen, right?

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Of course, those thoughts make

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you feel a certain way. And

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then of course, you react from

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that place. You're just

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reacting to the world, right?

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Of course, that's just being a

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reasonable person, right?

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But that right there is the

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trap. What you're actually

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doing when you run that

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sequence is really letting the

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output of your life dictate the

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input.

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And when you do that, you're

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locked into producing the same

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result every time. So it's sort

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of like being stuck in a

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feedback loop where the answer

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keeps feeding back into the

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question and the question keeps

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producing the same answer.

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And on and on it goes and you

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just go around and around

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wondering why your life feels

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like it's on repeat when the

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mechanism causing the

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repetition is something you're

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doing every single day without

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awareness.

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And every time you let your

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circumstances trigger the same

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automatic thoughts, which

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produce the same feelings,

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which drive the same reactions,

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you're basically telling your

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system, yes, this is real, this

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is important, keep building

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more of this,

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which means your reactions are

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reinforcing the very reality

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you're trying to change. And

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that's why willpower alone can't

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really break the cycle. The

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cycle is running at a deeper

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level than willpower can

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actually reach.

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So whatever you're looking at

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right now in your life, maybe

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it's your bank account, maybe

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it's your body, maybe it's your

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relationships, all of that is

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basically a printout, right?

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Just like the image shows.

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And I mean that in a very

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literal sense is the result of

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an equation that was already

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solved weeks or months or even

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years ago by the thoughts you

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were thinking in the feelings

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you were carrying at that time,

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which means the reality you're

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experiencing today is all data.

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It's already finished. And it

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has nothing to do with what's

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actually possible for you going

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forward.

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So think of your current

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circumstances as a kind of

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energetic history, a record of

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where your internal state was

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at some earlier point. And the

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reason that matters is that

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most people look at that record,

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and they treat it like it's a

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live feed.

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They think this is what's

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happening right now when really

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it's more like reading last

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month's report and mistaking it

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for today's one.

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So basically there is a delay

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between when you change

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internally and when that change

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shows up externally. And it's

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built in. It's a built in

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feature of how all of this

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works.

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So if you're judging your

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progress by what you can see in

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front of you right now, you're

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always going to be looking at

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evidence from an older version

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of yourself, which is genuinely

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misleading if you don't

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understand the mechanics.

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So the stuff that's showing up

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in your life today is residual

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is the echo of a previous

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internal state is the echo of a

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cause that was a long time ago.

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And the sooner you really

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internalize that the sooner you

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stop giving it so much weight,

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because you realize you're

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reading the receipt from a

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transaction that has already

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happened.

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And that that receipt tells you

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nothing about what the next

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transaction is going to look

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like the better.

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So this is actually a really

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freeing thing. Once you really

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understand it, it means your

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current reality isn't a verdict.

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It isn't some final judgment on

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who you are or what you're

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capable of.

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And I know most of you probably

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know this to a degree is just

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the tail end of an older

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process.

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You know that your future is

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probably brighter than your

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current reality, but you most

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likely don't know that the

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current reality is just a

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result of what happened maybe

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years ago.

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It's just the, as I said, the

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tail end of an older process

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and the equation that produced

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it has already been solved,

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which means you're free to

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write a completely new one

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starting right now.

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And what comes out the other

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side of that new equation will

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most likely look nothing like

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what you're seeing today, which

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is honestly one of the most

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liberating realizations you can

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have.

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It takes the pressure off of

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your current situation entirely

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and you stop fighting what's in

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front of you and you stop

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trying to fix the printout.

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And instead you put all of your

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energy into writing better

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inputs, which is the only thing

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that actually moves the needle.

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And that shift from fixing the

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output to changing the input is

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basically the whole game.

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It's what separates people who

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stay stuck in the same patterns

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from people who seem to create

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change almost effortlessly.

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So the second group figured out

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that you don't change your life

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by wrestling with reality.

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You change it by changing what

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goes into the equation first.

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So the default equation, the

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one that almost everyone is

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running unconsciously runs in a

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loop of circumstances, create

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thoughts, those thoughts create

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feelings, those feelings create

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some actions, and then those

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lead to the same circumstances.

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And that's a closed loop. There's

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no exit point. You just keep

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cycling through the same

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sequence over and over and over

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again.

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And the reason it feels so inescapable

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is that at every point in the

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chain, the next step feels like

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the only logical response to

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the one before it.

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So it never occurs to you that

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the whole chain could be

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reversed, right?

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And what makes this especially

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hard to see is that the default

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equation feels like reality

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itself.

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It feels like this is just how

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cause and effect works.

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Most people never really

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question it. They just assume

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that the outside world causes

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their thoughts and feelings and

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that's that.

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And then they spend their whole

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lives trying to rearrange the

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external circumstances, hoping

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it will make them feel

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different, which sometimes

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works temporarily,

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but never really lasts because

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the underlying equation hasn't

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changed.

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And a big part of why this is

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so ingrained is that you are

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conditioned into it from a very

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young age.

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Your parents and your teachers

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and culture all model the

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default equation for you.

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They taught you implicitly,

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mostly, that your thoughts and

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feelings are caused by what

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happens to you, which set up

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the whole pattern before you

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were old enough to even

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question it.

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So by the time you're an adult,

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running the default equation

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feels natural. It's as natural

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as breathing.

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You don't even register it as a

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pattern, let alone a pattern

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that you could actually change,

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which is why the first step in

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breaking out of it is simply

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becoming aware that it actually

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exists.

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You can't invert something you

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haven't even noticed.

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And what I'm telling you is

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that this whole chain is

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running in the wrong direction.

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The actual order is the reverse

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of what you've been taught.

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And the moment you understand

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that the moment you really get

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that thoughts and feelings come

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first and reality follows and

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that you ignore reality and

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just create thoughts and

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feelings,

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everything starts to make a

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different kind of sense and you

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start to see why some people

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seem to create results almost

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magnetically while others grind

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away for years and barely move

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the needle.

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So the inverted equation, the

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one that actually produces

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change, flips the order to

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thoughts, create feelings,

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create actions, which create

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new circumstances.

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And the key difference is that

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in this version, you're

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absolutely ignoring reality.

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You're the one choosing the

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starting point instead of

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letting your environment choose

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it for you, which puts you back

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in control of the whole chain.

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And that's what this whole

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training is really about.

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It's about learning to run the

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equation in the right direction

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and the three steps I'm going

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to walk you through are the

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practical tools for actually

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doing it in your daily life,

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starting with the most

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fundamental one, which is

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simply learning to see the

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equation in the first place.

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Now, the reason most people's

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lives feel like their own

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repeat, like the same problems

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keep cycling back around no

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matter what they do,

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is because they keep looking at

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the old printout and using it

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as the input for the next round

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of thinking and feeling,

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which just produces another

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version of the same printout.

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And then they look at that one

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and they react to it again and

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do the whole thing over and

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over and over again.

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And you can run that loop for

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decades, honestly, without ever

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realizing that you're the one

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sustaining it.

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And it's worth pointing out

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that this applies to everything,

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not just money or career stuff.

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It shows up in your

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relationships where you keep

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attracting the same kind of

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person or the same kind of

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dynamic.

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It shows up in health where you

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keep falling back into the same

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patterns no matter how many

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diets or programs you try.

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And it shows up in your general

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mode and energy because all of

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those things are outputs of the

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same underlying equation.

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So if you've ever had that

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feeling of here we go again,

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that sense that you're

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basically dealing with the same

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issue in a slightly different

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costume,

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that's the default equation

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doing exactly what it was

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designed to do, which is

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produce consistent results

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based on a consistent input.

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And the input hasn't changed

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because you've been letting the

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outputs write it.

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And once you see this pattern

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in one area of your life, you'll

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be able to start seeing it

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everywhere because it really is

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universal.

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It's the same mechanism playing

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out across every domain, which

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is both a little overwhelming

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at first, but also incredibly

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empowering.

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There's one thing to fix, one

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equation to invert, and that

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inversion ripples out across

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everything else.

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And I want to be clear, this

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isn't about blaming yourself,

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right? When you understand that

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you've been running the

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equation backwards,

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yes, the natural response might

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be a little bit of frustration

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or guilt, but that's the old

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equation trying to reassert

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itself.

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The much more useful response

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is to just go, "Okay, now I see

12:41

it and now I can change it,"

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almost as if you just finally

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got the answer to a

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mathematical equation, to a

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math problem,

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which is exactly what we're

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going to do in the next section.

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And it's really that mechanical.

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It's just a sequence that can

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be run in one direction or

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another, and most people happen

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to be running it in the

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direction that keeps them stuck.

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And once you learn to run it in

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the other direction, the

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results change, and they change

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in ways that feel almost

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surprising at first because you're

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so used to the old output.

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And that's honestly the thing I

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want you to walk away with from

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this section, that the reason

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in your life maybe looks a

13:18

certain way,

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or the way it does look right

13:20

now, is completely

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understandable. It's completely

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explainable and completely

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changeable, because it's all

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just the output of an equation,

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and equations can be rewritten.

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So with that said, let's cover

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seeing the equation. So before

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you can actually flip anything

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around, you have to actually

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see what's happening.

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The default equation runs so

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automatically, so far below the

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surface of your conscious

13:47

awareness, that most people go

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through their entire day

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reacting to reality, without

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once catching themselves in the

13:55

act.

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And that automatic quality is

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exactly what gives it so much

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power, since you can't really

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change a process you haven't

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even identified yet.

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And what I mean by seeing the

14:07

equation in us is honestly

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pretty straightforward. It's

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just starting to pay attention

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to the specific moments in your

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day where your external

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circumstances are dictating how

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you think and how that thinking

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is shaping how you feel, and

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then recognizing that in those

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moments, you're running the old

14:24

sequence.

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You're letting the printout

14:26

write the next equation. You're

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basically feeding the answer

14:30

back into the formula, which is

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exactly the mechanism that

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keeps the loop locked into

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place.

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So for example, let's say you

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check your bank balance, and it's

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lower than you want.

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A thought fire is instantly

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most likely something like, I'm

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not where I should be, or I

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spent too much last weekend.

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And that thought drops

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something in your body, right,

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that heaviness, that tightness.

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And the whole thing happens in

14:54

half a second, completely on

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autopilot, without you making

14:58

any conscious choice about it.

15:00

And from that lowered state,

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you go about your day carrying

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that weight into every

15:04

conversation and every decision

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you make.

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And the speed of it is part of

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what makes it so invisible,

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because by the time you're

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aware of the thought that fired,

15:13

that along the feeling it's

15:15

created, you've already reacted.

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The equation has already run,

15:20

and now you're living inside

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the output of that reaction,

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making it feel like the

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emotional state is just the

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truth.

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When really it was generated by

15:29

a mechanical process you didn't

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even notice.

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And this happens dozens of

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times today, honestly, not just

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with money, but with everything.

15:37

Someone says something dismissive,

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and maybe your mind interprets

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it in a certain way that shifts

15:43

your mood.

15:44

Or you see someone on social

15:45

media doing better than you,

15:47

and a thought fires that

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contracts something inside.

15:51

Or maybe you hit the setback in

15:52

your work, and the story your

15:54

mind tells about it, drops your

15:56

whole energy.

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And each one of those moments

15:59

is basically an instance of the

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default equation firing.

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And each one reinforces the

16:04

loop that keeps your reality

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looking the same.

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And the thing about these micro

16:10

reactions is that they

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accumulate.

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Even if no single one of them

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seems like a big deal, by the

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end of the day you basically

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run the default equation 50 or

16:19

100 times without catching it.

16:22

And all of those reactions have

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collectively set the emotional

16:25

tone that's going to shape what

16:27

shows up next in your life.

16:29

Which is why awareness alone,

16:30

or just the act of starting to

16:31

notice, is so much more

16:32

powerful than it sounds on the

16:34

surface, because every time you

16:36

catch the thought mid-flight,

16:39

you're interrupting a compounding

16:40

process, you're pulling back

16:42

one brick out of the wall that

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the default equation is trying

16:45

to build.

16:46

And over time those interruptions

16:47

add up to a fundamentally

16:48

different internal landscape,

16:50

right?

16:51

Now, here's a useful way to

16:52

really think about your

16:54

recurring problems.

16:56

They're kind of like background

16:58

apps running on your phone.

17:00

They're just sitting there

17:01

quietly, they consume energy,

17:02

and every time you open one of

17:03

them, every time you give it

17:04

your attention and your

17:05

emotional investment,

17:07

you're telling the system, "Keep

17:08

this one active, this one

17:09

really matters."

17:11

And it stays in the loop, which

17:12

is why some issues seem to

17:13

follow you around for years,

17:15

even when you think you've

17:16

dealt with them.

17:18

And you only have so much

17:19

emotional bandwidth in a given

17:21

day.

17:22

And if half of it is going to

17:23

background processes that are

17:25

just recycling old patterns,

17:26

then you have that much less

17:28

available for actually creating

17:29

something new.

17:31

Which is why people often feel

17:32

exhausted, even when they haven't

17:33

really done anything.

17:35

Their internal system was busy

17:37

running old equations all day

17:39

long.

17:40

So one of the most powerful

17:41

moves you can actually make,

17:43

and this sounds almost too

17:44

simple, is to just stop opening

17:46

the app.

17:47

Meaning stop engaging with the

17:48

old pattern when it pops up.

17:50

Let it sit there without

17:51

clicking on it, and eventually

17:53

it times out on its own.

17:55

These patterns can only sustain

17:56

themselves when you keep

17:57

feeding them your attention and

17:59

your emotional energy.

18:01

And this is really the same

18:02

principle we talked about

18:03

earlier with the printout.

18:05

The idea that your current

18:06

reality is sustained by ongoing

18:08

input.

18:09

So when you withdraw the input,

18:10

which is in practical terms

18:12

means withdrawing your

18:13

emotional reactivity, the

18:15

pattern starts to lose its hope.

18:17

It starts to fade because there's

18:18

nothing feeding it anymore.

18:20

And what you're really learning

18:21

to do here is really become

18:22

more selective about what gets

18:24

your cognitive and emotional

18:25

energy.

18:26

Because right now most people

18:27

are just broadcasting their

18:29

energy at whatever is loudest

18:30

in their environment.

18:32

Or whatever is most urgent or

18:33

most stressful or most in their

18:35

face.

18:36

And that's how the default

18:37

equation stays in control.

18:39

So the shift is really learning

18:40

how to consciously choose where

18:42

your energy goes, instead of

18:45

letting circumstances make that

18:46

choice for you.

18:48

And this doesn't mean suppressing

18:49

your feelings or pretending

18:50

things don't bother you.

18:52

That's a different thing

18:53

entirely, right?

18:54

What it means is developing the

18:55

ability to notice a thought

18:57

rising and then choosing

18:58

whether to invest in it or let

19:00

it pass, which is a skill.

19:02

It takes practice and it gets

19:04

easier the more you do it.

19:06

And honestly, this is probably

19:07

the most underrated skill in

19:09

personal development.

19:11

I think everyone wants the

19:12

advanced techniques and the big

19:13

breakthroughs.

19:15

But the ability to simply

19:16

notice your own thinking in

19:18

real time and choose

19:19

differently is the foundation

19:20

that everything else is built

19:22

on.

19:23

Because without none of the

19:24

other steps really work.

19:26

You have to do that in one way

19:27

or another in order to create

19:29

change.

19:30

So the practical move here, and

19:32

this is something you can start

19:34

doing literally today, is what

19:36

I call the equation check.

19:38

And all it takes is a few times

19:39

a day.

19:40

You just pause for a second and

19:41

ask yourself, am I reacting to

19:42

my reality right now?

19:44

Or am I creating it?

19:46

That's it. That one question.

19:48

Because the moment you catch

19:49

the thought that's driving your

19:51

reaction,

19:52

you've already stepped outside

19:53

the loop for just a second.

19:55

And that second of awareness is

19:57

where the inversion becomes

19:59

possible.

20:00

Now, the pause itself is the

20:02

thing, really.

20:04

In the default equation, there

20:05

is no pause.

20:06

The thought fires, the feeling

20:07

follows, the action happens.

20:09

There's nothing in between.

20:11

So when you insert even a tiny

20:12

gap between what happens and

20:14

how you react and how you think,

20:16

you fundamentally change the

20:17

mechanics of the process.

20:19

You've created a space where

20:20

choice can exist, and that

20:22

space is where all of the real

20:24

work happens.

20:25

Between stimulus and response,

20:26

there is a space, and in that

20:28

space is your freedom and your

20:29

power to choose.

20:31

And that's essentially what the

20:32

equation check is designed to

20:33

give you.

20:34

It's a tool for creating that

20:35

space reliably multiple times a

20:36

day,

20:37

so that you're not just hoping

20:38

for moments of awareness, but

20:40

actively generating them.

20:42

And consistency matters here

20:43

more than intensity, as with a

20:45

lot of things in life,

20:47

it's much better to do three or

20:48

four brief equation checks

20:50

spread throughout your day

20:52

than to do one big meditation

20:53

in the morning and then run on

20:55

autopilot for the next 16 hours.

20:58

Because the default equation

20:59

fires all day long, so your

21:01

awareness practice needs to be

21:03

distributed across the day too.

21:05

And every time you do this,

21:06

every time you catch the

21:07

automatic thought in the middle

21:09

of firing and then you pause,

21:11

you're essentially weakening

21:12

the automacity of the default

21:14

equation just a little bit.

21:16

And over days and weeks, those

21:17

small disruptions accumulate

21:19

into something really

21:20

significant

21:21

because the loop that's been

21:22

running your life can only

21:23

maintain itself really through

21:25

uninterrupted repetition.

21:27

Each interruption is chipping

21:29

away at its foundation.

21:31

And the results are cumulative

21:32

in a way that's easy to

21:33

underestimate at first,

21:35

because on any given day, the

21:36

equation check might feel small

21:38

and unremarkable,

21:40

but if you do it consistently

21:41

for a few weeks, you'll start

21:42

to notice that your baseline

21:43

emotional state has shifted.

21:45

There's sure less reactive

21:46

generally that things that used

21:48

to hook you just don't land the

21:50

same way,

21:51

and that's the default equation

21:52

losing its grip.

21:54

And this is really the

21:55

foundational practice for

21:56

everything that comes next,

21:58

because without this ability to

21:59

see the equation and interrupt

22:01

it, the other two steps won't

22:03

stick.

22:04

You'll try to invert things,

22:05

but the default pattern will

22:06

keep pulling you back.

22:08

So treat the step as the ground

22:10

floor and give it the attention

22:12

it really deserves.

22:14

And look, I want to be honest

22:15

with you about why this is

22:17

difficult, and it should be.

22:19

Your nervous system is

22:20

literally built to read reality

22:22

first and then respond second.

22:25

It's a survival mechanism, and

22:26

it has kept humans alive for

22:28

hundreds of thousands of years,

22:30

and you're asking it to operate

22:31

in a way that feels

22:32

fundamentally counterintuitive,

22:35

which is why it takes real

22:36

practice and patience and a

22:37

willingness to be bad at it for

22:38

a while before it starts to

22:40

become more natural.

22:42

Because survival mode and

22:43

creation mode, I believe, are

22:45

genuinely two different ways of

22:47

being.

22:48

And your body defaults to

22:49

survival because that's what

22:51

kept your ancestors alive.

22:53

So when you start trying to

22:54

override that default, there's

22:55

going to be resistance,

22:57

there's going to be discomfort,

22:58

and your system is most likely

23:00

going to protest,

23:01

because it thinks you're doing

23:02

something dangerous, right,

23:04

even though you're actually

23:05

just doing something that will

23:06

change your life.

23:07

And the wiring of this goes

23:08

deep. It isn't some minor habit

23:10

that you can just decide to

23:11

stop.

23:12

It's a neurological pattern

23:13

that's been reinforced by every

23:15

experience you've ever had,

23:17

and you're not going to catch

23:18

every reaction right away, and

23:19

that's completely fine for the

23:21

perfectionist out there.

23:23

The goal is to just catch more

23:24

of them over time on average,

23:26

and the trend matters

23:27

infinitely more than any single

23:29

instance.

23:30

So be patient with the process

23:31

and trust that even catching

23:33

yourself one or two extra times

23:34

a day or a week is meaningful

23:36

progress,

23:37

because each catch is a small

23:38

proof of concept and it shows

23:40

that the default equation can

23:42

be actually interrupted,

23:44

and that you're not completely

23:45

at the mercy of your reactions,

23:48

and that alone will start to

23:48

shift something fundamental in

23:50

how you relate to your own

23:51

experience.

23:53

So really, what you're doing

23:54

with this whole first step is

23:56

building the capacity to

23:57

override a system that's been

23:59

running unchecked your entire

24:01

life,

24:02

which is a big deal if you

24:02

think about it, and it's worth

24:04

acknowledging that rather than

24:05

rushing through it,

24:06

because the people who take

24:07

this step seriously and really

24:09

practice it are the ones who

24:10

make the other two steps work

24:12

better.

24:13

The people who skip it or treat

24:14

it as obvious are the ones who

24:16

end up back in the same loop

24:17

six months later wondering what

24:19

happened.

24:20

So think of this as the

24:21

foundation, the thing that

24:22

everything else really rests on,

24:25

and give it the weight it

24:26

deserves in your daily practice,

24:28

because if you can consistently

24:29

see the equation firing in real

24:31

time,

24:32

you've already done something

24:33

that most people never managed

24:34

to do, and from that place of

24:36

awareness, the inversion

24:37

becomes genuinely possible.

24:39

And once you've built this

24:40

awareness muscle up to the

24:41

point where you're catching

24:43

yourself regularly throughout

24:44

the day,

24:45

where the equation check has

24:46

become almost second nature,

24:47

that's when you're ready for

24:49

the second step,

24:50

which is where things really

24:51

start to get interesting,

24:52

because now you're going to

24:53

take that awareness and use it

24:55

to actually flip the variables

24:56

around.

24:57

So let's talk about flipping

24:58

the variables.

25:00

Now, once you see the equation

25:01

running, the next move is to

25:03

really invert it,

25:05

and this is where the whole

25:06

thing starts to get really

25:07

interesting,

25:08

because what you're doing here

25:09

is deliberately choosing the

25:10

thoughts and generating the

25:12

feelings of the reality you

25:13

want before any evidence of it

25:14

shows up in your life.

25:16

And honestly, this is the step

25:17

that most people either skip

25:18

entirely or do halfway, and it's

25:20

one that matters the most,

25:22

because this is where the

25:23

actual direction of the

25:24

equation really changes.

25:26

So here's what I mean in

25:27

practical terms.

25:29

In the default equation, you

25:30

wait for something good to

25:31

happen, your mind thinks a

25:32

thought about it, and then you

25:34

feel good about it.

25:35

That's the normal order that

25:36

everyone's used to, or

25:38

something bad happens, your

25:40

mind thinks a thought about it,

25:42

and then you feel bad about it.

25:44

That's just the normal order

25:45

that everyone's used to.

25:47

But in the inverted equation,

25:48

you choose the thought first,

25:50

which generates the feeling,

25:52

you create the internal state

25:53

deliberately and on purpose,

25:55

and then you let reality

25:56

reorganize around that.

25:59

So you're writing the input

26:00

side of the equation by hand

26:02

instead of letting your

26:03

circumstances fill it in for

26:05

you, which completely changes

26:07

what comes out on the other end.

26:10

Now, the key word here is first,

26:12

because the timing is

26:14

everything, right?

26:15

You're not thinking, empowering

26:16

thoughts and feeling good in

26:17

response to something good that

26:18

happened.

26:19

You're generating them before

26:20

anything has changed, which can

26:22

feel counter-intuitive and even

26:24

a little crazy at first, but

26:26

that's exactly the inversion.

26:27

That's the whole point. You're

26:28

reversing the direction of

26:29

cause and effect in your own

26:30

experience, and it has to be

26:32

deliberate.

26:33

It has to be something you do

26:34

on purpose with intention,

26:36

because your default system is

26:37

always going to want to read

26:39

reality first and then respond

26:41

second, which is why this step

26:43

requires active practice.

26:45

Often, you can't just hope your

26:46

thoughts and feelings will

26:48

change on their own. You have

26:50

to actually choose them, which

26:51

is a very different thing.

26:53

So you can see the image of the

26:55

default equation and the

26:57

inverted equation.

26:59

And there's a real reason this

27:00

works, by the way. It's

27:01

grounded in something your

27:02

nervous system actually does.

27:04

Your brain at a neurological

27:05

level genuinely cannot tell the

27:06

difference between a vividly

27:08

felt internal experience and

27:09

the one that's actually

27:11

happening in the external world.

27:13

So if you really sit with the

27:14

thoughts and feelings of

27:15

financial security, for example,

27:17

if you let your body relax into

27:19

how you would think at that

27:21

point and what that would feel

27:22

like in your chest and your

27:24

shoulders and your breathing,

27:26

then your nervous system

27:27

responds to that signal the

27:28

same way it would respond to a

27:30

real event, because your

27:31

biology doesn't fact check the

27:33

source.

27:34

It just processes whatever data

27:36

it receives.

27:38

And there's a substantial body

27:40

of research on this in

27:41

neuroscience, the basic finding

27:44

that being that mental

27:45

rehearsal activates many of the

27:47

same neuro pathways as actual

27:49

experience, which is why

27:51

athletes use visualization so

27:53

effectively.

27:55

And it's the same mechanism at

27:57

work here.

27:58

Except instead of rehearsing a

28:00

physical performance, you're

28:02

rehearsing a cognitive and

28:04

emotional state.

28:06

So when you sit in the morning

28:07

and genuinely feel into the

28:09

state of the person who already

28:10

has what you want, your biology

28:12

is responding to that as if it's

28:14

real.

28:15

Your hormones most likely will

28:16

shift your nervous system will

28:18

calibrate to that frequency and

28:20

your whole physiology will

28:21

start to align with a different

28:23

reality.

28:24

And that physiological shift is

28:25

what changes the input of the

28:27

equation at the most

28:28

fundamental level.

28:30

Now, the beautiful thing about

28:31

this is that your body doesn't

28:33

argue with it. It doesn't say,

28:34

well, actually, you don't have

28:36

that yet.

28:37

So I'm not going to respond. It

28:39

just processes the signal,

28:40

which means you have the

28:41

ability to manually set your

28:43

internal state, regardless of

28:44

what's happening outside of you.

28:46

And that's the inversion in

28:48

action.

28:49

So the morning practice I'd

28:50

recommend, and this is

28:51

something I do myself, is

28:52

spending about five minutes

28:54

before you do anything else

28:55

before you check your phone,

28:57

before you let the world and

28:58

just sitting with a version of

29:00

you who already has what you

29:01

want.

29:02

And I want to be specific about

29:03

what I mean, because it isn't

29:05

visualization the way most

29:06

people think of it.

29:08

You're not trying to picture a

29:09

mansion or a car or a perfect

29:11

body here, you're thinking and

29:12

feeling into a state, the

29:14

internal experience of being

29:16

the person who already lives

29:17

that reality.

29:19

What I mean by that is the

29:21

particular combination of

29:22

thoughts and feelings that will

29:24

be present if your desired

29:26

reality was already your

29:27

current one.

29:29

So for some people, that's a

29:30

deep calm and a sense of

29:31

certainty. For others, it can

29:33

be just a warm confidence.

29:35

For others, it's a quiet

29:36

gratitude mixed with excitement.

29:39

The exact flavor will be

29:40

different for everyone, but the

29:42

key is that it's felt, it's a

29:44

felt experience in your body,

29:45

not a picture in your mind, or

29:47

a sense of sentence that you

29:49

repeat, like an affirmation, it's

29:51

a felt experience.

29:53

So you're really looking for a

29:54

whole body experience here,

29:55

because that level of embodiment

29:57

is what makes the signal strong

29:58

enough for your nervous system

29:59

to respond to it.

30:01

And it helps to get really

30:02

specific with yourself about

30:03

what the thoughts and feelings

30:05

actually are.

30:06

And five minutes is genuinely

30:07

enough. You don't need to sit

30:09

for an hour doing this. What

30:11

matters is the quality of the

30:12

thoughts and the feelings and

30:14

how fully you let yourself drop

30:16

into them.

30:17

And if you do it consistently

30:18

every morning, it becomes the

30:20

state that you carry into the

30:21

rest of your day, which means

30:22

you're really running the

30:24

inverted equation from the very

30:25

start of your day.

30:27

And consistency is the thing

30:28

that makes this work long term,

30:30

because obviously a single

30:31

session feels nice, but doesn't

30:33

really change much, whereas

30:35

doing it every day for weeks

30:36

starts to fundamentally shift

30:38

your baseline state.

30:40

So you can think of it as a

30:41

compounding investment. Each

30:44

session adds a little bit to

30:45

the total and over time those

30:47

small deposits add up to a

30:48

completely different internal

30:50

state, which is going to

30:52

produce obviously a completely

30:53

different set of outputs in

30:55

your external reality.

30:56

Now the compounding effect is

30:57

why people who stick with this

30:59

for a few months often describe

31:01

the results as feeling almost

31:02

sudden, even though the process

31:04

was very gradual.

31:06

And the reason this matters so

31:07

much, the reason I'm spending

31:09

this much time on it is because

31:11

the thought and the feeling it

31:12

produces are the actual

31:13

variables that determine the

31:15

output of the equation.

31:17

Everything else, the money, the

31:18

relationship, the health, the

31:20

opportunities, those are all

31:22

downstream of an internal state

31:23

that was held consistently

31:25

enough and long enough for

31:26

reality to reorganize around it.

31:29

And most people are focused

31:30

entirely on the external things

31:32

they want.

31:33

The amount in the bank, maybe

31:34

the relationship, the body, and

31:36

they're trying to create those

31:37

things directly through effort

31:39

and strategy, which sometimes

31:41

works but doesn't really last

31:42

because the underlying input,

31:44

your thoughts, feelings, and

31:46

who you believe you are haven't

31:47

really changed.

31:49

So the stuff is always

31:50

downstream, it's always the

31:51

effect.

31:52

And the thoughts and the

31:53

feelings are always the cause

31:54

and when you really get that

31:56

when it stops being a concept

31:57

and becomes something you

31:59

actually live by, then you stop

32:00

chasing outcomes and you start

32:02

managing your thinking and your

32:03

internal state, which is the

32:05

only lever that actually

32:06

controls the output of the

32:08

equation in a lasting way.

32:10

And the only part that you can

32:12

actually fully control.

32:14

So when you sit down in the

32:15

morning and do this practice,

32:17

you're essentially giving

32:18

reality a new set of

32:19

instructions to solve for your

32:21

plugging a different value into

32:23

the input side of the equation

32:24

and over time, as you hold that

32:26

value more and more

32:27

consistently, the output has to

32:29

change, because the input

32:31

changed and that's genuinely

32:32

just how equations work right.

32:34

There's no version of this

32:35

where you change one side, and

32:36

the other stays the same indefinitely.

32:39

And that inevitability is

32:41

something important.

32:43

And it's, it, you need to be

32:44

able to trust because during

32:46

the process, it can really feel

32:48

uncertain, it can feel like

32:49

nothing's happening, but the

32:51

math is the math.

32:53

If the input is different than

32:54

the output will eventually be

32:56

different as well.

32:58

And holding on to that

32:59

understanding is what gets you

33:00

through the difficult middle

33:02

part.

33:03

Once you've started flipping

33:04

the variables, once you're

33:06

regularly generating your

33:07

internal state before your

33:09

external world gives you a

33:10

reason to, you're going to run

33:12

into something that trips up

33:14

almost everyone and that's the

33:16

lag between when the input

33:17

changes and when the output

33:18

catches up.

33:20

So let's talk about holding the

33:22

inversion through the lag.

33:25

So this is the part where most

33:26

people fall off and honestly is

33:28

the most important part to

33:29

really understand because when

33:31

you start running invert the

33:33

inverted equation when you

33:34

genuinely shift your thinking

33:36

and your internal state and

33:37

start thinking and feeling

33:39

differently on the inside, your

33:41

external reality doesn't update

33:42

right away.

33:43

There's a delay, a gap, and

33:44

that gap is where almost

33:46

everyone gives up and really

33:47

flips back to the default

33:49

equation and they interpret the

33:50

delay as proved that the

33:52

inversion didn't work.

33:54

Now the lag makes sense if you

33:55

think about the momentum

33:56

involved. You might have spent

33:58

5, 10, 20 years running the old

34:00

equation in one direction,

34:02

building up all this momentum

34:03

through repetition, thinking

34:05

certain thoughts, feeling

34:06

certain feelings, acting from

34:08

those patterns over and over

34:09

again.

34:10

And that momentum doesn't just

34:11

stop the moment you decide to

34:13

change. It can take some time

34:15

to slow down and then reverse

34:16

direction, which is completely

34:18

normal and completely expected

34:20

as logical as well.

34:22

The old output you're seeing

34:23

right now is the result of all

34:25

that accumulated momentum and

34:26

it's still being delivered to

34:28

you because it was already in

34:29

the pipeline. It was already

34:31

queued up, already on its way

34:33

and nothing you do today can

34:35

really recall it or speed up

34:36

the transition.

34:38

All you can do is keep putting

34:39

new inputs into the equation

34:40

and then wait for the new

34:42

outputs to start arriving as

34:43

well.

34:44

And this is where patience

34:45

becomes genuinely important.

34:47

The lag can last days or weeks

34:49

or sometimes longer. It can

34:50

last years or months depending

34:52

on how much momentum the old

34:54

equation really had.

34:56

And during that time, you're

34:57

essentially living in two

34:58

realities at once. Your

35:00

internal state says one thing

35:02

and your external world says

35:04

another. And that tension is

35:05

uncomfortable.

35:07

I get it completely, but it's

35:08

also the clear sign that the

35:09

inversion is working and ask

35:11

every successful person. They

35:13

will tell you that this is the

35:14

most important part of holding

35:16

your thinking, holding your

35:17

mindset in the right place,

35:19

holding your thinking and

35:20

feelings in the right place in

35:22

your internal state.

35:24

It's during that lag. Now

35:26

during the lag, the old reality

35:27

is going to scream louder than

35:29

it ever has because bills are

35:30

still going to come, right?

35:32

There's still going to be

35:33

people acting in the same way

35:34

with you. There's still going

35:36

to be setbacks that happen and

35:37

all of it is going to feel like

35:39

evidence that nothing has

35:40

really changed.

35:42

But what's actually happening

35:43

is that the old equation is

35:45

finishing its print run. Those

35:47

last pages from the previous

35:48

job are still coming through

35:49

the printer.

35:50

And the worst thing you can do

35:51

is look at those old pages and

35:52

then conclude that your new

35:54

equation didn't go through

35:55

because it did. It's just

35:57

waiting in line.

35:58

So the old outputs that show up

36:00

during the lag aren't new

36:02

problems. They're old ones that

36:04

were already in transit. They

36:06

were created by the previous

36:07

input and they're being

36:09

delivered on schedule.

36:11

You should have just expected

36:12

them. And the fact that they're

36:13

still arriving doesn't mean

36:15

anything about what's coming

36:16

next. That's even more

36:17

important to realize.

36:18

It just means that the delivery

36:20

system has a built-in delay the

36:23

same way as when you order from

36:25

Amazon or whatever, right? You

36:28

pay and for a moment there, you

36:30

have paid the money. It has exited

36:32

your bank account and you still

36:34

haven't received the thing that

36:36

you've ordered from Amazon.

36:38

This is genuinely the most

36:39

misleading part of the whole

36:41

process because your logical

36:43

mind is going to look at the

36:44

evidence and construct a very

36:46

convincing argument that

36:48

nothing has changed and nothing

36:50

is going to change.

36:52

And that argument is going to

36:53

feel reasonable and rational

36:55

and most likely quote-unquote

36:58

realistic. But it's based

36:59

entirely on old data, which

37:00

makes it irrelevant to what's

37:02

actually being created on the

37:03

input side of the equation.

37:05

And I want sugarcoated. This

37:06

part feels like a test. It

37:08

feels like the universe, God,

37:09

life, your mind, whatever you

37:11

want to call it, is checking

37:12

whether you really mean it or

37:14

whether you're going to fold at

37:16

the first sign of resistance.

37:18

And while I don't really think

37:20

of it as a cosmic text, the

37:21

test exactly, the functional

37:23

reality is the same. The lag is

37:26

where your commitment to the

37:27

inverted equation either holds

37:30

or breaks.

37:31

And that commitment is the only

37:32

thing that really determines

37:34

the outcome. Now, this, by the

37:36

way, is what separates people

37:37

who actually transform their

37:39

lives from people who just keep

37:40

cycling through the same old

37:42

patterns.

37:43

Because the information is

37:44

really out there, right?

37:46

Everyone has access to these

37:47

ideas now. But the people who

37:49

break through are the ones who

37:50

can hold the new input even

37:52

when the old output is still

37:53

showing up everywhere around

37:55

them.

37:56

That capacity to actually hold

37:58

is the real skill is the thing

37:59

that can be taught that can't

38:01

be taught through concepts

38:03

alone. It has to be built

38:04

through practice.

38:06

And holding here means that

38:07

when the old reality pushes

38:08

back when the lag delivers

38:10

another piece of evidence from

38:12

the old equation from your old

38:13

life from your old way of

38:15

thinking and feeling, you don't

38:17

take the bait.

38:18

You don't let it reset your

38:19

thinking and your internal

38:20

state back to the default. You

38:22

just acknowledge what's

38:23

happening. You feel whatever

38:24

you feel for a moment, and then

38:26

you consciously return to the

38:27

chosen thoughts and emotional

38:29

signature you set in step two,

38:31

because that's the input that

38:32

matters.

38:33

And every time you return to it

38:34

after a disruption, you're

38:35

actually strengthening the

38:37

strengthening the inverted

38:38

equation rather than weakening

38:40

it.

38:41

So each return to your chosen

38:42

state after a disruption is

38:43

actually making the inversion

38:45

stronger because you're not

38:47

just maintaining the new input.

38:49

You're proving to your nervous

38:50

system that this state can

38:51

survive contact with

38:53

contradictory evidence, which

38:54

builds the resilience that

38:56

makes each subsequent

38:57

disruption easier to handle.

38:59

So the lag period as

39:00

uncomfortable as it is, is

39:01

actually the part of the

39:02

process where the most growth

39:04

happens, because it's where you

39:06

build the capacity to hold an

39:08

internal state independently of

39:10

external circumstances.

39:12

And that capacity is the whole

39:14

game. Right. Once you have it,

39:16

the inversion becomes self

39:17

sustaining and the external

39:19

changes follow naturally and

39:20

this is the, this, this

39:22

capacity, the skill of being

39:23

able to control your thoughts

39:25

and control your feelings is

39:26

really one of the most underrated.

39:28

I think skills to success

39:31

really in any field, not just

39:33

financial success. And I want

39:36

to stress again that this is

39:38

pretty mechanical. It's just

39:40

the way the system works. There's

39:42

a delay between cause and

39:43

effect. The old outputs need

39:45

time to clear.

39:46

And your job is during that

39:47

time is simply to not flip the

39:49

equation back to default. That's

39:51

it. You don't need to do

39:52

anything else. You just need to

39:54

hold your position and keep

39:56

feeding the new input into the

39:58

equation.

39:59

And the more systematically you

40:00

approach this, the easier it

40:02

gets, meaning if you have a

40:04

clear morning practice like we

40:05

talked about in step two, and

40:07

you have the equation check

40:08

running a few times throughout

40:10

the day from step one, you

40:12

basically built a system that

40:13

supports the inversion auto.

40:15

So you're not really relying on

40:17

willpower anymore. You have

40:19

actual practices in place that

40:21

keep the new input flowing even

40:23

on difficult days.

40:25

And that's why the three steps

40:26

work together as a system

40:28

rather than as an isolated

40:29

technique because step one

40:31

gives you the awareness to cash

40:33

the default equation. Step two

40:35

gives you the practice for

40:36

setting the new input.

40:38

And then step three is really

40:39

about maintaining that new

40:41

input through the period where

40:42

the old output is still visible.

40:44

And each step supports the

40:46

other two.

40:47

So the practical technique for

40:49

really getting through the lag

40:52

is what I call the lag reframe.

40:55

And it goes like this. Whenever

40:57

all the reality pushes back,

40:58

whenever something shows up

41:00

that looks like proof that

41:02

nothing is really changing, you

41:04

recognize it for what it is.

41:06

Old output already finished

41:07

already irrelevant to what you're

41:09

actually building right now.

41:10

And then instead of engaging

41:12

with it, you bring your

41:13

attention back to the internal

41:15

state. You set in step two, you

41:17

reconnect with that feeling to

41:19

the thoughts, you hold it and

41:21

you let the old output pass

41:22

through without giving it any

41:24

more of your energy.

41:26

Now, the reason this works as a

41:27

technique is because it gives

41:29

your mind something specific to

41:31

do in the moment of disruption.

41:34

Instead of just trying to not

41:35

react, which is vague and hard

41:37

to execute, you're giving

41:38

yourself a concrete reframe

41:40

that puts the old output in

41:42

context.

41:43

And that context immediately

41:44

takes the emotional charge out

41:46

of it. You're no longer

41:48

interpreting it as current

41:49

evidence. You're interpreting

41:51

it as old data that's just

41:53

being cleared away.

41:55

So the reframe can be almost

41:56

immediate once you practice it

41:58

a few times to the point where

42:00

you see an old pattern showing

42:02

up and your first first thought

42:04

is just old stuff, and you just

42:06

move on.

42:07

So it's simple enough to

42:08

remember and use even when you're

42:09

stressed, which is exactly when

42:11

you need it most. So keep it in

42:13

your back pocket and use it

42:14

every time the lag tries to

42:15

pull you back into the old

42:17

equation.

42:18

Now, after you use the reframe,

42:19

the redirect back to your

42:21

chosen thoughts and emotional

42:23

state is really the critical

42:24

second step because the reframe

42:26

alone will of course just

42:27

neutralize that old trigger,

42:29

but it doesn't generate any new

42:31

input.

42:32

So you need to actively bring

42:33

your attention back to the

42:34

thoughts and the feelings from

42:36

your morning practice, even

42:37

just for 10 or 15 seconds.

42:40

It doesn't need to be a long

42:41

process in the moment, just a

42:43

quick reconnection, just a

42:44

brief dropping in to those

42:46

thoughts and feelings of

42:47

certainty or calm or whatever

42:49

your cognitive and emotional

42:51

signature was just enough to reestablish

42:53

the signal.

42:55

And each time you do this, each

42:56

time you reframe and redirect,

42:58

you're stacking another data

42:59

point in favor of the new

43:01

equation.

43:02

And those data points

43:03

accumulate into a new normal, a

43:05

new baseline, and eventually

43:07

the lag just ends, right? And

43:09

the new output starts showing

43:10

up in your life.

43:12

So the question you want to be

43:13

asking yourself during the lag

43:15

isn't, "Has my reality changed

43:17

yet?" Because that's as if you're

43:19

asking, "Every 10 minutes, are

43:21

we there yet?"

43:23

And that question just keeps

43:24

you focused on the output,

43:26

which is exactly the wrong

43:27

place to look during this phase.

43:29

The real question is, "Have I

43:31

changed?" Because in any

43:33

endeavor where you aim to be

43:35

successful, whether that's in

43:38

sports or business or whatever,

43:41

at the end of the day, the

43:42

biggest results come from you

43:44

changing.

43:45

And the whole process, the

43:47

whole journey is you changing

43:48

as a person. And the shift in

43:51

your external world is always a

43:52

downstream consequence of the

43:54

shift in you, right?

43:56

And if you're genuinely holding

43:57

a different internal state, if

43:59

you're a different person in

44:00

terms of your thoughts and your

44:02

feelings, if you're running the

44:04

inverted equation consistently,

44:05

well, the external changes will

44:07

follow.

44:08

They just have to because it's

44:09

an equation. And that internal

44:11

shift is the thing to measure

44:13

yourself by during the lag

44:14

period because it's the only

44:15

metric that is actually within

44:17

your control and the only one

44:19

that really predicts the

44:20

outcome.

44:21

So instead of actually checking

44:22

your bank account every day,

44:24

hoping to see a change, which

44:25

is really just running the

44:27

default equation again, check

44:29

your thinking, check your

44:30

internal state, your emotional

44:32

state.

44:33

Check whether you're holding

44:34

the new input. Check whether

44:35

your baseline has shifted. And

44:37

if it has, you're on track

44:38

regardless of what the external

44:39

evidence says.

44:41

So during the lag, you don't

44:42

really have external proof yet.

44:44

All you have is the internal

44:46

shift and your understanding of

44:47

the equation.

44:49

And that has to be enough for a

44:50

while, which is uncomfortable,

44:52

but also kind of beautiful. It

44:54

means that you're really

44:55

building something from the

44:56

inside out, which is the only

44:57

way anything real can be built

44:59

and anything lasting can be

45:01

built.

45:02

Because like we've been saying

45:04

throughout this whole training,

45:05

your current reality is just a

45:07

printout of a previous internal

45:09

state.

45:10

So when the internal state

45:11

changes, the printout has to

45:13

change as well. There's no

45:15

version of this where the input

45:16

shifts in the output stays the

45:18

same forever. The equation has

45:20

to balance.

45:22

And it will. Your only job is

45:24

really to hold the new input

45:26

steady until it does. That's it.

45:29

So with that said, let's cover

45:30

the review. We talked about the

45:32

overview, the backwards

45:33

equation, seeing the equation,

45:35

flipping the variables, holding

45:37

the inversion through the lag,

45:38

the review and finally your

45:40

action items for the day or the

45:41

next few days.

45:43

First, start running the

45:44

equation check today. Pause a

45:46

few times throughout your day

45:47

and ask yourself, am I reacting

45:49

to my reality right now? Or am

45:50

I creating it?

45:52

And then use that question as

45:53

your anchor for building the

45:55

awareness that makes the

45:56

inversion possible.

45:58

Then begin your morning

45:59

calibration tomorrow, five

46:01

minutes before you touch your

46:02

phone, sitting with the

46:04

emotional and cognitive

46:05

signature of the version of you

46:07

who already has what you want,

46:09

thinking and feeling into that

46:10

state fully and then letting it

46:12

set the tone for your entire

46:14

day.

46:15

Then finally, hold the thoughts

46:17

and the feelings right when the

46:20

old reality pushes back in a

46:22

tool just expected. Use the lag

46:24

reframe to put it in context.

46:26

Remind yourself that what you're

46:28

seeing is just an old print out

46:29

job finishing and then just

46:31

redirect your attention to your

46:33

chosen thinking and internal

46:35

state and trust that the new

46:37

equation is already processing.

46:40

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46:41

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46:42

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Interactive Summary

The training introduces two governing "equations" of life: the default, where external reality dictates internal states and outcomes, often leading to repetitive patterns; and the inverted, where conscious internal states (thoughts and feelings) are chosen first, leading to desired actions and new external realities. To achieve anything by "ignoring reality," three steps are crucial: first, develop awareness to "see the equation" and recognize when you're reacting to circumstances; second, actively "flip the variables" by consistently generating desired internal emotional and cognitive states, for instance, through a morning calibration practice; and third, "hold the inversion through the lag," maintaining the chosen internal state despite the inevitable delay before external reality reflects the new input, using reframing techniques to process old outputs without being derailed. This process emphasizes that lasting change comes from transforming one's internal state, not from directly manipulating external circumstances.

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