I'm Dr. Orion Taban and this is Psychax

better living through psychology and the

topic for today's short talk is his

money is my money. This is a not

uncommon phrase that you will

occasionally hear in the mouths of women

namely my money is my money and his

money is my money. That is, the money

that I, the woman, earn through my own

effort and labor is my own. And no man

has a right to determine to what uses it

is spent. But because I'm in a

relationship with a given man, I am

justified in assuming that at least part

of the money that he earns ought to be

deployed in the service of my own care,

comfort, and well-being. This is a

proper and expected use of his

resources. Now, this is entitlement in

the most literal sense in that such

women believe they are enacting a

natural right and that nothing could be

more reasonable and just. And I'm here

to argue that this is not in fact a fair

or reasonable expectation at all. And

today I'm going to help people, men and

women, understand why this is the case.

I don't think you've heard this argument

before. It goes well beyond a simple

question of female delusion.

To begin with, let me ask women a

complimentary question. Do you believe

that your body belongs to your man?

Like, do you believe that your man is

entitled to your body to use it whenever

he wants, wherever he wants, however he

wants? This is after all a portion of

the traditional marriage vow, you know,

the flesh of my flesh part and was long

used as an argument for why marital rape

literally was impossible as you couldn't

rape yourself. I'm willing to bet that

most women today would find such an

attitude horrific. Of course, my body

doesn't belong to a man. It's my body. I

have a right to my body. It belongs to

me. So I give it if and when and how and

to whom I choose. And any man who thinks

differently is a toxic sociopath, etc.,

etc., etc. In any case, we're not

talking about a man's body, Orion. We're

talking about his money. A body is far

more precious, far more valuable than

money. Money is just money.

All right. Well, let's talk about money,

shall we? People often say that time is

money, but that isn't really true. It's

much truer to say that money is time.

Though all the money in the world can't

buy another minute of life, it's also

true that money can and does buy access

to better health care, which is a form

of buying time, and that money can and

does expedite things, which is another

form of buying time, etc., etc. However,

money is time in an even more

fundamental way. It is the

transfiguration of time spent in labor.

That is the meaning of money for the

majority of people. It is disembodied

labor and labor is always spent in the

application of the body. This is true

whether you are a brick layer or a brain

surgeon or a graphic designer. Your

labor requires that your body performs

certain tasks over a duration of time.

So I want you to understand that money

is the abstraction of a particular form

of physicality, namely the physicality

of the laboring body. So what does that

mean? It means that believing you are

entitled to another person's money is

essentially believing that you are

entitled to the labor that earned that

money. And since labor always involves

the application of the body,

this is tantamount to believing that you

are entitled to use that body according

to your desires. Oh [ __ ] Now if your

right means and requires the labor of

another person to realize, then guess

what? It's not a [ __ ] right. It is

not and it cannot be a just and

reasonable entitlement.

Stay with me now. I'm not sure how you

define things, but there is an

institution on this planet that is

founded on the belief that one person is

entitled to another person's labor. And

it begins with S and rhymes with

blavery.

I'll say this as plainly as I can.

Anyone who feels entitled to another

person's money is a slaver with a couple

extra steps. And this is because, as

previously discussed, money ties back to

the body just as surely and inevitably

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Now, this isn't one of your average

double standards. This is a big and

scary one. Just as we collectively

believe correctly, in my opinion, that

men are not entitled to use the bodies

of women without their consent, even if

the bodies in question belong to their

wives. We must collectively stamp out

the belief that women are entitled to

the resources of men, even if they are

their husbands, simply because they are

in a sexual relationship with them.

Both ideas presume ownership over

another person's body for a specific

purpose.

This is dangerous because the desire to

control another person's resources

always always always

masks a desire to strip them of their

freedom.

Money and freedom are very closely

related to each other in more ways than

one. Most of the rights and civil

liberties that people enjoy today really

came into being during the Enlightenment

in the 18th century, which wa wow, what

a strange coincidence just happened to

coincide with the industrial revolution

and the global birth of capitalism.

Capitalism and liberal democracy are

really two sides of the same coin. the

one preserves the other. And it's

actually pretty easy to demonstrate why

this is the case. You've heard of [ __ ]

you money, right? [ __ ] you money is

possessing enough money that you feel

free to walk away from any situation or

relationship that doesn't serve you

anymore. You don't need any given job or

relationship. So, if they piss you off

or do you dirty, you can tell them to

just [ __ ] the ride off. Now, what

happens

if I take away some of that money? Now,

you're you're still free, like in an

existential sense, to walk away, but

your freedom, like in a real practical

sense, has been compromised. You can

still walk away from a bad situation.

But you might not be able to pay your

bills or put food on the table. So, you

will likely put up with worse treatment

and poorer conditions than someone with

greater financial means. You are much

easier to control and much less likely

to fight back. Now, imagine what would

happen if we take away your money

entirely. Like unpopular opinion, but

individual freedom is actually

predicated

on the existence of private property.

Any person's practical freedom depends

directly on his capacity to enact that

freedom in a meaningful way. Remove the

means to enact that freedom and you can

control the person as effectively as if

he were in chains.

This is what I want you to understand.

When a woman feels entitled to a man's

money, she's laying claim to a lot more

than just his money. She's laying claim

to his time, to his labor, to his

physicality for a specific purpose, and

in a real practical sense to his

freedom.

This is no small thing. A woman who

talks like this and who talks like this

with impunity is like a modern-day Marie

Antuinette. She's so out of touch with

reality and she feels so removed from

the consequences that her beliefs

naturally produce that she is

functionally from another [ __ ]

planet. This is a dangerous dangerous

belief and it's one that should be

resisted whenever and wherever it

emerges.

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