Brother, here are five mental shifts to

make you an unstoppable force of focus.

First, [music] you need to stop relying

on motivation and start relying on

systems. Motivation is temporary,

[music] but systems work without fail.

Don't rely on how you feel, but what you

built. Second, you need to stop [music]

trying to be perfect and focus on messy

consistent action. Realize that clarity

comes from acting, not overthinking.

Focus thrives when you drop the pressure

and just start. Third, you need to stop

thinking that discipline is hard and

start thinking that it leads to the

freedom. [music]

Distractions might be fun now, but they

cost you later. Real freedom comes from

controlling your attention, not giving

it away. Fourth is going from completely

overwhelmed to just one at a time. Stop

trying to win the entire day and opt for

winning the next 60 minutes. Focus is

built in chunks, not in sprints. And

most importantly, you need to go from

I'll try to I am. Stop negotiating with

your old habits. Understand that

identity leads to behavior. Be the

focused version of you first, and the

actions will follow.

>> important quality or characteristic that

you can develop for happiness and

success is to be unstoppable yourself.

[music] Just to think of yourself as

unstoppable. And you know how you become

unstoppable? It's by the basic

psychological behavioral development

principle of simply saying it to

yourself. [music]

Cuz whatever you say to yourself and

believe over and over again, you start

to believe as a reality. You start to

walk it and talk it and act it. So, what

you say is, "I [music] am unstoppable.

I'm unstoppable. I'm unstoppable." I

don't care what it is. I'm unstoppable.

Nothing will stop me. You see, the way

that you become unstoppable is by

refusing to stop.

It's not a quality that you develop in a

week or a month, or by reading or

listening to something inspiring.

It's a habit of mind and character that

you develop by practicing the quality of

persistence over and over [music]

in every circumstance until it locks in

and becomes a permanent part of your

character. So, listen, if I can just

walk one mile after being in the worst

shape of my entire life, this would

change everything for me mentally going

forward. I went and I walked a mile. I

said, "Hmm,

maybe I can walk one more mile.

Maybe I can walk another mile." At mile

81, my ex-wife looked at me and said,

"You're not going to make the time."

When your mind knows it's not going to

quit, and this is what I found out, this

is my 40% rule, when your mind knows

it's not going to quit, your body will

adapt to whatever is in front of it. I

end up running 20 more miles. I did 101

miles in 19 hours and 6 minutes.

In that one day, it was this 19 hours

and 6 minutes that forever changed my

life to know that we, as human beings,

are capable of anything, and we don't

need any special kind of parents or

tools to get there.

So, I'll leave you with this.

Don't stop when you're tired, stop when

you're done.

>> The greatest of all qualities to

guarantee success is the absolute

willingness to go at anything and

[music] refuse to stop until you achieve

it. And you know something, the

statistics show that 95% of the goals

that you set for yourself, you will

achieve if you refuse [music] to quit.

To develop the quality of being

unstoppable,

develop the quality of being

unstoppable. Saying to yourself that no

matter what life throws at me, it will

never stop me. No matter how rough it

gets, I will never quit, and nothing

will ever stop me. Make the decision

that you can be tired, you can be worn

out, but nothing

is ever going to stop you.

>> The fastest growth periods are often the

most miserable. If you want progress,

get used to pain.

The worst thing that's ever happened to

you is the worst thing that's ever

happened to you. The hardest you've ever

worked is the hardest you've ever

worked.

Every new challenge shows you a new

territory you were scared of, but

survived. Every time you break a new

limit, you now know you have the

capacity to handle more than you ever

did before. It's inverse PTSD, like

workload exposure therapy, that teaches

you, "Oh,

I've been here before, and I didn't die.

This is okay.

>> I'd say one of the strongest mental

frames that has gotten me through my

hardest times is

thinking this will be the story that I

will one day tell.

And [music] that means the harder it is,

the bigger the dragon, the more epic the

story, and

>> [music]

>> by consequence, the more epic the hero.

Winners define themselves

by what they made happen.

And losers define themselves by what

happened to them.

>> Nietzsche said, "I know of no better

life purpose than to perish in

attempting the great and impossible. The

fact that something seems impossible

shouldn't be a reason to not pursue it.

That's exactly what makes it worth

pursuing. Where would the courage and

greatness be if success was certain and

there was no risk? The only true failure

is shrinking away from life's

challenges."

>> So, your brain needs pressure. It needs

constant [music] pressure. And stress

and pressure is not a bad thing. We have

this thing where we feel like stress is

bad. [music] Bad for you. Bad. You know,

you need to relax. You need to chill.

Stress will kill you. No, being bored

will kill you. Not having anything to do

will kill you. It's much more dangerous

than stress. Yes, you can work too hard.

You can work where there's no soul

involved. I work like a fiend cuz I'm

writing a book, and it's a very hard

process for me. And I'm working far too

much, but man, I love it.

>> [music]

>> right? And it It could kill me. The

stress could kill me. Give me a stroke.

But I'd rather die under the stress

[music] than be bored and have nothing

to do.

>> Develop a workaholic mentality. What

does this mean? It means that you start

a little earlier, you work a little

harder, and you stay a little later. All

these people talking about take it easy,

have balance in your life, relax, lean

back, have fun at work, happy happy, get

along with your coworkers. This is loser

talk. Loser. Loser. Loser. Now, there's

a time in your life when you can back

off. All right? You can take it easy.

But that's when you've made it, not

before you've made it. Because before

you've made it, you're in a competition

with hundreds of thousands of millions

of other people like at the Olympics who

also want to make it. And in order for

you to win, you are going to have to

work harder and work better and work

smarter than they do. If you have big

goals, they motivate you. They stimulate

you. [music] They excite you. They

enthuse you. If you have no goals at

all, you just go around in circles.

>> [music]

>> What we have found is that goals are the

fuel in the furnace of achievement. And

the more you work on the goals and the

more you feel yourself progressing

toward them, the better you feel, the

more positive you feel, the more

momentum you develop, and the more you

feel yourself to be

unstoppable.

>> You become what you think about.

You become what you think about. And

since the only thing that you can

control is your thinking, if you change

what you are thinking about, you will

begin to change your reality. If you

change what you expect, you change what

you believe, you change your dominant

thoughts, you change your inner

workings, you begin to attract into your

life people, circumstances, events,

opportunities, everything consistent

with your new thought. Reason people

aren't successful is they think thoughts

of unsuccess [music] or failure. That

line, which is very, very important,

says that all causation is mental. We

live in a mental universe. All causation

is mental. If you wish to change your

universe, you have to change your

mentality. [music]

And this brings us to the most important

line of all, which is simply this. Now,

let me write it over here.

If you change your thinking,

and

you change your life.

>> But this,

this is it. This is it like the brain is

the most powerful weapon in the world.

And

it's it's crazy how a kid that

wasn't real smart,

I was forced to go only internal.

External had to go away.

The external world had to go away. And

living so deep inside myself,

it was me in this brain.

And figuring out how this thing works.

And

it's

so many people are doing exactly that.

The supplements, the this, the that.

I agree it helps, but once you figure

out your your brain,

you become unstoppable

to almost anything. Yeah, you can't beat

death, you can't whatever, whatever.

Your brain's amazing. Once you feed it

the right

conversation,

the right mental nutrients,

the right mental supplements, the right

the right internal dialogue at the right

time

with the right hit, with the right proof

of what you've done in the past, and you

send it right to the right circuit,

dude, you're a beast. [music]

>> Three things that I would tell

anybody, whether they're 10 years old or

30 years old. Clarify and define your

vision for yourself in the highest

possible way that you could see it. Be

delusional, Ethan, to where your mind

the [music] right at the apex of which

your mind believes is possible, may you

push past that even a little bit and

define it. And then number two is like

believe it. You know what I mean? Like

like see it all the time and believe it

and and whatever you got to do to

protect that belief. My version of

protecting that belief was I wasn't

sharing it. I'm not even going to give

my own mother the chance to try to bring

me back down to reality. It's not going

to happen.

>> And then three is

work towards it. Don't you have to do

the work and because you love it, it's

not always going to feel like work, but

sometimes it is. You have to see

yourself in the highest and and

>> will fill in the rest.

>> Here's 10 years of therapy summarized in

1 minute.

Number one, no one is coming to save

you. Being a functioning adult means

realizing you are responsible for

everything in your life, even if it

wasn't your fault.

Number two, strong boundaries make for

good relationships, weak boundaries make

drama. Number three, many of your

problems don't get fixed, you just learn

how to live despite them.

Number four, your mind lies to you all

the time. It will tell you that the

world is ending when it's not, that a

mistake is fatal when it's not, that

everyone is thinking about you and

laughing about you when they're not.

Learn how to tell your mind to shut the

[ __ ] up.

Number five, stop trying to convince

people to like you. The right people

won't need to be convinced, and everyone

else is just going to get very annoyed.

Number six,

sometimes the best thing you can do is

let a dream die. No one likes to hear

that, but it's true.

And number seven, only a few people in

your life are going to matter in the

long run. When you find them, treat them

right, make time for them, keep them

close, be grateful.