So, bro, in this video, I'm going to

tell you how to stop being shy, how to

stop being a wasw was, how to get rid of

all that fear you have inside your head,

and how to actually enjoy what life has

in store for you. And you might be

thinking right now, oh, what do you mean

by what life has in store for me? I'm

talking about things in your life that

you want to start doing, that you want

to have, that you feel like you're

missing out on, that's currently not in

your life, that you want to have. Now, I

100% relate to this. And I wish someone

someone had told me this when I was

younger because I remember I was so shy

middle school and high school to the

point where I talked to literally

nobody. And I think one of the biggest

things that I wanted to enjoy that I

wish life gave to me was literally just

the experience of having friends. So I

remember and this is what killed me the

most. I looked at every single person

around me and every single person around

me seemed to be able to make friends

easy, talk to people. They seem to have

their own friend group, go out to like

the football games, you know, go out to

eat, you know, take pictures on

Instagram and tag all their friends. And

I was stuck in that school still trying

to figure out how to talk to people, how

to actually get people to like talk to

me first, how to carry on a

conversation. And because of that, I was

super insecure and I was super shy. And

it felt like a death sentence. And I

looked at everybody around me and I was

just like, everybody's experiencing this

life that I currently do not have. and I

knew I wanted it, but I was too shy. I

did not know how to achieve it. So maybe

for you it's like maybe it's getting

friends. Maybe it's getting into a

certain friend group, joining clubs.

Maybe you want to look look a certain

way, but you're too shy. You don't know

how to get to that point. Maybe you want

to start a new hobby. I don't know. But

I'm going to tell you something, a

solution that I've thought about and

I've seen that nobody's really talking

about on the internet.

And the solution that I'm going to tell

you has actually helped one of my

buddies get out of this sort of feeling

where you're shy, you don't know how to

start doing things that you know you

need to be doing, but you just don't do.

And it's just going to be the catalyst

for you

enjoying what life has in store for you.

Things that you should be enjoying. And

so the solution I'm going to tell you

has helped my buddy do that. And there's

a couple of solutions that I'm going to

give you. The first thing is to

literally start

step by step, small steps. Now you might

be thinking right now, what are you

talking about? I'm going to explain this

to you. This is lifechanging. Don't

leave this video. Okay? So,

imagine

you're like super shy, right?

You're super shy, but you want to look a

certain way. Let's say you want to lose

like 10 pounds and you want to you want

to lean down for the summer. But if

you're too shy, maybe you're scared,

right? You're not going to be able to go

to the gym. So, literally what you want

to do, right?

Instead of going to the gym the first

time and trying to do all these

exercises, right? You want to take one

day to just buy the membership, go in

the gym, walk around the gym, see how it

is. Second day, go in the gym, just do

maybe like 10 minutes of cardio, leave.

Next day, do maybe 15 minutes of cardio.

Maybe do one machine,

and then leave. Fourth day, do the same

thing, but do now another machine, two

machines. Fifth day, three machines. And

then you want to slowly lead up to that

point where you're able to go and do

cardio, be comfortable with it, and go

step by step. Now, the reason why I told

you that is because if you just do

everything at once, it's going to be too

intimidating.

It's going to be way too intimidating.

So, what does that mean exactly? Why am

I telling you this? First of all, I did

that, by the way, when I had gym

anxiety. I didn't go and do this whole

grand event the very first day cuz that

was too nerve-wracking. what I did.

First day bought the membership. Second

day went and got did the cardio. Third

day just did a little more and so on and

so forth.

But I'm telling you this because in

anything in life,

how to enjoy anything that life has in

store for you, you must start step by

step and you must have a realistic goal.

Having a realistic goal is also kind of

the second solution to this. Okay. So

let's say you want to join a club,

right?

First thing you need to do, you need to

start thinking about the small steps in

order to get to that club. Okay, so

here's the thing. I remember I was

telling my buddy, I was like, "Hey, bro,

why do you feel so bad about yourself?"

And he was like, "Honestly, dude, I

really wanted this certain friend group,

this this this friend group where we

were do certain things, the things that

I like, and I haven't gotten in that."

And then I asked him, right? I was like,

"What have you done specifically?

what are the small steps that are you

doing every single day to get to that

specific stage? And he's like, I

actually don't know. And I told him

that's the problem. So I told him this

and then he started doing this, right?

So let's say you're someone who also

wants to get in a certain friend group,

join a certain club. You need to take

small steps to get to that thing. So,

for example,

a small step you could do is every

single day, maybe for a week, search up

on your school or whatever, wherever you

live, what clubs to join, how it is.

Maybe after one week, you maybe just go

inside the building, wherever that club

is, and just like walk around, see how

it is. Then you leave.

Next day, go in and stay for that club

meeting for maybe like 10 to 20 minutes,

and then you stay. And then you leave.

I think you could start to see what I'm

saying now, right? Because in order to

face your fear and achieve something

that you want in life, right? You need

to start it small. You cannot have this

unrealistic goal. And so this buddy who

wanted this certain friend group that he

was putting himself down for, right? He

was just like, "But what if I do all

those things

and I don't get that friend group?" And

I was just like, well, at that point, if

you don't, then who cares? You just

accept it.

And that's the same thing

that happens with conquering fear.

Because imagine this, right? You want

this certain friend group. You're too

shy. You know, you're trying all these

things, but you're like, "Oh, I keep

doing it. I keep doing, but I'm not

getting to it."

It doesn't mean you haven't done

anything. Just means that didn't work

out.

If he doesn't get this certain friend

group, well,

who cares? Maybe the people aren't maybe

those people in his club aren't meant to

be there. Maybe it's the wrong group of

people. That doesn't mean he didn't do

anything. So, you also need to have a

realistic goal for yourself. You're not

going to lose 30 pounds by the end of

next month, no matter how hard you try.

You have to be realistic. And it's step

by step. If you're too shy to meet

people,

you can't realistically tell yourself,

"Okay, I'm going to meet 30 people

within this month." And then when you

don't do that, you can't put yourself

down because of that. You must be

realistic. You have to tell yourself,

hey, every single day, I'm going to try

to start one new conversation with at

least one more person. If you do that

for a week, then you can then you can

tell yourself, okay, for the next week,

for the second week, I'm going to start

two new conversations

and then I'm going to ask for their

Instagram after. And with those small

steps, you face your fear. You can get

used to it step by step. And each step

that you do, you remind yourself and

you're like, "Wait, I did this. It gets

a lot easier. I'm practicing. I'm

practicing talking to people. I'm

practicing uh asking people for their

social media." And it gets less scary.

You cannot go in

and expect to get all these results when

your goal is unrealistic and when you

haven't done the small steps. Just like

driving, bro. I mean, there's driving

school for reason. You don't go in the

highway

as soon as you want to learn how to

drive. you when you want to drive and

you want when you want a car, when you

want your license, when you want to

start driving on your own, you don't go

straight into the highway,

you start little by little, turns,

signals, you get under pressure, you

start driving in like the the four-way

stops, you get that pressure right, but

it's small steps to prepare you for the

big thing. And then when you prepare for

those small steps, you get your license,

and you know, finally, you can drive

whenever. So, it's the same concept. If

you're shy, don't know what to do, you

want a certain goal, you're not

experiencing things, you must start

little by little and you must have a

realistic goal for yourself. So

understand that. Find out things that

you want to do and with those goals that

you have little by little each day, make

a really small goal that you can try to

do and over time you'll see that and

then you're like, "Wait, this is getting

easier." And then you'll achieve that

goal. Like, share, subscribe, and I'll

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