I don't know who need to hear this right

now, but odds are if you're watching

it's probably you.

You're going to be all right, my boy. I

know things don't make sense [music]

right now. It feels like all the hard

work you're putting in is for nothing

and you know, that girl may have left

you, your job may have fired you. I

don't know what it is, bro, but you're

going to be [music] all right. I promise

you. As long as you keep putting one

foot in front of the other, life is

going to make sense and pan out exactly

how it was meant to. But, you can't give

up. And never for a second [music] think

that your presence and your hard work

goes unnoticed. Proud of you, my boy.

Love you, dog. See you at the top.

>> You are a human being, not a machine

programmed to navigate life perfectly

every single day. You are going to say

the wrong thing sometimes. You're going

to make decisions you later outgrow.

You're going to be misunderstood in

[music] situations, trust the wrong

people, miss opportunities, react

emotionally, and have moments you

[music] wish you handled differently.

That does not make you broken. It's a

part of being human. I think a lot of

people secretly believe one mistake

means everything is ruined.

>> [music]

>> Like they've permanently damaged their

future, somehow disqualified themselves

from becoming the person they want to

be. But, life does not work like that.

Most people you admire have made

embarrassing mistakes, [music] bad

choices, wrong turns. The difference is

they kept going anyway.

You don't need to collapse every time

you fall short of perfection. [music]

Learn the lesson, take accountability,

apologize if it's necessary, and then

get up and keep moving. But, stop acting

like every mistake is proof that you're

failing in life. You are going to be

okay. Not because [music] you'll

suddenly become perfect, but because

human beings are built to adapt, learn,

recover, and continue forward. A bad

moment is not your identity. A setback

is not your entire story. One chapter

[music] is not the whole book. Please

give yourself some grace. You are

trying.

You are learning. And you are going to

be okay.

>> This is life.

This is what it is. Whatever it is, this

is it. And you want to get one, go at

it.

And when we're dead and we're buried and

we're gone,

that's it. That is it.

>> [music]

>> Game over.

You're a long time dead.

So, listen, why not try and make the

most of it? And I know it's not easy and

it's hard [music] out there.

And we all have our struggles, but look,

try and find a wee bit of enjoyment in

life.

Something that gives you a bit of

enjoyment. Something that feels like a

bit of fun, that makes you smile.

Because life is too damn short. And

every single day, every single hour,

we're losing people.

And you don't know when it's going to be

your turn. [music]

Life is so fragile and so precious.

So, try and enjoy it. Try and enjoy this

crazy ride.

It's going to be okay.

>> Please remember that your life is also

meant to be enjoyed.

Somewhere along the way we started

acting like life is just this waiting

room for the next level, the next

achievement, the next promotion, the

next version of ourselves.

We convince ourselves that once we get

there, then we'll relax, then we'll

breathe, then we will enjoy it. But

there always this a next. The grind-set

mentality can be powerful. Discipline is

powerful, ambition is powerful. There's

nothing wrong with wanting more for

yourself, [music] but if you are always

chasing, optimizing, pushing, and never

pausing, you will sprint past [music]

your own life. You'll miss the random

Tuesday nights, the dumb laughs, small

wins, the quiet mornings, the moments

that don't look impressive but feel

meaningful. And those are the moments

that actually make up your life. Success

is great, growth is great, but not at

the cost of [music] presence, not at the

cost of joy, not at the cost of

experiencing the very thing that you are

working so hard to build. You're allowed

to work hard and enjoy yourself. You are

allowed to have goals [music] and still

rest. You are allowed to want more and

still appreciate now. If your entire

existence is preparation for some future

moment, you'll wake up one day and

realize you never let yourself live in

the current one. The goal isn't to

escape your life.

The goal is to experience it. So, chase

your dreams, build your future, lock in

when you need to, but don't forget

[music] to look around. Because this

part, right now,

is also your life.

>> What if everything you're going through

is actually getting you ready? It's

preparing you for what you dream of,

what you asked for.

You see nothing in life is random. You

might think it is, but there's a reason

behind everything.

It doesn't matter whether it's when

something magical happens and you feel

on top of the world or when you have a

disaster and you feel like the pits.

It's not random. It's happened for a

reason.

You know, when you're deliriously

[music] happy or unbelievably miserable,

the times when you desperately wanted to

succeed at something important [music]

but you failed, like an interview for a

job,

it had a reason.

You know, whether you're losing or

winning in life, just remember it's not

a random occurrence. There's a reason.

When friends desert you, it isn't

accidental. There is a reason. When new

friends suddenly arrive in your life,

guess what? It's a reason.

All of it.

Whether it be lessons to learn and times

when you grow, they don't just happen,

but you won't realize it at the time

that none of it is a coincidence.

[music]

There are people you don't know yet

who'll teach you a lesson, and sometimes

it takes something really horrible and

painful for you to learn.

And all the while you won't realize

what's happening.

You're growing and it isn't by accident.

Be assured, be promised, you're on a

journey that will get more beautiful the

farther down the road of life you

travel. And eventually, you'll look back

and realize and appreciate that every

step you took was created only for you.

Why?

Because you're unique.

>> What I've learned is to to

>> [music]

>> to always keep going.

Always. You know, there's been times,

particularly early in my career, where

it just feels like this is the end. Um

but what I've come to find out is that,

you know, no matter what happens, the

storm eventually ends. [music]

And when the storm does end, you want to

make sure that you're ready.

And so, I I've really learned to put one

foot in front of the other,

uh good, [music] bad, or indifferent,

cuz eventually that storm

>> passes. So, come on, you got this.

>> Move on.

>> When a lot of times, you just wake up

blue, and you don't have that choice,

and it's not that easy. You just don't

turn it on or turn it off.

>> Mhm.

>> Once I started to realize what it was,

why I felt I didn't want to do anything,

why I was emotional about things, then

realized the power of

talking about it.

>> [music]

>> And how important that is.

And now, I can tell, "Hey,

it's your superpower. It's okay. Talk

about it. Be open. If you're feeling

blue, if you're feeling [ __ ] up, if

you don't have the answers, even if you

don't know why, cuz a lot of times,

sure, there's a thing

>> Yeah.

>> that this thing happened, therefore, I'm

depressed. But a lot of times, people

just wake up, and the skies are gray.

>> Yep.

>> And you don't know what to do. And one

of the most powerful things you can do

is, number one, know you're not alone.

Know that if you're experiencing it,

there's a lot of other people out there

[music] experiencing it, too. And talk

about it.

>> For my own personal benefit, what are

some questions do you think I should ask

myself?

>> If money and state is when no object,

what would I do?

If I was less afraid of other people's

opinions, what would I say?

What actually [music] makes me happy?

Does success make me happy?

What is my definition of success?

What is my definition of success if

money was taken out of the equation?

What are the things I'm hiding from

myself?

What are the emotions that I'm

unprepared to feel?

>> Everything worthwhile

is uphill.

Period.

End of story.

If you want to succeed [music] in life,

it's difficult.

It's not easy.

It's not fast.

It's not simple.

It's uphill.

>> Man, it's going to be what it's going to

be. It's going to happen how it's going

to happen.

You worrying about it ain't going to

change

>> [music]

>> Right? It's just going to make you lose

sleep about it, get stressed out about

it, but you worrying about it ain't

going to change the situation. Because

you just thinking about it, right? You

can't change it if it's going to happen

and manifest, it's going to happen and

manifest. We cross the bridge when it

gets there, right? But, when you worry

about something, more times than not it

creates a negative connotation and

perspective upon what you're worrying

about, right? It's like um I read a

quote once that said the fear of

something happening often times is more

powerful than it even happening.

Right? The fear of something happening

is even more powerful powerful [music]

than it actually happening. Often times

you worrying about the fear of something

happening that the fear and the thought

becomes more powerful than the actual

manifestation of it happening because

you worried about it for so long. You

can get to that point and it may not

even happen, right? Like worrying is

carrying tomorrow's load with today's

strength. Like stop worrying about it.

>> What would you say to

anybody that's lost direction [music] in

life?

>> A lot of people don't feel lost their

whole life, but they're just stuck in

this [music] like box until they're 70

and they're like look back and they're

like how did I get here?

You know, because they had such a

clearly defined path for them and maybe

it wasn't where they wanted to be. So,

being lost is an opportunity to stop and

slow down [music] and reflect where you

truly want to go. It will get better and

you'll figure it out. Just do what you

can

tell yourself up right now, learn who

you are in this season of life and

just trust that whatever will come will

come.

>> is No matter how much emotion and

feeling you may have or how much hurt

you may have, life has to go on. Life

doesn't stop for anybody. So, if you

don't process that [music] and

understand that, you're stuck in

whatever time period you got hurt

forever.

Forever.

>> Yes, sir.

>> Yes. So, grudges and anger and

negativity, I don't have time for it

because I'm living to do so much

positive things. I've got so much such a

positive outlook on everything else is

coming in the future. I can't I can't

[music] stand in the past and bathe in

what was wrong.

>> Just don't give up.

Just don't give up even if right [music]

now it doesn't make sense.

One day, I'm very, very sure when you

start to [music] see the connections and

things fall into place, you will maybe

also realize that couldn't have been

different.

Even if it's difficult, but

the only thing that I learned from the

martial art practices and also from my

own life is

giving up was just simply not the

question.

>> [music]

>> Was simply never an option. The winners

continue [music] where the losers stop.

>> I've been crushed.

You know, my older brother was shot and

murdered. I've been crushed. My other

brother died from cancer, you know, I've

been crushed. My mom gone 19 years old

[music] 2 years before I even turned

pro. She never lived to see any of this.

I've been crushed. My father's funeral

was the first one I went to. He died 2

weeks. Been crushed. Never had a

Christmas tree. Never saw Thanksgiving.

I've been on the road in hotel rooms by

myself for 15, 20, 30, 40 years seeking

an Olympic trophy. Wanted to be Mr.

Olympia. I've been crushed because I

haven't won them ever the Mr. Olympia.

Won everything in the world, but you go

back [music] and you get second, you get

second, you feel like they're just

giving you bones and everything. I've

been crushed, right? Because I've been

crushing myself chasing that. [music]

But God said, "I've been preparing you

for greater purpose than what you

wanted." You see? And we can't see it

when we're in that crushing phase, you

know? So, it's when we hold on through

the crushing, we find our purpose.