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when you get that call had you known the

0:02

context the behind the scenes that

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unhealthy culture honestly do you think

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you would have made a different decision

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I think I think I can say this

0:15

Chelsea Legends

0:18

I read the dad was the biggest influence

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on your career and then I read a

0:22

separate quote saying sometimes I hated

0:23

him you know my dad was a tough man

0:26

pushed me very hard on the football

0:27

front and it got probably a bit too much

0:29

the fear of failure was a huge driving

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force that made me what I was and gave

0:33

me the career I got in the end

0:35

Chelsea fans will be listening to this

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because they want to get your opinion on

0:37

what's just happened because since

0:38

you've left we've not really heard from

0:40

you I came back here because this was an

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opportunity to come to Chelsea travel

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close to my heart but I could see and

0:45

training the level wasn't enough the

0:47

size of the squad with players that will

0:48

test you and question you questioning

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you and then Chelsea spends more money

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than anyone's ever spent in a window it

0:54

seemed like Tails could see that the

0:56

players were ready for the season to

0:58

finish but low standards are a symptom

1:00

of something further Upstream that's

1:02

happened you know we didn't get the

1:03

results I wanted and I know a lot of the

1:05

reasons why like what so

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one moment occurred in your life that

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really tested you at a much deeper level

1:12

the passing of your mother and while you

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were playing at the very very highest

1:15

level I was a mummy's boy I lost the

1:17

closest person to me you know everything

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to me the emotional support I want to

1:23

say something more you know and I

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couldn't

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what would you want to say

1:31

Frank is a legend there's absolutely no

1:34

denying that

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but so much has happened in recent times

1:39

in his life as a manager that unanswered

1:42

questions remain and I wanted to have a

1:44

conversation with Frank an honest open

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conversation to see if we could get to

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the bottom of some of those unanswered

1:52

questions

1:54

what was happening behind the scenes

1:57

how did it actually feel for Frank

2:00

is anyone to blame what does Frank want

2:03

to do next in how and what caused Frank

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to be the man that he is and that's

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maybe the most fascinating question of

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all

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because there's some things

2:15

that Frank has just never talked about

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before

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but he's made the decision to talk about

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them today and if you have unanswered

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questions

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I don't think you will at the end of

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this episode

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[Music]

2:31

Frank

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[Music]

2:35

how are you doing really well thank you

2:38

there's always a there's always a short

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and long answer to that isn't it

2:42

I was waiting for your second drink

2:45

what's the what's the long version of of

2:48

that no I'm doing really well I'm um I'm

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currently uh on a break I suppose from

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working

2:55

which is a pleasure in ways because I am

2:57

obviously the the work of a the manager

3:01

uh I was gonna say Premier League

3:02

manager but any manager in football is

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intense

3:05

um so at the moment I'm on a break sort

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of holiday time for me a little bit

3:09

family time

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um and probably when I'm

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out of work I learned this when I left

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Chelsea actually

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um

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it was I had a year out after that and I

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really learned to try to improve my

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appreciation of when you're out of work

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you're fortunate enough to be able to be

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out of work whatever that circumstance

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is but try and enjoy your family and be

3:30

very very present so the minute I'm

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pretty present at home which is a good

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thing hopefully for my children and wife

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and uh I'm in a pretty good place

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I remember my my brain would often drift

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off when I had my time out of work

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um and I would think about things

3:46

professionally so I'd think about things

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that I could be doing or you'd think

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back to the past when you're when you're

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having those moments where you'll meet I

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know your kids are running around and

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you you have a moment where your brain

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drifts off to work what is what are the

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subjects that your brain starts thinking

3:57

about professionally

3:59

you you think a lot in management uh

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about people so if I if I reflect on

4:06

situations like leaving Chelsea or

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leaving Everton and those things there

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is there are a lot of things that are

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out of your control

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you get to a point where you kind of can

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get probably 70 of them and lock them

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away and kind of go and I'm right with

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that you know results you can't control

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but 70 you kind of you're okay with and

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there's 30 that you kind of niggles at

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you that's how I am and a lot of those

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things when you become manager and maybe

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sort of like people things I think

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there's sort of tactics and all these

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things are huge in a modern game and I

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I'm certainly a coach I'm not a manager

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but when it comes to managing I don't

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know 25 30 players managing and building

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because you are the figured head of a

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building when you're the head coach or

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manager I think sometimes when you're

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reflecting you can reflect on things did

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I have that was that interaction right

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would I have dealt with that right could

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I dealt with it differently and

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hindsight is like the best best thing

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you know it's so simple to sit there be

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hindsight and think you know I should

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have done that so I suppose I had

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moments where I go over things like that

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but they're all with a with a yearning

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to sort of be a bit better or learn that

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you might have done something wrong or

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actually you come to conclusion oh maybe

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did it right so you know I dip in and

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out of that stuff

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um and that probably is you know as I

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say I wouldn't say I'm the only one but

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I certainly am someone that is you know

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I can never control when those moments

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come I can be now pushing the swing you

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know with my kid and then my mind goes

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back to something called things ahead to

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something and you know that probably

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means that I'm absolutely invested in

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what I do

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yeah I can relate to all of that I think

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any anybody can um and I also really

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like your analogy of once you get to

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like 50 70 piece with something it's

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kind of resolved as much as you know

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yeah and then there's other things which

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feel kind of unresolved I guess or

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there's more wisdom to Garner from those

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experiences well I think if you don't

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get to peace with a 70 I think you can

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get yourself in a bit of a mess you know

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I think you can go over everything and

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correct yourself and then what is the

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answer going forward so I think kind of

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understanding what you are and then

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going no no that was fine whatever the

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result for a win or for a loss I've had

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games as a coach and as a player where I

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I we've won a game and I know I got

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something wrong in the game but you take

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the plot it's afterwards but inside I

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know I got it wrong I've had games that

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we've lost and you get criticism from

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the outside and I know my prep was right

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you know in my head so I think those

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sort of things you can kind of Stack Up

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and Go no that's fine but then there's

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always the 30 and we'll always strive

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for and it might be less I don't know if

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30 sounds a big number when I say it

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sometimes it's 10 to try and make you as

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good as you can be so I kind of go over

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that stuff because when you're out of

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work when you're not working and you

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don't know in foot we don't know what

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your next gig is you know it's very hard

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to jump too far into the future because

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everything looks different there so how

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can you stack yourself up as good as you

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can now

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I want to get into all of that but I I

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want to take a step back because I think

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um I feel like there's more I need to

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understand about who you are as a person

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and your characters and your character

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and really the the like the foundations

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you're built upon to understand all of

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these things the things we're going to

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talk about so what do I what do I need

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to know about Frank Lampard in terms of

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the influences and the experiences that

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shaped your character the character of

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the man that sat in front of me because

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you know I've spoken to a lot of people

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about you in preparation of this

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conversation no no but they all they all

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seem to sing from the exact same him

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shoot they all say everyone says you're

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just a a wonderful man like a really

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good solid gentleman and it's people

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don't know this but we weren't going to

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have this conversation before yeah but

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you've just been a total Class Act in

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even not being able to come last time

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because of you know reasons outside of

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your control

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um the way you conduct yourself you just

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conduct yourself as a real gentleman

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um and then in terms of your mentality

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when I was reading through your early

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years it's clear that there was this

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real

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Obsession to be better I mean Harry said

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Harry redknapp said that you were the

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hardest training hardest working person

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he's ever worked with when you're a

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young man

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tell me what do I why is Frank Lampard

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the way he is I I grew up in in Romford

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in Essex so

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um I will call it probably a middle

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class upbringing in terms of my dad had

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been a professional footballer

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um and so I went through a pretty um

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comfortable upbringing where I was down

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to school every day aspiring to do

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pretty well at school

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um training pretty much every day and

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plan at the weekend so after school

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we'll go and try and Tottenham and

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Arsenal and West Ham at one point I was

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trying little three you could in those

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days now it's different

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uh I was playing Cricket I was playing

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for Essex as a child so that was on

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Monday night having Nets at Chelmsford

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and then on Saturday I went to school

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he's going to school on Saturday so she

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was devastated with at the time as we

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all were but that was how the school

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works and on Sundays I played so my more

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week was so busy but it was content very

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content in terms of relationship of my

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family I had a a dad who was pushed me

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very hard on the football front very

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very hard it was quite a hard task

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master what does that mean in reality

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um that means that probably when I was

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probably started kicking the ball when I

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was at four or maybe it seems like a

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walk but you know like remembering my

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early days would be four or five and

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then so that was me in terms of I loved

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the football

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um but probably by the time I was eight

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or nine I was probably getting like

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coached or pushed in in what 15 or 16

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year old might be when they're sort of

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going into an academy at West hamster

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where I ended up as in work on your

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weaknesses go over the park you need to

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have more stamina you if it's not good

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enough your agility is not good enough

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so I was like

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used to put down the the the cushions in

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the front room and had me doing reaction

9:22

for our ball against the one react and

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jump I'm a kid I I loved it don't get me

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wrong but there were times when I didn't

9:27

love it and it got probably a bit too

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much I'm not gonna

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cry about it because it made me what I

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was and gave me the career I got in the

9:35

end and then on the other flip of that

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so I had that pushy kind of thing and so

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after a game on a Sunday we would lose

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and I would get he would give me some

9:42

criticism on the way home and I would be

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a bit emotional and fortunately for me

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when I think about sort of

9:49

fight and how things work together to

9:50

maybe get used to where you got you you

9:52

end up being my mother was the the flip

9:55

the emotional support the you know arm

9:59

around you the quiet word I was a

10:01

mummy's boy and that was completely my

10:04

upbringing so as I say it was pretty

10:06

comfortable and in the end it led to me

10:09

leaving school with my gcses getting

10:11

decent grades and then going to sign on

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as a yts at the time an apprentice at

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West Ham

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I read that the quote about your father

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I think it was in the independent that

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your dad was the biggest influence on

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your career and then I read a separate

10:23

quote saying that I have an awful lot to

10:25

thank him for but sometimes I hated him

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yeah I I stick by that quiet

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I think you'll probably find it um

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a lot in stories similar to mine

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um and in the modern day I think it's

10:40

changed because I think parents now

10:41

might the thing with my story then in a

10:45

different era was it it felt pretty

10:46

organic my dad had played

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um he saw probably a bit of talent in me

10:50

and pushed and drove in an old school

10:52

way I want you to be a player son you

10:53

know and he was like he think I think he

10:55

found a new sense of pride in pushing me

10:56

there now I think some parents get

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excited about all the bright lights that

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may be and they push their children and

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I think that's another story but I think

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mine was real you know my dad was a

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tough man is a tough man and he pushed

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me and um I remember being over a park

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and it was raining it was crossing balls

11:14

for me to head hedden's never been a

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strength of mine

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throughout my career and I couldn't you

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know I couldn't connect I was missing

11:22

them and he was shouting at me and I

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remember sort of stomping off and and

11:25

being emotional about it and um those

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things stick in my head and again they

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were the building blocks of of myself as

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a person so you know I this isn't a sob

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story it's just a reality of what I went

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through and as I started a lot of other

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comfort so I you know other people don't

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have it as good and it was without that

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who knows in a football sense if I'd

11:43

have got to where I got and how does

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that um what relationship does that make

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you have with your work and progress and

11:52

self-improvement at that very young age

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because you sign up West Ham when you're

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14 years oldish uh 15 maybe 15 yeah 15.

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and and I and I I mean as I said I read

12:02

that Harry redknapp quote that you

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outworked everybody else yeah um

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what what is your relationship with your

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work yeah from that very young age well

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I I I'm sort of

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um really interested in this kind of

12:15

nature versus nurture thing

12:17

um what was in me already was ingrained

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in me maybe to be this kind of very work

12:21

ethicy kind of person I think I had you

12:24

know physical capacity I was a chubby

12:25

kid to be fair I was quite chubby at

12:27

these cheeks curtains as you had in

12:30

those days and I remember like I know I

12:32

needed to get fitter and

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um and get stronger so

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um and then being pushed by my dad

12:38

particularly and encouraged by my mum

12:40

probably gave me this real desire

12:42

um to an understanding that if you don't

12:45

work you're not going to get there and

12:46

that you know that's what I would try

12:48

and pass on to my children now but it

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really stuck and it became me so by the

12:53

time of being you know 16 as I remember

12:56

it probably been at West End my early

12:57

years I'd probably been forced into a

12:59

bit by my dad but I took it on board so

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you know I wanted to get faster so he

13:02

put me in running spikes and I had to

13:04

run after training go and run over the

13:06

back and I used to hide my spikes go out

13:08

the backs I didn't want the other

13:09

players to see me because I felt

13:10

embarrassed

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um I'd go in on days off

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um I would practice extra shooting I

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would do everything I could to to

13:17

improve and it probably was looking back

13:22

um a desire to be the best and I was

13:24

never the best I was probably like the

13:25

second or third best kid in pretty much

13:27

every team that I played in in whatever

13:29

I did Cricket or football

13:31

um but I had a real desire to and I also

13:32

had a fear of failure and as much as

13:34

that doesn't sound like a nice driving

13:36

force it can be a really strong driving

13:38

force I think where did that fear of

13:40

failure come from I don't know I don't

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know I think it's in my makeup maybe I

13:44

don't know it's probably just how I am I

13:47

probably have it still these days I

13:48

think it can be really positive it was

13:50

in my footballing career and it carried

13:52

on throughout probably still in my

13:54

management career

13:55

um it can probably be the flip of that

13:57

in my life because if I fear of failing

14:00

something I won't approach it and I

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that's me I don't want that you know my

14:03

wife will always Christine jokes with me

14:06

when we go on holiday and you want to

14:08

paddle board or something I'm not going

14:09

near that because I know I'm going to

14:11

fall off a lot you know so she'll laugh

14:13

at me so I'm like you paddleboard I'll

14:15

lay on the beach or I'll lay on the Lilo

14:16

or something like that I actually use

14:17

the paddle board as a lie like that's

14:19

like that's the joke but in the biggest

14:21

sense in my life you know that fear of

14:23

failure is and as it can probably maybe

14:25

make me uh not try things I should do

14:28

but in terms of my footballing career

14:30

the fear of failure was a huge driving

14:31

force and I don't think it's a bad thing

14:33

because I think there's a certain

14:35

humility to it and my mum would

14:38

certainly have been a driver of me as a

14:39

young person just like stay humble son

14:41

stay humble never get too higher stay

14:43

there and you'll be fine in your own

14:45

head so I think I had a real

14:46

understanding of my weaknesses and I

14:49

thought well if I can work on these

14:50

constantly and then I started to see

14:52

results really step by step sometimes

14:53

you go back you go forward a few but I I

14:56

can certainly say looking back at my

14:57

career from start to finish

14:59

I didn't leave anything on the table in

15:01

terms of work ethic and training you

15:03

know I don't want to sound like an

15:04

absolute machine there'll be days when

15:05

you get older where you come off it a

15:07

bit or you you start to find life

15:09

affection different ways but I I when I

15:11

look at my peers in football

15:14

um I certainly had a training ethic that

15:16

at least stood right at the top whether

15:18

you know others can stay the same maybe

15:19

but I felt that I mean that's the Harry

15:21

redknapp quote he says that

15:24

um during his career

15:26

um he never met anyone that trained as

15:27

hard as Frank he would be out there on a

15:29

Winter's day practice and shooting for

15:31

hours Left Foot Right Foot etc etc

15:34

that fear of failure though I can see

15:36

how it becomes a driving force and makes

15:37

you stay out there on a Winter's day

15:39

Left Foot Right Foot at him leaving no

15:41

stone unturned but with all these things

15:43

there comes there comes a more a cost on

15:46

the other side of the coin right

15:47

and you I mean you talked about the

15:49

paddle board thing which is that like

15:50

kind of if I don't do it then I won't

15:52

fail but one of the things that I was

15:54

assuming is it would also make you quite

15:55

a chronic overthinker yeah because I

15:58

think people that have that fear of

15:59

failure they try and think their way

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through a situation before it happens

16:04

yeah typically what is the cost of being

16:06

that having that fear of failure

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um well the other thinking thing is

16:10

maybe a cost and I think that can be a

16:12

positive too but I think it can be quite

16:13

taxing on yourself you know for anyone

16:16

with things like that and you know

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sometimes I would I've tried to make

16:21

myself you know not an overthinker

16:23

however you do that I don't know because

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I've not found a solution to that one

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because

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um I think that's when you are that um

16:30

it's in you so

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um probably the the the the negative or

16:36

downsides have been probably a bit taxi

16:38

than myself but I think you learned to

16:39

live with that too and I think you

16:40

understand it I think it's um

16:42

something that I'll never master and

16:45

um it can probably cause you in to over

16:49

complicate in situations like you're

16:50

saying about I don't want to get into

16:51

that but if you do get into something

16:52

and you're really overthinking you have

16:54

to get into something

16:55

I now try and step back and simplify and

16:57

say stop overthinking it simplify it

16:59

because for me anything in life if you

17:01

can simplify the basics you probably get

17:03

quicker to the solution so

17:05

um that one's just a struggle that I put

17:07

up with but as I say I think it's just

17:08

part of my makeup if I wasn't an

17:10

overthinker if I didn't have that sort

17:11

of obsessive sort of perfectionist

17:13

training Drive I wouldn't have got to

17:16

where I got to because I was not Lionel

17:18

Messi who has this god-given Talent

17:21

that's there like wherever my talent was

17:22

on the Spectrum I needed to push it and

17:25

I constantly try to how did you enjoy

17:27

the process if you're overthinking I

17:30

weirdly like I've really grown to like

17:33

the stress of what it brings and that's

17:36

and that that's you might start thinking

17:38

I'm a strange person I don't know but I

17:40

loved

17:41

stressful training you know to put on a

17:43

physical site for instance I loved like

17:45

that feeling of like almost feeling sick

17:47

on a pre-season run or you know really

17:50

intense training sessions I I really

17:52

enjoyed that maybe not always in the

17:54

moment but you know when you get to the

17:55

end of it you go if I got through that

17:56

and it was so intense and hard and maybe

17:58

in life sometimes I set myself

17:59

challenges and maybe I'll make it more

18:01

complicated than I should but I don't

18:03

mind that stuff and that's probably when

18:04

I was started off talking about that

18:05

relax when you're with your children I

18:07

think I'm still

18:08

um juggling that one and I think

18:10

probably a lot of people are I don't

18:11

know I think you know being overthink is

18:12

not something unique to me it's

18:14

completely everywhere

18:16

um but I don't I don't know what else to

18:19

say and that's what I am that that

18:21

enjoying the the pain like the preseason

18:24

run if you feel sick then you feel good

18:25

about yourself yeah why

18:28

I don't know I mean I went to the gym

18:30

this morning and I really didn't want to

18:32

go and I bought the dog and my time

18:34

limit's getting shorter and I'm gonna go

18:36

and I want to go I'm going to go in

18:37

because I know the buzz that'll get off

18:39

afterwards and that's kind of my drug

18:40

and always has been and you know it

18:43

probably starts from all those early

18:44

days of you know you must work hard you

18:46

must push yourself you must be as fit as

18:47

you can be and it probably just stuck

18:48

and it's probably a bit of a lifer for

18:51

me um but I do I do thankfully I I I I

18:54

enjoy the stress of hard work and

18:57

physical but less now I'll finish you

18:59

know now it's more to

19:01

not get too unhealthy and unfit whereas

19:03

when I was training and playing

19:06

even when I finished playing for a

19:07

couple of years if I went for a 5k I

19:09

need to beat my 5K PB I have to try and

19:12

beat it now when I do a 5k I'm just

19:14

going to complete it you know and I'm

19:16

completing it in like 20 or 30 seconds

19:18

less so I've I've dropped that one

19:20

slightly and maybe I transfer it into

19:22

other parts of my life I guess quick one

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thank you thank you so much back to the

20:10

episode when you when you finished your

20:12

footballing career you know there's many

20:14

options you had punditry I mean I'm just

20:17

talking about the typical path to that

20:18

footballers sometimes they just go into

20:20

business yeah a few of them going to

20:21

coaching and stay in football but you

20:23

you made the decision to stay in

20:24

football why

20:26

and was there anything else that was

20:27

tempting you well I did Panda tree for a

20:29

year so I spent a year working mainly on

20:32

BT and doing some different things BBC I

20:34

did a few bits and and I really enjoyed

20:36

it it was great I was working a lot with

20:37

real Ferdinand Stephen Gerrard

20:40

um Jake Humphrey who had them recently

20:41

and just really good people and and it

20:43

was like a step in the game and a step

20:46

of retired so I can do other stuff that

20:48

you know the life of a pundit is you

20:50

know much easier than the manager we all

20:52

know that so I kind of put my eggs in

20:54

both Baskets at that point I did that

20:55

and I did my coaching Badges and I

20:57

wanted to kind of see how I felt a

20:59

little bit and I didn't want to be a

21:01

manager in my 20s when I got to my 30s I

21:02

was like that's interesting people

21:03

managers now what how what are they

21:05

dealing with I just thought about myself

21:06

in my 20s more

21:08

um and then when I finished I did my

21:10

coaching badges I started to quite like

21:12

it and then I've got an offer out of the

21:13

blue to go and manage Derby Derby County

21:15

the owner Mel Morris kind of went out in

21:17

a bit of a limb he was speaking to Harry

21:20

redknapp who's my uncle

21:22

um Harry said to speak to Frank we sat

21:24

for two hours in Chelsea in a hotel and

21:26

he offer me the job and it was like um

21:30

a Christian has a sound and it's like

21:31

jump and the net will appear and we sat

21:34

in my front room and I was like you know

21:36

I've done my coaching badges but this is

21:38

a proper job I go to Derby just they've

21:40

got some problems and it's going to be a

21:42

difficult job or whatever that's all

21:43

jobs are and I jumped

21:45

why

21:47

um

21:48

that inner probably drive that I have in

21:50

a desire you know it wasn't something

21:52

that I I am an overthinker so that

21:54

probably made that process that those

21:56

couple of days where I had to make a

21:57

decision really intense but at the same

21:59

time I I like a challenge I love a

22:01

challenge and as much as I enjoy

22:03

punditry it was

22:05

you know it's it's challenging you want

22:07

to do it well you want to do it like you

22:08

know the top boys do it you have to put

22:09

everything into it and do it really well

22:12

um but I

22:14

I was when I wanted more I wanted to

22:17

to get on the grass I wanted to work

22:19

with pliers I wanted to try and improve

22:20

pliers I wanted to see if I could do it

22:22

it's probably more if I'm honest

22:23

probably can I do it and can I you know

22:26

do something and I was probably naive at

22:27

the time because the minute I walked

22:28

into Derby I was like wow this is

22:30

different you know I've got to hold them

22:31

I am now holding the meeting rather than

22:33

one of the 25 players sitting listening

22:36

and as much as you can think I'll do

22:37

that the minute you're walking and you

22:39

see those 25 faces and then you walk to

22:41

to say hello to Jeanette who's your

22:43

secretary and this one and the Playa

22:45

liaison I'm like oh

22:47

have I got to manage all this as well

22:50

and you do you have to sort of you know

22:51

the building is yours to kind of set the

22:53

tone so that first year some of it was

22:55

good you know I think sometimes in

22:56

management a great manager said to me

22:57

this

22:59

he said and he was all he's old he was

23:01

old and he said to me I think I was a

23:03

better manager when I was young in many

23:05

many ways he said because when I as I

23:06

got older I started to really sort of

23:08

overthink things and become a little bit

23:10

more cynical and you know you kind of go

23:12

over these things when I was young I

23:13

just make decisions and I was kind of

23:14

free to do it now I think there's a

23:16

balance to that experience is obviously

23:18

a clear can clearly help as you go along

23:20

you learn from mistakes but I unders I

23:22

understood his point when he said that

23:23

because I walked into Derby fresh

23:24

and I made a lot of mistakes because you

23:26

always will but I also had a freshness

23:29

and a bounce and a feeling inside I've

23:31

made it was kind of I want to take this

23:32

on and even though those moments of fear

23:34

you know that kind of when you feel like

23:36

a bit of imposter syndrome should I be

23:38

doing this and you've got hired it like

23:39

I remember having a whistle for the

23:40

first day and trying to in the training

23:42

pitch again

23:43

I'm going to blow this at the end of

23:44

training and I've been used to hearing

23:46

about this sounds so stupid I've been

23:48

used to hearing coaches go end of the

23:50

session stop I was a bit like what kind

23:52

of whistling I didn't want to do like a

23:53

little

23:54

I don't remember guys so let alone like

23:57

I've got a bigger team and set the

23:58

tactics and set the tone I was about all

24:00

those little stings and I think every if

24:03

they were honest I think you know people

24:04

in business yourself have all had those

24:06

the most simple things where you're

24:08

sitting there going wow that little

24:09

basic thing that I didn't consider is

24:11

now in my head yeah so I had a lot of

24:13

those and it was you know we got to the

24:15

playoff final we got to Wembley we lost

24:16

a final against Aston Villa to get to

24:18

the Premier League and I was so

24:20

disappointed for the club at Derby and

24:21

the owner had given me you know put

24:22

everything into me and we had a really

24:25

good year and got there and and we lost

24:26

it but in terms of um that first year of

24:28

management yeah my drive took me into it

24:30

and it was just a huge learning curve

24:32

and it was a really enjoyable year

24:34

imposter syndrome that I mean that's

24:36

somewhat linked to I guess your fear of

24:38

failure have you how does we talk a lot

24:41

about imposter syndrome on this podcast

24:42

because it's it's a it's a two it's a

24:45

double-sided thing on one hand you have

24:47

that feeling of um which I can recall

24:49

when I became a dragon on Dragon's Den

24:50

and I'm sat next to Peter Jones and

24:51

Deborah meaden Peter Jones has been

24:53

there for 21 Seasons since the beginning

24:55

Deborah Mead has been there for 17 and I

24:57

feel like I've just walked into the TV

24:58

yeah like your little whistle thing was

25:00

me like how do I say I'm out okay

25:02

exactly yeah um but being at peace with

25:05

that like how do you how have you dealt

25:06

with that in your career because you

25:07

went from being a pundit to managing a

25:10

club that was trying to get promotion to

25:12

then Chelsea these are huge leaps

25:14

forward yeah huge leaps forward um I

25:17

think uh I probably managed to get

25:20

coping mechanisms along the way that

25:23

have uh put that to the side and in

25:25

simple sense

25:27

I've become much more confident in

25:28

myself

25:30

um

25:30

away from work away from work actually

25:32

at home much more content in myself

25:34

again it probably comes back to being

25:36

really settled in relationship I am 45

25:37

now just turned

25:39

um but in the workplace as well I've

25:42

um that first year I remember feeling it

25:44

a lot and when I moved to Chelsea like

25:45

it should be a huge move it's a huge

25:47

jump to the Champions League club even

25:49

though I knew the club very well it was

25:51

a huge jump to deal with players of a

25:52

different stature Etc

25:55

um but I have found that imposter

25:57

syndrome thing much less and I had just

25:59

had coping mechanisms where I could kind

26:01

of just go

26:02

okay you're nervous taking this meeting

26:04

because you're a bit out of your comfort

26:05

zone you've got to be critical of a

26:06

player so you're going to go in on

26:08

someone you're going to show a video of

26:09

the game the other day and it's like

26:10

that's that's not a comfortable thing to

26:12

do always and I just probably have found

26:15

mechanisms to be able to go right you

26:16

almost go into the character and that

26:19

doesn't sound like an actor too much but

26:20

you're going I'm just going to go into

26:21

it and the more I think you do that

26:24

um the better you can be at coping with

26:25

that thing and then you just kind of

26:27

also have to get a realization that you

26:28

know you can feel a bit like that you

26:30

can feel a little bit like I'm out of my

26:31

comfort zone that you can make mistakes

26:33

I think showing that you can make a

26:35

mistake in front of a group of players

26:37

is not the worst thing you know they're

26:39

there to the players will get it you

26:41

make the smallest mistake one of those

26:42

25 at least is going to go well that

26:44

when he said that you know but I think

26:45

you've got to come to peace with that

26:47

and you can even joke about it after the

26:48

event because you'll keep making them so

26:49

I'll probably come come to terms we've

26:51

been able to deal with that side of it I

26:52

think I am I I was thinking then as

26:55

you're speaking actually about

26:56

my experience being a dragon and when um

26:59

one of the things I've always wondered

27:00

about players when they go from being a

27:03

player to a manager and especially when

27:05

they've been managed under a legend of a

27:07

manager so like I was thinking about

27:08

Ollie um oligon Associates Alex Ferguson

27:11

yeah how hard is it to like be yourself

27:14

versus be the successful manager that

27:17

you saw when like because even when I

27:19

became a dragon I think for the first

27:21

two years for sure I was

27:23

trying to be a dragon yeah not being

27:25

Steve yeah yeah and that's a that's a

27:28

journey but do you understand the

27:29

question I completely get it I get asked

27:31

it a lot and I'm not in not in exactly

27:33

the way you guys but I get asked by

27:34

football journalists who say so what did

27:36

you take out of all your managers you

27:37

play and all this stuff and you know

27:39

just to jump to one would be Jose

27:41

Mourinho it's a good one to jump to

27:42

because he had a huge effect on my

27:43

career as many did but he came and

27:45

probably elevated me in my playing

27:47

career to a different level and what I

27:51

learned from Jose and as I then went on

27:53

to managers after that was the the thing

27:55

that impressed me about Joseph there was

27:57

a real authentic nature to him like when

28:00

he was self-confident overconfident kind

28:02

of brash Jose that's him you know that

28:06

was him and you know maybe he's playing

28:07

up a bit now and again but I saw him

28:08

behind the scenes and then when I've

28:10

worked with other managers that maybe

28:12

were probably striving to be something

28:13

like that and I think after Joe said it

28:15

was a there were a generation of

28:16

managers that were a bit like okay I'm

28:18

gonna wear this I'm going to wear the

28:20

scarf and I'm going to type them with

28:21

you know or act a bit kind of you know

28:23

say those things he used to say and does

28:26

say

28:27

um and I didn't I didn't buy it as such

28:29

and even from outside when you're

28:30

watching manager you know you have that

28:32

impression so I think probably you go

28:34

okay can I take things from all these

28:35

managers for my journalist question yeah

28:37

I did from Sam and not from others blah

28:39

blah but when you come to it you have to

28:41

be yourself because you'll get found out

28:42

and you're probably right in my early

28:44

days I also did that I did my first

28:46

meeting at Derby again was like right

28:48

I'm an ex player so anyone who wants to

28:49

knock on my door come and see me and

28:51

I'll you know I'll tell you the truth

28:52

and we'll have it out or I'll you know

28:53

I'll give you the answer that you want

28:55

and I remember like the first three

28:56

weeks they kept knocking on the dock I

28:59

was like and I was like to do another

29:00

meeting so Lads if you're gonna knock on

29:02

my door come to me with like facts of

29:04

why you should play you know how's your

29:06

training you know come with something I

29:07

don't want you just I didn't play on

29:08

Saturday like Monday morning there's

29:09

like five on the door knocking and you

29:12

know open policy in a door is good but

29:14

at the same time it was like those are

29:15

like learning curves for me like I

29:16

probably said that that phrase because I

29:19

needed to say it right yeah you know

29:21

what I mean because there's a place it's

29:22

really so really cool things to play I

29:24

want the manager to be able to speak to

29:25

me all the time and when I said it I was

29:27

like Sam what I thought I should say and

29:28

then you know you learn a little lesson

29:30

you know my daughter hopefully is still

29:31

open now but at the same time I was

29:33

probably playing the part of a manager

29:36

um and then you kind of go now what's

29:38

real to me here you know like do I have

29:40

to say that it's another way of saying

29:41

it or whatever

29:42

and that kind of brings me to a question

29:44

which is wouldn't it therefore have been

29:46

great for you to go and learn those

29:48

lessons when the stakes weren't so high

29:51

um because even the stakes are super

29:53

high at Derby because you're figuring

29:54

out Frank the manager there yeah and

29:56

sometimes you don't want to be at the

29:57

poker table playing with real money yeah

30:00

but but that's my life you know I I know

30:03

what you're saying and I think as a as

30:05

an as a I think I think I can say this I

30:08

think it's an English ex-player Stephen

30:10

Gerrard others that have played a high

30:12

level you know I've played 100 times to

30:14

our country Etc I think pla the the the

30:16

the culture in this country is the sort

30:18

of say right now you're a manager go and

30:20

own your stripes there because being a

30:22

player of that level doesn't mean you're

30:23

going to be a manager so I think that

30:25

could have been a route where you can

30:26

kind of get a lot of fair play he went

30:27

down to you know division two and he's

30:29

showing what he's doing and there's a

30:30

process the reality is that path wasn't

30:33

for me you know and Mel Morris asked me

30:35

to take the Derby job it was a question

30:37

yeah challenge yes please I'll take the

30:39

challenge you know when I won you there

30:42

and Chelsea came to me it was a

30:43

difficult time at a transfer ban you

30:46

know and as I was leaving it was a real

30:47

transition young players what's going to

30:49

be there next year I think probably some

30:50

big managers just have turned it down I

30:52

know that so it was like yeah you know

30:54

what challenge I'll take it so you know

30:56

I don't want to try and recreate the

30:58

past I think why didn't I do that

30:59

because you know I've managed in four

31:01

years of management I've had some

31:03

experience and for all the you know

31:05

you'll always get criticism you know you

31:06

leave Chelsea people will criticize you

31:08

you go to Everton you stay up you get

31:10

relegated people to criticize you but at

31:12

the same time I'm I am resilient enough

31:14

to deal with all that stuff now that's

31:15

been probably the beauty of having a

31:17

long career in football and so my my

31:20

thing is I can manage Derby I can go and

31:23

manage Chelsea and do it to a good level

31:25

as well because I've had successes as

31:27

well as when it hasn't gone so well I

31:28

mean that's the modern day manager so I

31:31

think I probably crammed in a lot of

31:32

work in four years and and working at a

31:34

high end level with players that will

31:36

test you and question you because

31:38

Champions League players question you so

31:40

it's just my path

31:43

the um I mean that's it so Champions

31:46

League players questioning you

31:48

you don't ever assume that happens I

31:50

mean I don't know a ton about what goes

31:51

on in the foot in the room but yeah no I

31:53

think what when I say that I think in um

31:55

the modern day player particularly I

31:58

think in previous series it probably

31:59

would have been more vocal and you know

32:01

but now the modern day player have a

32:04

good understanding of the game a lot of

32:05

them have been coached in academies very

32:06

very well to a high level uh when they

32:09

get to the top they also when you when

32:11

you you know are setting out tactics

32:13

they they'll have questions for you and

32:14

and you have to buy into that because

32:16

you know the reality is what you want is

32:18

them to understand what you want or

32:19

sometimes they say something like okay

32:21

we might change that you know or

32:23

whatever it might be and I think when

32:24

you get to the to the top level in

32:26

football you have to understand the best

32:28

day out now there's a they have to

32:30

understand you're the boss and you have

32:31

to man they're very clear but at the

32:34

same time there will be a lot of

32:35

suppliers that will challenge you would

32:36

you mean by that boss come to you what

32:37

what but what about if that happens you

32:39

know and you get a lot more of that and

32:41

you I remember reading Pep Guardiola

32:43

once said that even if you don't know

32:45

the answer pretend that you know the

32:46

answer to say that yeah and you know so

32:47

you there is a version of that because

32:49

you know when you're getting things

32:50

thrown at you sometimes it's like you

32:52

know football is an active game and I

32:54

think sometimes in the modern day we

32:55

look at you know on Monday Night

32:56

Football you see after the event you

32:59

know they should have done this or

33:00

people are imagining what um you know

33:03

Pep Guardiola or yoga club or fantastic

33:05

coaches are doing and it must be this

33:07

amazing complicated thing for sure

33:08

they're amazing coaches but it's an

33:10

active game so if you can give a good

33:12

message then the rest is down to the

33:14

players at the same time so you just

33:15

have to prep them as well as you can but

33:17

they will they will challenge it um

33:19

that that got me thinking about when I

33:21

sat with um Jamie carragher and he was

33:23

telling me about all the managers he had

33:24

had

33:25

um above him when he was playing at

33:26

Liverpool and then hearing from all the

33:28

United players Nanny and ever and Gary

33:30

and Rio about what Sir Alex was like and

33:33

and then reading through all of all of

33:35

the managers that you've worked under I

33:37

mean there's so many of them from Jose

33:38

to angelotti

33:40

um so many of them I mean there was one

33:42

period where I mean the managers were

33:44

being sacked every six months it feels

33:45

like at Chelsea yeah

33:46

um and the thing I garnered from all of

33:48

them is that there is actually not a

33:49

successful blueprint to being a

33:51

successful manager there's not like a

33:52

blueprint there's not a way to be a

33:54

successful manager some of them are

33:55

tactician some of them are man managers

33:57

yeah is that accurate it's very accurate

33:59

I I agree with that um and Chelsea is a

34:02

bit a bit of a unique example because in

34:05

my time there they change manager a lot

34:07

as you say and I don't think that's the

34:09

most productive way to to run a business

34:12

in an idle way in terms of football

34:14

because in an ideal way you kind of go

34:15

we trust in this manager this work with

34:16

it here's the idea we're going to go

34:18

with it and of course it's the

34:19

prerogative of the honest to change that

34:20

what we did have at the time was a

34:23

fantastic unit within the dressing room

34:25

of high Talent High personality that led

34:28

the dressing room so we had a great team

34:30

and a great Squad and when I say that we

34:33

had a spine of players of John Terry

34:34

myself Peter check Didier drummer Ashley

34:37

Cole I could go on and there were

34:39

personalities and sometimes would Clash

34:41

but we knew our place we knew we could

34:43

rely on him I knew that I would run for

34:45

him and he'd run for me and we also had

34:47

high Talent of a player that would video

34:48

drama would score in every final pretty

34:50

much so I think we kind of like bridge

34:52

that gap of changing managers

34:55

um and so I think when you come back to

34:56

the the question of you know great

34:57

managers I think sometimes it's um it's

35:00

a case of compromising with what you're

35:02

working with you have to get the people

35:04

skills right and that's the first thing

35:06

I learned as a manager for difference

35:07

and plan is that you have to deal with

35:08

people you've got to try and Inspire

35:10

every player within that group and

35:12

Inspire the collective so every player

35:14

will have a different motivation it

35:15

might be money for one it might be I

35:17

want to be the best striker in the world

35:19

it might be I want to be in front of him

35:20

because I don't like him whatever that

35:21

is you try and tap into and I think the

35:24

greatest of managers my opinion and I

35:26

played under as you say a lot and I'm

35:28

trying to be one is that they give you

35:32

something that you believe in that you

35:34

can strive for and you will buy into and

35:36

this and it's and sometimes it's a messy

35:38

process you know you watch Man City lift

35:40

that treble people just now and you

35:42

listed the Champions League there will

35:44

be so many things we don't know behind

35:45

the scenes this player is unhappy had to

35:47

do this all these things that come

35:50

together and give you that amazing

35:51

moment and I had that as Chelsea as a

35:52

player and so if you just say go and

35:55

tell me what a great managers and me to

35:56

go here's an answer for you in one

35:58

minute it's like impossible to say man

36:00

management that's what all the United

36:02

players said about Sir Alex it's the

36:04

only thing that they all are completely

36:05

agree on they would say he was the best

36:06

man manager and um an inconsistent

36:09

leader which is an interesting concept

36:10

and what I mean by inconsistent leader

36:12

is he would treat Gary in a different

36:14

way to Nanny to Evra and they all told

36:16

me their stories and Rio as well told me

36:18

about when

36:20

um Sir Alex brought that bottle of

36:21

whiskey to his ill grandfather's bedside

36:23

and Rio doesn't know how we knew the

36:25

favorite brand of whiskey and how we

36:27

knew his Grandad was Ill yeah Gary told

36:29

me he used to tap him on the shoulder

36:30

and say think about your fault your

36:32

grandfather's shrapnel which is still in

36:33

his shoulder when you go out there today

36:34

that kind of bespoke tailored approach

36:36

to leadership which is seems to be Sir

36:39

Alex Ferguson's um highest accent made

36:41

sure and I think that runs into the

36:43

modern day like we get very caught up in

36:45

in tactics and rightly so the game's

36:47

moved on from those days tactically but

36:49

those people and and you'll know

36:51

yourself you know inspiring people and

36:54

as you say to be bespoke and kind of

36:56

individualize it and look within the

36:58

group and have moments because you know

37:00

if you ask me about my career you go

37:01

like Frank would you remember out of

37:02

those 20 years like do you remember the

37:04

meeting where Jose you know played you a

37:06

bit higher up I wouldn't he said do you

37:08

remember the time that Jose said those

37:09

words to you that inspired you and it

37:11

could be like one sentence I go yeah I

37:12

remember that do you know I mean like

37:14

things that stick with me that I

37:15

remember that made me go I'm gonna I'm

37:17

gonna run for this man he's gonna make

37:18

me better you know and I had that and I

37:21

think so what you just said there about

37:22

Sir Alex Ferguson I think the great

37:23

managers to have you look at and they

37:25

have it in different styles Pep

37:26

Guardiola yoga and klopp everyone will

37:28

have a different style of that and

37:29

that's a huge part to their success I

37:31

think

37:32

what do you like as a manager

37:35

if you had to do like a self-assessment

37:36

I think you go you can ask somebody else

37:38

now I don't know

37:40

um I know I try and be uh close to the

37:43

players as I say my open door thing but

37:46

at the same time I think I I try and

37:48

find a balance I I think the important

37:49

thing for me was when I became a manager

37:52

was to not expect anybody any player to

37:55

see it how I saw it or train how I

37:58

trained or whatever you know for good or

37:59

for bad and you have to that's I think a

38:01

bit of a skill which you know sir Alex

38:03

probably had perfectly so I try and be

38:05

as close to the players I try and learn

38:06

all the time I'm a coach I want a coach

38:09

on the pitch I think my biggest pleasure

38:11

is coaching and improving players and

38:14

particularly young players and I've had

38:16

the you know the fortune to work with

38:18

some really good jump players at Derby I

38:19

had Mason Mountain Harry Wilson for Kayo

38:22

tomorrow and then at Chelsea obviously

38:24

Tommy Abraham extra ones and yeah and

38:26

Anthony Gordon Etc so I think they are

38:29

the real sponges that are a real

38:30

pleasure to work with and I love that

38:31

part of it being able to speak to them

38:32

and you do find and it's a reality and I

38:35

remember being an older player you're a

38:36

bit more cynical when you're a younger

38:37

player you're like they're like a blank

38:40

canvas and you can you know push them

38:42

and try and push them in that so I'm

38:44

probably quite intense with the younger

38:45

players

38:46

um I try and be as I say inclusive and

38:48

I'm always trying to learn

38:51

um and and try and just trying to be me

38:52

it's a hard answer that one I think

38:54

you'd have to ask you know maybe a

38:55

member of Staff or a player I picked the

38:57

right player because you probably get

38:58

different answers because when you work

39:00

with I worked at Chelsea recently with

39:02

30 players I picked you pick 11 for a

39:05

game and like eight subs and the subs

39:07

eight Outfield Subs the subs don't

39:09

really like you because they're not

39:10

starting let alone the other 10 you know

39:11

so it's a really hard balance with a

39:14

modern Squad to to get there but you

39:16

have to try and make it inclusive

39:17

because if you're going to get anywhere

39:18

you've got to go all together and that

39:20

was one of the problems for being

39:21

Chelsea this season 30 players is it's

39:23

not possible to manage that on the other

39:25

this isn't maybe this is even more

39:27

difficult question what are you trying

39:28

to work on then what are the the areas

39:29

of as a leader as a manager you're

39:31

trying to work on because I can think of

39:33

for myself I can think of a number of

39:34

areas where I go you know what that is

39:35

still somewhere where I have a recurring

39:38

when I reflect in hindsight I go I

39:40

need to get better here what is that for

39:43

you quite a few things I would say

39:45

because

39:46

um the other thinker thing comes in

39:48

again and I'm a bit of a perfectionist

39:49

so you know I always want to try and

39:51

improve

39:52

um

39:53

you know my tactical and and the

39:55

personal touch and those things but I

39:57

think when I came away from Chelsea I

39:59

realized I needed to delegate time

40:00

better that was something I was

40:02

certainly not great at I've got you you

40:03

have your staff for a reason they're

40:05

there to support you in a time they'll

40:07

be better than you at certain things so

40:08

give them it you know and give them that

40:10

you obviously oversee that thing and I

40:11

probably spent a lot of time

40:14

um trying to be across everything

40:16

whereas really I probably could have

40:18

come back from that and save my own

40:19

energy so I think I'll certainly try and

40:21

improve that side I did between Chelsea

40:22

and Everton for sure to try and save

40:24

that I can

40:26

um

40:27

uh be pretty overreactive sometimes if I

40:30

see things I don't like in terms of and

40:32

when I study it's always effort or

40:33

standards and I think I I am that's one

40:36

of the things I'm biggest on is that you

40:38

know if you're going to make a mistake

40:39

in a game I've got no problem with that

40:42

um if you are going to not run for your

40:43

teammate if you're not going to train

40:44

through the week with an idea that when

40:46

I train on Monday that's got a direct

40:47

relation to what Saturday is going to

40:49

look like if that feeling isn't there

40:51

then I probably can either get upset

40:53

with a player or maybe kind of distance

40:55

to player and I think when you're

40:57

working with a group you have to be

40:58

careful of that one because not every

40:59

player has your mentality so you have to

41:01

either try and bring them up to the

41:03

party

41:04

or if not then they're going to have to

41:06

not be there if you're going to have

41:07

success as far as I see it and that

41:09

sounds really harsh but it's one of

41:10

those things where you go if you can

41:12

work in a in a in a team and you're

41:14

going to take it to exactly where you

41:16

want it to be

41:17

out of that Squad of 25 if you've got

41:19

that kind of I remember manager would

41:21

say this you have you know that there's

41:23

your six or seven you know you're going

41:24

to get every day you're going to train

41:25

you're going to come in they're going to

41:27

be so active every day you're going to

41:28

have the middle group or somewhere in

41:29

the middle and you had the ones that

41:30

maybe I'm just coming to training you

41:33

know or you know I'm a bit sore today

41:35

you know that sounds simplistic to say

41:37

but you have to try and work if you want

41:39

to work in a full Direction and go okay

41:41

those six are with me right you try and

41:43

Garner them those are the ones that can

41:45

kind of pass the message those ones in

41:47

the middle okay can we keep pushing and

41:48

working between me and the staff to try

41:50

and improve them and then the ones that

41:52

are there come on can we help them can

41:53

they come with us if not you have to

41:55

speak to the club and that's where a

41:56

club has to be aligned to go okay if you

41:58

want to go in that direction and we're

41:59

with you okay we'll work that out and

42:01

that becomes a recruitment or players

42:03

leaving the club I mean that's you know

42:05

that's that's the reality that has to be

42:07

and that's the reality of business as

42:08

well um uh I've just finished writing

42:11

this book and it talks about these three

42:13

lines and basically says if everybody in

42:16

think about a person in your team and if

42:17

everybody in the team represented their

42:20

cultural values right which is what

42:22

you're talking about with your six

42:23

disciples there if everybody represented

42:25

the cultural values with the bar with

42:26

the overall Barbie raised or lowered and

42:28

you'll have some people who would

42:29

imagine if everyone was like them like a

42:31

Frank you know a Frank Lampard or a John

42:32

Terry how high that the cultural values

42:35

would be raised then you have other

42:36

people where if everyone was like them

42:37

you'd be relegated yeah and and what to

42:41

do with those three cohorts of bar

42:43

raises maintainers and barlowers and

42:45

that's kind of what I that's a good way

42:47

of putting it I mean I and I think the

42:50

I think the bar raises can take some

42:52

time to raise the bar

42:54

but the balras can get you very quickly

42:57

yeah yeah that's kind of my experience

42:58

because that kind of when that kind of

43:00

that consistency or whatever it is you

43:02

know like this oh why are we doing this

43:03

train why do we have to do or whatever

43:05

that kind of negativity which can slip

43:07

in can be really contagious and in a

43:09

winning Sport and as much as we're

43:10

talking here about great managers

43:12

winning is is everything you know and

43:14

it's that's obviously relative to if

43:15

you're a man city or in Everton like

43:17

Everton will win kind of 35 40 of games

43:19

at Best at the moment and you know that

43:22

so you know that they're going to be 65

43:24

or so percent of weeks whereas not that

43:26

great the balras can go and they lower

43:29

it quickly whereas you know if you can

43:31

get the razors to take control

43:33

um then they that then I think generally

43:35

you can kind of get there so it's a

43:36

really important thing that's probably

43:37

one of the interesting things that as I

43:40

say that the transition from player to

43:42

manager trying to get that because if

43:43

you whether you were one of the bar

43:45

raisers or you're in the middle group or

43:46

the Law Group when you become a manager

43:47

it doesn't matter what you were you've

43:49

got to kind of get there get the scripts

43:50

of what it is and kind of just push

43:53

um so that that's something

43:54

I'm trying to improve on everything all

43:56

the time and coming away sometimes give

43:58

you nice time to to have perspective and

44:01

just kind of go I'm going to put it in

44:02

line a little bit and it looks a bit

44:03

different to what I thought before that

44:05

experience in yeah this is I mean I

44:07

guess this is why some of the the

44:09

greatest managers of all time they hold

44:10

on to their Gary Neville's and their you

44:14

know their disciples yeah and I've

44:15

spoken to Gary about this Gary said to

44:17

me in fact when we're filming

44:18

Dragonstone recently he said for those

44:19

last two years Sir Alex kept me there

44:20

because of the my impact on the dressing

44:22

room yeah not my impact on the pitch but

44:23

on the dressing room I could keep keep

44:25

the standard High

44:27

um in the modern world I was reading the

44:29

stats managers are getting fired quicker

44:31

than ever sure and it almost it must be

44:33

so difficult to establish Authority when

44:35

the play is aware

44:37

um that the manager is going to be the

44:38

one to be taken out if things don't go

44:40

well in business it's not like that

44:42

right as a CEO because I own the company

44:45

and I am the manager yeah so if there's

44:49

if there's Behavior underneath me that's

44:50

toxic and contagious I can act yeah the

44:53

center of authorities with me yeah

44:55

whereas it seems like in a club the

44:56

center of authority is really like the

44:58

chairman the owner yeah

45:00

um sometimes the manager manages manages

45:02

to get there but in the modern world we

45:03

don't let managers last long enough to

45:04

build that Authority no and that's the

45:06

tough world that it is and I think you

45:08

know you probably have to earn the right

45:10

as a manager to get to a club maybe when

45:12

you look at the perfect models right at

45:14

the top you know and Manchester City is

45:15

a good one to talk about now I work with

45:17

the city group I have one year playing

45:18

there and I could see when I was there

45:20

they hadn't arrived at that point but I

45:22

could see with the stability from above

45:24

and how it run and the vision it was

45:25

like we're gonna get they were going to

45:27

get somewhere because they had a great

45:28

structure and it wasn't like it was

45:30

going to get pulled and pushed and

45:32

pulled for you know a small period of

45:34

time so we're going to get there and

45:35

then they hired pep you know they had

45:36

not difficult first year but the first

45:38

year was kind of him finding his way I

45:39

need this I need this and then he's

45:41

fantastic coach and they have great

45:42

players but if you don't have that

45:44

aligned thing where as you said the most

45:46

important person at the club in the

45:48

modern day in my opinion is the owner

45:49

and it is a structure at the top because

45:51

they really they set the time maybe it's

45:53

financially maybe it's with the sporting

45:55

directors and recruitment because you'll

45:57

be as good as the players you recruit a

46:00

great manager again I don't want to sit

46:01

here and drop names that said to me was

46:03

when we finished it um my first thing

46:05

that Everton we just stayed up skin of

46:07

our teeth and he was like randomly to

46:08

say congratulations he went Frank don't

46:10

rest 80 of your work for next season

46:12

will be done in the next month so it was

46:14

recruitment so like 20 will be what you

46:17

do next year and now the 80 is like

46:19

bringing the right players so I think

46:21

you know like that that alignment as I

46:23

keep saying there is something that you

46:25

know if you can get

46:27

um and and I know I know they're great

46:28

owners and they're great supporting

46:30

directors and Recruitment and the

46:31

manager and the manager is so you know

46:33

critical to it but when you look at last

46:35

season 13 managers left their Club I

46:37

think it's 13 out of 20 clubs and you're

46:40

talking about you know Antonio Conte and

46:43

you're talking about Thomas you know

46:44

manages at huge successes it shows you

46:47

that the landscape's changed to the

46:49

point where the manager will be culpable

46:50

and I think you have to come you have to

46:51

be at peace with that but you have to

46:53

try and get to the point very quickly

46:55

where you have success and that's tough

46:56

because winning is and the modern world

46:59

of social media and reaction is like get

47:02

him out you know get the next one in you

47:04

know sometimes maybe they're right maybe

47:05

the manager is culpable but other times

47:07

there are there are many things and to

47:09

come back to your original point about

47:10

players and those stallwalls and the

47:12

Gary Neville's and the James Milner at

47:14

Liverpool in the last whatever years you

47:16

know people on the outside I think it's

47:18

very easy to look at the superstars and

47:20

most sellers in there I I can guarantee

47:22

you and I know this firsthand from

47:23

speaking to people people like James

47:25

Milner and Jordan Henderson

47:27

have absolutely set the tone of that

47:29

club for the last whatever years during

47:31

great success and if you don't have that

47:34

kind of those drivers within that top

47:36

six all right I think it's very hard to

47:39

sustain its success or get success and

47:41

again back to my Chelsea days we had

47:42

that naturally and we were actually

47:44

quite diverse so it was like John Terry

47:47

was like the real Captain like heart on

47:49

his sleeve you could see it every day I

47:50

was probably like more quiet but like a

47:52

trainer and standards and myself and

47:54

trying to hope that that would bring

47:55

people with us Didier was this sort of

47:58

charismatic from the Ivory Coast and

48:00

kind of brought in you know that section

48:01

of the dressing room and he took a pair

48:03

of checks about five languages Ashley

48:05

Carl was such a nice lad and you know

48:08

best left back the country's probably

48:09

ever seen so we had this amazing group

48:11

and like if others aren't going to

48:13

follow that then very quickly it was

48:14

like you're not going to make it

48:16

regardless of the manager change it's

48:18

like you want you won't survive the

48:19

dressing room and that's kind of how it

48:21

was it reminded me of a quote that I've

48:23

said on this podcast before which is

48:24

when the culture is strong the new

48:25

people become the culture and when the

48:26

coaches week the culture becomes the new

48:28

people right because when you have those

48:30

that cord of disciples someone coming in

48:32

they'll stand out so much yeah if they

48:34

don't fit in with you Didier Frank Etc

48:36

that they'll instantly be expelled yeah

48:38

but when the culture is weak someone

48:40

will come in and they'll actually

48:40

influence yeah the Dynamics and that's

48:42

when you're really from my experience in

48:44

business is when you're really really

48:45

screwed no that's interesting because I

48:47

think in football as well because it's

48:49

so topical it's just so much

48:50

conversation around it that you know I

48:52

managed to Chelsea for seven weeks I

48:54

think I did and I spoke a lot about

48:56

standards and I was a bit I'm not saying

48:58

standards to him I saw you say in every

48:59

post match yeah I know it wasn't like

49:02

not trying to be clever and go I'm just

49:04

gonna this is my line now standards but

49:05

it was like it was very evident to me

49:07

when I walked in um because you know

49:10

having worked at Chelsea as a coach

49:12

before and as a player I I do know the

49:14

standards I do know that and this is not

49:17

a direct criticism of the players either

49:18

because when I look at the player

49:20

situations where they were and I

49:21

understood how it'd been a long year I

49:23

walked in on with 10 games to go they've

49:25

been there for the whole season and a

49:27

lot of players were not playing they

49:28

were probably going to leave which we're

49:30

seeing now whether they were going to

49:31

leave with a club wanted some leave or

49:33

they or they hadn't been playing with

49:34

the previous managers and I could see in

49:37

training that it wasn't the level wasn't

49:38

enough it wasn't enough to go and get a

49:40

result you know whoever you might want

49:43

to say a Brentford at home or at let

49:45

alone Real Madrid it wasn't enough and I

49:47

can say this now because I said this to

49:48

the players and again it's not an

49:50

individual criticism that applies

49:51

because I also when you're trying to say

49:53

you want to be a manager you have to

49:54

have a personal understanding of like

49:56

human nature if I'm a player that's not

49:58

been planned for the last seven months

50:00

and I think I'm leaving in four weeks

50:01

time I'm probably going to struggle to

50:03

motivate that player you know I'm not

50:05

I've Got Magic one to motivate that

50:07

player so I think it was that probably

50:09

the my biggest learning out of Chelsea

50:10

was when you talk about standards and

50:12

culture I think people get it talks

50:14

about standards you know what he talks

50:15

about his culture and I you know maybe I

50:18

had to catch myself on and not cite

50:19

every interview but at the same time it

50:21

was if you don't have a building block

50:22

of Standards then that winning culture

50:24

that everyone goes what's winning

50:25

culture you go well then me up I'll try

50:27

and explain to you but it has to start

50:28

with a basic standard and which for me

50:30

is always like trained to a level where

50:32

you're going to push your teammate he's

50:34

going to push you and then we're going

50:35

to be as competitive as it can be we

50:37

don't have to win not every team can win

50:38

you know this Manchester City pretty

50:40

much win the league every year at the

50:41

minute so what's success for everybody

50:42

else for Brighton it's coming six or

50:44

whatever for Newcastle it's wow

50:46

Champions League that's huge success so

50:48

everyone has a version but my guess is

50:50

those teams that have over performed

50:52

outperformed they've got something there

50:54

which is a basic standard that they just

50:56

build on and you know to be fair to

50:58

Chelsea they're in a position now where

51:00

that's needs to be worked on again it's

51:02

a transitional time

51:04

that brings me to the quote you said

51:05

after your Newcastle game which was the

51:07

standards collectively have dropped I

51:08

can be honest now um because it's your

51:10

last game I might not see them for some

51:11

time anymore but low standards are a

51:14

symptom of something further Upstream

51:16

that's happened and we saw this at

51:18

Manchester United I'm a big man united

51:19

fan I've seen a a decade five years of

51:22

just like chaos where we've got these

51:24

amazing players but one plus one equals

51:27

1.5 we call it dis economies of scale

51:30

yeah in great culture one plus one

51:31

equals three you know where you can make

51:33

great average players together play yeah

51:35

amazing the football of their lives the

51:38

furthest Upstream thing where did the

51:39

standard start to slip what is the thing

51:41

that happens in a club like Chelsea in

51:42

your experience when you went back there

51:44

that had caused that dropping of

51:47

Standards which we now saw on the pitch

51:49

with your sort of 10 games there well I

51:51

think um

51:52

when I was tongue-in-cheek by the way

51:54

when I said I'm not going to see them

51:55

again because it was a bit like as I

51:57

said I wouldn't say I've hadn't said it

51:58

to him and I've said it a few times but

52:00

the position of it was that and I think

52:03

the biggest thing about the standards

52:04

thing was the the size of the squad it

52:07

was the the motivation of players that

52:11

um you're gonna not play or you're out

52:13

of the Champions League squad or these

52:15

things like it's like asking you know

52:17

one of you you I don't know you maybe

52:19

love doing this this is like one of your

52:21

great mom you know I want to sit and you

52:22

want to speak to all these fantastic

52:23

people that you speak to so thanks for

52:25

your prep Steven now Peter Jones is

52:27

going to do it

52:29

cheers how long are you going to go with

52:31

that yeah so and I think in football

52:33

that's is that's a challenge with 20 or

52:35

so players which is the modern Squad but

52:37

with with Chelsea it's got very big to

52:39

the point where it's just how I felt

52:40

where I can say you know I'm not

52:43

criticizing that player for a dropping

52:45

standards I want to try and get

52:46

something out of him because I had a

52:47

short period I want to try and get

52:48

something out of him so I'll try but

52:49

then when you actually look at it you

52:51

kind of go yeah but he's had this for a

52:53

long time where he's not playing so he's

52:54

not now being competitive with that

52:56

player who is playing so that plays

52:58

pretty comfortable too because he's not

52:59

pushing him so you kind of get this

53:01

thing where you're like you know we

53:02

probably took it for granted in some of

53:05

my better days at Chelsea when we were

53:06

successful of like this kind of thing

53:08

that works you know it wasn't even a

53:10

thing you said you know you didn't have

53:11

to sort of have a meeting every day and

53:13

go you know one of those standards

53:14

culture you know a nice pie chart and

53:15

that's what that is it was almost like

53:17

this is what we do and at the minute

53:19

sometimes for whatever reason there's a

53:21

transition of maybe new ownership you

53:23

know not everything was perfect before

53:24

the new ownership I was there before no

53:25

ownership as well like to find

53:27

consistency as Chelsea would really want

53:29

of winning Premier League titles and

53:31

challenging has been a good few years

53:32

now so I think that getting the squad

53:35

right

53:36

um being able probably a fresh voice as

53:38

a manager coming in now who's obviously

53:40

a fantastic manager with a great record

53:41

to come in and go no this is the way and

53:44

now the squad looks compact you're going

53:46

to compete with each other and try and

53:48

create a great environment everyone is a

53:49

great environment to have success you

53:51

know you cannot have a success with that

53:53

team spirit and togetherness so when I

53:55

got there I could just see that that the

53:57

the spirit and the togetherness was not

53:59

then it was nothing bad you know like it

54:00

was not bad to go for the week I could

54:02

just see like you have to train Elite to

54:04

be elite you have to and that's not you

54:07

know the Monday players play every few

54:08

days sometimes when I say that it's not

54:10

like show me how many Sprints you can do

54:11

every day it's like okay if we're doing

54:13

prep tomorrow give me that intensity of

54:15

of thought about what what this is for

54:17

you and I mean sit in your face but in

54:19

the Chelsea when you did that you had to

54:21

go right if I want to really focus on

54:22

the 10 or 11 for tomorrow that means

54:25

I've got to have like 18 players over

54:27

there and you kind of saw the body

54:29

language as they walked off some of them

54:30

that they were like again because

54:32

they've been having it all season some

54:33

of them so I on a human level I

54:35

completely understood and in the end it

54:37

was like I came back here because

54:39

obviously this was an opportunity to

54:41

come to my club you know Chelsea a Club

54:43

close to my heart but as soon as I got

54:45

in I realized that probably I thought

54:47

you know what 30 players but I can

54:49

motivate in six seven weeks because it's

54:50

not like a long term thing I can come in

54:52

and be fresh

54:53

um but in terms of when I came in I

54:55

noticed very quickly that some players

54:58

are probably thinking about the season's

54:59

going to Peter out and what's the future

55:01

going to look like and that was a a

55:03

difficult situation it never crossed my

55:06

mind that's the size of the squad has

55:08

such a big impact but it makes perfect

55:10

sense because you need that sort of

55:11

healthy competition and I believe your

55:14

first team was was it 32 players

55:16

yeah which is more than you're allowed

55:18

to register for the Premier League or

55:19

Champions League so you had this kind of

55:21

surplus of a lot of players a few a few

55:23

are always injured probably you know so

55:25

that comes down a bit but it's a surplus

55:26

and it's a surplus of

55:29

um yeah the the the makeup of the squad

55:32

is International Players generally

55:34

because if there were a couple of young

55:35

players but when you try and build a

55:36

squad it'll be like this is you know

55:38

this is my core kind of 15 or 16 and

55:40

then you go and maybe these these two

55:42

experienced players that might not need

55:43

to play really and then we've got these

55:44

kids that are waiting and they're like

55:45

just happy to be there they want to play

55:47

they're going to be training and if you

55:49

give them an opportunity they'll be like

55:50

but when you have like international

55:51

players in a big number then of course

55:54

you know you're telling Internationals

55:56

you've got to stay at home it's not it's

55:58

not easy and you know to have the

56:00

conversation every Friday with them and

56:02

get them lined up coming in is also not

56:04

easy for your own energy do you know

56:05

what I mean so I that's not easy I don't

56:07

care how what kind of uh a manager you

56:11

are like it's like next you're not

56:12

playing okay next you're not playing you

56:15

know like whatever however you try and

56:16

box that up to a player eventually

56:18

they'll probably have I know I'm not

56:20

playing you know like stop telling me

56:21

this do you know what I mean so I

56:23

think you know that that was an

56:24

interesting learning curve for me like

56:26

an interim job is is what it is

56:28

um and I kept getting asked you know

56:30

people it was kind of frustrating but at

56:31

times like are you finding this so hard

56:33

and you find this hard I was like you

56:34

know what I'm back home in the club that

56:36

I love you know a fantastic training

56:37

around I'm doing everything I can in

56:39

this job to try and improve it but there

56:41

were I knew behind the scenes there are

56:42

a lot of things you know myself and my

56:44

staff we want to improve but we want to

56:46

coach we want to sort of when you when

56:47

you lack those Basics and as I say I I

56:50

think there's an understanding the club

56:52

that it has to change now I think it has

56:54

to it has to change then if you like

56:57

those Basics then it it's really hard to

56:59

get where you want to get to what how

57:01

does that happen though so there's these

57:03

32 players and then Chelsea spends more

57:05

money than it I think anyone's ever

57:06

spent in a window in that sort of

57:08

January window you bring in all of these

57:10

players on these long contracts which

57:12

I've never heard before I think it was

57:13

like eight year contracts and they're

57:15

all like class amazing individual

57:18

players

57:19

um is that a is that because the the new

57:23

owner doesn't understand those dynamics

57:26

of football because that's what it

57:27

seemed like for me I thought either this

57:29

is a genius or an idiot yeah you know I

57:32

don't want to criticize anyone like on a

57:34

personal level but as a fan looking and

57:35

I go signing these players on eight year

57:37

contracts they're great players spending

57:38

all this money the impact on culture

57:40

when you just throw stars in at such

57:43

quantity yeah it looked it looked like

57:46

an experience and um naivety I think

57:49

that's

57:50

um

57:51

that's understood now in terms of what

57:53

it's meant with those 30 players and I

57:55

think you've seen that now in that

57:56

already I think I'm six seven eight

57:58

players have left

57:59

so I think but the intentions are

58:01

certainly good I know that because I

58:03

work the owners gave me an opportunity

58:04

to go in there and I had a good

58:05

relationship with them their intentions

58:07

to do a good job at Chelsea are amazing

58:09

they want to take the club and be the

58:11

best you know they have great intentions

58:12

so now I think those younger players now

58:16

with

58:17

um a new voice a new manager the squad

58:20

come inside I think they'll have a

58:21

greater chance to show what they've got

58:22

anyway and they're talented players and

58:25

you know I remember being in Chelsea

58:26

when Eden Hazard arrived and pre-season

58:28

was like is this kid maybe a bit lazy

58:30

looking you know it was a bit kind of

58:32

strolling around this kid definitely and

58:33

then that first season it was like I

58:35

know it's really good and then on the

58:37

second and Thursdays like now this kid's

58:38

one of the best players the Premier

58:39

League's seen or whatever see everyone

58:41

video drug but like you can go through

58:42

all these players who are who are like

58:44

absolute Legends now if you're asking

58:46

you know those five six seven players to

58:48

come in and hit the ground running in a

58:51

difficult moment for the club it's

58:52

understandable so I think as a Chelsea

58:54

fan you know you look at it and kind of

58:56

go right okay that that is positive

58:58

there's Talent there okay it needs to be

59:00

worked with now I'm sure that you can

59:01

see the squads getting trimmed and as I

59:04

can say you know hand on heart the

59:05

intentions of the owners is absolutely

59:07

no they've spent that money because they

59:08

want to do well now if they're going to

59:10

address the situation a bit that's their

59:12

strategy going forward but I do think

59:14

you know you'll see players like Enzo

59:16

Fernandez Madrid and these players

59:18

madoiki young players they're going to

59:20

develop and they're going to be big

59:21

players for the club they you have to

59:23

get the structure writing the strategy

59:24

right going forward what what's a my

59:27

thing is that adding like I know six or

59:29

seven of these players all at once

59:32

pretty much halfway through the season

59:34

um in a squad that's already struggling

59:36

to figure out who it is under Graham

59:39

Potter

59:40

um it begs the question like who's doing

59:42

the recruitment here because at other

59:44

clubs it's a much more Strate it seems

59:46

like a much more strategic and

59:48

intentional and football driven approach

59:51

to recruitment whereas from what I saw

59:52

at Chelsea and I have actually spoken to

59:54

some people at Chelsea who are involved

59:56

in recruitment it seemed like chaos yeah

59:59

I mean I wasn't there for that period

60:01

right so that was in I got there in

60:03

April and like so January was the last

60:05

window and obviously they spent last

60:06

summer but I think the the change of

60:10

ownership and then obviously there's

60:12

some people moved on who were in the

60:14

hierarchy of the club and so they was

60:15

changing so there was a big change of

60:17

structure so I think you have to give

60:19

um some time and some leeway for the

60:22

process and they're certainly now are

60:24

sporting directors recruitment people in

60:27

there having work with them who are very

60:29

talented very hungry you know good to go

60:32

and I think now it will be

60:35

um up to them to take the club forward

60:37

they haven't signed bad players I think

60:38

this maybe the the

60:40

strategy of bringing them all in at that

60:42

time you know looks a bit excitable at

60:43

the minute as in terms of there's a lot

60:45

of players to success but I think

60:46

probably there's a long game and I think

60:47

there's a plan and I think probably most

60:50

huge clubs like Chelsea have had a

60:53

version of what this period is

60:54

Manchester United you mentioned there

60:55

Arsenal for quite a long time Liverpool

60:58

for periods you know so I think um we

61:00

have to give different I think to to

61:02

over judge now when I think they have

61:04

signed some good players would be to to

61:06

be over critical I think at the moment I

61:08

think that the proof will be now how

61:09

these players develop once now it feels

61:12

a bit more settled going forward I think

61:14

that's I think that's all true I think

61:15

um what's the optimal way for player

61:18

recruitment to happen in your opinion

61:19

because I've you often hear about these

61:22

stories of where you know I know will

61:23

take charge of a club and then they'll

61:25

just decide who they want which is

61:26

probably what I'd be like if I was an

61:27

owner I think I would like football

61:29

manager I think I just buy who I who I

61:31

want to buy who I think looks good um

61:33

Manchester United suffered with that it

61:35

felt like our decisions were commercial

61:36

decisions as opposed to footballing

61:37

decisions then when Eric 10 hugs come in

61:39

it feels a bit more like kids football

61:41

decisions and what in your opinion and

61:43

then I did speak to some people at

61:45

Chelsea because I actually went to I was

61:47

invited to uh sit with Richard Arnold in

61:49

a couple of the Manchester United

61:51

Executives and when we played Chelsea at

61:53

Old Trafford I was in the director's box

61:55

okay so I sat with the like sport the

61:56

new sporting director at Chelsea yeah um

61:59

and he said there's now two sporting

62:00

directors I believe yeah

62:02

um so it's interesting to talk to them

62:04

um but what is the about the optimal way

62:06

for recruitment to happen in your

62:07

opinion well I think

62:09

um with a with a you have to understand

62:11

what you want the the philosophy and the

62:15

identity of the club to be so for

62:18

instance I think Manchester City are

62:19

quite firm in the idea when they the pep

62:22

guardios come in and they're sporting

62:24

directors have worked at Barcelona

62:25

previously with him that this is how we

62:27

want to play this is a manager that's

62:28

going to deliver that style so here's

62:30

how we recruit for that style Chelsea

62:32

has always been a bit different for me

62:33

the the beautiful game the ticket

62:36

package is called a man city has not

62:38

been Chelsea style it's been more of a

62:39

winning machine and different kind of

62:41

way you know and in my day was more of a

62:43

powerful team that was probably were

62:45

good on the eye but we were not that

62:46

kind of you know past past we were like

62:48

powerful and effective so I think you

62:51

have to understand what you want to be

62:52

and once you get to that point you

62:53

probably the first thing is to recruit a

62:55

coach that you know Works within that

62:57

and then you know that's the kind of

62:59

Coach you want because this is one obey

63:00

those conversations or an interview

63:01

process and then once you get to that

63:04

point I think the recruitment has to be

63:05

joined up depending on how active the

63:08

owner wants to be and I I respect and

63:10

appreciate active owners as their clubs

63:13

their prerogative and then the sporting

63:15

directors and the manager and then

63:18

obviously recruitment which brings all

63:19

the data analysis into the picture and

63:22

it has to be joined up and it has you

63:24

have to be all very confident by the

63:25

time you want to bring in a player that

63:26

you're going yeah this is the play we

63:27

want to bring in they're always one or

63:28

two or three options because you may not

63:30

get Target number one but I think you

63:32

have to be able to recruit for the style

63:34

that you want to be so the coach really

63:36

has to have a big buy into that as well

63:37

but you as a coach in the Monday you

63:39

understand and the process I appreciate

63:42

being aligned and having other people

63:44

not just responsible for who you're

63:45

bringing in but also like giving me

63:47

something that I don't know I'm not

63:48

there siphon through the data you know

63:51

they have to show you that data and

63:52

here's the reasons why the videos people

63:54

have watched them and also the

63:56

personality of the player because not to

63:59

say you're going to sign you know 10

64:01

James milners because their character's

64:03

amazing and they're professionalism but

64:05

you need to know they're going to come

64:06

in and address room who's going to

64:07

they're going to be good for the

64:08

dressing room and they're going to help

64:09

in terms of how you drive forward in

64:11

terms of their personality

64:13

one of the one of the key questions I

64:14

want to answer and I wanted to ask you

64:16

today is like how would you have what

64:18

would have had to happen to avoid the

64:20

situation where you had that

64:22

unhealthy culture at Chelsea behind the

64:25

scenes in those when you came back in as

64:26

the interim what would have what could

64:28

you have done to avoid that happening

64:30

say you're in the you know if you were

64:32

if you could in hindsight have a wand

64:34

and correct things that were done I get

64:37

the first point which was about smaller

64:38

Squad size

64:40

um what else what else avoids that from

64:43

my from my first day in there you're

64:45

you're a um a genie and you can know

64:48

what you know about the what you

64:50

inherited there what would have had to

64:51

be done previously to avoid you

64:53

inheriting that

64:55

the smallest Squad is the first thing

64:56

that I got yeah smaller Squad I mean

64:58

some things are just a bit

65:01

you know like there there are phases you

65:03

know and I think Chelsea

65:06

um they won the Champions League I left

65:08

they won the Champions League like three

65:09

or four months after I left and at that

65:13

point you kind of go okay where's the

65:14

next move and you kind of go at how was

65:16

recruitment then how what things worked

65:18

then and maybe some players left during

65:21

that period maybe in terms of

65:22

recruitment you wanted to bring in maybe

65:24

some people be like the the future in

65:27

terms of that I when I was at Chelsea

65:29

before I wanted to bring in Declan rice

65:30

I was like this this kid's gonna be the

65:32

the captain of Chelsea for the next you

65:34

know 10 years it didn't happen but

65:36

anyway but I think in terms of those

65:38

things it's hard for me to sit here and

65:39

kind of dissect you know other people's

65:42

work in that period in between you know

65:43

like I would have maybe had an idea it

65:45

wasn't my idea because I'd already left

65:47

the club so maybe like when I came in it

65:49

was it's not it's really hard for me to

65:51

kind of dissect all those moves you know

65:53

I came into what I came into so you know

65:56

that's I think I'd probably be a little

65:57

bit casual for me to kind of go they

65:59

should have done this you know like yeah

66:00

it's a hindsightly one that's yeah it's

66:02

kind of me wondering just because I've

66:04

been a man united fan and I've seen that

66:05

happen and I saw obviously Sir Alex

66:07

Ferguson leave and then we just had

66:09

these 10 years of what I describe as

66:10

like confused chaos and I'm trying to

66:12

figure out almost like how an innocer

66:14

Alex Ferguson situation how he we could

66:16

have avoided that if at all possible

66:18

yeah I mean it's such a big figure

66:20

um that's difficult isn't it I don't

66:22

know enough about Manchester United but

66:23

I do I can understand why after Sir Alex

66:26

leaving and also pivotal players will

66:29

probably come into the end of their time

66:31

during the same time as him leaving to

66:34

replace that and keep moving forward I

66:35

mean you can there might have been

66:36

mistakes and it's not my thing but I can

66:39

understand why it feels like a long

66:40

period for a club the size of Manchester

66:42

United but it just shows you that I

66:43

think that how Cutthroat and fast moving

66:45

this premier league is because if you

66:47

come off the gas guess in terms of

66:49

recruitment or whatever or you have a

66:51

bad time coming back up there people

66:53

think oh yeah you know you're Chelsea

66:54

you've been a Champions League again

66:55

next year or Arsenal you'll be there

66:57

like I still had to work a long time to

67:00

come back and challenge for The League

67:01

last year with a lot of work and you

67:04

know people were criticizing in the

67:06

beginning and now you know they've

67:08

worked together and stuck together and

67:09

recruited really well and now they're

67:11

ready to go so I mean it's not I don't

67:13

think we should expect even you being a

67:14

Manchester United fan or me having a

67:16

Chelsea head on that next year it's

67:17

going to be great like it's everyone

67:18

else is moving forward too you know

67:21

when you get that call the interim Court

67:25

you've just left Everton yeah um you're

67:28

out of work

67:30

um grandpot has been released from his

67:32

responsibilities

67:35

what's going through your head when they

67:37

say we want you to come back in and take

67:39

an into a managing role

67:41

if I was a flyer on the wall and when

67:43

that phone call happens

67:45

um you nearly were yeah

67:49

so I know yeah I mean I wasn't going to

67:51

tell the story but no I could tell it

67:54

for you I was coming to meet you and I

67:55

rang you to say sorry I'm gonna become

67:57

Chelsea manager that that meeting they

67:59

you know people arrived at my house that

68:00

afternoon so well just because you

68:02

didn't tell me that exactly you said I

68:04

can't come and I Can't Tell You Why then

68:06

I told you after that yeah you told me

68:08

okay but I'm not an idiot yeah all right

68:10

okay I kind of inferred maybe okay so

68:12

anyway I mean no I think probably the

68:15

the it's normal that I consider

68:17

everything and you know I probably

68:19

considered it as in

68:21

firstly it's a club very close to my

68:23

heart as I said before

68:24

a challenge of working and it was like

68:27

we had two games against Real Madrid and

68:29

we had the season to pan out we had a

68:31

difficult running so I was fully aware

68:32

of that

68:33

um and I know maybe like you know I do

68:36

love a challenge if that challenge had

68:38

been probably any other club other than

68:40

Chelsea I probably would have said no I

68:41

was very happy to be at home as such in

68:43

that period I wasn't fighting to get a

68:44

job at that period

68:46

um so it was probably a bit of head and

68:49

heart

68:50

um I'm not sure what probably heart

68:52

probably was a bit more substantial in

68:54

this one than the head because I suppose

68:56

if you look back again we're in that

68:58

hindsight position but you know what

69:00

were my neck what will my positive

69:01

outcomes what are my negative ones the

69:03

minute we didn't get through against

69:04

Real Madrid which probably a lot of

69:06

people would have bet on

69:08

um you're kind of into that zone of end

69:10

of season and what you're playing for as

69:11

a club like Chelsea and that's not the

69:13

normal Chelsea should be playing for

69:14

something and in the end we played for

69:16

not so much and of course another reason

69:18

my motivation come down so I probably

69:20

could have been a bit more ahead of the

69:22

game than that whether that would have

69:23

changed my mind I don't have a regret

69:24

about doing it I went back there if

69:26

people from the outside want to

69:28

um you know

69:30

criticize or have a view on it from the

69:32

outside for six or seven weeks work I've

69:34

got no problem with that I worked at

69:35

Chelsea before I worked at other clubs

69:37

and you know it's another experience it

69:40

wasn't my most favorite experience in my

69:42

footballing career I won't lie but it's

69:44

an experience and I have learned out of

69:46

it not so not so much but I've mentioned

69:48

a few of the things

69:49

not your favorite experience did you

69:51

enjoy it be honest

69:53

um I enjoyed the first few weeks I felt

69:56

like I was back at Cobham I know so many

69:58

people there I was like into the

70:00

challenge

70:00

in the middle bit I probably started to

70:03

understand more that there's there's a

70:06

lack of you know what we've spoken about

70:09

um and then in the last week we had Man

70:10

City away Manchester United away in

70:12

Newcastle at home as I run in and I was

70:14

like okay let's get through this week

70:16

because I could see that the players

70:18

were ready for the season to finish you

70:20

know it's again some of it I got on a

70:23

human level does not hurt you to some

70:25

degree like because you love this club

70:26

so much and you're a winner and if you

70:28

see these players have checked out

70:29

you're you know it's not just they're

70:31

checking out on you as a manager but

70:32

they're checking out in the club that

70:33

you love yeah as a general as a general

70:36

it didn't hurt me because

70:38

having worked in football for a period

70:40

never been a player a long time I've

70:41

seen a lot of these instances and I'm

70:44

not holding the players to my standard

70:47

as such and and a lot of them I didn't

70:49

know the backstory in the Side Stories I

70:51

could get that they were moving on so

70:52

you know if a player is moving on they

70:54

might just not you know they might not

70:55

be ready for those last few games they

70:57

might have a bit of an issue or

70:58

something and you know but there's no

71:00

way that you you can accept that

71:02

there's no but but is it like well put

71:04

it this way I don't wanna I don't want

71:05

to come here and Shout too much because

71:07

in a short period

71:09

um it's hard for me to make too many

71:10

statements what I will say is that I

71:12

think I unders I understood the role of

71:14

being interim and I understood that

71:17

probably there was not much

71:19

there's certainly not much the game for

71:21

me saying uh that was so bad or that was

71:23

so bad now because when I look back I'll

71:25

probably just try and take my own thing

71:26

out of it and I don't I don't want to go

71:28

there I didn't work long enough with the

71:30

players to be there to one guy and I

71:31

can't believe that happened at the end

71:32

of the season you know I walked into a

71:33

position with some of them were a bit

71:34

disenchanted or whatever and I'm not

71:37

going to tell that that player that you

71:38

shouldn't feel like this but I'll try

71:39

and drive them and drive them amongst

71:40

the group but it's not for me to go

71:42

because a lot of players will sit with a

71:43

couple of players sat with me and said

71:44

listen I'm going to be leaving in the

71:45

summer and find it a bit difficult I'm

71:47

like okay I get that I'm not going to

71:49

change that in four weeks or whatever so

71:51

yeah so what was the objective then in

71:53

the in the four weeks when you're

71:54

thinking about when you realized that

71:55

what was the sort of behind the scenes

71:58

context

71:59

do your objective shifts and shifts

72:01

slightly and go okay

72:02

success here looks now looks like this

72:05

for me yeah in reality and I didn't get

72:09

that because it would be results you

72:10

know because everyone would um

72:13

would judge me on results so in terms of

72:15

me it would be success here to have got

72:17

better results in that period of time

72:18

and come through there working at a high

72:20

level Club again you know it's it's

72:22

extreme pressures it's the media is the

72:25

Players it's everything is trying to get

72:26

results in games and in some games we

72:28

competed against Real Madrid we competed

72:30

against Manchester City we competed but

72:32

you know that wasn't to be but that was

72:34

my version of success but you know

72:35

football is not that simple you know

72:37

so many journalists ask you after if you

72:39

you kind of like regret taking the job

72:41

and your answer's always been like no

72:42

because I've learned a lot it's your

72:44

Club it's Chelsea

72:46

um however had you known the context and

72:49

this is only something we can know in

72:50

hindsight we can't know it in foresight

72:52

if there was some magic Genie that could

72:55

have shown you the context the behind

72:57

the scenes the Dynamics the 32 players

72:59

the culture

73:02

honestly do you think you would have

73:03

made a different decision because I

73:05

think I would have yeah but we don't

73:07

have hindsight obviously we it's a

73:09

magical thing that yeah but I think

73:11

probably and you and you might think I'm

73:13

wrong for saying this but you would

73:14

probably be taking some emotion out of

73:16

it from my point and also just how I am

73:19

about the challenge of going into that

73:21

so if you say all right all the context

73:23

is here Frank but you're not going to

73:24

know what the results are yet but here's

73:25

all the context you know this player is

73:27

disenchanted I kind of knew that this is

73:29

how it's working I'm not I would be like

73:31

okay this is what I've got to work with

73:32

can I get results and whether I was

73:36

um misguided in my own thoughts I

73:37

probably would have gone yeah I would do

73:39

that if I've got to be honest it's too

73:41

easy for me to say I wouldn't have done

73:42

it for that and and nobody gave me that

73:44

what you said if you had that in an

73:46

Ideal World I understand what you're

73:47

saying and again that's why people might

73:49

look I don't I generally don't have a

73:51

problem with you know someone how I

73:53

would possibly have a view from the

73:54

outside on someone doing what I did I

73:56

don't think it's like changed the world

73:57

I think my I played for 13 years at

73:59

Chelsea I've coached them before in the

74:01

Champions League for two years on the

74:02

truck like I don't think that whether

74:04

people want to have a view on me I don't

74:05

worry about about that I went back for

74:07

that challenge at that period and you

74:09

know we didn't get the results I wanted

74:11

I know a lot of the reasons why I'll

74:13

take the responsibility for my reasons

74:14

why

74:15

um and that was it you know I don't have

74:17

a big issue with it it's like because

74:18

it's Chelsea's so topical you manage

74:20

chose it's one of the biggest clubs in

74:21

the world and it's it's one of those

74:22

clubs that takes so much especially in

74:24

the Roman Abram which is so much

74:26

interest because there's a turnover you

74:28

know lose one or two games and it's like

74:29

oh what's happening here so you know

74:32

it's uh I'm big enough and strong enough

74:34

to handle that stuff so you would have

74:36

having seen the context you would have

74:38

backed yourself regardless I don't

74:40

regardless that sounds like I'm thinking

74:42

I'm some Superman that turned out not to

74:43

be Superman you know what I mean I don't

74:45

I don't

74:47

I don't know you're asking me so

74:48

hypothetical the season ends eventually

74:51

um

74:52

relief relieved in any way how do you

74:54

feel it um the last as I said last

74:56

couple of weeks were quite tough because

74:58

it was seeing that season that's not for

75:00

someone like me and for a club like

75:01

Chelsea like it's not a nice place to be

75:03

you know I want to want to challenge for

75:04

things and that's that's not nice I

75:06

release probably yeah

75:08

um because I knew it would end and it

75:09

ended and it wasn't that nice of time

75:11

time to have holidays that I've planned

75:13

before yeah for sure

75:16

um and time to reflect and I haven't got

75:18

a huge amount of Reflections on it you

75:19

know a lot of people have but I haven't

75:21

I've got more Reflections on the year at

75:22

Everton and a 18 months at Chelsea

75:25

before in Derby this this period was so

75:27

abstract in a way for me that interim

75:28

rail was so different that I I can't put

75:31

it into a context of like I wish I'd

75:33

gone on a meeting on day one if I'd have

75:34

done a meeting about culture I think

75:35

they would it would have changed like I

75:37

don't it wouldn't have changed you know

75:39

if my tactics were slightly different in

75:40

that game I don't believe it would have

75:42

changed and me overthink I would

75:44

definitely think that if it was there so

75:46

you know I might be right or wrong but

75:47

so I don't so relief and a feeling of

75:50

like I wish they'd gone better you know

75:51

that's really nature and I wanted it to

75:53

be better because I'm Chelsea person you

75:55

know the Chelsea fans are fantastic with

75:57

me in this modern world I'm not saying

75:59

Flick online you'll find everyone

76:01

fantastic but in terms of Stanford

76:02

bridge I think there's an understanding

76:04

at the moment the club's not where he

76:06

wants to be and Chelsea fans actually

76:07

pretty good with that there's some other

76:09

clubs that would be like we lost at home

76:11

to Brentford two-nil and like there'll

76:12

be some clubs that would be fans that

76:14

would be a bit more vocal they were

76:15

actually pretty good I think you know

76:16

they're waiting to see something better

76:18

this year but they've also Chelsea fans

76:20

watch the team in the second division in

76:23

the in the 80s and and seen some

76:25

struggles over the years you know the

76:26

old Affair and so I do think that the

76:29

success that they've enjoyed as a club

76:31

for these 20 years or so it's a real

76:34

appreciation of it and you know I don't

76:36

want to go on forever but I do think

76:37

they understand it's a difficult moment

76:38

I certainly felt that at Stamford Bridge

76:40

yeah they were super they were chanting

76:42

your name even at all traffic when I was

76:43

there yeah um even though the scoreline

76:46

wasn't great and yeah I actually do

76:47

think that the Chelsea fans have

76:48

understood that the new ownership what

76:50

you said to their intentions are good

76:51

yeah and I think they can they can

76:53

respect they've brought really good

76:54

players there's a transitional moment

76:55

but I think they they all appreciate

76:57

that

76:58

um all of that stuff all of that noise

77:00

online Christine you family you said

77:03

mentioned scrolling online how does one

77:05

yeah keep those two worlds apart so that

77:08

you can focus on your job without

77:10

letting the outside world in too much

77:11

wait so have you got a strategy what's

77:13

your I don't scroll too much you don't

77:15

scroll no scroll at all very very

77:17

occasionally do you have the apps the

77:19

social networking apps and stuff I have

77:21

Instagram right okay which I'm not but I

77:24

have an Instagram page but I'm not very

77:25

active on it's just not really me

77:28

um so I don't really I scroll for like

77:31

nosiness you know what I run up to and

77:33

then I have a few friends and stuff or

77:34

whatever

77:35

um but I don't actively do it because

77:38

uh let's say I don't have the time to do

77:40

it in terms of myself it's just not

77:41

something and I appreciate anyone else

77:43

wants to show themselves you know

77:44

somebody then or in a gym like that's

77:47

their prerogative I've got no problem

77:48

with that I just it's for me it's just

77:49

not something I do and then doing that's

77:51

a nice light I'm quite a boxer in my

77:53

life when I said that I mean I box off

77:54

things and when I on a box of I don't

77:57

want to hear that um you know what some

78:00

fan and sound so he's gonna say about me

78:02

here and flick on the comments from a

78:04

Chelsea post I would just flick by that

78:05

I try and stay aware of media because I

78:08

think it's I do press conferences every

78:10

four days you have to understand what

78:12

the tone is of what maybe people are

78:14

writing about you or you know the

78:15

journalists how do you how do you do

78:18

that have you got like someone that

78:19

comes and briefs you in the morning yeah

78:21

and they tell you what you need to know

78:22

yeah uh okay yeah yes and I would I

78:25

would tap into it a bit in the week

78:26

whether I'm flicking on certain websites

78:28

through the week and I wouldn't

78:30

obviously go in into the story Into the

78:32

comments so we'll kind of go into

78:33

because you've got to be across things I

78:35

will do that but I think it's very

78:36

unhealthy to to scroll but I I found

78:39

that as a my playing career missed out

78:41

the social media came in towards the end

78:43

and I'm so thankful we used to just have

78:46

the newspapers giving us like three out

78:47

of ten when we played for England and we

78:49

got knocked out of the World Cup right

78:50

and that was hard about looking at the

78:52

paper to see what they gave you and that

78:54

was a version of that and then the

78:56

social media so I I don't envy the

78:58

modern player as a manager I think it's

79:00

a bit different I'm not in a place where

79:02

I scroll so I've done in videos younger

79:04

players men and women now that are

79:07

coming through and have sort of

79:08

household names and it's getting so much

79:10

attention and so much of its negative I

79:12

think it's incredible that we got to

79:13

that stage that there's that amount of

79:16

hate for but it's so easy to be hateful

79:19

um and my my I would try and say to the

79:23

young players don't look at it but the

79:25

minute the game finishes they're

79:27

flicking and it's it's difficult in your

79:30

professional career what has been what

79:31

do you kind of count down as the hardest

79:33

moment in terms of scrutiny in your

79:35

professional and like you're playing

79:36

create and you managerial career what is

79:38

been not the hardest moment for you

79:40

playing for England really yeah it was

79:41

2006 the 2006 World Cup I think I had

79:44

wrote the record for shots a goal

79:47

without scoring classic isn't they

79:49

disallowed one that should have gone in

79:50

that was in 2010 okay so 2006 I think I

79:53

had like 32 shots or something I went in

79:55

as England player of the year I'd had a

79:57

good year or two playing for England so

79:58

I got myself in there and was becoming

80:00

you know

80:01

uh you know in fiction the same and then

80:04

I went there having scored some goals in

80:05

the lead up scoring at Chelsea and just

80:07

had a tournament and it wouldn't go in

80:10

for me and then that played on my mind

80:12

and games I was like second guessing

80:13

myself a little bit in the game and

80:15

probably off the back of that there's a

80:16

lot of criticism

80:18

um for myself for some others I remember

80:21

us Chelsea boys getting a lot of

80:23

criticism for the next six months every

80:25

away

80:26

game that we went to was like you let

80:28

your country Down the song

80:30

how does that compare to being a manager

80:31

in terms of criticism I found it harder

80:33

as a player I don't know whether it's

80:35

just maturity

80:37

um because uh as a player I don't know

80:39

maybe it's in my 20s

80:42

um I found it harder as a manager I

80:44

think it's a it's a different version of

80:46

criticism and

80:48

um I think as a player I don't know why

80:51

I found it harder if I'm a flyer on the

80:53

wall after a bad defeat what do I see

80:55

you probably see a bit of uh of a

80:59

going over the situation kind of face

81:03

um and it's different I have certain

81:05

games that they will affect you and it

81:07

might not be the one you'd expect you

81:08

know the Manchester United you talked

81:10

about there we lost 4-1 was it and that

81:12

one might be different because I kind of

81:13

know where we're at this season's Peter

81:15

and out you know we play some good stuff

81:16

I don't know whatever and there might be

81:18

another game that you know we lost and

81:20

it really affected me because maybe

81:21

think something I did or should have

81:23

done or a substitution so on those bad

81:25

ones you would see the face and you know

81:27

like I would you know I kind of go into

81:29

my show I was like I'm soaking in my

81:31

bedroom I'm big big boy you know um but

81:33

you know maybe I have a glass of wine

81:35

stew on it don't get to bed till quite

81:37

late and then you have to go again you

81:39

know like it's a great sort of adage

81:41

that you can people go you learn more

81:42

from defeat you don't feel like that

81:44

straight away but you have to be big

81:46

enough to go over the game again what's

81:48

the strategy now what's the you know the

81:50

solution to that what do we do wrong and

81:52

and that's what it is you can't get too

81:54

down but we're all human

81:56

when you were um 29 years old

81:58

um one such moment occurred in your life

82:00

that really I think from your own words

82:02

tested you at a much deeper level you

82:04

described yourself as being a zombie for

82:06

a year after the passing of your mother

82:08

and she died at 58 years old

82:10

um while you were playing and while you

82:12

were playing at the very very highest

82:13

level

82:14

that for me struck when I was reading

82:16

through the way you described that

82:18

moment in your life struck me as a real

82:20

sort of destabilizing moment in terms of

82:22

focus and all of those things

82:25

the question that I um

82:27

the question that I had is how as a

82:29

player when you're playing at the

82:30

highest level and you have something

82:31

like that happen how do you show up and

82:34

maintain those standards and

82:36

be Frank Lampard that's probably what I

82:38

meant when I said zombie because it

82:40

became autopilot and I think

82:43

um

82:44

when you talk about mental health that's

82:46

the one time that I've been challenged

82:48

to the extreme with it and you know a

82:51

lot of people go through this and that

82:52

was the really interesting thing I found

82:54

because I have some perspective now

82:55

these years later

82:56

is that when it happens to you and it's

82:59

unexpected it's very sudden for me

83:01

you you've never thought about that kind

83:04

of thing happening before the only thing

83:05

I'll say is this I was I was a mummy's

83:07

boy as I've said before so I used to

83:09

have these weird

83:10

um moments

83:12

I don't know if you have them I have

83:13

them sometimes when I think about death

83:14

and I kind of go oh God when you die

83:16

there's nothing and I have those moments

83:18

and it hits me in the stomach for about

83:19

like four seconds I'm driving along I'm

83:21

like there's nothing there's absolutely

83:23

nothing and then you go oh I don't know

83:25

where you've got to go to you know and

83:26

life carries on and I used to have that

83:27

with my mum and then it was probably

83:28

Reliance I had to know she was I was so

83:30

like mummy's boy you know growing up so

83:32

I remember as I got a little bit older

83:34

like to my teens and I was like imagine

83:36

mum wasn't there for a moment it was a

83:37

panic for like 10 seconds I remember

83:39

them and then because it was 29 as you

83:42

say and it was very sudden it was in a

83:44

hotel

83:45

um that we used to start pre-game we

83:46

were playing Wigan on in the evening at

83:49

home

83:49

I've got a call from my sister telling

83:51

me that she'd fail ill and then so I

83:54

kind of went okay let's go into the

83:55

hospital okay that's a bit dangerous so

83:56

I went to sleep I didn't sleep

83:58

supposedly would sleep I was kind of

84:00

lying there a bit like tossing and

84:01

couldn't get off I'm at the Mainstay

84:03

I've got another call and as we get on

84:05

the bus to go to Stamford Bridge is like

84:06

two a mile

84:08

I get the call that no no she's getting

84:10

much worse so I'm like right I mean I'm

84:13

in Frank I'm a sportsman go and do your

84:15

job mode and then I just kind of broke a

84:18

bit on the coach kind of well I met I

84:19

felt myself go grind someone said to me

84:21

until you went great but I felt myself

84:23

going like oh

84:24

anyway it's got to the stadium said to

84:27

the manager manager this is what's

84:28

happening and he was like go so I was

84:31

like in the tracksuit drive over to East

84:33

London mum's in hospital

84:34

so when I get there mum's now in the on

84:37

on the verge of going into intensive

84:38

care so she's got the stuff on and stuff

84:40

and I walk in I'm in the tracksuit

84:42

and my mum had the oxygen mask on and

84:45

she hadn't been speaking so she's taken

84:48

really ill in a day and she lifted a um

84:50

a mask and said to me what are you doing

84:52

here tell me my Chelsea tracksuit and I

84:55

didn't know what to say because I didn't

84:56

want to go you know I'm here because

84:57

this is a really bad situation I mean

84:59

I'm just here to see you Mum you know

85:00

and then sort of put the mask back on

85:02

and then she was really and then they

85:04

kind of wheeled her in she held my hand

85:05

which I'll never forget and then she

85:07

went in and was put into intensive care

85:09

so that was one a one week process of my

85:13

mum in intensive care so

85:16

um she started to get better

85:18

um and then

85:19

um a few of the family were kind of

85:21

getting not excited about it but it was

85:23

last progress you know mum's out she'd

85:24

been on every machine possible and I'm

85:27

still having to think about going into

85:29

work I can't remember if I trained that

85:30

period I can't remember that week that's

85:31

like a blur I just remember being at

85:33

home

85:33

a lot you know and really you know in a

85:36

bad way

85:37

um and then we had Champions League

85:39

games coming up against Liverpool

85:41

played one away I came back mum was

85:44

getting a bit better and then we got the

85:46

phone call that she'd passed away she

85:47

had a brain hemorrhage so just as she

85:49

was getting better everyone was excited

85:51

she passed away there and then so it was

85:53

like the the biggest Devastation I can't

85:56

explain and as I say years later I

85:59

realized that this happens to so many

86:00

other people and when you're a young man

86:01

who hadn't really lost anyone you don't

86:03

have that real feeling of what that is

86:05

and I lost a person that was the closest

86:07

person to me you know everything to me

86:09

and I'll never forget the feeling of my

86:11

stomach if I talk about it I get it

86:13

instantly again

86:15

um and

86:16

um I lost you know what was my best

86:19

friend the person that give me all that

86:21

kind of emotional stuff I'd spoken about

86:22

the warmth and the the sudden feeling

86:25

that someone's not going to be with you

86:27

like it doesn't compare to anything when

86:28

you're that close

86:30

um so you know in terms of work after

86:32

that probably some of it if I look back

86:34

I probably go maybe I should have just

86:35

come out of it like life is bigger than

86:37

that but it was like my probably a tiny

86:39

coping mechanism for me we played a game

86:42

a game against Liverpool uh the second

86:44

leg and I scored a penalty we won the

86:47

game now we're getting sent to the

86:48

Champions League final and I remember

86:49

sitting address from afterwards and I

86:51

had this almighty

86:53

um like sense of of fatigue and you know

86:57

body and mental fatigue

86:59

uh I went home and sort of opened a beer

87:02

and I couldn't even drink it I went to

87:04

bed and it was like it's like everything

87:05

came out of me then of like a week or

87:07

two a full blast of

87:08

of this pain you know it's just complete

87:11

pain and then you lose your best friend

87:12

and the person that you know I've still

87:14

got a number in my phone and I've still

87:15

got a couple of voice note things we

87:17

were never a big family for videos and

87:19

stuff and I wish we were

87:21

um the only thing I have is that my

87:22

mum's sister is Sandra Sandra redknapp

87:24

Harry redknapp's wife

87:26

and every time I speak to Sandra I hear

87:27

my mum they look very similar they sound

87:30

very similar and it's like in the first

87:32

period it was painful now it's kind of

87:34

nice you know because that's a memory

87:36

for me but the you know it's the the

87:38

feeling the grief you know I I it

87:41

catches up on me now and again many

87:42

years later I think I probably had a

87:44

year

87:46

um I was single I was like probably

87:48

drinking a little bit I was playing

87:49

fantastic football at a really good year

87:51

football is weird

87:53

um and then I met Christine and thank

87:54

God Christine came along around that

87:56

time because I was a little bit

87:58

you know not not right in that period so

88:00

it was a

88:01

it was a it was a really

88:03

um

88:04

obviously you know anybody who loses

88:06

someone so close to them but she was so

88:08

big in my life and was such a balance in

88:10

my life and then you know that sudden

88:12

thing is just terrible did you process

88:15

that because it sounds like

88:17

because you had football commitments

88:18

back to back to back that there wasn't

88:20

really an opportunity to like sit and

88:22

yeah I I don't know I mean I've been

88:25

through the experience and

88:26

um

88:27

that zombie thing I talk about is like I

88:30

I couldn't comprehend it I felt empty

88:32

and weak but I had a job to do and the

88:35

job Associated wasn't trying to be a

88:37

hero I just didn't know where if I think

88:40

if I'd have laid around all day I would

88:42

have really taken more of a hit it was

88:44

almost like getting up and going to work

88:46

in that period and having something to

88:48

aim for was just almost like that's what

88:50

I should do and then I definitely took

88:53

the hit later on for that I definitely

88:56

took a kind of deferred moments of grief

89:00

and I'd talk about them like I say there

89:01

it could be anything that would be

89:04

um a couple of glasses of wine and

89:07

something said at a dinner table a

89:09

moment of someone else and I feel bad

89:11

about this talking about their mother or

89:13

something you know and they're talking

89:14

glowingly about their mother and and and

89:17

you kind of get hit you know

89:19

um or another parent's birthday like

89:22

crazy things I've got no right to be

89:24

upset about if you know what I mean but

89:25

it just hits me and you kind of and I

89:27

that sort of get on with it like hard no

89:29

get on with it son kind of feel feel

89:31

which has stuck with me that was the one

89:33

time I remember being absolutely broken

89:34

and tested on that because I had now and

89:37

I got some anger as well I remember I

89:38

used to I remember having road rage a

89:40

couple of times literally the few days

89:41

after I pulled out of my drive

89:43

and it was a Chelsea game so I wasn't

89:45

playing it because of what happened but

89:46

I was at home and I was driving to go

89:48

and see my sister or something someone

89:49

sort of drove across me and I got out of

89:52

the car though and I went for them and

89:53

it was a Chelsea fan he went Frank

89:54

calmed down I was like yeah sorry and I

89:56

had these moments of anger and a period

89:58

afterwards which would just come out of

89:59

me out and I went I wouldn't say that

90:01

they've stuck with me from now but it

90:02

definitely changed me as a person I

90:04

don't know how to explain it but it

90:05

definitely made me have a different take

90:07

on things and be a bit more

90:09

I don't know if ruthless is the word but

90:11

more you know that thing about kind of

90:13

like cutting out

90:14

some people that were in your life that

90:16

you maybe would have got on with I just

90:18

kind of took a little bit more of a

90:19

direct approach in my life after that

90:22

amongst some serious moments of grief

90:25

within it you know I

90:26

it's uh

90:28

it was just it's a tough time the the

90:30

only benefit it sounds really warped I

90:33

said this to someone the other day the

90:34

only benefit is that now I you know I I

90:36

don't have to go through that again that

90:38

sounds really strange it was such a

90:40

tough period for me

90:42

that the only thing now and I see you

90:43

know Christine's family are there and

90:45

other people around me have friends and

90:46

family and I miss my mum so much like

90:48

every day and as time goes by of course

90:51

things balance out but I can't envisage

90:54

ever going through that pain again about

90:55

what I did because my mum was the only

90:56

person would be now now Christine is

90:57

obviously that person in my life and my

90:59

children of course but in terms of what

91:01

she meant to me at that time the only

91:02

thing is like I can go that is so

91:04

painful I really couldn't go through

91:06

that again now that's it's a weird way

91:08

of looking at it I hope that doesn't

91:09

sound strange it's just a process and it

91:13

was too difficult and it's almost like

91:15

it was almost like a dream it was my

91:18

life was never supposed to be like that

91:19

in my head you know my mum was 58 and I

91:22

felt like she was quite old and now I

91:24

started doing the math and I'm 44. you

91:26

know like and you kind of go it wasn't

91:27

old you know like I was 29 a month felt

91:29

a bit older at a point now he's like she

91:31

should be mid 70s now and you know as I

91:34

say the sudden nature of it meant you

91:36

couldn't speak to her as well which was

91:38

like as I've got older I've realized

91:40

that my mum would have known exactly how

91:41

I felt about her but time it was like

91:43

I want to say something more you know

91:45

and I couldn't

91:48

you want to say something more

91:49

just like thank you do you know what I

91:51

mean like thanks to

91:54

um for being the balance for being the

91:56

one

91:56

um

91:57

who've you know in those tough moments

91:59

when my dad was being harsh or something

92:01

there for being the one that would when

92:03

I was crying in the bath after a game

92:04

and coming and knocking on the door it's

92:06

like for making me food you know things

92:08

a great mother does she just was that

92:10

you know my mum was there to sort of it

92:12

might be sound old school now and but

92:14

she was a hairdresser by trade who then

92:16

became my house wife and a mother and

92:19

you know for everything that was gone on

92:21

in my family life and lots of things

92:23

have she was always the one that was

92:25

like the real stand-up when I look back

92:27

now I I understand it even more that she

92:29

had the ethics and everything about her

92:31

and then I would love to just be able to

92:33

say that you know it's like those you

92:34

know an emotional song can get you going

92:36

it's like can I speak to her one more

92:37

time to say here's a monologue for you

92:40

you know like just to to hear it but I

92:42

with time I definitely have got more

92:44

strength in the fact that she knew that

92:46

and that's that's it

92:49

and when everyone I speak to says that

92:51

you are that Class Act you are the

92:53

you're kind you're empathetic and all of

92:57

that

92:58

now I know where that's come that comes

93:00

from now

93:01

I don't know listen I I knew you were

93:03

going to ask me this because I've seen

93:05

you you know it wouldn't you know it's

93:06

part of my story

93:08

and I didn't want to cry I'm surprised I

93:11

haven't

93:12

um but because I've cried probably

93:14

enough at different times

93:16

um but it's um

93:17

it's almost something like it is

93:19

strangely therapeutic to speak about and

93:21

this is very public and that's not

93:23

normally how I'm in very private allies

93:25

Christian are very private it's how we

93:26

like to live and sometimes when those

93:29

moments where I say the really

93:30

grief-stricken moments over a glass of

93:31

wine

93:32

kind of feel better after them because

93:34

that's probably why I held in when I was

93:36

like hitting that penalty and and people

93:38

giving me a huge plot I remember when

93:40

you score that penalty when your mama

93:41

just died as if it was like a hero

93:42

moment it wasn't it was me just kind of

93:44

going I got to try and do this and and

93:45

do my job and then these moments now

93:48

sometimes are quite therapeutic if I'm

93:50

honest but it's uh you know especially

93:52

for other people that have gone through

93:54

that and much worse you know a lot of

93:56

worse things can happen in different

93:57

ways but until you feel that loss you

94:01

know I remember I actually remember

94:02

thinking when I lost mum it was like a

94:04

couple of my friends lost their parents

94:05

when they were younger

94:07

and I remember then thinking I've never

94:09

really broached that subject with them

94:10

you know a couple of my friends are like

94:12

14 and lost I met at school at that age

94:15

who had already lost their parent or

94:16

were in the process and I never really

94:19

kind of went and they were like 14 I was

94:20

29 and I'd never even not thought about

94:22

it but you know you kind of go sorry

94:24

mate and then you move on you can

94:26

imagine what's you know all the things

94:27

and I had to approach it 29 is slightly

94:29

different but those things so it you

94:31

know life kicks you sometimes and that

94:32

was the biggest kick I think I'll

94:34

I've I've had till this point you know

94:36

and hopefully

94:38

um for a long time

94:39

do you talk about your emotions with

94:41

Christine yeah I do I do I think I'm

94:44

quite good about that she will say to me

94:46

sometimes I'm quite closed yeah for that

94:48

stuff and then that kind of kicks me

94:51

into talking about it because

94:54

yeah my girlfriend's really good at that

94:56

yeah annoyingly good yeah no they're

94:58

really good and I don't mind she sees me

95:00

going into the Zone kind of thing

95:01

sometimes and she's about what's

95:03

bothering you like oh well it's this you

95:04

know it's probably something that's a

95:05

bit irrelevant or something but is that

95:07

the first answer you'll give because

95:08

mine's usually nothing yeah

95:12

no that's true but it's good I think

95:16

because I definitely want to don't come

95:18

across as this you know like I said like

95:19

this get on with it thing it's certainly

95:21

not me I look at myself as being you

95:23

know the balance again of my mother was

95:25

that one that she gave me that kind of

95:26

empathy I associate all the empathy with

95:28

my mother that I had because that's how

95:31

she was was always with me so when I you

95:33

know it's just I also have a mechanism

95:35

that kind of keeps it there but it's

95:37

definitely inside and you know maybe

95:39

children also help with that because

95:40

when you see your child

95:42

and their smiles and their sort of

95:44

innocent nature and how they are I think

95:46

that also helps you become a little bit

95:47

more emotional because you start to care

95:49

about that more than pretty much

95:50

anything else which is which has also

95:52

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95:55

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95:56

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95:58

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96:01

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97:32

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97:34

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97:36

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97:38

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97:42

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97:44

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what's the future like for you Frank

98:01

what do you think I don't know I'm very

98:04

it's hard to know a lot of people could

98:06

say to me are you sure you know get into

98:08

Panda tree it's easy put your feet up do

98:09

what you know that that's and it's

98:11

certainly I I get my

98:14

um enjoyment I get my my gets my blood

98:17

flowing is working and being a coach

98:19

so that's what I want to do and I'm in

98:22

no immediate rush to do it the reality

98:24

is off the back of Everton and Chelsea

98:26

probably time for me to take my time

98:28

anyway

98:29

because of what opportunity they might

98:30

be out there there may be no opportunity

98:31

there may be something that comes up

98:33

that I want to look at and say does that

98:35

work for me on all purposes because I

98:38

get your point with the Chelsea ones

98:39

like did you really need to take that

98:41

and the the jobs I've taken have been

98:43

quite challenging and a lot of I'm not

98:45

saying I'm going to be giving this like

98:46

here you go this is going to be great

98:48

so I would Point try and choose well

98:51

without sounding too picky because you

98:54

know I will want to work

98:56

um and in the meantime

98:58

do the things that make me happy which

99:00

is being around my family I like to

99:02

travel it's like the one thing that I

99:05

um really like to spend my money on

99:07

being out it's when when I travel I want

99:08

to go better than home

99:10

and if I don't go better than home I'll

99:12

stay at home and I've got a nice house

99:13

so you know so I we we love that so I'll

99:17

you know use the time to travel a bit be

99:18

with the family and my children spend

99:20

more time my Elder daughters are doing a

99:22

levels in gcses now and be be around

99:25

that and that's nice and sometimes you

99:26

know I think that's good for me because

99:28

I am so driven it's like I feel like I

99:30

should work I should work and actually

99:32

sometimes you can actually I'm 45 and

99:33

I've done it right in my life maybe I

99:34

don't need need to work and that and

99:36

that's not a bad place to be I'm

99:37

fortunate I don't I have gratitude for

99:39

that so at the moment it's the Gratitude

99:41

of that enjoy it and then try and work

99:44

again and what will be what would be

99:45

your sort of decision making framework

99:47

when people call and they say what about

99:49

this job or what about this what's the

99:51

how would you decide whether it's worth

99:52

taking the

99:54

well it's hard to say but from my

99:56

experience I would want to make sure I

99:58

would want to have conversations to find

100:00

out what the the job is and I can't I

100:03

can't sit here feel this way and talk to

100:05

you about being a lion then they need to

100:07

feel the way that you know a bit of

100:08

coaching they're going to do this and

100:09

work together

100:10

and probably take another job where it

100:13

doesn't feel aligned you know I I

100:14

shouldn't um

100:16

do that so I'd want to have a

100:17

conversation and be like what what can I

100:19

do for you I have to tell myself clearly

100:21

that's the point but what can how will

100:23

it work together and maybe get something

100:25

that feels a bit like and I don't mind I

100:27

will work you know in in the UK anywhere

100:30

I would travel if an opportunity came up

100:32

I would certainly prioritize a bit of

100:34

family to make sure that it's something

100:36

that works for my family

100:38

um ideally so I don't know I don't know

100:41

about that one everyone seems to be

100:42

going there they do they do I mean I

100:45

would prefer to stay in the UK for sure

100:47

um and I don't mind I went and lived in

100:49

Everton for a year lives in Derby for a

100:50

year I miss my family a lot but you have

100:52

to you know make those big decisions

100:53

with fortunate in ways but we'll um I'll

100:56

see I'll see what comes up it's hard to

100:58

call before it comes if we sit here in

100:59

10 years time in this chapters this next

101:01

sort of 10 years this next decade has

101:02

been a success what does that look like

101:03

what would have had to have happened for

101:05

it to have been a success this next

101:07

decade well 55 year old frank and Ming

101:09

55 well I'm here so that's good at 55 I

101:12

think my you know obviously the family

101:15

to be well and healthy you understand

101:16

that more when you hit for me it was him

101:18

probably faulty health and and

101:21

understanding maybe you check yourself

101:22

more on those things and lifestyle and

101:25

then

101:26

um to be hopefully have managed and had

101:29

success coaching you know that's that's

101:32

what I want to do I can't see what it

101:34

looks like but I would love to be able

101:35

to to show myself consistently in a job

101:39

and what I can do I haven't had that

101:40

opportunity yet for whether that was me

101:42

or whatever as the circumstances have

101:44

been but to do that so I'm very

101:46

determined to do I'm good like that I'm

101:47

determined that I like to work like

101:49

anyone who knows me will know that like

101:50

regardless of what my career's been if

101:53

you put it in front of me I'll tackle it

101:54

head on and then you know I'm

101:57

um I'm always trying to improve so

101:59

hopefully in 10 years I can show you

102:00

that

102:01

there's got to be a part of you that

102:03

wants to go back to Chelsea someday

102:05

knowing if I know you are the way I know

102:07

you there's got to be a part of you and

102:08

suddenly that's like you know one day

102:09

I'll I'll go back it's funny you know

102:11

like you talk about should you have

102:13

taken that job I reckon if you'd have

102:14

asked me that before going back

102:16

I might have said no as in not like I

102:19

don't want to go back to Chelsea but I

102:21

would have certainly seen myself no no

102:22

like that's chapters done as a coach

102:26

but now I've been back I would think

102:27

about it even more and it's strange and

102:30

I think you know the the fact that the

102:33

ownership has changed at Chelsea and

102:34

it's gone in a different direction I

102:36

think it can be a really positive thing

102:37

for the club I think people might not

102:38

see that now but I think it really can

102:41

um but obviously I have a lot to do to

102:42

be part of that ever but like I I don't

102:44

you have to make a clear decision when

102:46

we play 13 years of Chelsea I said I'll

102:49

never play anywhere else I end up planet

102:50

Man City some people criticize me for

102:52

that it's fine I didn't expect it but

102:54

man city was an amazing experience I

102:55

went to New York City it was an amazing

102:57

experience when you become a manager you

103:00

can't say I'm going to be Chelsea

103:01

manager I'm going to be this you have to

103:02

take the journey because that's those

103:04

are the rules for all of us you know you

103:06

can be you know a success for a moment

103:10

of Everton everyone goes hold on you

103:11

stand up and then you know next job what

103:13

is it and I would I you know I have

103:15

respect for so many big clubs that you

103:17

know there are certain clubs I wouldn't

103:19

manage I'm not going to declare them

103:21

because that just sounds like cheap and

103:22

but I think it's important I I respect

103:25

my time Chelsea Supply and what the club

103:27

means to me but I don't see it as the

103:29

B100 but as I say having been back there

103:32

it did re-light a fire I left Chelsea in

103:35

covert as a manager because I didn't

103:37

have any fans for my my last period so I

103:39

kind of walked out like a little bit

103:41

through the back door

103:43

um in a sense

103:44

um and this time it felt different and

103:46

that wasn't a great period but it is

103:48

still a huge club for me so maybe I'm

103:49

really excited to watch what happens

103:51

next thank you um you did a great job at

103:53

Derby obviously then you got um Chelsea

103:55

into the the champions league if I think

103:56

finished fourth That season

103:58

um under a transfer ban and then you

104:00

kept Everton up on the last day of the

104:01

Season which again most people had kind

104:03

of counted Everton out so obviously

104:04

there was that interim period I look

104:06

it's funny because I'm gonna be honest

104:07

so I when when we were meant to have

104:09

this podcast last time then you called

104:10

me

104:11

um and said listen I can't come Can't

104:13

Tell You Why

104:14

um and I kind of put two and two

104:15

together and figured it was the job I

104:17

looked at that and thought look I don't

104:19

know Chelsea 11th or 12th at the moment

104:21

like what's what's the worst that can

104:23

happen really what I didn't know is the

104:25

the back context so if I was in your

104:27

shoes uh in hindsight and we don't have

104:30

hindsight in in the moment I would have

104:33

probably I would have not taken the job

104:35

if I was in that situation but in

104:36

foresight I definitely would have hmm

104:38

100 yeah all the reasons you said if

104:40

Manchester United called me now I take

104:41

the job yeah and I have no experience

104:43

yeah so but um but I think what we're

104:46

gonna I'm really excited to see what we

104:47

see next from you and your sort of

104:48

managerial career because

104:49

I mean what you the experience you've

104:51

had warts and all is worth a ton yeah

104:55

you know at all different levels all

104:57

different phases transitional relegation

104:59

battles all of that is worth more than a

105:01

lot of successes are worth and you've

105:02

had that in a short window of time so

105:04

really really excited about your next

105:06

chapter whenever it comes thank you um

105:09

is there anything at all you would say

105:10

to Chelsea fans that are watching this

105:12

now that are

105:13

um

105:14

that would love to you know Chelsea fans

105:16

will be listening to this because they

105:17

want to get a your opinion on what's

105:18

just happened but they probably want to

105:20

get your opinion on like what you think

105:22

the future looks like I guess and also I

105:24

think a lot of them do want to like

105:25

check in on you because since you've

105:27

left we've not really heard from you in

105:28

this context yeah and I've enjoyed that

105:30

I've enjoyed not speaking it's been nice

105:32

um no I think for Chelsea fans I would

105:34

say that um

105:37

uh in terms of what do I think is next I

105:39

I listen to possession I spoke yesterday

105:42

was his first press conference and he he

105:44

uh he spoke very well and he spoke about

105:47

bringing a a Unity at the training

105:49

ground and a family feel and then

105:51

winning which is Chelsea DNA

105:53

so I think they've got a really good

105:55

manager in charge and I think the

105:56

players will definitely develop with

105:58

their you know as they as they develop

106:02

naturally they're good players young

106:03

players there has to be some patience in

106:05

putting that together because I think

106:07

that's that has to be clear

106:08

and the owners have a big intention so I

106:11

think as things settle it may not be

106:13

straight away but I think that there's a

106:15

really positive future for the club and

106:17

I was in it and it was tough but you

106:18

know I know how quickly things can

106:19

change if you get the strategy right

106:22

in terms of me I'm absolutely fine and

106:23

I'd certainly appreciate the support I

106:26

had from as I say majority a lot of fans

106:27

that would you know contact me or be at

106:29

Stanford Bridge

106:30

and for anybody that was on the other

106:32

side of that was like why is Frank back

106:33

in the job I I think they maybe I've

106:36

explained some of my part in it today

106:39

and some of the challenges I'll always

106:41

take responsibility I wouldn't walk back

106:43

into that challenge without sort of

106:44

saying this might not go right and

106:45

what's my responsibility so but Chelsea

106:48

is always a huge club and as I say I

106:49

never went back to Chelsea until

106:52

three days before I went and took the

106:54

interim job manager and I went to the

106:55

Liverpool game and end up having a

106:56

conversation

106:57

and it was a difficult period for me for

106:59

some reason I left in covert as I say

107:01

and I moved on to Everton

107:03

and it reignited that kind of feeling

107:05

being back at Stamford Bridge I have to

107:06

say not that I lost it it just reignited

107:08

it and you know so to Chelsea fans I

107:12

know I'm fine I'm fine I appreciate

107:15

their support even my playing career

107:17

it's nice when you finish playing

107:18

because your playing career is there and

107:20

I can look back on it with a lot of

107:22

pleasure for a lot of the good moments

107:24

when you're in it it's like what's next

107:26

and you're sort of like always

107:27

challenging yourself when you finish you

107:29

kind of go yeah you know that was good

107:30

that was all right it was a lot of good

107:32

stuff so there were good times and I was

107:34

very thankful to be part of a great club

107:36

and we'll see

107:38

you gave Mason Mount his start

107:41

yes I think he's a great signing for

107:43

your yeah that's what I was going to say

107:44

thank you for that he's fantastic why is

107:47

he living why is he leaving Chelsea he's

107:49

born and born and bred isn't he yeah I

107:51

think it's a complicated one and in the

107:53

end I think is

107:55

uh he's got a year left on his contract

107:56

what I'll say about Mason is

107:59

all the things I spoke about there you

108:00

talk about like modern players and how

108:02

the game's changed he's a throwback to

108:05

the attitude and the commitment and the

108:08

quality the you know that was the beauty

108:10

of working with Mason was that he gave

108:12

you so much in terms of his

108:15

um effort every day anything you'd ask

108:18

him to do was like yeah and he kind of

108:19

got it and I think any great player has

108:22

to have that kind of intelligence and

108:23

that desire about them you know like

108:24

what do you need me to do a bit I've got

108:25

it and I'll do it I'll repeat it and

108:27

also quality so in terms of what he'll

108:29

bring to Manchester United it won't just

108:31

be what Mason brings it will bring loads

108:33

of talent that he's just gonna Gap and

108:35

levels yeah I I think so and and don't

108:39

win me wrong the bar raise is already

108:40

there with Bruno Fernandez but he will

108:43

actually yeah casimiro but he will

108:45

absolutely fit in with it if you're

108:46

trying to build which you're saying a

108:48

group mentality of a team and you know

108:50

players are just going to give

108:52

everything and their talent which type

108:54

team he fits it so I've seen some like

108:55

sort of alternative reactions to that

108:57

it's like oh yeah Mason amounts of

108:59

goodbye why would you pay that for him

109:01

nice amount is going to be a fantastic

109:02

player there my opinion

109:04

it's really nice to know because

109:06

actually I was a bit on the fence in

109:07

regards of don't really know the

109:09

character of the man but I have heard

109:10

from inside Old Trafford that Eric

109:12

tanhard Eric tenhargis really Ultra

109:15

focused on exactly what you've said

109:16

above everything else he's focused on

109:18

that like core values so casimiro um

109:21

Bruno

109:22

etc etc and so it's nice to know that

109:24

Mason is uh yeah he is a bar razor yep

109:27

why is he leaving do you know

109:30

um seeking a different challenge or is

109:32

it no I don't think so I think probably

109:33

Mason would have envisaged two years ago

109:36

they'd stay at Chelsea for a lot of his

109:37

career I just think circumstances his

109:39

contract situation

109:41

um I know he's got a big love for

109:42

Chelsea

109:43

um but also in the modern day you know I

109:45

think more than more than even in my day

109:47

players do move and I don't think you

109:49

know if the challenge of moving now it's

109:50

come to that for Mason personally

109:53

is a is a good challenge for him I would

109:55

like to finish that Chelsea because I

109:56

think he's he would have been Central to

109:58

it but it didn't happen

110:00

we have a closing tradition on this

110:01

podcast where the last guest leaves a

110:03

question for the next guest and I have

110:04

to say this is the longest question I've

110:05

ever been left for anyone else it's

110:07

quite abstract right as well so we're

110:09

both gonna have to kind of figure this

110:10

one out but the question is

110:12

you're gonna be surprised by this when

110:14

broken down to its roots or origin the

110:17

word

110:18

enthusiasm begins with n Theos which

110:22

means with God for people who have not

110:24

identified something which they are

110:26

truly passionate about pursuing can you

110:29

suggest a way to cultivate that

110:32

enthusiasm

110:38

um so I think the real question here is

110:39

just in this line here which is when

110:40

people for people who haven't identified

110:42

something which they are truly

110:43

passionate about yeah pursuing how do

110:45

they go about that wow

110:47

um

110:48

thanks to that one yeah

110:50

I don't know

110:52

um this is a good point actually because

110:54

my daughters now my oldest daughter is

110:57

going leave getting her a level results

110:58

this summer

111:00

it's talking about uni but she doesn't

111:01

really know what she wants to do and I

111:02

actually felt uh not bad I went to

111:06

school obviously but my Pathways you

111:08

know looking back was like fortunately

111:10

was that I didn't have to think about

111:11

myself

111:12

and I so I haven't got any big answers

111:13

for and also like from a modern woman

111:16

you know where is the pathway what does

111:18

she want to I ask that question and

111:19

she's not sure which is completely

111:20

understandable so for me I think for her

111:23

if if we're flipping it there's maybe

111:25

whether it's a passion or not but my

111:27

thing and it probably goes back to my

111:28

roots is to

111:30

the work ethic thing is what I say to it

111:32

is to get out there and get in the

111:35

workplace and meet people because I

111:37

think in the modern world

111:39

with my daughters are so engrossed in

111:41

social media

111:43

they have a lot of answers about life

111:45

you know a lot of answers and I'm like

111:47

okay I don't agree with that one but

111:49

I'll let that one go I don't agree with

111:50

that and then I'll start to feel like a

111:51

dinosaur but I do think that they kind

111:53

of get caught up in that and all the

111:54

answers are there and like okay we're

111:55

gonna do then and they go I don't know

111:56

and you kind of go okay well fine you've

111:58

got all this information it's the modern

111:59

world but what are you going to do go

112:01

out and get a weekend job if you're

112:03

going to go to UNI go out and experience

112:05

what the real world is like rather than

112:07

this alternative world that you're

112:08

slightly looking at and then I think

112:10

someone might ignite it so that that was

112:13

my and again that's probably as deep as

112:14

I could go because I don't care where it

112:15

is you could be in the coffee shops you

112:17

could be in this shop or that shop or

112:19

whatever but

112:20

um this is my adult story obviously so

112:23

it was more about getting out and

112:24

meeting people and I guess probably in

112:26

in to bring that question back to me

112:29

myself going out of my comfort zone and

112:32

leaving Chelsea to go to Manchester City

112:34

and then live in New York for two years

112:36

ignited a million things in May and none

112:39

of them were like big Hobbies or

112:40

something like that it was just like wow

112:42

there's a different world a different

112:43

culture people who approach things with

112:45

positivity and energy that I've never

112:47

seen in England and it changed my

112:49

Approach

112:50

so maybe my answer would be come out of

112:52

your comfort zone and do something which

112:53

is different I was fortunate today I

112:56

worked there but I was living in

112:57

probably what for me is possibly the

112:58

best city in the world

113:00

and it changed me as a person so maybe

113:02

you know to to get the passion try

113:05

something take yourself out the comfort

113:06

zone and it might just appear for you

113:08

makes perfect sense and I think yeah

113:10

exactly what I heard there is that often

113:12

we when we're two within familiarity

113:14

we're not going to get the inspiration

113:16

of what might be our passion if we're

113:17

searching for it but going to a New York

113:19

or

113:20

um just getting out into the world and

113:21

having experiences can lead us there

113:23

yeah Frank thank you so much for your

113:25

time today and thank you for doing this

113:26

because I I want to say like you um you

113:28

are a man of your word now because we're

113:30

going to do this last time and you could

113:31

have easily not done it but you messaged

113:33

me and said I want to get that back on

113:34

because I said I would

113:35

um and again that's just another example

113:37

of you just being a Class Act the whole

113:39

process of you counting last time

113:40

because you've got the Chelsea job and

113:41

then coming back you've just been an

113:42

absolute Class Act

113:44

um you're a man where no one can

113:45

question your your integrity and your

113:47

principles and then on top of that I I

113:49

see a man who is um incredibly Keen to

113:52

work and do well in whatever he applies

113:54

himself to and because of that you've

113:56

LED this fantastic career both as a

113:58

professional football player and as a

113:59

manager we're which is I think you're

114:01

just halfway through and there's this

114:03

whole new season as you get up to you

114:05

know 45 years time you're going to be

114:07

90. and I'm so excited to watch that

114:10

story unfold because of all the wisdom

114:11

you've garnered in the last 45 so thank

114:13

you for being an inspiration to me for

114:15

giving me so many great memories in

114:16

football as an England player less so as

114:19

a Chelsea player because you guys were

114:21

really good

114:22

through that that that's that period so

114:25

um but it's a real honor to get to know

114:26

you and um yeah thank you for all your

114:28

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Interactive Summary

This episode features a deep, candid conversation with football legend Frank Lampard. He reflects on his career as a player and manager, delving into his upbringing, the influence of his father, the profound impact of his mother's passing, and his experiences managing Chelsea and Everton. Lampard discusses his approach to leadership, the challenges of modern football, and his personal growth, highlighting his resilience and dedication to the sport.

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