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the majority of people they're still

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seeing the world through a lens that was

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built for them and they want more they

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just don't know how to do it so what I

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teach which is what CIA teaches is how

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to see the world in the way it really is

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here's what I'm going to tell you

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andreon is back a former CIA officer and

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founder of everyday spy a company on a

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mission to help you get anything you

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want in life with the skills the CIA

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taught him we don't know the recipe for

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Success our society doesn't teach us the

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plan the framework the process that's

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what CIA did for us they just taught us

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a simple system and one gentleman one of

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the Frameworks that we taught him helped

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him get a $32,000 raise we had one

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person say I followed your framework I

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wenton over the interviewer now I have

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this job that I would have never gotten

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otherwise but I'm not surprised when

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they happened because of course the

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recipes work because they were refined

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in the center of CIA so first we have an

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exercise called get quiet and in a get

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quiet exercise all you do is just the

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reason that we do that is because we

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have the informational Advantage going

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into any situation interesting then

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there's the four seas of building

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influence rapidly so if you want to

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build influence the first thing we have

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to do is and now you actually take the

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action to get what you want so what

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about persuasion then how do I persuade

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somebody persuasion is a process that's

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much easier it really is as simple as

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subscribers Andrew what is it you're

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doing in this season of your life you

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know it's an interesting question I

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actually just lost my grandmother

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recently in the last week or so and my

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grandmother was one of the two women

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that raised me I didn't have a father I

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mentioned that to you the last time I

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was here um and it was a moment that

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struck me because mortality became very

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real it makes

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everything clearer it makes you realize

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what actually matters and what doesn't

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matter it it shows you that the days

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that we have aren't actually guaranteed

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to us even though we take them for

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granted every day I don't know I don't

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know if my flight home is g to actually

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happen I don't know if I'm going to step

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out of this studio and get hit by a car

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I don't know if my child isn't going to

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get hit by a car playing in the driveway

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tomorrow because life is so

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fragile and we don't think about it

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until we watch its

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fragility dissolve in front of us we

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hear about tragedy but tragedy is always

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happening somewhere

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else

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it's it's so real and yet we don't

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realize it every day it's a good thing

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we

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don't that's that's the truth that's how

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it feels right now for me as well I kind

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of wish I could go back to being

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ignorant again it's that Matrix red pill

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blue pill moment where I kind of wish I

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could go back in and forget the reality

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and and forget that mortality is reality

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and so does that change your your

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priorities in life in any way it does

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like the biggest way that it's affecting

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me right now is really with business

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because you know we had a conversation

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not too long ago where I was very

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focused on trying to Triple the size of

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the business this year because we had

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been tripling the year before and we had

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tripled the year before that and it

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became this arbitrary number this this

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scorecard where I wanted to continue

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having this achievement and then what I

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found is that scaling a business is no

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easy thing and the struggles that come

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from

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scaling were

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consuming the majority of my focus all

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the time until this moment happened with

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my grandmother and then all of a sudden

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I realized I have a team of people who

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can scale the business I don't have to

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scale it I just have to empower the team

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to do what the team does and my job is

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very different my job is to enable

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Empower encourage direct lead manage

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their efforts but it's their job to grow

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it I can take some of that time and put

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it into the people that matter to me the

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people that surround me the people who

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have made me who I am the people like

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the woman on the couch that I was

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visiting in her death bed the business

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you're referring to is called everyday

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spy right yes sir what is everyday spy

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what is the mission of that business the

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mission of everyday spy is to use spy

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education to break barriers for everyone

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willing to learn and what is spy

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education spy education is anything from

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specific spy skills cognitive skills

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physical skills it can be breaking myths

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about what spies are and what spies are

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not B bursting conspiracy theories

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teaching spy uh processes and Frameworks

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to everyone from entrepreneurs to

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business owners and CEOs so that they

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can use those same Frameworks to improve

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their leadership to improve their sales

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to improve their revenue or their

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organization do you um do you do you

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ever have a bit of a you you're a guy

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that thinks quite big picture about

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things um and sometimes think are Level

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above everybody else do you um do you

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think the people you teach these things

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to know what they're looking for in life

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do you think they actually know what

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they're aiming at no I don't and I'll

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tell you why because I don't think that

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the majority of people who learn from

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everyday spy see the world in the way it

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really is I think they're still seeing

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the world through a a lens that was

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built for them have you ever looked

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through uh a window in an old cabin or

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in an old house it's kind of hazy it's

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uh maybe it's stained or it's dirty or

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the dirt is so thick on it that it

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doesn't wash off have you ever seen a

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window like that yeah my old shed at

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home when I was a kid growing up so

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you're inside the shed M and you're

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looking out onto a sunny day and you

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know it's a sunny beautiful Forest on

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the other side of the window you know it

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is but that's not what you see through

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the window I feel like that's how many

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of our high achieving brothers and

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sisters feel they know it's a sunny

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forest on the other side but school and

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University and working for somebody else

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and growing their business has created

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this hazy glass and you can't trust what

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you see through the glass you know that

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what the glass is showing you isn't real

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but you also can't prove it because you

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can't step outside of the glass you're

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inside the shed so a lot of what I try

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to do with everyday spy is just shatter

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the glass because you don't need the

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glass to be between you and the real

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world and that's what it felt like for

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me when CIA trained me how to be a field

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officer I don't feel like they took me

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out of the shed I don't feel like they

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cleaned the glass I feel like what they

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did is they just shattered the glass and

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there I was looking at the world for

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what it really was and it all made sense

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until I started meeting other people who

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were still looking through the glass and

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there's no way to teach them otherwise

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or there's no way to convince them

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otherwise the only thing you can do is

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teach them to break through the barrier

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themselves so that I can understand that

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can you tell me what your perspective of

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the world was before and after the

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shattered

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glass when I was growing up

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uh all through high school I went to the

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Air Force Academy which is a a military

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school that you have to get accepted on

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scholarship to go to even getting

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accepted to CIA itself every step of the

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way I believed that achievement came

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from doing what you were told better

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than anybody else so that you could be

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empirically better than the competition

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like that's what I believed but what I

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found along the way was often times that

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was true but often times it wasn't some

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sometimes people who had no business

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being next to me in a race at the Air

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Force Academy on the college teams at

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the CIA sometimes the people to my left

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and to my right had no business being

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there they just were the son of somebody

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influential they were the daughter of

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somebody important they had money they

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had opportunity they were a foreigner

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who knows but it wasn't always

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merit-based but everything had always

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taught me that it was merit-based that

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the best

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Jobs go to the people with the best

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scores who go to the best universities

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like that's what I was taught but that

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wasn't really the truth the richest

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people weren't the smartest people the

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most successful people weren't the

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hardest workers and that was when as a

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kid even I started feeling like there's

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a forest on the other side but all I see

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is this picture that doesn't seem to

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make sense so then when I got to C and

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CIA put me through their their field

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tradecraft course FTC which is often

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referred to as the farm what they did at

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the field tradecraft course is they

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said Society is conditioned to believe a

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certain way because Society needs to be

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a giant economic machine we all live

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inside of a giant machine we are

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conditioned through the education

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process through the the industrial

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process through the church process to

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fall into a hierarchy that we believe is

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meritorious that is a meritocracy so

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that hard work and obedience and loyalty

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gets rewarded because the only way that

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the government stays in power of a large

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group of people is if there's a

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predictable system is if they believe

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there's a system and since a system is

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really nothing more than a belief system

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all you have to do to step outside of

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the system is Stop Believing or believe

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in a different system so what CIA

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teaches us to do is find the people who

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question the system enough that they're

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open to being taught a different system

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and then we teach them the system of

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Espionage or treachery so they they

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chose you because you were a bit of a

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defiant personality or thinker I would

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say or on the cusp of or potential of

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being I would say a differently only

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because Defiance as a as a term by

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itself means that you just reject

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everything instead it was more of like a

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curiosity I was still very loyal very

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loyal to my country very loyal to the

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idea of some sort of authority figure I

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was still an individual that had a

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history of childhood trauma that turned

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me into a person that needed external

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validation but I also chose where that

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external validation came from so I was

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It was kind of the right amount of

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trauma to be able to make me loyal to a

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specific organization whereas some

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people who are truly defining aren't

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loyal to anyone right they defy everyone

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so the CIA told you that the world

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is

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predictable but also way that you

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explained it made it seem like it was a

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bit of a conspiracy not a conspiracy but

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absolutely a system you got to a

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conspiracy means that there's some sort

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of a conspiracy insinuates that there's

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some sort of negative intention there is

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no negative intention in order for there

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to be a society at all in order for

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there to be structure and lawfulness

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there needs to be a system and in order

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to create the system we have to

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intentionally continue ually repeat and

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program the system what is a business a

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business is nothing more than a series

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of predictable reinforced processes and

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systems that yield a predictable

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outcome why do we think a government is

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anything different why would we think

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that Society is anything different if

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you really look at what the church does

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if you really look at what

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Harley-Davidson does it's essentially

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the same thing find people who believe

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in an ideology bring them in give them a

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framework to believe in that ideology

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the church is good and evil Heaven and

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Hell Harley-Davidson is freedom and

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individuality and then you just give

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them a system to think about it one

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wears crosses one wears Eagles one meets

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on Sundays one meets on Tuesdays at the

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local Road bar one goes on you know

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civic duty to collect trash the other

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goes on multi-hour road trips but in in

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all cases they mark it to the young they

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mark it to the age they Market to the

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very old their senior members bring in

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junior members they have clubs they have

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everything right they're two separate

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subsections of society which is why we

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call them subcultures so now I

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understand that there's a system that

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I'm part of and it's again it's not

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malicious in terms of its intent it just

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is what it is it's how the world

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functions it's how the country that I'm

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in um operates and it's required for

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there to be stability now there's

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awareness but is there is there any

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benefit in me

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doing anything about it is there

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anything I can do about it to to make my

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life better there's absolutely things

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that you can do about it you you skipped

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over the awareness part as if it wasn't

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substantial the first thing I would say

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is awareness of the system is quite a

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substantial step because most of us are

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not aware of the system I was certainly

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not aware of the system I suspected

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something was different I suspected

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maybe there was more than I understood

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that's the whole idea of looking through

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faded glass at a clear Forest you know

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there's a forest but you don't know how

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to get there MH and you don't know why

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everybody else is standing in the shed

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if there's a forest right out there

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there's just this there's this in this

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discomfort because you're like there's

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there should be something more I feel

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like there's something more but

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everybody seems so happy right here

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except me I'm looking out this window

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feeling like there's something more the

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reality is most people don't look out

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the window what is it that everybody in

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the shed believes that's what's so

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interesting I think most people in the

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shed believe that the shed is a good

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thing

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we need the shed the shed keeps us warm

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when it's cold outside it keeps us cool

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inside when it's hot outside it protects

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us from the rain it keeps the wind away

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we need the shed that's what most people

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I think start to believe about whatever

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shed they're born into I need this

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church I need this neighborhood I need

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these friends I need to be popular in

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school like because everybody else is

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after the same thing I need good grades

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why do you think you need good grades

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cuz my mom said I need needed good

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grades well we don't question it any

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further than that we don't question why

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do you think your mom thinks you need

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good

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grades right and when you look at the

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hierarchy of society there's there's an

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actual anthropological pyramid that

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defines Society right and it breaks into

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three levels individualism at the bottom

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level tribalism in the center level and

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then the state at the top level because

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the most advanced version of society is

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the state it maximizes the contribution

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of each

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individual by forcing shared policy down

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all the way from top to bottom so all

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people have to obey the state but in

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exchange for their obedience the state

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provides resources to all people like

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clean water and loans and uh car loans

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and business loans and police forces and

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public schools so we are we believe that

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this cabin is

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needed it's the best cabin it's the only

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cabin is that wrong I think if you look

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at the world as it is there's a lot of

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different cabins out there our cabin is

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quite different than the China cabin

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China cabin is quite different than the

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Russia cabin right the UK cabin is very

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different than the American cabin so if

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you follow Logic the fact that different

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cabins exist at all would suggest that

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there is no best cabin and then if there

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is no best cabin then do we even need a

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cabin or perhaps there's a different

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option that's better is there a

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different option that's better in your

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opinion I haven't found one yet outside

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of living in a cabin and being the one

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that understands there's more because

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then you get all the benefits of the

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cabin but you're also the one that knows

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that sometimes it's worth it to step

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outside yeah I in your analogy I was

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thinking in fact it's okay for there to

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be a cabin because I kind of need there

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to be a cabin because you know what I

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like roads and Healthcare and

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police but but if you can be one of the

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people that realizes you are in a cabin

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and that the rules of the cabin aren't

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actually rules law they're just made up

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rules then you can bend them in certain

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ways to live the life that you want to

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live and I think in many respects

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entrepreneurship is kind of one of those

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things because some of the narratives

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that you described there of thinking

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grades mattered were the narratives that

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nearly held me back in my life cuz I was

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not doing well in school my brother's

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where everyone else was and I nearly

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fell into the Trap which you learn in

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the shed

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which is the people that get A's are

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going to be rich and happy this is the

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like unspoken word and then if you get

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like an E and A D you're going to be

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poor and probably not that happy and

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probably going to live in a small house

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and you're probably um going to struggle

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and that's like a narrative and through

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labeling Theory you can come to believe

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that as the truth and then play that out

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in your life but I always think the

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biggest harm of I now and I had a

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suspicion back then that the biggest

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harm of getting like an e in my exam was

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believing that I was an e and they're

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two very different things like I can get

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an e but it doesn't make me an e but in

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the in the shed it does make you an e

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it's hard to because everybody else

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labels you by what you perform inside

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the shed that defines them and then I

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self-label I then start to tell myself

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in my self-esteem that I am an eggr and

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then I show up like an e-grade which

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they've proven through labeling Theory

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you can tell someone there's something

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or you can remind them of a stereotype

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that applies to them and they'll

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immediately perform worse on a test

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whatever that stereotype relates to so

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but entrepreneurship for me was saying

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do you know what I'm going to drop out

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of I'm going to get leave school I'm

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going to drop out of University and I'm

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going to try and like send a bunch of

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emails and figure out life myself

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outside of the system because the system

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was never going to get me where I needed

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to go if if I had followed the system I

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would still be working in the call

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center that I was when I was 19 you know

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and basically have no free time working

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till midnight at night and just getting

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[ __ ] from a boss that was an [ __ ] to

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me and you just

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described the feeling of 80% of the

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population they feel like they've never

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gone past the call center that they

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worked at when they were 19 the vast

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majority of people out there feel

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like they stopped developing at about 27

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what is the difference though what is

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the difference between the people that

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kind of get out the shed and pursue

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their dreams and build the business or

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whatever and the people that are still

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in the call center I'm not saying call

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center is a bad lesson I learn a lot of

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school from call centers that I loved

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but it sucked compared to what I do now

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um what is the F so the first thing

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you're talking about shattering the

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glass the first thing is awareness yeah

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you have to be aware that you're in a

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shed that you're in a shed and you have

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to be aware that you're choosing to be

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in the shed right you can always leave

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this is an argument I have so often with

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people who are trapped in in the wrong

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mindset right I don't even know what the

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right psychological term is because I

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don't live in a world of academic

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psychology but there are people who

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believe that they don't have a choice

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and in the United States for example we

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have 50 states there are some people in

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the state of Florida who feel like they

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can't leave the state of

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Florida

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because they they think it's because

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they don't have enough money they think

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it's because it's it's the drive is too

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far there isn't a support network on the

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other side the bureaucratic hurdles of

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trying to change your residency and get

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a new driver's license is too much the

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taxes are too high to pay to move from a

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non-state a non- tax state to a state

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tax state so they all have reasons and

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the reasons are grounded in fact

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but the value that they put on the fact

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the the value of the challenge is

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greater than the value of the reward in

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their point of view in their perspective

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and in reality it's the other way around

20:11

you um you just reminded me of a video

20:13

that changed my life I'm going to play

20:15

this video for you okay um it's a very

20:18

very short video but when you talked

20:19

about people living in a state or living

20:21

in a situation where they don't think

20:22

they can leave this video came to mind

20:26

they just get an an and you can do this

20:28

with basically any small creature and

20:29

you get a brro or a pen and just draw a

20:31

circle around it and it will not it will

20:34

not leave the the circle and I watched

20:37

this video many years ago of just this

20:39

ant trapped in the circle and they the

20:41

guy drawing the circle around the ant

20:43

just makes the circle smaller and

20:44

smaller left there and it will basically

20:47

remain trapped and it was in when I

20:48

watched it I thought you know I'm doing

20:49

that for myself in my own life so the

20:51

ant remains trapped they make it smaller

20:53

the ant won't um leave the circle but

20:55

what's interesting here right is the ant

20:57

is just eventually figuring out that the

21:00

it's just a circle that it's just a

21:01

circle that it's like just a shed and

21:03

when I saw that the first thing I asked

21:05

myself was in what ways have I drawn an

21:08

imaginary circle around

21:11

myself I think the more important

21:13

question is often times when did the

21:15

imaginary Circle start who drew the

21:18

first Circle because it wasn't you if

21:20

you've ever seen a child if you've ever

21:23

seen an infant a toddler they are

21:26

Limitless they they know no bounds they

21:30

they don't understand anything about the

21:31

world around them they they don't know

21:34

how their body feels so they don't know

21:35

whether they're hungry or whether

21:36

they're gassy or whether they're

21:38

urinating they cry at everything and

21:41

they're constantly squirming they have

21:42

no context so all the context that they

21:45

gain they gain through absorption we

21:49

create the context for them we create

21:51

the idea of this is bedtime we create

21:54

the idea of this is what a healthy habit

21:56

is brushing your teeth washing your

21:57

hands whatever else we create this is

22:00

home and this is where you can walk

22:02

around openly but once you go out this

22:04

door into the front yard the front yard

22:07

is not home anymore and now you can't

22:09

you can't go anywhere you want you have

22:11

to stay here so somewhere somebody

22:13

started drawing circles before we ever

22:15

drew them all we started doing was then

22:17

believing that the circles were more

22:19

permanent than they really

22:21

were and the way to understand that it's

22:23

not permanent is to step out to step out

22:27

but stepping out does two things to us

22:30

simultaneously one it feels

22:32

uncomfortable because nobody else is

22:34

stepping out and two it feels wrong why

22:38

does it feel wrong because we've been

22:40

conditioned to believe we have to stay

22:41

in the circle this is why I love my

22:44

company this is why I love our mission

22:47

of teaching spy skills to break barriers

22:52

because everybody loves the idea of a

22:57

spy

22:59

but when you think about what a spy

23:02

does nobody actually likes what a spy

23:06

does nobody likes the fact that spies

23:08

steal nobody likes the fact that spies

23:10

lie but for some reason they still like

23:14

the idea of a spy and that's why James

23:18

Bond and Jason Bourne and and Spy shows

23:20

are so popular what's happening is we

23:23

come we come into this place where what

23:26

we want and what told we're supposed to

23:30

want Clash because you know what we

23:33

really want is an opportunity and we

23:35

want an opportunity so bad that we're

23:37

willing to cheat to get the opportunity

23:40

but we don't want to admit that we're

23:42

willing to cheat to get the opportunity

23:45

we want an

23:47

advantage but we don't want to believe

23:49

that our advantage hurts other people so

23:52

somehow we want to all move forward with

23:55

with equinity and everybody does better

23:58

and that's just not the way that

23:59

anything in nature actually works and

24:02

what entrepreneurs figure out when

24:04

they're

24:05

successful is that you can cheat and you

24:08

can get away with cheating and when you

24:10

get away with cheating it just gives

24:12

permission to everybody else who was too

24:14

afraid to cheat and then you have first

24:16

mover advantage in the marketplace and

24:18

they copy you and all of a sudden that

24:21

isn't cheating

24:22

anymore and cheating in the because

24:25

cheating can you know it's a bit of a

24:26

loaded word right what do you mean when

24:29

you you talk about choosing in the

24:30

context of business I'm talking about

24:32

like an unfair advantage of any sort

24:34

right think about when do you remember

24:36

when MP3s first came out yes well I I

24:39

had one when I was a kid so an MP3

24:42

player yeah yeah yeah so MP3s as in

24:44

music files I remember when they first

24:46

came out it was the the market went

24:49

chaotic because you could get them off

24:52

of the internet for free which meant

24:54

that the musicians didn't get paid for

24:55

it and that turned into I think it was

24:57

called nabster Napster yeah lime Wire

24:59

yeah yeah there were so many of these

25:01

different databases where you could just

25:02

pull free music and it it was crazy

25:05

before that there were CDs there was

25:08

even a brief period where there were

25:09

mini discs right people just kept making

25:12

improvements we call them disruptors now

25:14

because we found a way to glorify the

25:17

word cheat and make it into something

25:20

good so now there's disruptors but all

25:22

they were doing was taking advantage of

25:24

something that other people weren't

25:25

taking advantage of a new form of

25:27

Technology well how how did they get

25:28

access to a new form of Technology

25:30

because they got investors well how did

25:32

they get

25:33

investors they knew a guy who knew a guy

25:35

they shook a hand dad at the golf club

25:37

maybe they had five minutes with the

25:40

right guy on the right elevator who

25:41

knows but the people who don't get

25:43

investors look at the people who do get

25:45

investors and say that's not

25:48

fair that's just the way it is that's

25:51

the way life is you know what's not fair

25:52

it's not fair that some people are born

25:54

into a house where the cabin where the

25:57

the shed that they're born into is a

25:59

$300,000 a year shed and other people

26:02

are born into a shed that's a $30,000 a

26:04

year shed that's not fair nothing is

26:06

fair so once you accept that nothing is

26:08

fair that also means there isn't really

26:11

anything that's unfair you can do

26:13

whatever you need to improve yourself

26:16

and your life so I'm in the shed and

26:19

I've just I've listened to you so I

26:21

realized that I am in a shed and that

26:23

the rules I've been conditioned to

26:25

believe aren't necessarily um they're

26:28

rules but they're breakable rules and I

26:31

have every right to break them what is

26:33

what do you think is step one Beyond

26:34

there beyond the aarness I'm going to

26:37

give you two answers because there's the

26:39

reality of the answer but then there's

26:41

my

26:42

preferred response right the reality of

26:45

the answer is once

26:47

people the reality is that most people

26:49

have already thought about what I'm

26:51

saying I'm just giving words and

26:54

authenticity and credibility to what

26:55

they already believe so they're ready

26:57

for the next step and they just jump

26:58

right in they believe me I appreciate it

27:01

when people believe me but I don't want

27:03

people to believe me what I want people

27:05

to do is my preferred approach which is

27:07

to test the information test what I'm

27:09

saying learn a framework that we teach

27:12

it everyday spy learn a framework that

27:13

you and I talk about put it into

27:15

exercise if it works you just tested

27:18

something now you can believe something

27:20

now you can change your mindset and

27:21

change your framework but too often

27:24

people just

27:25

believe I appreciate it when they

27:27

believe me makes me feel good but it's

27:30

not what I'm trying to teach people to

27:31

do what I want people to do is actually

27:32

test it test it and because if they test

27:35

it they make it their

27:36

own if here's the problem with every

27:39

teacher I've ever had with the exception

27:41

of two or three they tell you something

27:44

is the facts and then you know that at

27:46

the end of the week you have to take a

27:47

quiz on what they told you was the facts

27:50

and then you know that at the end of the

27:51

semester you have to take an exam on

27:52

what they told you was the facts they

27:54

don't ever teach you to test or question

27:56

the facts and we we know at our age in

27:58

our success level that history is

27:59

written by the winners but there's

28:01

always two sides to history and then

28:02

when you think about the political the

28:05

religious the personal ramifications of

28:07

everything that happens you realize

28:08

there's multiple different versions of

28:10

Truth there may only be one fact but

28:13

there's multiple versions of Truth so

28:16

how do we we're not even conditioned to

28:18

learn to question the truth to find the

28:21

fact instead we're just taught that the

28:23

truth that we're taught is the facts and

28:25

that's how we end up in a world like we

28:26

have today where people can can say

28:29

whatever they want to say and people

28:30

believe them instead of testing what you

28:34

hear to see if it really is worth

28:37

transitioning or transforming your

28:38

belief system it sounds like you're

28:40

making a distinction between like

28:42

knowledge and belief what what we call

28:44

information information and knowledge

28:46

exactly right okay so information is

28:48

what what someone might say to you but

28:49

then knowledge is what you actually know

28:50

to be true correct there's a fly wheel

28:52

that we have in the intelligence world

28:54

and it's a triangle and the top of the

28:56

triangle is information and then

28:58

information flows into knowledge and

29:01

then knowledge flows into experience so

29:04

what happens is you learn information

29:07

from that information you develop

29:11

knowledge and then you test that

29:13

knowledge through experience and what

29:15

happens when you go out and take action

29:17

in an experience you get more

29:20

information which yields more knowledge

29:22

which you test through experience which

29:23

yields more information and you have

29:25

this very positive flywheel that's how

29:27

the int Ence cycle works but what

29:30

happens in society what happens in a in

29:33

a state system that requires people to

29:35

become predictable and obedient and and

29:38

respectful and uh collegial is they skip

29:42

the experience part they say this is

29:45

information this is knowledge and here's

29:48

more new information and here's more new

29:50

knowledge and they never give people the

29:52

opportunity to test the knowledge for

29:55

themselves so I'm breaking out the shed

29:57

and I'm going to try and test some of

29:58

this information that I'm going to learn

30:00

today and in this conversation um what

30:02

is a good example of something that

30:04

you've seen in your practice when

30:05

working with people at the everyday spy

30:08

has helped someone to change their life

30:11

like a framework that's that typically

30:13

helps people to change their life in the

30:15

most profound way as it relates to

30:16

business sales their career whatever one

30:19

of the ones that jumps to mind right

30:20

away is the it's a simple framework

30:21

about perspective versus perception and

30:24

we may have mentioned this actually in

30:25

our previous conversation Stephen uh

30:28

perception is what you believe to be

30:30

true about the world around you

30:33

perspective is what other people believe

30:35

to be true about the world around them

30:38

so as I sit here looking at you this is

30:41

my perception my perception is that I'm

30:43

sitting in the center seat and you're

30:46

sitting outside of me and everything

30:48

else is built around me at the center

30:50

well guess what your perception is the

30:53

same thing I'm across a table from you

30:55

you're at the center and everything in

30:56

this room is built around you you mhm so

31:00

our perceptions are never going to be

31:02

the same so the only way that I can find

31:04

common ground with you is to stop

31:06

thinking about what's happening around

31:08

me from my perception and start thinking

31:10

from your

31:11

perspective because then I get my

31:14

perception plus your perception combined

31:18

I get twice as much information to think

31:19

through this specific situation how do

31:21

you train that can you train someone's

31:23

have both points of view absolutely so

31:25

here's here's how I mentioned that

31:27

awareness is is the first step right

31:28

really we have a three-step process at

31:31

CIA that we use when we teach spy skills

31:33

to Future spies because that's all CIA

31:35

is CIA is a giant training engine that's

31:38

constantly creating new spies and then

31:41

spies just go out and spy but what CIA

31:43

really does is train spies who then

31:45

steal secrets and combine and compile

31:48

those secrets to to share with uh with

31:50

decision makers on the hill right cia's

31:54

system of teaching is a system where you

31:56

educate first you exercise second and

32:00

then you experience third remember that

32:02

flywheel so you educate that's your

32:05

information you exercise that's where

32:07

you turn information into knowledge and

32:09

then you experience and that's where you

32:10

actually go out and test the knowledge

32:13

to see if the knowledge is still

32:14

applicable in the world that you live in

32:15

today so those are the three steps so

32:18

whenever you're trying to get anyone to

32:19

break a barrier whenever you're trying

32:20

to get anyone to transform all you have

32:22

to do is educate them help them to

32:24

exercise which means practice what they

32:26

learned in a controlled space and then

32:28

kick them out the door to go do it for

32:29

themselves it's like kicking a bird out

32:31

of the nest so if I can you make this

32:33

very real for me because I want to I

32:35

want to be someone that can walk through

32:36

the world and appreciate my perception

32:40

of a situation but also the other

32:41

person's perspective so if we just put

32:43

this in the context of me here as a

32:45

podcast host how would I be able to

32:47

implement this to become a better

32:48

podcast host like understand the other

32:50

person's perspective and the way that

32:52

you're seeing the world absolutely so we

32:54

had a whole conversation before the

32:55

cameras turned on yeah right can you

32:58

tell me five things that you remember

33:00

about me that I shared during the time

33:03

before the cameras turned on yes go

33:04

ahead okay you want me to say them

33:06

because we're talking about absolutely

33:07

it's private stuff but tell me okay um

33:09

we're talking about your relationship

33:12

things you're going through at home you

33:13

said that in the last couple of days

33:14

Everything's changed because of the

33:16

assassination attempt on Donald Trump we

33:19

talked about you used to live in an RV

33:23

for a while and you've just recently

33:25

moved um Across America to to a new

33:27

place place you mentioned your kids as

33:29

well give me specifics oh god um you

33:32

said that you used to live in the RV

33:34

with your kids and there's

33:36

a they're varying ages I think I think

33:38

one of them is did you say three years

33:41

old close one of them was three years

33:43

old or something five in one when we Liv

33:45

in the [ __ ] yeah five and one you you

33:47

did great right those things that you

33:50

were that you recalled you recalled

33:52

those from what's known as your paleo

33:54

melean brain the back part of your brain

33:56

passive learning part of your brain mhm

33:59

because naturally when you are untrained

34:03

when you're untrained to think like a

34:05

spy you rely on passive knowledge you

34:08

rely on passive observation to create

34:11

prefrontal cortex knowledge all a spy

34:14

does is when they talk to you they turn

34:17

on they turn on the prefrontal part

34:19

right away and they start paying

34:20

attention to all the details right away

34:23

because the way that you gain someone

34:25

else's perspective is by listening to

34:27

what they're saying and seeing how

34:29

they're saying it because what happens

34:33

now when I sit with people I was just

34:34

with a client this morning who made a

34:36

comment on this when you're trained and

34:39

you sit with someone you are always

34:42

gaining more information about them than

34:44

they are about you when you know how to

34:46

practice perspective versus perception

34:48

because from the moment that you came in

34:49

and sat down you were very much in your

34:51

world you're sitting here in socks

34:53

you're sitting on your leg you're very

34:55

comfortable you're messing with all of

34:57

your Tech technology you're fighting

34:59

with your technology because it's not

35:00

exactly the way you want it to be like

35:02

this is this is Steve's World and

35:04

there's not a single thing wrong with

35:05

Steve's world but Steve's World isn't as

35:08

big as the world of Steve and Andy

35:10

together whereas when I came in here

35:13

just because of the way I'm wired I'm

35:15

paying attention to you I'm paying

35:17

attention to your producers I'm paying

35:18

attention to the set I'm paying

35:19

attention to the people who I've met

35:20

from your team in previous calls because

35:23

I'm trying to gain as much perspective

35:24

as possible before I sit at this table

35:27

with you in the cameras turn on and

35:28

we're on a one-way trip mhm because I

35:31

only get one chance so I want to have as

35:33

much information on my side moving

35:35

forward so you as a podcast co host your

35:38

original question was how do I use this

35:40

information how do I use these

35:41

Frameworks to become a better podcast

35:43

host every person who sits across the

35:45

table from you came from somewhere and

35:48

every time they leave the table you're

35:49

sitting at they're going somewhere and

35:51

they're bringing stress and they're

35:52

bringing pain and they're bringing

35:53

worries and they're bringing concerns

35:55

with them and they're leaving with the

35:56

same things mhm I know that your partner

36:00

is thinking about babies MH when you

36:03

talk about it that's how you talk about

36:05

it you say my partner is thinking about

36:07

getting pregnant you don't ever say

36:09

we're thinking about getting pregnant

36:10

which makes me wonder if she's more

36:13

excited about pregnancy than you

36:15

are I'm so

36:17

[Laughter]

36:19

[ __ ] oh pray the Lord she doesn't

36:21

listen to this am I accurate

36:24

so I do I can I match her EXC

36:28

levels she's changed the entire house at

36:31

home it's like she's expecting I don't

36:34

know what you but like the entire like

36:35

my shampoo is gone that's like her level

36:37

of excitement about it um but and you

36:40

know yeah so obviously I'm excited about

36:42

it but no of course I can't match her

36:43

level of like preparation and Obsession

36:45

about it no yeah but I'm paying

36:47

attention to you and which is that's the

36:49

only reason I even have the ability to

36:50

ask that question right because I'm

36:52

coming in and I'm trying to live in your

36:54

shoes the whole time I'm here I'm trying

36:56

to live in your shoes even as answer

36:57

your questions I'm trying to think what

37:00

can I do to bring value to Steve to the

37:03

Diary of a CEO to the audience that's

37:05

listening because this is my only time

37:07

to talk to you guys so what can I do to

37:09

maximize that value that's practicing

37:12

perspective so when you do that to your

37:14

guests you're going to unlock a whole

37:16

new level of podcasting from them

37:19

instead of being frustrated or curious

37:22

or wondering whether or not they're on

37:23

track or off track or whether or not

37:25

they're tired or not tired or whether or

37:26

not you're going to get the best

37:27

performance out of them if you literally

37:29

just took I mean we have an exercise we

37:31

have an exercise called get quiet at CIA

37:34

and in a get quiet exercise all you do

37:37

is

37:38

just get quiet you stop overwhelming

37:41

your sensory organs your eyes your ears

37:44

your feelings your taste buds your your

37:48

nose your old factory you get yourself

37:50

into a place where your sensory organs

37:52

can take a break because what happens

37:54

when you don't overload your sensory

37:56

organs is your brain starts to index and

37:58

when your brain starts to index it gives

38:00

you a higher level of awareness a higher

38:02

level of observational skills so

38:05

especially before you go into an area

38:06

where you want to make observations you

38:08

want to quiet your sensory organs so

38:10

that you can go in with fresh sensory

38:11

organs it's kind of like cleaning your

38:13

pette before you try a certain ice cream

38:15

right the reason that we do that is

38:18

because we want to gain as much

38:19

prospective information as possible so

38:21

that we have the informational Advantage

38:23

going into any situation understanding

38:25

that most people are coming in

38:28

living in their own perception consider

38:30

applying this to business right you are

38:34

a coffee shop well there's 500 other

38:36

coffee shops there's five other coffee

38:38

shops just in in two square miles of

38:40

where your coffee shop is so when you

38:42

think about your own product you think

38:45

well my coffee is superior it's from

38:47

Ethiopia we roast it here and it smells

38:50

great and whatever else or you think my

38:52

building is better because we have we

38:54

have local artists on the wall and we

38:55

play local musicians like right like

38:57

that's what they think that's what the

38:59

owner of the coffee shop thinks but they

39:01

don't stop to think about the customer

39:04

who buys the coffee because the customer

39:06

who buys the coffee is coming from

39:08

somewhere and then going to somewhere

39:11

and the coffee shop is just one stop

39:14

along the way so if you really want to

39:16

become the coffee shop that everybody

39:19

wants to go to you have to think about

39:22

life through their eyes through their

39:24

perspective why are they drinking the

39:26

coffee oh they're drinking the coffee

39:28

because they're a new

39:29

mom so then what else does a new mom

39:32

need what else does a new mom want when

39:35

she goes to a coffee shop maybe she

39:37

wants other moms to be there maybe she

39:39

wants specials maybe she wants uh she

39:42

wants to find little things to buy her

39:43

kids who knows what you can change your

39:46

shop to fit your customer if you're open

39:49

to their perspective otherwise all

39:51

you're doing is creating your own little

39:53

circle your own little shed so in terms

39:56

of practi iCal things that you do so

39:58

that you can really tune into someone's

40:00

perspective is the most important one

40:02

just

40:03

listening yes but there's a Twist

40:06

because you also have to dig for the

40:08

information you want so you have to know

40:09

how to ask questions and you have to be

40:11

willing to ask questions there's another

40:13

exercise that we have at CIA called

40:14

windows and doors in a conversation

40:18

people will open Windows Windows in

40:21

conversation which means I might ask you

40:23

one thing or you might ask me something

40:25

and then in my response mon I hint at

40:28

something else that's a window right you

40:31

started this conversation by asking me

40:33

what season of my life am I in that was

40:35

a fantastic question to open Windows and

40:38

Doors because you don't know what the

40:40

answer is but you're going to

40:42

choose what you hear to decide where you

40:45

go next the same thing happens in a

40:47

normal conversation right you can you

40:49

can see windows and doors when they

40:51

present themselves when you are trying

40:54

to cultivate perspective over somebody

40:57

you want to choose the windows and doors

40:59

that you follow through in the

41:00

conversation specifically to collect the

41:01

kind of information that you want to

41:03

gain that perspective so if I'm trying

41:05

to sell something to you if I'm trying

41:06

to sell something to you as an

41:09

entrepreneur I'm going to follow the

41:11

windows and doors that open up in

41:13

conversation that take me to understand

41:15

better what limitations or challenges

41:18

you're having as an entrepreneur so if

41:20

I'm trying to buy if you're a car

41:21

salesman and I'm I'm a customer and I

41:23

want to buy a car what kind of questions

41:25

would you start asking me to I love this

41:28

I love this exercise cuz I actually just

41:29

had to buy a car after we moved and I

41:31

was shocked at how horrible my car

41:33

salesman was because he he did not think

41:35

this way right why do people buy a car

41:38

I'm I

41:40

have I'm going to let you practice your

41:42

perspective on me when I moved to

41:44

Colorado Springs in May why did I have

41:47

to buy a car because you have kids nope

41:50

you have two kids oh because um you have

41:53

to well is you mentioned Colorado

41:55

Springs so I suest Rec I I guess that's

41:57

pretty pertinent your answer but you

41:59

have to travel a lot around Colorado

42:01

because it's quite um quite vast isn't

42:04

it you need a mode of transportation MH

42:06

that's the only reason anybody buys a

42:08

car that's where you have to start

42:09

because then you have to think well why

42:11

are they here if you're a Subaru

42:13

dealership and somebody walks in you

42:15

already know that they've pre-qualified

42:18

a number of things they must be looking

42:20

for a Subaru they must be looking for a

42:22

two wheel car they must be looking for

42:24

an all-wheel car or else they wouldn't

42:26

be here MH so you can kind of make those

42:29

assumptions if you practice perspective

42:31

when they walk in and then when they

42:32

walk in that's when you find out oh

42:33

they're a parent so I'm looking for a

42:36

mode of

42:37

transportation that's also safe because

42:40

I'm a parent I'm a I have a family of

42:42

four so I'm looking for a mode of

42:43

transportation that's safe for at least

42:45

four people if you practice a little bit

42:48

of perspective you learn a lot more

42:50

about the person that you're trying to

42:52

close so now I ended up buying a Nissan

42:55

Pathfinder a brand new Nissan Pathfinder

42:57

ER not because my salesman was any good

43:00

but because I went to the Nissan

43:02

dealership already wanting a brand new

43:04

Pathfinder just like you did but I

43:07

always go through this experience to see

43:09

what it's what's the salesperson going

43:11

to do like are they going to try to sell

43:12

me something good are they going to try

43:13

to sell me something wrong are they

43:14

going to understand my specific needs or

43:16

am I going to have to coach them through

43:17

this whole thing my company gets hired

43:20

to give sales training to high

43:22

performance sales teams and what I'm

43:24

shocked at is how often even with a high

43:26

performing sales team salespeople don't

43:29

practice perspective and perception what

43:32

they practice is whatever script they're

43:34

supposed to read and they practice

43:36

empirical numbers and they practice the

43:38

the law of averages and it's like I need

43:39

to make a 100 calls to convert 12%

43:42

that's what they practice instead of

43:45

practicing something just a little bit

43:46

more efficient like changing your

43:48

opening line to ask an open-ended

43:51

question just like you did an open-ended

43:53

question is a question that makes the

43:54

person on the other side of the phone

43:56

speak through the lens of their current

43:58

reality do you know what the um I've

44:00

never said this before but there's a

44:01

question I ask every guest in the

44:03

Preamble and I don't know if I asked you

44:05

but but I I ask 99% of guests when we

44:09

sit down um and it's what's front of

44:11

mine few at the moment and for me the

44:14

reason I asked that question is because

44:16

um kind of what you said because people

44:18

come here and I I I assume that there's

44:20

something that happened when they woke

44:21

up this morning or there's something

44:22

that's bugging them that my research

44:24

team wouldn't have been able to find on

44:25

the internet that they haven't yet said

44:27

in an interview and it's been so

44:28

unbelievably amazing when you ask that

44:30

question and then there was one

44:31

particular conversation I had which was

44:33

one of my favorite of all time where it

44:34

was with Simon cynic and because I've

44:36

spoken to Simon cynic three times on the

44:38

podcast I didn't like have research like

44:41

we've talked about everything so I sat

44:43

down and I had to Fig sit down and

44:46

figure out where the conversation was

44:47

going to go for the next three hours and

44:48

so my opening question to him was really

44:50

broad it was um how are you and please

44:52

give me the long answer and you have to

44:55

be honest and he literally for the first

44:56

time ever in his life when do you know

44:58

what I'm feeling really lonely right now

45:00

and for him to say that a guy like that

45:02

to say that was like whoa and if I had

45:06

sat down with my okay today we're going

45:07

to talk about management strategies I

45:09

totally would have missed one of my

45:10

favorite conversations of all time um

45:12

but you have to have a lot of trust in

45:13

yourself this is what I've come to learn

45:14

as a podcaster to be able to sit down

45:17

without any questions written down here

45:19

and to ask a really open-ended question

45:21

and then to try and follow them like

45:23

wherever they might take you well that's

45:25

what's what's interesting is that one of

45:26

your super hours as a podcaster is that

45:28

you have a

45:29

plan but you don't always stick rigidly

45:32

to your plan you go wherever the guest

45:34

takes you you go where Simon synic takes

45:36

you right I've taken you down this long

45:38

path about living in a shed that I'm

45:40

sure was not on your agenda and I'm sure

45:43

lost a good half of the people that we

45:44

were talking to early on

45:46

but my point with all that is just to

45:50

say you you practice what is called

45:54

courage and courage is courage is a word

45:57

that is definable and people don't often

45:59

take the time to really Define what

46:00

courage is courage is doing the thing

46:05

that you're afraid of that is courage so

46:09

going off script and asking a question

46:12

coming in unprepared for a podcast those

46:14

are things that cause you a little bit

46:14

of fear a little bit of anxiety you're

46:16

like I don't know how this is going to

46:16

turn out but you do it anyways one of

46:20

the major differences between

46:21

entrepreneurs and aspirational

46:23

entrepreneurs is that entrepreneurs have

46:25

the courage to try and aspirational

46:28

entrepreneurs are always talking about

46:30

the day that they will have the courage

46:32

to try trust comes into this right

46:34

because um part of the reason that I can

46:37

sit down with someone for three hours

46:38

and not necessarily have a I've never

46:39

had a question written down but not even

46:40

have an idea of where the conversation's

46:42

going to go is because I have so many

46:44

case studies that it's been fine in the

46:45

past and it's it's it's those case

46:47

studies that have built up this sort of

46:49

self trust that enables me to sit down

46:51

and go how are you and then they they go

46:53

off about loneliness and we spend three

46:54

hour talking about loneliness but that

46:55

comes from that initial Trust I think I

46:57

think trust is a good word trust is self

46:59

trust I'm trying yeah yeah self trust or

47:01

or confidence those are good words to

47:03

use but I would almost challenge that

47:05

what you're really talking about is

47:07

you're you're

47:09

gambling on odds that you've learned or

47:12

in your

47:13

favor right it's kind of like when you

47:15

think about a professional athlete

47:17

professional athletes do some amazing

47:21

movements sometimes they make the score

47:23

and sometimes they don't but what

47:25

happens is when make the score doing an

47:28

amazing movement that's what we all

47:29

remember when they miss the shot doing

47:31

the amazing movement nobody remembers

47:32

that right nobody remembers how many

47:35

basketball shots Dennis Rodman didn't

47:38

make right they just remember something

47:40

else about Dennis Rodman Arnold

47:42

Schwarzenegger has his famous quote

47:43

where he he he made lots of movies we

47:46

all remember our favorite Arnold

47:49

Schwarzenegger movie but how many of his

47:52

bad movies do you remember not many and

47:55

he knows that too and that's one of the

47:57

reasons that he said yes to so many

47:58

movies was because he learned early on

48:01

in his bodybuilding career that nobody

48:03

remembers when you lose but they always

48:05

remember when you win so he had no

48:08

problem making a bunch of movies because

48:10

the one or two or three or 12 or 18 that

48:12

became Blockbusters were the ones that

48:14

defined him even though he also did

48:15

Kindergarten Cop I mean that that's

48:17

quite a good

48:19

um that's quite a good concept to hold

48:22

in your mind if you're trying to weigh

48:24

up any sort of risk in your life like

48:25

the risk of leaving this show that we

48:27

were talking about correct you're you're

48:29

taking a chance you're taking a gamble

48:31

but here's the thing we're conditioned

48:33

in our shed we're conditioned to gamble

48:35

on the

48:36

system right if you're going to roll the

48:38

dice at least roll the dice that the

48:41

system gives you right bet on the house

48:44

because the house is going to

48:46

win what we really learn as

48:48

entrepreneurs is to gamble on ourselves

48:51

like bet on you how many people take

48:54

every dollar they earn and they invest

48:57

it in a brokerage that's managed by

49:00

somebody else that is targeting an 8%

49:03

return on investment MH that's what they

49:05

do with every dollar of their life my my

49:09

mother-in-law just recently retired

49:10

about three and a half or four weeks ago

49:12

she is what do you have to be to retire

49:14

69 I think so she's 67 or 68 years old

49:18

she's worked her entire life her primary

49:21

investment vehicles I [ __ ] you not are

49:23

CDs it's a device in the investment

49:25

world where you basically put your money

49:28

in for a certain amount of time and it

49:30

guarantees you a certain yield and that

49:31

yield is usually very very low but that

49:34

was her preferred investment vehicle so

49:37

for the 69 years or the or the uh 50

49:40

years that she's been working she's been

49:42

investing in these low

49:43

performance certificates of deposit

49:46

CD that is exactly the kind of thinking

49:49

that was conditioned into her by the

49:51

generation before her that's where she

49:53

learned about CDs at all that's why she

49:54

bought her first CD at 16 years old was

49:56

because Mom and Dad told her to do that

49:58

so here it is 2024 she's retiring and

50:01

all of the money that she saved is

50:03

basically in these certificates of

50:04

deposit which is not a lot of money

50:06

really yes because it doesn't grow

50:09

whereas I invest in my company and my

50:12

return has been 300% M and entrepreneurs

50:16

even entrepreneurs who don't grow

50:18

quickly still see 12% return on

50:21

investment 15% return on investment 20%

50:24

return on investment which outperforms

50:26

anything in the

50:27

Market but you still have these people

50:29

who don't want to gamble on themselves

50:32

because they're afraid that the house

50:34

will

50:35

win who can't be taught the things that

50:38

you teach in terms of the CIA skills and

50:40

everything you teach within everyday spy

50:41

there's a lot of people out there who

50:43

already who right out of the gates had a

50:45

circle drawn around them that CIA is

50:47

some kind of deep state conspiracy kills

50:51

Americans sells children steals drugs

50:54

kind of organization are they wrong

50:56

[Laughter]

50:59

maybe there was a CIA that did that once

51:01

but my point is those people are never

51:03

going to believe what I have to teach

51:04

them there are threads all over the

51:07

Internet about how I'm a fake and a

51:08

phony and a fraudster and and there's

51:11

even there's for every one of those

51:13

threads there are also threads that talk

51:15

about how I'm a plant how I'm still a CA

51:18

officer I did read that in the comment

51:19

section isn't that funny quite funny so

51:21

there's like there's both sides these

51:23

are people who cannot they'll never be

51:25

open to learn they're not willing to

51:26

learn how do I know you're not still a

51:28

CIA officer does it matter no it doesn't

51:31

it doesn't matter if you get if you can

51:33

take the information and test the

51:34

framework and get ahead does it matter

51:37

well actually maybe if the fra okay you

51:39

said you're the right point there you

51:40

said test it myself because you could be

51:43

teaching me things that are going to

51:44

just keep me trapped in The Matrix

51:46

because you know but I don't want you

51:49

trapped in The Matrix but I don't know

51:50

that you could still be a CIA spy I

51:52

could be but the key thing you said is

51:54

that you're giving them to me to test

51:56

for myself so I get the results to check

51:58

right whether what you're teaching me is

52:00

positive or negative productive or not

52:02

productive correct and that's that's

52:03

what really drives me what drives me is

52:06

this vision of a future that's good for

52:08

my children and the future that's good

52:10

for my children is a future where the

52:12

United States is still the most powerful

52:14

economy in the world still the most

52:15

powerful military in the world and

52:19

according to all

52:20

reports that is not what will happen by

52:23

2035 by 2035 we will be at parity with

52:28

at least another country most likely

52:30

China and as we reach parity what that

52:33

means is you reach equality as you reach

52:35

equality your superpower status goes

52:38

away you are no longer a superpower you

52:41

are a near peer power or a near peer

52:44

competitor it's very different than

52:46

being a superpower why does it matter

52:49

because when there's competition there's

52:52

more uncertainty there's more

52:54

unpredictability there's more Danger

52:56

there's more risk there's less

52:58

opportunity think about the starting

53:01

quarterback for a football team he's the

53:04

starting quarterback he is the person he

53:07

is the the player that will start the

53:10

game that will have the football and

53:11

nobody questions it there's a lot of

53:13

opportunity there for that person but as

53:15

soon as they start to be unpredictable

53:18

as soon as there's a new star a new

53:19

quarterback that comes in and threatens

53:21

the existing quarterback now we don't

53:23

really know who's going to start and the

53:24

team doesn't really know who's going to

53:26

start and then for all we know the team

53:28

is going to have two different

53:29

quarterbacks that that swap in and out

53:31

throughout the entire game and the whole

53:32

team performs worse because they don't

53:34

know how to predict the quarterback

53:36

because the new quarterback or the old

53:37

quarterback isn't the one that's always

53:39

throwing the ball so there's there's an

53:41

uncertainty that comes as a as

53:44

competition arises it's why business

53:47

owners want to be in a business of one

53:49

it's why there's such a thing as a blue

53:51

ocean marketing strategy versus a red

53:54

ocean marketing strategy because when

53:55

you're in a blue ocean when you have no

53:58

competitors around you your business

54:00

will most likely Thrive you have room to

54:02

make mistakes you can learn slowly but

54:05

when you're in a highly competitive red

54:06

ocean you don't get any of those

54:09

opportunities what does history tell us

54:11

about how changing the changing of the

54:14

God as it relates to world

54:16

power what the dangers might be for the

54:20

average

54:22

person it's a great question and this is

54:24

where I want to re-emphasize my lack of

54:27

altruism right because what does

54:29

altruism mean for anyone that doesn't

54:31

know so altruism is is this idea that

54:33

you care about other people or that you

54:34

care about a common good right I I don't

54:37

care about a common good care about

54:39

other people I care about some other

54:41

people your children

54:44

correct my family my friends the people

54:46

that I think are making a difference and

54:48

that's just the way it is why will some

54:50

people not be willing to learn what I

54:52

teach them because they will disagree

54:54

with my ethics and my morals about how I

54:56

don't care about all people equally well

54:58

I just I prefer I like the fact that

54:59

you're honest so I mean that makes me

55:01

trust you more so I appreciate that yeah

55:03

so if you look at history Rome was

55:07

really good for Romans for a long long

55:09

time the fall of Rome was bad for

55:12

everybody the transition was bad for

55:16

everybody coming out of World War II

55:20

right when you were a Nazi in Nazi

55:22

Germany things were pretty good right

55:26

but then when Nazi Germany fell it was

55:28

bad for a lot of people there was a lot

55:30

of War there was a lot of death there

55:32

was a lot of starvation multiple

55:33

countries had been destroyed there was a

55:35

war there was a transition of power same

55:37

thing happened at fall of Soviet Union

55:39

the you in that War I was watching a

55:40

documentary about it the other day it

55:41

was interesting because I watched both

55:42

the sort of Soviet Union rush into

55:43

Berlin and I was America rushed into

55:45

Berlin they kind of they both um took

55:48

different parts of Germany and then once

55:50

they taken down the Nazis they kind of

55:51

went to war with each other correct

55:53

because they then were trying to figure

55:54

out who was in charge of Germany and how

55:55

they were going toct divy up land so

55:57

there was another War basically like a

55:59

civil war following the and the same

56:01

thing happened in China the same thing

56:02

happened as as our Pacific forces kind

56:05

of work their way up through Japan there

56:07

became conflict in the east as well

56:09

right so transition periods where nearer

56:14

countries or where countries become

56:15

near-peer competitors that's not people

56:18

don't stop competing as the competition

56:21

increases like what's what's happening

56:23

in the world right now in Ukraine and

56:24

Russia in in Israel with Hamas with the

56:28

houthis and with the Iranians like

56:30

what's happening is competition is on

56:31

the rise so everything becomes less

56:34

stable Things become more dangerous when

56:36

there's a clear bully in the playground

56:40

there's only one bully and nobody has to

56:41

mess with the bully and it's a bad day

56:43

for anyone the bully messes with but for

56:45

the most part everybody else is good but

56:48

what happens when there's two bullies

56:50

[ __ ] gets messy the bullies make posies

56:54

the Posies have to fight with each other

56:56

other more people get hurt more Rabel

56:58

rousing happens in the playground than

56:59

when there's just one

57:01

bully so for me the United States is the

57:04

bully on the playground and I as an

57:07

American citizen am living in a place

57:10

where it's pretty good to be on the

57:11

bully side so for me pragmatically

57:14

speaking if I want the best for my

57:16

children what I really need is for the

57:18

United States to remain the only bully

57:20

so then I can have some impotence some

57:22

some confidence that their future will

57:23

be secure do you think the war in the

57:26

Ukraine and Russia is a symptom of the

57:29

changing in power because it's kind of

57:32

like a proxy war right you've got

57:33

Ukraine is actually the USA and Russia

57:35

is actually kind of China to some degree

57:38

so I would say it's not kind of a proxy

57:40

war it's a full-on proxy war you're

57:42

you're 100% right I didn't even know

57:42

what proxy war is I just use that term

57:44

because it sounded smart well it does

57:45

sound smart it is smart proxy war is a

57:48

Doctrine it's an actual military

57:49

doctrine that says that you create

57:52

what's known as interstate conflict

57:54

which means conflict in internal to a

57:56

state and then external wealth parties

58:01

fund the conflict in the state that way

58:03

the two external parties that are in

58:05

Conflict don't have to waste any lives

58:08

it protects them diplomatically it

58:09

protects them socially it protects them

58:11

militarily they're only spending

58:13

resources in an interstate conflict the

58:16

interstate conflict has always been

58:17

inside Ukraine eastern Ukraine and

58:18

Western Ukraine have always been in

58:19

Conflict we just didn't realize it until

58:21

Russia invaded because nobody paid

58:22

attention to Ukraine same thing in

58:24

Israel there's always been conflict

58:26

between the Palestinians and the

58:27

Israelis we just didn't really pay

58:28

attention to it until until October 8th

58:31

so the the conflict that you're talking

58:34

about is is not a symptom it's a

58:38

strategy and the strategy is that the

58:41

United States can drain Russian

58:43

resources without draining American

58:46

lives which makes it easy for the United

58:48

States to continue draining strategic

58:51

resources from Russia and then NATO is

58:54

watching the same thing happen and

58:55

NATO's the one that has the most to lose

58:57

if Russia is strong so then that's why

59:00

they also Pile in support that's the

59:02

strategy that has been the United States

59:04

strategy since the end of World War II

59:07

who rebuilt Japan the United States who

59:11

rebuilt the UK the United States who

59:13

rebuilt Germany who rebuilt France all

59:16

the United States is it any surprise

59:18

that all of these countries since World

59:19

War Two have then been close diplomatic

59:22

political and economic allies no and

59:25

guess what they all have they all have

59:27

very similar sheds because we built

59:30

their political systems from World War

59:33

II based on ours right that's the

59:36

American model that's been how America

59:38

has grown economically so quickly all

59:40

over the world guess who's mimicking

59:42

that model

59:43

now China the real conflict between the

59:47

United States and China nobody can

59:49

Define it Trump calls it a trade War

59:52

because we have a bunch of cheap Chinese

59:54

Goods that's not the problem

59:56

the problem is that Xin

59:58

ping understands that what he wants for

60:01

China is for China to be an a net

60:04

exporter of high

60:05

technology who's the only other high ex

60:08

net exporter of high

60:10

technology the United States the United

60:13

States makes electric vehicles China

60:14

makes electric vehicles United States

60:16

makes telecommunication China makes

60:18

telecommunication that's the conflict

60:20

because what China is doing is giving

60:21

the rest of the developing World an

60:23

alternative to the United States well if

60:25

just like any other business if I make

60:27

coffee and you make coffee we're in

60:29

competition for the person who wants to

60:32

buy coffee so now we're fighting over

60:34

that person whoever wins that person

60:36

wins more money whoever wins that person

60:38

wins repeat buyers and now I might lose

60:41

my company my coffee shop might shrink

60:43

and your coffee shop might grow because

60:45

this person is choosing your coffee when

60:46

it used to be only mine was

60:48

available

60:51

so who is better for America Joe Biden

60:55

or Donald Trump neither they are both

60:58

bad for America in different ways who is

61:01

more likely to prolong American

61:05

dominance Donald Trump of the two Donald

61:09

Trump of the two here here's what I'm

61:11

going to tell you I had this thought

61:13

last night and I was going to make it a

61:15

video for my own channel but my channel

61:16

is nowhere near as enjoyable as your

61:18

channel you put it on yours as

61:21

well there is only one Democrat in the

61:23

United States who can beat Donald Trump

61:26

only one nobody else stands a chance

61:28

Democratic party is struggling to accept

61:29

that nobody can beat Donald Trump it's

61:32

only one that can win and that's

61:34

Michelle Obama I did think this because

61:37

I mean I would say Barack but obviously

61:38

he can't because he's done his eight

61:39

years but Michelle I I I do agree and

61:41

she doesn't want anything to do with it

61:43

she said she said in early July she

61:47

wanted nothing to do with it but what's

61:50

happened since early July there's been

61:52

the assassination attempt on Donald

61:53

Trump the assassination attempt turned

61:55

into this incredible media frenzy now

61:57

you have this guy with blood on his face

61:59

and a fist in the air and a flag behind

62:00

him you have a pullitzer prizewinning

62:02

photo already floating around the

62:04

internet with this guy on it right

62:06

everything

62:08

changed there's no way Michelle Obama

62:10

isn't sitting in her

62:12

room multiple times a day asking herself

62:16

the question do I still want nothing to

62:19

do with this or do I have to step up to

62:21

the plate to do what I believe is the

62:23

right thing to do because only I can do

62:24

it think about the questions Barack

62:27

Obama must ask Michelle Obama think

62:29

about The Silence the pregnant silence

62:31

around their kitchen table at night

62:33

think about how heavy they must be

62:36

thinking right now because they know

62:38

what I just said out loud that you knew

62:41

yesterday there's only one Democrat that

62:43

can beat Donald Trump and maybe in July

62:46

3D she said she wanted nothing to do

62:48

with it but now it's July

62:51

20th and if she really believes in this

62:54

country how is she not G to rise to the

62:56

occasion how is she gonna sit back and

62:59

let the future of her daughters rest in

63:03

the hands of somebody she doesn't

63:04

believe in because the truth is if she

63:06

were to run

63:09

overnight she would have the complete

63:12

support of the entire Democratic

63:13

National Convention every donor who has

63:16

already donated money would let their

63:17

money stay with her and probably donate

63:19

more Women Voters African-American

63:22

voters voters that were on the fence

63:23

voters that are looking for any

63:25

alternative to Donald Trump or Joe Biden

63:27

they would all get their answers given

63:28

to them at once not to mention the fact

63:31

that she's brilliant she's esteemed

63:34

she's youthful like everything that

63:38

America stands for is represented in

63:40

Michelle Obama just as much as what we

63:43

say America stands for is represented by

63:44

Donald Trump so if Michelle Obama is

63:47

announced at the Democratic National

63:49

Convention I'm glad we had this

63:51

conversation you do you do you think

63:54

that's possible absolutely it's possible

63:56

I don't think it's probable okay but I

63:58

do think it's possible and I can't help

64:00

but have the Hope in our country that

64:05

the few who are willing to

64:08

learn will step up and accept that they

64:10

have to gamble on themselves do you

64:12

think that Michelle Obama would increase

64:15

the probability and the length of

64:17

America's dominance versus Trump

64:19

absolutely it would just be in a

64:20

different way Donald Trump grows through

64:24

bravado and brings manip he grows like a

64:27

bully grows but what we've learned about

64:30

the United States is that our bullish

64:32

strategy our bully strategy that we've

64:34

been employing since

64:36

1950 is a game of diminishing returns we

64:41

invest a lot into it but we lose

64:44

influence we lose Global reach we lose

64:47

power we're losing economic might they

64:50

say that China's having an economic

64:51

recession right now at 4.5% growth GDP

64:55

we at 1.3% growth

64:57

GDP nobody's talking about our recession

65:00

because our recession has been on so

65:01

long it's not a recession anymore it's

65:03

just the United States doesn't grow more

65:04

than really 3% China used to grew at 5%

65:07

so when it goes from 5% to 4% it's a big

65:10

deal for

65:11

people our model is already broken our

65:13

our model already doesn't work so all

65:15

Donald Trump is going to do is come in

65:17

and double down on that model because

65:19

he's only got four years in the house

65:21

he's only got four years in the white

65:22

house and he knows it so he's not out

65:24

there to Revolution America he's not out

65:26

there to revolutionize the United States

65:28

like he's out there for Donald Trump I

65:30

think he believes he'll do a good job I

65:32

think he believes he's best for America

65:34

I think he believes that that being a

65:36

bully is the way to

65:38

go but that doesn't mean he's right that

65:41

doesn't mean it's going to be

65:42

exponential return on investment it

65:44

could be a continuing game of

65:45

diminishing returns Michelle Obama has

65:48

the opportunity to do it differently as

65:51

long as she doesn't come in just paring

65:53

the Joe Biden and Barack Obama School of

65:56

thought what would what do you think she

65:58

would need to say to meet America's

66:00

ideology right now I think she could

66:02

Define America's ideology right now I

66:04

don't think she'd have to meet it I

66:06

think America is lost America has been

66:08

looking down the barrel of the 2024

66:10

election for a long time knowing it was

66:13

going to boil down to Trump versus Biden

66:16

knowing that it was going to boil down

66:18

to an octogenarian who can't form a

66:21

sentence from a stage sometimes or a

66:25

crazy ass businessman who when he forms

66:29

a sentence it's a nonsensical sentence

66:31

like that's what we've been looking at

66:33

that's that's been the choice doesn't

66:35

really feel like it's a choice anymore

66:37

it's no because after Trump got shot in

66:40

the ear I think I mean I watched those

66:42

scenes as well and I thought yeah this

66:44

guy's won he won and that's the he and

66:47

everybody knows it if you're not willing

66:49

to admit it that's fine everybody knows

66:51

he won the election on that day the day

66:53

he survived that shooting in Butler

66:54

Pennsylvania July 13th he won the 2024

66:57

election

66:59

unless something even more disruptive

67:04

happens in the marketplace between now

67:06

and November 5th Michelle Obama has the

67:09

power to do that if you were his in his

67:12

marketing team and you were desperate

67:15

you would have shot him in the air that

67:16

day wouldn't you no no way the risk is

67:19

too great I mean if you if you knew it

67:21

was going to hit his ear and you in his

67:23

marketing team you would have shot him

67:24

in the ear that day like if I I because

67:26

that was as we both said he won the

67:28

election that day yeah and he won the

67:29

election because he many people will now

67:31

see him as some kind of

67:33

hero so I I'll tell you how a CI officer

67:36

thinks about this right if you wanted to

67:38

Stage an attempted

67:40

assassination if that's what you want to

67:41

do was stage an attempt at assassination

67:43

you would never shoot at the person who

67:47

was the principal you would shoot away

67:50

shoot up in the principle the principle

67:52

is the primary target that you're trying

67:54

to support right so Donald Trump was the

67:57

principal if I was trying to Stage an

67:59

assassination to give to win him popular

68:02

praise I would not shoot at him because

68:04

the risk is too great that the shot

68:06

would either Miss and hit him possibly

68:10

hit him fatally or it would miss him and

68:12

hit someone in the audience and then a

68:14

rally member dies and now we have to

68:16

account for why somebody at the rally

68:17

died like people were killed and people

68:19

were hurt at the at the Donald Trump

68:21

rally in Butler Pennsylvania if you

68:22

wanted to Stage an assassination you

68:23

would shoot 3540 de off Target well away

68:27

from anybody accidentally getting hit

68:28

because what's going to happen

68:29

everybody's going to hear the gunshots

68:31

so the gunshots will still cause the

68:32

Panic the Secret Service would still

68:35

jump in they'd still cover him there'd

68:37

still be all the same news worthiness

68:40

without the risk of killing somebody and

68:43

if you really really wanted to make it

68:45

like so it it made headlines you could

68:48

even potentially stage some kind of cut

68:50

that's covered up with a small skin

68:52

colored Band-Aid so that when the shots

68:54

go off you can wipe off or pull off the

68:56

Band-Aid and then there's going to be

68:57

active red spots right you would never

68:59

actually shoot at the principal that's

69:01

what people don't understand about

69:03

conspiracies is that when you actually

69:05

plan to carry out a covert action you

69:08

plan to carry out the covert action in

69:09

the safest possible way you don't run

69:11

the risk of actually shooting the

69:12

principal so but let's play out the

69:14

scenario that it was a conspiracy so

69:17

what could have happened there and I I I

69:18

was in an office the other day one of

69:20

the companies that I'm involved with and

69:22

there was a group of people C gathered

69:24

around a laptop watching the footage and

69:26

half of the people thought it was some

69:27

kind of conspiracy and that maybe he

69:29

fell down and then like cut his own ear

69:32

and then the other half of the people

69:33

thought that that was that was craziness

69:35

what side of the fence do you sit on you

69:36

think it was a real shooter I think it

69:38

was a real shooter I absolutely think it

69:40

was a real shooter the the principles

69:42

that CIA teaches us about how to analyze

69:44

a situation are twofold they teach us

69:46

how to analyze a situation but they also

69:48

teach us how to predict a conspiracy and

69:51

conspiracies have a very clear Anatomy

69:53

they have a very clear process all

69:55

conspiracies start with something that

69:57

is factual something really does happen

70:01

and then immediately following the

70:02

factual thing there's a lack of

70:05

information inside of that lack of in of

70:08

information the third piece of the

70:11

puzzle is

70:13

speculation now speculation and

70:16

suspicion are very close cousins

70:19

suspicion is healthy right you've heard

70:21

of healthy suspicion speculation is not

70:24

healthy specul ation is what it takes

70:26

for you to create an answer to a story

70:28

that's not based on facts which is where

70:30

the fourth element of a conspiracy comes

70:32

from a a story that closes the loop

70:35

because when there's information missing

70:37

it creates an open loop well guess what

70:39

human brains like conveniently closed

70:42

Loops so we can't handle an open loop

70:44

very well for very long so then we start

70:47

speculating on what might have happened

70:48

until someone defines for us an answer

70:51

and then all of a sudden you have an

70:52

answer that closes the loop and you have

70:53

a conspiracy

70:55

conspiracies happen all the time

70:56

conspiracies happen in your own home

70:58

who's the last one that ate the who ate

71:00

the last piece of bread right who's the

71:02

one that drank the last bit of milk how

71:05

is there how are there no more eggs left

71:06

in the refrigerator right lack of

71:08

information leads to speculation and

71:09

then we close a loop with a story in our

71:11

mind when you look at what happened in

71:13

Butler Pennsylvania there's all the

71:16

elements for a for a conspiracy there's

71:18

facts a lack of information speculation

71:22

and somebody's closing the story Loop

71:24

and all these different spires are

71:25

gaining momentum but when you look at

71:27

the factual analysis of what happened

71:30

there are pictures there are diagrams

71:32

there's there's a Corps of a 20-year-old

71:35

shooter holding a high powerered rifle

71:37

on top of a roof aimed at the stage

71:40

there's reports of local sheriff and

71:42

local police officers being notified of

71:44

that there's bystanders who have

71:46

reported that there's there's technology

71:48

that's been that's been uh employed to

71:50

verify that there's enough facts there

71:52

to know that there really was someone

71:55

who was Young by name who took a shot at

71:58

the president that's what we know guess

72:01

what happens tomorrow we learn more we

72:05

don't have to know all the answers today

72:07

more information will come as soon as

72:10

Donald Trump was shot I called up one of

72:11

my friends who's a who's a secret

72:13

service a retired Secret Service Officer

72:16

and I said to

72:17

him that from my point of view from what

72:20

I understand about close protection

72:22

everything was done pretty close to

72:24

right

72:25

there's always gaps always gaps at any

72:29

kind of political rally that's why

72:30

they're dangerous you can't make it 100%

72:32

secure that's why there's snipers on the

72:34

roof there's not snipers on the roof

72:36

because they're they feel like the

72:37

grounds are safe there's snipers on the

72:39

roof because they know that there's gaps

72:41

there's not Secret Service on the sides

72:43

of the stage carrying guns because they

72:45

think that they're safe there's Secret

72:46

Service on the sides of the stage

72:47

because they know that there's gaps of

72:49

course there's gaps you can't you can't

72:50

manage all

72:51

risks the person took a shot from over

72:54

400 feet 400 ft is a long difficult shot

72:58

empirically it's a long difficult shot

73:00

even though the newspapers come out and

73:02

say it's a turkey shoot or an easy shot

73:04

or a standard shot or a basic shot it is

73:06

not any hunter out there will tell you

73:08

400 yards is a difficult shot and you

73:11

have to have a high-powered rifle built

73:14

for that kind of distance to shoot that

73:15

length so there's all kinds of

73:17

misinformation that's going around as

73:19

people try to spin up a story so for me

73:22

it was a real assassination attempt by a

73:24

real person whose motives are still

73:27

unknown I was I was listening to

73:29

something and the person was saying that

73:31

maybe this you know the CIA or some

73:34

somebody infiltrated this young man and

73:36

you know encouraged him over a period of

73:38

time to get up there on that roof and

73:40

all these kinds of things the the heart

73:43

of the problem here is we don't we don't

73:45

we're quite distrusting and we don't

73:47

have answers and most of us aren't

73:50

informed so there's basically the small

73:52

life that we live and then above us we

73:54

see like billionaires and powerful

73:56

people and we hear that they do and or

73:58

have historically done very nefarious

74:01

malicious things and that becomes our

74:04

sort of shed is that we are the average

74:07

person and then up there outside the

74:09

shed there's all these billionaires

74:10

powerful illuminarti and they are doing

74:13

these really malicious things now in

74:15

part that's

74:16

true but maybe only in part and we kind

74:19

of assume this broad strr approach to

74:21

anything that happens and we go

74:23

government Matrix

74:25

conspiracy um and you know the C CIA

74:28

does have history of doing things like

74:31

this true true we we're coming into a a

74:36

conversation that's twofold one we're

74:37

talking about a pre- 911

74:40

CIA pre- 911 post 911 is important to to

74:44

create a distinction for CIA because

74:47

prior to September 11th CIA was a small

74:51

highly

74:52

funded organization with very little

74:55

oversight they could come up with crazy

74:57

stuff like trying to you know trying to

75:00

poison Fidel Castro so his his beard

75:02

fell out or trying to create the Bay of

75:04

Pigs invasion or trying to do all sorts

75:06

of wacky stuff from you know MK Ultra to

75:09

whatever else that was a wacky pre- 911

75:13

unsupervised Wild West kind of CIA post

75:18

911 the 911 Commission written in 2003

75:21

highlighted that CIA failed to do its

75:23

job for September 11th so now there's

75:25

tons of oversight it's now a very large

75:28

very fat well-funded

75:31

bureaucracy whereas before it was a

75:34

well-funded free-for-all if it was a

75:36

conspiracy which department or which

75:38

organization would be responsible in

75:41

your opinion if it was a conspiracy

75:43

there would be no Department in charge

75:45

of the conspiracy so it would be

75:47

something else correct right because

75:51

when governments act when individuals in

75:53

a government act in a conspiratorial

75:57

manner it's not formalized if it was

75:59

formalized it would be a policy right

76:02

they act independently and there's all

76:04

sorts of instances where people act

76:06

independently from from Edward Snowden

76:09

all the way to aldri GES right there are

76:11

people who actually carried out

76:13

conspiratorial efforts to try to gain

76:16

some kind of Leverage that worked for

76:18

them for a while and then worked against

76:19

them if that bullet had hit Donald Trump

76:23

in the head how do you think the US

76:26

would be

76:28

different I was thinking about this when

76:29

I was driving down the street yesterday

76:31

it's hard to Define that really I was

76:33

thinking we probably wouldn't be sat

76:34

here now because there probably would

76:35

have been quite bit of unrest

76:37

potentially potentially I don't know I

76:39

don't know like I it it would have I

76:42

think we would have still been sitting

76:43

here I was wondering I would have gotten

76:45

my ass on a plane to come sit with you

76:46

at

76:48

least right so you never know how these

76:50

sort of domino effects can happen and

76:52

people can break out on the streets and

76:54

you know cuz what might happen let's

76:55

just play out the scenario Donald Trump

76:57

gets shot then some crazy right-wing

77:00

person comes out and shoots someone

77:02

else and then and then the streets of LA

77:04

look very different to the streets of LA

77:06

today and we sat here in La so do you

77:08

know what I mean that's kind of the

77:09

domino effect that was playing out in my

77:10

mind there'd be some kind of Revenge

77:12

right well I don't know that's what's

77:13

interesting so politically motivated

77:15

violence is tough if Donald Trump would

77:17

have been shot chances are the shooter

77:19

would have also been shot so from the

77:22

eyes of the American people and for sure

77:24

from the from the messaging that would

77:25

have come from the White House the

77:27

threat was neutralized and it's a

77:29

tragedy that we lost an American a

77:31

former American president Donald or Joe

77:34

Biden would have come out and would have

77:35

made kind caring remarks about Donald

77:37

Trump nobody would be talking about him

77:39

as crazy or whatever else he'd go down

77:41

as a hero following the Democratic

77:43

process for something he believed in

77:45

history would have been written a very

77:46

different way oh I don't know because I

77:48

think if Donald Trump had been hit I

77:50

mean this is just from chilling on

77:51

Twitter if Donald Trump had been hereit

77:54

regardless of whether that kid had been

77:55

shot and regardless of whatever people

77:58

would have believed that it was some

78:00

kind of deep State CIA left wing Hillary

78:03

Clinton involvement even if there was a

78:06

body fingerprints and they found the

78:07

kids hard drive and he was planning it

78:08

there's a group of people that still

78:09

would have believed that Absolut like

78:11

because there's a group of group of

78:12

people is you know that believe anything

78:14

correct and that group someone in that

78:15

group of people would have taken a

78:16

retaliatory action and then that this

78:18

this starts the stone throwing that I

78:20

think so they would have you know gone

78:21

they would might have been they might

78:22

have gone to a left

78:25

I don't know black uh event festival and

78:29

done something and then you have the the

78:32

ti for tat I don't I don't disagree that

78:34

it's a it's a possibility but the

78:36

question is whether or not a group would

78:38

have reached critical mass to take some

78:40

kind of action okay yeah right because I

78:42

mean think about the alternative the

78:43

alternative is is the streets of you

78:47

name the conservative State Texas

78:49

Florida whatever Pennsylvania maybe a

78:52

giant parade Fit For A King

78:55

right parading Donald Trump through the

78:57

streets something that and and Donal and

78:59

Joe Biden happily endorsing the money

79:02

for it to happen because he's an

79:03

ex-president and because that's showing

79:06

like unity and nationality it could have

79:08

been a chance to really bring the whole

79:10

country together and end some of the

79:13

bipolar division it could have there

79:15

would have still been just like you said

79:17

there would have been a group of people

79:18

who believed in some sort of deep State

79:19

action and there may have been follow-up

79:20

violence you're right again I think all

79:22

of those things are possibilities but it

79:24

is also Al a possibility that it would

79:26

have gone in the other direction there

79:28

still would have had to be a new a new

79:30

candidate identified by the Republican

79:32

National Convention so things would have

79:33

gone differently from that day very

79:35

interesting so going back to the shed

79:37

the person's come out of the shed they

79:39

understand this idea of perspective and

79:41

perception I'm really what I'm really

79:42

trying to get out here is I'm trying to

79:44

help people get out of the life they're

79:45

living that they hate and closer towards

79:48

the life that is aligned in whatever way

79:50

they Define alignment as so that they

79:53

can live the life they want to live so

79:54

they can start to kind of bend the world

79:56

in their favor and I use this term bend

79:58

the world intentionally because it's

79:59

something that I've come to learn in the

80:01

entrepreneurs that I've met and just the

80:02

people that seem to have the most power

80:04

they understand that the world they live

80:06

in is malleable and maybe that's the

80:08

analogy of being able to break out of

80:09

your shed but they understand that they

80:11

can like have an idea pursue the thing

80:13

and kind of convince their way to a goal

80:16

bend the world out of their way and

80:18

that's kind of what I want to equip the

80:19

people that are listening right now with

80:20

that ability to kind of bend the world

80:23

out of your way or to the shape in which

80:25

you want it to be I've got two things

80:27

that come to mind right the first is

80:29

there's this lesson that I learned at

80:31

CIA that I still teach now in my

80:32

training with Executives and individuals

80:34

and

80:35

entrepreneurs

80:37

where CIA warns us not to get tracked

80:40

not to get trapped in What's called the

80:42

Perfection

80:43

Paradox and the Perfection Paradox is

80:45

not the same thing as perfectionism the

80:47

Perfection Paradox is the idea that you

80:50

keep making incremental improvements to

80:53

a plan

80:55

but you never actually act on the plan

80:57

so you're seeking Perfection and you're

80:59

making genuine improvements but you're

81:02

not actually taking action so the impact

81:05

of your improvements is not felt so they

81:09

warn us against getting trapped in this

81:11

Perfection Paradox because you can

81:12

imagine if you're planning an operation

81:14

for whatever it's very very easy to just

81:16

start how do we make it this 5% better

81:19

how do we make it 2% better how do we

81:21

make it 1% better what if tomorrow's

81:22

intelligence gives us new information

81:24

what if intelligence the next day gives

81:26

us better information so you get trapped

81:28

in this Paradox and instead what they

81:30

tell us to do is engage in something

81:32

called the uh called Excellence through

81:36

execution Excellence through execution

81:38

is the idea that by executing you will

81:41

make mistakes and then you will improve

81:44

upon the mistakes because you will

81:45

execute again so Your Excellence comes

81:48

from

81:49

execution after 911 as a simple example

81:52

after 911 President Bush declared war

81:56

people were immediately deployed to the

81:58

mountains of Afghanistan and Pakistan

82:01

immediately did they plan an operation

82:03

yes in about 48 hours and then they were

82:06

deployed and then you had paramilitary

82:09

people on Horseback with mules carrying

82:11

stuff through the mountains the only way

82:14

that's possible is

82:16

through Excellence through execution get

82:19

them on the ground and let them figure

82:21

it out from there because the stakes are

82:23

so high the impact has to be felt right

82:25

now so to your question how do we give

82:29

people the ability to bend the rules

82:31

bend the world around them it's

82:34

understanding that there is excellence

82:35

and execution and also understanding

82:38

that there is a paradox with perfection

82:42

so if you want to feel the impact you

82:44

can't keep planning you have to take

82:46

action and you have to understand that

82:48

the action you take may only be 20% of

82:50

what it will be one day but today you

82:54

take the lumps you make the mistakes and

82:56

you get the impact that you need the

82:58

second thing that came to my mind is

83:00

actually coming from a I have a ctim

83:01

millionaire client that I work with

83:02

frequently and he was talking about this

83:05

idea of centimillionaire I've never had

83:07

that term before I know what it is yeah

83:09

yeah I have a ctim millionaire client

83:10

who who was working with me on a on a

83:13

process to try to resolve some of the

83:17

challenges that he was having from from

83:19

the trauma that he was wired that was

83:20

wired in him as a kid right and how that

83:22

trauma has played out in his personal

83:24

life and his business life and

83:25

everything else and he made this awesome

83:27

breakthrough where he was like you know

83:29

therapists and counselors and spouses

83:33

because he's been married more than once

83:35

they all tell you to go through your

83:37

pain right it's like you've got to face

83:39

your trauma you've got to go through it

83:41

you've got to do the work you've got to

83:43

Bear the burden so that you can heal

83:47

whereas what I teach which is what CIA

83:49

teaches is why would you ever go through

83:52

something when you can go around it

83:55

so if you're trying to accept or recover

83:59

or understand and heal the fact that

84:01

your mom cheated on your dad when you

84:02

were seven you can't change it by

84:05

working through it you might come to

84:07

accept it but what's the point instead

84:10

you can just go right around that pain

84:12

and you can be like my mom cheated on my

84:15

dad and because of that this happened

84:17

and because of that this other thing

84:18

happened and because of that I became a

84:20

self-sufficient independent person who

84:23

didn't rely on my mom or my dad and now

84:25

I'm very successful because all that

84:27

matters is what's forward I can't change

84:30

what's behind and he made this

84:31

Revelation on his own I thought it was

84:32

such a powerful visual because we so

84:34

often think that the point from here to

84:36

here if there's all this mess in the

84:38

middle you have to go through the mess

84:40

when in fact you can also just go around

84:42

the mess and you can go right to the

84:44

point and you you don't have to heal you

84:46

just have to accept understand recognize

84:48

and move forward and so what did he do

84:50

so he he was trying to overcome his

84:51

trauma what how did how does he go

84:53

around it that specific example well

84:56

what he was so in that specific example

84:58

it was under he went back to the

85:00

traumatic incident that he experienced

85:02

and what he realized is that if his mom

85:05

hadn't cheated on his dad then the

85:07

domino effect that would have come after

85:09

that would have probably never led to

85:10

him starting the business that

85:11

ultimately made him an ultra high net

85:14

worth and once he made that connection

85:17

he was like oh well [ __ ] I'm glad my mom

85:19

cheated on my dad because now my

85:22

daughters are taken care of my sons are

85:23

taken care of my wives are taken care of

85:25

like my I've got 500 employees that are

85:28

taken care of I do business in four

85:29

different countries everybody's taken

85:31

care of does that require some time

85:33

though between the thing that happened

85:34

and where you are now because you know I

85:36

was sat here yesterday with a chap who

85:39

lost his son his 18mon year old son in

85:45

April and you know it's hard to in that

85:47

situation go Francis Inu he's a UFC

85:51

champion

85:52

um Harding that situation to try and

85:55

find a way around it it's a couple of

85:58

months ago there's no there's no way

86:01

around tragedy

86:04

that's that's loss that very few of us

86:07

will ever know

86:10

thankfully what I what we don't know is

86:13

how that will shape him in the

86:15

future all we know is what that's doing

86:19

to hurt him in the present right think

86:21

about think about all the famous stories

86:23

all the famous inspirational

86:25

motivational leaders that you've met who

86:27

had some kind of tragedy happen in the

86:29

past well actually funny enough cuz I

86:31

cuz I mentioned the loss of a son I had

86:32

a guy s called Mo Gat who was the ex-

86:35

head of Google X and his son passed away

86:38

in a routine operation that should have

86:39

taken 10 minutes but killed his son and

86:41

then he quit his job at Google and went

86:43

on search of What happiness is and if

86:45

when I asked him on the podcast I said

86:47

would you would you bring back your son

86:50

um now he said no like if you could go

86:54

back and well I'm sure he bring back his

86:56

I think what he's saying to me is that

86:57

if he could go back and um change what

86:59

happened would he change it and he said

87:01

no it's important like it's important to

87:04

understand when you are

87:08

wired for Success because not everyone

87:12

is wired for Success a lot of people are

87:14

wired for mediocrity a lot of people are

87:16

wired for basic survival a lot of people

87:19

are wired for pain and suffering but

87:21

when you are wired for success

87:24

you can't regret what's happened to you

87:26

in the past because to erase it or

87:28

change it would be to make you not the

87:31

person you are now and the person you

87:32

are now is successful do you think some

87:35

people are wired for Success absolutely

87:37

I think people are wired for Success

87:39

what does that means in real terms how

87:41

do I know if I'm wired for success I

87:43

think empirically there's lots of proof

87:45

that you're wired for success but I'm

87:46

talking about you know Dave that's

87:48

listening to this now or Janet um how do

87:50

they know that if they wired for Success

87:52

so what what I have found pretty

87:54

consistently not only in clients that I

87:57

work with but also in the actual CIA

88:01

field operations that I've engaged in

88:04

right and it's important that the reason

88:06

I compare clients to spies is because

88:10

what spies are are people who are living

88:14

in a shed looking through a window and

88:15

realize there's something else on the

88:17

other side you can't cre you can't find

88:20

a happy person living in ignorance in

88:23

their shed and and convince them that

88:25

it's a good idea to commit treason

88:26

against their country you can't because

88:28

they're very happy once somebody's very

88:30

happy and very like satisfied they don't

88:33

aspire to anything so you can't go them

88:37

into telling you Secrets or pay them or

88:39

trick them or force them because they're

88:41

very satisfied where they are so a spy

88:43

is a a an asset in the field is somebody

88:48

who believes that there might be

88:49

something

88:50

better a a actual client wired for

88:54

success also believes that there is

88:56

something better the difference between

88:57

the two is that this person can be

89:00

manipulated which person the the spy in

89:03

the field who's who's desperate to get

89:06

out of the shed that person can be

89:08

manipulated whereas a good client is

89:11

suspicious and aware that people are

89:13

trying to manipulate them so they're

89:16

looking for guidance they're looking for

89:18

something they can test they're looking

89:19

for something they can prove right so

89:23

that's why I compare the two so closely

89:26

both are wired to be successful because

89:29

they already know that there is more

89:31

than just the world around them they

89:32

already know that there is something

89:35

limiting them they already know that

89:37

there's a

89:38

barrier and they by being aware that

89:41

they that there is a barrier that makes

89:43

them want to cross or break the barrier

89:46

that's what being wired for Success

89:48

means it means that you know that

89:50

there's something holding you back and

89:51

you want to overcome the thing that's

89:53

holding you back so for I'm thinking now

89:55

I was in a Black Cab the other day in

89:56

London and there's I have so many

89:59

conversation with conversations with

90:00

black cab drivers in London because they

90:02

a lot of them obviously because their

90:04

the nature of their work they listen to

90:05

podcast and the radio and such and so

90:07

sometimes they recognize me and they'll

90:08

say I was you know listening to podcast

90:10

I love it Etc um and I'm thinking of

90:13

starting a business and I've got this

90:15

idea and this idea and whatever when you

90:18

talk about them knowing that there's

90:20

something more out there but there's

90:22

something in their way can can you speak

90:24

to what that black cab driver is feeling

90:26

in his life I'm just using this as a

90:28

random example but can you cuz I really

90:30

want you to resonate with him so he

90:32

knows you're speaking to him so

90:33

whoever's listening to this now knows

90:35

that they can they go [ __ ] that's me

90:38

when you are conditioned when you're a

90:40

when you're a s when you're wired for

90:42

success but conditioned in our Western

90:44

Society

90:46

especially then you know that there's

90:48

more you want there to be more but you

90:50

also believe that there has to be a

90:52

process road map a recipe a plan to get

90:58

there so you you've got this what we

91:00

call a cognitive

91:02

dissonance you don't believe everything

91:05

you're hearing but you don't know

91:07

anything else to believe so there's this

91:09

dissonance there's this frustration so

91:11

if you want to know what that black Hab

91:12

driver feels they feel frustrated every

91:14

day because they know there's more they

91:16

want more they just don't know how to do

91:18

it even worse they have probably tried

91:21

dude there's this heartbreaking story

91:22

for me it's a business heartbreak

91:23

breaking story I I was in Portland

91:26

Oregon I was sitting with this

91:30

24-year-old kid who worked part-time at

91:33

a brewery right I must have been 38

91:36

years old very young and in everyday spy

91:38

everyday spy was was two years old the

91:40

time and I was sitting with this kid and

91:43

he had no ambition he worked part-time

91:46

at a brewery and he was totally happy to

91:48

do he lived with four roommates he drank

91:50

beer every afternoon starting at 2:00

91:52

funny [ __ ] guy really funny dude to

91:54

hang out with but he had no goals no no

91:56

Ambitions no aspirations and I was like

91:58

what did your parents do and he was like

92:01

oh my my mom ran her own business from

92:04

our farm in whatever it was Idaho or

92:06

something like that I was like oh what

92:07

did she do and he was like well she only

92:09

had her own business for a few years but

92:11

she would cater to the other families in

92:14

the other farming families so she would

92:16

make five or seven dinners and then sell

92:18

that to the other Farmers families so

92:20

they would have extra food so that the

92:21

wives of those families could F could

92:23

take care of their or 12 kids or

92:24

whatever and I was like oh that's

92:26

interesting why don't you want to be an

92:28

entrepreneur if your mom was an

92:29

entrepreneur and he was like oh well she

92:32

was really inspiring to me and at first

92:34

I thought I might want to be an

92:35

entrepreneur but the thing was my mom

92:37

never felt like a success because she

92:39

failed he was like my mom only was able

92:42

to run her catering business for about

92:44

three years before it failed and I was

92:46

like well why did you say she was an

92:48

entrepreneur and he was like because to

92:49

me she was she started a business she

92:53

ran it for three years doing what she

92:54

loved she was an entrepreneur but then

92:57

all that work she still failed in the

93:00

end so his rationale was why even try

93:03

but he still looked up to his mom as

93:05

being an entrepreneur so the thing that

93:07

kills me is that there are so many

93:09

entrepreneurs out there who are trying

93:11

and failing and some of them after they

93:14

failed two or three times they stopped

93:16

trying and they just accept the shed and

93:19

they accept that this is the circle

93:20

that's drawn around me and this is the

93:21

way it has to be they don't even realize

93:24

that one or two or three or four more

93:26

attempts is going to be when they get

93:28

their big breakthrough all they need is

93:30

a recipe so I'm just my goal in every in

93:33

life every day is just get one more

93:35

person to follow the simplest recipe

93:39

what is your favorite case study of

93:41

someone that followed the recipe and

93:42

changed their life in my company yeah my

93:45

my favorite case study is me yeah

93:47

because I'm the one that reaps the

93:49

benefits of it every day I have multiple

93:51

people who have had some pretty awesome

93:53

success I I have uh one gentleman who

93:56

recently wrote to me who told me that

93:58

for the first time in his life I think

93:59

he was in his mid-30s for the first time

94:01

in his life he has a six-figure job now

94:03

and he was an engineer and he wrote me

94:06

to tell me that one of the Frameworks

94:07

that we taught him through our company

94:09

helped him get a $31,000

94:12

$32,000 raise and a promotion to a

94:16

senior level in his company where for

94:18

The Last 5 Years he'd been asking for a

94:21

promotion asking for a raise and his

94:22

boss has always just told him no or he

94:24

wasn't qualified or he wasn't fit but

94:27

then he started practicing one of our

94:28

Frameworks and nine months later was

94:31

promoted asking which framework he

94:34

didn't tell me which framework oh he

94:35

told me it was coming from our ma we

94:37

have a master course called operational

94:39

thinking and inside that we teach many

94:41

influence Frameworks so it was clearly a

94:43

a framework of influence that he had

94:45

tapped into I also recently had we have

94:48

this event in Las Vegas called the Intel

94:50

Edge where we bring in a number of

94:52

speakers from the intelligence world I

94:54

have an FBI speaker who comes in I have

94:56

a Green Beret who comes in I have a

94:59

exercise scientist come in I even had a

95:01

recently I had a great friend of mine

95:02

who's an emm award-winning journalist an

95:04

investigative journalist come in and we

95:06

teach in Las Vegas we teach hundreds of

95:08

people at a time we had one person who

95:11

wrote from that Intel Edge event um he

95:14

was a Puerto Rican guy his name is

95:16

Emanuel Emanuel if you're listening I

95:18

love you brother but Emanuel just had a

95:21

baby first baby with his wife

95:24

and within the first month of having the

95:26

baby his company laid him off so he had

95:29

all these Life Changes a new baby he was

95:32

so proud and so excited to be a dad and

95:34

then he was facing unemployment and he

95:37

applied our framework specifically our

95:39

framework on mirroring and winning the

95:43

interviewer instead of winning the

95:44

interview and about three months after

95:47

he was laid off he got a new job in a

95:50

science lab that paid him more than he

95:52

had ever earned before

95:54

and he came to the next Intel Edge event

95:56

that we had so we saw him in say October

95:58

and he came back to us again in March

96:00

something like that and he came back and

96:02

he told us this story and the whole my

96:03

whole team lit up my whole team was like

96:05

because we had all seen him when he was

96:09

when he was showing his pictures of the

96:10

baby and then we all saw the email from

96:12

him that said my company laid me off I

96:14

don't know how I'm going to take care of

96:15

my family and then we see him again and

96:18

he's like guys you'll never believe what

96:19

happened like I did this thing I

96:21

followed your mirroring example I W over

96:23

over the interviewer and now I have this

96:26

job that I would have never gotten

96:27

otherwise these are the stories that I'm

96:29

spoiled by I I have my customer service

96:32

team and and even my executive team we

96:36

don't see all the testimonials that we

96:38

get because they've we've become a

96:40

little bit desensitized to them because

96:43

they happen so often and I love it when

96:45

they happen but I'm not surprised when

96:46

they happen because of course the

96:48

recipes work the recipes work because

96:49

they were refined in the in the center

96:53

of CIA they've been working for ages

96:56

they just haven't ever been shared with

96:58

the public I think the reason why I

97:00

loved those two subjects in school that

97:02

I was really good at or at least that I

97:04

enjoyed therefore I was better at um I

97:07

mean for me to be good at something I

97:09

mean I didn't go to many lessons in

97:11

school so I was bad at most things but

97:12

the two lessons that I went to were

97:14

psychology and business and at a very

97:16

young age I think maybe 14 years old

97:17

that had this idea implanted into my

97:19

head that I always have repeated I'm 31

97:21

now and I think I've definitely repeated

97:24

this this sentence or this this

97:26

phrase 10 times a year since I was 14

97:29

and the Crux of it is that the only

97:31

thing standing in my way of being the

97:34

world's greatest entrepreneur

97:36

philanthropist sales person is just a

97:38

bunch of people like very early on I had

97:41

the seed in my head that the barriers to

97:43

life the barriers to riches to whatever

97:45

you want are just people so if you can

97:47

understand people and how to influence

97:50

them then you hold the keys to the City

97:53

the proverbial proverbial City so when

97:56

you talked about this influence

97:57

framework I thought maybe that's the

97:58

most important thing to talk about

98:00

because a do you agree with what I said

98:02

as like a foundational seed in your mind

98:04

that it's just people um and then B I'd

98:07

love to talk about how we influence

98:09

people so yes I agree with you that

98:13

people are all that stand in the way and

98:14

we have to remember that we ourselves

98:15

are people yeah so we're part of the

98:18

problem yeah um and influence Frameworks

98:22

are

98:24

powerful

98:25

Frameworks for getting what you

98:28

want I think the place to start because

98:32

not all Frameworks are simple remember

98:33

how we were talking about there's

98:34

foundational Frameworks there's twep

98:36

Frameworks and then there's 12ep step

98:38

Frameworks right the thing to understand

98:40

is Frameworks all fit within each other

98:42

they fit like nesting dolls like Russian

98:43

nesting dolls so when you

98:48

learn any kind of framework that has to

98:51

do with influence what you're also have

98:53

to learn are the sub Frameworks inside

98:56

of it to be able to execute the whole

98:58

thing but the place to really start is

98:59

understand that influence and persuasion

99:01

are not the same

99:02

thing right persuasion is what happens

99:07

when you actively put energy into

99:11

changing someone's mind or getting

99:13

someone to take a certain action with

99:16

active energy influen is what you have

99:19

when you're not

99:22

talking so I can sit here and try to

99:24

persuade you to come with me to dinner

99:27

mhm but that's not influence that's

99:29

persuasion influence is what happens

99:32

when something happens in the world and

99:34

I'm the one that comes into your mind

99:36

and you're like I wonder what Andy

99:37

thinks about that which probably doesn't

99:39

happen but one day hopefully it will

99:41

happen if I gain enough influence right

99:43

that's the difference persuasion takes

99:45

energy influence is passive it doesn't

99:47

happen it takes a lot of experience it

99:49

takes a lot of Engagement it takes a lot

99:51

of assessment energy trust it takes a

99:55

lot of effort to get someone to a place

99:57

where you have influence over them but

99:59

there's a framework for that there are

100:01

Frameworks and Frameworks within

100:02

Frameworks that I'm happy to teach if

100:04

you want to go through those yeah

100:05

whatever you think is most useful for me

100:07

and my

100:08

audience so I'll start with this I'll

100:11

start at the lowest possible place right

100:13

and the lowest possible place if you if

100:15

you think of influence up here MH as a

100:20

umbrella there's a sub frame work inside

100:24

of that umbrella and then there's a

100:25

third inside of that so we're going to

100:27

start with that one first and grow and

100:29

that framework is something called sense

100:31

making because if I want to influence

100:33

you or if you want to influence me we

100:36

have to make sense of the dynamic of our

100:40

relationship meaning one of us has to be

100:43

in power and one of us has to comply

100:45

with the other person's power that's the

100:47

whole goal of sense Mak so that's why we

100:50

we are starting at that framework inside

100:53

sense Mak if you imagine it like a cup

100:55

MH

100:57

right sense Mak is like a cylinder and

101:00

just like you fill a cup with water

101:02

you'll fill this cylinder with scense

101:05

the bottom third of the cup is what we

101:08

call avoidance that's where every

101:10

relationship starts every time you meet

101:12

a new person you try to avoid that

101:14

person it's the first thought you have

101:16

even if you don't want to admit it no

101:18

I'll admit

101:20

it no that's very much the nature of my

101:22

life that's the nature of every that's

101:24

human nature we avoid what's new so the

101:27

first third is avoidance so you've got

101:29

to fill the water you've got to fill the

101:31

relationship you have to put enough time

101:32

and energy into the relationship to get

101:34

past the bottom third now you're making

101:37

sense the next third is called

101:40

competition competition is all about the

101:43

exchange of information the exchange of

101:45

ideas the exchange of energy because in

101:49

an exchange you're building a

101:51

relationship even if you're arguing even

101:53

even if you disagree even if you hate

101:54

the other person and you're yelling in

101:56

their face you're still investing energy

101:58

into that person whereas if you really

102:01

didn't care about them you would just

102:03

avoid them all

102:04

together the last third is called

102:08

compliance the whole reason that you

102:10

compete is to have someone come out with

102:13

compliance and compliance is the part

102:15

where the power Dynamic is is identified

102:19

right so we've invested so much time in

102:22

competition

102:23

that now we're not arguing and fighting

102:25

anymore now we're starting to make sense

102:28

of our relationship you've heard the

102:30

phrase we'll just agree to disagree M

102:33

essentially that is the top of the sense

102:35

making cylinder you've filled the cup

102:38

and where you land at the end is we'll

102:40

just agree to disagree which is kind of

102:42

a mutual understanding of each other's

102:44

position on whatever it was that you

102:46

were competing over but you're still a

102:49

unit you've still invested into a

102:51

relationship so sense making is filling

102:54

that first cup because now what we know

102:57

at the conclusion of this phase is that

102:59

we're in this together I've poured water

103:02

in you've poured water in and if there's

103:04

anything that human beings hate to do

103:06

it's waste their energy so I've put all

103:08

this energy into you you put all this

103:09

energy into me and now we have a dynamic

103:12

between

103:13

us from once there's sense once we

103:16

understand and remember this is if we

103:19

agree to disagree then that's we've made

103:22

sense of our relationship is mutual

103:23

peers on this particular topic

103:27

politics that doesn't mean that we're

103:29

Mutual peers in terms of conversations

103:31

about family or conversations about

103:32

business or conversations about you name

103:34

it exercise right but we have a

103:36

relationship enough that now we can talk

103:38

about those other things so if I want to

103:40

build influence or if you want to build

103:41

influence the first thing we have to do

103:43

is not let people avoid us we have to

103:45

get past the

103:46

avoidance and then we have to compete

103:48

with them to get them to invest their

103:50

time and energy into our relationship

103:51

and then we have to get to a place where

103:53

there's some sort of compliance even if

103:54

it's only the compliance to sit and

103:56

listen to me when I share my opinion

103:57

that you already know you're going to

103:58

disagree with that's still compliance

104:01

that's the foundational framework that

104:03

feeds up into a secondary framework that

104:06

we call no like

104:09

trust no like trust is something that

104:13

actually exists in the social media

104:14

World which was a really awesome

104:16

surprise to me to find it there

104:19

um klt no like trust starts with

104:23

Discovery if you don't know something

104:25

exists you can never like it because you

104:28

don't even know it exists once you know

104:30

something exists you have to decide

104:32

whether or not you like it well how do

104:33

you decide whether or not you like it

104:35

through this this avoidance competition

104:38

compliance sense making process because

104:41

as soon as you discover something new

104:42

it's new so guess what you try to do

104:45

avoid it you see what I'm saying so

104:49

after you get through the end of the

104:50

compliance phase of of sense making

104:54

you're basically you like whatever it is

104:58

or whoever it is that you're dealing

104:59

with maybe you don't like them like

105:02

they're your best friend but you've

105:03

invested all this time and energy into

105:05

them so you do like them the secret

105:08

sauce at CIA that we know that most

105:10

people don't understand is that you

105:12

don't have to like something a lot

105:15

before you start to trust it you've

105:17

heard the term falling in love there's

105:20

also a very real term called falling

105:22

into trust you just spend enough time

105:25

long enough and what happens is without

105:28

even realizing it you start to trust the

105:30

person that you're with that is the

105:32

beginning of

105:35

influence even if I'm wrong even if you

105:38

disagree with me every step of the way

105:39

even if the only thing you like about me

105:41

is going out and having a pint on Friday

105:44

night where we debate and argue and

105:46

[ __ ] at each other about politics you

105:49

still like Friday night going to the bar

105:53

sharing a pint with me you still like

105:55

hanging out with me when we watch our

105:56

two different soccer teams play or

105:58

football teams play so because you like

106:01

me enough to be with me there will come

106:04

a time where I win your trust in some in

106:08

some area maybe it's trust because I'm

106:11

the only person who drinks with you so

106:14

in a moment you decide to tell me about

106:15

how much you hate your boss and now I'm

106:17

the only one that knows you actually

106:18

hate your boss whatever it might be you

106:19

will fall into trust we all fall into

106:21

trust it's one of the things that that's

106:23

natural to human beings that we hate

106:25

about ourselves is we trust the wrong

106:27

people it happens to all of us so

106:30

someone can trust you in terms of

106:31

influence even if they don't like you

106:33

correct because they will be invested

106:36

enough into you that they believe

106:38

something is predictable think about

106:40

somebody that you don't like think about

106:41

somebody you really really don't like

106:43

yeah are there still things about them

106:45

that you would trust them to

106:47

do maybe not things they would do for

106:49

you but there are certain things that

106:51

you would trust that they would do

106:53

I already know that person's going to

106:55

you know say something stupid to my kid

106:57

I already trust that that person is

106:58

going to put their garbage can at the

107:01

end of my driveway so it's it's

107:02

fascinating because we usually think of

107:05

trust as only being a positive term

107:07

trust is an ambiguous it's it's a it's a

107:10

uh it is an agnostic term it doesn't

107:15

mean good things or bad things it just

107:17

means a predictable outcome do you know

107:19

the lens I was thinking about as you

107:20

were speaking I was thinking about

107:22

randomly I was thinking about like

107:23

personal branding and LinkedIn because I

107:26

was thinking about like personal

107:27

branding strategies people go on

107:28

LinkedIn and they have all these hot

107:30

takes and I was wondering through the

107:32

context of what you were saying does it

107:33

matter if people like what I'm saying

107:36

you know if I'm going on LinkedIn every

107:37

day and I'm doing another hot take or

107:39

sharing my opinion can I build trust

107:41

with my audience even if they don't even

107:42

if there's loads of people disagreeing

107:44

with me or is there a certain type of

107:46

content or you know personal brand

107:49

strategy that's going to ultimately

107:51

build more influence

107:54

Ence I love the question because what

107:56

you're getting at is a framework that we

107:58

have called The Power of

108:00

polarity if you want to create power if

108:03

you want to create draw or appeal which

108:05

is power you have to polarize you have

108:08

to stand for something because if you

108:11

don't stand for something nobody really

108:14

knows what you believe in so you have to

108:16

polarize so to your point there's lots

108:20

of people on LinkedIn there's lots of

108:21

people on on Facebook on Twitter or

108:23

whatever who are out there screaming

108:26

something they're they're making a point

108:28

and they're being drowned out by all the

108:30

other people who are out there making a

108:31

point Pi Morgan Elon Musk you know those

108:34

are those are people who already have

108:35

influence okay part of part of how well

108:38

like in the case of P Morgan part of how

108:39

he he's got his influence is by being

108:41

polarity by being y standing for

108:43

something very and not being scared of

108:45

the fact that people going to tell him

108:47

that they don't like him even better I

108:50

want people to tell me that they don't

108:52

like me

108:53

that's even better because what happens

108:55

is when you have when you drive polarity

108:58

when you drive polar

109:01

response you create enemies but you also

109:04

create

109:05

friends and what do friends do when

109:08

enemies

109:09

attack they

109:11

defend right so when you stand for

109:14

something even if only a small group of

109:16

people agree with you they still defend

109:19

you they still support you they still

109:20

invest in you that means they're moving

109:22

from that avoidance competition

109:24

compliance phase into no like trust and

109:27

then when they defend you they can't

109:28

help but fall into trust because what

109:30

are they defending they're putting

109:31

energy in defending you so they're going

109:33

to trust you even more and when that

109:36

group of people trusts you and other

109:38

non-competitive people other observers

109:41

watch that some people are attacking you

109:43

and other people are defending you it

109:44

makes them feel like they have to choose

109:47

between attacking you or defending you

109:49

is there a way to stand for something

109:51

correctly and is there a way to badly

109:54

stand for something and I say this

109:55

because as you were speaking I was

109:56

thinking about my friend my friend is

109:58

really really bad at um LinkedIn and he

110:01

comes to LinkedIn with like very

110:04

inconsistent takes on the world I'm

110:06

going to give you an example for for

110:09

many years for many years he's um had a

110:12

narrative about alcohol being bad and

110:15

he's been sober but then the World Cup

110:17

came around and he was he posted on

110:19

LinkedIn the World Cup was in the Middle

110:21

East that the Middle East should allow

110:22

people to binge drink and posting

110:24

against the sort of religious um

110:26

perspective that says alcohol is bad so

110:28

he was like people should be allowed to

110:29

to binge drink if they want in the

110:30

Middle East but then his other

110:32

perspective has always been that alcohol

110:33

is bad and like why do people binge

110:34

drink and so the

110:36

inconsistency has really [ __ ] him up I

110:38

think well that's showing why he

110:40

probably also doesn't have much

110:42

influence because people don't know

110:45

where he stands so there's nothing to St

110:48

like somebody who who rallies behind him

110:50

like it sounds like when you were

110:51

telling the story to to a certain extent

110:53

you were like proud of him when he was

110:55

like originally yeah when when he was

110:56

clear what he stood for but it's it's

110:58

every day is a different take I'm like

111:00

and that's what cost that's what costs

111:01

you your your influence so he diminished

111:04

his own power by not demonstrating

111:07

polarity he should have just stood a

111:09

ground even if the ground isn't popular

111:11

even if it's not popular or positive if

111:13

you stay in one place and you drive a

111:16

clear polar message or polarizing

111:19

message some people will rally behind

111:22

you some people will attack you either

111:24

way you benefit from it this is one of

111:26

the things I love about YouTube I'm sure

111:28

you've discovered this too for anybody

111:29

out there who's trying to make money on

111:31

YouTube or grow an audience on YouTube

111:32

or do anything with YouTube needs to

111:35

understand the best comments are

111:37

oftentimes the worst

111:39

comments because somebody chimes in and

111:41

talks [ __ ] about something it only

111:44

instigates more people to come in and

111:46

leave a comment and guess what YouTube

111:48

wants comments they just want engagement

111:52

because engagement means people are on

111:54

the platform when there's a split

111:56

between thumbs up and thumbs down it

111:57

means there's polarizing content which

111:59

means even more people are going to stay

112:00

on the platform so they spread it even

112:02

further and wider right so you can't be

112:05

afraid of being polarizing and you have

112:06

to lean into being polarizing the way we

112:09

use it at CIA is when you're talking to

112:10

a spy when you're talking to somebody

112:12

and you want them to commit treason

112:14

against their country you have to be

112:16

able to ask a polarizing question to

112:18

find out whether or not they're going to

112:20

hint that they would be Traders or

112:22

whether they are staunch supporters and

112:24

nationalists but you have to test that

112:27

barrier if you're ever going to actually

112:28

develop the kind of relationship the

112:30

kind of power to convince them to commit

112:32

treason it made me think about Brands as

112:34

well because you know there's a lot of

112:36

Brands out there that have done really

112:37

really well for by standing for

112:39

something by being polarizing okay and

112:41

it was it was um Jane waren on my

112:43

podcast that talked about her brand

112:45

dermal and she said to me she said you

112:47

have to be willing to piss off the 80%

112:50

to get your 20% she goes you don't need

112:53

people um to like you she goes that's

112:56

not a brand you need them to love you or

112:58

hate you she goes that's a brand it's

113:01

genius it's absolutely correct she is

113:03

talking about polarizing she's talking

113:05

about that no like trust process and

113:09

getting people to go beyond like into

113:12

love you or hate you if they love you or

113:14

hate you then they are in the trust side

113:17

of the no like trust process they either

113:19

trust what you say or they trust that

113:22

they're going to hate what you say mhm

113:25

but either way they're in the trust part

113:27

of no like

113:28

trust I was a kid in my bedroom that was

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building my business all on my own one

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114:14

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yourself so what else do I need to know

114:30

about influence and influencing other

114:32

people um you know you said persuasion

114:35

is not the same uh as what was the other

114:38

one influence influence yeah persuasion

114:40

and influence are two different things

114:41

so what about persuasion then how do I

114:42

persuade somebody persuasion is a

114:45

process that's much easier because it's

114:46

really just a matter of triggering an

114:49

emotional response and then guiding

114:52

rational thought around that emotional

114:54

response honestly persuasion is what

114:56

exists far more in the world than

114:57

influence persuasion is what happens in

114:59

advertising persuasion is what happens

115:01

when you watch a commercial persuasion

115:03

is what happens when you try to convince

115:05

your kids to brush their teeth at night

115:06

or one day you will convince your

115:07

children to brush their teeth T night

115:09

that's all

115:10

persuasion because you're you are

115:12

creating an emotional message it's a

115:15

it's a question of messaging and

115:16

narrative you're creating an emotional

115:18

message that emotional message is

115:20

designed to trigger certain emotion

115:23

emotional responses in the Target that

115:24

you're talking to and then you change

115:27

the message itself but you hit on the

115:30

same

115:31

emotion and the reason that you do that

115:33

is because after they've been hit with

115:34

enough of the same emotional messages

115:37

they start to develop a cognitive

115:42

rational

115:43

narrative that they adopt personally so

115:47

The Narrative of the deep State came

115:51

from lots of emotional messages about

115:53

why you can't trust the government and

115:55

then all those emotional messages turn

115:57

into somebody or a group of people

115:59

thinking well if I can't trust the

116:00

government what I can do is trust that

116:02

the government can't be trusted because

116:05

there's a shadow government right so

116:08

that's how you essentially that's how

116:09

you persuade somebody so if you want to

116:11

persuade someone to buy from your coffee

116:13

shop and not somebody else's coffee shop

116:15

you want to persuade someone to buy a

116:16

Subaru and not a Nissan you want to

116:19

persuade somebody to uh to buy from your

116:22

sales funnel immediately instead of wait

116:26

until your third email in your welcome

116:27

series it's all a matter of being able

116:29

to set up a series of emotional messages

116:32

that drive a rational narrative that

116:35

they decide for themselves that brings

116:38

them to a place where they take an

116:39

action that you want them to take give

116:40

me an example okay so let's say that uh

116:44

you and I are trying to

116:46

sell um what about this whoop on my

116:49

wrist hasht add hash investor hash

116:50

sponsor what about this from Mar all

116:54

right you understand how woot Works what

116:55

is it tell me what it is um it is a it's

116:59

a fitness tracker but it's a sleep

117:00

tracker it's a stress tracker tracks my

117:02

heart rate variability um so it's

117:04

biodata yeah it it syncs your biod dat

117:07

in one convenient place yeah and I can

117:09

see my friends biod dat as well if they

117:11

if they accept so we can kind of compete

117:12

a little bit Ah so it gives

117:13

accountability and and a sort of shared

117:16

Mission yeah Community Etc yeah right so

117:19

if you want to persuade people to buy

117:21

your hashtag spons # product # investor

117:24

what's it called whoop whoop yeah we

117:26

want people to buy a whoop whoop.com

117:28

yeah so so SL

117:33

do perfect so if we want people to buy a

117:36

whoop we don't tell them bi a whoop

117:40

because it's an awesome biot tracker

117:43

that tracks your heart rate and tracks

117:45

your sleep and tracks your body

117:46

temperature we don't tell them that

117:48

because that's what there's other tools

117:49

that do that what we have to do is give

117:51

them some kind of emotional message

117:53

right so first we're going to choose an

117:56

audience that we want to create an

117:57

emotional message for we're both we both

118:00

love the women that we're with so let's

118:02

talk about people who are in a serious

118:03

relationship or a committed

118:06

relationship I very much care whether my

118:09

wife is healthy whether she's sleeping

118:11

well whether she's got high stress so

118:13

now I want to craft an emotional message

118:15

about how whoop will help me make my

118:17

marriage better because I'll be able to

118:19

see what my wife is feeling without

118:21

having to ask her oh God what every man

118:24

wants to be able to read her

118:26

mind

118:27

now people are feeling something right

118:32

says that's amazing say that again down

118:35

the

118:36

camera so why let's come up with another

118:39

message another emotional message for

118:40

the same reason right I really don't

118:43

like bedtime because at bedtime my wife

118:45

always melts down and yells at the kids

118:47

and she melts down because she's had a

118:49

rough day and I'm coming home from a

118:51

rough day and I have no idea how rough

118:53

her day is and it doesn't matter because

118:55

now it's bedtime so if I had a whoop

118:57

what I'd be able to do is call my wife

118:59

on the way home and say hey babe it

119:01

looks like you've had a rough day thanks

119:02

to your whoop why don't you take 30

119:04

minutes go take a bath do your whole

119:06

self-care routine first and I'll deal

119:08

with the kids and I'll make dinner so

119:09

that you can calm down and then you can

119:10

swap out and help me and we can be a

119:13

team right whoop makes married couples a

119:16

team again I love that so you can now

119:19

what we're doing is we're we're

119:21

messaging to make husbands and

119:24

boyfriends feel a certain way about I

119:28

love her already I want her to succeed

119:30

and I also secretly know that if she

119:32

succeeds I succeed because guess who

119:34

goes to bed with her at night right

119:36

that's what we're making them feel so if

119:38

we did four three four five messages

119:40

like that even if they were bullets on a

119:42

sales page instead of a phone Telecom

119:44

team right if we were to do that what's

119:47

the logical rational outcome that

119:50

any male in a serious heterosexual

119:54

relationship is going to land on they

119:55

take the 30-day free trial

119:57

that that's exactly what they're going

119:59

to do that's exactly what they do with

120:02

high probability that is empirically

120:04

sound that you can measure through

120:06

clicks open rates and view

120:09

time because you've crafted a persuasive

120:13

message and what do people typically do

120:16

they typically Brands will typically

120:17

come out and say something like oh it's

120:19

a they'll sell it on its features

120:22

successful successful Brands which is

120:24

the only kind of brand that really

120:25

exists because you're not a brand until

120:26

you've had success successful Brands

120:28

will do what we what you and I are

120:29

talking about but they won't systematize

120:32

it they'll let it be

120:34

accidental You' you've heard of like I'm

120:36

I'm shocked how often advertising

120:38

agencies create failed ads like bad ads

120:41

because they're just they're just

120:42

throwing spaghetti at the wall they're

120:43

not following a system they're not

120:45

following a process like what we just

120:46

talked about create a series of messages

120:49

and then create a rational response

120:50

that's high probability and then find a

120:51

way to measure it all and then

120:53

systematize it and then scale your ad

120:55

spend to match the thing that you just

120:57

built right they're not that's not what

120:58

they're thinking they're thinking what

121:00

if we just talk about this what if we

121:02

just talk about this this just happened

121:03

in the news let's talk about that so

121:06

they're not using a system the place

121:07

where most people go wrong isn't with

121:09

Brands it's with young entrepreneurs

121:11

it's with young entrepreneurs who become

121:13

so myopically focused on their product

121:16

that they forget that there's four Ps

121:18

for marketing product is just one of the

121:20

four right right there's also price

121:22

there's also place there's also

121:24

promotion promotion is the one that I

121:26

would say should be swapped with

121:28

persuasion because if you can promote

121:30

something in a persuasive way doesn't

121:33

really matter what you price it at

121:34

doesn't really matter where you put it

121:35

and it also doesn't matter what the

121:37

product is people will buy it because

121:39

there's a market for everything so the

121:41

place where people go

121:42

wrong isn't that they're that they're

121:46

not trying the place where people go

121:48

wrong is that they don't realize that

121:50

talking about the benefits talking about

121:52

the rational benefits of the product is

121:54

not persuasive persuasion starts with an

121:57

emotional message how do you translate

121:59

that then to a interpersonal

122:02

relationship context where I'm trying to

122:04

you know convince a you talked about

122:06

interviewing earlier you said that one

122:08

of your case studies is a guy that kind

122:09

of learned how to interview how do I

122:11

translate that so that if I walk into

122:13

any interview ever I'm going to walk out

122:15

with the

122:16

job what do you think every interviewer

122:19

is looking for some someone well okay so

122:23

I've got two answers to this a someone

122:25

to do the job uh and then B someone they

122:28

like that's really what they're looking

122:30

for it's someone they like I do a lot of

122:32

interviewing I spend a lot of my time

122:34

interviewing when I'm not doing this I'm

122:35

basically interviewing people so I've

122:37

come to learn my own biases in that

122:39

regard a little bit but you're so right

122:40

it's heavily about if you like the

122:42

person well guess what I just taught you

122:44

a framework for how to get through

122:45

getting someone to like you m right so

122:48

without a doubt we agree well that was

122:50

to get them me influenc the framework

122:52

wasn't it no like trust we went through

122:55

we went through the sense making

122:56

framework yeah so that you could go from

122:58

no to like to trust so at the top of

123:01

sense making that's when you're in the

123:03

phase where people like or invested in

123:07

you what interviewers really like isn't

123:10

people that they like it's people who

123:13

are alike the interviewer really so I

123:17

guarantee you that the people that you

123:18

have liked interviewing the most I'm

123:20

even willing to bet that you will admit

123:21

in this conversation at some point we'll

123:24

put that on the line that a big portion

123:26

of your hiring is because you see

123:29

elements of yourself in the people that

123:31

you hire I mean like I don't consciously

123:34

know that but I totally believe it

123:37

because when you see someone who has who

123:41

reflects elements of you yeah you

123:43

immediately go through the sense making

123:45

process and you flip to like and Trust

123:47

interesting so we need to clarify this

123:49

because when you say elements of myself

123:52

there's parts of myself that I'm like I

123:53

would never hire correct but that's not

123:55

the part of you that you like yeah it's

123:57

the part of you that you don't like you

123:59

trust that part of you to not be good at

124:01

the job yeah but there's other parts of

124:03

you that you trust to be good at the job

124:05

and that's what you shoot for yeah right

124:07

I'm also willing to bet that there's

124:08

people that you hire because you know

124:09

that they're good at areas that you know

124:11

you're bad at yes so that's all

124:14

interviewers all interviewers everywhere

124:16

what they dream of is that they walk

124:18

into an interview and across the table

124:21

is some someone almost exactly like them

124:24

who they enjoy talking to who they can

124:26

relate to who they feel instant

124:29

connection and chemistry with because

124:31

then it becomes an enjoyable interview

124:33

because what every interviewer hates is

124:34

walking into an interview that is

124:36

draining and and terrible and and hard

124:41

and painful that's what they don't like

124:43

and most of the time the people

124:45

interviewing are not actually the people

124:47

who will be the supervisor for the

124:48

person that gets hired often times

124:50

they're just an intered medary

124:52

interviewer so all they really want is

124:54

to just get find somebody who meets the

124:57

qualifications technically but has some

125:00

sort of common ground with the

125:01

interviewer themselves so how do I make

125:04

sure I'm that

125:06

person you know how do I what what can I

125:08

do to make sure that say that you were

125:09

interviewing me or say that let's do the

125:12

other way around I've got the job um

125:14

that I'm looking for looking to fill and

125:16

you've come for an interview today so

125:19

I'm going to do I'm going to go through

125:20

the sensemaking process okay right as

125:22

soon as I get on this call with you I'm

125:24

new to you so what does that mean I know

125:26

I know that you don't want to be on this

125:27

call With Me true avoidance I can assume

125:31

coming in so what I have to do is I have

125:33

to keep investing enough to get through

125:34

the avoidance phase well what am I going

125:36

to talk about how am I going to invest

125:38

in this conversation I'm going to pull

125:39

as much as I can from verbal and

125:41

non-verbal cues that you give me I'm

125:43

going to look at the decorations on the

125:45

wall behind you whether it's in person

125:47

or whether it's virtual I'm going to try

125:49

to pull from my environment I see that

125:50

you're using an iPad I I see that you

125:52

actually like to write on your iPad I

125:53

see that you use different colors when

125:54

you write on your iPad I also see

125:56

there's a journal under your iPad I can

125:57

assume that inside that journal are

125:58

handwritten notes that are actually done

126:00

in pen and ink right there's certain

126:02

things that I can start to observe you

126:04

have a very clear you put clear effort

126:06

into the way that you shave your face

126:07

you have a very handsome look to your

126:09

hair short much you've got the

126:12

job youve got the job no I don't need to

126:14

himar it's

126:16

yours but I'm going to pull from all of

126:18

this for the competition phase of the

126:21

sense making process because all I need

126:23

to do to get you to comply with my

126:25

wishes my wishes are to get the job what

126:28

I need to get you to comply with the

126:29

wishes I need you to engage in a

126:31

conversation with me that is competitive

126:34

meaning you will invest in me and I will

126:36

invest in you think about how don't

126:39

think of competition like a zero sum

126:40

game with a winner and a loser I hear

126:42

competition I hear arguing that's what

126:44

most people hear most people think of

126:45

competition as Zero Sum game somebody

126:48

wins somebody loses the competition

126:51

think of it more like a scrimmage in

126:54

your in your uh favorite soccer team

126:57

where like the the red shirts play the

126:59

green shirts but it's still the same

127:01

football club right they and they have

127:04

spring training for for baseball in the

127:06

United States it's all the Yankees but

127:09

they're just playing the Yankees to

127:11

practice with each other what are they

127:12

doing they're competing they're honing

127:14

their craft through competition they're

127:16

investing in each other right they're

127:19

pitching and batting and trying to

127:20

strike each other out and trying to

127:21

catch each other at the bases but it's

127:23

all for themselves it's all to improve

127:25

the whole of the team that's the

127:28

competition that exists in the

127:29

sensemaking process I want to invest in

127:31

you with my thoughts and my ideas and my

127:33

questions and I want you to invest in me

127:35

with your thoughts and your ideas and

127:36

your questions and yes sometimes they

127:38

will be different but in the difference

127:40

we will find the

127:42

similarity and regardless of whether we

127:44

find differences or similarities we are

127:46

filling the cup of investment to get

127:48

towards compliance okay so give me a

127:50

specific example of how you might get me

127:52

to go into that competition with you

127:54

okay so I'm going to start in an

127:56

interview most interviewees expect that

127:58

the interviewer will ask most of the

127:59

questions yeah my I would challenge

128:02

anybody going into a job interview ask

128:04

more questions than the interviewer

128:06

really ask more questions than the

128:07

interviewer because when you ask

128:08

questions especially open-ended

128:10

questions it makes the person you're

128:11

talking to feel like they're interesting

128:13

feel like they're important feel like

128:15

they're special and guess what's not

128:17

going to happen with any other interview

128:19

that day nobody is going to ask them

128:21

questions so if you were interviewing me

128:23

for a job and we met on the phone I

128:26

would

128:27

say Stephen thank you very much for

128:29

making time to talk to me how's your day

128:30

today it's been great thank you I'm

128:33

really excited for the job but one of

128:35

the things I have a question about right

128:36

away is when I look you up online it

128:39

looks like a lot of what you do is

128:40

marketing but I don't know if it's like

128:42

social media marketing or if it's more

128:45

like an internet marketing like

128:46

advertising how would you characterize

128:48

the core function of the business it's

128:50

kind of both we do we all of the above

128:52

paid marketing all kinds of marketing

128:53

which one is your favorite my favorite's

128:56

uh probably social media marketing I

128:57

think is it because social media is like

128:59

so Dynamic and always changing or do you

129:01

like social media marketing for some

129:02

other reason uh yeah and also I just

129:05

think I think it's very much the future

129:06

in many respects so I think it's the

129:08

fastest growing medium so that's kind of

129:10

where we we focus I also think it's the

129:12

future and I spend so much time on

129:13

social media and I my family spend so

129:15

much time on social media that I really

129:17

feel like if you want to connect with

129:18

somebody you have to be in the social

129:20

media world because it feels like a

129:22

simulated relationship I completely

129:24

agree so um and then so then I'd start

129:27

asking the questions and would you you

129:29

would ask a question and then I would

129:30

answer your question but I would still

129:31

continue to show investment into you by

129:34

asking questions and what does that do

129:36

so I come away from that interaction and

129:38

you've asked me a lot of questions what

129:40

what do I come away feeling you tell me

129:42

what does it feel like when people ask

129:44

you

129:44

questions feels like you're building a

129:46

relationship feels like you care feels

129:49

like you've thought critically before

129:51

you came here yeah feels like you

129:52

prepared feels like you're curious and

129:55

the oppos well there's two opposites one

129:57

opposite is I just pepper you with

129:58

questions and then you leave um and the

130:01

other opposite is that someone that just

130:03

talks the whole like you pepper me with

130:05

questions I was in I've had a couple of

130:08

interviews and two I remember two last

130:09

week I part of my feedback was I

130:12

basically didn't say

130:14

anything and I it's funny I actually

130:16

said to my chief of staff I said oh God

130:18

interview was an hour long and I go gosh

130:19

I um I didn't say anything in the whole

130:23

in the whole hour and do you know what I

130:24

came away feeling I came away feeling

130:26

that if that's what the job working with

130:29

them is going to be like I don't want to

130:30

work with them because for one hour I

130:32

sat there and this this person just

130:35

like at me and now you say it now I kind

130:38

of understand why I felt that way

130:40

because you you do want people to ask

130:42

you questions and you it's it's I think

130:45

it's that but also part of me was

130:47

worried that every day this person is

130:49

going to just like kill my ear

130:53

or is it just the ego part where I'm

130:55

just like be interested in me I don't

130:57

know or is it both well first of all I

131:00

am not advocating peppering with

131:02

questions yeah so I want to make sure

131:03

that we don't give anybody the mistaken

131:05

idea that that rapid fire questions are

131:07

the way to go yeah I I was giving short

131:08

answers this is the problem it's all

131:10

good because what what the core thing to

131:12

understand here is you didn't like being

131:14

spoken

131:16

at they were talking all the time which

131:18

means they weren't asking you questions

131:19

they asked me were our our inter they

131:21

asked me zero questions and when I said

131:24

to them if you got any questions You'

131:25

like to ask me they asked me one but

131:28

that was actually just tearing them up

131:29

for another 20 another 20 minutes and I

131:32

I walked away and logically I

131:33

rationalized it to my team I was like I

131:35

think that person would be quite

131:36

difficult to deal with because I think

131:37

they'd be quite distracting and this

131:39

particular role is working with

131:41

alongside me personally every single day

131:44

and I just thought gosh I'm not going to

131:45

get anything done but maybe that was a

131:48

prefrontal cortex I think that your

131:50

decision was 100% % correct but what I

131:52

want to do is I want to juxtapose that

131:55

process against the person who would

131:56

have asked you questions which I

131:58

experience a lot so if people ask you

132:00

questions how do you feel at the end of

132:02

those calls I feel like the

132:05

person I I feel like they're more

132:08

thoughtful and I feel like they're

132:10

smarter because why the hell would you

132:12

come into an interview and not ask the

132:13

person questions you're also making a

132:15

commitment for your entire life to this

132:17

company this job to this person you want

132:19

you want to make sure it's correct so a

132:20

smart person would be interviewing me as

132:22

well because they value themselves so if

132:25

I wanted to win you as the interviewer

132:27

yeah and I wanted to win that by making

132:29

you feel like you and I were similar

132:33

people yeah yeah exactly what you just

132:36

said is why the hell wouldn't you ask a

132:37

bunch of questions which makes me think

132:39

that what you believe is if you want to

132:40

work for a company for the rest of your

132:41

life you want to go in there asking a

132:42

bunch of questions yeah so when somebody

132:44

comes in asking questions to you that

132:47

checks the box of this person is

132:49

thoughtful this person is committed this

132:50

person is responsible this person is

132:52

doing what I would do yeah yeah yeah

132:54

yeah yeah and that means on the sense

132:57

making no like trust framework you're

133:00

going to fall into trust for that person

133:03

much faster than you're going to fall

133:05

into trust for the person who comes and

133:06

word vomits on you and that's all we're

133:09

doing we're not saying that every

133:12

employer is going to be the right

133:14

employer for you but what we're saying

133:16

is if you want to take your probability

133:18

of winning an interview from I I don't

133:21

know what my probability is to you have

133:23

a solid predictable 30% chance of

133:26

winning this interview it really is as

133:28

simple as going in there with the idea

133:30

to win the interviewer read their body

133:32

language listen to their verbal cues

133:35

hear the things they talk about reflect

133:37

and mirror their behavior and their

133:39

terminology their tone of voice how fast

133:42

the Cadence of their of their speech

133:44

reflect that back to them and then use

133:47

this this process of asking questions

133:49

open-ended questions that give you more

133:51

information that you can turn into

133:52

knowledge that you can ask questions

133:53

about to create that flywheel of

133:56

information knowledge and experience

133:57

that we talked about this framework that

134:00

you call Rice reward ideology coercion

134:04

ego after you said that I started to

134:07

kind of see it everywhere in my life and

134:08

even in the context of an interview I

134:10

notice it sometimes now um can you

134:13

explain what the framework is before we

134:14

start talking about it CU you're better

134:16

explaining it than I will be so rice is

134:19

a framework that we use to understand

134:21

the core motivations that exist inside

134:23

of all people and it's an acronym R

134:26

stands for reward I stands for ideology

134:28

C stands for coercion e stands for ego

134:31

and the idea is that the core motivation

134:33

of all people to do anything that they

134:35

would ever do the motivation not the

134:37

manipulation but the core motivation is

134:39

tied to one predominant of those four

134:43

core motivators and the other three are

134:46

always still present but at a lower

134:48

level so just like you said once you

134:51

recognize that all people are motivated

134:53

by these same four core motivations you

134:55

do see it everywhere so in terms of

134:58

strength you said to me last time that

135:00

ideology was the strongest correct I

135:02

think you then said that ego was the

135:04

second strongest you said reward was the

135:06

third strongest and and coercion was the

135:08

weakest yes sir I know this because I

135:10

did a a tour and I played your you

135:12

saying that in every country that I went

135:14

to on stage for about 2 minutes so I

135:16

know this really this [ __ ] really well

135:18

my memory is not that good I've been

135:19

I've been talking about this about

135:21

35,000 people in Australia and

135:22

everywhere I am flattered to have

135:23

traveled with you all over the world

135:25

well yeah I've got some photos I'll show

135:26

you later but um as part of that I

135:29

really started to see it everywhere else

135:30

in my life so I'd come to an interview

135:32

with a candidate and the candidate would

135:33

turn to me and I would hear them

135:35

repeating back to me things that I've

135:37

said in my book or things that I've said

135:40

in an interview so people know that I'm

135:42

very Pro like experimentation for

135:44

example and I use like increasing my

135:47

rate of experimentation increasing my

135:49

rate of failure terms that I use 1% I

135:51

use this term all the time to describe

135:53

marginal gains and this sort of marginal

135:54

process of improvement and so I would

135:56

come to interviews and I I started to

135:58

notice that people were like repeating

136:00

my ideology in business back to me in

136:02

those interviews and it [ __ ]

136:04

worked even though I knew even though I

136:07

knew it um and one of the things I did

136:09

actually is I um I went back through my

136:12

own personal history and I looked at Key

136:14

moments where my life had changed so in

136:17

in the first email this is the email

136:19

that got me my first investor which took

136:21

me from being this broke shoplifting

136:22

student to being a business person and

136:24

then sent me all my mission and then

136:25

this is the email that got me the camera

136:27

equipment which helped me launch the

136:28

marketing of my business it got me

136:29

10,000s of pounds about about £10,000

136:32

worth of free camera equipment and these

136:34

were both C emails that I sent and with

136:36

your framework in mind I went back to

136:37

kind of try and understand where I

136:41

deployed these elements of reward

136:42

ideology coercion ego and I think

136:45

they're quite present in my emails so

136:48

here's what I'm going to do I've got the

136:49

email in front of me so anyone that's

136:51

watching this on video can um can take a

136:53

look at this email if you want to see

136:54

what I was like when I was that age I

136:56

want you to tell me how good I did in

136:59

terms of reward ideology coercion and

137:01

ego and I'll put this on the screen if

137:03

you want to because it is screen

137:04

recording you can Circle okay the parts

137:07

you're referring to so everyone else can

137:09

see hello sir my name's so my names did

137:15

I spell it

137:16

wrong that is awesome so my name's

137:20

Steven Bart

137:21

and I'm you

137:24

definitely I can see your I can see why

137:26

you are struggling academically yes I an

137:29

18-year-old guy from the UK with an

137:31

entrepreneurial head on my shoulders I

137:33

have ran several small businesses since

137:35

I was 12 and made relatively decent

137:37

amounts of money doing so last year I

137:39

was featured on a BBC program here in

137:40

the UK for being a young entrepreneur

137:43

and I was given a few nice things along

137:45

with that but that doesn't really mean

137:46

much to me this is embarrassing for the

137:49

last four months me and a friend friend

137:51

have been working tirelessly on an

137:52

exciting new project that I want to

137:53

share with you I've this this is really

137:58

sweet to see the 18-year-old you here

138:00

man I've been tuned into your blog for a

138:03

long time now and I'm familiar with your

138:05

story so I would love your opinion of

138:07

what I'm doing so this is really good

138:11

stuff your blog your story your

138:16

opinion it also shows that you were

138:19

researching Him in Advance which makes

138:21

me feel like the only reason you're

138:22

reaching this person reaching after this

138:23

person at all is because you already

138:24

know that your story mimics his

138:26

story correct he he um he actually had

138:31

started a pretty similar student website

138:35

in the same city it had gone so well it

138:38

had been sold and he now lived in Monaco

138:40

and was like a super rich millionaire

138:42

was this person also did they also

138:44

struggle in school I actually don't know

138:46

I don't know that much so that's super

138:48

interesting to me okay I'm going to keep

138:49

going all the designs attached in the

138:52

document are my

138:54

own that's interesting too you're

138:56

basically giving away IP up front and

138:59

showing that you prepared more than just

139:01

writing an email which is again feeding

139:04

into some of the ego and the reward

139:07

because this person is whatever they see

139:09

in that document they they're going to

139:12

benefit from

139:13

it I made I made on publisher and at the

139:16

moment I have no expertise in web design

139:18

whatsoever I'm at the stage now where

139:20

I'm looking for a mentor investor to

139:22

guide me in getting the website live so

139:24

please let me know what you think this

139:26

was super smart not asking for an

139:27

investor but asking for a

139:29

mentor because what that did is it

139:33

deloaded the pressure so if they had

139:35

read this far if they got to this place

139:38

you weren't asking for money you were

139:40

potentially just asking for some

139:41

attention and some guidance M let me

139:44

know what you think although we have had

139:45

a few cheeky offers from local Venture

139:47

capitalists we are still looking for the

139:49

right person and after reading through

139:50

your website I believe you are that

139:53

person kind regards and thanks for your

139:55

time Steven Steve Bartlett

140:00

so it's interesting to me because you

140:03

made a very strong ego

140:05

play with referencing all of his success

140:09

yeah the ego was the strongest thing

140:11

that you leaned on showing that you were

140:13

aware showing that you knew the person

140:15

knowing that the story was going to Res

140:17

resonate with him you may have

140:18

accidentally also honestly man seeing

140:20

the typos that are in here you may have

140:23

accidentally triggered a response inside

140:28

him that was

140:31

reciprocity either somebody gave him a

140:33

chance when he didn't know if somebody

140:35

would give him a chance or maybe he

140:36

struggled in school or maybe he has a a

140:38

son or a sister or a brother who

140:39

struggled in school because your typos

140:41

are really quite significant there's no

140:43

way somebody would read this and think

140:44

that you were a well-educated

140:46

18-year-old do you know what I'm saying

140:48

so you may have really struggled you may

140:49

have accidentally some into something

140:51

awesome I would I don't know if you're

140:52

still in contact with this person but I

140:53

would ask that question we've got four

140:55

core motivators ego is very clear every

140:58

time you talk to them or this person

141:01

about them you're stroking their ego and

141:04

you're not doing it in a glaring way

141:06

however ideology is the strongest of the

141:09

motivators when I see you say that you

141:12

are an 18-year-old guy from the

141:14

UK what I what goes through my head is

141:17

the ideology of who doesn't want to give

141:22

a brave kid writing them an opportunity

141:26

what what millionaire out there what

141:28

decillionaire or centimillionaire or

141:31

ultra high net worth if they get the

141:33

email at all who doesn't want to at

141:36

least give this 18-year-old Brave Brazen

141:39

kid a chance because you know what I

141:41

would have done something like this when

141:42

I was

141:43

18 right and now you could be tapping on

141:46

ideology without even knowing it well he

141:48

did he did he started a student website

141:50

website in the same city at roughly the

141:53

same age so there you go you you already

141:56

knew that there were going to be

141:57

commonalities between the two of you you

141:58

were winning the interviewer just as

142:01

much as you were

142:02

leveraging the the rice framework what

142:06

about the other email so there's another

142:08

one on there which is here just take a

142:10

look at it if you could this one yeah so

142:12

this was the email that I sent I sent 10

142:14

of these emails out to every C camera

142:17

company I could Samsung Panasonic um ET

142:20

Etc and within 48 Hours of Panasonic

142:24

receiving that email a guy called leot

142:26

Panasonic I literally just because you

142:27

were coming I went on his LinkedIn to

142:29

see where he now works so thank you by

142:30

the way Lee that used to work at

142:31

Panasonic um for giving me a shot Lee

142:35

from Panasonic responded to that email

142:36

that you have in front of you and said

142:38

what kind of cameras do you want we've

142:39

got some returns I'll send them to your

142:41

doorstep within 40 hours of that email a

142:44

big box of cameras brand like they were

142:47

brand new to me brand new spanking

142:48

cameras came to my doorstep multiple of

142:50

them and that allowed me to do the

142:51

marketing for my business at the very

142:53

early stage again it was just a called

142:54

email that's amazing man all right hello

142:57

there my name is Steven

142:59

Bartlett I'm a 19-year-old student and

143:02

I'm part of an upcoming exciting student

143:04

website so in March last year I began

143:06

developing an idea I had that focused on

143:08

bringing together the student Community

143:10

several months later I have the backing

143:11

and support of all the universities in

143:13

the Northwest who are working with us

143:15

every step of the way we are now a few

143:17

months from launching the website we

143:18

have received so much support from

143:20

company such as dominoes and Subway that

143:22

we are now hoping you guys at vho will

143:25

be kind enough to help us out I'm going

143:26

to circle that for sure because you're

143:28

triggering a little bit of

143:29

competition you wait till the end which

143:32

is really

143:33

[Laughter]

143:34

smart and you're showing credibility

143:37

with the backing of multiple

143:38

universities all right our team includes

143:40

media journalism students who have media

143:42

and journalism students who have a

143:44

passion for producing media content it

143:46

also includes our web developer who

143:47

loves building cool websites it includes

143:49

the univers I ities and the University

143:51

Unions who are supporting us constantly

143:54

and it includes our mentors who are

143:55

social media and web experts you are

143:57

really hitting reward High here because

144:00

you're basically

144:01

saying you all of these people are going

144:03

to know that you're helping like all

144:06

these universities all these students

144:08

media and journalism guess what they

144:09

both need cameras so you're really

144:11

leaning hard into the reward here and

144:13

it's pretty awesome you are also hitting

144:16

on ideology because if it is a

144:19

competitive business it wants to compete

144:22

it doesn't want to be second to Subway

144:23

or dominoes it wants to be side by side

144:26

with Subway and dominoes especially in

144:28

2012 when both of those companies were

144:31

pretty strong leaders in their

144:32

industry this is going to be a national

144:34

student website and one feature of our

144:36

website involves us producing our own

144:37

video content from the student Community

144:40

this can range from students

144:41

interviewing famous people students

144:42

reviewing student events to student

144:43

reporters covering news events in order

144:45

for this to be the case we are in need

144:48

of an HD video camera and wanted to know

144:50

if V would be kind enough to donate one

144:53

in return we would feature V on our

144:54

website as a sponsor we would also

144:57

promote the camera and vho at the end of

144:59

all videos that we make as a young group

145:02

of students this would really mean a lot

145:05

to us and we would be sure to show our

145:06

appreciation in every opportunity

145:08

ideology again talking about students

145:10

and talking about the youth there's no

145:12

real coercion in this for sure and I

145:16

would also say that ego was was was not

145:20

really you focused on reward rather than

145:23

ego because you didn't know who Lee was

145:24

so it was a bit of coer in the one that

145:26

I sent to the investor wasn't there

145:28

because I said um we've had some offers

145:30

from Venture cap capitalists which is

145:32

kind of saying that I have other offers

145:35

kind of but I'm that's not coercive

145:37

coercion coercion means that you are

145:39

leaning into the shame the guilt some

145:42

sort of negative feeling competition is

145:45

not a negative feel really competition

145:46

is how we build trust okay so me

145:49

mentioning that I have other opport

145:50

unities isn't Co you should always

145:51

mention that you have other

145:52

opportunities even if you don't okay

145:54

always it's one of those areas where you

145:58

you always have other opportunities you

146:01

could always take the opportunity of

146:02

stop trying so there's other

146:04

opportunities always is there ever a

146:06

place for coercion which is the C and

146:08

the rice frame framework in emails like

146:10

this yes there's a place for it but you

146:13

have to use it gingerly because the

146:16

problem with coercion is once you use it

146:19

you violate the trust that you've built

146:23

okay so you can basically use it once or

146:26

if you you once you employ it you

146:28

essentially have to continually use it

146:31

because once it's no longer useful to

146:33

you then the person that you're coercive

146:35

the person that you're coercing is free

146:38

again coercion if you think of coercion

146:40

it's like a cage so you get somebody

146:43

into the cage and then you have control

146:45

over them in the cage but once you open

146:48

them open the door to the cage they're

146:50

going to run out and never get back in

146:51

the cage you talked about these four C's

146:53

of influence have we covered that four

146:57

C's that we're talking about are the

146:58

four seas of building influence rapidly

147:00

specifically building uh building

147:02

influence in a workplace environment

147:05

right it's consideration is the first C

147:09

consistency uh collaboration and control

147:12

those are your four

147:14

C's uh when you consider consideration

147:17

consideration means I put myself in your

147:18

shoes I consider what life is like for

147:21

you you're my boss you're my cooworker

147:24

you have a family you go home you have

147:27

you're trying to exercise you're trying

147:29

to make a living you're trying to do all

147:30

the same things I am so if I if I

147:32

consider your point of view faster than

147:34

you consider my point of view I have the

147:36

advantage that's what the first see is

147:38

consideration that's really perspective

147:40

again right it's perspective again

147:41

exactly it's consideration is

147:43

technically a legal term so attorneys

147:45

and lawyers all know what consideration

147:47

is but it's the rest of us who have not

147:48

gone to law school that don't recognize

147:50

that consideration is another word for

147:51

perspective but it's also a legal term

147:53

that stands for the same thing uh

147:57

consistency is the act of being

148:00

consistent what's powerful is that very

148:02

few people are actually

148:04

consistent most people are inconsistent

148:07

think about the friend that you were

148:08

talking about on LinkedIn who can't even

148:09

have a consistent message can't even

148:10

have a consistent opinion about alcohol

148:13

right the fastest way to burn influence

148:16

the fastest way to to to burn your

148:18

persuasive ability and burn your your

148:21

sense making relationship with people is

148:23

to be inconsistent because nobody wants

148:25

to invest relationship into an

148:28

inconsistent person inconsistent in your

148:30

perspectives your values your beliefs

148:32

your actions what you say what you do

148:34

what you spend your money on like

148:36

consistency is what breeds comfort and

148:39

confidence in people it's what builds

148:40

influence because when the when the

148:42

rubber hits the road when when bullets

148:45

start flying when all hell breaks loose

148:47

you want to know that the person that

148:48

you believe will be there will be there

148:51

and a consistent person is somebody that

148:53

you believe will be consistent even if

148:56

you don't like them even if you don't

148:57

like them right like third C is

149:00

collaboration collaboration becomes

149:02

really powerful because what most people

149:03

are doing is they're trying to find some

149:06

sort of compromise and a compromise

149:08

really just means you don't get what you

149:09

want and I don't get what I want and we

149:11

find something in the middle that

149:12

neither of us wants but we'll both

149:14

accept that's a [ __ ] deal what we really

149:17

actually want is not compromise what we

149:20

want is collaboration collaboration

149:22

means you bring your idea I bring my

149:25

idea and together we create a third

149:28

better outcome for both of us that's

149:31

what collaboration is that's what makes

149:33

collaboration different than compromise

149:35

what we want from our government is a

149:36

collaborative government not a

149:39

government that compromises with each

149:41

other and yet what with the what the

149:42

popular public narrative is is that we

149:44

need a government that compromises well

149:46

[ __ ] a government that compromises is

149:48

always losing a government that

149:49

collaborates rates is always gaining so

149:52

the third C is collaboration if you find

149:55

somebody who is considerate who is also

149:58

consistent and also collaborative do you

150:01

see what we're building here we're

150:02

building influence and then the fourth C

150:05

is control and control is the one that

150:06

is super important and control is the

150:08

thing that people drop all the time when

150:10

they're trying to build influence

150:11

control means that you capitalize you

150:15

execute on all the social benefit that

150:18

you've built with these first three sees

150:20

and now you actually take the action to

150:22

get what you want you ask for the for

150:25

the cameras you ask for the opportunity

150:29

you ask for the interview you ask for

150:31

the favor right or you go out and you

150:34

tell the boss I'm ready to be the one

150:36

that gets promoted to the manager job

150:37

I'm the one that gets to go on vacation

150:39

for Christmas I'm the one that gets to

150:40

do this and then you and you cycle back

150:42

to the fact that you've done the other

150:44

three C's right and you're doing it in a

150:47

way that exercises your control over the

150:49

situation

150:50

the four C's are the tool to build

150:53

influence in a professional environment

150:55

Because the actual thing that you're

150:56

building the term that we use we don't

150:59

we don't call it

151:00

influence inside the walls at Langley we

151:04

call it Social Capital where's Langley

151:07

Langley Virginia is the headquarters for

151:09

CIA okay so we call it Social Capital

151:13

because just like real currency is

151:16

capital when you engage in the process

151:19

of building influence using the four C's

151:21

what you're actually building is a is a

151:23

savings account of Social Capital You're

151:26

Building reciprocity You're Building

151:29

leverage You're Building favors You're

151:32

Building IUS so when you have this pile

151:35

of money the only thing that you can do

151:37

with a pile of money is spend it so you

151:40

have to spend it to get what you want

151:42

and that's what the control is that's

151:44

what the C is in the four C's of

151:46

building influence through social

151:48

capital is that what great leaders do

151:51

what great leaders do is they find

151:53

either they're taught a process similar

151:55

to this or they learn the process over

152:00

time but essentially what the the dark

152:04

side to leadership that people don't

152:05

like to admit to is that very rarely are

152:08

leaders

152:11

well-liked leaders are respected leaders

152:13

are trusted but leaders are very rarely

152:17

liked they might be liked a 100 years

152:20

later like artists but usually in the

152:22

moment they are not well-liked and it's

152:24

because they know how to exercise

152:26

control nobody likes to be controlled

152:29

nobody likes to feel like they are under

152:31

control nobody likes to feel leveraged

152:34

nobody likes to feel sold nobody likes

152:36

to feel

152:38

pressure but when you have that pot of

152:41

Social Capital when you have the

152:42

leverage when you have the power you

152:45

have to exercise it to prosecute the

152:47

vision that you're trying to build so if

152:50

you're the type of leader that never

152:51

that does all these other things they're

152:52

super considerate of other people they

152:55

they're collaborative they're consistent

152:57

but you never exercise control you're

152:59

not a leader what are you you're an

153:01

assertive follower you're a reliable

153:04

partner you're a peer you're a good

153:07

friend are you a coward no I wouldn't

153:09

say that you're a coward because

153:11

remember cowardice is the opposite of

153:13

courage and courage is defined by

153:15

showing courage or showing doing the

153:17

thing that you're afraid of I mean it

153:19

takes a bit of courage to exercise

153:20

control absolutely but not everybody

153:23

wants control there are lots of people

153:25

out there who don't want to be a leader

153:27

if you are a leader if you want to be a

153:30

leader and don't exercise control over

153:33

the leverage and the social capital that

153:35

you've built you are not a leader you

153:38

are an aspiring leader you are a

153:40

developing leader you are a hopeful

153:43

leader but you are not a leader because

153:46

a leader has to be able to take action

153:49

that inspire

153:50

others to follow even if they don't like

153:52

you even if they don't like you because

153:55

here's the reality of it a leader is not

153:58

what you claim to be a leader is what

154:01

you demonstrate to be because a leader

154:05

who leads an army of none is not a

154:09

leader and someone who is leading an

154:12

army but doesn't call themselves a

154:15

leader still a leader what do you think

154:17

make are the sort of core components of

154:19

a great leader leader you must you go to

154:20

a lot of companies you speak to a lot of

154:22

Executives leaders what are the ones

154:24

that you respect the most whether

154:25

they're clients of yours or people

154:27

you've seen within history there's an

154:29

element of honesty that's critical to a

154:32

leader like you have to be honest and

154:35

you have to be objective about what you

154:39

see what you feel what you

154:42

experience because true leadership means

154:46

that you have to execute against a

154:48

vision and you have to inspire people to

154:49

follow you if you're not honest about

154:52

why you do what you do if you're not

154:54

objective about the current reality then

154:57

there's no way that you're going to be

154:59

able to create to cast a vision that's

155:01

realistic and ignite an audience of

155:04

people to follow you towards that Vision

155:07

so honesty is critical objectivity is

155:11

critical leaders also have to have an

155:13

incredible amount of of Courage because

155:16

they're always doing something that

155:18

they're afraid of they're always taking

155:21

the next risk they're always challenging

155:24

the the dis the misbelief or the

155:27

incorrect information they're

155:29

always upsetting their spouse they're

155:31

always missing out on time with their

155:32

children they're always stepping on the

155:34

toes of half of their company they're

155:36

always upsetting somebody you can't be a

155:39

leader without having the courage to

155:42

hurt 80% of the people that you talk to

155:45

because if they're not completely in

155:48

line with the vision that you're trying

155:49

to to lead towards they need to be

155:51

brought in line with the vision that

155:53

you're leading and that sometimes that

155:55

means you're going to tell them bad news

155:57

sometimes that means you're going to

155:58

slap them over the back of the head

156:00

sometimes that means you're going to cut

156:01

them off and let them float so you have

156:04

to have courage which specifically means

156:08

doing the thing that you're afraid of to

156:09

be a leader which is why the I mean to

156:12

me the most important component of being

156:14

a leader is accepting that you will be

156:18

lonely for

156:20

forever that's the unfortunate fact of

156:23

being a leader there it's lonely at the

156:26

top and every General has talked about

156:29

it every president has felt it there's a

156:31

reason presidents go gray Michelle Obama

156:33

will look very good when she's

156:36

gray but you have to be willing to be

156:39

lonely if you're not willing to be

156:41

lonely then you're not courageous enough

156:43

to be lonely then you're not fit to

156:46

lead you walk through life like seeing

156:48

people be honest as kind of Puppets not

156:51

puppets no not puppets I do I do walk

156:54

through life seeing people

156:56

as worthy or unworthy Investments

157:00

interesting where because especially

157:03

like to kind of bring in Full Circle

157:05

back to losing my

157:08

grandmother we only have a certain

157:10

number of minutes seconds breaths

157:15

so I feel like I was blessed and

157:18

privileged to get the skills to rapidly

157:22

identify the people who are worth my

157:24

breath the people who I can invest in

157:27

with my words and my thoughts and my

157:29

actions and my time and those people

157:31

will create an Roi that doesn't pay me

157:35

back but pays back my children and my

157:39

children's children because the people

157:41

who learn and who apply and who who

157:43

support the work that I'm doing are the

157:46

people who will make the future the

157:48

world of tomorrow and the World of

157:50

Tomorrow is not for me the World of

157:51

Tomorrow is for my family so I feel like

157:56

unfortunately that is what a lot of my

157:58

relationships boil down to and the

158:00

people that I

158:01

transactional but all relationships are

158:04

transactional we just don't like to

158:05

admit it for me I feel like because I

158:08

already know all relationships are

158:10

transactional I now cultivate the

158:13

transactions that yield the

158:14

most rather than transactions that just

158:18

happen where so many so many people are

158:21

trapped in relationships where they

158:23

don't have any return on investment from

158:25

that relationship or even worse they

158:27

keep investing in the relationship and

158:29

it's a money pit and it just keeps

158:31

taking and taking it never gives back

158:33

and they don't know how to get out of

158:34

that relationship or they feel trapped

158:35

or they feel lost or they feel they feel

158:38

abandoned if I had to pick between being

158:40

somebody who literally looks at

158:42

everybody as a win or lose transaction

158:46

or being a person who's constantly

158:48

investing in the wrong person I'm very

158:50

happy to be where I'm at on this fence

158:53

does that change your life in some

158:55

respects because if I looked at every

158:56

real what people will be thinking

158:58

they'll be thinking oh God Andrew that's

158:59

a sad life that's a sad life just to see

159:02

everything as a

159:03

transaction it's it's not a sad life

159:06

when seeing things as transactions is

159:09

not the same thing as accepting that

159:11

everything is a transaction I don't see

159:14

everything as a transaction I don't see

159:16

my children as an OP as some sort of

159:19

return on investment I don't see time

159:20

with my wife as some sort of return on

159:21

invest I don't see it as a transaction

159:23

but I accept that what it is is a

159:27

transaction they want love they want

159:30

attention they want affection in return

159:32

for that love time attention and

159:34

affection they will give love time

159:37

attention and and affection and we will

159:39

build positive memories for the future

159:42

it's transactional if I want my wife to

159:44

be okay with me taking a 12-day work

159:47

trip I have to put a little bit of time

159:50

and effort into the 12 days before the

159:52

12 days that I leave because I have to

159:54

build some Goodwill like we understand

159:56

that this is how it works intrinsically

159:58

we just don't want to accept that what

159:59

we're talking about is a transaction

160:01

going to the bank and saying I'm going

160:04

to take a loan in a little while so I

160:06

need to fill out my paperwork and get

160:07

pre-approval like it's the same concept

160:10

it's the same process it doesn't mean I

160:12

see everything through a lens of cold

160:15

hard transactional relationships I see a

160:17

lot of life that way but I don't see all

160:20

of life that way and the parts of life

160:23

that I do see as transactional I I

160:25

leverage that perspective so that I can

160:28

maximize my investment in the

160:30

relationships that I do not see as

160:32

transactional it's so true I think the

160:34

big takeaway for me and all of that as

160:35

well as just thinking about the

160:37

relationships that are really doing

160:38

nothing for you I've got a couple

160:39

relationships like that that really

160:41

probably aren't doing anything for me

160:43

and it sucks even at our level it sucks

160:45

because you still see yourself doing it

160:47

yeah like like why am I yeah why am I

160:49

doing this like shouldn't I know better

160:51

by now and inevitably like you come back

160:54

it's like getting drunk I guess you

160:55

don't know what it's like to do that

160:57

most people know what it's like I used

160:58

to get drunk you get drunk you get sick

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from being drunk and what's the next

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thing you tell yourself I'm never

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getting drunk

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again it happens again and you feel like

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an idiot it happens it happens in

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business it happens in life it happens

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some people do really waste their entire

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lives just like entertaining

161:17

relationships that are doing zero for

161:20

them they like go for lunch and brunch

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and like the 2hour phone call and the

161:24

small talk on WhatsApp just for

161:26

nothingness said pouring all of their

161:28

life into these nothing relationships

161:30

these sewers these leeches of

161:33

relationships if they don't recognize

161:35

that it's a transaction and they ask

161:37

themselves continually what is this

161:38

doing for me correct and then you can't

161:40

feel guilty asking yourself what is this

161:43

relationship doing for me that is just

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you being objective that is just you

161:47

being focused on accountability and

161:50

honesty like any good leader should be

161:52

when's your book coming out um you've

161:54

got a book your new book that you told

161:56

me last time was on the way but the CIA

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weren't approving it correct they have

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they have still not approved it we are

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actually expecting by end of month this

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month to get their formal approval U

162:07

once it happens I will let you know for

162:08

sure because trust me my publisher is

162:10

also very nervous about when CIA

162:12

approves the book so the book is called

162:14

Red Cell Red Cell probably going to be

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released in summer 2025 but pre-order

162:19

will be available maybe by the time this

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episode comes out if that's the case

162:23

we'll link it below oh that would be

162:24

exciting the pre-orders absolutely um

162:27

very exciting what is the book about the

162:29

the book is finally my wife and I get to

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releasee the details of our operational

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history together and that is what the

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red cell is about oh wow it's about what

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we did together in the field as a tandem

162:40

clandestine couple how we operated how

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we worked together how we managed our

162:44

marriage and our operations uh and the

162:47

team that we built around us it was all

162:49

very unique at the time and uh and we're

162:51

very proud of it but it's sensitive and

162:55

CIA does not like telling sensitive

162:56

stories for anybody else that wants to

162:58

check out where you can support them in

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the meantime everyday spy is the key

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place to go to the website everyday

163:03

spy.com absolutely everyday spy.com you

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can also find us on YouTube on the

163:08

everyday spy podcast and of course you

163:10

can find us on social media everywhere

163:11

at everyday spy you Channel I really

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love it I appreciate it um I really love

163:16

all the work that you do and I think

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it's so

163:19

important because you're so honest and

163:22

there's very little [ __ ] with you

163:25

there's very little um virtue signaling

163:28

which means that we can just be growing

163:31

ups and talk about the reality of things

163:32

we don't have to fluff around things so

163:35

it's really really really great to talk

163:36

to you all the time and I think that's

163:37

also why you're so resonant because

163:39

people they trust you and it goes back

163:41

to what we were saying even if they

163:43

don't like me even if they don't like

163:44

you they trust you I think people like

163:45

you people love you people in our

163:46

comment section obviously you get the

163:48

conspiracy the lot I think you're still

163:50

like part of the CIA or whatever but

163:52

side of that people are so so so um

163:55

happy and they do appreciate the work

163:57

you're doing because it really it does

163:58

help people change their lives because

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as you said so many people are trapped

164:01

in that shed and as you said they know

164:04

that there's something out there better

164:06

but and they've tried a bunch of [ __ ]

164:08

and they're still in the shed and you

164:10

give them a rubric a framework to start

164:13

to run tasks in their life to see if um

164:16

if there's a a way out the shed and it's

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not going to be simple and it's not

164:19

going to be easy because if it was it

164:21

wouldn't be worth it but there is a way

164:22

and that hope alone I think can really

164:24

get people off the soff and towards the

164:26

life that they that that they deserve so

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thank you Andrew we have a closing

164:30

tradition where the last guest leaves a

164:31

question for the next question left for

164:33

you is presumably you either do or don't

164:37

lean toward believing in an afterlife or

164:40

something after death if your belief

164:43

were proven definitely wrong how would

164:46

it change your behavior

164:50

today so which one do you believe I

164:52

guess I believe in an afterlife

164:54

interesting I believe in an afterlife I

164:56

don't

164:57

think I can conceptualize what that

165:00

would be but I believe that there is

165:02

something after we

165:05

pass and if that was proven definitively

165:09

wrong you know what's really [ __ ] up

165:11

is if that was proven definitively wrong

165:12

I would probably still challenge the

165:15

proof it would be hard to let that go it

165:18

would be hard to trust

165:21

proof you know I guess the answer then

165:24

to my to the question is how would my

165:26

life change I would spend a lot more

165:30

time thinking and challenging the belief

165:35

that I currently spend no time

165:37

reflecting or thinking

165:40

about does that make sense so yeah you

165:42

you'd spend more time challenging the

165:44

belief that there's an afterlife yes

165:48

which is kind of crazy

165:49

I would spend more time and energy

165:52

challenging the proof that proves my

165:55

fundamental belief wrong I would spend

165:57

more time in that thought process than I

166:00

spend in that thought process now why to

166:03

try and change it I I don't think it I

166:05

think it's because it would create such

166:08

a a a sense of dissonance in my head

166:12

because I've I've believed it for so

166:14

long and now it's definitively proved

166:16

wrong it's not like you can just flip a

166:17

coin and be like oh I was wrong but in

166:20

in this example you would basically be

166:22

there you'd be proven I know so you'd be

166:25

you'd be convinced so you wouldn't

166:26

actually be interrogating it because

166:28

that's what you would believe so so I

166:30

guess you're right if if the if the if

166:32

the question is assuming that as soon as

166:34

the proof comes out I accept the proof

166:37

and I accept the new reality yeah I can

166:40

I can that's a fair question too that's

166:42

a fair interpretation um I think I would

166:46

probably be that much more cautious

166:49

careful with the life that I have to

166:50

know that there is no Second Life there

166:52

is no SEC there's no after chance there

166:55

is

166:56

no coming back and visiting your

166:58

children their dreams there is no

167:00

meeting them In Heaven There is no

167:02

Nirvana there really is just black after

167:06

you pass would make me that much more

167:09

invested in the moments that I have now

167:11

because it's all I

167:12

got would it change any decision you've

167:15

made in the past yeah just like the

167:17

day-to-day decisions would you damn it

167:20

would hold this question sucks man good

167:23

question shitty answer I would if I knew

167:27

that and I had to go back I would change

167:29

all sorts of things I would take less

167:30

risks like less physical body bodily

167:33

risks I would have never learned how to

167:36

ride a motorcycle I would have never

167:37

skydived I would have never learned a

167:39

free dive I would have never learned a

167:40

sail I would have never I would have

167:43

never joined the CIA if I knew there was

167:46

no chance that like that this is the one

167:49

chance you get I would probably live a

167:51

very dull boring and conservative life

167:53

do you know what's interesting is I

167:55

don't think there's an

167:57

afterlife and I Skydive and I think I

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take

168:03

risks but I'm okay with the fact that I

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don't think anything happens after I die

168:08

yeah because I

168:10

think I was totally okay someone said I

168:13

think it was Ricky J said this once I

168:14

was how did you feel 100 years ago

168:18

I want I want us I want us to have a

168:23

beer 6 weeks after you have a

168:26

baby and talk about this question again

168:29

can we put that on a calendar I guess we

168:30

can't put that on a calendar yet or else

168:32

or else you have a much happier

168:35

partner because children's change

168:37

children change everything too children

168:40

change everything when it comes to your

168:42

tolerance for risking

168:44

yourself I I know you're telling the

168:46

truth a because I believe you be because

168:49

my brother who's a year older than me

168:51

has three kids and he said something

168:54

very peculiar to me one day I said Jason

168:57

why don't you fly to London and he goes

168:59

Stephen and he's um he's I think he was

169:01

Investment Bank for 12 years actal

169:03

scientist so literally his job was to

169:04

like assess probability probability

169:06

Super Genius at maths um he was like I

169:09

know this makes no

169:11

sense but I don't want to get on a plane

169:14

if my kids aren't on

169:16

it I love this

169:19

I had such I had a similar conversation

169:23

with somebody

169:24

recently and they were shocked when I

169:26

said almost the same thing because they

169:29

were like why would you want to get on a

169:31

plane if if you're afraid of getting on

169:33

a plane without your kids it's because

169:35

you're afraid the plane will crash and I

169:37

was like correct well then if you're

169:39

willing to get on a plane with your kids

169:42

aren't you afraid it will crash and for

169:44

me I'm like of course it could still

169:46

crash but now I'm I can be with my kids

169:49

to comfort them in that moment rather

169:52

than they have to live a life without

169:55

dad's comfort and without dad

169:57

forever I don't know why it makes sense

170:00

to me but I know that it makes sense to

170:02

me and I know that half of the people I

170:03

explain that to think it's really [ __ ]

170:05

up maybe people that don't have kids but

170:07

that's what my brother said to me and I

170:08

sat there because he's such a logical

170:09

smart guy and he knows the probability

170:11

he said it because I know the

170:12

probabilities of planes I know they're

170:13

safe because this makes no sense but

170:16

this is how I feel I don't want to get

170:17

on a plane and come to unless my kids

170:19

are on the plane with me wow and I

170:21

thought that makes no sense to

170:23

me the way you've R you've explained it

170:25

does help me to understand so maybe six

170:27

weeks after I have a kid maybe I will be

170:30

a bit more attached to some kind of

170:32

afterlife or or maybe not I mean and I'm

170:33

not saying I'm not saying the

170:36

afterlife I'm saying that the Reckless

170:40

like the fact that you take yeah you're

170:42

not afraid of death right now yeah I'm

170:43

not afraid of death no I feel like when

170:46

you have children it changes because now

170:48

it's not just your life that you're

170:49

impacting that's so crazy that's so

170:52

interesting and I know that there's so

170:53

many parents that are about to DM

170:55

LinkedIn me Instagram me and also you

170:58

and say exactly that they're going to

171:00

agree with you so Andrew thank you it's

171:03

been such an honor and I really really

171:05

enjoy speaking to you so um thank you

171:07

again for coming to do this and thank

171:08

you so much for the value you've brought

171:09

to the audience because you know you're

171:11

very much in every sense of the word One

171:12

of a Kind so I appreciate you Stephen I

171:14

appreciate being here thank you very

171:15

much for for the friendship and for the

171:17

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Interactive Summary

Former CIA officer Andrew Bustamante, founder of Everyday Spy, discusses how intelligence tradecraft and frameworks can be applied to everyday life, business, and leadership. He explains the concepts of 'breaking the shed'—shattering conditioned societal beliefs—and using 'Social Capital' (the Four Cs) to build influence and achieve goals. Bustamante emphasizes the importance of understanding perspective versus perception, the necessity of testing information through experience, and the strategic value of polarity and honesty in both personal and professional spheres.

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