So bro, literally in this video I'm

going to tell you the easiest ways to

overcome those negative thoughts. Now

this is a huge problem and you probably

relate to this as well because I'm

someone who's like overthought

everything has always thought

negatively. I remember dude when I was

little I used to go to like like

Walgreens. I used to go to these stores

and literally like I would check out and

I remember that if the cashier didn't

say thank you or you're welcome, dude. I

remember I would overthink every single

thing and I was like, "Oh, did they not

like me? Did they discriminate against

me? Did I say something weird?" And

dude, my whole life I would have these

constant negative thoughts. And

recently, what I'm going to share you is

something that you've never seen before

because here's something that has that

has happened recently. So, within my

house that I live in, because I'm in

university, recently there was a house

problem.

So, long story short, two of my

roommates that I'm currently living

with, there was a little bit of tension.

One of them had like pushed the other a

little bit too far. And for about a

week, these two roommates did not speak

to each other. And one of these

roommates is, you know, he's a more

confident. He's a more stoic guy. And

the other one, you know, he's still

really cool, but he's had some

overthinking problems. You know, he

constantly thinks negative despite him

trying to work on himself, which is

good, right? But I remember I was

telling the guy, the negative guy,

right, who was constantly just he was

overthinking the situation. He was kind

of holding that grudge. And I was like,

you know what, bro? It's not worth

overthinking about this stuff. And I

told him, I'm gonna send you this book.

And he was like, oh, you know, I'll read

it, but you know, I'm probably it's not

going to be the same. I'm not going to

talk to this guy ever again, right? The

guy that pushed him. And so, long story

short, I gave this guy this book. And

next week, he decides to forgive every

single thing that's going on. He

literally talks to this guy. He was

like, "You know what? It's not worth

overthinking." And the reason why I'm

showing you this is because from this

book, just by reading this book, I

realized that this other roommate,

right, he was already changed. He was

already stopping thinking that negative

mindset and everything. So, literally,

I'm going to show you a couple concepts

in the book that have really resonated

with me and what I use in this book to

overcome those negative thoughts. And by

the way, this book is called The Subtle

Art of Not Giving an F. I don't want to

say the word because I don't cuss and I

don't want to get demonetized, but it's

a really good book. Check it out. But

here are like the two main concepts that

really help you to stop negative

thinking. So, the first concept and

probably like the most mind-blowing

concept in this book is that problems

don't go away.

I'll say it again. Problems don't go

away. They are either exchanged or

upgraded with more problems. Now, you

might be confused. You might be like,

"What is this talking about? How is this

going to help me?" But let me tell you

something. Negative thoughts usually

stem from problems. We're always

thinking about, "Oh, I don't have enough

money to do this. Oh, I'm not

good-looking like this guy.

Oh, I don't have enough time to do XYZ."

But let me tell you something. Sure,

there's things that if we were to get,

they would probably make our lives a lot

easier and a lot better. But here's the

thing. If we get the certain things that

we want, that does not mean that we'll

never have problems. Because there's no

such thing as a problem free life. I'm

going explain this right here. Watch

this. Right? So, think think about this

problem right here. Being overweight.

Your problem is is that you're

overweight. You're fat. You get tired

easily. People make fun of you, you look

ugly. That's the problem, right? Okay.

Now, your solution would be to lose

weight,

diet, go to the gym, right? And let's

say you do all those things, right? And

you get to that stage. You know, you

look good, you're not fat anymore. But

here's the thing. Your problem of being

overweight is now associated with your

problems of being healthy. What are your

problems of being healthy now? Well, now

you have to sacrifice time for the gym.

Now you have to pay money for your

membership. Now you have to pay money to

pay for food supplements.

Now you have to risk being injured. You

got to be more careful about yourself.

So do you see like yes you can improve

your life. Please do. But there's no

such thing as a problem for your life.

And this relates to every single

concept. Everything you do, every good

thing that you do, every bad thing that

you do, there'll always be problems. So

when you realize that, oh,

life's going to be full of problems

anyway, you kind of just learn to

embrace the problems. So next time you

have a problem, let's say, you know, you

you don't have any time. You're busy all

the time, realize that if you were to

free up space

and do the things that you want to do,

you'd still have a problem. You still

have a problem. Maybe that you have to

spend more money doing the thing that

you want to do. Maybe you get bored,

maybe it doesn't work out. There's going

to be some problem anyway. So when you

realize that problems are inevitable,

you start to accept them. You start to

just be like, "Oh, this is a part of

life. Every single person and every

single solution comes with problems." So

that's the first one. Second one is

simply understanding that this thing

right here, your brain, it's not your

best friend, but it's actually an enemy.

You see, what makes human beings so

powerful are our minds. You ever start

to realize that most animals in the

world can kill us, right?

Rhinos, tigers, lions, elephants.

But yet we are the race that literally

enslaves these animals. We control these

animals. We lock them up. But the only

reason why we're able to do that is

because of our minds.

We're able to speak, communicate, read,

write. We can communicate in a way that

helps us that has helped us to build

these these zoos, you know, you know,

tackle animals together, capture them

together.

But the reason why I'm telling you this

is because in this book, right, Mark

Manson, the author, he basically

explains that this thing right here,

they've done a study where your brain

can randomly make up random things. And

there's a study done, I believe, that

they put like a bunch of people into

like a room where they have to press

buttons to try to get a pattern. And

reality, you know, these guys are

pressing the buttons trying to get the

pattern going when in reality there was

no pattern.

It was the science experimenters just

like playing with them and making random

noises thinking that these

people were actually getting the

pattern, but they weren't. And so what

this means is that your brain is

constantly making assumptions even when

they're not true. So if you think that

so and so is looking at you, they're

not. They're most likely not. If you

think a situation is going to be bad, it

probably isn't going to be as bad as you

think. And

in this book, I realized that your brain

is literally making assumptions all the

time. Your brain's so creative. We think

about any single scenario that we can in

the world. Think about that. Animals

can't do that.

That's how powerful our brains are. And

so when you realize that when you

realize your brain is making a bunch of

false scenarios and situations more than

it should, you start to ignore it. You

start to realize, hey, my brain is like

this. My brain's powerful. My brain's

naturally going to do this, so I'm going

to ignore it. So those are a couple

powerful concepts in the book that have

helped me to stop overthinking and

having those negative thoughts. Like,

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the next one. Peace.