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Miami Parties Vs Living a Life of Purpose (most men are trapped)

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Miami Parties Vs Living a Life of Purpose (most men are trapped)

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I've done a lot of crazy [ __ ] in my

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life. I'll be honest. It's been a wild

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ass ride. I guess part of it was because

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I made money when I was 27 years old and

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I had the freedom to do whatever I

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wanted. And sometimes you think that

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freedom is everything you ever wanted.

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And at the time it was, but it was how I

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used that freedom. And I think I just

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wanted to let loose at that point when I

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was 27. I think I just wanted to go

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wherever I wanted to go in the world and

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just party and just get with girls. And

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my priorities were in the wrong order.

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And that might have been because I felt

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locked up in London from a young age.

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You know, there was a lot of pressure

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from my father to perform and to become

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wealthy. There was a lot of pressure in

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the city of London to perform and to get

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on the London underground every every

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morning and it was dark and it was

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horrible and it was gloomy and I would

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go to work and I wouldn't, you know,

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wouldn't be paid enough. That was in the

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financial crisis in 2009

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and I hated my jobs in the city. So

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there was always a lot of pressure on me

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to the point where where I finally got

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what I wanted and that was time and

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money. I used it in the way that I

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shouldn't have used it. I used it to

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travel and to party and to sleep with

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girls

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and dabble in substances and just really

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explore myself. So I'll be honest, I

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didn't really know what I was doing at

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that age. And I've engaged in a lot of

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hedonistic behavior, especially moving

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somewhere like Miami all those years

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ago. And recently in Miami, I felt like

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I'd come to the end of my time of this

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hedonism hamster wheel. I had enough of

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it. It didn't feel good anymore. The

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partying didn't feel good. The music

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didn't feel good. The people didn't feel

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good. The girls didn't feel good. The

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sex didn't feel good. The next morning

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didn't feel good. Nothing was working

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anymore. I was just like, "Nah, this is

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the wrong path for me to take."

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And I think a lot of that is probably to

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do with the fact that I I found God and

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I started really believing a lot more in

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Christ and understanding religion and

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understanding what my purpose was on

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this earth and that I'm meant for more

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than partying around like a [ __ ]

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idiot in Tulum in the jungle and in

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Miami and trying to act as someone. And

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it wasn't about me raising my social

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status in the music scene. It was more

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about me building something that felt

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like it really mattered. And so I did

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start making these YouTube videos around

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two years ago now. And things have

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really started to come come around for

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me. Actually, I went viral this weekend

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in Dubai for a funny dating video that

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Love in Dubai reposted on their page.

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That's the biggest Instagram page in

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Dubai. So I got a massive amount of

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verality this weekend. And did that feel

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good? Yeah. Yeah. For for a short while.

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But then, as with anything in the world,

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there's an anticlimax, right? It just

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drops off. It's more so how I'm using

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that attention and that verality and

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that fame and social status if you like.

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But the hedonism got boring guys. I just

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I was I was a bit lost in Miami and

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that's why I got out of there. And

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although a lot of you were saying, "Oh,

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now you're in Dubai and it's just as

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hedonistic." Well, the truth is is I'm

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in Dubai with a much bigger purpose this

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time and I really feel like I'm meant to

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be here. I'm making a lot of contacts.

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I'm networking with a lot of people. I'm

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pitching venture capitalists with my

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with my company. I run a uh a patent

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detection engine. It's an automated

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algo. It's like a trading desk of 10

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people, but it's a piece of technology

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that me and my two partners have built.

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So, I'm coming here with a lot more

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purpose. I'm getting a lot of good

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messages from you guys on YouTube, on

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Instagram, thanking me for the work that

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I do for free. I don't sell courses. I

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don't make money from any of this stuff.

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I do this for completely free because it

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fills my soul. And I've met some

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fantastic people along the journey. And

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I think that now that I've got over this

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kind of hedonistic trap and not feeling

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good doing those stupid things, I'm at a

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different stage in my life now. And I

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think what you need to do is you need to

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trust that process a little bit more. I

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know people say trust the process. Very

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cliche thing to say, but I don't regret

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any of the times that I had in the last

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1015 years. I could be like, "Oh, I

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regret it. I should have been building

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massive companies rather than partying."

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Not really. No, that was my path. That

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was what I was supposed to do. I was

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supposed to have fun. I was supposed to

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go through that whole episode of madness

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and having that freedom to then discover

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myself. So, you have to trust in God's

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path for you. You have to trust in

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yourself most importantly. And I think

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that's what also helped me. The fact

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that I started to believe in the great

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creator himself and him setting the path

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for me and then telling me, look, it's

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fine. This you went on your journey and

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at least it was authentic to you. At

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least you did it the way you wanted to

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do it and now you're on this new

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pathway.

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And that makes me feel very comfortable.

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I really think I'm over that hedonistic

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trap. Look, I'm still going to party and

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still have fun, but a lot less because

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last week when I went to Serene Baya

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and I drank like 10 drinks. The next day

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I was like, "I feel disgusting." I felt

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like I was reverting back to who I was

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all those years ago. And that's just not

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me anymore, man. I'm someone that wakes

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up and trains and builds my business and

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shows love and is productive. And that's

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really who I am. So figuring out really

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who you are is is the key. And you'll go

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through these stages and through these

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journeys in life. And now I'm at a

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particular stage and journey. I'm meant

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to be here in Dubai. I'm meant to be

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raising capital. I'm meant to continue

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building my social media presence. I'm

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meant to gather the troops and to be a

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leader and to help men get through these

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difficult times. So funny because in

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today's day and age, we can build more

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wealth than ever. Yet we seem to be

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lonier and have more of a mental health

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crisis than ever before. So it's

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fascinating. But I know exactly why

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that's the case and I pinpoint why

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that's the case and I discuss all these

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things on my channel. So for me, this is

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about my journey and who I've become

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along that journey and not regretting

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anything that you've been through. If

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you're 50 right now and you've wasted

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the last 30 years, okay, I can

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understand why you have some regrets.

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But if you're 25, 30, 35, 40 listening

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to me and you might have wasted the last

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8 to 10 years pissing around, chasing

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women, maybe you divorced and maybe

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like, you know, maybe like you got kids

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and you feel like you're now missing out

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on life and you wasted a massive period,

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then fear not because you've got plenty

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of time to get it right and to get back

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on the daily habits that you should be

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performing. Ultimately, that's what

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makes me who I am and that makes me

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happy. It's my daily habits like

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training every day, eating well, talking

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to my loved ones, making these videos,

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sending out a positive message in the

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world, and just being a positive person

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overall. And I think when I went to

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these parties in Miami and across the

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world and I partied, I was just

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resonating my positive energy. And

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that's how I met so many people. That's

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how I built my Instagram. I built my

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Instagram by just being a positive, good

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energy guy. You know, like I'm magnetic

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when I go to these parties. I attract

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women. I attract I attract dudes who

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want to talk to me and find out who I

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am. and I built a massive circle of

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friends across the planet and that's

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testament to my my Instagram page. So, I

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guess that was what I wanted for those

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years. Like it was almost seeking

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validation, you know, like you're young,

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you're seeking validation, you want to

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be cool, you know, I thought I was going

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to be a DJ. I thought I was going to be

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a singer. And then I realized that's not

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the path for me. So then you realign

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that path and you try again. The

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important thing is is that you keep

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trying. And that's the thing about me is

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that I'm relentless and I'll never stop

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trying. And now I'm on this new path and

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it feels right for me. And you'll know

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when it feels right. God will set you on

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the right path at the right time. You

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have to believe that you cannot keep

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working against the grain. Every time I

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worked against the grain, life just felt

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really challenging and difficult. And

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now I really feel like I'm going with

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the wave. I believe it's called towism.

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I really feel like I'm riding the wave

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of life and I'm I am supposed to be

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where I'm at. A lot of you are probably

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frustrated with your growth and we all

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are. I'm frustrated with my growth. I

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literally feel like I should be worth

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hundreds of M by now making mad

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gamechanging moves. But that's fine

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because that's the masculine complex. If

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you're ambitious, you'll probably feel

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the same way as I do. Just remember

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everything that's happened to you was

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supposed to happen to you and you can

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take control from now on

Interactive Summary

The speaker reflects on a past period of intense hedonism in his late twenties, driven by newfound wealth and a desire to escape pressure from his upbringing in London. This phase involved extensive travel, partying, and self-exploration, which he now recognizes as having had misplaced priorities. After experiencing burnout and a lack of fulfillment from this lifestyle, he turned to spirituality and found a sense of purpose. He has since transitioned to building a company, creating YouTube content for free, and networking, particularly in Dubai. He emphasizes the importance of identifying one's true self, trusting life's path, and focusing on positive daily habits and genuine connections, rather than seeking external validation or succumbing to hedonistic traps. He believes that life's challenges are part of a larger plan and encourages resilience and continuous effort, even amidst ambition and potential frustration with growth.

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