Miami Parties Vs Living a Life of Purpose (most men are trapped)
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I've done a lot of crazy [ __ ] in my
life. I'll be honest. It's been a wild
ass ride. I guess part of it was because
I made money when I was 27 years old and
I had the freedom to do whatever I
wanted. And sometimes you think that
freedom is everything you ever wanted.
And at the time it was, but it was how I
used that freedom. And I think I just
wanted to let loose at that point when I
was 27. I think I just wanted to go
wherever I wanted to go in the world and
just party and just get with girls. And
my priorities were in the wrong order.
And that might have been because I felt
locked up in London from a young age.
You know, there was a lot of pressure
from my father to perform and to become
wealthy. There was a lot of pressure in
the city of London to perform and to get
on the London underground every every
morning and it was dark and it was
horrible and it was gloomy and I would
go to work and I wouldn't, you know,
wouldn't be paid enough. That was in the
financial crisis in 2009
and I hated my jobs in the city. So
there was always a lot of pressure on me
to the point where where I finally got
what I wanted and that was time and
money. I used it in the way that I
shouldn't have used it. I used it to
travel and to party and to sleep with
girls
and dabble in substances and just really
explore myself. So I'll be honest, I
didn't really know what I was doing at
that age. And I've engaged in a lot of
hedonistic behavior, especially moving
somewhere like Miami all those years
ago. And recently in Miami, I felt like
I'd come to the end of my time of this
hedonism hamster wheel. I had enough of
it. It didn't feel good anymore. The
partying didn't feel good. The music
didn't feel good. The people didn't feel
good. The girls didn't feel good. The
sex didn't feel good. The next morning
didn't feel good. Nothing was working
anymore. I was just like, "Nah, this is
the wrong path for me to take."
And I think a lot of that is probably to
do with the fact that I I found God and
I started really believing a lot more in
Christ and understanding religion and
understanding what my purpose was on
this earth and that I'm meant for more
than partying around like a [ __ ]
idiot in Tulum in the jungle and in
Miami and trying to act as someone. And
it wasn't about me raising my social
status in the music scene. It was more
about me building something that felt
like it really mattered. And so I did
start making these YouTube videos around
two years ago now. And things have
really started to come come around for
me. Actually, I went viral this weekend
in Dubai for a funny dating video that
Love in Dubai reposted on their page.
That's the biggest Instagram page in
Dubai. So I got a massive amount of
verality this weekend. And did that feel
good? Yeah. Yeah. For for a short while.
But then, as with anything in the world,
there's an anticlimax, right? It just
drops off. It's more so how I'm using
that attention and that verality and
that fame and social status if you like.
But the hedonism got boring guys. I just
I was I was a bit lost in Miami and
that's why I got out of there. And
although a lot of you were saying, "Oh,
now you're in Dubai and it's just as
hedonistic." Well, the truth is is I'm
in Dubai with a much bigger purpose this
time and I really feel like I'm meant to
be here. I'm making a lot of contacts.
I'm networking with a lot of people. I'm
pitching venture capitalists with my
with my company. I run a uh a patent
detection engine. It's an automated
algo. It's like a trading desk of 10
people, but it's a piece of technology
that me and my two partners have built.
So, I'm coming here with a lot more
purpose. I'm getting a lot of good
messages from you guys on YouTube, on
Instagram, thanking me for the work that
I do for free. I don't sell courses. I
don't make money from any of this stuff.
I do this for completely free because it
fills my soul. And I've met some
fantastic people along the journey. And
I think that now that I've got over this
kind of hedonistic trap and not feeling
good doing those stupid things, I'm at a
different stage in my life now. And I
think what you need to do is you need to
trust that process a little bit more. I
know people say trust the process. Very
cliche thing to say, but I don't regret
any of the times that I had in the last
1015 years. I could be like, "Oh, I
regret it. I should have been building
massive companies rather than partying."
Not really. No, that was my path. That
was what I was supposed to do. I was
supposed to have fun. I was supposed to
go through that whole episode of madness
and having that freedom to then discover
myself. So, you have to trust in God's
path for you. You have to trust in
yourself most importantly. And I think
that's what also helped me. The fact
that I started to believe in the great
creator himself and him setting the path
for me and then telling me, look, it's
fine. This you went on your journey and
at least it was authentic to you. At
least you did it the way you wanted to
do it and now you're on this new
pathway.
And that makes me feel very comfortable.
I really think I'm over that hedonistic
trap. Look, I'm still going to party and
still have fun, but a lot less because
last week when I went to Serene Baya
and I drank like 10 drinks. The next day
I was like, "I feel disgusting." I felt
like I was reverting back to who I was
all those years ago. And that's just not
me anymore, man. I'm someone that wakes
up and trains and builds my business and
shows love and is productive. And that's
really who I am. So figuring out really
who you are is is the key. And you'll go
through these stages and through these
journeys in life. And now I'm at a
particular stage and journey. I'm meant
to be here in Dubai. I'm meant to be
raising capital. I'm meant to continue
building my social media presence. I'm
meant to gather the troops and to be a
leader and to help men get through these
difficult times. So funny because in
today's day and age, we can build more
wealth than ever. Yet we seem to be
lonier and have more of a mental health
crisis than ever before. So it's
fascinating. But I know exactly why
that's the case and I pinpoint why
that's the case and I discuss all these
things on my channel. So for me, this is
about my journey and who I've become
along that journey and not regretting
anything that you've been through. If
you're 50 right now and you've wasted
the last 30 years, okay, I can
understand why you have some regrets.
But if you're 25, 30, 35, 40 listening
to me and you might have wasted the last
8 to 10 years pissing around, chasing
women, maybe you divorced and maybe
like, you know, maybe like you got kids
and you feel like you're now missing out
on life and you wasted a massive period,
then fear not because you've got plenty
of time to get it right and to get back
on the daily habits that you should be
performing. Ultimately, that's what
makes me who I am and that makes me
happy. It's my daily habits like
training every day, eating well, talking
to my loved ones, making these videos,
sending out a positive message in the
world, and just being a positive person
overall. And I think when I went to
these parties in Miami and across the
world and I partied, I was just
resonating my positive energy. And
that's how I met so many people. That's
how I built my Instagram. I built my
Instagram by just being a positive, good
energy guy. You know, like I'm magnetic
when I go to these parties. I attract
women. I attract I attract dudes who
want to talk to me and find out who I
am. and I built a massive circle of
friends across the planet and that's
testament to my my Instagram page. So, I
guess that was what I wanted for those
years. Like it was almost seeking
validation, you know, like you're young,
you're seeking validation, you want to
be cool, you know, I thought I was going
to be a DJ. I thought I was going to be
a singer. And then I realized that's not
the path for me. So then you realign
that path and you try again. The
important thing is is that you keep
trying. And that's the thing about me is
that I'm relentless and I'll never stop
trying. And now I'm on this new path and
it feels right for me. And you'll know
when it feels right. God will set you on
the right path at the right time. You
have to believe that you cannot keep
working against the grain. Every time I
worked against the grain, life just felt
really challenging and difficult. And
now I really feel like I'm going with
the wave. I believe it's called towism.
I really feel like I'm riding the wave
of life and I'm I am supposed to be
where I'm at. A lot of you are probably
frustrated with your growth and we all
are. I'm frustrated with my growth. I
literally feel like I should be worth
hundreds of M by now making mad
gamechanging moves. But that's fine
because that's the masculine complex. If
you're ambitious, you'll probably feel
the same way as I do. Just remember
everything that's happened to you was
supposed to happen to you and you can
take control from now on
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The speaker reflects on a past period of intense hedonism in his late twenties, driven by newfound wealth and a desire to escape pressure from his upbringing in London. This phase involved extensive travel, partying, and self-exploration, which he now recognizes as having had misplaced priorities. After experiencing burnout and a lack of fulfillment from this lifestyle, he turned to spirituality and found a sense of purpose. He has since transitioned to building a company, creating YouTube content for free, and networking, particularly in Dubai. He emphasizes the importance of identifying one's true self, trusting life's path, and focusing on positive daily habits and genuine connections, rather than seeking external validation or succumbing to hedonistic traps. He believes that life's challenges are part of a larger plan and encourages resilience and continuous effort, even amidst ambition and potential frustration with growth.
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