"We Don’t Mean What We Say" - Steven Pinker Part 1
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[Applause]
Well, hello everyone.
This is very exciting. Um, Steven's book
is all about uh common knowledge. It's
called When Everyone Knows That Everyone
Knows. dot dot dot. all about all kinds
of things, but including things like how
people coordinate on making sure they're
all kind of dressed appropriately in a
way that matches, uh, which we we
immediately failed to do. Um,
I I should say I'm I looking forward to
this evening, but I'm also uh I I view
it with some trepidation. The uh the
first time that Stephen and I were in a
room together was at a conference about
um about political violence. I seem to
remember. And uh Steven was amazing. And
uh at the end of the conference, there
was a conference dinner and the host of
the conference dinner took time to
explain how unhelpful he had found my
contribution. Um
that was the first time we were in a
room together. The last time we we
interacted, it was for a BBC radio
program. Um, Stephen had uh me and uh
the much missed investor Charlie Munger
uh talk about cognitive errors that we
had made. Charlie Munger told a little
story about a mistake he had made. I I
told a little story about a mistake I'd
made at which point Charlie Munger, who
I think was about 98 at the time, hooted
with laughter and said, "That is the
dumbest thing I have ever heard in my
life. I thought mine was stupid, but
that you you really must be an idiot."
So, um, anyway, so what I'm saying is
third time lucky. Uh, the bar has been
set low.
I I expect Steven to be excellent, but
who knows
what idiocies I'm going to commit over
the next uh hour and a and a hour and a
quarter. Hour and a quarter. Yes. Hour
and six minutes. Now, uh if I don't keep
if I keep talking like this, the um the
format is that I'm going to uh ask
Stephen questions about his wonderful
book for about 4550 minutes and then uh
you are going to send in questions uh
via this magic iPad in front of me uh
and I will put your questions uh to
Stephen and u most importantly at the
end of the evening uh Stephen in the uh
foyer out there is going to be signing
books for I think probably for every
single one of you. Um, he never gets
tired. He's indeathicable. He loves
signing books. So, please, um, make your
requests as complicated as you like.
Personalizations, poems, everything. Um,
he he loves that. So,
I'm having too much fun already. I
should probably let Steven say
something. Stephen. Um the so this is a
book about many things but in particular
it's a book about uh what is quite a
formal concept uh common knowledge
and I I wanted to start because no one
can escape now for the next hour and a
half. Um I wanted to start by exploring
the formal concept before we uh go
through all the interesting
ramifications
and you have I think the most elegant
illustration of a famous logic puzzle
the spinach problem. So may can we start
with the spinach problem and and um I'm
sure everyone in the audience will be
able to solve it.
>> This has been called the world's hardest
logic problem and it has uh it goes back
to the early 1950s. It comes in various
versions, some of them not safe for work
by 21st century standards. Sometimes
called the muddy children problem, the
barbecue sauce problem. My version is uh
the spinach and teeth problem. So
there's an academic dinner, a bunch of
psychologists
at a banquet. They serve um halalibet
with sauteed spinach. And so there's a
hazard that you might get a a bit of
spinach in your teeth. It's mortifying
if it happens to you, but there are no
mirrors around. Uh everyone is too
polite to tell anyone else that they
have spinach in their teeth, and no one
wants to uh pick their teeth if they're
in fact clean.
So, the department chair can't stand it
any longer. Uh, there are three people
with spinach in their teeth. She gets up
and she says, "Uh, at least at least one
of you has spinach in their teeth. When
I clink the glass, that would be a good
time to remove it." So, she clinks the
glass and no one moves. She clings the
glass a second time and no one moves.
She clinks the glass a third time and
the three diners with spinach in their
teeth all remove the spinach. The
question is how do they know it was
them? That's that that's the problem.
>> Any anybody want to
>> I said it was too early for audience
participation.
>> There will be I will be asking questions
later by the way. Um so ex ex how how
does this puzzle resolve itself?
>> By the way I could have made it that
there were um seven diners with spinach
in their teeth and on the seventh clink
of the glass everyone cleans their teeth
by the same logic. speak up.
>> Oh,
>> I will do that. Is this better?
>> Okay. So, um, imagine this simple case
where there's just one diner with with
spinach in his teeth. Then the when the
chairman says, "At least one of you have
spinach in your teeth," uh, and and
clinks the glass, everyone looks around.
Um the person with spinaches teeth sees
that everyone else's teeth is
clean knows that he has to be the one.
So that's easy. Now imagine there are
two people. The uh again department
chair clinks the glass. People look
around. Now at this point um no one can
know that it's them. They do see uh
everyone sees um the person with spinach
in his teeth sees one other person with
spinach in her teeth. But uh since all
the department chair said was that at
least one of you, he can't know that she
whether she's the only one or uh he also
has spinach in her teeth. However, she
did not remove her spinach at the clink
of the glass. That means it couldn't
have been that that she must have seen
someone else with spinach in his teeth
and so it must be him. So on the second
clink of the glass both of them clean
their teeth because she has gone through
the same uh coitation.
Now you can see that this logic can be
extended to any number of people with
spinach in their teeth after the
corresponding number of clinks and it
but it crucially depends on the
announcement being public. common
knowledge in the technical sense that
not only does everyone know it, but
everyone knows that everyone knows it.
And it is only the fact that the
announcement was public that could
allows you to deduce what the other
person uh didn't do uh and therefore
what the other person must have seen. If
for example the department chair had
slipped a note to everyone or whispered
in everyone's ear that at least person
one person has spinach in their teeth,
uh it wouldn't work. you couldn't come
to the same deduction. So it's a a
puzzle that depends on the concept of
common knowledge which sounds rather uh
obstruuse everyone knowing that everyone
knows that everyone knows something but
it's one of many examples perhaps the
the the most fish in which it actually
plays a role in our uh social lives.
>> So I I love the explanation of the
puzzle. I mean, they all these various
ones with people with blue eyes and with
black hats. And I mean, I'm I'm addicted
to logic puzzles. So, I' I've seen
versions of this puzzle uh over and over
again over the years. And I and I I
think this the spinach and the clinking
of the glass is is perfect. Um but it's
it's weird, right? This is a weird
puzzle.
>> This is a weird No one actually behaves
like this. No one actually thinks, "Oh,
everyone knows that. everyone knows that
everyone that you know no one goes oh
Steven knows that I know that Steven
knows that I know that Steven knows that
I know it's what the dot dot dot on the
cover of the book is for
>> which I had to fight for
>> yeah which well rightly so because
otherwise otherwise it's just talking
about one level of mutual knowledge
that's that's not the same thing at all
um but this is this is kind of this is
an odd kind of niche and so economists
like me who found out that you were
writing a talk about common knowledge,
we all have the same reaction, I think,
which is basically common knowledge is a
weird thing about kind of knowledge
partitions and odd logic puzzles and
strange corners of game theory and it's
all very cute if you like that sort of
thing, but it has no wider application
whatsoever. Um, reading the book, which
is a wonderful book, which you will all
enjoy, I realized that there's all the
applications in the world. So, so what
was the point at which you you got hold
of this
this sort of strange kind of infinite
regress of mental reasoning and realized
that there was something much broader
there. I came to it through my interest
in language. Um it enters into an
understanding of language at the
simplest level at um what language is
and how it works and even how a word
works. A word is a convention. Uh, a
rose by any other name would smell just
as sweet. But it the sound rose works as
a way of evoking the concept rose
because every English speaker tacitly
knows that that sound goes with that
meaning. But more important, they know
that everyone else knows it and everyone
else knows that everyone else knows it.
And so you can use it indiscriminately
throughout the community of English
speakers and even kids are sensitive to
that when they learn uh words. if they
hear a word say from their mother, they
just assume that's that that's English.
I can use it with anyone else. I can use
it with third parties. They don't stop
to think, well, that's what what mom
calls it. Maybe dad calls it something
different. So, it's necessary to get
language going. Um, and and some of the
philosophical work in common knowledge
originated by trying to understand
conventions such as every word in a
language. But it enters into it in a
more subtle way in the phenomenon of
indirect speech. What linguist sometimes
call implicature and that it refers to
the fact that we often don't uh say what
we mean and don't mean what what we say.
Uh it's if you simply took the meaning
of every word in a sentence and the way
the grammatical rules combine them and
then you kind deduce who did what to
whom from what's the subject and what's
the verb. you'd still be clueless as to
very often as to what the person
actually is trying to convey. Such as if
you could pass the salt, that would be
awesome. Okay? Now, if you parse that,
you're not going to get what everyone
understands the the meaning to be in
context. And that's one of the reasons
that it took so long to get computers to
understand language if they simply crank
through an algorithm of deducing the
meaning of a sentence from the
arrangement of words. Then if you ask
the computer, can you um tell me the um
the the cheapest airfare from London to
New York? It would answer, yes, I can
tell you the cheapest airfare from
London to New York. But it's kind of
missing the point that this is actually
a request. It's not a uh a uh assessment
of the uh the the algorithm's
capabilities. I mean, let's let's unpack
for a second the meaning, the literal
meaning of if you could pass me the
salt, that would be awesome. Literally,
what does that mean?
>> Literally, it's a it's a hypothetical.
You're musing on on on possible worlds.
Um, it's also hyperbolic. It surely
wouldn't be worthy of awe if the if the
salt was passed.
>> Yes.
>> U, but we effortlessly in context
understand that it is a request. We also
understand that it's a polite request.
That is presumably the reason that you
go through these this this this
indirection is that you don't want to be
barking commands at someone who is not
your servant like treating them as if
they were a servant. So there's
something polite, respectful. You're
maintaining a social relationship.
also counting on the ability of your
hearer to catch your drift, read between
the lines to figure why would that
person be musing on this hypothetical.
Well, if if the person were would not be
pleased to get the salt, then they
wouldn't be asking to pass the salt. The
fact that they say that they would be
pleased. Uh the only way to make sense
of that in context is that that they
want the salt. So there that's a a
phenomenal linguist studied for decades
with not much attention to why we go
through the bother. Why don't we just
blurt it out? And there are many other
examples of indirect speech. And I
devoted a chapter in a previous book,
the the stuff of thought, language is a
window into human nature to puzzle
puzzle out why so much of of our uh
language is roundabout. It's uh we use
we shilly shalley. we use weasel words
uh instead of just you know kind of
cutting the crap and saying what we
mean.
>> I mean there is a can I kind of
interject with a specific example here.
So just before we came on about half an
hour before we came on stage Stephen um
one of the organizers wonderful people
from how to academy thank you very much
how to academy for uh arranging this
evening. One of the one of the
organizers from how to academy said uh
would you like me to get you a coffee?
Uh and and I and I said um no I don't
want a coffee. Thank you. Uh, it keeps
me awake. And then I immediately thought
of George Costanza from Seinfeld. This
famous scene in Seinfeld where George
Costanza's he's been out on a date and
it's gone quite well. And at the end of
the date, the lady he's been uh uh spent
the evening with says, "Would you like
to come up for coffee?" And George says,
"Um, no, thank you. Um, I can't drink
coffee late at night. It keeps me
awake."
She
seems slightly annoyed. It's all a bit
awkward. She leaves. He drives off. And
then immediat and then and the next
morning he's talking to he's talking to
his friends and he's like, "Coffee
doesn't mean coffee. Coffee means sex."
And but then his his friend's like, "No,
no, George. Sometimes coffee just does
mean coffee." He's like, "No, coffee
doesn't." And but so the question is, is
it true that coffee does sometimes mean
coffee? Why didn't she say, "Would you
like to come up to my place for sex?" If
if that that is in fact what she wanted,
why did so why didn't she say that?
>> Yes. Um the
>> Well, I I have I I have studied this
problem.
>> We're not one of we're not talking about
soul now. Come on.
>> The uh and it's one of many examples
where in socially fraught situations, we
don't blurt out what what we mean. So a
a sexual comment is is an example. the
polite request, a veiled bribe. If you
were going into a restaurant and did not
have a reservation and it occurred to
you that perhaps you could slip a 20
note to the major D in exchange for
jumping the queue and being seated
immediately, uh, you probably wouldn't
say, uh, if I give you 20, would you
seat me right away? And we know that
this is true because this is actually
tried as a it was an assignment that an
editor of a food magazine gave to a
writer who dared him to do it in the
fanciest restaurants in Manhattan on a
Saturday night and write up his
experience for the the magazine. Well,
his first reaction was that this was as
he took the taxi uh on on the way to the
the first uh assignment. For one thing,
he was filled with with apprehension and
dread. He kept imagining the uh the
angry retorts of some insensed matraee
like how dare you insult me or do you
think you can get in with that or what
kind of establishment do you think this
is? That was what was running through
his mind. That was the terror if he just
blurted it out. And so instead he used
innuendos, weasel words. He said um he
first of all he would hold the note out
of in peripheral vision and say to the
major de I was wondering if you might
have a cancellation or is there any way
to shorten my weight or this is a really
important night for me by the way it
worked every time. So you now know that
at least in New York 100% of major G's
are bribable. But what was he so afraid
of? Uh and there are other examples. A
veiled threat is also usually issued
indirectly. I I reproduce a scene from
the Sopranos in which a member the
member of the family approaches a high
school acquaintance uh pays for his
candy at the checkout counter and he
says, "Danny, great to see you. I hear
you're on the jury of the Soprano trial.
It's an important civic responsibility
that we should all take part in. You've
got a wife and kids. We know you'll do
the right thing, which everyone
recognizes as a veiled threat.
So, what's going on? Uh what is the
difference between a an obvious innuendo
and the humor in the Seinfeld episode is
that in that case it did go over his
head, but most grown people know when
they're being propositioned even
indirectly. So isn't so much that there
is plausible deniability stanza
notwithstanding, but there's plausible
deniability of common knowledge. I
suggested that the difference between an
innuendo, even an obvious innuendo, and
blurting it out is that blurting it out
generates common knowledge. Which is to
say, let's say um uh we'll flip it.
Let's say uh George says to his date,
"Uh, do you want to uh come up for
coffee?" and she says no. Uh, well, you
know, she knows that she's turned down a
sexual overture and and he knows it. But
does she know that he knows? She could
still think to herself, well, maybe he
thinks I'm naive. Maybe he thinks I just
uh turned down invitation to coffee. And
he could think, well, maybe she thinks
I'm dense. So, there's no common
knowledge, the higher order knowledge
about the knowledge. And crucially that
allows them to return to their platonic
relationship or their supervisor
supervise relationship some relationship
other than a sexual relationship which
is a to use some jargon a different
coordination game. Yeah.
>> So the idea is that social relationships
are coordination dilemmas. Two people
are friends or lovers or a um
um a dominant and a subordinate. If each
one knows that the other one knows that
they are uh common knowledge can um
upend that common understanding and so
we avoid the common knowledge that
speech ordinarily generates by using
innuendo and euphemism.
Ask follow-up questions or revisit key timestamps.
The speaker introduces Steven Pinker's book "When Everyone Knows That Everyone Knows," which explores the concept of common knowledge. The discussion begins with a famous logic puzzle, the "spinach problem," to illustrate how common knowledge, defined as everyone knowing that everyone knows something (and so on), is crucial for coordination and deduction. The speaker then delves into how this concept applies to language, explaining how words, as conventions, rely on common knowledge for their meaning and use. Furthermore, the discussion highlights indirect speech and euphemisms, arguing that we often use indirect language to avoid generating common knowledge in socially sensitive situations, thereby preserving social relationships and allowing for plausible deniability. Examples like asking for salt indirectly or making veiled threats demonstrate this phenomenon. The speaker suggests that social relationships themselves can be seen as coordination dilemmas where avoiding the full generation of common knowledge through indirect speech is essential.
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