Oh yeah, the reason that I procrastinate

is because I'm not good enough. I don't

have enough willpower. I don't know if I

have enough discipline. The mind is

going to be like, "Oh, bro, like you

just need more discipline. Like, yeah,

it's okay to like lose today. Like,

we're going to level up your discipline.

We're going to level up your willpower.

We're going to build good habits. We're

going to do all these things tomorrow.

So, the mind works outside of you. It

actually manipulates you constantly

because here you are with all these

hopes, all these dreams, all these

aspirations, watching some guy instead

of doing your actual work." We're going

to be talking about procrastination

today. And I got to be honest with

y'all. I saw this and my first thought

is I'm tired of talking about

procrastination. I've been talking about

procrastination on this channel for

years. And so today, what I'm going to

do is I'm going to teach you all how to

stop procrastinating cuz I'm I'm tired.

I I never want to talk about

procrastination again. This may sound

kind of confusing because if I could

teach you how to stop procrastinating,

why haven't I done it already? We have a

great video on the channel about the

three types of procrastination. There

are lots of people who are

neuroscientists and psychologists and

people like myself who will make

procrastination a complicated topic. And

I didn't quite realize how bad this was

until I started learning more about AI.

And I realized that what you know what

AI basically does is the way it

generates responses is based on what you

find acceptable. That's why everyone

thinks that AI is so great. It learns

very much what you want to hear. We did

a a video recently about AI induced

psychosis and how AI is very

sickopantic. And I realized also in the

self-help space of YouTube and

podcasters and whatever, people like

myself are very good at crafting answers

that people want to hear. So when you

have a problem like procrastination, we

develop all of these complicated

mechanisms which are true. It's not like

we're lying to you. So I had talked in

the past about how procrastination has

an emotional side, right? So we're the

reason we procrastinate is because

there's certain emotions we're trying to

avoid. Procrastination also has there's

an operational type of procrastination.

This is all evidence-based stuff, right?

Lots of studies about how the reason we

don't get started is because our mind

cannot figure out what all the steps

are. And if someone breaks down the task

for us, I recently went through this

when I was helping my daughter pack and

she doesn't know how to pack. So, I have

to break it down for her and then she

can do the individual things. And all of

these are reasons that we get started.

But today, when I looked at this and I

was like, "Okay, I'm going to just tell

y'all how to resolve procrastination

once and for all." And the reason that

we don't say this stuff is because it's

hard, right? Not that it's complicated.

In fact, it's really simple, but it's

hard. And the answer is not willpower.

First thing to understand, if you want

to never procrastinate again, I'm not

really sure if that'll work. Your

mileage may vary, etc. various

disclaimers but the first thing to

understand is when people try to

procrastinate or when people are

struggling with procrastination it's I

want to do this work but I also want to

do this so there's some internal

conflict so if we want to deal with

procrastination once and for all the

first thing we need to understand is

that your mind is not a part of you that

your mind is outside of you this is step

number one the reason we really struggle

with this is because we don't really

understand how this thing functions. So

I want you all to think about this. If

you were conflicted, there must be at

least two things, right? Number one, so

we view the mind as monolithic. We view

the mind as us. I do this analysis in in

our meditation guide where I try to

explain to people that the more that you

think your mind is you, the more

mentally ill you get. So simple example,

most severe mental illness,

hallucinations and delusions, right? So

when we look at psychotic disorders,

psychotic disorders are some of the

worst on the planet in terms of

prognosis. People get worse. People have

die 10, 20 years earlier than they

normally would. Really bad. And what

happens in psychotic disorders? In

psychotic disorders, the mind produces a

thought and we are not able to recognize

that that thought could be false. The

thought becomes reality. Right? So you

know when people say your thoughts are

not facts like absolutely right. If I

think I'm a millionaire, every time I

imagine being a millionaire or I imagine

that clever comeback for when that dude

made fun of me and oh yeah, if I had

said this, I would totally own them. Ah,

they'd learned their lesson. That's not

reality. Our thoughts are not reality.

When we believe our thoughts are

reality, we become mentally ill. That's

what we call psychosis. That was that's

what we call delusions. A little bit

healthier than that is something like

panic attacks where your mind is really

telling you, "Oh my god, I'm going to

die. I'm going to die. I'm going to die.

I'm going to die. I'm going to die." But

then there's a party that's like, "Wait

a second. I'm not really going to die,

but it really feels like I'm going to

die. I'm really going to die. I'm really

going to die. I know I'm not going to

die, but really I'm going to die."

Right? So, there's a little bit of doubt

in the mind. Then we get to things like

an anxiety disorder, which is arguably

less severe. And that's when, okay, I'm

worried about this. I know it's kind of

not true, but I'm really worried and

it's hard. How do I deal? How do I get

rid of this anxiety? See, the person

who's delusional doesn't try to get rid

of the delusion because they think it's

true. The person with anxiety at least

knows, hey, this is anxiety. This is not

real. So there's separation between you

and your mind. And then we get to the

normal human being. And the normal human

being has some thoughts, you know, that

they think are correct and some thoughts

that they don't think are correct. Oh,

this is my imagination. This is in my

head. It's not really that big of a

deal. We are able to reflect on our

thought process. Then we get onto the

healthier side, right? So when I do

psychiatry and coaching, I start off

with people who are anxious, panic

attacks, delusional, and then we

eventually move them over to coaching

where now we're using some of these

techniques to not just fix the pathology

but to improve their life. Things like

cognitive flexibility. What is cognitive

flexibility? Cognitive flexibility is

when your mind believes one thing, comes

to a particular answer and you are able

to shift your mind. So the first thing

you need to understand if you want to be

done with procrastination is that your

mind is outside of you. And the problem

is that most of the time when we go

through our life, we listen to our mind.

We fuse with our mind, right? The mind

says I want to do this. The mind also

says I should do this. And we see a

conflict within the mind. Which is

exactly what the mind wants to do. So I

don't know if you guys can feel this.

The reason that this is hard and it's

hard to answer the question in this way

is because I'm going to talk about

subjective experience which cannot be

transmitted. You'll ever know that

feeling of false procrastination. It's

not the procrastination that's false.

It's like there's a falsity to it. So,

it's not really the best word, but you

know how you've already made up your

mind. You're just pretending to be

conflicted. There's a part of you in the

back of your mind. Your mind has already

decided we're not going to do this

today.

And then for the sake of form, right,

for the sake of decency, for the sake of

saving face, your mind is like, "Oh my

god, we should do it today. No, I don't

want to do it today. Oh my god, let me

just" and then you start arguing with

yourself. You start pleading with

yourself, right? It's the stages of

grief. You start bargaining. Okay? Like,

let me take a break for 1 hour and then

I'll do the work. Your mind goes through

all of these things, all of these

cycles. And why does it do that? To

satisfy you, right? to throw in the

towel the moment you start trying to

work. That's like kind of pathetic. But

instead, what we're going to do is we're

going to pretend to struggle. We're

going to pretend to fight. Because if we

can pretend to struggle and we can

pretend to fight, then we can get better

at it. We can get better at struggling.

Oh yeah, the reason that I procrastinate

is because I'm not good enough. I don't

have enough willpower. I don't know if I

have enough discipline. The mind is

going to be like, "Oh, bro, like you

just need more discipline. Like, yeah,

it's okay to like lose today. Like,

we're going to level up your discipline.

We're going to level up your willpower.

We're going to build good habits. We're

going to do all these things tomorrow."

And then once you do all of these things

tomorrow, you're going to beat me and

you'll never procrastinate. You're going

to be so great. You're going to be full

of willpower, full of habits, full of

discipline, and then procrastination

will be solved. Trust me, bro. I got

you. Let's order atomic habits on Amazon

today. Let's do it. I I got you, fam.

So, the mind works outside of you. It

actually manipulates you constantly

because the mind has certain things that

it wants. The mind is primitive. It's an

organ just like your tongue, just like

your stomach. Your stomach doesn't know

what is good for you. Your tongue

doesn't know what is good for you. It

just knows what it wants. So our biggest

mistake, the reason everyone struggles

with procrastination is because no one

knows what the mind actually is. The

mind is an organ that exists outside of

you. In the moment that you understand

that it exists outside of you, then you

can change the way that you manage it.

Then we can start training the mind. The

reason that you procrastinate is because

your mind is untrained. The reason that

it's untrained is because you don't

realize it can be trained. Training

happens when I'm training a dog. I'm

over here. The dog is over here. And

once the dog becomes trained, then it

obeys me. What's the difference between

the average person sitting at home and a

yogi in the Himalayas? The difference is

one has a trained mind, the other does

not have a trained mind. And the

simplest way that we fail to train our

mind is not even understanding that it

is outside of us. Hey y'all. If you're

interested in applying some of the

principles that we share to actually

create change in your life, check out

Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health. And if

you kind of tunnel down, okay, why

aren't you motivated? And they're like,

well, there's no point. And if you get

underneath there's no point, what you

ultimately find is hopelessness. So what

the yogis discovered is that what we

call motivation, they actually called a

concentrated mind. What's the difference

between someone who actually does stuff

and someone who just tries to do stuff?

So, check out the link in the bio and

start your journey today. Second thing

to understand

is that the mind is not really an organ

per se. It is a set of activity. Mind is

not really a a noun. It's really an

action that is outside of you. Mind is

minding. It's not really it's not an

object. Right? So if you look at the

nature of the mind, what you will notice

is that it fluctuates. That's the nature

of the mind. You have a thought, it

disappears. Right? When you have an

object like an organ, your kidney

doesn't like disappear and reappear.

Your liver doesn't disappear and

reappear. Mind is actually activity.

It's not a thing. Thought comes, thought

goes, another thought comes, another

thought goes. Another thought comes,

another thought goes. Emotion comes,

emotion goes. Emotion goes away, emotion

comes back. So if we look at our mind

really what it is is it's kind of like a

pool of water and what we experience as

mind is the ripples in the water right

the mind doesn't have like substance

it's activity actually so it is a series

of activities that we then localize to a

particular thing so now once we

understand these two things there are a

couple of important things that we can

understand about dealing with

procrastination okay so if you want to

deal with procrastination or really

anything else for that matter the most

important thing to understand is the way

that you deal with your mind. Okay? And

by deal with, I mean literally respond

to. Hear me out. Mind has a thought. I

should work. Right? This is a thought

that exists in your head. Now, when this

thought happens, what you'll notice is

that you respond to the thought. Maybe

you'll say something like, I can start

tomorrow or I don't want to. And then

the mind will respond back, but I really

need to. And then you'll say, okay,

after 1 hour. So the first thing to

understand the mind can't exist without

input. So one of the simplest ways that

we get input is through our sensory

organs. Right? So if my mind sees an

advertisement, it will want that thing.

But I want you all to notice how the

mind communicates. There's back and

forth between two things. And then you

may start to wonder, well, hold on a

second. If I'm not my mind and my mind

is outside of me, who's the other voice?

Right? Because isn't my mind telling me

I don't want to? Is this my mind or is

this my mind? like I'm a bit confused.

Good. That's how you learn. See, once

you start getting confused, this is what

a lot of people don't understand. This

is what neuroplasticity feels like. So,

everyone talks about, "Oh, enhanced

neuroplasticity. Enhance I will take

this supplement. It will make my brain

plastic and then I will be able to learn

better." What is the subjective feeling

of neuroplasticity? It is confusion. And

this is why there are a lot of brilliant

people. Ancient Japan, Korea, China, Zen

masters. And Zen masters realized that

as long as the mind thinks it knows

what's going on, there's going to be no

neuroplasticity. Your brain won't

change, right? And I don't know if you

guys have ever talked to someone who has

made up their mind. And once they've

made up their mind, they don't change

their mind. The ability to think

differently, the ability for cognitive

flexibility, all of that goes out the

window. They're not capable of doing

that. And the one thing that you can be

sure of is the more that they've made up

their mind, the less confused they are.

We want you to be confused because when

you are confused, you will look at

things and you will try to understand

them. You cannot try to understand what

you already understand. The problem is

your mind has tricked you. Because you

don't understand, it understands. And

because it understands so well, you keep

procrastinating because it knows. Oh my

god, I have a great idea. This person, I

want y'all to think about this for a

second. How messed up this is. Someone

instead of doing some work made this.

Someone, maybe this person, this is this

person's work. Maybe they make money off

of Twitter. Who knows? Someone instead

of doing the work that they need to do

decided to tweet about this. And 320,000

people instead of doing the work that

they need to do liked this. We're so

busy. liking posts, gifts about

procrastination that we're not even

working. You guys, this is the ultimate

scop. Everyone's like conspiracy theory

this and scop that. This is the ultimate

the ultimate scop is your mind and what

it does to you, right? Like tell me I'm

wrong because here you are with all

these hopes, all these dreams, all these

aspirations, not doing [ __ ] watching

some guy on the internet instead of

doing your actual work. And what has

your mind told you? It has told you, "Oh

my god, if I watch this guy, it'll fix

my procrastination." And in so doing,

you actually avoid doing the work that

you're doing. You see how it twists and

how it turns. There's no way to win

within the mind, which is how it's

designed. The mind is like a carne game

where you show up, you pay five bucks,

they're like, "Yeah, it's really easy to

win. Pay me $5. Here's three rings. If

you get the ring over a single bottle,

you get a million dollars. And so like

all right, you see how it works. No way

to win. If you are operating inside it,

if there is not distance between you and

your mind. So the first thing that I

want you all to understand is that the

mind will have thought number one and

then it'll have thought number two and

then it'll have thought number three and

then it'll have thought number four. But

this is the beautiful thing. As long as

you are like existing within this

pipeline, right? You're arguing, should

I do this? Should I not do this? Should

I do this? Should I not do this? I want

to do this. I don't want to do this. But

this is where I was saying if you really

pay attention subtly out here, the mind

is already decided. It already knows

where you're going to end up, right? It

it knows we're not going to when you

start procrastinating, you're done.

You're done. You're done doing your

work. It's already happened. It's

already decided. The mind just has to do

something that keeps you asleep. So once

we understand that our mind is outside

of us, once we understand that the mind

has its own goals, right? This is where

people talk about things like dopamine

and stuff like that. We have addictions.

I think addictions I learned half of

this stuff in the mountains in India

sometimes mostly out of Bangalore

actually, not in the mountains, small

part in the mountains. And I learned a

lot of this stuff doing addiction

psychiatry because I I don't know if you

guys know this. You know when you have

an addict, the addict only pretends to

resist the addiction. They're not

actually resisting. They're just

pretending to resist. And so, how do you

conquer this? How do you conquer an

addiction? Right? Cuz that's my job.

People come to my office and they're

like, "Dr. K, I'm addicted. Can you help

me?" And I'm like, "Sure, bro." So, what

do we teach them to do? We teach them to

disbelieve their mind. We teach them to

run away from whatever the mind says.

And that's why something that really

confuses people who are not like

alcoholics. Hi, my name is Alo. I had my

last drink in 1977 and I'm an alcoholic.

They're like, "How can you be an

alcoholic if you had your last drink 48

years ago? How is that even possible?

You're not an alcoholic now." The reason

that people do this in AA is they must

train themselves to disbelieve their

mind. What we think is actually a

hallucination, a delusion is actually

healthy. To disbelieve your mind is the

healthiest thing that you can do. So,

whatever your mind tells you, it'll give

you all kinds of good reasons. And what

we're going to do is the thing, that's

what we're going to do. We're going to

do the thing. We're going to do it.

We're going to do it now. Now, notice

what happens when you say that to your

mind. It's not going to listen. Why?

Because it's been untrained for so many

years. Imagine you have a feral animal

and then you have a feral cat and you

put a leash on it. What is the the cat

going to do? It's going to resist. It's

not going to work. And then it jabbates

you. Dr. K, this doesn't work. It's not

working. Oh my god. This aspect of

disbelieving the mind and giving it

commands is not effective. We better

stop. Ineffective. Bro told me to do

this doesn't [ __ ] work. Let me watch

another video about procrastination.

Well done. You just got played. The

greatest trick the devil ever pulled was

convincing the world he doesn't exist.

The greatest trick your mind pulls is

convincing you that the things that are

working don't work. So what does this

practically look like? Two very simple

steps. We start with step number two.

The first is do the actions that your

mind tell you are insufficient. You need

to be stupid, not smart. Because anytime

you're smart, the mind will win. Oh, you

don't need to do it today. You can do it

tomorrow. We'll figure it out. I see

this all the time with addictions. Oh,

yeah. Like, I know that this addiction

causes a problem, but if we get better

at handling it, then it's going to be

fine, right? We need to be smarter. We

need to be smarter than the the

addiction. We need to be more

disciplined. We need to plan a little

bit better. We need to protect ourselves

from the bottom end and then we can do

the top end without a problem. We need

to be smarter. We need to be better. We

need to biohack. We need to neurohack.

We need to neuroplasticity. We need to

listen to all this podcast stuff. We'll

figure it out eventually. Like if we get

enough knowledge and we get enough

information. If we do all of the things

except for doing the thing, it'll work

eventually, right? Take this supplement.

Watch this video. Figure out how to

optimize. Figure out how to do this

without paying a cost. This is too this

this hurts too much. This is too

difficult. It's too many hours of work

and I don't even know if it's going to

work. Let me use AI. Let me figure out

how to use AI. Let me figure out how to

do AI programming. Let me try to do

prompt engineering. Let me try to do all

of this stuff except for doing the

thing. And this is smart. This is

stupid. This is dumb. It's so dumb. It's

such a waste. What's the point of

working really hard right now if it's

not going to work? How about I figure

out how to be more efficient and then

I'll do the work. So, two steps. Number

one, do things that are foolish. Not

like actually foolish and things that

are damaging to you. look for a

particular thought which is this is not

enough. It's inefficient. Right? It's

it's it's subtle. It's going to be

something about quantification. We can

do it later. It's going to have it it's

going to have the dimension of amount

time. It's there's going to be a number

involved. Always some kind of number. It

won't be explicitly a number, but it'll

have some amount of quantity to it.

Inefficiency, not enough. Those are like

number one and number two. And this is

what training your mind is like, right?

It is going to rebel against it as much

as it can. Now, you may say, "But Dr. K,

I tried this before." There's a really

great great question. So, is it that you

shouldn't interact with your mind?

Basically, yes. Do not engage with it.

Command it. Now, this becomes difficult

because we think we're commanding it.

And that's the subtlety. This is why

this is like this is why people don't

explain it this way because this is hard

to do. It's hard to do because it

requires a level of perception and

awareness. You have to be able to detect

things and when people are not able to

detect it, they think it's impossible,

right? So like I had a friend who was

teaching one of my daughters to fish

when she was three. So we went out on a

boat and my friend was trying to teach

her and she's like, "No, no, like it's

like I put you put the bob in, I put the

bob in, you catch a fish, I don't catch

a fish. there's nothing I can do.

There's a certain finesse. There's a

certain perception. And right now, I

have to do the c. I'm modeling catching

your mind and y'all are caught. You feel

caught. And so, what's really

interesting is half the people will have

stopped paying attention and on purpose.

There are some people who will have

clicked off to something else because

the mind is like, "Oh [ __ ] this guy's

going to figure it out. Can't have that.

Let's get bored." That's the other

thing. Mine uses this beautiful trick

called boredom. biggest [ __ ] scam,

dude. It's like you want to do

something, mind's like, "Ah, I'm bored."

And then you're like, "Oh shit." Well,

if I'm bored, I better stop doing it cuz

I can't handle boredom. Oh my god.

Boredom. Death. Ah, death. Ah, boredom.

Oh my god. I can't do that, Dr. It's

boring. So, oh yeah, that's right. It's

not, bro. Not so. No, man. It's

dopamine, man. My dopamine systems are

all messed up. So therefore, I can't do

it. You don't understand, man. It's not

just boredom. It's dopamine, bro. My

dopamine. I heard it on a neuroscience

podcast, bro. Dopamine. I can't control

it. Oh, wow. You can't control it

because of dopamine. Oh, [ __ ] My bad.

Better watch another episode of the

podcast. Better order this person's

supplement. Only $9.99 per day and it'll

fix your problems. Oh, great, man. Yeah,

awesome.

So, notice the activity of the mind,

right? So, step number one, look out for

not enough. Here's the key thing to

understand. When your mind tells you not

enough, when your mind quantifies you

that's exactly what you should be doing

to engage in futile action, foolish

action, what the mind tells you is

futile, something beautiful will happen.

It's not what the mind wants to do. And

if you do it anyway, eventually the mind

will stop resisting. It'll realize that

you're the one who's in charge. And then

you tell your mind to jump. And like a

dog that is trained, it will jump. When

you tell your mind to heal, it will

heal. It will come. it will sit. The

more effortful and futile the action is,

the more your mind will obey you. Now,

here's what's really cool. Recently, Gen

Z and and Gen Alpha have been sort of

discovering sensory deprivation all on

their own. They call it raw dogging IRL.

Raw dogging without an iPad, without

headphones, just raw dogging. I'm going

to sit there and I'm not going to do

anything. So, here's the cool thing.

What is the most useless action you can

take that requires the most effort and

yields you absolutely nothing? What do

y'all think? Yeah, effortful stuff is

kind of like picking stuff up and

putting it down over and over and over

again. Very good. Very good. Not doing

stuffs, not scrolling. Scrolling is not

effortful. It is effortless. Meditation.

Very good. See, with all of these

mindfulness apps and all this

mindfulness everywhere, people call it

raw dogging IRL. And what they're doing

is just not stimulating themselves for

like 15 minutes. I'm raw dogging IRL for

1 hour. This is what meditation is.

Meditation is simple. And see, this is

where like this is why mindfulness is

such a scam because at some point

mindfulness became about stuff, right?

It's like, oh, if you do mindfulness,

it'll lower your stress levels. If you

do mindfulness, it'll do this. It'll do

this. It'll do this. And yeah, it'll

actually do all of those things.

Everyone's like, "Oh, yeah, like I do

mindfulness as the from the tradition of

Buddhism. I'm not like a Buddhist, but

I'm like I'm a secular Buddhist. I do

the practices." What was the Buddha

actually teaching? He was not teaching

stress reduction. He was not teaching

conquering your anxiety. He was not

teaching improving your gut health. That

was not the point. You know what's

really insane? No one actually teaches

the teachings of the Buddha anymore.

Have you all noticed that? You have a

bunch of rim pushets, which are great.

nothing against them. You have all these

monks, all these modern teachers, which

are fantastic teachers. Teachers like

myself who have our own version of

things. I'm not a fantastic teacher,

[ __ ] teacher, as evidenced by this

lecture. But we don't actually teach

what the Buddha taught. You know why?

Because what the Buddha taught would

never exist in chatt would never exist

in AI. Because what the Buddha taught,

people would rebel against. Everyone's

like, "Oh my god, I want to conquer

anxiety." Buddha was like, "Bro, that's

a terrible idea. What you need to be

conquering is joy. What you need to be

conquering is curiosity. What you need

to be conquering is love. Don't get rid

of the bad stuff. Get rid of it all.

Don't be happy. Try really hard. Get rid

of happiness. Get rid of joy. Get rid of

curiosity. Get rid of it all. He says,

"Even happiness will bring you

suffering." Cuz the moment that you have

happiness, you will crave more

happiness. In that craving is suffering.

No way to win. Get rid of all the

positivity. Right? Imagine if I showed

up on Oprah and I was like, "Hi, my name

is Dr. Okay. And today I'm going to

teach you how to get rid of your joy,

your curiosity, your passion for life,

your love. That's what actually what the

Buddha taught. And what the Buddha

wasn't trying to solve stress. He was

trying to help people become

enlightened, attain moka. That's what he

was actually teaching. Most people don't

even know what that is. The concept of

it, it's like I've never seen a

meditation app that's like, yeah, 15

minutes a day, visualizations about

nature, and enlightenment at the end.

So, we've lost some really fundamental

stuff. And the most important thing

here. So step number one is watch out

for the quantification of mind. Step

number two is really simple. Watch the

mind. People are saying should I not

interact with it? Absolutely don't

interact with it. Just watch it. Watch

it spin and squirm and do absolutely

nothing. And when it is ready to you're

going to do two things. You're e either

going to do the thing that you need to

be doing or you're going to do nothing.

See procrastination is delaying what you

need to do in favor of something else.

And people think it's I'm doing nothing.

You're not doing nothing. You're

actually doing a lot of something.

You're spending a lot of time playing

video games, spending a lot of time

scrolling. Those are things. Those are

actions that you're taking. You're not

just sitting on your ass doing

absolutely nothing. Sit on your ass or

do the thing. It's that simple. Not

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If you guys are paying attention to

this, you're going to get confused

because the system that I'm describing

is not complete. But then hold on a

second. Who is it that does the wanting?

Right? So, I should be studying, but my

mind wants to play video games. So,

which of these things comes from where?

Because if I should be doing this, is

that my mind? Isn't that part of my

mind? Isn't that all for my benefit

anyway? Is that social conditioning? Is

that living up to expectations? Where

does the stuff come from? So, this is

why it's like hard to explain. But it

all comes from the mind. And all of it

is bad. Even the stuff that you you

should be doing that you're

procrastinating against is a scam of the

mind. But then how do I know which part

to listen to? Should I listen to this or

should I not listen to this? And here's

the cool thing. The mind wants both. But

the thing that judges

what the mind wants knows what's good

and knows what's bad. The judging

capacity, the mind wants both things.

But there is something else that is

judging the mind. That is outside of the

mind. That is really what you are. You

are the capacity for awareness and

judgment, not the activity of the mind

itself. And then something strange may

happen. But hold on a second. If all of

the wants and the shoulds are in the

mind, what does the thing outside of you

want? The part that observes as y'all

are listening to me, you have may have

noticed the activity of your mind. And

if you notice the activity of your mind,

the part that does the noticing, what

does it want? I'm actually asking y'all,

what does the part that observes the

mind, what does it want? And you may

say, but that part wants the mind to be

under my control. No, it doesn't. The

mind wants your mind to be under

control. Right? Because let's understand

this. If the mind is under control, then

the mind gets what it wants. I want all

these things. I want love. I want

marriage. I want kids. I don't want

kids. I want to be a double income, no

kids household. I want to have $100,000.

I want to have a million dollars. And if

I could just [ __ ] study for my test

instead of spending time on the

internet, I would have all of these

things that I No, no. The mind is what

wants it. The mind is what wants to

study. It also wants this. And this is

why we can never this will never work if

we listen to the mind. Because if we're

going to listen to the mind then we are

going to listen to the mind. And on one

day the mind wants to study and on the

other day the mind doesn't want to study

and we have gotten into the habit of

listening to the mind. We've been not

been training the mind. The mind tells

us what it wants. That's what we do. So

it never works. So what about that part

outside of you? What does that want? And

the answer is very good. That part wants

nothing. the capacity, the capability of

want does not exist in that other thing.

And now a lot of people think that this

is a problem because if I don't want

things, how am I ever going to motivate

myself? Here's the cool thing. When you

are free from all of your wants, your

life will be exactly what you want it to

be. See, when you don't want anything,

how can I say this? I have two cups

here. If someone tells me, hey, you need

to use this cup, not this cup. That's

not a problem for me because I don't

actually want either one. I can do

whatever I'm supposed to do. It becomes

easy. Sure, I can use that cup. Ain't no

thing. Sure. People recently have been

worried about me, which I appreciate and

I wanted to say thank you for. I want to

show you all this. So, someone So,

someone was like, "Anyone else feel like

Dr. K is absurdly overworked?" And it's

nice. Like, this is really nice and

compassionate, right? Cuz I'm overworked

apparently. And like I I I I appreciate

it. And it's like, "Oh my god, Dr. K's

overworked." Overworked isn't a problem

if you don't want anything. Does that

kind of make sense? It's like you look

at it, you say, "Oh, this guy's

overworked." Like, I'm not overworked.

Doesn't feel like overworked because I

don't want anything. It makes no

difference to me. I mean, it's not that

I don't want anything. It's that wanting

to work and wanting to play video games

is not the same, but it's like the gap

between those two things is pretty

small. And so, I want you all to think

about what really restricts you. What

restricts you? It's not motivation, it's

restriction. That's what really a want

is. We call it a motivation, but if we

are motivated in this direction, we are

restricted from everything else. Ego,

Dr. K, be careful. Oh my goodness. Look

at this enlightened human being who says

he doesn't want anything. Oh my god.

Ego, Dr. K, y'all caught me. Secretly, I

do want something. And I guess I am

tortured.

influencer cries about how his life is

so hard because he works so hard. Oh my

god, this Justin influencer complains

about his [ __ ] life. Come on, guys.

I'm not saying I'm special. The whole

point of this is that it's not special.

It's simple. We just don't understand

it. Like, the reason I do this is

because I'm pretty [ __ ] sure I'm not

special. The reason I can say this stuff

is because this is what my we're no

different. This is how procrastination

works. And here's the cool thing, right?

So once you stop overworked implies that

work has a certain tax and we talk about

this like I talk about this where the

main thing that I try to do is live in

such a way where when I wake up in the

morning I'm as refreshed as I started

the previous day. I just don't want to

get into debt. Does that kind of make

sense? Like the real problem that people

have, the reason that people get

overworked is because they work and

they're not recovered the next day. And

this is what's really weird if you

really think about it. Are you

overworked by Tuesday? Are you

overworked by Wednesday? Are you

overworked by Thursday? The only way you

can be overworked is if you're building

up some kind of debt and then you need

the weekend to recover. So the right way

is to work in such a way where you

recover the next day. It's about

recovery, not about the quantity of

work. And actually, it's the

relationship between the two. So if

you're overworked and you can't recover,

then you're going to be overworked. And

one of the key things about that is how

much you want, right? So the more

neutral you are, the more neutral you

are, the easier your life will be. You

will discover that motivation is a

terrible way to work. Worst thing you

can do because fundamentally you are not

in control. Everyone wants to cultivate

motivation because once you start being

motivated, then you can be a lazy

[ __ ] Think, I know it sounds crazy.

It's not. Maybe it is. Who the [ __ ]

knows? Maybe I'm an idiot. But why does

everybody want to be motivated? So that

they don't have to do it. It's not hard

to do. I want to wake up with that

passion and that drive and that I can

just surrender the controls of this

organism and it's going to just do

whatever it feels like doing. I just

want it to do the right thing, right? I

want to cultivate the right desires. I

want to be sexy. I want to be ripped. I

want to be millionaire. I want to do

this. I want to do this. I want to

cultivate all of these motivations so

that I can sit back and be a lazy [ __ ]

in the back and it doesn't have to be

hard for me. I want to program myself so

that I can be on autopilot. Try wanting

nothing. Try operating from the place

outside of mind and let me know how it

goes. Yeah. See, it's about mental

effort. Very good. We don't want to

exert effort. And when I stop exerting

effort, what happens to the body? What

happens to the mind? Right? When I

develop an anti-gravity floating device

so that I no longer have to carry my

weight, what will happen to my body? As

I use more and more AI to solve problems

for me, what happens to my critical

thinking? Gets worse. And something

really cool happens. The more effort we

engage in, the easier things get. If you

want to have an effortless life, you

should exert a lot of effort. This is

not a paradox. Sounds like a paradox.

It's not. It's reality, right? The more

I work out my muscles, the stronger it

the easier it gets to use my muscles.

This is what's really cool about being

human. We level up. Hey y'all, hope you

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