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talk about the notion of trust in

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experts.

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>> The most important statistic to me in

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all of politics

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is do you trust government to do the

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right thing most of the time? And

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through much of the 20th century, 70% of

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Americans said, "Yeah, I trust

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government to do the right thing most of

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the time." Now we're down to what, like

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15%.

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And the most socially important

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statistic is, do you trust your

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neighbors? Do you trust the people

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around you? And it used to be 60% said

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yes. And now that's down to 30%. and 19%

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of millennial and Gen Z. So, people have

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lost faith in each other.

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David, where are you?

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>> I'm in Washington DC where my normal

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home is.

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>> There you go. So, obviously a a tragic

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weekend and would love to just get any

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kind of initial reactions to the

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shootings both at Brown University and

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in Australia.

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>> Yeah, and I would add the murder of Rob

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Reiner and his wife. Um, so now we wake

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up to three very violent stories. On the

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one hand, we shouldn't overexaggerate

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these things. The the number of mass

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killings in the US in 2025 was had been

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remarkably low. Uh, and so it's not like

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we've I don't think it's fair to say

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we've entered a new age of violence. If

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you look at murder rates, they're down.

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You look at suicide rates, they're down.

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So you shouldn't ex extrapolate from

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these stories. Nonetheless, they are

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real. Something has happened, I think,

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since 2013. We've just entered dark

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world.

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uh and uh dark world is distrust. It's

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isolation. And as you write about and

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talk about a lot, uh the pain of this

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moment is not distributed equally.

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People with college degrees uh live 15

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years longer than people with high

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school degrees. They're much less likely

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to die of opioid. Uh they're much less

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likely to say they have no friends. And

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guys, in particular, are getting

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hammered. And so if you're a single

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male without a college degree,

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your rate of having an affectionate

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touch, how many times somebody hugs you

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or kisses you or just a gentle pat,

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large numbers of young guys go through

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weeks and weeks and weeks without an

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affectionate touch. And that may seem

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like a trivial thing, but a I do not

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think it is. I think we are mammals who

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require touch. uh but it's symptomatic

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of a whole series of maladies that are

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afflicting people and since 2013 we've

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not only seen the rise of social pain

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we've seen the rise of conspiracy theory

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and what inevitably accompanies that is

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anti-semitism

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uh and so in Monty Beach um obviously a

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clear case of anti-semitism and as

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several reminder authors have been

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reminding us over the last few hours

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when you use the phrase globalize the

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inifat this is what you get this is

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globalizing the inifat I was in Israel

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during the second in Nevada and it was

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one of the scariest times I've been.

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I've covered wars and done that kind of

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thing, but it was really scary cuz you

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never know what when the next bus was

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blown going to blow up, when the next

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pizzeria was going to blow up. Uh and so

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some people say in that just means

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struggle. But that holocaust when we use

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the word holocaust that doesn't just

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mean a big fire that has a specific

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historic meaning. Uh and so to me this

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is an example of globalizing the defa

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leads to violence in this way which is

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not to be against the struggle for

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Palestinian statethood. I'm all for that

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but the violent means are

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counterproductive.

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>> A couple things in there. Um one I can't

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help but you say you use a date since

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2013 and that's about the time that

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social went on mobile. Have you made the

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same connection? Yeah, it's very hard to

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look at the social indicators which

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turns out at the same time and not think

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it has something to do with social media

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on mobile but it was also a time and

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tell me if you think this is connected.

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I have trouble seeing the straight line

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between that. If you look at the rise of

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populism both on the left and the right,

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it dates to about that time. And the

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initial populist movement was I think in

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Spain or Portugal called the indign.

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And it was a group of people arguing we

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do not accept your authority. And so the

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populist movement also happens in 2013.

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And was that driven by social media? I

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think partially, but I think partially

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not. Mostly not.

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>> I think it's a chaser effect. I think

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the core though the epicenter of the

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earthquake is a transfer a slow but

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elegant transfer of wealth from young to

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old and that economic procarity

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across young people is bad for men and

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women but it's especially hard on young

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men who are unduly evaluated based on

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their economic viability. And then you

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take them online where they're likely to

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find algorithms who will tell them it's

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not their fault to blame women for their

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romantic problems and blame immigrants

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for their economic problems. They become

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radicalized. And then you mix in

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polarization, access to guns, and it's

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this dangerous alchemy. But I would

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reverse engineer it at the very core,

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the epicenter

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to a transfer of wealth from young to

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old because old people keep voting

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themselves more money. Your thoughts?

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>> Well, I've been arguing against old

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people who are my base. That's my base.

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Old people are my base. PBS News Center,

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New York Times column. Uh but but we

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have basically taken money that should

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be going to young people on the way up

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and we've g given it to people who are

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dying or old on the way out. Uh and

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that's just a stupid way to run the

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country and I used to get my AP friends

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very upset uh with that. I I want to

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focus in on that the notion of procarity

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because I think there is procarity but I

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think it's a little more I I've begun to

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think of it in more fine-tuned ways. So

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young people feel that the American

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dream is dead and uh some in my own

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family and that the old model if you

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work hard you get ahead. Uh that just

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that's broken. And there are some

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studies that show 70% of Americans

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overall say the American dream is dead.

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So that's pretty terrible. Um, but when

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you look at the data, and the the

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blogger Noah Smith runs chart after

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chart about this, Millennial and Gen Z

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have higher wheel real wages than Boomer

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and Gen X at the same age.

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>> Uh, and they have not two different home

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ownership rates. And we're now in a

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moment where we have the highest median

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uh wages in American history. It's about

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88,000 bucks. Uh, and so some of the

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economic data are not that bad and yet

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the feeling is bad. And so I I was

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talking to a CEO a couple months ago and

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he said, "When my team comes to me and

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says when a a customer says this went

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wrong, this is part of your product

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sucks." And my team says, "No, they're

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wrong. We've got data on this." The CEO

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says, "I always believe the anecdote

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over the data." And I think there's some

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virtue to that. believing the anecdote

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over the data or at least trying to

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reconcile the two. And I think one of

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the things that's changed is when I was

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getting out of college, it felt like

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there were like nine jobs there. You

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could be a teacher, a doctor, nurse,

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lawyer, cop, whatever. Now it feels

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there are a million jobs. And when I was

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getting out of college, there were

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pathways to uh the right jobs. And it

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was there was a clear steps you took. if

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you want to become a newspaper

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columnist, you tried to become a very

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junior associate editor at a small

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magazine and then gradually you worked

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your way up and that's exactly what I

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did.

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>> Uh and now I feel those pathways are

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gone or worse there are fewer pathways.

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So in a just society the there are many

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mountain tops and different people got

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to climb different mountain tops

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depending on their abilities or tastes.

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But now we've rendered into one

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mountaintop. You have to get into a

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selective college. you have to get a job

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at a very small number of firms like

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Goldman Sachs or or whatever Bane and

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that's the one route and so you have

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millions of people trying to get into

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that route and so suddenly you have

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universities rejecting 96% and then at

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Goldman they have 3,000 internships

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every summer but 300,000 apply and so

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we've narrowed the range of paths upward

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and we've made it all chaotic and at the

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same time I would say we made courtship

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chaotic

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>> uh I'm ancient, but you know, I I wasn't

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in the age when back in the 50s when

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they pinned girlfriends in high school,

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but I was at the age where you asked

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somebody out, you dated for a certain

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amount of time, and you broke up.

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>> And that there was a structure to

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courtship. And that has been gone for 15

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or 20 years. And so I think the

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procarity is often the uncertainty and

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the lack of clarity, the lack of order,

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uh, as much even though the the raw

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economic data show millennial and Gen Z

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are doing pretty well. I mean, there's

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so much there, I would argue. So,

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it's undeniable that the average middle

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class person is doing better and living

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a better life than the wealthiest person

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in the world

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100 years ago, maybe even 50 years ago.

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Like, I'll take Netflix and Novacane

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over royalty, right? But the problem is

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the human brain doesn't work that way.

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It's where it's a comparison culture and

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every day 210 times a day young people

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have faux wealth vomited on them and it

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makes them feel that if I'm not in a

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visa at a rave or on a Gulfream I'm

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failing even if I'm quote unquote doing

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okay. And there is some data that says

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they're not as doing as well as their

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parents were at 30. And I think some of

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the major indicators, housing, the

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average age of first-time buyers

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is I mean the data I'll give you this

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the narrative that all young people are

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doing poorly. That's just not accurate,

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right? There is some data that just

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flies in the way of that. But I think

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it's the what do you call I don't know

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people call it a vibe session. The thing

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I just want to reverse to that you said

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that was so powerful and one of the

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things I admire so much about you is

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you're considered a conservative but I

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find you so compassionate

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is you said something I hadn't even

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thought about and that is the importance

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of touch and that we're mammals and that

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there are young men I've always said a

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lot of young men their first male role

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model was a prison guard

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>> but the idea and then I go to sex one in

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three men under the age of 30 hasn't had

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sex in the last year and 60% of

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households used to have a kid at 30 Now

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it's 27%. But I never really stopped to

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think about the importance of touch

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where mammals and just how important and

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restorative and healthy it is that that

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touch. Can you can you speak more about

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that? I hadn't heard that before framed

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that way.

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>> Yeah, there's a guy a scientist named

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Reed Monu who studies this and he

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studies how powerful touch is. When you

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look at uh our nearest animal ancestors,

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apes and such, they're constantly

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touching each other. It just has a

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tremendous calming effect. And I hug my

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wife and I hug each other many times a

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day and it's not a big deal. It's just

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like it's just something you do cuz

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intuitively we know it's true. But also

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it's a symptom of love. And one of the

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things, you know, I think is obvious.

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There's a great study called the Grant

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Study, a longitudinal study done at

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Harvard. And the founder of that or the

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director of that study, longtime

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director, a guy named George Valiant

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said, "After all my years, my lifetime

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of studying human flourishing, my answer

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is uh human flourishing is love full

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stop." And so it pays to just fill your

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life with a lot of love. And I mean that

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as love for a person, love for another

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person. But I also mean that as what are

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our most obvious loves? We usually we

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love our town. Uh we love our vacation.

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People who are religious love God.

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uh and with our country. These are the

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obvious forms of love. Are any of these

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forms doing anything other than

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declining? The number of people in

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dating relationships is way down. Way

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down. The number of people who go to

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church is way down. The number of people

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who express patriotism, especially among

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the younger generations, is way down.

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Civic life is less rich. So, in a weird

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way, you could just say there's just a

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lot of less love in the world. We don't

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usually talk in those terms cuz it

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doesn't sound very social sciency. But I

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do think there's sort of it's just as

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simple as that. People are, you know,

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you want to love your profession. You

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want to love what you do. You want to

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love the people around you. You want to

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live at full boore. One of my heroes is

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a guy named St. Augustine who not pretty

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famous. And he says, "Give me a man in

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love. Give me a land a man in the desert

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who yearns for the pure waters. If I

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talk to a cold man, he just doesn't know

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what I'm talking about." And I do think

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there's wisdom and that Gustinian

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uh desire for artor for enthusiasm for

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full commitment for all the things that

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love entails. And just lack of that is

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just a horrible state to be in.

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>> I love the study you're talking about

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and that's the opening line. U happiness

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is love full stop. And I've been

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thinking a lot about I had a friend who

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passed away and I wasn't close with him

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but I was thinking about how much

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character one of our fraternity brothers

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demonstrated for him calling us raising

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funds finding out who has contacts at

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Cedars for his care. And there's this

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great line in the movie Magnolia and

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William Macy as a bartender who's lonely

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and he says I have loved to give but I

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just don't know where to put it. And one

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of the things that came out of that

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study that really struck me, you know,

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the number of deep and meaningful

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relationships is kind of the the the

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whole shooting match, right? I think

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most people would guess that. What

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shocked me or I think the the life hack

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is that being loved is great, but the

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happiest people find a lot of places to

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put their love. It's the people who love

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the most who are the happiest, not the

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people who are loved the most. And I

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thought that was so profound. So I guess

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my question would be as someone who

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looks at society,

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how do we make it easier for people to

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find places to put their love, is it how

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do we create more opportunities for

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people to love something or someone?

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>> Well, part of the problem is the self.

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Uh I I recently came across a study

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where they asked a lot of people, "How

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do you know when you're in love?" And

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they said, "I know I'm in love when I

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don't have to try hard socially. I know

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I'm in love when somebody makes me feel

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uh warm and appreciated. Uh and they but

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the theme through all the comments was I

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know I'm in love when I get to feel a

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certain way. It's not when I get to

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sacrifice and put their desires above

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myself. And we have gone in such a

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self-oriented culture that love is about

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how do you make me feel and that's

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really not what love is. Uh love is is

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you know when you when you want someone

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you want to devour them but when you

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love someone you want to serve them and

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it's that and one of the things people

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say love is love eliminates the

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distinction between giving and receiving

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because to give to someone you love

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feels like as good as it as receiving.

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Uh and so I think we partly it's the

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large self. Partly

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young people just don't aren't dating as

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much anymore. And I'm not sure I can

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explain that one, but one of the most

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educational experiences I had in my life

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was falling in love with a woman when I

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was 18.

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Uh, and I remember it was May 5th, 1979.

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We were at a campfire with friends and

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she slipped her hand into mine and it

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was one of the happiest moments of my

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life. I'll remember it forever. And then

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I I that year I didn't go to the camp I

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just mentioned. I stayed home and worked

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as a janitor uh so I could hang go to

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her. She worked as a waitress. I'd go to

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her restaurant every lunchtime just to

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hang around her. Uh and then she came

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transferred to my college and dumped me.

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But uh and I learned about the suffering

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too. But that all that experience of

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falling in love and feeling your heart

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expand in a way you never imagined it

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could

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>> and then going through the rigors of a

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relationship and then going through the

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pain you experience when somebody dumps

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you. Uh that is an education. And I

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loved my college. I had a great

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experience to change my life. But I

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would trade my college education for

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that romantic education. And it taught

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me to put your heart at the center of

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your life, not your head.

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>> Yeah. The thing there, the the only

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thing I would I went through a very

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similar experience. I bloomed late. And

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having someone that you you think is

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impressive, love you, love you is just

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so I I feel like if I could give anyone

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that gift when they're young, this

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builds so much confidence. And I went

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through a similar thing. Uh she also

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broke up with me. But I think the real

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learning is it might take a month, a

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week, maybe, you know, even a year, but

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then you're fine and you realize that

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you can get through these things. And I

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worry that a lot of young men choose a

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frictionless,

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risk-free version of relationships and

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never develop the scar tissue or the

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calluses or the confidence to know if I

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apply for a job I'm not qualified for or

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apply to a college I'm not I'm not I

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don't have the credentials or approach a

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stranger and express romantic interest

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who might be perceived out of my way

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class that if it doesn't work I'm going

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to be fine. Isn't some of it that we're

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trying to create and I think it's

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through over parenting quite frankly

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concierge parenting that we're creating

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a generation of people and encouraging

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them not to take any real risks.

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>> Uh well I certainly the college students

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I teach certainly often believe that if

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uh I have one failure then my life is

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derailed. So one false step and it's

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over. And I try to assure them that

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that's not true. Uh, and your point of

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getting broken up with, I remember when

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I got broken up with, I I went up to

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Water Tower Place in Chicago and bought

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some French cigarettes. If I was going

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to suffer, I wanted to suffer like

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Albert Kamu. Like I was I was weirdly

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proud of my suffering because I'd never

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experienced suffering like that. And I

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was like, "Wow, I'm a deep guy. I'm so

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proud." But it and but I got over it. It

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took years, frankly. Uh, but I got over

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it. Uh there's a song on country music

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these days about a young woman who uh is

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is gets crushed by her boyfriend broken

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up. She survives it and then he calls

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her later and wants to get back

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together. And the song is called What

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Doesn't Kill You Calls You 6 Months

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Later. And I think that's a perfect

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country music song.

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>> And uh and so you you do learn you can

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get over it. But I think the risk thing

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is the crucial thing. And I don't know

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if it's over parenting or what, but I

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think the decline in dating it it's a

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you you don't have to take a risk with a

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phone. It's always there for you. And

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asking a girl out is an enormous risk.

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Falling in love is an enormous risk. And

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I think there is some sort of social

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risk aversion that has settled as we've

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come to be more distrustful. And then

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the second thing that's happened is uh

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professionalization has become an urgent

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carve out. Uh, and so my students would

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always tell me, "I don't have time to

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date. I'm just too busy." And I would

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tell them, "You're doing it wrong. One

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of, you know, the data is pretty clear

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that the quality of your marriage is

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more important than the quality of your

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career in determining your happiness."

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And so, you should focus on that. And I

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once had a student tell me, you know,

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marriage is a box that'll come in the

18:41

mail when I'm 35. And I was like, wrong.

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It's it's very important to learn how to

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do relations. I don't advise getting

18:49

married in college. The statistics show

18:51

you should wait till 25. Um, but uh it's

18:56

really helps to have had a whole

18:57

repertoire of relationships so you're

18:59

able to be a good partner to somebody

19:01

and it takes practice just like anything

19:03

else and it takes skill building. I the

19:06

uh the same woman who told me that uh

19:08

marriage will came come in the mail uh

19:10

she said you know I've had four

19:12

boyfriends in my life and they all

19:14

ghosted me at the end. Not a single one

19:16

of them had the decency to call her up

19:19

and have that conversation.

19:21

And I think it's because in part nobody

19:24

had taught them they had to do that. You

19:26

a decent person has a breakup

19:27

conversation. And as important, no one

19:29

had taught them that it's possible to

19:33

break up with someone without crushing

19:34

their heart at least more than is

19:36

necessary. Uh and I think these are

19:39

basic social skills that we have not

19:40

passed on. And they're skills like how

19:43

to ask for an offer for forgiveness. uh

19:45

how to listen really well to somebody,

19:47

how to be a great conversationalist.

19:49

Uh and somehow social skills are are um

19:53

neglected.

19:54

>> I've seen some recent studies trying to

19:56

understand why young people are so

19:57

anxious and depressed. And a lot of it

19:59

is uh they claim they have no purpose.

20:02

And I sort of for the first time kind of

20:05

made that connection to what you were

20:06

just saying that the ability to love

20:08

others or love something. And as I think

20:10

about I think I think of my purpose is I

20:12

want to raise patriotic loving men. And

20:15

what that means is my purpose is I just

20:17

don't get as much back from my boys as

20:19

they get from me. And I know that sounds

20:20

terrible, but that's my purpose.

20:24

I And whether your purpose might be

20:25

civil rights, but showing up to

20:27

protests, raising money, getting all

20:31

sorts of feedback or negative feedback

20:32

or getting attacked online, it's because

20:34

it's your purpose. You're going to give

20:35

more than you're going to get. And I

20:38

mean it can you do you make that

20:40

connection between purpose that young

20:42

people I don't and I don't know how we

20:44

inculcate this or teach them that but

20:46

the whole point of parenting in my view

20:48

or of purpose is you decide to just give

20:52

more than you're going to get from this

20:53

thing or this person. I encounter this

20:55

all the time. I I had a student who was

20:57

a great student. I gave him his only A

20:58

minus at Yale. Uh, and he was such a

21:02

good investor that while he was in

21:04

college, he had a Bloomberg terminal on

21:05

his dorm room desk. He worked for a firm

21:07

and they gave him a terminal which was

21:09

an expensive thing. And he got out and

21:13

he got and he was an arrogant bro kind

21:15

of guy and wonderful guy. I really liked

21:17

him. And he got out and he got fired and

21:21

he called me and his voice was utterly

21:24

different uh because he had done what he

21:27

thought. And when he was fired from that

21:29

job, he didn't really know what his

21:30

tilos was. And I think he never knew. I

21:33

think he just was going along with the

21:34

system, what the system told him to

21:36

want. And the niche has a saying, he who

21:40

has a why to live or can endure anyhow.

21:42

Uh and if you know why you're put on

21:44

this earth, you can endure the setbacks.

21:45

But if you don't know your wise, um then

21:48

the setbacks are really devastating. Uh

21:51

and I found that many young people are

21:55

what they call insecure overachievers.

21:57

they uh have no foundation. They haven't

21:59

discovered their sense of purpose. So,

22:02

they build very impressive towers up on

22:04

top, but their foundation is rotten and

22:06

eventually the towers are going to

22:07

crumble. Uh and so, I began teaching

22:10

courses really on how to find a sense of

22:11

purpose. And the core theory of one of

22:14

those courses was that every young

22:16

person, not every everyone, but most are

22:19

going to make four fundamental

22:20

commitments in the course of their 20s

22:23

or maybe up to 35 or 40. a commitment to

22:26

a vocation with a career, a commitment

22:28

to a philosophy or faith, a worldview

22:31

they can believe in and hang their guide

22:33

their life by. Um, some kind of family

22:36

uh and to a community and the quality of

22:40

your life will be determined by the

22:42

quality of the commitments you make and

22:45

how you live up to those commitments.

22:47

And a commitment is falling in love with

22:49

something and then building a structure

22:51

of behavior around it for when love

22:53

falters. So Jews love their God, but

22:56

they keep kosher just in case. Keep them

22:57

on the straight and narrow. I love my

22:59

wife, but we have a a legal and

23:02

religious marital bond between us. So

23:04

that's that's a structure of behavior

23:06

for for those moments when love falters.

23:09

And that act of commitment making is a

23:12

bit countercultural today because we

23:13

live in a culture that values autonomy a

23:15

lot of freedom of choice. Keep my

23:17

options open. Keep my options open. And

23:19

commitment is about closing options. But

23:21

in my view, there there are two kinds of

23:23

freedom. the freedom of no restraint,

23:26

which is the way a lot of people define

23:27

freedom now. But another kind of freedom

23:30

is the freedom to do hard things. So if

23:32

I want the freedom to play the piano, I

23:35

have to chain myself down to the piano

23:36

bench and practice. And in that sense,

23:39

sometimes it's your chains to set you

23:40

free. But the these are countercultural

23:43

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26:01

So there's no way to make this altitude

26:04

change elegantly. But let's talk about

26:05

Trump. Um so consumer sentiment is worse

26:10

now than its lowest uh point in the

26:12

Biden administration.

26:14

Uh how do you view economic anxiety as

26:17

as part of this political crisis? Do you

26:19

think that um you write about

26:22

authoritarian figures that they create

26:23

their own realities akin to performance

26:25

artists? What try and how do you think

26:29

people will look back on this moment in

26:32

terms of what it means for broader

26:33

society?

26:35

Well, in terms I think I think we're

26:36

just in a moment of extreme anxiety. Uh

26:39

and and that feeds in over negative

26:42

economic sentiment even when I think

26:43

econ if you look at the University of

26:45

Michigan consumer data in information

26:48

consumer sentiment is through the floor.

26:51

And what's interesting to me is that um

26:55

20% of Republicans think Donald Trump is

26:58

responsible.

26:59

Uh and that's bad news for Donald Trump.

27:02

My colleague at the New York Times, EJ

27:03

Dion, had a piece where he estimated

27:05

that somewhere between 15 and 25% of

27:08

Trump voters have changed their mind

27:11

about him. Uh, and that's good news for

27:13

me cuz I do I've maintained that all

27:16

voters are reasonable

27:17

>> and that suggests a lot of Republicans

27:20

are are walking away from Trump. I think

27:21

it's a little too early. Some of the

27:22

people are out over their skis in

27:24

thinking the Trump presidency is is in

27:26

permanent decline. I think he's holding

27:28

around 40% approval, 42, which is his is

27:31

his historic norm. But we are in a

27:35

moment where um people are prepared for

27:37

the worst

27:39

uh quick to see the worst, I would say,

27:42

high threat perception and then quick to

27:44

blame the elites and Donald Trump is now

27:48

being seen a little more as one of the

27:49

elites.

27:50

>> You said you could measure

27:51

authoritarianism by how high the price

27:53

is to oppose it. Uh does the fact that

27:56

institutions and voters are it seem

27:58

reticent or actually less reticent? It

28:01

seems like they're more willing to push

28:02

back. Does this reflect it feels like

28:05

and I I don't know if it's confirm or

28:07

you know I don't know what which bias it

28:09

is that I'm I'm imposing here but it

28:12

does feel like this is a moment that

28:13

there's been a bit of a pivot or that

28:15

the dam is beginning to burst in terms

28:18

of Trump's ability to hold this

28:20

coalition together. Your thoughts?

28:21

>> It's clearly fraying. I mean, there's

28:23

just been a lot of negative news for

28:25

Trump in the last time. The the drop in

28:27

his polls, especially the drop in his

28:29

polls on economics, drop in his polls on

28:32

immigration, the setback in all the

28:34

different political races that have been

28:36

held over the last year, the Indiana

28:38

legislature beginning to rebel. Uh I do

28:42

think and then even within the Senate uh

28:45

some of the attacks on on or in the

28:47

House on Speaker Johnson for basically

28:50

disarming the the Senate and the House

28:52

both unilaterally disarmed. One of the

28:54

things I was taught in political science

28:57

class is that people go into politics

28:59

because they want power. But I've

29:01

learned in as a journalist people don't

29:03

want power. Even politicians don't want

29:04

power. They're happy to give away power

29:06

if they can keep their jobs. And so they

29:09

give power to the agencies. They give

29:11

power to the president and they give

29:12

power to the party leaders. So Congress

29:14

is run by four people. The speaker, the

29:16

majority leader, the minority leader and

29:17

the the the Senate and House minority

29:20

leaders. Uh and so they run the place

29:23

and all most other people are basically

29:24

powerless, which is why so many people

29:26

leave. Um and but are they going to be

29:29

when we begin to see mainstream House

29:32

members bucking the president on

29:34

important issues, then I'll believe his

29:37

coalition is fracturing. Now I think

29:38

it's fraying around the edges but not

29:40

really fracturing.

29:42

>> Curious what you think about so trust in

29:44

media and government all-time lows. Talk

29:47

about the concepts more generally of you

29:50

know as it relates to media or

29:51

government or however else you want to

29:53

explain these constructs or these

29:54

themes. Talk about the notion of trust

29:57

and experts.

29:58

>> Yeah. Well trust is faith that you will

30:01

do what you ought to do. And so it's a

30:03

faith. It's a form of faith because it's

30:05

I'm anticipating the future and I have

30:06

faith in you. uh and it and it faith

30:09

it's a moral kind of faith that you will

30:11

do what you ought to do and the ought is

30:15

uh relies on the fact that we have a

30:18

shared moral sense that we agree what

30:20

you ought to do. It also requires that

30:24

we have uh shared norms of how to be

30:27

considerate to each other. That if two

30:29

lanes are emerging in the highway, the

30:31

right lane is going to go then the left

30:32

lane, the right lane and then the left

30:33

lane. And if you bump in line and cut,

30:36

I'm going to honk cuz you you uh you

30:38

violated the norm. And so over the last

30:42

decades, uh that sense of shared faith

30:46

and shared moral order and shared moral

30:48

norms has deteriorated. And the most dis

30:51

the most important statistic to me in

30:54

all of politics

30:56

is do you trust government to do the

30:58

right thing most of the time? And

30:59

through much of the 20th century 70% of

31:01

Americans said yeah I trust government

31:02

to do the right thing most of the time.

31:04

Now we're down to what like 15%.

31:07

And the most socially important

31:08

statistic is do you trust your

31:11

neighbors? Do you trust the people

31:13

around you? And it used to be 60% said

31:15

yes. And now that's down to 30% and 19%

31:18

of millennial and Gen Z. So people have

31:20

lost faith in each other. And I I've

31:24

been persuaded by Robert Putnham at

31:26

Harvard that

31:27

when you lose faith, it's usually

31:29

wellounded. When you are distrustful,

31:32

it's usually because people have been

31:34

untrustworthy to you. And I just think

31:37

there's it's so it's in a weird way,

31:39

trust is the moral barometer of society.

31:42

And when people betray you, uh, then you

31:45

get distressful. And one of the dumbest

31:47

things Donald Trump is doing right now

31:49

is, uh, going to people at rallies and

31:53

saying, "You don't need 32 dolls. You

31:55

can get by with two dolls."

31:57

That just, um, makes people feel like

32:00

he's flippant and he doesn't sympathize.

32:03

And if there's one thing Americans want

32:05

right now, it's to be seen by their

32:07

leaders. And when they go to the

32:09

supermarket and they buy like a medium

32:12

amount and they walk out of there with

32:13

$179 bill and he says buy two dolls

32:18

there people are going to feel unseen.

32:20

And that's part of uh what's happened

32:22

here. And and once you feel unseen then

32:25

you uh get more distrustful cuz we we

32:27

evolved to be surrounded by 150 other

32:29

people who saw us all the time. And when

32:31

you get more distrustful you're less

32:33

likely to trust others and less people

32:35

will less likely to be trustworthy to

32:37

you. And so trust is about spirals. You

32:40

have a spir a death spiral of distrust

32:42

feeding into distrust feeding into

32:44

distrust. Or positively you can have the

32:46

death upward spiral of people who behave

32:49

trustingly find that people are

32:52

trustworthy so they trust them more. So

32:54

their relationships improve and they

32:55

have more trust and more trust. And I

32:57

have found in my life I don't know you

32:59

that I always lead with trust. I I

33:04

exaggeratedly trust people. And often

33:07

that burns me. Not often, but sometimes

33:08

it burns me. I get socially betrayed. I

33:11

get financially betrayed. Well,

33:13

whatever. But I think on balance, if you

33:15

lead with trust, most of the time people

33:18

will behave in trustworthy ways. But you

33:19

have to lead with trust in the first

33:21

instance. And a lot of people are just

33:22

too burned by life to do that. I would

33:25

argue that the culprit around the

33:26

erosion in trust and faith in our

33:28

institutions is that we have attached a

33:30

profit motive to algorithms who figured

33:32

out a way to get us to mistrust each

33:34

other. That we're actually not

33:38

that divided, but we have the S&P 40% of

33:41

the S&P has a vested interest in

33:42

dividing us. I mean, I go online, I'll

33:46

go online, I'll read the comments and

33:48

you know, everyone has addictions. I'm

33:49

convinced everyone has a certain amount

33:50

of addiction. I have two addictions. One

33:52

is to money and one is to the

33:54

affirmation of strangers, which is just

33:56

stupid at my age. But I'll go on YouTube

33:59

and people will say really aggressive

34:01

mean things about both of us. Uh and the

34:04

reason why and and then I'll find that

34:06

half of them, especially the really vile

34:08

ones, are dogm 312 with three followers.

34:11

It's a bot meant to create engagement or

34:13

from someone who sees a vested intern or

34:16

national interest in dividing America,

34:17

whatever it might be. But essentially,

34:20

we've created porest platforms and an

34:21

algorithm and attached a profit

34:23

incentive that's gotten so big it may be

34:26

the dominant force in our economy that

34:29

has an sees an inverse correlation

34:30

between trust and profitability. Your

34:33

thoughts?

34:34

>> I think that's part of it, but the trust

34:36

numbers really began to go south about

34:37

30 years ago. The the federal trust

34:40

numbers began to go south in the 70s. Uh

34:42

that do you trust government, but the

34:44

social trust began to go 30 years ago.

34:46

So I I think that's a big part of it. Uh

34:49

but I think it's mostly it's social

34:51

disconnection. Uh it's shrinking family

34:54

size. It's shrinking friendship circles.

34:57

Uh etc. etc. But I'm sort of interested

34:59

by the fact that you go on and look at

35:01

the reaction to you cuz I am I don't

35:03

know. I'm must be psychologically weaker

35:05

than you. I avoid that cuz it it's too

35:08

psychologically damaging. I can't take

35:09

it.

35:09

>> It means you're stronger. I I'm the I'm

35:12

the heroin addict. It's like just my

35:14

last hit. Now, I go on and I look at

35:16

them and I I I try to stop at a certain

35:18

point, but I think yours is a much

35:20

healthier approach and a much more

35:22

confident approach. Yeah. I go on and

35:24

and look at these things and it takes me

35:26

out of my head and I lack presence

35:28

around my family, the people who I

35:29

should care about. But your data is is

35:31

is hard to argue with. Do you think it's

35:34

I mean, it's a variety of things. You

35:36

talk a lot about this when I when I see

35:37

on television. Lack of church

35:39

attendance, lack of so Well, let me let

35:42

me let's move to solutions. one for one

35:44

idea I I love and I'm curious. I would

35:47

love to see mandatory national service.

35:48

Your thoughts?

35:49

>> 100%. I mean, it's astounding to me that

35:52

uh it uh doesn't, you know, it's not

35:54

there because all you have to do is

35:56

mention if you're talking to a group of

35:57

people and you mention the phrase

35:58

national service, you get applause,

36:00

spontaneous applause. And I think we all

36:02

have a sense we would be better off. A

36:04

people have a sense of purpose if they

36:06

got experienced the sensation of giving.

36:09

B, it would be great if somebody from

36:10

Berkeley, California mets had to room

36:12

with somebody from Birmingham, Alabama.

36:14

It would just be fantastic. Uh, I

36:17

actually in 2017, I la I launched a

36:20

nonprofit exactly on this subject on the

36:22

idea that social distrust was underlying

36:24

a lot of the problems in our society.

36:26

And so the project the project is called

36:29

Weave, the social fabric project. And we

36:32

just go to towns and we say, "Who's

36:34

trusted here?" And people list names,

36:37

people in the neighborhood. Uh it could

36:39

be some some of the people have are just

36:41

uh the sort of the people in the

36:42

neighborhood who spontaneously organize

36:44

things. Uh I we met somebody who said,

36:48

"I practice aggressive friendship." And

36:51

she's the lady on the black who has the

36:52

July 4th parties. She's the lady on the

36:54

black hose has New Year's Eve parties.

36:55

So everyone looks to her and they know

36:57

that she's a community hub. Some people

37:00

are just nonprofit leaders. Uh, so the

37:04

there, you know, they run the community

37:05

organization. They run the homeless

37:06

organization. I was in Watts and I ran

37:08

into an organization called Sisters of

37:10

Watts and it was just like a bunch of

37:12

moms and they did whatever the

37:14

neighborhood needed. So if the kids were

37:16

going home hungry, they had backpacks

37:18

filled with food to send them home with.

37:20

They cleaned up the the empty lots. They

37:22

gave showers to the homeless. They just

37:24

did what the community needed. And I

37:27

found that whatever town you go into or

37:29

whatever neighborhood you go into and if

37:30

you say who's trusted here, you'll get a

37:32

list of names and everybody they're

37:35

everywhere these and we call them

37:37

weavers cuz they're weaving communities

37:38

together. They are the people who build

37:40

trust and trust travels at the at the

37:44

speed of relationship. Uh and that's

37:46

slow. Uh but if you can shift norms, you

37:50

can really produce big change all at

37:52

once. So in the '7s we shifted norms

37:54

around littering and it used to be

37:57

perfectly fine to litter and then it was

37:59

not. Then we shifted norms about

38:00

smoking. The me too movement shifted

38:01

norms about sexual abuse and harassment

38:04

and you can shift norms. And so what

38:07

we've does is we give financial support

38:09

to weavers so they'll be more effective

38:10

and we we give them access to each

38:12

other. We tell give them chances to tell

38:14

their stories on media and then we bring

38:17

them together. Uh and the goal is to

38:20

create more people's and identity is

38:22

really powerful. Uh if people say, you

38:24

know, I'm I'm going to be a little more

38:25

like those people. A culture changes

38:27

when a small group of people find a

38:29

better way to live and the rest of us

38:30

copy. And so I I've spent the last seven

38:33

or eight years around the most beautiful

38:35

people in America. And it's kept my mood

38:37

up when politics is trying to destroy

38:40

it. Uh and if we could shift norms

38:42

around that kind of behavior. Just one

38:45

final story. We ran into a lady in

38:47

Florida and she was helping kids across

38:50

the street after elementary school one

38:51

in the afternoon and we asked her, "Do

38:53

you have time to volunteer in your

38:54

neighborhood?" And she said, "Nope, I

38:56

have no time." And she said, we said,

38:58

"Well, are you getting paid to do this?"

39:01

And she said, "No, but I help the kids

39:02

cross the street after school cuz it'll

39:04

be safer for them." Uh, and then we

39:06

said, "What do you do the rest of the

39:07

day?" And she said, "Well, on Thursdays

39:09

I take food to the hospital so the

39:10

patients love some nicer food to eat."

39:12

And we said, "Do you have time to

39:13

volunteer in your neighborhood?" and she

39:15

said, "No, I have no time." And she

39:17

didn't see this as volunteering. She

39:19

just saw it as what neighbors do. And if

39:22

we could shift the norm so people

39:23

redefine what a neighbor is, then

39:26

suddenly you see a lot more trust in

39:27

society. And it has to start at the

39:29

ground up, but it also has to happen to

39:31

the top down. It's really hard to build

39:32

trust to the ground up when somebody in

39:34

the White House is trying to destroy it

39:36

every day from the top down.

39:38

One of the I learn a lot from you and I

39:40

like that you challenge my thinking

39:41

because you have argued against a purely

39:44

material explanation for our political

39:46

crisis that throwing money at people

39:49

isn't the solve and that there are

39:51

moral, relational

39:53

um and spiritual issues at hand here.

39:57

What do you think that progressives

40:00

uh including myself misunderstand about

40:03

economic redistribution

40:05

that could substitute uh or that it's

40:09

not a good substitute for cultural

40:10

repair? Yeah. One of the differences

40:13

between liberals and conservatives is

40:16

liberals liberalism grew up in power.

40:19

Like I think modern liberalism grew up

40:21

in the New Deal when there was levers of

40:24

power that Democrats controlled that

40:25

they could advance their agenda.

40:27

Conservatism more or less grew up out of

40:29

power. And so when I was a young

40:31

conservative uh we had neck ties and

40:35

some conservatives wore Adam Smith neck

40:37

ties, some were St. Augustine, some were

40:40

Edund Burke, but the load stars of being

40:42

conservative was philosophical

40:45

and it was more it was out of power. It

40:47

was a group in through the 60s until

40:49

Ronald Reagan was in exile. And so I

40:52

found it in those days, things have all

40:54

changed now, of course, as a more

40:55

conservatism was more philosophically

40:57

oriented and progressivism was more

41:01

programmatical

41:03

and more reliant on planning and econom

41:06

economics. And if you were in

41:07

government, then it's natural to think,

41:10

well, what I what do I have in

41:11

government that I can use to make

41:12

society better? I've got money.

41:15

uh and that

41:17

under that fed into what really was

41:21

descending from Marxism and I think a

41:23

lot of people are influenced by Marx

41:24

including me who are not Marxists but

41:27

Marx was really about economic and

41:28

material determinism that material

41:31

conditions determine consciousness and

41:33

as a conservative I think consciousness

41:35

has a large influence on material

41:36

conditions or at least the ar the causal

41:39

arrow goes both ways and so it was very

41:41

easy both in the great society uh and in

41:44

the years

41:45

to believe if we just throw money at a

41:48

problem then that'll go a long way to

41:50

solving it. And that has failed in my

41:52

view in the school system. We've thrown

41:54

a lot increasingly more money at schools

41:57

and scores are dropping rapidly. Uh and

42:00

it's especially in efforts to create

42:02

social mobility. If you give a for poor

42:05

family money, they're better off. So,

42:07

I'm for it. They can buy more um

42:10

groceries or whatever else they need.

42:12

But what you were hoping when you gave a

42:14

poor family basic income or whatever was

42:17

that their long-term uh outcomes would

42:19

be different, that they'd have higher

42:21

high school graduation rates, they had

42:23

higher incomes later on. Uh and that's

42:26

not true. That doesn't happen. And

42:28

that's been I just saw another study

42:30

finding with the same finding today

42:33

because if you come from a poor family

42:36

and have parents with an extremely

42:38

strong work ethic,

42:40

you're probably going to do okay. Uh and

42:42

it's that work ethic that is necessary

42:45

along with some resources. So I I think

42:48

it and I think a lot of people don't

42:50

want to mention that work ethic because

42:52

it seems like you're blaming the poor,

42:53

you're blaming the victim here. Uh but

42:57

the people who are poor are completely

43:01

aware of how important a work ethic is

43:03

and they everyone has complexities in

43:05

their life to explain their

43:06

circumstances. But uh uh I do think it's

43:11

it's possible to talk about the things

43:13

like work ethic, self-control without

43:16

saying oh you people you poor people are

43:17

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45:48

almost a badge of honor. People are

45:50

consistently saying consistently saying

45:51

I'm politically homeless. And there's

45:53

different levels of homelessness, right?

45:55

There's people who don't have a static

45:56

address. They're qualified as homeless.

45:58

There's people live in their car and

45:59

there's people, you know, living under a

46:01

bridge. I think of David Brooks as a guy

46:03

living under a bridge. Like, I can't

46:05

imagine a more politically homeless

46:06

person right now. the way you meld

46:09

conservative ideology like money doesn't

46:12

fix the problem, it's values and at the

46:15

same time you talk about the importance

46:17

of touch among young men. I mean you

46:19

really are sort of an island of one or

46:22

let me put let me ask you this. Who do

46:25

who in the Republican or the Democratic

46:27

party or where do you find a home in

46:30

terms of our leadership? Who do you

46:32

think I'm just speak who does David

46:35

Brooks want to be president? Who are you

46:37

impressed by?

46:38

>> Yeah. Uh well, first just weren't my

46:41

home. Uh you know, I I'm I think I'm

46:43

pretty consistent. I'm now I'm a person

46:45

of faith, but until my 50s, I had no

46:47

faith. But I did read the Bible. And the

46:50

idea that the the

46:52

strong should serve the weak and the

46:54

rich should serve the poor was pretty

46:55

squarely in the center of the both Old

46:57

and New Testament. And so that seemed

46:58

like a good value to embrace. Uh and

47:02

then I um uh then my one of my heroes is

47:05

Edund Burke. Uh and the key phrase for

47:08

Burke is epistemological modesty. Uh

47:12

that the world is really complicated and

47:13

you should be very humble about what you

47:14

think you can know. And so you should do

47:17

change but you should do it cautiously

47:19

and incremental. You should perform on

47:21

society, Burke wrote, the way you would

47:23

perform surgery on your father very

47:26

carefully. And I think a lot of the

47:28

planning that progressives did and the

47:30

plan big projects that the progressives

47:32

did over the course of the 20th century,

47:34

a lot of them just backfired because no

47:35

one is smart enough to to ma navigate

47:38

complex change. And then my third hero

47:41

is Alexander Hamilton who's a Puerto

47:44

Rican hiphop star from New York City. Uh

47:46

now Hamilton uh there are three

47:48

traditions in American life even though

47:51

we only have two parties. One of them is

47:53

a progressive tradition believes in

47:54

using government to enhance equality.

47:56

very legitimate tradition. The other is

47:58

a more libertarian tradition that

48:01

believes in uh reducing government to

48:04

enhance freedom. And then historically

48:06

we've had a third tradition which starts

48:08

with Alexander Hamilton. It goes up

48:10

through Henry Clay and Daniel Webster

48:13

and the Wig Party uh with the American

48:15

system. And then it goes up through

48:17

Abraham Lincoln who was a wig who who

48:20

gave more speeches on banking than he

48:22

did about slavery in the course of his

48:24

career. And then it goes up to the

48:26

Roosevelt and then it goes up and

48:29

probably dies with John McCain at least

48:31

the first McCain race of 2000 and would

48:34

include the Rudy Giuliani version the

48:37

two the 2000 version of Rudy Giuliani

48:39

not the contemporary version and that's

48:41

that tradition believes in limited but

48:44

energetic government to enhance social

48:46

mobility. As Hamilton or Lincoln would

48:49

have said it's about creating a world in

48:51

which poor boys and girls can rise and

48:52

succeed. If we don't have social

48:54

mobility, if we divide into a class

48:57

structure, then that's curtains. And so

49:00

the way you do that is you use

49:01

government in limited but energetic ways

49:04

to help people become good capitalists

49:06

uh or good whatever they want to be. And

49:08

that's good human capital policies,

49:10

that's good education policies, that's

49:12

job training, that's earned income tax

49:14

credit, that's baby bonds, whatever to

49:17

help people rise and succeed. And to me,

49:20

my tradition, the wig tradition, is a

49:22

legitimate tradition in American life.

49:24

It just happens to have no political uh

49:26

partisan home. But I I I think I see

49:29

bits of it on the the moderate side of

49:32

the Democratic party, which is where I

49:34

now consider myself. I'm just watching,

49:36

for example, Rahm Emanuel begin his

49:38

presidential campaign, and some people

49:41

think Rahm is, you know, he's he's the

49:42

old guard. He doesn't have a chance. And

49:44

maybe that's true. I think he's very

49:45

realistic about what his chances are.

49:47

But he is talking about the American

49:49

dream and he is talking about education.

49:51

And the way Democrats have walked away

49:53

from that issue is astounding to me.

49:55

Democrats like Bill Clinton and Barack

49:57

Obama wanted education reform. And now

49:59

the Democrats Kla Harris basically do

50:01

not have an education plank in her

50:03

platform cuz she didn't I don't know. I

50:06

don't know. She didn't care. She thought

50:07

it would be divisive for the party. And

50:09

the problem with that is right now

50:11

Republicans are kicking Democrats asses

50:13

on education. The best education states,

50:16

as has been written about a lot, are

50:18

Mississippi, Alabama, Tennessee,

50:20

uh, Florida, Georgia, they're those are

50:23

the states where the gains are being

50:24

made. And one statistic should upset

50:27

every Californian. That in California,

50:30

28% of black kids are reading at grade

50:32

level. 28%. In Mississippi, a much

50:35

poorer state, 58% of black kids are

50:38

reading at grade level. So, what's the

50:40

hell's going on? California. uh and

50:42

somehow so my party would if it existed

50:46

would care a lot about that.

50:48

So I used to think the best way to

50:50

predict the future was to make it which

50:51

is sort of this ego-driven

50:53

actionorientation like Tarzan uh trope

50:57

but I now think it's the best way to

50:59

predict the future is to look at

51:00

incentives

51:02

and do you believe that so I think as a

51:05

percentage of of GDP generally speaking

51:09

across the uh across the west especially

51:12

in Europe we've seen social service

51:15

spending go up and and at some point the

51:19

incentives are quite frankly not to take

51:20

risks, not to work. Do you think that

51:23

part of the failure of progressives is

51:25

that we've uh in an attempt to grab

51:27

social virtue and show empathy for our

51:29

brothers and our sisters that we've

51:31

created an incentive system that creates

51:32

a smaller tax base and slowly but surely

51:35

inspires this downward spiral?

51:37

>> Yeah, I guess I would uh I do believe

51:40

obviously in the power of incentives,

51:41

but again, we look at issues somewhat

51:44

differently. It's interesting because I

51:45

think you and I agree on a lot but we we

51:47

think differently and so I think what

51:50

matters is your intrinsic desires and

51:53

ext incentives to me feel like

51:55

exttrinsic desires like a performance

51:57

pay plan sounds like an exttrinsic

51:59

desire and I think one of the things the

52:00

research shows if you pay kids to read

52:03

they'll begin to regard reading as work

52:06

uh and do less of it and I think this is

52:08

even true among you know bankers that

52:11

some of the performance pay programs

52:12

that they thought would boost

52:13

productivity didn't really boo boost

52:15

productivity and I would say what uh

52:19

what really makes people work hard is to

52:22

get back to our original subject is

52:24

doing the thing they love to do doing

52:26

the thing they are wired to do uh I read

52:29

this biography of Walt Disney recently

52:31

and when he was making Snow White the

52:32

first fulllength feature animated movie

52:35

he he hired artists and art historians

52:38

to come to Disney studios and teach his

52:41

draw his cartoonists to draw like

52:42

Michelangelo and Rambr runs and people

52:44

like that. And he he worked on this

52:46

movie three years before even drawing

52:48

this first cell and it was hour upon

52:51

hour, seven days a week of doing the

52:54

voices. What should the look of the

52:55

movie be? Uh what do we do with with

52:58

Grumpy? You know, and and that three

53:00

years of prep work bringing in he

53:02

brought in um I think Franklidd Wright

53:05

to come to the studio to talk to the

53:06

artists about lines. And it was it made

53:09

no economic sense to do all this stuff,

53:12

but he did it because he he just wanted

53:14

to do the thing he wanted to do. He

53:16

loved drawing and he wanted to do the

53:18

great project and it made no economic

53:20

sense. But he was totally driven and

53:22

frankly it economically eventually paid

53:23

off. But so I think people will become

53:27

entrepreneurs when it seems challenging

53:30

and cool to be entrepreneurs. I think I

53:33

again I I gravitate a little more to the

53:35

um to the incentive uh to the cultural

53:38

piece than to the incentive piece. I

53:40

don't know if you think I'm wrong about

53:41

that.

53:42

>> I just grew up in an environment where I

53:45

you know not having money then being

53:47

very focused on econ economic security

53:49

teaching at a business school being an

53:52

entrepreneur raising capital being on

53:54

boards. I one of my real weak points is

53:56

I tend to think of things through an

53:58

economic lens. And also I and by the way

54:01

I think the idolatry of the dollar in

54:03

America I think America is basically

54:05

becoming a trading platform. It's it's

54:07

like losing almost any sense of self

54:08

around what it means to be a society.

54:10

We're just a trading platform to try and

54:12

get rich is and it you know character

54:15

seems to take in a distant second and

54:17

character and grit are conflated with

54:19

the size of your bank account. Full stop

54:21

is how I see it. And so the incentives

54:23

among young young people is just

54:25

disproportionately towards doing

54:26

whatever is required

54:29

uh to find money and skipping over the

54:31

purpose the relationships the things you

54:33

were talking about touch that are so

54:34

important and you end up maybe with some

54:35

economic security but you end up

54:37

economic end up anxious obese and

54:39

depressed at the age of 35 with an

54:41

inability to to attach to anything. Uh

54:45

so yeah I do I think about incentives a

54:47

lot and that is whenever I look at a

54:49

situation where the behavior just I

54:50

can't figure it out I go right to the

54:52

economic incentives but part of that

54:54

again is proximity bias. Those are the

54:55

people I teach at a business school. I

54:57

don't teach at the sociology department.

54:59

What do you What do you make of

55:04

And I hate even using his name because I

55:06

I I worry I'm adding to the problem by

55:08

platforming him and I think that I'm

55:09

hoping like Andrew Tate is just going to

55:11

fade into the distance when people

55:12

realize just how how how stupid and

55:15

nihilistic he is. But what do you think

55:16

of Nick Fuentes and does it say anything

55:18

about the Republican party or is it

55:20

going to be like an Andrew Tate or Yanni

55:23

Monopol forget his name was just kind of

55:25

the algorithms love him for the short

55:27

term and then he goes away. Do you think

55:28

this is something bigger?

55:30

>> Yeah, I do. I mean, I I I do think we're

55:32

in a moment of of sort of nihilism which

55:36

produces a right-wing reaction which is

55:40

fascist comes close to fascism.

55:43

And so the I think we entered a stage in

55:47

the 1980s or 1990s of what we call moral

55:49

relativism. The the prevailing ethos as

55:51

Alan Bloom wrote in the closing of the

55:53

American mind is you do you, I'll do me.

55:56

We we each come up with our own values.

55:58

And I think that led to a lot of people

56:00

with no shared values. If you tell

56:02

everybody to come up with your own

56:03

values, unless your name is Aristotle,

56:05

you can't do it. You come up with

56:06

nothing. And so I think we entered a

56:08

phase where people were just morally

56:10

inarticulate and unclear on values and

56:12

everything was kind of wishy-washy. Uh

56:14

and they were weak. And there's a and

56:17

then when you get a counterreaction to

56:19

that, there's a book by a guy named

56:20

Rusty Reno called uh The Return of the

56:22

Strong Gods. And his argument was that

56:24

after World War II people wanted weak

56:27

belief because they thought strong

56:28

belief produces the Nazis. And so they

56:31

went for weak belief. Carl Popper open

56:33

open society. Everything should be open.

56:35

And so there's a reaction against that

56:38

to have strong gods, strong nation,

56:40

strong man, uh strong orthodox faith. Uh

56:45

but with that goes the bad boy. I with

56:49

that goes true fanaticism because if

56:52

you're trying to trying to shock the

56:53

bourgeoisi, the weaklings, the elites,

56:55

the uh one of the things you wanted to

56:57

do is have a strong position and you

57:00

want it to be somewhat dangerous and

57:02

romantic and manly.

57:05

And so then you had that love for Rome,

57:07

Roman Empire that spread throughout the

57:08

alt-right, but it's inevitably going to

57:10

lead you to conspiracy theories. It's

57:12

inevitably going to lead you to racism.

57:15

it's inevitably going to lead you to

57:16

anti-semitism because once you adopt

57:19

that logic that I'm going to have the

57:22

strong belief that the establishment

57:24

doesn't like then you've got to keep

57:27

upping the dosage and that would that's

57:29

what Nick Fuentes is he's he ups the

57:30

dosage and the audience demands the

57:33

higher grade of heroin they want the

57:35

pure stuff and he offers some a little

57:37

more pure Andrew Tate offers a little

57:39

more pure pure but you can't return to

57:41

the earlier dosage because it seems

57:42

boring and so you have this cycle of

57:44

self-radicalization

57:46

with these young guys rising uh spewing

57:49

the most hateful stuff

57:51

and it still somehow seems cool to

57:54

people I guess um because and I think

57:56

the alt-right and my friends and family

57:58

members who are really in that world um

58:01

they say it's just getting crazier and

58:02

crazier

58:04

>> and you brought up a word just as we

58:05

wrap up here manly and we think about

58:08

this a lot and again uh this is a

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genuine question not a question posing

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as a comment But I tend to reverse

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almost everything, including the

58:17

instability in our society, to a lack of

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economic and romantic opportunities for

58:21

young men. And that's not to say that

58:23

it's not terrible for young women, but

58:24

young women don't pick up AR-15s or

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start revolutions typically. I mean,

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they're they're part of the movement,

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but I would argue the most unstable

58:32

violent societies in the world all have

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the same thing in common, and that is a

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disproportionate number of young men who

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are economically or or from relationally

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challenged, if you will. Isn't I mean

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can't a lot of our problems be reverse

58:45

engineered to young men feeling no sense

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of purpose? And again I'll use the term

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economic procarity. Absolutely. I agree

58:52

with that a thousand%. Um and you know

58:54

this is not a new problem. Dustki wrote

58:56

a book notes from the underground about

58:58

a nihilistic young man who feels

59:00

invisible to society and draws the right

59:03

conclusion that if society

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>> started World War I.

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>> Yeah. Right.

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>> A 19year-old. Anyway, sorry. Go Right.

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And and so if society hates me, I'm

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going to hate right back. And I think

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that's part of it. Just supplement that.

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So some I would say some of the lonely

59:18

young men do the they basically want to

59:20

commit suicide and take others with them

59:21

when they go. That's basically what a

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mass killing is. Uh and so there there's

59:26

that segment, but there's another

59:28

segment that's reacting. I was really

59:30

struck by this in a survey I saw

59:31

sometime in the last couple weeks uh

59:34

where they asked young people

59:36

uh if you want to have a successful

59:39

life, what are the most important pieces

59:41

of that for you? And for Trump voting

59:44

young men, the number one answer was

59:48

having children.

59:51

And uh the number three answer was was

59:54

getting married.

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>> And it was 11 for progressive women. And

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so the

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>> it was didn't even make the top.

59:59

>> It was it was second and third from the

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bottom. And so to me that this is like I

60:05

think it's frankly healthier. I think

60:06

the people who think marriage is not

60:07

important. Listen a lot of people don't

60:08

get married. A lot of people marriage is

60:10

not for them. A lot of things life

60:11

happens. But as I said earlier, dating

60:14

and marrying uh are vastly more likely

60:17

to make you happy. uh the I saw a study

60:20

I think the in in the institute for

60:22

family studies um that among liberal

60:26

liberal women who get married 96% say

60:29

they're happy and among unmarried 66%.

60:33

So it doesn't mean you're going to be

60:34

unhappy if you're unmarried. It's

60:36

certainly not I we all have single

60:37

friends who have built great lives for

60:38

themselves but the odds are a little

60:40

better if you if you have a life

60:42

partner.

60:43

>> The odds are a little better if you have

60:44

a life partner. David Brooks is one of

60:46

the nation's leading writers and

60:47

commentators. He's an op-ed columnist

60:50

for the New York Times and writer for

60:51

the Atlantic. He's a best-selling author

60:52

of The Second Mountain, The Road to

60:54

Character, The Social Animal, and How to

60:57

Know a Person. Uh David, you are you are

61:01

I don't know if you feel this heat or if

61:02

you can sense it. You are such a role

61:04

model for me because I love how you you

61:08

are just unafraid and you bring this

61:11

peanut butter and chocolate that I don't

61:12

see anywhere else and that is

61:14

conservative values or what are thought

61:15

of as conservative values wrapped in

61:18

emotion, wrapped in love, wrapped in

61:20

character. I don't see anyone I don't

61:22

know if it was the last person to do

61:24

this was W. I I just don't see anyone

61:26

doing this and I think you're just such

61:29

an important voice and such a great role

61:30

model for young people, specifically

61:32

young men. very much appreciate your

61:34

time today and your voice.

61:36

>> I have never been compared to a Reese's

61:37

Peanut Butter Cup, but I I take it as a

61:39

great honor

61:41

>> and so I thank you. And I one of the

61:42

nice things about doing this show is for

61:44

the next several weeks lots of people

61:46

are going to come up to me and say,

61:47

"Hey, I saw you on the Professor G Oh.

Interactive Summary

This video discusses the decline of trust in government and neighbors, the rise of social pain and isolation, and the impact of social media and economic precarity, particularly on young men. It explores how these factors contribute to societal issues like increased conspiracy theories, anti-Semitism, and a general sense of unease. The conversation also delves into the importance of love, connection, and purpose, contrasting materialist explanations for societal problems with the need for cultural and relational repair. Various solutions are proposed, including national service and fostering a culture of trust and commitment, while also examining the complexities of economic incentives and the role of strong beliefs in society.

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