it's the state of limbo where you're in

your head you know what you need to do

but you can't bring yourself to do it

you've given up on life but there's a

part of you that wants to keep trying

the action that you take creates the

life that you live and you get so caught

up in wanting wishing all this kind of

stuff that you don't act you have to

have a whole scale transformation of

your life which is surprisingly

easier than people think it is so today

we're going to talk about the

self-loathing man of inaction in your

late 20s or early

30s the only things he does are the

things he used to do and he does them

less and less has built an entire

worldview around his Neurosis I need

some time to think constantly re

revisits increasingly skewed memories of

the past wondering what he should have

done instead fixated on things no one

actually remembers probably not even to

him at this point I can't do anything

defe us who can never quite give up this

is beautiful right a defe us who can't

quite give up only boring people get

bored that's me slowly becoming actually

the RW so let's call it cognitive

decline um it was always going to be

like this closest thing to fer new

experiences or elaborate fantasies where

he reimagines redoing his entire life

centered around girls he barely knew in

like Middle School family are the only

thing that's keeping him alive knows

what was what a schis is doesn't know if

he is one if I could do it I would have

by now no one chooses this yeah I was

thinking about doing that know it knows

it's not too late but wishes it

was it only hurts when I laugh goes

months at a time without laughing or

sincerely smiling in constant pain

either neat or wage slave both equally

hopeless it's not like things can get

worse um accidentally once felt a moment

of relief has been upset about it since

and it it's not like things can get

better developing healthy problems

justify crappy LIF developing health

problems but justify a crappy lifestyle

why should I do anything cannot accept

what he's done nothing does nothing in

response he exists in a state of living

death thinking the same thoughts over

and over day in and day out even as he

understands that thinking doesn't help

and that he needs to just act instead he

is completely overwhelmed by inertia

while life passes him by He Is lot

everything but can't let go of anything

no reason to live no reason to die no

reason okay and then haunted by vague

Dusty delusions of

megalomania the self-loathing man of

inaction

so I really like this part defeat us who

can never quite give up right I think

this speaks a lot to the self-loathing

man of in

action there are a lot of people out

there who struggle with this who view

themselves as people of inaction for

whatever reason it's always framed as a

man on the internet and so they they're

stuck in their head they can't move

on but they can't let go right so you're

kind of always like it's the state of

limbo where you're in your head you know

what you need to do but you can't bring

yourself to do it you've given up on

life but there's a part of you that

wants to keep trying and so it's this

weird like balance of like okay I'm

hopeless and then one day I have hope

but you actually become afraid of Hope

because hope means

trying and hope means attempting and

hope means

hoping then if you try and if you

attempt and if you hope when those

things don't work out that leads to more

hurt so you kind of get stuck in this

like longing for

limbo right a desire for numbness

because if you're numb then there's no

hope and if you're there's no hope

there's no disappointment and if there's

no disappointment there's no

hurt and at the same time even when

you're numb you long to feel things that

occasionally there'll be like a ray of

sunshine through the clouds where you

have a little bit of hope you smile a

little bit you feel a little bit of

relief but then you're scared because

you don't know how to create that

consistently and so you view yourself as

a person of

inaction so we're going to approach this

I mean there were two or three ways that

I could talk about this my first thought

was I would go through and address each

of these like sentences and explain the

mechanism behind that maybe we can do

that but I want to start sort of in a

different

place so the first thing I'm going to

say is that this is not a man of

inaction this is a man man of an intense

amount of action see this is the first

and largest and most catastrophic

mistake we make when you look at your

life and you think to yourself I never

do anything this is categorically wrong

the reason your life is the way that it

is is because you are doing things all

the time may not make sense so let's

dive into it and be a little bit more

technical so this is one of the biggest

things that the theater of karma teaches

us right actions have

consequences this is a scientific truth

there is cause and there is effect this

isn't spiritual this is

science so the life that you have

created around

yourself is not a result of inaction it

is a result of action so for example if

I wake up today and I log onto the

computer and I play video games for 8

hours that's not inaction that's action

for 8 hours and that will have an

effect if I wake up today and I do not

apply for a job I will not have a job

tomorrow so that every day when I wake

up in my life what the truth of the

matter is is this life is not a result

of inaction and this is why it's so hard

to fix because it's not that you've done

nothing moving from neutral is not hard

right very easy a small amount of

acceleration in the positive direction

if I am at neutral will result in a

positive velocity right if I start

walking forward and I was standing still

I will start covering

ground that's not what happens with the

man of

inaction positive acceleration results

in a negative velocity how is that

possible that's because they are moving

in the wrong direction so it's not a man

of inaction is a man of wrong action

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people are taking actions literally

literally literally literally they are

taking actions every single day you

don't just sit in your bed all day you

get out of bed you do particular things

those are actions maybe you get high

that is an action that has a consequence

and maybe you say but Dr hey I do lay in

bed all day that too is an action laying

is a

verb right like

technically I'm sitting right now this

is an action I am taking your whole life

you have no choice but to take actions

and so if you look at your life and it

is completely Fallen apart this is not a

result of

inaction this is a result of wrong

action

and you know

this because you look back in your life

and you said I should have done this I

should have done this I should have done

this I should have done this what did

you do instead of the things that you

should have done you did something else

you didn't ask that girl out you didn't

apply you didn't uh do the extra credit

you decided not to go to school you

stayed home so this is one thing that

yall have to understand the biggest

thing that you have to understand you

are always acting there's no such thing

as an action arguably there is but very

few very few people on the planet truly

engage in in action if you guys want to

understand that we can talk about it at

the end so here's the thing that I want

you to understand the life that you live

today is a consequence of your actions

so it's not that you need to act more it

is actually here's the big irony it is

that you need to act less what you

actually want is inaction and this is

why these people are fundamentally stuck

because what they try to do is they try

to do more and instead what they need to

be doing is doing less doing less of the

wrong thing will move you in the right

direction so most of these people are

running in the wrong direction in life

the right way to

stop you know if you're if you're at

minus 100 and you want to avoid getting

to minus 200 the first thing that you

need to do is learn to sit still just

stop moving

stop doing the things that you are doing

don't even try to do the right thing

stopping doing the wrong thing is

sufficient and this is what's really

weird this is what confuses

people see if you want to lose weight

you don't need to eat anything you need

to stop

eating if you want to recover from any

addictive substance the solution to

addiction is

inaction right

it's kind of weird so there's one other

layer that we have to add on which a lot

of people don't really think about which

is that we assume that actions are

physical so this is the other big thing

you have to understand 95 to 99% of the

actions that a human being takes are in

their

mind I'll give you all a really good

example of this so there is something

called obsessive compulsive disorder OCD

in which someone has obsessive thoughts

so they will think something that feels

really overwhelming like unless I turn

on and off the light

switch seven times the plane that my

family is on will crash and everyone

will die this is what we call an

obsession an obsession is a thought that

is repetitive and usually intrusive and

causes distress that is technically what

an obsession

is then what happens is the compulsion

is the action that you take in response

to the obsession so when I think these

thoughts I will act in some

way but when I act in that way it

reduces the emotional energy of the

thought the only way I can get the

thought to disappear is by taking this

action so when I flick the light switch

on and off and on and off and on and off

when I do it seven

times then the thoughts are calmed so

now I am taking a physical action to

reduce a mental

action and if we kind of think about it

thoughts lead to other thoughts right so

this is why I like this principle of

karma because in the English language

when we use the word action it has an

implication of physicality to it

but when we say karma karma is an action

but the key thing about karma is it's

anything that is a cause that has an

effect that is a Karma and so if you

have a thought does that have an effect

absolutely so this is what we do in

Psychotherapy if someone has for example

a destructive schema a worldview that is

negative we can alter their mind so that

one thought does not lead to another

thought does not lead to another thought

each thought you have is an action

there's a great lecture over on the

membership side that we have about

mental karmas which you all should

definitely check out there's also

something I think in the trauma guide

about it as well right so if you all are

really interested in understanding and

mastering this idea that each of your

thoughts isn't of itself an

action right because each thought has a

consequence in a panic attack what do we

what happens in a panic attack I have

one thought that leads to another

thought that that leads to another

thought that leads to another thought

that leads to another thought and then

these thoughts over time become

overwhelming they activate my physiology

my I go crazy for a little bit and then

my brain short circuits my heart can

even short circuit for a little while

and then the whole system shuts off and

even I want yall to really understand

this if you think that your life has

fallen apart because you're a

self-loathing man of

inaction think for a

second what are the causes

of your current life self-loathing so

when you view yourself when you

literally have this thought if we can

inject these thoughts into any human

brain they will have a similar

consequence self-loathing is is an

action it is a mental

action it is a particular kind of

thought and those mental actions will

lead to physical actions and this kind

of makes sense right if I think

about taking a sip of

water that is what results in taking a

sip of water so this is where and if you

kind of think about it right if you're

one of these people what you find is

that you're very drained at the end of

the day even though you've done nothing

what's draining you if you've done

nothing you've done a lot you've done a

lot of thinking you've actually done a

lot of physical action

too and this creates an inertia in the

mind it creates all kinds of of effects

in your mind and in your life that make

it hard for you to act in the right way

so it's not that you have inaction it is

that you have an

overabundance of wrong action right

you've created a really problematic life

and you've created a very problematic

thought process a really good example of

this is if I have a thought of suffering

if I feel some degree of suffering what

do I do I reach for numbness right

I feel hopeful and if I feel hopeful

this hurts my mind attaches be careful

now be be careful here okay when you

feel hopeful your mind attaches a fear

to hope this is an

association when I feel hopeful I have

learned to fear hope and since I now

fear hope I need to shut off hope and so

then I Le reach for a numbing agent take

your pck of whatever suppresses the

Olympic olymic system video games

pornography social media marijuana

alcohol whatever take your pick and then

we numb ourselves we numb the fear and

along with it goes the hope but then we

create a huge problem because when we

begin to numb

ourselves we shut off the part of our

brain that motivates physical action one

of the most powerful

motivators are our emotions but there's

two too much negativity right so we have

to numb it and that there in lies the

problem the more that we numb the

negativity the more of the negativity

builds up so the first thing that we

have to understand is that we are not

men of inaction We Are Men of an intense

amount of action and if you really stop

and think about it what does it take to

screw up your life as much as you've

screwed it up right and I say this as

someone who screwed up my life like it

took a lot of

effort to screw up my life the way that

I screwed it up it took struggle day in

and day out the amount of avoidance that

I had to engage in was astronomical the

amount of like I used to sneak out to my

mailbox in the morning to steal my

transcript so that my parents would not

find it because if they found it there

would be consequences and if there were

consequences then I would change and if

you really look at these self-loathing

men of in action they work really really

really hard to protect themselves of the

consequences of their

inaction I'm going to avoid these people

for the the holidays I'm not going to

show up I'm just going to ghost you work

really really hard to avoid the

consequences of your life when you shut

off your emotions and you shut off the

consequences of your life what ends up

happening you propagate along the same

path right you're removing the things

that stimulate what you would call

Action make sense so this is not

inaction this is an immense amount of

action a lot of action very difficult

action that's why it's so hard that's

why it's so draining and the more that

you numb yourself the more that your

trash can starts to overflow and then

you have to like you know cover it up

with all kinds of things now I'm going

to fill a whole room of my house with

trash I'm going to open the door and I'm

going to throw trash in and I'm going to

close it up so if you really stop and

think about it what you will discover is

that you are taking all kinds of mental

actions you are running away from things

all the time all the time you're running

running running running running you're

so busy running away from everything

that you can't have anything to run

towards right so achieving goals

building a life worth living is about

running towards something not running

away from something for the most part

and then you end up with this life

so what do you do about this the first

thing is to do less so in my case I went

to India for 3 months and did a whole

lot of truly nothing to receive what the

world sends your way to start to respond

to it don't try to steer the course of

your life anymore let the the fruit that

you have been cultivating Harvest it see

as you start to do less the consequences

will start manifesting and you have to

absorb all of those

consequences it feels like it's too much

but it's not too much right all you have

to do is actually nothing just let it

come in my case you know my parents

would call me and I would avoid

answering the phone because I didn't

want to talk to them answer the phone

right see ignoring a phone call is an

action ignoring a text message is an

action you look at the thing and you

literally shut it off and then you turn

to something something else you do

something to distract your mind okay so

if you want to know why people get stuck

I want to show you all the paper so this

is from a section on recovering from

trauma right so if we look at someone

who let's say is a self-loathing man of

inaction there are all kinds of events

in the past that have scarred them these

people are essentially traumatized so

let's look at how we go about recovering

from trauma so here will be eye opening

okay identified three factors that are

associated with both natural recovery

from trauma and reduction of PTSD

severity via exposure therapy the first

factor is emotional engagement with the

trauma

memory um in natural recovery emotional

engagement refers to fear activation

that occurs when one one when one

encounters a trauma reminder in the

natural

environment uh fear activation has been

found to be POS positively associated

with treatment outcome we hypothesize

that a lack of emotional engagement

would be associated with poor natural

recovery following a traumatic event

dissociative symptoms such as feelings

of deep realization depersonalization

during or following trauma or amnesia

for information related to the trauma

have been conceptualized strategies that

reduce emotional engagement right so

when we dissociate we are reducing

emotional engagement so reduction of

emotional engagement several studies

have found that peritraumatic

dissociation is associated with more

severe PTSD the more you dissociate the

worse you

get okay now here's what's really

interesting consistent with this

hypothesis individuals whose Peak

symptom severity occurred within two

weeks of the traumatic event were less

symptomatic 14 weeks later so the more

it hurts in the faster it hurts the

better off you will be individuals whose

symptoms peaked between two and six

weeks after the event had more severe

symptoms you all understand the more it

hurts the better you get and our

self-loathing man of inaction is still

delaying the emotions from middle

school yall see

that interesting no so if you want to

heal you must

stop whatever thoughts come whatever

emotions come let them

come they're just thoughts they're just

emotions they are not

truth this is another big problem that

self-loathing men of inaction have they

believe that their mind is connected to

the real world this will happen and this

will happen and this will happen this is

just a thought it is an emotion it's not

reality right and you get so caught up

in wanting wishing all this kind of

stuff that you don't act there's

something that's messed up in the

dopaminergic circuitry where wanting

normally stimulates action but in these

people something interesting has

happened so there are a couple of big

problems that happen with self-loathing

men of in action and one is that they

open energic circuitry gets miswired

okay and it has to do with this kind of

suppression but let's understand this so

normally we have this thing called the

nucleus succumbent which releases

dopamine and then dopamine does a couple

of things okay so we got to understand

this the first is that it induces

Cravings now here's what's really

interesting if we look at our dopamine

over time when we have a craving we

actually get the craving itself

increases dop

and there are a couple there's one

really interesting reason for that so I

don't know if youall know this but

Parkinson's disease is a disease of

movement right so they have things like

Cog wheel rigidity they have difficulty

walking and the treatment for uh Co

Parkinson's disease is something called

L Doopa so we give these people dopamine

L Doopa crosses the bloodb brain barrier

that's why it's l Doopa and it's

converted to dopamine and then their

ability to move increases so dop me not

only triggers Cravings it also triggers

movement right so then what happens so

now I'm triggering

movement and then this will result in

action and then dopamine will start and

then once I act or my action is

completed then I will get a big spike of

dopamine right so I want something that

initiates a behavioral change and then

once I engage in that behavior I'll get

a big spike of dopamine now for people

like this this is what I've sort of

observed as a clinician there is another

thing that starts to happen for some

reason when I get a craving when I get a

wanting of something right and then I

want dopamine there's another kind of

neurological thing that sort of happens

so something about this wanting through

associative learning also triggers an

emotional response and this is usually a

negative emotion so now our limic system

gets activated so when so if we go back

to our man of learning right so it hurts

when I smile

things can only get worse a little bit

of Hope is a dangerous thing so as this

person strives for something right they

have a wanting a parallel circuit some

kind of Association has been created in

the brain where they have a negative

emotional response hopeless now your

brain looks at this situation and says

we are wanting dopamine and we have

hopelessness so the brain remember the

brain is not working against you it's

just trying to do what it knows how to

do so it says we want some dopamine and

we're feeling hopeless what should we do

then we get driven towards inaction but

this is not inaction we're going to do

something like play Vidya so Vidya is

going to suppress our limic system and

it is going to give us dopamine you

understand you get two for one so I want

a girlfriend I want a job the absence of

these things is going to trigger

shame and now our brain is like okay we

need dopamine and we need to shut off

our emotional circuitry so we're going

to do this and now I've taken an action

instead of actually resolving these

problems I've taken an action now what

started happening is I recruit the endoc

canabo circuitry and I'm forming a habit

now what my brain has learned so the

next time that I want

something this

becomes a behavioral cue that triggers a

neurological

response which then triggers an action

which then satisfies the issue and so

over time these habitual men these men

of

inaction are habituated right they have

a habit of waking up every day and doing

the same thing right every day feels the

same late 20s early 30s what's the

difference 6 years s years it's all the

same every day your life is the same

because you repeat the same actions over

and over and again it's not in action

it's lots of action and now you have

built up an immense amount of karma

because you have been engaging in this

habitual Q response dopaminergic

emotional suppression you've engaged in

this stuff day after day after day after

day after day after day after day and

remember that your brain when neurons

fire frequently they strengthen their

connections this is associate of

learning and so now your neurons are

very well grooved it's like when you

have a game Trail right so you have a

field of grass and then a Mouse runs

across and flattens some grass and then

you you have a rabbit that looks at the

grass and sees oh there's some flattened

grass here let me run across it and then

the rabbit goes on that slightly

flattened grass flattens it more then

you get like a deer that walks down

there and then you get a bison that

walks down there and then suddenly you

have a game Trail and it becomes really

really really easy to walk down the game

Trail this is what happens in these

people so how do you

change so we're going to do a couple of

things so there are two modes of

changing if you want to fix this one is

the more classic way right you take

small actions go to therapy work on

yourself start journaling meditate

whatever but honestly with the people

that I've worked with there is a

degenerate way to transform your life

and I would call this going unab Bunga

see small changes for people like this

are hard because there's such a weight

of

like habit and all this kind of stuff

like you got to go

anganga so you got to go like all in on

one strategy I'm not saying this is the

best way it's just what I've seen and

people are talking about monk mode like

literally that's what I did right I

became I mean I didn't become I tried to

become monk but I went through monk

training you have to have a whole scale

transformation of your life which is

surprisingly

easier than people think it is so what I

would say is you start to become a

little bit more

aesthetic not a little bit more we're

going to go unab banga we're going to

put all our points in strength we're

going to wield two great clubs no

Cosmetics no [ __ ] flask no [ __ ]

buff none of this like optimize your

life kind of thing and like none of that

stuff we're going to go hard and the

reason that we need to go hard is

because we do not want to trigger those

behavioral cues so what I

would

consider right a couple of things so the

first thing about going unab banga is

that you need to go see a doctor and you

need to make sure that something about

your life is not like problematic so I

would start with a medical evaluation

you may need things like mental health

treatment if you've got a mood disorder

or things like that going anganga

requires no like significant Medical

debuffs so I would go get a full

physical and get some kind of mental

status exam get evaluated for whatever

illnesses now this is where we got to be

careful because I want yall to pay

attention to what your response to that

is so when I say go do this thing what a

lot of people will do is their mind will

have a response I can't do this thing

because of this I can't do this thing I

can't afford a doctor I can't do this I

can't do this it's hard for me blah

whatever I'm not saying that any of

those things are true this is where we

have to like understand something else

about the Mind where do thoughts come

from so when we have a

circuit that gets

dopamine and suppresses emotions and has

habits and I tell you to do something

else these circuits of the brain will

then go and create thoughts this is what

happens in an addict's brain right so I

want yall to understand this the

thoughts in your head are not correct or

they're not they're not incorrect but

the thoughts in your head like where do

the I don't know if this makes any sense

so I'm going to try Okay so just like

bear with me this is [ __ ] weird but

like y'all got to think okay where do

the thoughts in your head come from

people will say oh the thoughts in my

head come from truth but think about it

for a second I'm talking about the

mechanism why does your so there are

times in your life where you've had good

experiences and you've had bad

experiences

why do you think about the bad

experiences why is it that that's the

thing that floats from the unconscious

into your conscious mind at a particular

moment do you understand that a part of

your brain is making that selection a

part of your brain is choosing what to

open up on your desktop the biggest

mistake that we make in life is we

assume that the things that our brain

produces are because they are true this

is factually false you can look at

psychological defense mechanisms you can

look at cognitive biases and depression

you look you can look at trauma you can

look at associative learning you can

look at all kinds of conditioning it has

nothing to do with truth it has to do

with which part of your brain is running

the show because your brain is trying to

motivate a behavior remember there's no

inaction there is only action everything

you do is an action even sitting still

is an action so which part of your brain

is running the show

that part of your brain will float

whatever thoughts are necessary to get

you to to create the motivation to move

you in the direction that that part of

the brain wants to go

in and this stupidity of the brain is

evolutionary so great example of this is

falling in love so when we fall in love

there is a part of our brain that goes

to the risk assess ment portion there's

a part of our brain that calculates risk

the part of our brain that falls in love

goes and shuts that down so when you

start dating someone and you are madly

in love and your friends and family are

like I kind of see some red flags here

you're like I don't see red flags you're

wrong and then when you look back on it

oh yeah there were red flags I don't

know why I didn't see them you didn't

see them because that part of your brain

was shut off because there was another

part of your brain that is running the

show so you have a thought but don't for

a moment think that your thought

correlates with truth and there's a

really simple way to understand this a

hopeless man of inaction the

self-loathing man of in action looks in

the future and sees no hope I am blown

away by this they're like yeah nothing

will ever get better in my life holy

[ __ ] this is amazing there like what

what do you mean I've never met a human

being that can see the future

wow you should use your power for good

if you can see the future no one can see

the future it's just thoughts now those

thoughts are there for a reason they

will give me

justifications they'll say well this

happened this happened this happened the

past happened this way therefore the

future happened this way if it worked

like that the stock market would be easy

and this is the crazy thing so we take a

karmic perspective the past happened

that way is not deterministic I mean in

a sense it's deterministic but the past

happened that way because of what you

did your actions created that past you

did not ask that person out that is why

you hold on to the regret from mid

middle school so the future that lays in

front of you is not determined by the

past it is determined by what you do now

if you want a different future take a

different action and people will say but

I can't well now we're doesn't work

where does that thought come from which

part of your brain is producing that

thought I can't change because here's

the thing you guys want to know F if

we're talking about a map hack not an

app Mac map hack an aim hack the part of

your brain that is addicted to video

games has one trump card to play it'll

convince you that you canot change your

life and the moment that your addiction

convinces you that you can't change what

does it get to

do 100% I worked for a couple of years

in addiction Psychiatry the most common

cognitive pattern that I saw was an

addict's brain convincing them that they

can't change because the moment it

convinces you that you can't change do

you just sit on your ass and do nothing

no you get

high do you see so this is what yall

need to understand don't look at the

content of your mind look at the

direction of your mind look at your mind

and ask

yourself if my mind says this what does

this mean what does this drive drive me

toward what direction is it pointing and

what you will see if you are a

self-loathing man of in action is that

all of your thoughts point in One

Direction which you think is in action

but is not in action because you're not

actually sitting on your ass you're

sitting on your phone or you are sitting

on your ass which is an action it is all

of the

justifications that allow you to act in

an inert Manner and if you pay attention

to yourself you'll find there are pulls

for you to move out of there the other

parts of your brain are screaming at you

let's do something else let's do

something else and the other parts of

your brain they try they try to be angry

with you they try selflove they try

listening to a Buddhist podcast they try

so many things all of these there's 99

people in your brain that are screaming

at you to do something else the problem

is that only one person has the

megaphone and so you continue to create

this life every day that you live it

because you act and these have

consequences so what do you do about

this so good news is that even the

revelation of this is actually

sufficient if you guys want to know what

the real answer is the awareness

the how can I say this the

zealous emphasis on awareness is enough

to crack this cycle if you sit and you

look at yourself and you look at all

these thoughts the more that you st

study them

these patterns will

disappear okay I know a lot of people

don't believe that but I really believe

that to be true there's one really

simple part of reason for this remember

that a lot of your actions and thoughts

are habitual so the thing about the

endoc canabo circuitry The Habit

circuitry is the Habit circuitry is not

active when you were aware the whole

point of Habitual action it is action

done without awareness it is put on

autopilot you can't be autopilot and be

aware at the same time so if there's any

autopilot Behavior you have the more you

increase awareness literally a a

separate part of your brain activates

the endoc canabo circuitry is your habit

circuitry the awareness circuitry

involves your anterior singulate cortex

and your anterior singulate cortex is

also where willpower comes from

awareness and willpower come from

activation of the same part of the brain

and if you kind of think about it that

makes sense right so if I have a habit

it requires no willpower and has no

awareness the moment that I start

exerting willpower you cannot exert

willpower without awareness does that

make sense too I want youall to stop and

think about that for a second anytime

you exert willpower you are aware it's

like I want to pick this up with my

right hand but instead I need to force

myself to pick it up with my left

hand awareness and willpower not only go

hand in hand they are

neuroscientifically the same

thing staggering yogis have known this

for thousands of years you don't need to

fix your problems you just need to be

aware of them there's a great uh we have

a a video all about that too about how

willpower and awareness are one and the

same thing okay so awareness is

sufficient but we're going to talk about

unab banga mode so what I would do is

first go to a doctor and then your mind

will come up with all kinds of problems

that's fine it's not that those problems

don't exist those are just problems to

be solved right so if you say oh I don't

have a doctor well like then you should

Google search something in your area and

sign up well I don't have insurance I

can't afford a doctor well then you

should Google search how do I get

medical care if I have no insurance or I

have no money right so each

objection that your mind raises is a

task to be completed and watch what

happens okay I'm going to tell youall

what'll happen each thing that happens

once your mind once your brain learns

that you're doing this it will start to

pull out other tools right so it's like

you're playing sf6 and you're blocking

all the time so your brain is going to

use a throw so then suddenly you'll

notice something very interesting you

feel

tired you'll do it tomorrow see the

first and watch okay because the your

brain in this way is going to be kind of

like that the liquid thing in Terminator

2 that changes shapes right it's like

the mimic tier where once you you start

doing this your brain will adapt it'll

say oh my God this guy isn't when I tell

him it's not going to work it's not

working anymore so now what I'm going to

do is I'm going to create energia I'm

going to reduce his energy level because

it's running the show it's going to

places like your reticular activating

formation it says make this guy tired

and the reticular activating formation

says I I sir we are now tired we cannot

do this today and it will tell you this

look at the Direction look at the

Direction you'll feel all kinds of

things all sorts of stuff and then that

won't work you force yourself to do it

and then what will the Mind do the mind

will be like oh my God why didn't you do

this a long time ago now that we're

moving in the right direction you should

have done this if only you had done this

eight years ago then you wouldn't be

here it twists and it turns it changes

shape and it always wants you to move in

the wrong

direction watch it it'll happen this is

why you need to be Ste

stable steady you will win this is a war

that your brain cannot win all it can do

is get you to surrender if it fights it

will lose 100% of the time all it can do

is Trick you into surrendering and it

will try time and time and time again so

this is enough honestly we'll give you

more so once you look at all the

different things just notice what

happens and the the conception that I

would even offer is like think about

about it like an external object think

about it like a

demon that is trying to tempt you away

from fixing your life and it will use

your brain against you so what you need

to do is just notice these things notice

as much as you can notice the direction

now the reason we say start with a

doctor is because there could be certain

things that are physiologically not

working for you if you have anemia if

you have obstructive sleep apnea if you

have vitamin D deficiency if you have a

thyroid problem there are many common

things that will lead to low mood and

low energy we have to deal with those

things if you have something like a

full-fledged mood disorder you may need

some kind of pharmacologic treatment

Psychotherapy whatever so engage with

that that's step number one step number

two find yourself some duct tape and

duct tape out a square that is maybe

anywhere from 6 ft by 6 ft to 8X 10 or

whatever create a space

that is going to be your temple take a

sleeping bag take a pillow lay down

there that is where you sleep from now

on that is where you exist from now on

spend as much as of your time as you can

in this 6x6 Square okay we'll talk about

leaving the house but in your home look

at all of the places you go that result

in your quote unquote inaction we're

going to stay away from the these places

I really like a patch on the floor so

I'm going to study there I'm going to

sleep there I'm going to do calisthenics

there you're going to exist in that

space right you're going to leave the

place if you need groceries you need to

use the bathroom you need a shower you

need to go to work like whatever if

there's a fire in the building get out

but as much of your time as you can you

are going to exist in that square and

this is where you have to be kind of

careful because your mind will want you

to get out of the square oh I need to do

this I need to do this I need to do this

I'm bored here so be it the action that

we are going to take is developing a

resistance to boredom we're going to

tank that boredom damage so in my case

what I did was I slept there I exercised

there I did yoga there I meditated there

so you start to exist I even read there

as much as I

could I also had a small table without

without a chair so I moved out of there

and I would do my work there this is

also where you got to go hard on the

devices so it's time to do it uninstall

all of the extraneous things why watch

the direction of your mind as it tries

to tell you oh we need this for work so

I'd say anything that can be done on a

computer should not be done on your

phone if you absolutely need it on your

phone that's one thing remove everything

else change your phone to grayscale

uninstall all of the extraneous software

off of your computer install a an app

that blocks whatever websites you waste

your time on do all of these things

right so these things can be done within

30 minutes that's that's all it takes

fixing your Tech is going to be 30

minutes that's it now notice all the

Rebellion that will happen in your mind

you're worried about cracking and all

that kind of crap whatever now we're

going anganga 99 points in strength

nothing else no Cosmetics no this no

don't worry about that next thing that

we need to do is fix our diet unab

bangas don't eat that trash that you eat

they eat anganga food simple food poor

people food rice beans vegetables maybe

some seasoning if you want it food is no

longer a source of

pleasure food is

sustenance you're eating for survival

you are eating you're no longer living

to eat you are eating to live so it

should be nutritious rice beans veggies

fruits ideally nothing processed right

so you don't need Twinkies you don't

need chips you don't need frozen food I

mean if you need it that's a different

story frozen veggies you know seasoning

is like fine if you want to do some of

it but you don't usually need seasoning

there's some good micronutrients and

stuff in seasoning if you want to use

herbs and stuff whatever people are

asking about meat ideally less so some

meat is okay eggs are okay don't really

need cheese milk I guess is okay this is

unab banga mode and then it is the

tolerance of these things that's it if

you have to go to work you go to work

people will say but what about goals

what about this what about this what

about this well that stuff will come you

do this for a weekend do it for a week

do it I mean if you need to go to work

that's a different story if you need to

go get groceries go get groceries but

when you go to the grocery store it's

not about

pleasure and what I want youall to do

when you enter unab banga mode is just

notice your mind and your mind will get

desperate it'll use all kinds of

techniques to get you to stop it'll

Twist and Turn you'll if you are develop

your good awareness you will see it

panicking and when it starts to Panic

you know you're winning you've always

been winning you can always win the only

time you lose is when you surrender and

then people will ask this is another

tool the mind will use they'll say for

how

long until you're done right so this is

another technique that the Mind uses to

Foster in action it adds the dimension

of time I should have done it a long

time ago this is never going to work how

long do I have to keep this up I can't

keep this up forever in all of those

things what is the direction abandon

your efforts One Direction you look at

the direction it's one way right now you

don't you want to make sure your diet

doesn't have things like nutritional

deficiencies and stuff like that so be

safe be healthy but this is something

that you can do today find your 6x6

Square learn yoga do ASA every day do

pranam every day sit and meditate get

yourself a set of prayer beads and do

home chanting for 108 rounds very

simple chant oh 108 times every single

day now when you do this kind of stuff

this is really important the reason that

we go in this drastic way is we want to

remove all of our cues so do whatever

you can to remove the cues that lead to

bad behavior uninstall

Discord log out of the extraneous stuff

go to a different grocery store very

important and then your life will be

different you want to transform your

life into a temple devoted to you now

this word devotion is important see

devotion is done towards someone else so

all of the actions that you take you are

the actor is going to receive zero

dopamine zero benefit from it someone

else will receive the benefit of it

that's what we mean it's almost like

fragment yourself into the object of

your devotion and if we really think

about it the self-loathing man of in

action is the other way around every

action that is taken is for the benefit

of the doer so I'm going to skip school

today so that I can stay home and play

video games that benefits the me doesn't

benefit future me devote yourself to

your benefit and recognize that you will

never see the benefit of this

right the person who is the actor gets

nothing this is what gurus were really

good at teaching that we've lost we've

become so

selfish see when we have a society that

advocates for me first how is your brain

supposed to know which part of me first

is good and which part is bad if it's

all about me me me me me then video

games dopamine pornography drugs

whatever that's me my benefit now here

now we're all shortterm and all about me

so what do we expect there's no sense of

community there's no sense of the

greater good right and why do we say

this well that person over there doesn't

give a [ __ ] about the greater good so

why should I why should I do something

that benefits someone else if it doesn't

benefit me if they're not going to do

the same there's no reciprocity so I'm

not going to do it absolutely that's the

nature of the world you're prioritizing

yourself you're doing the same thing

that they're doing we're all doing the

same thing that's why the world is in

the shitty state that it's in do

something for someone else there are

studies that show that people who are

depressed who offer support feel better

what do we see in our mental health

spaces today venting venting venting

it's all about my problems my problems

my problems I am hurt I am wounded I am

a victim I need help just fair enough

like it's my job as a medical doctor to

help people who need help I get it I

think it's good to help help people who

need help and also just because you need

help doesn't mean that you can't give

help I learned this doing Boston street

team and working with homeless people

the the most giving people on the planet

are homeless people crazy you give one

homeless dude five bucks instead of

buying two things for themselves they'll

buy one thing for thems and one thing

for their buddy most charitable people

on the planet are homeless people so

going back to anganga mode you do this

for

week and then you'll discover something

that the action that you take creates

the life that you

live see we think that our identity

determines our actions those people are

successful because they are winners and

I am unsuccessful because I am a loser

our identity Narrows the scope of our

the actions that we're allowed to take

that's the truth of it so the action

that you take determine who you are not

the other way around so if you are a

self-loathing man of an action that can

change today through your action the

self-loathing man of inaction became

that way because of their actions the

self-loathing man does not determine

their actions it's the other way around

and you propagate it through your

actions every single day and this is why

like a lot of people you know some

people think I'm prideful some people

think I am humble I'm neither I think

maybe that's prideful to say who knows

so I don't know if youall notice what I

just did there I'm aware right so I

don't know this is a statement from ego

not ego I don't know let's just be aware

of it maybe that's a statement of utter

ego maybe that's the most egotistical

I'm neither humble nor

egotistical I'm I've

transcended so I

notice hopefully yall can notice with me

and then I just just to be on the safe

side I make fun of myself a little bit

let's just be aware so I'm neither of

those things I'm just me I'm the same

guy who failed out of college and I'm

the same guy who was faculty at Harvard

Medical School got an award of academic

achievement when I finished Medical

School same kid same guy same human the

only difference is the

actions that's the only difference so if

you're a self-loathing man of inaction

take different actions and then you will

become something else hey y'all hope you

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