Why Gifted People Burn Out The Fastest
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So if you have a high IQ, your cognitive
ability is better. If your cognitive
ability is better, you are able to
perform more calculations. If you can
perform more calculations, you can
develop a stronger predictive model of
the future. And as your ability to make
robust models for the future increases,
your anxiety increases directly in
proportion to that. There were a lot of
people who when you were kids, we were
classified as gifted and all this. You
know what? You're autistic.
>> I'm sorry. I don't mean to laugh, but
>> No, it's true, right? So, I I took the
test and because I've always thought,
why do I act this way? And but then you
flip it and it was also your superpower.
That's why you could stand on stage and
make up these worlds and do these
things.
>> Giftedness versus special. Which are
you? So, I have an interesting question
for y'all that I asked myself some time
ago. Why is it that everyone isn't a
genius? Why is the average IQ of human
beings not 200? Why do you all think
that is, right? So, sure, it's relative.
But why is the average IQ like 100
instead of 200? High IQ is also a
liability. I gave a kidney transplant.
Now, I've only got one kidney left. Why
don't I have three kidneys? Why don't I
have two hearts? Why don't I have three
eyes? Why do I have two eyes? Why not
just one eye? Why not one ocular organ?
I have one nose. Why two eyes? One
mouth, two ears. Why? So it it is a
metric. Y'all are right. So you could
average it. IQ is a scaled score. So
fair enough. Why is there computational
power where it is instead of being way
high higher? And people say evolution.
That's correct. But evolution selected
for this level of IQ. Not a little bit
more, not a little bit less. This is the
average, right? And maybe there's a
neuronal gap. Like maybe there's a
certain there's like a there's a
hardware issue, right? We've only got so
much RAM in the brain. There's only so
much computation we can do. But for
those of y'all who are saying there's a
cost that is exactly right. So we see
this with gifted kids. Gifted kids don't
necessarily perform better. We see also
see this with autistic savants where we
know that in the autistic brain some of
these people are capable of incredible
things. But that capability comes at a
terrible cost. And so I don't know if
you guys know this, but this is now old
news. So now I can't believe it's 20
years ago. In 2007 and 2008, there was
something called the subprime mortgage
crisis where basically what happened
there like economy crashed. Okay? And
basically the reason it crashed is
because people were doing something
really interesting. They were giving out
loans to people who could not afford
them. Then what they were doing is
packaging all of those loans and selling
them to somebody else. I am gonna loan
you a hundred bucks. Chance that you'll
default is 10%. And I'm gonna do that a
hundred times. And so some of these
loans are going to go bad. I'm going to
lose a lot of money. But then I'm going
to package them all up and I'm going to
sell them to somebody else. And then
with the money that I get from that
sale, I'm going to go out and do it to
another hundred people cuz now I've got
all this money right in my bank. So I
can be like, "Okay, now I'm going to
give it to you." So people were doing
this. There were some shenanigans going
on. Basically was creating a huge risk
of default. And there was a guy who was
a radiologist who got into finance, who
is on the spectrum. I I don't know if in
the movie he's is central, I don't know,
but there were books written about this.
And he's basically the one who figured
it out. So the rest of the world was
like, "Oh my god, this is the way to
make money. This is the way to make
money. This is the way to make money."
This guy was like, "Hold on a second.
This is there's something shady going
on." And he basically figured it out. So
he's on the spectrum. And we'll see this
time and again. I'm not sure exactly who
this person was, but you know, in the
clip, someone who's incredibly gifted
happens to be autistic. There's severe
autism as well, where like there's no
positive trade-off. People who are
non-verbal, people who engage in
self-injurious behavior. There's some
versions of being on the spectrum that
don't confer any advantage in my mind.
Like, I haven't seen I've seen cases
like this. Many of the patients that
I've worked with will have some
advantages, but on balance, it's like
doesn't make their life easier. You
know, what you get when you trade the
autism for the savant is not worth it
because it causes so many problems in
relationships and things like that. But
the main thing to understand is that
intelligence comes at a cost. So for
example, if we look at this paper over
here, this is really fascinating. So
high intelligence a risk factor for
psychological and physiological
overexitabilities implicates high IQ as
being a a potential risk factor for
affective disorders ADHD ASD and for
increased incidence of disease related
to immune dysregulation. So it's really
fascinating but I want to explain to you
all how this works. So if you have a
high IQ your cognitive ability is
better. If your cognitive ability is
better you are able to perform more
calculations. If you can perform more
calculations, you can develop a stronger
predictive model of the future. And as
your ability to make robust models for
the future increases, your anxiety
increases directly in proportion to
that. So people with high IQ have higher
anxiety because when they go into a
situation, they are able to see all of
the things that could go wrong. And if
we think about what is anxiety, anxiety
is looking into the future and being
able to predict problems. I'm worried
that I could fail the test. I'm worried
that I could get stuck in traffic on the
way home. Anxiety is literally the
ability to predict problems. There's a
problem though with anxiety in
giftedness, which is that normally the
way that the number of problems that we
want to predict needs to be in
proportion with our ability to do
something about it. Right? Why do we get
anxious? So we can predict a problem and
do something. Oh my goodness, I could
fail my test. Oh to avoid that, let me
study. Right? So prediction of problem
implementation of solution one to one.
And at 100 IQ, the problems that most
human beings predict are solvable. But
IQ has a big problem, which is that if
I'm capable, if I only have two hands
and I only have 24 hours in a day, but I
can predict 100 problems, I can't solve
all of those problems. Like literally,
there is I want you all to understand
this. There is a gap between my ability
to detect problems and for me to be able
to implement solutions because I am
bounded by time, space, and reality. But
my mind can make predictive models. This
is why people who are gifted struggle
with anxiety. Hey y'all, if you're
interested in applying some of the
principles that we share to actually
create change in your life, check out
Dr. K's guide to mental health. There
actually two sources for anxiety. One is
cognitive and one is physiologic. For
the majority of people, reassurance
becomes something that you become
dependent on. You're not really dealing
with the root of the anxiety. And it
sort of becomes a self-fulfilling
prophecy where the more socially anxious
you become, the more awkward you appear.
And then it kind of becomes this vicious
cycle. So check out the link in the bio
and start your journey today. And then
this creates another problem, right?
Which is now I'm making 100 predictions.
I can only do 10 solutions. And then I'm
able to predict the consequence of 90
problems that have no solutions. Oh my
god, I need to do so much. Where do I
start? It's too much to do. How do I
know it's going to work? Overwhelm. So,
that then fuels the fire, which is why
we see these papers that show that high
IQ results in a a risk of ADHD, autism
spectrum disorder, things like that.
Next thing to understand, just this is
another interesting point, is that
people who have high IQ are more likely
to ruminate. They're more likely to get
stuck in their head thinking the same
thoughts over and over and over again.
Right? Because if there are 100 problems
to solve and my hands can only solve 10
if I only have 24 hours in a day, what
is the smart person going to do? They're
going to lean into their strengths. Let
me see if I can perform a calculation to
reduce 100 problems to 99. How can I
figure out this situation so that I have
to do less? Because the only way this
works I can only I can only do 10 things
and there's 90 left. So let me see if I
can perform some calculations to reduce
100 to 90 and 90 to 80 and 80 to 70 and
60 to 50 to 40 30 40 to 30 down to 20
and then eventually 10 and then I can
work they're literally more prone to
rumination and thinking thinking
thinking thinking thinking to solve
problems and then they end up getting
stuck because now what's happening is
instead of solving those 10 because
those 10 isn't enough then what they
spend their energy in reducing 100 to 90
they spend spend all of their time
trying to whittle down their problem to
something solvable instead of solving,
instead of working. They focus on
compressing the problem. How do I go to
a party and be confident? How do I go to
a party and not feel anxious? How do I
figure out which major is going to be
right so that I stay engaged with it? I
don't get bored and has good job
opportunities by the time I graduate.
They're always trying to shape mold the
problem into solvable
instead of take one step forward because
that is their solution strategy, right?
The the brain learns how to do this and
they learn how to do this at a very
young age. That's why they're called
gifted. So early on this works. Oh, I
want to play video games all day. I
don't want to study for my math test.
How do I solve this problem? Oh, I know.
I'll just pay attention in school so
that I don't have to study. And if I pay
attention in school, then I can come
home and I never have to study. They
figure out problems. I mean, they figure
out solutions. And this is the problem
is that they develop a strategy that
only works at low rank, right? I'm going
to rapid expand every game. Just going
to rapid expand because people at my
rank never use rush strats. So they
start to develop bad habits. Why do they
develop bad habits? Because they can get
away with it. People who have a high
basic metabolic rate, a fast metabolism
often times have terrible eating habits.
Because whether they eat Twinkies or
whether they eat salad, they stay thin.
So they're not given the opportunity to
This is what's so tricky about life. So
many of the people that I work with, the
higher the capability is, the harder it
is to live up to your potential because
you're saddling all of these bad habits
that there was never any like corrective
evolutionary pressure for, right? And
that's why we get to some of these
really interesting statistics. Um, let
me see if I can find them for y'all. To
think rationally means to adopt
appropriate goals, take appropriate
action given one's goals and beliefs,
and hold beliefs that are commensurate
with available evidence. Intelligence
tests measure many important things
about thinking, but they do not directly
assess the degree of rationality of
thought. Thus, it is perhaps not
surprising that intelligence is quite
weakly related to at least some aspects
of rational thought. Okay, this I know
sounds weird, but basically if we look
at intelligence, this is what's kind of
hard to understand. So I think about
high IQ is a very strong beast that
you're trying to leash. So high IQ is
prone to rumination. So what happens
with people who are really intelligent,
right, is like they'll come into my
office and they'll say like, "Oh, I have
anxiety." And the problem and they're
like, "I know it's anxiety, but I can't
get it to stop." So the the animal at
the end of their leash is so much
stronger than they are. When it starts
to think in a particular way, they have
an undisiplined mind. And an
undisiplined mind that is really, really
strong. If I have a 200 lb or 800 lb
tiger at the end of a leash, it's going
to be harder to control than like a 60
lb golden retriever. This is the problem
that people with intelligence face. And
in this paper, they talk about
rationality, which is like the ability
to regulate your thinking. And we know
this, right? Because if we're smart, we
sort of realize that our thinking is
kind of like we don't think of it as
irrational, but it is irrational. That's
not the word that we would use. We think
we're hyperrational. And in this way,
they're defining rational as being able
to set appropriate goals and follow them
through, which is like rational, right?
But we're like, and we know we have
trouble with that, but we think we're
we're thinking rationally. But when our
IQ is kind of too strong for us to
control, it becomes undisiplined. That I
think is a better word to use and then
it gets out of our control and then we
struggle with it. We have trouble
restricting it. And so this is what's
really interesting. If you look at
income, if you look at IQ, the top 2% of
IQ people in the world earn less money
than the top 10%. Earn less money. the
higher you go on the IQ scale at some
point it's kind of like you know income
increases with IQ linear like maybe like
something like this and then at some
point it goes like this it craters
really hard at the upper levels of IQ
now the interesting thing sometimes
people will post and they say like oh
Dr. Okay, you always talk about gifted
kids, but I'm not gifted. I'm actually
like 80 IQ or 70 IQ. What do I do then?
What do I do if I am I am literally I
have a low IQ? And I've worked with
those people as well. So, here's what's
really interesting. If you have low IQ,
EQ or emotional capability is able to
buffer that gap. So, job performance
that is not attained through cognitive
intelligence may be attained through
emotional intelligence via multiple
complimentary mechanisms. The first
mechanism concerns expertise at
identifying and understanding the
emotions of other individuals. So what
does this mean? This means that even if
you can't do the job, understanding
anger, sadness, things like that,
understanding the emotions of your
colleagues is a huge way for you to
succeed at your job. Right? Helping your
team members, even if you are incapable
of doing the work, correlates with
improved job performance. In most if not
all jobs, organization members interact
with supervisors, co-workers, support
staff outsiders such as customers,
clients, or patients. This information
may in turn be converted into high task
performance by individuals with high
emotional intelligence and low cognitive
intelligence. So even if I'm not quite
as good at the technical side of
customer support, if I'm good at dealing
with people, that'll work. A second
mechanism by which emotional
intelligence may enhance to the job
performance of individuals with low
cognitive intelligence concerns how
regulating emotional influences
regulating emotion influences the
quality of social relationships. Often
times people that I work with who are
very high IQ. We we talked about how
they're predisposed to anxiety, ADHD,
even depression. There are lots of
papers about that that I've done whole
lectures on. So being able to regulate
your emotions becomes harder the higher
you climb in IQ. And so if you can
manage your own emotions even at low IQ,
that will improve job performance.
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This video explores the complex relationship between high intelligence (IQ) and mental well-being, arguing that while high IQ offers advantages in predictive modeling and problem-solving, it also functions as a liability. The speaker explains that individuals with high IQ are prone to heightened anxiety, rumination, and "undisciplined" minds because their capacity to identify potential problems far exceeds their physical and temporal ability to solve them. Additionally, the video discusses how high IQ can lead to the development of poor long-term habits and how, paradoxically, emotional intelligence (EQ) can often serve as a more effective buffer for life challenges than cognitive intelligence alone.
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