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So if you have a high IQ, your cognitive

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ability is better. If your cognitive

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ability is better, you are able to

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perform more calculations. If you can

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perform more calculations, you can

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develop a stronger predictive model of

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the future. And as your ability to make

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robust models for the future increases,

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your anxiety increases directly in

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proportion to that. There were a lot of

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people who when you were kids, we were

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classified as gifted and all this. You

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know what? You're autistic.

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>> I'm sorry. I don't mean to laugh, but

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>> No, it's true, right? So, I I took the

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test and because I've always thought,

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why do I act this way? And but then you

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flip it and it was also your superpower.

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That's why you could stand on stage and

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make up these worlds and do these

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things.

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>> Giftedness versus special. Which are

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you? So, I have an interesting question

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for y'all that I asked myself some time

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ago. Why is it that everyone isn't a

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genius? Why is the average IQ of human

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beings not 200? Why do you all think

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that is, right? So, sure, it's relative.

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But why is the average IQ like 100

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instead of 200? High IQ is also a

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liability. I gave a kidney transplant.

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Now, I've only got one kidney left. Why

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don't I have three kidneys? Why don't I

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have two hearts? Why don't I have three

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eyes? Why do I have two eyes? Why not

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just one eye? Why not one ocular organ?

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I have one nose. Why two eyes? One

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mouth, two ears. Why? So it it is a

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metric. Y'all are right. So you could

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average it. IQ is a scaled score. So

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fair enough. Why is there computational

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power where it is instead of being way

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high higher? And people say evolution.

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That's correct. But evolution selected

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for this level of IQ. Not a little bit

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more, not a little bit less. This is the

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average, right? And maybe there's a

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neuronal gap. Like maybe there's a

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certain there's like a there's a

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hardware issue, right? We've only got so

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much RAM in the brain. There's only so

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much computation we can do. But for

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those of y'all who are saying there's a

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cost that is exactly right. So we see

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this with gifted kids. Gifted kids don't

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necessarily perform better. We see also

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see this with autistic savants where we

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know that in the autistic brain some of

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these people are capable of incredible

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things. But that capability comes at a

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terrible cost. And so I don't know if

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you guys know this, but this is now old

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news. So now I can't believe it's 20

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years ago. In 2007 and 2008, there was

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something called the subprime mortgage

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crisis where basically what happened

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there like economy crashed. Okay? And

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basically the reason it crashed is

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because people were doing something

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really interesting. They were giving out

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loans to people who could not afford

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them. Then what they were doing is

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packaging all of those loans and selling

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them to somebody else. I am gonna loan

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you a hundred bucks. Chance that you'll

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default is 10%. And I'm gonna do that a

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hundred times. And so some of these

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loans are going to go bad. I'm going to

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lose a lot of money. But then I'm going

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to package them all up and I'm going to

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sell them to somebody else. And then

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with the money that I get from that

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sale, I'm going to go out and do it to

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another hundred people cuz now I've got

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all this money right in my bank. So I

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can be like, "Okay, now I'm going to

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give it to you." So people were doing

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this. There were some shenanigans going

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on. Basically was creating a huge risk

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of default. And there was a guy who was

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a radiologist who got into finance, who

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is on the spectrum. I I don't know if in

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the movie he's is central, I don't know,

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but there were books written about this.

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And he's basically the one who figured

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it out. So the rest of the world was

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like, "Oh my god, this is the way to

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make money. This is the way to make

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money. This is the way to make money."

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This guy was like, "Hold on a second.

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This is there's something shady going

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on." And he basically figured it out. So

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he's on the spectrum. And we'll see this

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time and again. I'm not sure exactly who

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this person was, but you know, in the

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clip, someone who's incredibly gifted

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happens to be autistic. There's severe

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autism as well, where like there's no

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positive trade-off. People who are

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non-verbal, people who engage in

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self-injurious behavior. There's some

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versions of being on the spectrum that

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don't confer any advantage in my mind.

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Like, I haven't seen I've seen cases

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like this. Many of the patients that

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I've worked with will have some

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advantages, but on balance, it's like

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doesn't make their life easier. You

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know, what you get when you trade the

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autism for the savant is not worth it

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because it causes so many problems in

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relationships and things like that. But

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the main thing to understand is that

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intelligence comes at a cost. So for

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example, if we look at this paper over

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here, this is really fascinating. So

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high intelligence a risk factor for

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psychological and physiological

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overexitabilities implicates high IQ as

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being a a potential risk factor for

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affective disorders ADHD ASD and for

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increased incidence of disease related

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to immune dysregulation. So it's really

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fascinating but I want to explain to you

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all how this works. So if you have a

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high IQ your cognitive ability is

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better. If your cognitive ability is

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better you are able to perform more

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calculations. If you can perform more

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calculations, you can develop a stronger

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predictive model of the future. And as

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your ability to make robust models for

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the future increases, your anxiety

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increases directly in proportion to

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that. So people with high IQ have higher

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anxiety because when they go into a

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situation, they are able to see all of

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the things that could go wrong. And if

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we think about what is anxiety, anxiety

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is looking into the future and being

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able to predict problems. I'm worried

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that I could fail the test. I'm worried

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that I could get stuck in traffic on the

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way home. Anxiety is literally the

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ability to predict problems. There's a

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problem though with anxiety in

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giftedness, which is that normally the

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way that the number of problems that we

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want to predict needs to be in

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proportion with our ability to do

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something about it. Right? Why do we get

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anxious? So we can predict a problem and

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do something. Oh my goodness, I could

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fail my test. Oh to avoid that, let me

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study. Right? So prediction of problem

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implementation of solution one to one.

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And at 100 IQ, the problems that most

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human beings predict are solvable. But

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IQ has a big problem, which is that if

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I'm capable, if I only have two hands

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and I only have 24 hours in a day, but I

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can predict 100 problems, I can't solve

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all of those problems. Like literally,

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there is I want you all to understand

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this. There is a gap between my ability

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to detect problems and for me to be able

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to implement solutions because I am

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bounded by time, space, and reality. But

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my mind can make predictive models. This

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is why people who are gifted struggle

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with anxiety. Hey y'all, if you're

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interested in applying some of the

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principles that we share to actually

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create change in your life, check out

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Dr. K's guide to mental health. There

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actually two sources for anxiety. One is

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cognitive and one is physiologic. For

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the majority of people, reassurance

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becomes something that you become

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dependent on. You're not really dealing

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with the root of the anxiety. And it

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sort of becomes a self-fulfilling

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prophecy where the more socially anxious

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you become, the more awkward you appear.

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And then it kind of becomes this vicious

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cycle. So check out the link in the bio

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and start your journey today. And then

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this creates another problem, right?

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Which is now I'm making 100 predictions.

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I can only do 10 solutions. And then I'm

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able to predict the consequence of 90

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problems that have no solutions. Oh my

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god, I need to do so much. Where do I

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start? It's too much to do. How do I

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know it's going to work? Overwhelm. So,

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that then fuels the fire, which is why

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we see these papers that show that high

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IQ results in a a risk of ADHD, autism

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spectrum disorder, things like that.

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Next thing to understand, just this is

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another interesting point, is that

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people who have high IQ are more likely

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to ruminate. They're more likely to get

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stuck in their head thinking the same

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thoughts over and over and over again.

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Right? Because if there are 100 problems

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to solve and my hands can only solve 10

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if I only have 24 hours in a day, what

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is the smart person going to do? They're

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going to lean into their strengths. Let

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me see if I can perform a calculation to

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reduce 100 problems to 99. How can I

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figure out this situation so that I have

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to do less? Because the only way this

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works I can only I can only do 10 things

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and there's 90 left. So let me see if I

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can perform some calculations to reduce

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100 to 90 and 90 to 80 and 80 to 70 and

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60 to 50 to 40 30 40 to 30 down to 20

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and then eventually 10 and then I can

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work they're literally more prone to

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rumination and thinking thinking

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thinking thinking thinking to solve

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problems and then they end up getting

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stuck because now what's happening is

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instead of solving those 10 because

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those 10 isn't enough then what they

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spend their energy in reducing 100 to 90

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they spend spend all of their time

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trying to whittle down their problem to

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something solvable instead of solving,

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instead of working. They focus on

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compressing the problem. How do I go to

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a party and be confident? How do I go to

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a party and not feel anxious? How do I

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figure out which major is going to be

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right so that I stay engaged with it? I

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don't get bored and has good job

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opportunities by the time I graduate.

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They're always trying to shape mold the

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problem into solvable

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instead of take one step forward because

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that is their solution strategy, right?

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The the brain learns how to do this and

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they learn how to do this at a very

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young age. That's why they're called

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gifted. So early on this works. Oh, I

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want to play video games all day. I

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don't want to study for my math test.

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How do I solve this problem? Oh, I know.

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I'll just pay attention in school so

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that I don't have to study. And if I pay

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attention in school, then I can come

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home and I never have to study. They

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figure out problems. I mean, they figure

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out solutions. And this is the problem

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is that they develop a strategy that

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only works at low rank, right? I'm going

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to rapid expand every game. Just going

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to rapid expand because people at my

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rank never use rush strats. So they

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start to develop bad habits. Why do they

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develop bad habits? Because they can get

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away with it. People who have a high

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basic metabolic rate, a fast metabolism

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often times have terrible eating habits.

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Because whether they eat Twinkies or

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whether they eat salad, they stay thin.

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So they're not given the opportunity to

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This is what's so tricky about life. So

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many of the people that I work with, the

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higher the capability is, the harder it

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is to live up to your potential because

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you're saddling all of these bad habits

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that there was never any like corrective

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evolutionary pressure for, right? And

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that's why we get to some of these

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really interesting statistics. Um, let

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me see if I can find them for y'all. To

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think rationally means to adopt

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appropriate goals, take appropriate

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action given one's goals and beliefs,

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and hold beliefs that are commensurate

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with available evidence. Intelligence

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tests measure many important things

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about thinking, but they do not directly

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assess the degree of rationality of

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thought. Thus, it is perhaps not

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surprising that intelligence is quite

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weakly related to at least some aspects

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of rational thought. Okay, this I know

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sounds weird, but basically if we look

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at intelligence, this is what's kind of

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hard to understand. So I think about

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high IQ is a very strong beast that

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you're trying to leash. So high IQ is

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prone to rumination. So what happens

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with people who are really intelligent,

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right, is like they'll come into my

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office and they'll say like, "Oh, I have

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anxiety." And the problem and they're

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like, "I know it's anxiety, but I can't

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get it to stop." So the the animal at

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the end of their leash is so much

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stronger than they are. When it starts

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to think in a particular way, they have

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an undisiplined mind. And an

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undisiplined mind that is really, really

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strong. If I have a 200 lb or 800 lb

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tiger at the end of a leash, it's going

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to be harder to control than like a 60

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lb golden retriever. This is the problem

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that people with intelligence face. And

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in this paper, they talk about

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rationality, which is like the ability

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to regulate your thinking. And we know

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this, right? Because if we're smart, we

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sort of realize that our thinking is

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kind of like we don't think of it as

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irrational, but it is irrational. That's

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not the word that we would use. We think

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we're hyperrational. And in this way,

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they're defining rational as being able

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to set appropriate goals and follow them

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through, which is like rational, right?

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But we're like, and we know we have

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trouble with that, but we think we're

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we're thinking rationally. But when our

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IQ is kind of too strong for us to

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control, it becomes undisiplined. That I

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think is a better word to use and then

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it gets out of our control and then we

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struggle with it. We have trouble

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restricting it. And so this is what's

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really interesting. If you look at

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income, if you look at IQ, the top 2% of

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IQ people in the world earn less money

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than the top 10%. Earn less money. the

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higher you go on the IQ scale at some

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point it's kind of like you know income

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increases with IQ linear like maybe like

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something like this and then at some

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point it goes like this it craters

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really hard at the upper levels of IQ

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now the interesting thing sometimes

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people will post and they say like oh

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Dr. Okay, you always talk about gifted

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kids, but I'm not gifted. I'm actually

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like 80 IQ or 70 IQ. What do I do then?

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What do I do if I am I am literally I

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have a low IQ? And I've worked with

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those people as well. So, here's what's

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really interesting. If you have low IQ,

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EQ or emotional capability is able to

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buffer that gap. So, job performance

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that is not attained through cognitive

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intelligence may be attained through

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emotional intelligence via multiple

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complimentary mechanisms. The first

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mechanism concerns expertise at

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identifying and understanding the

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emotions of other individuals. So what

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does this mean? This means that even if

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you can't do the job, understanding

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anger, sadness, things like that,

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understanding the emotions of your

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colleagues is a huge way for you to

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succeed at your job. Right? Helping your

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team members, even if you are incapable

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of doing the work, correlates with

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improved job performance. In most if not

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all jobs, organization members interact

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with supervisors, co-workers, support

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staff outsiders such as customers,

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clients, or patients. This information

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may in turn be converted into high task

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performance by individuals with high

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emotional intelligence and low cognitive

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intelligence. So even if I'm not quite

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as good at the technical side of

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customer support, if I'm good at dealing

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with people, that'll work. A second

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mechanism by which emotional

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intelligence may enhance to the job

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performance of individuals with low

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cognitive intelligence concerns how

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regulating emotional influences

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regulating emotion influences the

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quality of social relationships. Often

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times people that I work with who are

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very high IQ. We we talked about how

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they're predisposed to anxiety, ADHD,

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even depression. There are lots of

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papers about that that I've done whole

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lectures on. So being able to regulate

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your emotions becomes harder the higher

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you climb in IQ. And so if you can

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manage your own emotions even at low IQ,

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that will improve job performance.

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Interactive Summary

This video explores the complex relationship between high intelligence (IQ) and mental well-being, arguing that while high IQ offers advantages in predictive modeling and problem-solving, it also functions as a liability. The speaker explains that individuals with high IQ are prone to heightened anxiety, rumination, and "undisciplined" minds because their capacity to identify potential problems far exceeds their physical and temporal ability to solve them. Additionally, the video discusses how high IQ can lead to the development of poor long-term habits and how, paradoxically, emotional intelligence (EQ) can often serve as a more effective buffer for life challenges than cognitive intelligence alone.

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