All right. Here into living an

unconventional

life.

Woohoo.

Let me know if you can relate to this.

This is such a part of my unconventional

path for me. when I overly plan, when I

overly think through what am I going to

say on the YouTube, how what is the good

title, what is the good message, what is

I get like in my head and it's very akin

to me like the difference between a

conventional and unconventional path.

Like the conventional path is the A to B

to C like this is the guarantee. This is

what I'm going to say. This is what I'm

going to do. This is how I'm going to

live my life. This is what success looks

like versus the unconventional path

which is what's coming through me right

now. Where's my desire energy being led?

And this doesn't mean that we are

flippant in life. It doesn't mean that

we don't plan at all. But the planning

is based on an energy, a foundation of

expansion, of desire, of joy, of play

versus like this squeezing energy. So

today I'm going to do something

different than I've ever done before or

not ever. I'm going to do something that

I haven't done in a while. I feel like I

haven't done this in a while on the

YouTubes in this way and I want to bring

it back. So a couple of things. I'm just

going to play. I'm going to risk. I'm

going to listen inside for what spirit

really wants to bring forward during

this time. I'm going to see what it is.

We're going to trust that it's going to

be valuable in whatever way it's going

to be valuable. and we're going to let

go and we're going to allow and we're

going to be inside the unconventional

paths instead of the script. And so as I

open up, I'm going to invite you to feel

inside. Where have you been living with

the script in your life? Where have you

been walking through life with the idea

that what I was saying before that

you're kind of scripting a YouTube

video, but you've been scripting your

life? Where have you gotten caught in

the conventional path in your life? And

when you were little, what was it like

for you? Did you naturally live into the

unconventional path? Did you want to do

things differently? Did you want to live

differently? Because one of the things

that I feel is so important for us is to

continue to easily, not squeezing this,

but continue to continue in our lives to

evaluate, is this still what I want? Is

this what success looks like to me? Is

this what freedom looks like to me? Have

I in any way got caught in the

conventional path of my life? Am I

unintentionally going by a script? A

script that the world has written, a

script that my partner has written, a

script that my kids have written, a

script that my parents have written.

Where is the unconventional path of your

soul really leading you at this

particular point in time? What is it

that makes you feel alive? When I

started elegant fem one of the first

tele calls that I did which is crazy

right it was I don't even think it was

instant telesseminar at that point I

think it was something before that no

video right just on on the phone I was

sharing the story about walking through

my life feeling numb that my husband and

I had gotten like stuck in this

conventional path where we were on this

you know A to B to C we had the cars we

had the house we had moved to another

house on the golf course in the country

club and it was just this kind of

feeling like this is the rat this is the

rat race this is a hamster wheel this is

what success looks like this is the next

thing this is the next thing and I

started to feel really numb inside I

started to feel really bored inside I

started to reach for things that I

thought were going to make me happy that

were going to make me feel fulfilled but

we were really in a conventional path

and my husband and I sat down and had a

really beautiful honest this

conversation with like this isn't what

we want. In fact, I had discovered a

journal. This is a really beautiful

story. I had discovered a journal in our

first home together from my husband when

I was cleaning out and I don't know, I'm

not really one to go read other people's

things. So, I must have asked him cuz

that's not me. And we shared he shared

this journal entry with me that he had

written. It was actually assignment that

he had had in college asking about

basically what do you want in your life?

what do you want to be when you grow up?

Kind of a thing. And what he had said

was that he did not what he said was

what he didn't want, which is that he

didn't want to be stuck in a cubicle.

Specifically, he said, "I don't want to

be stuck in a cubicle." And we went

through that and discovered that

exercise that he had done in college.

And guess what? He was working in a

cubicle from like 7:00 in the morning to

like 7:00 p.m. at night. This was a

wakeup call for both of us. So, we sat

down and we had a really honest

conversation about what we wanted, what

we didn't want, like the pieces of our

lives that we had unintentionally

started to live conventionally, where we

were living by a script instead of the

way we really wanted to live. And we

made some really, really big decisions.

I sold my wedding ring. We downgraded

our house. We moved into a smaller house

couple of times. And we started our

business. We started Elegant Fem. We

started to live into the unconventional

path. We knew we wanted to live anywhere

in the world. It was something that was

really inspiring to both of us. We knew

at some point that we wanted to sail

around the world. I knew that I wanted

to live in France. And since my husband

was like, I want to live somewhere else

in the world. And my desire was France.

We did it. We packed up everything. We

put everything in storage. We went on

vacation to France and didn't come back

for 7 years. I'm not saying that your

unconventional path needs to look like

ours, but I am inviting you to consider

where in your life have you gotten

caught in a script in a conventional

path. Because the truth is, and I'm

going to invite you to really feel this

because it's not necessarily easy for us

to receive it. This was something that

my husband and I talked about when we

had this big conversation. We receive

what we believe we are. We receive what

we believe we're capable of receiving.

We see what it is we believe we are.

This is a very deep spiritual principle

of truth. We receive what we believe we

are. We see what we believe we are. And

we receive what we believe we can about

ourselves. So the believability is

really big. So if you look around in

your life right now, this is a deep

opportunity for responsibility. You look

around in your life right now and if you

see things that don't feel aligned, it's

because somewhere inside you believe

that that's what's possible for you. You

believe in some way that that's what

you're capable of or that's what you're

allowed to have or and this is a big

one. If you were told growing up like be

grateful, be grateful, be grateful, be

grateful. And of course, as someone

that's devoted to spirituality, growth,

evolution, we want to be grateful. But

what we want to be really careful of is

that we don't do we don't utilize

gratitude as an excuse to stay stuck. So

if you look around in your life right

now and you're feeling a little

distance, you're feeling a little numb,

you're feeling a little unsatisfied, a

little bored, a little like, is this it?

Is this all there is for me? like h and

you feel a little ping of guilt like oh

my god I should be so grateful for this

life so many people would look at my

life and think oh what and you're

recognizing right now I've been

utilizing gratitude as an excuse to stay

stuck

you can be grateful and want more in

fact I believe one of the most beautiful

things about gratitude is if you're

grateful you naturally want more please

thank you so much God thank you so much

life. More, please. More, please. Not

thank you. I don't want anymore. I'm

going to cross my arms and I'm going to

stop receiving.

Now, this is very different than moving

into an energy of like consumption where

it's like never enough. Never enough.

Never enough. Cuz that's a script of

life, too, right? The hamster wheel of

like, oh, I just want more. I just want

more, but I'm not feeling satisfied.

That's a very different conversation. If

you're finding us for the first time and

you've never heard of Elegant Fem

before, one of the things that we go

into deep inside of Elegant Fem are the

fem types. the indie, the Frenchy, and

the New Yorker fem type. I'm not going

to go into the depth of that inside of

this video right now, but if you're

feeling this energy, if you're like, "Oh

my gosh, I want to live differently. I

want to live an unconventional life. I

want to live by my own terms. I want to

live in a way that reflects to me the

success that I desire, the freedom that

I desire, the feeling inside of being

alive."

Then look in below. We'll put some links

in the description. We have some

beautiful things. We have an edge

meditation series that will help you

activate the fem types. We have a fem

ree series that's coming up to help

women redefine what wealth really means.

Because just a little caveat here and

you might be stuck in a script in your

life around this right now, it doesn't

matter how much money you make. If

you're stuck in an old frequency, you'll

never feel free. So the freedom aspect

of living an unconventional life gives

you permission to live the way that you

want to live no matter what. And so a

couple of things to keep in mind to keep

in your heart to feel as we close this

video. You receive what you believe you

are.

Take some time today and see if you are

unintentionally attached to a script, an

old script. If you're living in a space

where you're feeling numb, where you're

feeling disconnected, where you're

feeling unsatisfied, and if you're

allowing gratitude to keep you stuck,

like utilizing gratitude as an excuse to

stay where you are, and if you're

craving an unconventional life, let me

know in the comments. Let me know what

this video opened up and inspired inside

of you. And something I haven't done in

a while as well that I just wanted to do

since I woke up this morning. I'm going

to turn the camera a little bit. I think

you can actually already see. I'm going

to turn the camera a little bit.

I am committed to living an

unconventional life

being in this space on this sailboat

with my husband who's going to turn 50

next month. Sorry, babe. He's going to

be 50 next month. I'm not that far away,

actually. I want to live. I want to let

go of any kind of limitation in my life.

And since I woke up this morning,

there's been something I've been wanting

to do. And I'm not even going to wait.

I'm not even going to wait to get in my

bathing suit. Let's see. All right. Here

into living an unconventional

life.

Woohoo.

Yes, yes, yes, yes. I forgot to put the

ladder down.