I'm Yaning, a 46 years old single mom from China.

If you've watched my previous videos,

you probably already know that I've been single for a long time.

I live with my daughter.

but most of the time, I'm on my own.

And I rarely keep in touch with friends.

Some viewers have commented on my videos,

asking "Why are there so many lonely women in China?"

And it's true, lately,

a lot of videos have been popping up on YouTube featuring single Chinese women living alone.

They document their daily lives:

handling chores by themselves,

enjoying quiet moments of solitude,

and grappling with uncertainty about the future.

Some viewers even wonder:

are these women for real?

or are they just fake？ like they're playing a character and doing it for clicks?

I can't speak for everyone online，

But what I can tell you is this— in China， especially in big cities，

more and more women are living alone.

They're not in intimate relationships,

Some don't even feel the need for friends.

So why is this happening?

Well, dating and marriage in China have become very pragmatic.

And it's not just women, men are the same way.

Most people, when looking for a partner,

lead with the practical checklist.

height, age, education, job

family background

income

whether they own a house or a car?

The core question is, "Will marrying this person make my life easier?

You might have seen videos of the so-called "matchmaking corners" in major Chinese cities.

Single men and women—or their parents—list their own qualifications and what they expect in a partner.

Almost like putting up a product for sale.

I believe they're still looking for love,

but when love comes with so many strings attached, it's not so easy to find.

Honestly, that pragmatic mindset is understandable.

Life in China can be pretty stressful these days,

especially in big cities.

If you're getting by on your own,

getting married often means taking on a mortgage,

having kids, raising them,

and possibly caring for your partner's aging parents.

Financially and emotionally, the burden gets heavier.

So, many young people, men and women alike, are hesitant to tie the knot.

Now, here's the catch.

An older man with money,

He still has an edge in China's dating market.

But for women, things are different.

Once a woman passes 30,

her dating prospects start to shrink,

and finding a partner becomes much harder.

So, many women are living alone for now.

Sometimes that's just how life works out,

and sometimes it's a conscious choice.

And once you've lived alone for a while, you get used to it.

You get used to your own rhythm, your own space.

It gets harder to let someone else in.

Some women even gradually start to enjoy the peace of being undisturbed.

Now you might ask,

But what about friends?

Don't you ever feel lonely?

Don't you need friends to keep you company?

I'm not saying women who live alone don't have friends.

We just don't want to waste time on superficial socializing.

When you've been on your own for a long time,

you become less dependent on others.

You'd rather invest your time and energy in yourself.

growing, improving, building a life you can handle on your own.

And over time,

you realize that most problems in life have to be faced and solved by you, alone.

A lot of hard moments you just have to get through on your own.

Once you've been through that, you become stronger.

The lonely moments?

You gradually learn to work through them on your own,

You no longer rely on friends to provide emotional support the way you used to.

And maintaining friendships takes effort,

It takes time.

It also requires you to be emotionally available for someone else.

So, many women simply prefer to be alone, they'd rather make themselves happy than try to please other people.

And here's another thing.

Modern society has made it so much easier for women to live alone.

More and more women are financially independent, they can afford a good life on their own.

The service industry has grown so much that even the kind of heavy lifting that used to require a man can now be hired out with a few taps on a phone.

And online communities, social media, group chats

they offer a sense of connection without the emotional baggage of real-life interactions.

So I think those are some of the reasons.

These are just my thoughts. I'm not claiming to have all the answers.

But this is how some women in China are living right now.

Of course,, plenty of Chinese people are in happy marriages or relationships too.

Whatever lifestyle works for you, it deserves respect.

I am Yaning,

If you're also living alone,

please don't feel anxious.

Take it day by day.

Fill your life with things that matter.

Grow at your own pace.

Trust that everything unfolds as it should.

Thank you for watching.

I hope you like this video,

and see you next time...